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WOMEN ‘S " FEATURES. THE EVENING STAR, WASHINGTON, D. C., TUESDAY, AUGU T 3, 1937 WOMEN'S FEA TURES AM__ WOMSV'S TRATURSG THE PYENING STAR WASHINGTON, D. C. TUESDAY. AUGUSE 5w wowws reatemss. Souvenir Mania Is One of the Most Insidious Ills to Which Flesh Is Heir Experience The Best Teacher Withdraw the Protect- ing Hand as Child Grows Older. BY ANGELO PATRIL “ A, I'M going swimming with the HE first room in the first house the world knew was a Kitchen. A space surrounded by four “What? Who said 0? You know perfectly well that you are not allowed | to go swimming without some member | of the family along with you. You | stay right home.” “But, ma. I said I would. They'll be waiting for me.” “I don’t care if they are. You had | no business to sav you would do what you are forbidden to do and that's that.” “But I promised. I said I would." “Don’t stand there telling me you gaid you would. Isay vou can't. Now g0 about your business. Don't you ever tell anybody you will go anywhere out asking me firs ca in mother’s mind sound. The boy had to g0 to swim without is family along to protect him. But mother had not noticed that her little boy had grown into another boy, one who did not need the protection | of & big brother or father while he went swimming. He had developed | into the hoy who goes along with his gang. holds his own with them, and wants to be respected by them. He felt outraged by this tie to the grown- ups. He slipped out and joined his friends and went swimming. Now his mother was outraged and frightened. Her boy, who had never | questioned her word, never challenged her authority, had defied her. had chosen to go with his friends rather than to please her by obeying her Her world rocked. Father was called in to administer justice. The boy defended himself by ving he couldn't stay a baby forever a hought it was high time that he was allowed to grow up. being 14. going on 15 What was father to do? He saw his | boy's side of the question, and he | saw the mother's side, too. But dnl &s he might, the would never again accept a com without question, his dependency. It is hard for mothers to allow their ehildren to start out for th But that is exactly what the children | must do in order to grow into useful maturity. The children are going away from home and mother from the very first day and the best way for a mother to hold a child at home is to let him go. Gradually, as a child acquires power, | and the ability to take care of himself, | withdraw the helping protecting hand. | The earlier this process begins. the less | danger there will be of making major | mistakes. Experience teaches better | than proverbs and little children are eafer in experimenting with life, as a usual thing, than their older ones who make their flights in their teens, | When & child says, “I'm doing so | end so, I mised to go with the crowd, I've arranged to help with the | play. I've taken was been one ," the best thing to do I hope you have a | u will be safer in say- you begin the weaning process in the first two vears. The | way to hold him is to let him go. (Copyr 1937 My Neighbor Says: Bagging the bunches will large- ly eliminate spraying of grapes. Allow the vines and grape bunches to become thoroughly dry after spraving. Tie of pin a 2-pound paper bag over each bunch of | | grapes. Pull the bag on far | | enough to permit fastening the | | top over the vine. The grape | bunch should not be disturbed. | | Tear a small hole in the lower | | corner of the bag for drainage | | and the job is done. The bunch | | of grapes will mature without in- jury from insects diseases or birds, and can be left on the vines much longer than is otherwise possible. | the seventeenth century the kitchen a ticket for the big | | same vou will need a kitchen with plenty walls, with a fireplace for the preparation of food. Today. in our own Southwest there are tiny, one- room houses, where Indian families live in much the same manner. In wus the most attractive room in the nouse. It was always warm and cheer- ful. and, in the Winter, was the gathering place of the whole family. In Spain the walls and floor were decorated with handmade tiles in brilliant colors. These also sur- rounded the huge fireplace and ovens, with thefr iron pots and shining cop- per utensils. In France, the kitchens of Brittany and Normandy were de- ul. with decorated pottery and | made furniture, designed to fill | al nceds. Their chests, dressers | 1 tables are prizes today in antique | BY MARGARET NOWELL of counter or table space—but you do not want to walk miles in it as you prepare dinner. That is—a complete Kitchen may be in a very small space, but there is a limit in the area of working space you should have, even | though the room is big." It can hardly be too small—it may easily be too large. Many of the “tired