The evening world. Newspaper, September 30, 1922, Page 11

ae “Marguerite Mooers Marshall it, 1922 (New York B: World) the Press Publishing any. HEN does a young man fall in lover ~ Doe’ every man, every girl, @ particular “fate” in love? Tet better to marry earlier or Te: there such a thing as love- How should a young man meet future mate? How can he tell “the wrong girl” the right one? : ‘How cin she tell “the wrong man” othe right one? What.ought a couple to talk about wing courtship? What, ave the necessary qualifica- ona for the profession of wife? ‘every young person Isn't inter- im the answers to these ques- ons, he —or she—ought to be! Arnold Bennett, noted English nov- Hst and man of letters, answers all tiem th his article on ‘Falling in ova’! in the current number of Pic- Review. ‘The shrewd and sen- WIS author of “Mr. Prohack,” ayhanger,"" ‘The Old Wives’ ‘and many other widely read d Tealistic tales, has prepared a careful and most comprehensive chart of troubled pre-matrimonial Pwaters; a chart on which every dan- gerous Shoal and rock is marked and @ course Into the haven of happy Wmarried life is plainly tndicated. “When lov Take that first question, ges a young man fall here are, according to the, astute . Bennett, certain perfectly definite Occasions when any reasongble person may expect this phenomenon to take Place. “For example, {f a man who has been fod poor to marry comes into a wulficienf) income the chances are a hundred to\one that ‘soon afterward the will ‘be in fové with some likely rl. “(A man who begins to find life @ bore will fall in love. “A man who finds his exist- ence full and interesting, an am- bious man, will not fall in lov He misses the visitation becau: he doeg not want it. “A man who has been balked in a e affair will fall in love a second time within a brief period, for the that he wanted, not a particu- Birl, but love itself.” Mr, Bennett frankly has no use for “fate” or ‘‘affinity’’ theory of “If each individual has his ‘fate,’ author points out, “it ts ex- mély curious that his ‘fate’ so often ppens to be living in the same or even in the same street! “It is as certain as anything human be that in the average happy n the husband would have been equally happy with any one of ten thotisand other women, and the wife iwith any one of ten thousand other men. (And when I say, ten thousand I am understating!) “Ie it better to marry earlier or ? It is unanswerably better to earlier, provided that the ma- basis for marriage exists. If imeome of the married couple ‘would be inadequate to the needs of wedlock and is without a fair pros- pect of improvement, or if the income ig precarious and unreliable, then no marriage could rightly take place.”” “But,” sigh the romantic ones, “what shall we do if we fall in love when we are too poor to marry?" “Don't fall in love,” Mr, Bennett answers sternly. For he believes firmly in the practise of love control, He gays that when a young man's fancy 1s taken, ‘if at this moment circumstances arose which prevented "him from ever seeing the girl again fhe would not suffer, No harm has been done, “The strange ttle mi- robe is only on the surface as yet; has not penptrated tnto the system; ‘dt can be brushed off."" Therefore—brush it off, unless rea- and judgment tell you to go 4. In that case—keep on seeing girl, and let nature take its 1 As to where you should see the lady your heart, Mr. Bennett thinks that @ance or a theatre or a plenic is itively the worst place. ‘A girl ig ideal at a social entertainment may be a very different girl tn the eternal dailiness of marriage. “If the early meetings occur in a place of business, under busi news conditions, the chances of a sound judgment are considerably strengthened. But the young man should eee the yeung woman in her own home. And if her own home Is not satisfactory, let him guard against Imagining that she has escaped the faults of her family. She hasn' And here are th8 “three symp- toms" which, In his opinion, will help a young man to diagnose ‘the wrong girl.” “If she is obviously a devotes of Pleasure, beware, for she cannot fail to be disappointed, with the usual results upon character. If she shows no thought for what he is spending with her or on her, beware, for either she is selfish or she is incapable of “A Dance or a Picnic Is tho Worst Place, a Place of Busi- ness the Best, to Meet a Girl.” «< Why Do We “Fallin Love’? ~ Arnold Bennett Answers IN REAL “LOVERS’. GUIDE” TELLS HOW TO MEET YOUR MATE—HOW TO PICK THE RIGHT ONE— WHAT TO TALK ABOUT WHEN YOU’RE COURTING of courtship, Mr. Bennett suggests that at least some of the conversation be devoted t serious subjects, “The girl,” he declares, “‘should acqutre knowledge concerning not merely the financial status of the possible man but about his health and about his tastes, particularly about his tastes. For she will be more at the mercy of his tastes than he of hers.’ Finally, Be closes with a bit of sound advice on the profession of be- ing a wife. He supposes that “when the couple had arrived at an un- spoken or spoken understanding, the young man’s mother were to send for the young woman and say to her: ‘You want to marry my son, which means that you will have to run lis house fdr him and bring up his chil- dren. I must request you to prove to me that you can run a house, manage ~ servants, buy food economically, cook it attractively, make rooms attrac- tive, keep order, be punctual,’ &c. “Naturally,” admits Mr. Bennett, “The young man should see the young woman in her own home—she may not have eseaped all the faults of her family.” putting herself in his place. Thirdly, if she speaks ill of women in general, beware, for she is a woman herself."* Our novelist philosopher is less de- tailed in his advice to the lovelorn maid. “No one can safely predict that a given man will not ptove sat- isfactory to a given woman,” he re- marks, truly enough. But he thinks there is one fairly sure way of de- tecting ‘‘the wrong man." “Beware of any man whom men do not like. There may be exceptions to this rule, but for myself | have not met one.” Instead of the eternal endearments “the girl would be startled. But she would have no right to be. The error into whigh innumerable girls fall ts of expecting the man to bring various important things to the marriage while forgetting that they, too, have responsibilities to discharge and du- ties to fulfil in an accomplished amanner. “And you may cry out against rea- gon and practicality and mechanical household efficiency as much as you please—there is nothing like these for supporting and preserving love tn its fight against time.” Thus endeth what its distinguished author terms the “courtship of reason."* Doesn’t it sound reasonable, you leap-before-you-lookers, who so often land finally in the divorce court? Playing the Game Uu———._ By Sophie Irene Loeb Copyright, 1922 (New York Evening World) by the Press Publishing Company. HEN you have stood the gaff of jeering crowds As you did some menial thing To help her, the one who bore you; = When you have tolled the excess hours That should have been on pleasure bent In order that the wolf might never come To those you love, And never counted the cost or pitied self; When you gan look at a soldier's uniform And wish that you had had your eRance, But because of those dependents had stayed be- behind And yet do not bemoan your manly loss; When you have seen your best friend Give you the ‘‘cold shoulder” tn the presence of mightier men, And shave felt only pity that you had made a mistake !n him; When you can wait until the morning after To disagree with him who was on quarrel bent; When you can stand with men who tempt you To gain greatly, but at the expense Of him who has been fair with you, And refuse, and never tell him whom you have saved; When you can give your last dime To jhe stricken one who did you wrong, And then smile as you look back on all the pain Tyat has been yours; : Afd in the end, when you have gone the gamut Of life's grins and grouches, and pinfricks and pleasures And know that you have pald the price at every turn, And have given full measure for even less than half, And have no regret but for him who took the greater shuaté And never disbelieved That the milk of human kindness forever flows— Then you've been playing the gama, Can You IT'S THE FIRST TIME YOU ‘VE LET Why Not Look Your Best? \—. By Doris Doscher Copyright, 1922 (New York Evening World) by Press Publishing Company. EAR MISS DOSCHER: Would you kindly advise as to my correct weight? I am thirty years old and weigh 162 pounds, | am 6 feet 8 inches tall. 1 am exceptionally fat through my hips and in the back too. Please tell me what exer- cise I should use to reduce this and how long each day to pra MARY ELIZABETH. Yor your age and height 150 pounds would be the weight for you. You will find that the excessive fat around your hips and waist will disappear if you take the leg-swinging exercise. This should be taken at least fifteen times twice daily. Dear Mise Doscher: Kindly advise mo what to use or do to lighten the skin on my knees, as all the skin on the rest of my body is white, but Just the knees. | think it comes from kneeling down while cleaning the floors and not using a pillow. A READER. If you scrub the knees with corn meal and a little soap tho roughness and darkness will disappear. A little glycerine, to which a few drops of spirits of camphor have been added, can be well rubbed in. A few repeti- tions of this treatment and your knees will be as white as the rest of your body. Dear Miss Doscher: There ie a puffiness under my eyes that makes me look older than I What treatment do you advise? Will you kindly tell me what my correct weight should be? | am fourteen and a half yeara