Evening Star Newspaper, July 4, 1936, Page 20

THE _EVENING STAR, WASHINGTON, D. C. SATURDAY, JULY 4, 1936. MEN’S “PET HATES” PROVIDE FIREWORKS FOR FOURTH Lipstick a Black Mark Against Women in Many A Man’s Ta Length of VComposite List Leaves Ladies' With Little Hope High Masculine Standards. BY BETSY CASWELL. TIRRING up trouble and start- ing strife and dissension some- times turns out to be fun! Especially when it promotes a S quiet little war between Men and | | say “I told you so.” ‘Women! Feeling that the Woman's Page ought to have some fireworks for the Fourth of July, T decided to scout around a bit and see if I couldn't find some. I did. The touch-off was the question put to various masculine acquaintances encountered along the road of re- search — “What irritates you most about women?" At first the vie- tims were a little shy and inclined to stick their heads in the sand, ostrich - fashion. to avoid the issue —but when as- eured that no names would be ° used 2nd noth- ing they said could be held against them personally, they blossomed forth with truly ex- Betsy Caswell ble of Taboos of Conforming to —make fun of their husbands or masculine friends in public. —have no sense of humor. —discuss a problem from about four angles, so that no matter which way things turn out they can always | —talk out of turn. | —exaggerate. | -—“sSound off* about everything, | whether they know the right answers or not. —take credit for some achievement of their husband's which he has | planned, carried through and finished entirely alone. —talk in their sleep. —hear burglars or smell smoke at 3 am. ~—talk baby talk. —brag that they can't cook, never have and never will. —wear long red fingernails. | —paint their toenails. —are jealous of husband’s success. —refuse to alter standards to con- | form to unusual circumstances. —kick their husband's shins under the table. —diet. ~—try to climb socially. ~—talk “bunk.” | —feel that they are superior to all men under all conditions. pansive statements on the subject. As a matter of fact they gave me so much material that no one column could possibly take care of all of it, so 1 have had to weed out the high lights through a process of elimination. ‘There was, of course, a great deal of duplication on certain pet “hates” be- eause all men seem to feel very strongly about one or two irritating habits of the gentler sex. But, -boiled down, here is the result of my search: * % ok x | —act martyred. | —wear curlers and grease on their faces at breakfast | —demand to be fed whenever they !are “dated up.” { —wear impossible heels for walking. | —quarrel at bridge. | ~—whine. —are suspicious of their husbands. —ask questions at ball games. —demand if they are loved when masculine companion is changing a TMEN dislike women who —leave cigarette butts fuming in an ashtray, instead of stamping them nut. especially when the butts are so covered with lipstick that no self- respecting man wants to get his fingers all mussed up. trying to put them out —leave lipstick on coffee cups or glasses. —use escorts’ “scenery” handker- ehief from his breast pocket to mop up mascara after a good cry at the movies. —refuse & drink and then consume most of their companion's by taking *just a sip” several times ~—make personalities out of gen- eralities, and who go to the mat to defend themselves from a general ac- cusation against the sex as a whole. —appropriate husbands' razors and razor blades. —have no sense of thine.” —tell off-color stories themselves, “mine and tire. —refuse to understand the urge to “go out with the boys” occasionally. —want chores done around the house after a hard day at the office. | —become fighting mad if their escort doesn’t thrill over their pet movie hero. | And so on and on and on—until one | | is forced to wonder why women are even allowed to exist any more—so great is the dislike felt for them by the opposite sex! But here is the catch. ladies! Next | Saturday we will print an article on | just what women dislike most in men ! and see if we can't get the boys on the run for a change! Already much of the material has been gathered, Spoils From Vacation Tour of Antique Shops These relics of yesteryear may be put to new and ingenious use in the modern house. The old blue India “dishes” for tea become charming ashtrays; teapots and sugar bowls may be used for "different” flower holders. Silver coasters, for wine bottles and decanters, make delightful fruit dishes, and the pewter beer mugs and Toby jugs can be turned imto lamps or used as vases. Silver pepper mills will adorn any table, and the raffia-decorated wine bottle may