feelings” at the end of the day might be avoided if kitchen equipment were set at the proper height. If you have the good luck to be able to have your kitchen sink set to suit you—stand erect be- fore it and place your hands palm down in the bottom of the sink. Placed at this height, vou will not have to bend over as you work. The new sinks are 8 inches deep—more | than 2 inches decper than ones—and do not splash. sink and table tops all around your working space should be the same height. You can make much better the old A ICE Box POTS + PANS o|o T = A business woman’s kitchen In the tiny salt-box housc on Cape | Cod or the coast of Maine, larger two-story early homes in Salem. | or in the lovely graystone houses of | the Pennsylvania farmers, the largest, | the most cheerful and comforiable | room in the house was the kitchen, | with its cooking fireplale. It is hard | to sav whether it was because the room | was delightful that the family gath- | ered there, or that the family gather- | ings brought into the room so many charming and useful articles. Today we have at hand for our daily | use the most remarkable equipment | for saving time and labor that lhvi world has ever known. After the first great excitement of having all these | gadgets within our reach, I hope we | ' Work TEbl@ with closeY abeva KITCHEN %12 To Dining Room * wash Cabinets | kitche: A for a one-room apartment. time with this stream-lined effect and in the | will not continually knock chunks out | of your pet mixing bowl There are many finishes that will | serve you well from & complete monel- | metal kitchen unit down to the ones | you build yourself. If you must utilize | every inch of space I would suggest that you buy the sectional cabinets and have them installed. But if you have plenty of room have them built | into your own plan, so that your will be just a little bit “dif- ferent If you live in a large, old-fashioned house, you probably have a kitchen at least 12 by 15 feet and maybe larger. Have you considered putting in a partition and making a modern Rear Entrance ‘ Mach Modern kitchen and laundry made from old-fashioned kitchen. will settle down to make our kitchens a little less like a shining laboratory, and try to recapture the charm of the kitchens that our grandmothers knew. As the years go on, we will be | doing more and more of our own housework with the help of modern equipment only. Let's plan a kitchen | that is useful and compact—time- saving and step-saving, and, at the time, a joy to the one who spends many hours there. If yon have a house and a family Are you like the rest of us in wanting to have all your furnishings match? ‘Then you'll love this attractive design that we've made up into a rug, here. For it's just the thing for an afghan: or pillow, at all (for the pattern is unbelievably easy to crochet) you can redecorate a ‘whole room. The pattern envelope contains complete, easy-to-understand illustrated directions, also what crochet hook and what material and how much you will need. To obtain this pattern, send for No. 503 and enclose 15 cents in stamps as well. So, with almost no work or eoin to cover service and postage. Address orders to the Needlework Editor of The Evening Star. kitchen with a laundry room adjoin- ing? There are great advantages in & laundry on the first fioor, with easy access to the drying yard. There is no difficulty with steam or odors with modern equipment. In planning to divide the room for a partition, lay out the plan with chalk on the floor. Arrange it, if possible, so that you have & window in both the kitchen and the proposed laundry. Place your sink and your laundry tubs back to back against the partition—this will save about a third of the cost of in- stallation. In the kitchen, arrange it 50 that you will work from sink-to- stove-to-table, with no lost motion. Have a ply-wood cover (it is light in weight and will not warp) made for your laundry tubs. This will give you a table top for sorting clothes. Set the ironing board into the wall so that it is out of the way when you do not need it—and so that it drops down in front of the window for good light for ironing. Be sure to have your elec- tric outlets where you want them—not where it is easiest for the electrician to place them. Plan for room for wash- ing machine and ironer even if you do not possess them. You might get one of them some day and you would hate to have to build an addition to the house to hold it. Over the laundry tubs have a cabinet to hold soap and scrub brushes and cleaning equipment. A small dryer that pulls up flat against the ceiling is useful in rainy weather. If you are a bachelor, or a business woman, with a one-room apartment, and you would like to cook, why not have a complete kitchen for a hobby? You may have one in the same space a small sofa would take up—and you may concoct endless