old and am 5 feet 2 Inches high. IL. K. ‘The puffiness under your eyes may be caused by kidney trouble, lack of sufficient sleep or overfatigue, and the real cause would have to be re- moved before any external applica- tion would be efficacious. If you take sufficient rest I think you will find this puffiness under your eyes disap- pearing without any further treat- ment. About 105 pounds would be a nice weight for your height and age. Dear Miss Doschers Can you tell me my correct weight? | am a boy almost thir- teen years of age. Weigh 122 pounds and am 5 feet 5 inches in height. THANKFUL, You are very tall for your a, even so you are nearly ten overweight for your height. ge, but pounds Beat It! » TSS YOUR EVENINC?. eon wee © GO WHERE NOU LIKE Augustus Thomas ECENTLY, when he was ap- R pointed Executive Chairman of the Producing Managers’ As- sociation, Augustus Thomas did not object to being called the dean of American playwrights. But he says that he read the other day of an old man who was dubbed the dean of American pickpockets. And when Mr. Thomas inquired as to this, he was informed that the old man was so called because he had been arrested more times than any other member of his profession. i “Therefore,” he said, “although I have probably served a longer term et writing plays than any of my countrymen, I prefer to be called something else. My apprenticeship began almost before I can remember. As a very little chap I was astonished to discover that all boys did not at- tempt to draw pictures and to write plays. “Before I was twenty I was an actor, playing, writing and adapting As I travelled through the Central States, the South and the West, I was tmbued with the desire to express the wonders of America dramatically, That desire grew, and {t has never left me, “Of course I soon realized that ‘t would be impossible to express the entire country with one play. You might as well attempt to picture the Kohinoor by describing one of facets. plays. Its So I determined to construct Going Down! EAR READER: What we D need to-day and every day Is more of the TRUTH. We want the whole truth and nothing but the truth, All men expect of you and all you expect of them Is that the truth shall be told. 80 long as we are in doubt about anything we ere seeking for the truth. Why not dig down and get the truth about your you're not so bad, Faithfully, ALFALFA SMITH, Intimate Interviews | ‘By James True Expresses America @ series that would present with fair completeness the country’s manners of our pertod, “Tt was necessary to lay the scenes of each play in a certain section. And it was my intention to divide the country, not conforming to any estab- lished boundaries but according to the attitude of the men of various sections toward their women. “Perhaps I made a mistake in call- ing the plays in Missouri, Alabama, Arizona and Colorado, for after they became successful everybody seemed to jump in and they deluged the stage with plays named after States, Geo- graphically, many dramatists tried to help me out. They staked out the same cl; demig aim It was almost an epl- long as State names lasted, and I don't think they overlooked the Indian Territory and the District of Columbia. But, of course, that was before they were governed by the stu- pendous assumption that the country is vided into only two sections— New York and elsewhere."* Augustus Thomas must have had at least fifteen years more of experience than his square-shouldered sturdiness end alertness indicate, And his con- cluding statement gives the assurance that, in his new position, his exten- rive nowledge of the stage with his lifelong desire will prove an endur- ing and a wholesome influence “The orginal idea still holds good,"* he ured, “I belleve that Amert- cans make a mistake In creating plays 4 foreign atmosphere, and th wright should express onl t he knows about intir still convinced that the ¢ he American stage can d nt America faith- —— Ati PLACE | LL GO WHERE EVER YOu Like THI (T OV write reur ON MY HAT YOu HAVE Courtship and Marriage By Betty Vincent “DED EAR MISS VINCENT? 1 am nineteen years of age and have known a young man of the same age for a long time, Last summer we beoame very friendly and started to talk about our future without hie or my parents’ knowledge, as we decided to walt two years be- fore we married. A few weeks ago he complained that his mother Ie scolding him every time he takes me out. After a few days he came and told me every- thing was all off beoause his mother forbade him to take me out again. Since that time I have not gone out with him or any, other young man, but he Is going out with another girl. & have business with his parents which takes me to their home once. a week. The other night he took me home and since my house le an hour’s walk from his he was late again and received another scolding from his mother. Now, Miss