Evening Star Newspaper, September 19, 1936, Page 24

B8 If Properly Return Original Inve - Approached stment of Love, and Thought and Sacrifice in K BY BETSY ind. CASWELL. papers are full these days of advice to the college or high-school- I bound boys and girls on what to wear, how to behave, how to make friends and so on. Most of the remarks are intended for helping the student personally—and they are very necessary I know—but my eontribution to the general din is designed to extend a (I hope) helping hand to that forgotten couple—parents. The watchword or slogan or battl e cry or whatever you wish to call it that I would like to see modern youngsters adopt is—‘Give your parents a break.” way that you can, so that the reward for all the time and money and trouble and love that they have lav- ished on you will be sheer pride and | Joy in your popularity and success, ’ No mother or father thinks again of all that has been invested in son or daughter, once they start pay- ing dividends in the form of becoming | all-around “swell” persons. There] are so many ways in which these re- | turns may be made to the original | investors, that it seems a shame w; me that so often the concern of Par- ent, Child and Co. goes bankrupt. * *x ¥ x I DON'T say for a moment, “Work ! hard, get the highest marks in your class; wear yourself to ribbons | trying to be tops on the honor roll.” As a matter of fact, I don't want my own children to try for too high | marks. I think that kind of thing | can be overdone, and lots of good ma- | terial in other lines goes to waste be- cause there is no time to develop it. * A child who has to keep his nose in his books to make high grades has no time for the companionship that is essential if he is to become a good fel- low—and good fellowship will get most of us lots farther in the world than grades of 100. ‘Work hard enough to pass all your examinations creditably—on the up- side, if possible, so that neither you | nor your family will have the horrors about the chance of your not passing every time a test rolls around. Be intelligent about all subjects by being really interested in them—that helps | the high marks to come easily. Be a good sport and hail fellow well | met with all contemporaries—but | don't forget to practice the same con- geniality at home, too—most parents | enj . that side of their children im-| mensely if given half a chance. If they don’t, then you just can't be both- ered about them. Such parents don’t| deserve a break. | Give them a break in every<- BE DECENT and upright in your dealings with your fellow men— and also with your parents. Honesty and true understanding between parents and children make for a really ideal relation. Of course, the parents have to make an effort, too, and not fiy off the handle at every new notion, or lose their heads over a minor esca- pade—but you "youngsters will find, funnily enough, that lots of parents are stuffy because they are shy and have a sneaking inferiority complex when their children get old enough to have opinions of their own. They are {a little floored by the abounding en- ergy and positiveness of the younger generation, because they are a little tired and sluggish after the years of hard work and worry that have gone into the raising of a family. If they are encouraged to come out of their shells and be talked to like human beings, they are as delighted as a girl who finds herself a success at her first dance. So—try giving your parents a break this year. Make them proud of you in all phases of your student and ado- lescent existence; let them into the inner portals of your life as much as possible—and don’t let them down ever, even in small things. You know how it feels when a friend “goes to pieces” on you—think how much worse it is for those who have spent the best years of their lives in getting you ready to meet the world. Hand back every bit of love and thought and care they have given you in kind; the money part won't matter a bit. Every debt can be wiped out by setting on their | faces the grin that won't come off whenever your name is mentioned. And if you really try to reach this goal—and you find you have the type of parent that refuses to be either co- bperative or appreciative—why, then I apologize for all I have said to you. But 9 times out of 10 the “break” works. I know! Chic "Afternoon Frock Newest Version of Paneled Flares and Yoke Collar. BY BARBARA BELL. v UST the model your wardrobe demands! A smooth, stunning, paneled afternoon frock for bridge, club, campus parties or Informal dining. The one you'll wear when impressions are most important. Tts styling is a blue ribbon winner and BARBARA BELL, WASHINGTON STAR. Inclose 25 cents in coins for . THE EVENING STAR, WASHINGTON, D. C, SATURDAY, SEPTEMBER 19, 1936. “GIVE YOUR PARENTS A°'BREAK” IS A GOOD SLOGAN Most of Them Will Show A Co-operative Spirit | g A quaint chair and milking bench found on an old Pennsylvania dairy farm, and a gleaming demi- Some Summertime Gleanings john retrieved from a hayloft. “Home” Not Synonym For “House” Also Modern-Day Us-| age of “Woman” and “Lady.” BY EMILY POST. DEAR MRS. POST: Some time ago—it might have been as long as a year or even more—you published an article on the use and misuse of the word “home.” I have just built | 8 house and half the people here ask me gbout the new “home.” -As I lec- ture considerably on the subject of houses, I wish you would write some- thing again, because I would like very much to speak of this distinction in the way you have explained it. Answer—I have written that in its true meaning “home” is the spirit, the personality, the hospitality that the room or the apartment