varieties of fun. A space 6 feet long by 4 feet high and 28 inches deep will do it. If you wish to include a sink, set aside a space near a plumbing connection—that is, on the living room side of the bath room partition. Arrange your space first for ice box, stove and sink. The ice box may be & wall model that runs by electricity or the old-fashioned type that is iced from the top. The sink is deep and square and the faucets are set low so that a top may be put over it when it is not in use. The stove need be only & two-burner electric plate if you have an electric roaster, coffee pot, toaster and waffle iron. Each appliance has its own little cubby-hole and there is also space for dishes and glassware, silver, pots and pans and the groceries. There is a table space to work on above the ice box and when fhe party is over and things put away the cabinet doors may be shut and you have only the effect of a carefully designed wall closet. Place a screen in front of it if you prefer. Any one that can read ean cook—and there is a heap of fun to be bad in & kitehen! 14 Your stove, | i “Collecting” Misnomer Moon, Certain BY BETSY Virginia caverns. We were all A over millions of years—drop by to chip off a century or two of Na- ture’s building to take home as a souvenir. Mankind. it seems, is not con- tent with Jooking | and admiring— | he must handle | and possess. The souvenir mania | is one of the most insidious ills to | which the flesn is heir, and one of the hardest to | overcome. Many | people feel that a trip or an expe- dition is a total loss unless they can return with some ill-gotten gain | from the places where they have been. | For souvenirs that are tamely bought do not count—they have to be stolen or acquired by violence to count in the eyes of the true souvenir hunter, The individual who indulges in this Betsy Caswell hobby is one of the most unscrupulous | of human beings. He has no feelings | | for his fellow man, for beauty, for age, | for sentiment, for grief, for decency. | | Nothing matters. s0 long as he gets | | his trophy. And, of course, fo long' | s he has an appreciative audience | to whom he may display it and boast | of his prowess later. * x X *x ‘SIGN collectors blithely make way with important warnings on road- | ways, regardless of the fact that their absence may cause some innocent traveler'’s death. Taxpavers are the | gRoats every year for damaged and pilfered public property. Hotels and trains know to their sorrow the fond- ness of the touring public for soap and towels, and shrines that should be revered all over the country have to be guarded against desecration by | those who simply must take a bit: of them home. At times the souvenir craze assumes ghoulish proportions. Following & [ major air disaster in this country a few vears ago, the bodies of many of the dead were stripped of trinkets and | small articles by those who reached | | EAR DOROTHY DIX: A married man, very honore able, conscientious and re- ligious, became acquainted with & young unmarried woman of the | same high character. They were members of the same church and met | quite often in church work. They were attracted to each other and before they realized it this attraction had deepened into love, but they never mentioned 1t to each other. They never held an intimate conversation or were never alone together at any time. They do not approve of divorce and realize that because of the nature of the man's profession, divorce would ruin his life. But he felt that he must confess to his wife, that it was unfair to her for them to continue to live together as if nothing had happened. He thought that she would be under- standing and compassionate and that they could remain together because, although they have no children, they have much in common. Their edu- cation and cultural backgrounds are the same and she can help him pro- fessionally. So he told her what had happened. She was furiously angry and had no sympathy or pity for him. She has never ceased to reproach and nag and torture him. They quarrel continually and she has left him many times and gone home to her people. She has made it almost impossible for tNe other woman to continue in church activities by her hatred and bitterxess and her proud, arrogant and patronizixg attitude toward her. To bring about geace the girl would with- draw from the ehurch and lesve the city if she could, but cannot because of responsibility at home. What should she do? DISCOURAGED. Answer—"“Hell hath no fury like & woman scorned,” and this wife who had herself superseded in her hus- band's affection by another woman will never stop until she wreaks vengeance upon her rival. She will torture her in every way in her power and do everything possible to disgrace her and drag her down. * ok K % ERE is no way in which the girl can defend herself against this bitter hate. The wise thing for