be used for iced tea. — Concerning —a ; Dorothy Dix Says B us 1 N ess | TheSpoiled Child Who Wishes to Reform Has a Hard Row to Hoe. Situations Interruptions Must Be Tactfully Made. BY EMILY POST. EAR MRS. POST: I've come to the disappointing conclusion that and if the response keeps up to its | I must be one of the females one hears present standard, practically annihilated when the col- umn comes out next week. It would appear that women dislike & great the men will be men many more things about men than appear tactless. talk about as “beau.iful but | dumb”; only unfortunately I'm not { even beautiful. Things are always happening in the office to make me I am a stenographer but are insulted if some one tries to | men do about women—and we shall | and take dictation from numerous ex- tell them one. | see what we shall see next Saturday! Low-Cut Ql;@ise Suitable for Wear Under Evening Gowns, Backless Dresses or Net Frocks. BY BARBARA BELL. RAMATIC low-cut evening gowns, tennis frocks and fashionable net frocks de- mand low-cut undergarments that fit snugly and retain the dainti- ness that lovely lingerie demands. 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The other “day. when returning to my desk to | | transcribe imgortant dictation, I found | two of the other executives had stopped at my desk to argue some problem, one sitting on the chair and the other on | the edge of my desk. After waiting 10 | minutes or more there seemed to be no | pessibility of getting to my typewriter | without asking for my desk. Which I did. Later the head of our general | office told me that one of these men | had complained about the dumb women he employs. What would you say that I ought to have done? | Answer: Certainly what you did | was not unreasonable; in fact, I think 10 minutes was overlong to wait. If they thought your interruption of their conversation improper, might it | perhaps have been because your man- | ner wag tactless? It seems to me that | had you waited for a pause and then said. with the most appealing expres- sion you could assume, “'I am so sorry, Mr. Smith, but Mr. Jones is in a hurry | to have this work done,” no one should | have found reason to complain. * % X % Dear Mrs. Post: I am a musician and often play at weddings in this pro- fessional capacity. I am a large woman and usually wear black, lace or chiffon, trimmed in color. The mother of a bride just told me, when asking me to play at her daughter’s wedding, that she preferred anything but & black dress since black is considered a bad omen for those in the wedding party. Playing professionally as I do, I had never considered myself as part of the wedding and never supposed that my being in black had anything to do with the lasting happiness of any one. Truthfully, Mrs. Post, don't you think it most suitable that I make myself as inconspicuous as possible, which can be accomplished only by wearing dark clothes, and why can’t my dark clothes be considered a back- ground in the same way that those of the men are? Answer: I agree with you entirely. Black is supposed to be bad luck only for the members of the wedding fami- lies and bridal party. Have you ever thought of wearing a stone gray dress as a change from the black? This is merely a suggestion because I have noticed that people who are inclined to be plump look just as thin in sheer gray as they do in black. * ok X X Dear Mrs. Post: I've just broken my engagement and would like to have your opinion about some of the situa- tions that are resulting, which I do not know how to handle, First, Jim gave me a so-called “hope chest” and whenever he saw anything that he thought might have a place in our house he'd buy it and give it to me to put in the chest. Also, recently he gave me a wrist watch and many other gifts, which of course are less valu- able than the watch. The only thing T've given back to him so far is the engagement ring. What about all these other things? And do I send them back or ask him to come and get them or keep them? Answer—When engagements are broken, all presents of intrinsic value are returned. Engagement ring, al- ways; other ornaments, usually. Just how much intrinsic value might be put on sentiment is hard to deter- mine and I think the only solution in your case would be to ask him which things he would like to have back and give him what he asks for and keep what he wants you to have. * x % % Dear Mrs. Post: When two people of the opposite sex meet on the street, isn’t it considered the woman's pre- rogative to speak first? 