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WOMAN'’S, PAGE THE EVENING STAR, “Don’ts” for Conversationalists BY LYDIA LE BARON WALKER. ‘There are two things that ruin con- Wersation, and the person who would be a good conversationalist must learn to avold them. One is to agree to everything another has to say, and the other is constantly to take exception THE PERSON WHO DOES NOTHING BUT ACQUIESCE TO WHAT AN- OTHER SAYS IS NOT PRACTICING ‘THE ART OF CONVERSATION. to views expressed by others. The per- son who remarks, “Yes. yes,” “That is 80, and “I agree with you” to what- ever is propounded is tiresome. She— or it may be he—contributes nothing to the talk. She offers no new ideas, and finally one comes to appreciate that she actually has none. She agrees because it is too much mental effort to think. She prefers to acquiesce and is under the mistaken impression that every one likes to have assenting com- ments. It is not that dissent is in itself agreeable, but that exchange of ideas is stimulating. Combative conversation, on the other hand, is to be avoided. It engenders hard feeling. To disagree constantly with other people may keep a conversa- | tion lively, but it is sure to creste | “sides,” which eventually disrupt the | discourse. The very atmosphere be- comes unpleasant. It requires the ut- | most tact of a hostess or a leader to steer the talk into happy channels again. The person who has the habit of disagreeing becomes a dangerous conversationalist, although she may be one unwittingly. Strange as it may seem, there are persons who deliberately question other | person’s opinions, believing that this is a good way to learn more about a sub- ject under discussion. Occasionally this method may be used effectually, but those who take the opposite sides have to be very tactful and diplomatic in the way they handle the conversation. | Unless they are, the talk soon resolves | itself into a debate in which each one | is trying to pick flaws in the other's arguments. | One of the rules governing good con- | versation is to agree with another's point of view just as far as is possible before taking exception to it.. By so doing the conversation getsfonto a sound basis. There is a foundation of | agreement upon which to build op- | posing ideas. These ideas should be so set forth that another side of tHe ques- tion becomes apparent, which it is | hoped will meet with the approval of | others. When ideas are given and | taken in good spirit a keen interest at- | taches to the conversation, which is lively without becoming combative. | The art of conversation is many- | sided. The ideas presented today are | but two. There are anecdotal conversa- tions that are’ excellent for dinner parties, suppers, conversational eve- | nings, etc. In the anecdotal talks each | person finds himself or herself recalling | stories that aptly fit into the discourse. | One person is sald to “cap” the story | of another. A really good conversa- | tionalist has & fund of amusing tales and incidents to introduce, to lend | point to an argument, to change the current of the talk or merely to bring laughter and happiness into the affair. (Copyright, 1930). Household Methods By SY CALLISTER. This is the time of year when we par- ticularly like to have our window xr- tains look attractive. We must match the Spring. We must be fresh and young and charming. And how bétter give our houses an appearance of Spring than by pinning up new curtains at the windows? Curtains do several things. The keep out too much light, they keep out unwelcome neighbors—so far as their eyes are concerned—and they keep out air. Heavy side curtains of velour .at the windows of a big country house doubtless help keep the -room comfort- able and warm. In Summer we don't want to keep out the air. We want to let in the air, ‘We do want to keep out the light, but usually a roller shade the most convenient way to do this in the Sum- mer. As a rule our Summer curtains are needed either to protect our rooms from prying eyes or simply. to add to the atf veness of our outlook. Ruffled curtains of thin net are most attractive in Summer. They may be crossed over and tied back if we 9 and may be so arranged that they cover much or little of the window glass. The thinner the net, of course, the less air these curtains exclude. Net curtains in heavier mesh and quality may be hung straight at our windows. Colored net is attractive hung in this way. A WASHINGTON DAYBOOK BY HERBERT PLUMMER. Soulnxmonmuonmnlmln. barely 30 years old, extremely mod- est and unassuming, came down