her to do is to go away from the scene of strife. It is the only possible way in which she can save not only her life, but also her reputation, which is dearer than life to her. She should do this even if it involves causing her family to make some sacrifices, for it will save them from more suffer- ing in the end. Away from the jealous wife, the girl will at least have peace and a chance to rebuild her life. TIam not a believer in indiscriminate divorce, but in this particule: case, where there are no children to consider and where the happiness of three people is concerned, I think it is the only remedy. Certainly no good pur- pose could be served and no morality promoted by a husband and wife living together when they have come to hate each other, when each brings out what is worst in the other’s character and when they are fighting like cat and dog all the time. Certainly nothing could be more ruinous to the man’s profession, whatever it may be, than for him to have his mind so upset by his domestic problems and his judg- | destruction for | Dorothy Dix Says Divorce Is Best Solution for Quarreling Couple With No Children. ment so warped by his emotional strain that he can give no intelligent thought to his work. Surely there can be né happiness for For Hobby Involving Thefts 7and 'Vjolence Children Should Be Taught That, Like the Things Cannot Be Possessed. CASWELL. SUNDAY or so ago we took the children through some of the great fascinated by the real beauty of that underground world, and gazed in awe at the work wrought by Nature drop, and grain by grain. A painful anti-climax came in the form of signs garishly painted and brilliantly illumi- | nated, threatening dire punishment to those individuals who might be tempted the scene before the authorities. Many of these things were offered for sale in stores in nearby towns, at ex- horbitant prices, and were eagerly snapped up by other souvenir hunters, equally ghoulish, The worst of all, however, was the woman dipped her handkerchief in the blood of one of the men, cut it in half. and sent one- half to his widow with a letter ex- plafning what it was, and stating that she was keeping the other half “as a | souvenir of the occasion!” * ok kA (COLLECTING, when decently and properly done, is a great childish hobby. But our children should be impressed with the wide difference between it and souvenir-stealing. They should also be taught that their parents must pay, directly or indirectly, | for public property abused by them, |and that they should take pride in the appearance of the city or town in which they live. They should realize that signs are placed where | they are for an excellent reason that | has to do with the wclfare of the com- | munity, and therefore should be let alone and respected. ‘Taking such | things is just as much of an offense | as shop-lifting—and not one bit | cleverer or funnier. Thé indignities to which movie stars and other public figures are subjected are just further examples of the ex- tremes to which the souvenir craze may go. Children should be shown the ridiculousness, and the actual un- kindness of such behavior, and be taught to view their idols with a more sane admiration. It isn't particularly praiseworthy to have battered said idol into & nervous wreck to obtain a torn shred of necktie, or frill, nor does | it denote a really genuine affection | and respect! Control, respect for other's property, appreciation of beauty and of the maj- esty of time, and a horror of wanton personal acquisition should be instilled into the younger generation from the time they start reaching out for the moon. They can't have that—and they ought to be taught that some other things in life must be just as inaccessible! the wife in a marriage in which she is half crazed with jealousy and in which her only thoughts of her husband are filled with bitterness and A& desire for revenge. The sooner such a marriage as that is broken | up, the better for all parties, it seems to me, It is, of course, a tragic thing for a man to fall out of love with his wife and in love with another woman, but the heart is an unruly member that we cannot always control. In this case, at least, the husband kept the letter if not the spirit of his marriage contract, and that is all that any human being can do. But he knew little of the nature of women if he was foolish enough to think that his wife would understand that another woman had an attraction for him that she had never had, and depths in his nature that she had never stirred. It would take a bigger brain and a deeper heart than many women possess to do that. A man never makes a greater mistake than when he tells his wife of any other woman he has ever loved. It only gives her food for jealousy. 