Evening Star Newspaper, April 11, 1930, Page 46

WOMAN’S PAGE. Recovery After Disagreement BY LYDIA LE BARON WALKER. ‘There is no family, however loving its members are, or how understanding ot each other, that lives entirely without mental friction. Sometimes this oY N THE WOMAN WHO IS DISTRAUGHT AFTER A DISAGREEABLE HA- RANGUE SHOULD LEARN THE SECRET OF QUICK RECOVERY. amounts to open quarreling, sometimes to less virulent disagreement. Always afterward there has to be a period of adjustment, which is termed *cooling Today in Washington History BY DONALD A. CRAIG. April 11, 1865.—President Lincoln to- day issued a proclamation declaring the Southern ports closed. ‘Those acquainted with our foreign re- lations regard this action by the Presi- dent as assuring the revocation by Great Britain of her recognition of the belligerent rights of the Southern Con- federacy. It appears from Lord John Russel's recent speech, and from other sources, that the British government has sought to vindicate its concession of belligerent rights to the Southern Confederacy by President Lincoln’s earlier proclamation of blockade against the Southern ports, asserting that the United States had thus recognized the Confederacy as a belligerent and _ consequently = Great Britain was justified in doing so. President Lincoln was serenaded at the White House tonight by a monster crowd that not only filled the grounds in front of the Executive Mansion, but wvwsiuructed the sidewalks on Pennsyl- vania avenue from Fifteenth to Seven- teenth street. The White House was brilliantly illuminated, the lights re- vealing in the mist the extent of the vast throng in front of and flanking the northern portico and rendering ob- Jects visible at a remote distance. The assemblage was enthusiastic and everybody was in good humor, standing patiently in the deep mud and under the misty drizzle of rain until President Lincoln appeared at the window above the door. He was greeted - with tre- mendous cheers, as was Mrs. Lincoln when she appeared with some friends at another window nearby. ‘The President addressed the crowd, reading from a prepared manuscript. He referred to the evacuation of Rich- mond and the surrender of Gen. Lee's Army two days ago as giving “hope of a righteous and speedy peace, whose Joyous expression cannot be restrained.” Mr. Lincoln said the problem of re- construction is “fraught with great dif- ficulty.” No good would come, he added, from agitating the abstract question of whether the seceded States were ever actually out of the Union cr were al- ways in it. He said all agree that they are “out of their proper practical relation to the Union,” and he declared that the sole object of the Government is to get them back “into that proper practical rela- tion.” 1In this connection he discussed at some length the new State govern- ment set up in Louisiana. “It may be my duty,” concluded Mr. Lincoln, “to make some new announce- ment to the people of the South. I am considering, and shall not fail to act when satisfled that . action will be proper.” AUNT HET BY ROBERT QUILLEN. down.” To continue this ring-fight simile, a quick recovery from argu- ments and quarrels is as desirable and necessary for the wellbeing of the family as it is imperative for those who are in physical combat. In order for this recovery to be speedy, the persons engaging in it must deal fairly and squarely with them- selves, as_there is no umpire and no referee. The participants have to settle matters for ~themselves. This can scarcely be done in the heat of the mental harangue. It has to come after the “cooling down” unless both persons are so fortunate as to grasp during the disagreement the fact that trivialities are involved, not vital issues. Seldom do family quarrels hinge on vital matters. They come from petty irritations that are magnified during the argument by digressing and by call- ing up previous disagreements that really have nothing whatever to do with the matter in hand. When once a family quarrel is pitched, there seem to be no more rules of guidance than in actual warfare. Each fights to win some point. Very likely, after the argu- ment is over, each will chide himself or | herself for the angry and futile words spoken. One sure way to gain a quick recov- ery is to realize that the disagreement is of surface depth, no more. Seldom do these family quarrels go decp. They are irritating, not uprooting. They mar one’s happiness without blotting it out. They cloud the period until reason and affectionate thoughts gradually make the sunshine of true home life chase the clouds away. They are unsettling. This is, perhaps, their worst element. While the “fight is on” the combatants are swept off their feet, figuratively, losing their clear vision and their power of logical reasoning. Because it is possible to regain a| firm footing of affectionate understand- ing, because the sight can be clarified, | and because the ability to reason can | be restored, and because all these things | are essential to family peace and happi- | should be sought. , and, once having ness, a quick recove! Refuse to keep ang made such a resolution, put the whole | affair out of mind as past, over and gone. Meet the others half way. and more, on the way to good humor. Learn to be a friendly adversary. There is no better way than to acquire the power of quick recovery. (Copyright. 