Evening Star Newspaper, August 22, 1935, Page 42

C—6 WOMEN Modern Method of Baby-Rearing Uses Goo f Plush Paw for Two 'S FEATURES. Expressed Affection Plus Scientific Care Perfect Combination Children of Today Have Prospect of Reach- ing the Height of Mental and Physical Development. BY BETSY CASWELL. I first controversy was raging about the “new-fangled nonsense” in the matter of bringing up babies. Like all the rest of my generation, 1 had been rocked to sleep and sung to, and enjoyed the undivided attention and adoration of the entire family. My uncle" walked” me when I com- plained of internal unrest, and every night before going to bed I was parked on my old nurse’s lap and greased from head to foot with mutton tallow “to keep me from ketchin' cold.” A string of amber beads tightly en- circled my neck, as a charm to ward off croup—which, as a matter of fact I never did have! I got “milk poisoning,” and was fed on barley water and rice until I was nearly a year old—the idea of orange juice or any semi-solid food before that was simply unheard of! A rabbit's foot was tucked under my pillow, and Mammy made sure that it was the left-hind foot cf a graveyard rabbit *ketched” at the full of the moon by a | cross-eyed man, so it must have been tops in its line. In spite of all these happenings— or perhaps because of them—I grew up to tower over my parents in height. By all modern tenets, I should have been a runty child, with & full-fledged case of rickets, and subject to every 11l to which the flesh is heir. * X ® % “'HEN my first cousin came along. abcut 10 vears later. the new 1deas on baby raising were well under way. Grandmothers were being firml: told to “go 'way back and sit dow end the babies were left severely alone when they cried. This naturally started all sorts of domestic T age-old statement “well, we neve that in my day” was heard or occasions, and the door to the nursery became a battleground, where doting grandmammas and stern, determined mammas waged the fight of sentiment and affecticn against science, hygiene and psychology. My family was torn every which way during this period and the proper method of baby handling was the un- ending topic of conversation. My aunt stood pat in spite of all coaxing, storming and tears on the part of my grandmother, and the heir apparent was left he cried, he was fed absolutely ac- cording to schedule, his formula was accurate to the last grain of milk | sugar, he was solemnly weighed every | morning, and a chart kept of every | deviation from the straight and nar- | row path of his routine. The toys with which he was allowed to play | ‘were sterilized before he handled them and they were, even from the first, of | the “educational” variety and pur- chased with the view of developing certain mental traits and charac- teristics. £k x % HE WAS never allowed pets—I had possessed countless stray cats and mangy dogs from the time I was | able to pull a tail—and singing to him | was completely taboo except at certain | hours of the day, when the songs were carefully chosen to especially benefit any musical tendencies he might have. ‘Where I had been swaddled in trailing dresses over layers of starched petti- | coats, under which my feet were lost | in their knitted woolly bootees, he spent most of his day attired in a loin | cloth and a smile, barefooted and | untrammeled. He never had croup, either, although mutton tallow was never brought within sniffing distance of his buttony | nose, and amber beads were relegated to the attic. A rabbit’s foot under his pillow was unthinkable, but he didn’t | seem to suffer from the lack of one. He grew to be a little taller than I| am—big and husky and healthy in| every way. GRANDMOTHEE was terribly con- fused. She had pointed to me with pride, as being the animated ex- ample of the efficacy of her method in rearing babies—then, in direct refu- tation of her contention that her way was best, alongscame the product of the other system—just as big, brawny and happy as I was. It was a bad time. Family relations were strained for some years—until, in fact, the ad- vent of a new generation started the whole thing off on another angle. For we mothers of today, happily, have managed to combine the best ways of both the old method and the new, with the result that our children will probably grow up to be super- sized and super-intelligent. We feed them according to the best medical and dietary ideas, we check their physical progress with care, we * ok ¥ ok REMEMBER, years ago, when the | strictly to his antiseptic | career. He was never picked up when | fores of their mental processes, and deal with them accordingly. But we do not deny them the petting and amusement that