1 Answer—Formally, in America the woman bows first; in Europe the man bows first. In America, however, the rule is not considered important. i s (Copyrisht, 1936, by EAR MISS DIX: Being the only child, I have been ter- ribly spoiled by my parents. They never controlled me nor | made me do anything I did not want to do. I am accustomed to having my way about everything and I cannot stand being denied anything or thwarted | many times by not faults corrected while I was younger. My overbearing ways make me un- popular with boys and girls of my age and I am beginning to realize how ugly being spoiled is. Can you tell I have been embarrassed | having had my | me how to correct some of my faults | at home, in company, at school, at a ! he Jives, party, or on a date? A VERY SPOILED GIRL. Answer—T doubt if there is any mit that is greater than spoiling a child, for its consequences are so cis- astrous and'so never-ending. not only for the poor victim of parental folly and weakness, but for all who come in contact with him or her. = ]T IS the spoiled children whose foolishly fond fathers and mothers never controlled them, never taught | them any respect for the rights of others, never denied them anything they wanted; who never knew any law excepting their own wills, who fill our prisons and keep our divorce courts busy and who form the derelicts and failures of society. ! It is the disciplined people, the { men and women who have been taught | from infancy to control their pas- | sions and their desires and to do the | right thing because it is the right | thing whether they want to de it or | not; the men and women who have been taught to give and take, to play | their mothers’ knees, who are equip- | ped to fight the battle of life and win out. ‘The spoiled child is always hope- leasly handicapped because his train- fair and walk humbly, who have had | good manners drilled into them at| crime that a human being can com- | made of him a weakling who cannot stand hardships. It has bred arro- gance in him and made him feel that he has a divine right to the best of everything and to rule all about him. It has made him utterly selfsh and overbearing. And these are traits of character that the general public sim- ply will not stand. * x x MOTHER and father may kowtow before the spoiled child and satin-line the world for him while he is.at home, but the minute he leaves the home nest he has to pay for his parents’ folly, and he pays as long as ‘The girl who realizes that she has been spoiled and who wishes to un- spoil kerself has a difficult job before her and one that requires a lot of courage and determination. Still it can be done. Good habits can be substituted for bad ones, faults cor- rected, selfishness made to give way to consideration of others. If your | parents can afford it. it would be well ! for you to go off to school so that you ing has unfitted him for this. It has | pest. Famous Men and How They Cook can get away from this perpetual babying and pampering. It would do you a lot of good to be put in an mosphere of criticism rather tha | ulation, where you would receive no consideration above the other girls and where you would have to make good on your own merits, But wherever you are. you can take stock of your own faults. You can learn how to eat properly if your parents couldn't bear to cramp your style as a child and let you grow up | with the table manners of a pig. You can learn to put others before yourself and consider their pleasure before your own. You can play other peoples’ games instead of insisting on their playing yours. You can cultivate sweetness and amiability and make yourself what you should be instead of what your mother made you. And, believe me, it will pay you, my dear. Everybody hates a spoiled child and avoids one as they would any other DOROTHY DIX. ¢ JOSEPH F. GUFFEY, Democrat, Pittsburgh, Pa., unmarried.” ‘What manner of man was this who devoted only one line in the Congres- sional Directory for his autobiography? I found this Pennsylvania Senator, author of the famous Guffey coal bill, to be just as modest as that one-line description of him implies. ‘When I told Senator Guffey that I had been told to see him because he was “a famous chef,” and to get his recipe for apple dumplings, the Penn- sylvania Senator laughingly replied: “I'm no cook. They were giving you a lot of ‘apple sauce.’ “But,” he added, “I'll talk with you about omelets.” And here is how he described making his favorite dish: “To make a good omelet is consid- ered by many as the supreme test of s cook’s skill. It isn't really, as there are other things more difficult, but & successful omelet is no mean accom- plishment. This, of course, refers the French type of omelet, a ‘omelette,” not one of those cooked in a bivalve pan with whites of the eggs beaten stfff and Senator Guffey of Pennsylvania Tells How to Make a Proper Omelet. BY - HARRIET FRENCH. finished article dry as chalk. Like scrambled eggs, an omelet should be juicy when served. The eggs should be well beaten up and a teaspoonful or so of thick cream may be incore porated for each egg used, aud any one who tries to use more than six eggs at once is either a good cook or has a lot of nerve. The Poulard 16- amateur had best let it go at that. “Melt a fairly large plece of butter 4in the omelet pan—a frying pan®with rounded edges and used f —8tar Staff Photo, Letters o - Criticism . And Praise From Many Readers. All Are Appre- | ciated. i BY ANGELO PATRI FO? a good many years now I have been writing to mothers and fath- ers and children concerning children | Many letters have come to me in re- | sponse to my messages in the papers land today I want to say a word of (thanks and of cordial appreciation | for those letters. Some of them I | treasure highly and re-read when I feel the need of a word of cheer. There is one written by an old lady, well on {in her 80s, telling me how happy she |is in her cabin on the mountainside, alone now, save for the pets she loves and cares for, and telling me. too, | about the children reared at her knee and how they have grown up to praise and bless her. I wouldn't exchange that letter for—well, for anything I can think of in the way of rewards. I have one from a mother, who wrote while she sat beside her sick baby. |1t is like a prayer for help set in a |hymn of thanksgiving to God. Who has sustained and helped her through many a weary day. Her faith makes my worried doubts look like childish | nonsense as she tells me what God means to mothers of little sick chil- dren, battling alone in the night. I read that one whenever I feel that I'm losing out in a struggle to hold | up some wavering child. One letter a week comes from a lit- tle girl who cannot go to school with other children, who can never play { with them because she muts live in |a wheel chair. She tells me of her work, how many words learned. how | many examples done, how many stitches knitted and what a good time | she has been having with the sky and | | the birds and the shaggy little dog that | loves her. I'm just one of her friends, | mighty glad to be counted in. | From all sorts of people. from all sorts of places, the letters come asking me questions I try hard to answer, telling me things that I am the better for knowing. Somebody scolds me. somebody praises me, somebody ques- tions and somebody replies, maybe | from a hospital, maybe from a jail, al- ways from friendly human hearts. Not one could I spare. Iread them and answer them as best Ican. Sometimes I have to say that I don't know the answer. Sometimes I have to disagree and say no to some- { body who wants me very much to say | ves. Especially the children, who hope | that I am going to stand their friend and say yes when everybody else has said no. I always hate to add my “no” to the rest, but if I must, I do. My first duty is to stand by them and | that may mean refusing to agree with | their ideas. A real friends speaks the | truth, and I try hard to befriend all children. So we go on together day after day— T writing my messages. the newspaper sudience sending me their letters. I enjoy both sides of the job. If there is any preference it is for receiving the letters rather than for sending out my messages. Iam grateful for every one I get, even when some disagree with everything I have said. Somebody said the other day that I would probably never see his letter because some secretary would throw it in the basket as soon as he found that it was a disgreeable note. , No such thing. Every letter is read and answered as soon as I can get to it. So thank you again for your kind- ness, for your letters, for your spiritual support. As long as we work together we will arrive together at some essen- tial good. My Neighbor Says: | habited by evil spirits. Bric-a-Brac of Past May Be Put to New Uses In Modern Day Homes Many Delightful Bits May Be Picked Up Here and There While One Is on Holiday Trip. BY LUCIE EBERLY. HEN as on wings you go— vacationward — motoring over hill and dale through the country, sweeping through friendly townships and vil- lages, you'll no doubt pass the regular allotment of antique and curiosity shops. No matter what part of the country—they are there—beckoning to you. If you are like all true ad- venturers, you will have to stop and browse around. Who can resist those