to ‘Washington from New York and made his Wway to Tom Walsh’s office on Capitol Hill. “You sent for me Senator?” he asked ‘Walsh when usher- 25 - T/ ERJI' ) ed' imto his pres- ence. . No strangers § F * were these two. Walsh had sent for \\\ John Holland, ' for sy = e e, T there was more in- A worked together was during the 'g:llpot Dome scan- ‘Walsh's special hY‘ouul;‘leo!'l':nd was Wal ves! r then end such a good one was he that the Montana Senator praised him on the floor of the Senate. ‘Walsh wanted him this time to assist in the lobbying investigation. With the consent of Thad Caraway and other members of the lobby committee, Hol- land was made the official investigator. ‘Thinking that the task would require only & few weeks, Holland agreed to take it over. But he has been at it for more than six months. His regular job is chief trial attorney at prohibition headquarters in New York. It has been up to this young man as committee investigator to provide the five Senators, charged with looking into the activities of lobbyists in Washing- ton, with “ammunition.” ‘This has meant that he must delve of 24 when he was studying ‘Washington. Both come from State. 0 law in the same LITTLE BENNY BY LEE PAPE. Our cook Nora was off yestidday on account of it being her day off, and ma had to make the supper, and we was waiting for pop to come home and she sed, Benny, I had a little axsident with the soop, or rather with the pep- per, so if the soop seems a little pep- pery I wunt you to pertend not to notice it, so perhaps your father wont notice it either. And when pop came home we started to eat supper, and I took a small spoon- full of soop to see what it taisted like, being hot as the mischiff, and I looked at pop and he was just starting to take a big spoonfull, saying, Ah, soop of the evening, bewtiful soop, yee gods for Peet sake. And he quick wiped his mouth with his napkin and took a drink of water, ma saying, Why, whats wrong, is any- thing wrong, Willyum? and me saying, G, whats a matter, pop? I was just thinking of something that happened down at the office, pop sed. A Terkish peddler came in to sell Terk- ish rugs, appropriately enough, and I sed I dident wunt any, and he wawked rite out agen, he sed. Well my goodness wats remarkable about that? ma sed, and pop sed, Why, who ever heard of a Terkish rug ped- dler wawking out of his own accord? And he looked at ma and she quick drank a spoonfull of soop with no ex- pression, and he looked at me and so did J; and he’ slh?‘ok his hed and took another spoonful himself, saying, Jump- ing blazes, fire and brimstone. 5 A Now Willyum what on erth is a mat- ter with you? ma sed, and pop sed, I was just thinking of something elts that happened at the office. |, Now Willyum you were nuthing of | the kind. you think theres something wrong with this soop, me sed, and pop sed, Why what an ideer, its the best pepper soop Ive had for years, Well if thats the way your going to allude to it Im not going to drink mine, ma sed, and I sed, Neither am I, I aint | going to be the ony 3 d ma took it all out agen and brawt in the rest, being hamberger | stakes and mash potatoes, both having such a little bit of pepper on that every- body put some more on. NANCY PAGE Lois Starts a Rose Jar For Daughter. BY FLORENCE LA GANKE. ‘The day after little Anne Miller was born Lois looked around her hospital room and saw the multitude of roses. Most of her friends knew that roses were her favorite flowers and so their y | first offerings made her room resemble a rose bower, As she lay in bed with the baby cud- dled in her arms she bent her lips close to the little daughter and said, “You know what I am going to for you, dsughter mine? I am going to keep all these rose petals which have come to me because you are here. From these petals I un’omr to make a potpourri of leaves and keep them in a rose jar. When you are ‘s grown-up lady, then T'll make you a Sachet of rose leaves for your lovely lacy underthings. But even the most preclous attar in the loveliest jar in the world cannot be half as precious as you are, sweet- ness,” Lois used this formula for her pot- pourri of rose leaves: MOTHERS Apple Delight. One mother says: T used to have a great time in getting enough fruits in my children’s diet, as they were very young. I found one way of fixing apples that made quite s hit with them. I took one cup of steamed apples which I put th & sieve and added it to the beaten whites of three eggs and sweetened to taste with powdered sugar. This I served ‘Toss the petals lightly on & table in ]. a