was withheld from those first Spartan babies, and we learn to know them as real person- alities of their own—rather than as a doll-like plaything, or an antisepti- cally treated experiment. * ok X ¥ UR children have a greater chance for good physical and mental development than had the children brought up exclusively under either of those old regimes. The first probably gave them more happi- ness spiritually—but were apt to fall strength and endurance. method gave them a splendid start physically, but deprived them of the expressed love and affection that is every baby’s just due. In the case of my cousin and myself neither of us suffered in any way—but I am afraid that all children could not say the same. The babies of today have the best break of all! short of true 1 If you wish advice on your individ- ual household problems, write to Betsy Caswell, in care of The Star, enclosing stamped, self-addressed en- velope for reply. :GoaTflagce In Matters Of Service Matching Plates and Proper Sizes for Some Purposes. BY EMILY POST. & EAR MRS. POST: (1) Must serv- ice plates and bread and butter plates match? (2) What size piate 1§ used at a buffet meal?” Answer: (1) They should matcn or at least 100k enough alke to go weul together. It is because of the dith- culty of making the place piates ror each course look well with tne stationary bread and butter plate tnat I so strongly approve of either glass | or silver bread and butter plates. | (2) One that is of ample size to | easily hold the food you are serving. Nine and a half or even ten inches 1s not too big, for a man course— | especially if there is only one (not counting dessert). “Dear Mrs. Post: Is a tea wagon a" taboo of conventional service? I would like to buy one, as I am a hostess who am greatly handicapped | by having only one inexpert and ap- parently untrainable servant, who must be tolerated because she is pensive.” Answer: I don't quite see how a tea wagon helps your untrained servant. She can hardly trundle 1t around the table, can she? And 1t 1s absolutely incorrect for the use that its name implies. As a sideboard on wheels to hold pitchers and bottles and ice for cold beverages at a party, it might be useful. Otherwise 1ts suitability is limited to the servantiess to dining room and back agamn. But even then it should not be used tor afternoon tea. “Dear Mrs, Post: You have written recently that under no circumstances was a hostess to be served first when a woman guest is present. If this is true and the hostess is not served first, then the food on the guests’ plates would be cold by the time it could be eaten. If the hostess were served first the guests’ food would at least stand a better chance of being warm by the time they may start to eat.” Answer: The point you make is out- side of the precepts of etiquette be- cause it is not considered necessary to wait longer than until one other, or at most two others, at table have been served before beginning to eat. On the other hand, the hostess who has herself served first when there is a woman guest at table commits the serious breach of courtesy that is often spoken of by foreigners as the great American rudeness. Sometime ago I prepared a leaflet giving the history of this behavior, which was sometimes admirable and sometimes not. I am only too glad to send it to any one who will send these lines to me in care of this paper and inclose a stamped (three cents), self-addressed envelope. understand the whys and where- (Copyright, 1935.) ‘What could be more colorful than this old-fashioned ‘“nosegay” quil 4ts flowers a-bloom indoors all year around! Of course, it’s a favorite, for, be- sides its colorfulness, it’s made of scraps. And what quiltmaker enjoy the variety as well as the economy of such a quilt. Use the scraps hit or miss or repeat them in every block as you wish, You can see that the block 1s an easy one to piece. In pattern 5419 you will find the Block Chart, an illustration for cutting, sewing and finishing, together with yardage chart, diagram of quilt to help arrange the blocks for single and double bed size and a diagram of block ‘which serves as a guide for placing materials. the patches and suggests contrasting To obtain this pattern send 15 cents in stamps or coin to the Woman's Editor of The muur)sm. i their bodies | The latter | inex- { house to carry things from Kkitchen | THE EVENING STAR, WASHINGTON, D. C, A Nice Portion o | “Oops! ‘Words Take ' On Meaning In Daily Use Knowledge Comes if Assistance Is Given in the Learning. BY ANGELO PATRL “%/0OU knew it was wrong, you?” “Yes, mother.” “Then why did you do it>” “I don't know.” “You must know. | wrong. You say so yourself. | deliberately go and do what you