quaint little shops that fairly bulge ‘with treasures and relics of yesteryear? Contrary to the average opinion that most of the old things are ‘junk’—the quest for antiques goes on. The in- tensive craze of a few years ago awakened an interest in the beautiful and curious household objects owned by our forbears. An old slip-ware jug. an engraved bit of stiegal glass, a few colorful fig- urines, are sufficient to give a modern living room distinction—and if you truly want to be envied you'll have a pewter teapot, a few old pewter plates —perhaps an old gilt frame, a quaintly painted clock or an old dower chest! %k JEARLY American curios provide a “ fascinating study and hobby that brings to every one—the collector amateur, and searcher for fine old things—a first-hand knowledge of early American craftsmanship. ‘The odd pieces that you may pick up here and there are not entirely useless. Indeed, sometimes thev may become even more useful now than they were at the time of their produc- tion! Surely they are more appreci- ated—in some instances. and it is surprising how many lovely things one may pick up and bring home a. ures and souvenirs of the count through which one has traveled. New England is peppered with “ve old an- tique shoppes”—Pennsylvania, Massa- chusetts and Virginia are among the finest “hunting grounds” of them all. Don't pass the quaint treasure troves without visiting them. You'll find many amusing things to bring home for a new lease on life! * . OLD gilt picture frames make fas- cinating wall mirror frames Round and oval shapes are best for wall adornment or consoles, while the square ones are suitable for the bou- doir chest of drawers. The squares. aside from being useful as mirror frames. are often just the thing for an old cherished print or portrait that may be hidden away in your attic. Wall knick-knack shelves, the small ones, are also easy items to carry home. Those made for corners. with scroll-carved filigree. belong to the mid-Victorian period. Since there has been a steady revival of the Vic- torian, these little pieces are right in style. They fit into any setting. ac- cording to modern decorators. Matched pairs are highly desirable. If you have the good fortune to run across such a find don't pass it by. Use the shelves for ivy bowls, books or figurines. And speaking of figurines. surely the most indifferent individual couldn’t resist some of those colorful and gay bits of the olden eras! They « always make attractive gifts to take | home to friends or to send back to | your hostess as a kindly remembrance., | They are still lovely mantel orna- | ments, too, for the Colonial setting, |and always look well on the occa- | stonal table. i * % k% INTEREST in pewter ware, accord- ing to collectors and dealers, has | lagged during the last few years. If you have been secretly coveting a a few pieces, now is the time to “snoop™ around. Many amateurs who started collecting 10 years or so ago to be in the race have taken their erstwhile treasures to the little shops around the corner, leaving them behind for a “new love.” The recently revived and exciting chase of penny banks is perhaps claiming their enthusiasm | Strangely enough. this is the item of current interest among collectors! One bank official in New York has already a collection that even the Metropolitan Museum would be proud to harbor! The banks are fun to hunt for—ther are found in the most unexpected places. All sorts of curious char- acter shapes are being unearthed To get back to the pewter, however Candlesticks, urns. goblets, plates platters, bowls and pitchers shoulc be just as useful now as they were when they were first made. Even as merely decorative pieces for the den or living room pewter is always in- teresting and nothing can compare with it as the perfect example of early American craftsmanship. One clever pewter enthusiast we know has utilized some of the finer pl of pewter by making stunning sice- light reflectors! You can imaginr how effective they are when polished to a dull sheen - * DD pieces of fine old china—Iluster, Spode, milk glass. etc, are in- triguing, too. and. though they seem somewhat useless as abstract pieces, they may become serviceable again in a number of ways. An old, colorf Spode sugar bowl, for instance, makes a stunning flower receptacle, or com- pote dish. Butter pat plates become ash trays: mugs and odd cups—those with rare old signs and coloring— cigarette holders. Old china soup tureens may be used as punch bowls Ty dishes. Wine coasters make d flower holders salt cellars can 1l serve their natural capacity— always. Some of the very