The San Francisco Call. Newspaper, June 21, 1903, Page 9

ANDVVIVE/" B> (OLLONFK WEETHEARTE and wives, and age lines there would be fewer bearts and desolate homes, and ¢ delectable divores attorney would be . the prefix Mrs bility to & woman's - &nd the husband whose name is anything is w a great deal to e average wom &iso believe e 1ife for & woman things that do not con- re duties they would le with statecraft riain more prop- had mo that pe days of courtship and resultant effect of mat- girl’s havits and life and r appedeance people fall in Jove it is of personality, wherein f heart and brain that y be the moving spirit of “or notuing to do with the e itself. eral appearance that at- tracts either a man or WOmARD. A man sees & girl for the first time ata ball or social gathering of some kind and immediately makes up his mind that she is the one and ¢ he world for him. He does not she is, but who she is, for the sole purpose of seek- 1 er in her home and courting her if been and ttracted solely by her per- little thought of the beart and mind that go a toward making a home happy. es caught h . and why tt t to save his life, of her charms linger in he concludes that he could ppiness again were she not w penser. her disposition he knows absolutely ng, nor whether she will make a sat- factory wife. and worse still, he will be- lieve nothing sald to her detriment. He ws that for scme mysterious rea- son she has czught his fancy and be oves her. the hapi daye of court- these day are not happy. th 2 woman's life all In vain. For though love should not run smooth, ure of siolen meetings, should necegsary, amply compensates for s that an ill-advised love unters. . ence A man sees a woman always at her best before marriage. At that time both are supposed to be on their best behavior. The man in dress coat or dinner jacket is charming, the girl in evening gown adora- ble, end forthwith they cannot tumble into love with its entree into matrimony fast enough. The girl sits at home during the day so perfectly self-engrossed with happy long- T X7 ings that she has little thought of any- thing or any one else. The man is all impatience until the lagging business hours leave hign free to seex his amorata, and the fond hot flow of love epithets when they meet must need an asbestos mask to keep them beyond the fire limit. The impatience, the yearnings, ths heart burnings, are something harrowing to contemplate, and yet there is some- thing very beautiful in this glowing first love. Scomething that brings us nearer to heaven than we ever resch through any other route. Something that awakens all the tenderness of woman, and stirs the best impulses of @ man. Tt Is not the consecration of love that proves its mausoleum, but it is its dese- cration that leads to its rapld decay. 1f the impulse that led to the altar could always remain the impelling force, the heart tragedies that stain the records of matrimony with blood would remain unwritten, but unfortunately many mar- riages are entered upon in the hot haste of a mad infatuation, resting solely on the charm of personality that gives no guarantee that it shall end in aught save misery. In matrimpnial tangles who shall decide which 1s to blame, the man or the wom- an? Sometimes one, sometimes the other, and at times both. One or both may fall dismaily in fulfilling the bright promise of the happy days of courtship and the matrimonial bark freighted with tears— drifts. Women of extreme wealth having mne duties worthy of the name that call for the expenditure of nervous or physical force are not supposed to be delinquent &s are those having more or less the care of a household depending upon them. A woman should never forget that it was her personality that first attracted~ & man and she should keep that personal- ity just as charmingly attractive as in-the’ days when love laid its tribute at her feet. “ No man of refinement”could love = woman who grows fareless of her per- sonal appear¥ and fortunately the days when a woman.thought her fortune made when she tufned from the altar a bride and the necessity for keeping up her appearance ended then and there are passed, and.the womali”of the day eyen when grown passe is all the more cgreful than was her sister of a few decades agone. Household cares are no excuse for a lack of neatness and the woman who is naturally careful could prepare a dinner In a white silk gown and look none the worse for it. A man marries a girl lgvely and lovable to gaze upon,”and whap she ceases to gratify his exe she becomes less attractive ol %, to. whom ‘ndture head,’ and- whe curlify irons after inat- zgnd pufls-her. halr sback “as ‘to dislocate her hs. woman ' whose 0 s Uwite, {ll-kefopt and p ;dfixe'-n the