knew in your heart to be wrong. That means you wanted to do wrong, doesn't it?” “Yes, mother.” That won't do. long enough and asked him, “You cut off his head and swallowed it, didn’t you?” he would say, “Yes, mother.” He will say what he knows you expect him to say, and it will have little or no relation to the diffi- | culty. You see children repeat words | year in and year out, say them in the | right places, and all that, so you be- lieve them to be intelligent in their use. My experience shows me that they are far from understanding the mean- ing of many of the words and phrases they use, just as they are innocent of the implications of much of the wrong they do. They repeat the words, but the words are empty of meaning until life fills them with ex- perience and that takes time, soms times many years. So be patient. have no doubt you are using words that have little meaning for you this day. Saying, “sorry,” for example. How sorry were you and what for and | why? Think it over. To get back to the child who did what he knew to be wrong. Wrong does not have the meaning for him that it has for you. He stops at the idea that it is wrong because you don’t like it. That is not so serious. He knows many things you do not like are harmless, like chewing gum, coming in with dirty feet, taking Juno to bed with him and never even wip- ing her paws. All those things are wrong, of course. But then, he does them every once in awhile and nothing awful happens. The big thing he did that was wrong and that frightened you so, was wrong in the same sense to him. He thought he would like to do it just as he liked to do those other things that annoyed you. And that's the extent of the small boy’s knowledge of right and wrong. Don't be frighteped. Tell him slowly, clearly, in simple words, with- out anger and without haste, that he did wrong. Explain why it is wrong. It hurts other people, consequently it is wrong. When he does wrong like that he hurts his own as well as doing injury to those who love him. He will learn the when those and over, under diff when they are illumined by religious education, by home example, by school didn’t You knew it was work in the little boy knew it was wrong, but he did it learn. But learn he will if you hel does not| pym, (Cepyright. 1935.) Grease Stains, Yet you | If you- went on | “How about a snack of teddy-bear paw?” “Sounds funny, but pass it along when you're finished.” That was a serious error—sorry!” “Well, I guess I'll chew my own; fewer whiskers to cope with!” —S8tar Staff Photo. Yokes are New Feature This One Is a Departure From Usual Type. BY BARBARA BELL. ONDER why yokes are 8o important this season? Is it the peasant influence, HUHII round and the belt is a purchased one. ‘The skirt has a gore in front and back and it widens a bit as it travels on toward the hemline. ‘The new silks have a appearance this season, or perhaps u“mud-" would be & better descrip- lon. Barbara Bell Pattern No. 1738-B is designed in sizes 14, 16, 18, 20, 40 and 42, Corresponding bust meas- urements, 32, 34, 36, 38, 40 and 42. Size 16 (34) requires about 414 yards of 39-inch material. Every Barbara Bell pattern has an illustrated instruction guide which is easy to understand. Barbara Bell pattern book available at 15 cents. Address orders to The Evening Star. ‘decidely woolly BARBARA BELL, WASHINGTON STAR. Enclose 25 cents in coins for Pattern No. 1738-B. Size...... b IS —— Address_ ... (Wrap colns securely in paper.) | ture during the freezing process. THURSDAY, AUGUST 22, 1935. (} Features of Old Systems The Old Gardener Says: Garden makers often permit their pears to stay on the trees too long. This is particularly true of Clapp's favorite, for decay often starts in the center even while the fruit is on the trees. 1t is best to pick the pears while they are hard, and store them in a cool, dark place to ripen. Peaches, on the other hand, need to be left on the trees until they are almost ripe enough.to fall. Peaches purchased in the market often lack flavor because they were picked too soon. Emphasis should be placed on the im- portance of handling all fruit just as little and just as care- fully as possible to prevent its be'ng bruised. All bruised fruit will begin to decay very quickly. (Copyright. 