or the house in which you live expresses. A “house” is built of wood or stone and concrete objects put into it. You can- not put a piece of furniture in your ‘home any more than you can put a piece of furniture in your marriage. You can, however, do home cookin; home designing and home sewing; you can fill your home with love and beauty and comfort and make it friendly. LR D!Afl MRS. POST: I am vaca- tioning in a small Summer re- sort hotel where it is impossible not to overhear others’ conversations. The other day a guest told her young daughter not to use the word “lady” in place of “woman.” While I know there is an aversion today to using “lady,” at the time I couldn't help but wish this mother would instruct her child in more necessary elementsl manners. The incident in. itself is not important now except that it brought up the question of “lady” and “woman,” which I had meant for some time to ask you to write about again. Answer—In many ways I think the avoidance of the word “lady” has gone too far and we are apt to say “woman” when “lady” is necessary . to the clarity of the picture. For ex- ample, in my writing about behavior I have to say, “A lady does not talk about her private concerns in public, a lady does not lose ‘her temper, a Iady does nothing that is cheap,” be- cause to say that women do not break tabus of taste would not be true. The title “lady” should suggest the social qualities of instinctive taste, poise and | kindness, and above all self-control. But so many persons have assumed its meaning to be merely “female” and applied it to women who had front-page news in any fashion-mind- ed circle, because its panels are slen- derizing and the pieces so utterly sim- ple to cut and sew together. For a gay, glamorous effect: choose a flat crepe in forest green, cornflower blue or chocolate. If you have s yen for sheer woolens, satin or cire satin don’t hesitate to use them—your ap-~ pearance will be equally ravishing. The self-fabric belt is fastened with & nqv. least claim to it, that those to whom it truthfully ‘belongs have abandoned it for the word “woman.” * X * % Dear Mrs. Post: My brother-in-law’s sister passed away recently and he asked me to send out cards acknowl- edging sympathy and other kindness- es extended to him in his bereave- ment. I am only too willing, but am under the impression that the ac- knowledgments should be signed by him. Answer—Not necessarily, or -even usually, are such notices signed by the one in mourning. You ecan perfectly well write briefly without any “signature, “Thank you for your beautiful flowers,” or “Thank you for Dorothy Dix Says A Year in a Business Office is Good Training For Prospective Brides. EAR DOROTHY DIX—Do you think that when a girl fin- ishes high school she should get married or go to work if she does not have a chance to go to college? Don’t you think a girl should support herself before marriage so that when she does get married .she will know the value of a dollar. TWO GIRLS. Answer—I am very much opposed to girls marrying just as soon as they get out of high school, because, for one thing, they are too young, and, for another, they are not fitted to marry, because they have had no experience of life. X x % NO GIRL of 17 or 18 knows enough about men to pick out a husband. She doesn’t know enough about her- self to know what she wants in a husband. She doesn’t even know what she is going to be Herself when she grows up. Marriage is risky enough, at best, without taking any long shots | on the future, Besides that, a girl who goes out’ of the school room into marriage misses all the playtime of life. She is a settled woman with babies hanging to her skirt when she should be dancing around and enjoying herself. She has none of the flattery and the flirtations and the love-making that women crave, and that they seem to have to have. The result is that they go through life feeling defrauded and are only too likely to make up for their missed girlhond by having af- fairs later on that turn into tragedies. I have never known a middle-aged woman who went daffy over movie actors whom she had never seen, or got into messes with gigilos, or picked up men in resturants, who wasi’t one who had married in her teens and missed the fun of girlhood. ALBO, marriage is & very compli- cated business. Before going into it a girl should learn how to,cook and market and be a good housekeeper. That takes time and experience. It ) how to handle a husband and get along with his people and make | friends for him. That also takes time. | And it takes time for a girl to get over | her childishness and to learn how to | be reasonable and philpsophic about | things. So, you see, it is folly for a | girl to jump into matrimony before she | is ready for it. | Futhermore, I think that every girl | in the world, rich or poor, should learn practice it for at least a year before she | marries. Nothing gives a girl so much | poise as being able to stand on her own feet, and nothing else in the world gives her such an abiding sense of well-being as knowing that she has | own bread and butter, and that no { matter what comes she does not have to g even her engagement ring or her wed- | ding ring gives a girl such a thrill as | she feels when she gets her first pay envelope. My Neighbor Says: Leather-covered chairs that have become sticky should be cleansed with a cloth moistened in gasoline, benzine or alcohol. Then apply olive oil, let stand 48 hours, and wipe thoroughly with cheesecloth. Mildewed leather can be restored by ap- plication of petroleum ointment. Never sprinkle pongee. Rell it up in a towel while wet and iron while still damp. To cook & ham so that it will retain all its flavor, encase it with a paste made of common flour and water, taking care to see that the steam cannot es- cape. Bake in a hot oven, al- lowing a guarter of an hour for every pound. When cooked the paste can be easily removed and it takes the rind with it. A ham cooked in this way is de- licious. (Copyright, 1936,) - takes experience with men to know It is reported that. in one day at one | beach nearby, animal rescue organisa- elty pearl or crystal buckle to match |- the clasp at the neck lovely bell sleeves, soft turn: lar and clever yoke have admiration, tured your Send -for_'your pattern now and make a frock that's perfec. 