3 * ok % X DEAR MISS DIX: Iam having in- law trouble and from a sister-in- law who is aged 2!, years. She is the bane of my existence for all her tender yeafs. She is the baby in a big family, born after her parents were well in their 40's, and she is the worst spoiled child that ever lived. The whole family kowtows before her. They think all of her badness is smartness and that it is cute for her to do things for which she should be spanked. Even my husband joins in this worship and calls her clever. Devilish is the word for her. At our own wedding breakfast, not six months ago, this infant ruined the happiest moment of life by screaming and laughter and taking the center of the stage. I guess I should be ashamed for disliking such a young child, but I cannot help it. What can I do to overcome this feeling and stop the families’ constant chatter about her? ALICE. Answer—Have a baby of your own and divert the family child-worship to it. A baby always puts the 2-year- old's nose out of joint, and certainly your husband will have no eyes for little sister when he has an infant prodigy of his own to adore. It is too bad about your husband's family spoiling the child, but it is what always happens when the stork pays a belated visit to a middle-aged couple. They always give the baby of their old age an adulation that they never bestow upon their older children. It is the Benjamins and Benjaminas who are never disciplined or denied anything they want and who lead their fathers and mothers around by the nose. But I sympathize with you in your dislike of a spoilzd, fresh child whose misguided parents give it the center of the stage and expect everybody to keep quiet and listen to its prattle. There is no greater social pest. A (Copyright, 1927.) PR Fruit Juice in Dressing. Use equal parts of lime or lemon Juice in place of the vinegar called for in French dressing recipes. 7 | silk crepe for later. | jabot at the bosom gives a flattering | bridge and for A Very Slenderizing Daytime Model for Informal Parties. BY BARBARA BFLL. HE lines of this frock create a | silhouette of slimmer prope tions. 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During the Winter, for instance, some women figuratively put their legs in mothballs to be taken out again in Summer. But right now with skirts soaring, even evening gowns, taking on higher hemlines, with bath- ing suits permitting an eyeful of limb structure, how can we help keeping our mind on our legs? The fatted calf is taboo. So fis the scrawny variety. Lovely legs taper at the ankle, curve very definitely but gracefully at the calf, then an inner gradual curve to the knee. The thighs we will talk about tomorrow. One of the simplest exercises I know of is the rising on toes and down | on heels exercise. It is splendid for calves, thighs and ankles. The rising on toes and squatting down on heels (knees bent) is more difficult and needs practice. High kicking and leg swinging are good, too. The old-reliable pedaling exercise, riding an imaginary bicycle, is splendid. It is war on overdeveloped calves and ankles as well as flabby thighs, These exercises, very fully explained, together with others for calves and ankles, and exercises in sets for various parts of the body are contained in my new booklet called “Reduce by Exercise.” In attempting to reduce the ankle, bear in mind that bone structure can- not be changed. Overfleshy ankles can be trimmed down, but it takes patient, persistent work. Over-fleshy ankles are not to be confused with swollen ankles, due to acidity or systemic condition. These are for the physician and belong to his province and his alone. One of the best ankle exercises is the circling routine. Sit straight in & chair and circle feet at the ankles— 20 times to the left, 20 to the right and then both together in a eircle. This exercise directs the stretching to the unused fatty tissues. Manners of the Moment SOME of these up-to-the-minute | apartments simply don't take into account the welcoming hand. Their builders apparently forget all about the | fact that when a body greets a body there has to be room for two bodies. In most of them there isn't. You | just can't open the door, hold it open, | shake hands with your guest, usher your guest in, and get back in yourself, | without several major - bumps and bruises. You can't do it even if you are a sylph. We know a sylph who lives in an apartment like that, and she's having a nervous breakdown over the vestibule situation. She's decided to entertain in the elevator, she says. . - We think probably that she'll have to develop her own individual method of greeting friends. She can hide behind the door when she opens it, with nothing but her hand visible to the incoming guest. After the guest has shaken the hand, the hand can wave the guest into the living room. Of course, that would probably frighten guests the first time. But after a while they'll get used to it. 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