old one are really little gems. * » - 'OLEWARE. or tin, with decorative painting. the large trays especial- lv. have great appeal in the modern setting They are considered quite valuable now. because they are becom- ing scarce. In the more modern town shops you will find them already re- touched. The restored ones bring handsome prices, of course. If you are artistically talented or know of some one who can faithfully reproduce the original designs and color of the trays, then you should stop at the country shop and search for those that are kept on forgotten shelves—rusty and dusty. The larger the tray, the better. Square ones were more popular than the round or oval, so they will be easier io find. * * in Caring for Canaries Good Treatment Makes Joyous and Healthy Songsters in the Home. Rollers sre be:f /e%o/:t’ o sing by on C/O/Pf ('df)afy Gre Dickre @ chance for a bath three Gmes a week BY MARY ALLEN HOOD. ONCE upon a time, so the old stories go, the Canary Islands were in- They lived in the mouth of an extinct volcano. But the islands' export was and is a& bundle of happiness, viz., the canary bird. Under ordinary circumstances he can spread more sunshine in the shortest length of time than anything twice his size and shape, regardless of the evil spirits in his family closet. The Harts Mountain Rollers are the sweetest singers and were first devel- oped and trained in Germany. The old German system seems to be about the best and is still used. An older canary called the “Campaninis” is picked out for the music master and instructs the young birds, starting the time they're 6 months old they're well on their way to being artists in their own right. - No matter what Dickie's nationality is he still needs good treatment to make him a joyous bird. This means a large cage, at least 18 inches across and high in proportion. His swings Forget-me-not seeds if sown now will bloom early next season. A thin slice of lemon with rind added to soup stock before clearing will give soup a delicious flavor. Pineapple ice cream and rasp- berry sherbet make a delicious combination. : ‘When making pastry, roll in one direction only if you want it to be light. Rolling first in one direction and then in another is almost sure to make it tough. and perches should be round and about as wide as a leed pencil. Clean sand belongs on the bottom of the cage. He must have some sailor in him because it has been noticed that canaries thrive more if the sand is from the seashore. It may be because it is dustless. Anyway, on that next trip to the beach bring a bit of it back to him. In the Summertime he likes his bath every merning, thank you! But there's no guarantee that he'll take it in the tub provided for that pur- pose. He may do as does one canary in this town—hop around his tub, perch on it, get off to one side and admire it, cheep a few times in a very | % when they're about 10 weeks old. By conversational tone and even light on it and sing a song in praise of its beauty, but positively refuse to bathe in it. Then as soon as it is removed and his cage cleaned out and fresh drinking water provided, Dick will hop over to the water he is supposed to drink and splash it all over the cage and himself. After which the cage has to be fixed up all over again. | Nevertheless a canary should be given | every chance for a proper bath three times a week at least. His feeding is just about the same. | To the standard diet of canary seed | and tonic seed add rape and hemp |and grass. Dickie likes it just as | much as dogs and cats. Give him all | the dandelions and lettuce he wants. Canary grass is one of his pet Sum- | mer passions, too, and he should be | well fed with it, for molting season |isn't far off. Don't forget the cuttle | bone. It's more than a beak sharp- | ener. And about that red rape—be | very sure it isn't rancid. It should | have a nutty taste, slightly sweetish. | If it is the least bitter or hot it isn't red rape. In case it's dried out and | smells or tastes rancid, get rid of it | in some other way besides feeding it | to the bird. For that “sweet tooth™ |let him have a piece of apple about | twice a week. Any bird that feeds all day long | will soon get fat and lazy as would any ! human. Put birdie to bed ea:ly these | long Summer da Get him out of | bed abdut 8 am.; give him the light. | Then from 11:30 to 1 let him have |air and sun. Don't put him in a drafty window. Let the sunlight be | indirect. Put him to bed at 6 p.m. { He doesn't have to listen to the radio or read the papers. If he shows any | signs of fright do something about it at once. Birds die of shock. <