16 (34) requires 3 yards of material. £ S .. ccoprriens.foss) e e for No. 331 | some profession or trade by which she | | can support herself, and she should | the ability within herself to earn her | | be a helpless, clinging dependent. Not | Star Stafft Photo. Accuracy Good Trait To Cultivate Thoroughness in En-| deavor Promotes Success. BY ANGELO PATRI. IP I were asked what quality would best advance a student, I would say thoroughness. One idea thoroughly | mastered will generate more power in the mind and more character in | | the soul that a host of ideas that | have been scantily served to the mind. Thoroughly mastered work gives a stu- | dent clear and sure ideas upon which he can depend. The partially mas- tered ones have the effect of confus- ing, troubling, hindering him. Better never to have touched them than to have missed them by the way. Bet- ter no trace of them than the dim one that cannot be seen clearly. | Little children should learn what | they learn once and for all. When they learn the sounds of their let- ters, .the sight words of the reading vocabulary, their tables, let them learn them thoroughly, so that forever after | they have them at call, certain and sure. Many of the failures in the upper grades are caused by a lack of thoroughness in learning the funda- mentals of the first subjects—reading | and number. Accuracy is more important than speed. One of the causes of a lack of thoroughness is the desire for speed in learning and reciting. The little ones are speeded s0 that they have not time enough to get the clear, sure pictures, to master the combinations | of numbers. They are asked to give accurate results before they have ac- | quired accurate impressions, and that spells failure. Time is an important | element in learning. Children have a | long period of infancy, so they may | learn thoroughly, but for some reason ; or other some school people can't bear to have them use their time for learn- | ing. They insist that they use it for expressing what is not yet formed for expression. The older students have the same need. They need time to be thorough. The time needed varies with the indi- vidual, so there should be variety in the programs of the children.. We do not find that often. We find & whole class forced to do that same amount of work in the same time. We find examinations close on the heels of les- sons, so that students are required to express knowledge that is not suffi- ciently seasoned for expression. A pe- riod of time should elapse between the learning and reciting of facts be- fore tests are given. The facts ought to be turned over again and again and allowed to seep into the minds of the students before they are called upon’ to express them. To all this the teachess will say that théy have no time, and they for the time they have. We will have to cut down the amount of subject mat- ter to. suit the type of student. postage. Address-orders to the Woman's Editor, | New England Continues To Be Fruitful Hunting Ground for Antiquarians Quaint Old Pieces of Yesteryear Found in Unusual Places and Under Odd Circumstances. BY LUCIE EBERLY. ILE hob-nobbing with friends after returning from an interesting vaca- tion trip through New England we were pleased to osberve that many of them had made the most of the opportunity to visit well-stocked and interesting antique shops that are so generously dotted along the road- side. It was exciting and amusing to listen to them as they related with enthusiasm in minute detail how the items they had collected, had been discovered, how much had been paid for them, and what they intended to do with them. * %k * ONE frirzid, who has been collecting colorful china plates over a period of years for her old-fashioned corner cupboard, returned home with three prizes that proved to be genuine Staffordshire. She had chanced upon them when stopping at a quaint little roadside inn that featured an “antique corner.” Her eyes spotted the colorful bits just as she was about to open the door to leave! An old banjo clock had been the object of another young lady's casual search and she found just what she had hoped to find in an off-the-road farm house where she had stopped to inquire about a piece of property which adjoined the farm. The clock was hanging in the “Summer"” kitchen at a careless angle, and when she in- quired about it the owner looked at her with amazement. She left the farm carrying the clock, and upon in- spection of it when she reached home found it to be in perfect running order. Some one else had been looking for years for a “Toby” jug—stumbled upon one in the house of one of her Summer friends—where she had called annually to say “hello” and “good-by” while visiting in the village. The elderly lady, one of the oidest resi- idents of the little town, had had this treasure in her attic for years and had just by chance brought the jug out of its hiding place the day be- fore our friends passed by! It hap- pened to be a 2-quart one, too, and these, as the collector