ro- ie” most, ‘adoring mental spouss that ever lived and affords a sad contrast to the radiant creature he wooed in her father's home. 1t he is at all fastidious hd learns to shudder at the thought of her. Now, T am not a beauty expert by any means. If T were I should begin to praec- tice right here, but I think fteevery wo- man’'s duty to make herself as attractive as _possible in the eyes of the man who loves her., She need not make of herself a walking advertisement of a kalsomine establishment, but she may indulge in a few dainty touches that are often an im- mense improvement when approaching the passe stage. Wrinkles will come, but even wrinkles add a certain dignity to a woman, winning for her additional love and respect. Never, no matter what advice may be given, go into the masseur business un- less you can afford both the time and the price, and it takes lots of time and lots more of money to keep it up, and it must be kebt up If once begun. To massage the face, unless it be done scientifically and regularly, will do more harm in a month than can ever be re- trieved. Professional beauties whose success de- pends upon a youthful contour and a fascinating presence. make a business of professional services that cash up thelr largest assets of stock in-trade. But fof people of every day life, having other duties and a limited income, better let thé face alone as far as massage is con- cerned. Unskiliful treatment tenas to loosen the s=kin and encourage wrinkles rether than obliterate them. Actresses have the best complexions in the world, and the fact is largely due to the liberal use of cold cream. Socap and water will not remove the grease paint of a theatrical make-up. Cold cream is the only agent that will do so effectually, and it is the constant application of cold cream that protects the face from cli- matic and atmospheric influences insep- arable from professional life. If women used the cream more gen- erously they would soon realize its ef- cacy. The face should be thickly cov- ered and the surplus wiped off as thor- oughly as possible each night befors re- tiring. A woman who hag lost the first blush of youth can very materially improve her looks by the delicate use of ths eye- brow pencil and the barest suspicion of the rouge pot, and she owes it to her- self to keep her youth untll nature forces her to loose the grip. Some months ago-quite & ridiculous . The wife should be revised (and sceus was enacted in courts, where one woman sued another for calling her immodest because she a little rosaline and face powder. A glance at the woman who did not resuited rather favorably for the woman who did. A man loves a beautiful woman on general principles. Youth needs no der- matologist's art, but when Time with in- sidious little tricks robs a woman of the jewels of her youth and beauty then it becomes a duty to have recourse to such services and trifling vanities as will keep her yet attractive to the eyes of those who love her. A husband bates to see his wife growing old. He wants her to remain at the beau- ty post from which he wooed her in the race for matrimonial stakes. He may grow aldermanic himself and feel proud of the fact, but while he may be so jeal- ous that he is ready to kill the fellow who praises his wife's looks, yet he would be as mad as a hatter if he failed to do so. And this is man’s Inconsistency. the metropolitan I came k2 r saying a corrected) edition of the sWeetheart, with a sequel of even bright- er and more interesting chapters. A good disposition is half the battle of'life, and #hould be culgivated by eyery woman. There is nothing thdt so harmoniously greases the matrimonial machjriery as a Lright, cheery presence, and certainly no man can love a woman who always looRs as if a fidgety lobster were tormenting her dlaphragm. A real dyspeptic expres- sion on a wife's face should cover any multitude of masculine domestic deiin- quencies. A woman most certainly has at times all sorts of annoyances and real heart- achey throes, but she makes them harder for herself when she adds to them a re- luctance to perform certain duties through feeling herseif deeply injured be- cause of them. A woman must make herself more at- tractive after matrimony than before. It is easy enough to lasso the average musaculine, but to keep him lassoed without breaking either the rope or his neck is another propositicn. Israel Zangwill says: “There are three reasons why men of genius have long hair. One is that they forget it is grow- ing. The second is that they like it. The third is that it comes cheaper. They wear it long for the same reason that they wear their hats long. Owing to this pecularity of genius you may get quits a reputation for lack of 25 centa™