1935.) Modern Ice Box Useful WithCream Frozen Desserts of Attractive Types WOMEN’S FEA No Husband Has R at H EAR MISS DIX—What is| sauce for the goose is sauce | for the gander. You are al- ways telling women what they should do to retain their husbands’ |love. Why not tell men what they . should do to keep their wives' inter- est in them alive? We no more ad- | mire unshaven, slovenly husbands | than men do slovenly wives. Mar- { riage does not blind us to the fact | that there are other attractive men | in the world any more than it makes our husbands unaware that there are other charming women. After all, time immemorial and we know it well. So men need advice on this subject more than we. MRS. 1835. Answer—Right you are, Mrs. 1935. But if I write oftener to women about the importance of retaining their husbands’' affections than I do to men about keeping their wives in love with tkem, it is because it is more important to a woman to keep her husband thinking she is the great and only one than it is for a man to remain a sheik in his wife's eyes. For the poet expressed an eternal Are Suggested. BY EDITH M. BARBER. WRITER asks for ice cream re- cipes which can be made in an automatic refrigerator. Perhaps the most successful desserts of this sort are the mousses or par- faits which are combinations of whip- ped cream or whipped cream and beaten egg whites with various fla- | vorings. A mousse is, of course, & rich des- sert, and it is possible to make other desserts with combinations of milk and cream. I have found that a com- bination of sweetened condensed milk diluted with water plus whipped cream is as satisfactory as any recipe I have tried. In my own refrigerator I get good results without stirring the mix- You may have better results in your own box if you stir the mixture at least once during the freezing period. It is also possible to produce good desserts with whipped evaporated milk to replace the cream, especially if you use with it crushed fruit or chocolate. The milk must be heated and then chilled before it is whipped. A very little gelatin is dissolved in water and added to the hot milk. I have found that unless I use condensed milk which truth when he said “love is of man's life a thing apart, 'tis woman's whole existence.” Likewise marriage to a man is a sentimental episode, but to a woman it is a profession, a career. If & man’s marriage goes on the rocks, he may be battered and bruised by the misfortune, but he never suf- fers the same shipwreck that a woman does. * & 8y 7\70 MATTER whether he is happily 4V or unhappily married, a man has his business, his ambitions, his earn- ing capacity, and he still has these in case of divorce, but the divorced woman very often has nothing but whatever pittance of alimony she can wring out of an estranged husband. Furthermore, as long as a man is in love with his wife, it keeps him on his tiptoes trying to get comforts and luxuries to lavish upon her, but | when he ceases to care for her, he slacks down and begrudges her even the meagerest support. So a woman's happiness, the safety of her home and her physical well-being all depend upon her keeping her husband in love with her, Of course you are quite right in saying that women are fickle even as love has been woman's game since | TURES. Dix Says ight to Be Slovenly ome. the world, the women who are peevish and fretful and complaining, the neu- | rotic semi-invalids, the slack house- | keepers and the extravagant women | are the direct results of men believing that no matter how they treated their | wives they go on worshiping them, and so it isn't any use in bothering to keep their wives in love with them. ¥ & * THEY didn't think it was worthwhile { to dress up for wife and try to be easy on her eyes. They thought a grunt was all the conversation that Was necessary to come her way and made no attempt to entertain Rer. They never noticed what she had on, or paid her a compliment, or did any- thing to interest and amuse her, so wife got bored with such an unin- teresting companion and took to fret- | ting and complaining or buying things | by way of revenge and said in effect, “Oh, heck, what's the use in wearing myself out in getting up a good dinner for a man who is going to growl over it anyway?” and slapped something from the delicatessen shup | down on the table. Oh, yes, it certainly would pay a man to keep his wife in love with him use as long as a woman is i1 love h a man she breaks her neck to please him * * x DEAR DOROTHY DIX—Can you chart the troubled waters of de- pression courtship What should a thrifty ess woman do for the boy friend who is out of work and out of funds? Provide him with meals and clothe him, or is sympathy sufficient? Does the woman who gives money to an unrelated man, even though she is engaged to him, reap anything except resentment? IN DOUBT. Answer—As a rule the old adage, “When you loan money to a friend you loze both the money and the friend.” goes double for women who lend or give money to men. There is nothing more difficult than for a woman to try to help any man outside of her own family. No mater how generous she is, or how tactfully she offers assistance, it seems to rouse a resentment in him against her that kills his affection for her. Somehow it appears to make him feel that he is inferior to her and his pride rebels at this. I have never known a man whose wife sup- ported him who treated her decently. is already sweetened powdered sugar men are, and that wives fall out of | jyuav ot y P FUEC A Gort | 1s needed to give the dessert a smooth texture. Another type of frozen dessert which can be made successfully is a combina- tion of milk, marshmallows and whip- ped cream. VANILLA MARSHMALLOW ICE CREAM. 