1930.) Raised Coffee Cake. Into a bread mixer put one cupful of butter and lard mixed and one cupful of sugar. . Add one quart of hot milk. ‘When lukewarm, add two yeast cakes previously softened in warm water, also one pound of cleaned dried currants, one and one-half teaspoonfuls of ground nutmeg and three quarts of flour. Put all into the mixer together, turn for five minutes, then put aside to rise. When light, bake in three loaves. This cake is very fine for sweet sandwiches. By omitting the currants and adding two eggs, this recipe is excellent for dough- nuts. MODEST THE EVENING WHO REMEMBERS? BY DICK MANSFIELD. Registered U. 8. Patent Office, When the several columns along B street northwest, in front of the Smith- sonian grounds, were part of the en- trance to the Capitol Grounds when they were fenced in. Banana or Cocoanut Pie. Cover two deep pie pans with a rich crust and bake in a hot oven. Mix together one-third cupful of flour with three-fourths cupful of sugar and a pinch of salt. Add one pint of scalded milk and three tablespoonfuls of but- | ter. Cook for five minutes, and add the beaten yolks of two eggs gradually to the thickened milk. Cook for a few | minutes, stirring constantly. Set aside to cool, add one teaspoonful of orange extract, and fill the prepared crusts. Make a meringue of the whites of the eggs whipped very stiff, and one-fourth cupful of sugar, spread on the ples, and set in the oven to brown. For banana ple, add three sliced bananas to the mixture. For cocoanut ple, add half a cupful of shredded cocoanut. My Neighbor Says: To remove whitewash from a ceiling, dissolve one pound of alum in one gallon of strong vine- gar. Apply with a brush, let it soak in well and then scrape and wash as usual. Clean tiled floors with warm water and soap, then dry with a soft cloth, and finish with a lit- tle linseed oil. Don't use soda when washing china with gilt on it. If you do, don’t be surprised if the gilt gradually disappears. Borax will remove leather stains from light-colored stockings. MAIDENS “Oh, professor, they say you've just completed a six-hundred-word book on bacteriology. Do sit down and tell us all about it!” 27 LA U7 L STAR, WASHING When Mother Love Becomes a Curse DorothyDix| ON, D. C., FRIDAY, Scores. Sacrifice of Youth to Age “Mother Love Not Always Unselfish—Often the Most Ruthless Passion on Earth and Sacrifices Its Young.” BRILLIANT and gifted young physician married a charming and cultured young woman and they established themselves in a delightful city. The husband’s unusual talents won him recognition almost immediately. They found their place in a congenial circle, and an agreeable, a prosperous and a successful life was stretching before them Suddenly, however, the man's father died, and when he went to the funeral his mothrr refused to let him leave her. upon his breast and reminded him that She wept he was her only child and told him that she would die if he did not stay and comfort her. The son protested that there was no scope for his work in the remote hamlet in which she lived. He told her of the fine practice that he had built up in the city, of the operations he had performed that were already making him famous, of the money he could make, and he begged his mother to come and live with him, but she refused. She said that she could not exist away from the old home nor be happy among strangers, and in the end she prevailed and the son sacrificed himself and his wife and his children and moved back to the little village where there was no outlet for his abilities. e THAT was 35 years ago. The old mother is still living, a peevish, fretful, self- centered egotist, who has made her daughter-in-law’'s life miserable with her nagging. The children have grown up provincials without the education and the associations and the advantages they would have had in the city. The family has known pinching poverty instead of comfort and plenty as it would have had if the man'’s earnings had been those of a successful city physician instead of those of an ill: id country doctor. ‘The man_ himself, with his ambi- tions balked, his hopes and plgns destroyed, has become bitter, hard and morose. ‘That is one story of a mother’s selfishness ruining her child’s life that has recently come to me. A woman had three children, two happens, the gray mare was the better d energy of her brothers. Here is snother equally true: sons and a daughter, and, as sometimes horse, and the girl had twice the brains ‘There was no question, of course, about the boys aving mother and going out in the world to make their living. But with Mary it was different. Mother felt that it was Mary's duty to stay with her and take care of her. Mary protested that there was no money for them to live on, and while the boys were willing to support mother and her as long as mother lived, they would not want to be burdened with her all their Also, she protested that it was gall and wormwood for her to be dependert ives. on any one and that she was perfectly capable of making her own living and doing her part toward supporting mother. Likewise she protested that the fine offers to go into business that came to her now would not come to her when she was older. She offer: that mother to mother. being a hanger-on of her