Vincent, | love this young man and want hie friendship. Could you advise me how to keep hie friendship and at the same time not worry, his parents? “Le be Le When a young man ts in his teens and his parents object to his going with @ certain girl the girl is most unwise to try to continue the friend- ship. The young man ts still a minor and not able to take the steps or the initiative as a man of maturer years. Nor is he apt to know his own mind. Better put this chap out of your mind, “Dear Miss Vincent: | am en- gaged to be married to a young man whom I have known for two years. For the last year | have been unhappy because my sweet- heart, whom | know loves me dearly, expressed his doubt as to my love for him. | am not an especially affectionate type of girl and find it difficult to expr my feelings. What do you advise? “UNHAPPY.” to break through the tce and your real, honest-to-goodness Try heart show itself, If you love this young man tell him so, and do not be afraid to show him that you really care for him. THE JARR FAMILY “By Roy L. McCardell ii? pare at tas Seas, Pe, ¥ THE two Misses Cackleberry ot Philadelphia were delighted at meeting thelr mother at the bar- gain counter in the big store they, gave little indication, of ft either in look or word. ‘ ‘why, Mrs. Jarri" exclaimed the lady from Philadelphia (who, married) again, was no longer Mrs. Cackie-. Berry, but Mrs. Bernard. Blodget). ‘and she imprinted a double edition kiss on both cheeks of Mrs. Jarr. Her daughters, however, she greeted: somewhat coolly, ‘Howdy, the said. “Gladys, stop squinting! Irene, straighten up! Why don't you wear your shoulder braces?’’ H And then Mrs. Jarr began to notice that the Cackleberry girls had law-~ fully inherited their constantly, den- onstrated antipathies.. For, just as they nagged and bickered with each other when no marriageable young men wore present, and just as they, silently skirmished with each other with pinches and elbow diggings, fust so théir mother kept up @ constart battle and skirmish with them. — “You don't ask how your step- papa is,” remarked Mrs. Bilodger 4'He's bought « new imported hat and he looks just grand in it!" “Don't mention that stupid bully*@ name to me!’ remarked Miss Gladys Cackleberry, the youngest but most acrid of the dear girls. “‘If you, old enough to be his mother, married @ big humbskull young enough to be our husband, you don’t expect us to be interested!"* “Oh, Gladys!" cried Mrs. Jarr in surprise, « ‘Gladys ts right, Mrs. Jarr,"’ intery posed Miss Irene Cackleberry. ‘‘If your poor dead real papa's life inkug- ance money was spent on a well dressed loafer of a second hus- band'’'—— { “And then twitting us that he had & new Imported hat!" exclaimed the waspish Gladys. "A very expensive hat, I'll wager! Oh, you don’t know him, Mrs. Jarr. Nothing but the best will do for him, and it's our money"*—— . “Everything was léft to me!" hin- terrupted the mother. ‘‘Your father did not understand me, but, Bernard and I are attuned.” » i “Yes, and he gets you to ‘buy him twenty-five-dollar hats, when we have to come to bargain sales’’—— “And that reminds me, I got one of the new style sults here—who pulled the sleeves out of it?” Mrs. Jarr and the Misses Cackle- berry had pulled the sleeves out of it, but they thought it best not to say so. “Look here, young man!" cried Mrs. Blodger, turning from the family fight to hold up a hurrying floors walker, “Is this why you offer bar- gains in these new style suits? aged goods—look at the sleeves to! out!"* ‘ “Moneymakers fg Philadelphia al« ways have GENUINE bargains!" cried the two Misses Cackleberry. “I want my money back!"’ claimed their mother. “Please go to the complaint departs ment, take elevator to the eighth floor,” advised the floorwalker, and hurried away. ‘ “You haven't paid for it, you Mawr,"’ said Miss Gladys Cackleberry, “So put the old thing back on the bargain counter."* “Oh, Mrs, Jarr, ox if you knew the sacrifices I have made for those girls!"’ cried Mrs. Blodger, turfitn appealingly to Mrs, Jarr. st “‘Hush!"" cautioned the latter, #¢e- . ing there was a lull in the battle for bargains and that the family squabble was being overheard. ‘Let us go to the restaurant on the ninth floor-and have a cup of tea.’ “If we are to have tea, let us go where there {s dancing,” suggested Miss Gladys Cackleberry. “Possibly there is dancing in the store restaurant here,” sald Mrs. Jarr, “And, oh girls! That reminds me!"* spoke up Mrs. Blodger. ‘Your steppapa knows all the new steps and is learning to play the saxophone... Hé sent his love,’ “Ot course, if he dances the new steps, I'll dance with him,’ but spbitk to him—never!" declared Miss Irene Cackleberry. Barbara’s Beaux A New hee Serial | y | Caroline Crawford The Story of a Small, Town Girl Who Came to. : New York for a Career and Found —? ? ??? First Instalment| On This Page MONDAY