1 cup milk. 25 marshmallows. 2 teaspoonfuls vanilla. 1 cup cream, whipped. Salt. Add marshmallows to milk and melt in double boiler, chill until slightly thickened. Whip cream, add vanila and salt and beat into cold mixture. Turn into freezing tray and freeze three to four hours. Fills one-pint tray. Variation—Add one cup crushed | berries or fruit. VANILLA EVAPORATED MILK ICE CREAM. 1 cup evaporated milk. 1, teaspoonful gelatin. 2 tablespoonfuls water. 2 teaspoonfuls vanilla. 2-3 cups condensed milk. 13 cup water. Heat milk uncovered in double boil- er or saucepan until scum begins to form. Add gelatin, which has been soaked five minutes in cold water. Stir until dissolved. Do not remove film formed on milk. Pour into bowl and chill icy cold about 15 minutes in a bowl of cracked ice before whipping. ‘Whip until stiff; add vanilla and con- densed milk mixed with water. Pour into freezing trays and freeze three to four hours. Fills two pint trays. CHOCOLATE FILLING. 4 squares chocolate, cut in pieces. 1% cups milk. 14 cup flour. 1 cup sugar. 2 tablespoons butter. 1!, teaspoons vanilla. Put chocolate and milk in double boiler and heat. When chocolate is melted, beat with rotary egg beater until smooth. Sift flour with sugar, add a small amount of the chocolate mixture and stir until smooth. Re- turn to double boiler, cook until thick and add butter and vanilla. This fill- ing may be stored in the refrigerator in a covered jar. It may be used in the inexpensive pudding, or to put be- tween layers of cake or as a pie filling. ECONOMY REFRIGERATOR PUDDING. Chocolate filling. Sponge cake or lady fingers. Line bowl with slices of stale sponge cake or split lady fingers, crust side out. Fill with chocolate filling in alternate layers with cake and chill in refrigerator several hours. BANANA DELIGHT. 3 large bananas. 3% cup powdered sugar. 2 tablespoons lemon juice. 1 cup cream, whipped. 112 teaspoons vanilla. 1; cup nut meats, chopped. 2 egg whites. Mash bananas to a pulp, add sugar and lemon juice. Chill. Whip cream, add vanilla and nuts and add to first mixture. Beat egg whites stiff and fold into mixture. Nut meats may be omitted. Turn into freezing trays and freeze two or three hours. REFRIGERATOR LEMON PIE. 3 egg yolks. 1 can condensed milk. 3 lemons (juice). 1%, lemons (rind). 3 egg whites. 3 tablespoons sugar. 2 small boxes vanilla wafers. Beat egg yolks, add milk, lemon juice and rind and mix well. Put vanilla wafers through a meat grinder and line a well buttered pie plate with them. Pour in mixture and top with meringue of stiffly beaten egg whites and sugar. Bake in a moderate oven (375 degrees Fahrenheit) 15 minutes. Chill in tor several (Copyright. 1935.) Leftovers. Leftover cooked meat, fish, fowl or vegetables can be added to regular scrambled eggs and developed into & rather “fancy” food. Good for lunch- eon or supper. Washable Velvet. LONDON (#).—] has r Tevived in & | love with their husbands just as easily as men fall out of love with their wives. And this is a fact that men do not sufficiently appreciate. They cling blindly to the theory that there is something curious in a woman's imake-up that enables her to love the | unlovable and enjoy kissing the un- kissable, which, of course, is all non- sense. ! * %tk 1“70&(5‘)\' are no more enamoured of | a three days' beard than men are of cold cream and curl papers. Nor does any woman see in a slovenly man, who thinks home is a place where you can go about in a soiled collar and your stocking feet, the hero of her girlish dreams. Most of the disgruntled wives in bites the hand that feeds it. AN BL‘T this time of depression, when so many energetic and capable men have been thrown out of work through no fault of their own, should put men and women on a different financial footing. and I see no reason | why a business woman should not { help her fiance with money if he needs it, nor why he should hesitate to take it as a loan that he can repay when he gets on his feet again. At any rate, 1 would certainly offer | the money to him if I were you, and | tell him that he has a better chance of getting a job if he is well fed