well knows, are very rare. When our friend bought it for $35 she knew she was buying it at & bargain. * x % % SMG & notice of an auction sale of antiques posted on the trees along the road as they were nearing a little mountain village in New Hamp- shire, two other antiquarians reached the scene at the height of the sdle and just in time to bid on an ex- quisite piece of mantel Stafford- shire. A lovely grouping of two dogs and a romantic lady and gentleman, standing about 6 inches high. This | was bought for the ridiculous sum of $1.25! An old brass kettle was acquired ' for 95 cents. It is to be used, we were told, after it is cleaned and polished, as & waste paper basket. A beautiful school slate which was framed in lovely old inlaid mahog- was bought and brought home to be- gin life anew as a telgphone pad. Brass school bells, large and small, were sold by the dc.cn, we were told, at the auction, and one enterprising matron bought one to “ring” her two children in from play. A clever idea, | we think. | Two toleware trays, large ones— | 3¢ by 20 inches—were eagerly bought | to serve as garden trays. They both | were bedecked with the original painting which was in splendid con- dition. When not in use in the gar- den they will grace the mantel in the basement recreation room, lending | color and atmosphere in an interest- | ing measure. HAVING means by which to trans- { port several large pieces, one friend described how, as they were speeding homeward through Penn- sylvania, they stopped for a fresh glass of milk at a dairy farm. While browsing around they spied a quaint old milking bench. Milking stools are of course quite common, but benches—they are really rare. | Fashioned of a thick log slab perched on four rough ‘“peg legs” it imme- diately became desirable to our friend as a garden bench. While paying for this new-found | oddity, the buyer of the bench glanced through the kitchen window and saw the Strangest fiddleback chair she had ever seen! It had the funniest “bandy-leg” back rails in- | stead of the general straight posts one generally sees. She coveted it upon | sight and bought it to use in her sew- | ing room. | Demijohns, lovely rich green glass | jugs, can be used in so many intriguing ways—as a lamp base for example—or | as a bit of the unusual in the informal | garden and sun room, or placed on the | table in a dark corner of a room to catch the light. They have in recent years been very popular, consequently hard to éind. However, if you look around in the old farm barns and hay- lofts back in the hilly countryside, as our friend tells us she did, you'll likely find one. * x *x % ik % % ANTIQUE lore is a fascinating hobby. It is something that ex- cites the fmagihation of the most in- different individual. It leads one to all sorts of interesting people living off the beaten track and provides adventures equal to any written in the story books. It's a profitable hobby, toc—many amateurs have “turned professional™ collecting items for connoisseurs who gladly pay others to hunt and collect coveted treasures for them. Strike out for yourself and experie ence the joys of this modern day ad- venture. Doggy Diversions Motoring Presents Certain Problems When Canine Passenger is Along. IF Puyps is r/bfnoo' mn the /0/7;5/9 seat, keep him out of the wind 8s much as possib loo much breeze rmay hurt bris eyes BY MARY ALLEN HOOD. UTOMOBILE trips always bring " up the question of stabilizing and anchoring Pups. In the Fall, when vacation time is closing, interesting affairs in other places are just beginning. Besides, cooler weather calls every dog to sit .{in the car until it starts and then stay with it to the end, and a little extra. At the start of the tWp any attempts of Pups to sit on the fenders, hood or top of the car should be dis- . That's dangerous riding. Put him inside with some one to hold him down. Lacking & human anchor with & sense of responsibility, tie his The Old Gardener Says: Bulb planting time is at hand, in advance, for then they have an opportunity to settle. Of , this is not important if the .bulbs are to be dropped into holes made with a pointed stick, but_the bloom will be more even if the soil is dug qut to a depth of five or six inches, the bulbs set in place & few inches apart and i i i e, leash to a center portion of the car. Be sure that he can get no more than the tip of his nose near the window It doesn't do much good to tie Pups in the car with a rope about 6 yards long. The first abusive member of his species that he passes on the road will cause him to leap to defend his good name. With too much lee-way in his tethering he’ll either hang him- self over the edge of the car or drag on the road. One can imagine more pleasant deaths, especially with traf- fic as it is now. Wind in Pups eyes doesn’t do them a bit of good. Goggles are apt to be harmful to his vision. Hg'll probably paw them off and chew them anyway. If the day is inclined to be airish, don’t put him where he'll get a cold breeze right in his face. " When the family goes swimming, save a towel for Pups. He should be dried off before he gets into the car to make the trip home. That's not just to protect the upholstery or the other occupants either. Unfortunately there are some mem- bers of the canine species who persist tn.gemng car-sick. It's a good thing fof all dogs to be able to see the ground when they are traveling, espe- cially the “mal de mer” victims. Keep- ing Pups’ head up may ' sidetrack s bad turn. Don't give him a heavy feed just before he goes riding. A swerve or lurch makes it hard Believe it or not—"Apples half green sour, half yellow and sweet, grown Mishawaks, Ind.” .