cool, airy place and let them lie until the dew has evaporated. Then put lass jar, sprinkling salt over yers of the petals. This can be added to from one day until an- other, until enough flowers for the gur- pose have been gathered, letting stand in the jar for 10 days after the last are put in and stirring the whole every morning. Have eady one-quarter ounce mace and one-half ounce alispice and cloves, all coarsely ground, half a grated nut- meg, one-half ounce cinnamon, broken in bits, one pound powdered orris root and one-quarter pound dried lavender flowers. Mix these together in a bowl and fill the rose jar with alternate layers of the “stock” and the mixture | of spices. A few drops each of several | essential oils (rose, geranium, bitter al- monds and orange flower are good) WASHINGTO. D. C, FRIDAY, MODEST MAIDENS ‘| tancy of action” in dealing witl “I'M NOT MYSELF TONIGHT. DOROTHY DIX’S LETTER BOX DIAR MISS DIX—I am & young man 25 years old, with a substantial income and have been considering entering the matrimonial state. I have been asking the advice of several married men and they all, without exception, advise me to put it off until I am 40 years old. I have also asked several con- firmed bachelors their opiniorr and they tell me to think it over for 15 or 20 years before marrying. I notice in your answers to correspondents that ‘uu advise marriage, yet you are an old maid yourself. How come? J. P, Answer: Tt doesn't come, James. I am not an old maid and never was one, because I was married when I was barely out of my teens, but even if I had never married it would not unfit me to express an opinion on marriage. Lookers- on, you know, see most of the game. _ As to your problem about the best age to marry, I am very much opposed to men marrying before they arrive at their maturity, before they are ready to settle down, and before they are able to afford a family. A young boy’s taste 15 not formed. He doesn’t know what he is going to want in a wife when he is grown up, because he doesn’t know what sort of & man he is goln[ to become himself, so he takes a double risk in a venture that has enough hazards in it at best. A boy hasn't had his fling. He wants to run around and enjoy himself. He wants to flirt with many girls and dance and kick up his heels like a colt in a pasture. Responsibilities gall him. Dutles are hateful to him. Just the feeling of being tied down to a wife makes him regret, the liberty he has thrown away. 80 the boy husband is no fireside companion and only too often he makes a surly companion if he has to stay at home with his wife and the bables, or else he breaks away and leaves them alone while he goes out to amuse himself. ‘Which makes him a total loss as a h ind. ‘The who marries before he has the price of a wedding ring nearly always hopelessly handcicaps himself for life, It takes all he can make, and more, to feed and clothe his wife and children. He can never get ahead because he can never save anything. He cannot afford to give up a poor job to look for a better one. He gets discouraged and dispirited and cannot put into his work the enthusiasm that would carry him on to success. If it is & bad thing for a boy to marry too young, it is equally & bad thing to put it off too long, because, after all, youth is the mating season, it is the | time of romance and illusion, the time of ardent feelings, and all of these enter | into a successful marriage. | It is when a man and woman are young and pliable in disposition that they | can best adapt themselves to each other. As we get old our opinions and views harden into convictions and prejudices that we cannot change. We acquire little ways and develop personal pecullarities that we are not willing to give up for | any one. —_— \ Nor is marriage one of the things that bear thinking over too much. If your mind dwell too long on its dangers it will sap your courage so that @smer have the hardihood to venture it at all. And if you spend 15 WP your friends suggest, in formulating the list of virtues that you lemand In a wile, you never find a paragon who will come up to you you or 20 shall your i Moreover, by the time you are 40 or 45 your romantic dreams will have become as thin as the hair on the top of your head, and you will find that a good dinner has more power to thrill you than any lady love. So don’t marry either too young or too old. Around the 30s is the ideal MAY time for a man to marry. His head and his heart then play their proper part in his choice of a wife. DOROTHY DIX. 9, 1930. FEATURES. Today in Washington History BY DONALD A. CRAIG. May 9, 1865.