and well clothed than he does when he 15 half starved and shabby (Copy 1935.) ‘Eye Beauty Achieved in BY LOIS LEEDS. EAR MISS LEEDS—I am a blond. My evelashes and brows are quite light; how may I darken them? (2) My hair is inclined to be dry; shall I | use oil on it or will it darken it? (3) I do not tan, but get red and burned when out of doors; what would you | suggest? (4) My skin is inclined to be dry; what treatment would be good to keep it in good condition. (5) I am 24 years old, 5 feet 5 inches tall; what should I weigh. MISS BLONDIE. Answer—Use an eyebrow pencil and eyelash darkener to darken the blond brows and lashes. They are obtain- able in convenient tubes and pencils !nc any cosmetic store. Keep them | well groomed by brushing. (2) Use | warm olive oil or mineral oil on your | hair before the shampoo. Choose & | well-known brand of liquid soap sham- poo. Lather well and rinse carefully | in several waters. Add a few drops of oil to the last rinsing water and | dry your hair with towels. Massage Simple Way/| Cook’s Corner BY MRS. ALEXANDER GEORGE. SUMMER SUGGESTION. Summer Salad. Cheesed Wafers, Fruit Ambrosia, Peach Sherbet Alice’s Sponge Cake. Salted Pecans SUMMER SALAD. 8 slices pineapple & cream cheese balls 3 sgeced black ’z cup mavonnaise | Chill all ingredients. Arrange pine- apple on lettuce. Surround with cher- ries and top with cheese. Add may- onnaise and serve immediately. ! FRUIT AMBROSIA. 1 cup susar 13 cup lemon juice 2 cups water 6 cups iced water 4 cups iced tes Pint gingerale 2 cups orange Juice Boil sugar and water 2 minutes. Cool and add rest of ingredients. Serve in glasses !5 filled with chopped ice. ALICE'S SPONGE CAKE. # ese volks Y4 cup cold water 1 cup sugar cup pastry flour 1 teaspcon teaspoon cream of | . extract tartar 1, ‘teaspoon salt 6 esg whites, beaten Beat egg yolks and add 'z the sugar, Beat until creamy. Add extract, salt and water. Beat whites and add rest | of sugar and beat until creamy. Com- bine with ege yolk: Fold in rest of ingredients. M:x lightly. Pour into 1 lemon 1 | , | your scalp and brush your hair eVery |, ;o re050q Joaf or sponge cake pan. ¢ | night and morning. (3) Protect your | skin with a suntan oil and shady hat before exposing to the hot Summer sun. Some skins are inclined to red- ness, while others tan. Wear a beach coat and pajamas at the beach. Choose | a darker shade of face powder. (4) | A warm oil facial pack and weekly facial massage will be helpful. Your skin should be able to stand the regular soap-and-water washing. Send a self- addressed envelope bearing a 3-cent stamp and ask for my leaflets, “Daily Care of the Skin,” “Facial Massage” and “Care of Dry Complexions.” (5) The average weight for a girl of your age and height is between 125 and 135 pounds. Some types naturally weigh more than others. LOIS LEEDS. Large Lump on Nose. Dear Miss Leeds—My problem is A few weeks ago I visited a plastic surgeon, who told mé this lump could be removed by an operation. What I would like to know is, could such an operation be done satisfactorily? I have never known of a similar one. RUTH B. Answer—The lump on your nose can be removed, but be sure to get the work done by a registered plastic sur- geon of good standing in his profes- sion. Ask your own family physician’s advice on this point. There are quacks in this fleld as well as reliable men. LOIS LEEDS. (Copyright. 1935 ) Jcflntlimbertoflubh uticura Ointment, Before your Shampoo gently massaging the scalp to remove the scales of dandruff assist the cleansing action of the Ointment. Let it remain as long as convenient, then shampoo with a suds of Cutie ‘warm water to P -nl;lo-u-dvi:nuo\hnhir. Rinse thoroughly. velvet twill e e [ ’ Address: ** Cuticura,”” Dept. $ky . ke S that I have a large lump on my nose. | Bake 1 hour in slow oven. Invert pan until cake has cool>d. Carefuily Te- move cake and serve plain or frcsted with white or yellow icing. Milk is capable carrying germs, |so handle it carefully during warm weather. As soon as received store it in coldest part of refrigerator. To obtain juice from an onion, cut | in halves and with spoon press against cut surface until juice is extracted. |Onion juice is often preferable to chopped onion. . Roast Vegetables. It is considered more healthful to roast vegetables when possible, such | as potatoes for example, than to boil them. The salts are removed by boil- ing. VAI?V\'ER'I‘}?SEME | HAVE YOU HEARD? Now you | | can have complete protection from | ; embarrassing “accidents.” There’s i I a new kind of sanitary napkin— “Certain-Safe” Modess. Its longer | tabs can’t pull loose from the pins. It can’t strike through. And it's not only safer — it's softer, too. Try it and see!