brothers in her old to hire a competent woman to stay with mother, ight find it pleasant to live in a nice boarding house or a hotel, but mother wouldn't hear of it. Nobody could cook to so Mary has had to give up her big opportunity in Now she is no longer young, and she looks forward with dread to She suggested Fleue her but Mary, and ife to become a servant age, one of those unwanted, snubbed old maids who wear the cast-off clothing of their better-off relatives, who mind the bables of other women and who never have any lives of their own whatever. AND here is my third story of mother selfishness. Also sadly true and a story that repeats itself oftener than we like to think: A fine man, a warm-hearted, generous, affectionate man, has been engaged for years and years and years to a splendid girl, but they cannot marry because his mother has made him promise that he will not marry as long as she lives. | She boasts continually of his devotion and that she is “his girl.” everywhere together. He fetching and after, traveling with her, playing bridge with her. gay parties. Just old lady times. You see them carrying for her, taking her to the the- No young life. No girl. No And his youth is going by. The mating time going by. The girl he loves waiting until her youth and beauty go His romance tgaring to tatters. kept too long on' the shelf. The wedding cake growin, Years that might have been full of happiness lost and the freshness of her love wears off. stale from being because a seifish old woman won't loose her monopoly on him. Mother love is not always unselfish. Often it is the most ruthless passion on earth and it sacrifices its young to itself without a qualm of compunction. And its weapons are the most cowardly because they are tears and entreaties and the plea that “I won't be here long” and pathetic reference to “my last days,” and against these the children cannot fight unless they have clarity of vision enough to see that the young, who have their lives all before them, should not be sacrificed to the old whose race is run and backbone enough to refuse to be made to victim of mother’s selfishness. DOROTHY DIX. (Copyright, 1930.) Straight Talks to Women About Money BY MARY ELIZABETH ALLEN Till Debts Do Us Part. Part of the marriage ritual contains words to the effect that the holy bonds of matrimony will be joined “until death do us part.” Modern family life suggests that “debts” be substituted for “death.” For debts more often break asunder. ‘There are two kinds of debts, al- though they are practically the same. There are the debts into which we unwittingly fall. and there are the debts which we deliberately contract. The cause of both is lack of plal our living. We doubt if many people go volun- tarily into debt unless illness, unem- ployment or death imposes undue burdens on them, and makes debt in- escapable. Ask a young married couple whether they will be in or out of debt at the end of the year, and often they will be frank enough to say that they “don't know.” ‘The reason for not knowing is that spending is left to chance. Expenses are not anticipated and provided for. Such couples live on hope. They hope things will turn out all right, they hope ends will meet, they hope no bills will lop over. Instead of knowing, they hope. Yet any domestic relations court or divorce court judge will invariably tell one that the chief cause of all separations and divorces is money troubles. It can't be insufficency of money, be- cause few women do not know the ex- tent of their husband's incomes and means before marriage. It isn't often because of quarrels as to how the fam- ily income shall be distributed, though that is the cause some times. Nine times out of ten, it is due to inefficient management at home, and faulty administration of the family's income. That sort of thing leads to debts, to shortages, to wrangles, to controversies, to desperate measures, | and ultimately to parting. Short Ribs of Beef. In a hot frying pan brown all sides iol four pounds of short ribs of beef. Place in a large casserole. Add two | slices of onion, sprinkle well with salt and pepper, and cook slowly in the oven for three hours. Remove to & platter. ‘Thicken the liquid in the casserole, using one and one-half tablespoonfuls of flour to each cupful of liquid. Pour around the beef, add boiled potatoes. | beets, turnips, carrots, peas and browned onions. The beets, turnips and carrots should be diced or cut with a vegetable cutter. GIVE FILMY FEMININE THINGS NEW COLOR Without Tinting Lacy Trimmings! * It is 80 easy with Tintex! Just add the proper Tintex to the rinsing water—dip the faded finery, lace and all . . & APRIL 11, . 