—Pursuant to a call pub- lished widely in the city during the last few days and signed by many citizens of Washington, & public meeting was held tonight on the street and parkway in front of the City Hall for the pur- pose of taking action with respect to the return to the District of Columbia of Southern sympathizers, who have been in the South, closely identified with the Confederate cause since the commencement of the late war. ‘The upshot of the meeting was the adoption of a set of resolutions which set forth that “We cannot * * * do otherwise than earnestly and ener- getically resist the settlement among us of those who have during the last four years been directly connected” with the Confederate government, and “espe- cially of that portion of them who were formerly residents of the District.” ‘The resolutions further recite that “while we would carefully avoid un- grounded suspicions and unjust crimi- nations, we cannot doubt that combi- nations or associations have existed in this community” to further the objects of the Southern Confederacy. These associations, the resolutions go on to say, are believed not to have been whol- ly abandoned yet. The return of men and women to Washington who have been closely connected with the Con- federate cause in the late war would tend to encourage these organizations, it was held. ‘The resolutions, however, urge the “utmost prudence and deliberation” and the avoidance of “rashness and gnclm. these cases. Instead, calm judgment and re- straint are advocated. The meeting agreed that whatever is done by the local citizens should be in co-operation with the Federal Govern-' ment. Committees are to be selected from each ward of Washington City, from Georgetown and from the County of Washington to confer on the sub- ject with the Federal authorities, It was made plain both in the reso- lutions and by the speakers that only those persons who have been actively connected with the Confederate cause are sought to be excluded from return to the District. The meeting was called to order by John R. Elvans, and John Wilson was chosen presiding officer. Among the speakers were Joseph F. Brown, W. H. Tenney, N. M. Gaylor, Capt. J. W. Ricks of California and others. WHO REMEMBERS? BY DICK MANSFIELD. tered U. 8. Patent Office. ‘When Chiet Parris was the apple of your eye with his red buggy at all the fires around town. —_— Elevators for the di circle and a modern air cooling system are among the features of a proposed motion- picture theater in Hongkong, China. | bring. But even such a dish as this, if When Great Folks Turn Petty Noted French Poet, Chapelain, Sacrificed His Life to Save Small Coin, : BY J. P. GLASS. DURING HIS LAST ILLNESS HIS AMUSEMENT CONSISTED OF OPENING HIS STRONGBOX AND EXAMINING HIS MONEY BAGS. Chapelain, an eminent French poet [some day he would get hold of his of the Mv?uflm cetx‘:lmg, lwt:: c{-l'!;d guest's wealth. emicians the Knight of the § e e hae Bpider, because he. wore a | His avarice enabled him to acquire cont so patched and pleced that the|an annual income of 13,000 livres and stitches resembled & collection of spider | he had nearly a quarter of a million webs. | in’ ready money. But he did not alter He had no need so to dress, for he | his style of living. Indeed he practiced was possessed of plenty of funds. He |such economies as wiping his hands on was miserly. | a handful of rushes in order to save Chapelain, by the way, was one of | towels. the first academicians, He belonged to | His avarice was the cause of his & group of learned fhen who met in | death. After a heavy rain the streets 1620 to discuss science and literature. | of Paris were flooded with water. Cardinal Richelieu, hearing of these Rather than pay for the use of a plank meetings, encouraged them and finally | which a thrifty citizen had laid across gave them regular form by the insti- |a passage he waded. He caught a cold tution of the French Academy. and pneumonta removed him to another The poet was astonishingly stingy. | sphere. When he was writing his poem, the| During his last fllness his amusement “Pucelle” (La Pucelle was Joan of Arc), the Duke de Longueville not only gave’ him several donations but a pen- sion of 1,000 crowns. Chapelain took | away. such & long time to compose his mas- | He died with the bags ranged round terplece that the duke cut a thousand | his bed. An associate who was with francs annually from the allowance. | him said afterward: “Our friend He boarded with a relative. 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