1930, SONNYSAYINGS Puppy, if you takes advice from a feller ‘at knows, you'll go an’ bury ‘at twolick dest as fast as you kin ’cause you aren't makin’ no hit tick toein’ frough the twolicks’ in 'iss fambly. LITTLE SISTER BY RUBY HOLLA! “I have to thank daddy for new clothes an’ eben Willle for handing back things what belongs to me.” SPRINGTIME BY D. C. PEATTIE. ‘There is always, in every place, some week in Spring when some miracle occurs perennially that is just a little too lovely to seem credible. I suppose that cherry-blossom time in old Nippon is such a season, and a poet has made lilac time immortal at Kew in Eng- land. There are the magnolia- gar- dens at Charleston (notable, however, not for their magnolias so much as their azaleas), and people journey to the Shenandoah to see the apple blow. For the neighborhood of Washington I think that I would choose the week whten redbuds flower. True, Spring is no yet, and the dogwood, starring the May woods in Rock Creek Park, is more spectacularly lovely. But the little red- bud tree, which puts forth its blos- soms on bare boughs, before the leaves begin, is the freshest and the fairest sight on all the old red hills of Mary- id and Northern Virginia. With a stranger color than peach blow, there is something about the courage and the spendthrift beauty of this little flo ering tree that braves the still un- certain airs of Spring, that moves me deeply. It is one in my mind with the first song-sparrow’s notes, with the first clouds of frogs' eggs, like black pearls, on the awakening ponds. Though some folks call the redbud “Judas Tree,” that is an old-world name, with a dark and bitter old- world legend clinging to the fragile innocence of the flowers like majenta butterfiies (if such exist) . thing matured, in fullest leafage, | Ny )‘\. »%y FEATURES. MILADY BEAUTIFUL | BY LOIS Rough Skin. One of the chief beauties of the well groomed modern woman is a pair of smooth, white hands and nicely mani- cured nails, and most of these women use their hands for more practical pur- poses than bridge playing. Even though they wash dishes, scrub floors | and attend to home comforts or work | outside of the home, women have |learned that the beauty of the hands | must be protected and special attention must be given regularly to preserve the texture of the skin and keep the nails well manicured and clean. Keeping them smooth and white requires only soap and water, nourishing creams, a soothing hand lotion, a few simple manicuring implements and a little time devoted to them every day. There is real beauty in well kept, clean looking hands, no matter what their shape. While the bony frame- work of the hands cannot be changed, the flesh may be molded by hand mas- sage and the skin bleached and sof- tened by suitable creams and lotions. The skin on the hands tends to become darker as the years roll by; the skin wrinkles as the flesh falls away and the hands lose their plumpness. Some hands begin to look old after 25 years | of age, others retain their beauty throughout life. i While rough, red, chapped hands be- tray unsuitable cleansing methods and lack of general care of the skin, rough, dry, cracked skin on the hands is usual- ly the result of using too harsh a soap or washing powder and imperfectly drying the hands after having them in water. The underlying cause of this roughness and dryness in many cases is an abnormally dry skin, that is, a skin lacking in oil. Very often people with fair com- plexions are more troubled by dry, harsh skin than brunettes, because the skin of the latter is usually of an oilier | nature, The direct cause of this dry-| ness or chapping is a temporary loss of | elasticity of the skin tissue and of oil ! from the skin due to the cold. Cold, | drying winds which cause rapid evapo- ration of the natural oil of the skin | will make the skin of the hands look red, rough and chapped. For this rea- son it is very necessary to dry the hands thoroughly after washing them BEST OF THE the world. There, judgment as At the annual tea exhibitions given for the finest tea grown. Can there be any doubt as 's Famous Yellow Label Quality in individual Tea Bag. Ask for the Gold Tin LARGEST SALE S, «e.in quality...in blend...in flaver.. LEEDS. or having them in water, and to avoid going out in the cold without protect~ ing the hands with a soothing lotion and wearing gloves. A great many housewives suffer throughout the cold weather from chapped, rough-looking hands because they neglect to protect them and give them a little attention evsrrl{ day. e most merunt thing abou hand culture is the Drotecllmf of !h: hands from undue exposure, dust, dirt, harsh soaps and hard water, which coarsen the skin and make it prema- turely old. Rubber or cotton gloves may always be kept at hand to protect the hands while cleaning and putting the house in order. Even though you do not like to work with gloves on it is well worth while to overcome this prej- udice in order to save and retain the beauty of the hands. Those women who have been unfortunate enough to acquire a pair of rough, chapped hands will find relief by bathing them after washing with soap and water with equal parts of warm olive ofl, oil of sweet almonds and linseed oil. The ofl may be used daily to lubricate and soften the skin. In addition, give & thorough massage treatment and bleaching pack once a week. After washing the hands during the day ap- ply equal parts of glycerin and rose- water and massage the hands until the lotion is dry. ‘Those who must have their hands in water a great deal during the day will find that, after drying the hands, plunging them into a small bowl of bran or cornmeal will be very helpful. (Copyright, 1930.) FINE BLENDS Ceylon and India are the two great tea growing countries of to tea quality is unerring. in both countries, Lipton grown teas were awarded First Prize and the only GOLD MEDAL to Lipton's Tea being supreme in bouquet. 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