Evening Star Newspaper, May 4, 1935, Page 24

B8 Discussion and Comment on Subjects Interesting W Distinction in Wedding Papers and Their Engravingl WOMEN'’S FEATURES, Perfection Is Required In Announcements and Invitations From Bride Innate Good Taste in Details Arrangements. BY BETSY CASWELL. F ALL social functions, whose details must be meticulously observed, I know of no others ments as weddings. Everything must be perfect and must go along with no fault or hesita- tion. The bride herself, naturally, can- not be relied upon too much to see to things—she is apt to be so busy with gifts, trous- seau and pre- nuptial parties that mentally she is a bit flighty. But she should have the say in most of the fundamental de- tails, and one of | the first of these J to be considered is the matter of & n n ouncements, invitations, etc. ‘We are judged a great deal, socially, by the outward and visible signs of our innate good taste. The type of engraving which we choose—the form used and the actual paper itself—all can express our breeding, or our lack of it, and it is, therefore, wise to go about the matter of announcements or invitations slowly and carefully. So often, although we really do know better, we are stampeded into making mistakes by being in a hurry and at the mercy of an overzealous salesman at the same time. Betsy Caswell Ll 'O BEGIN with, many people send out formal engagement announce- ments. Personally, I am not in favor | of this custom—1I think an announce- ment appearing in the social columns of your town papers is enough. But if there are particular reasons why such an announcement should be sent, the turned-over type of card, with the {nitials of the last name of the prospec- tive bride and groom entwined on the front, is a good choice. Inside, the ennouncement is usually engraved as follows: “Mr. and Mrs. John Doe Brown announce the engagement of their daughter Anne Wentworth and Mr. William James Smith.” ‘Then comes the invitation, with all its additional cards, for the wedding itself, either at church or at home. If you really intend going full tilt into the matter you may also order announcements of the wedding to be sent to those of your friends who have not been invited to attend. The tnvitations, announcements and ac- companying cards should all be en- graved in the same style and use the same paper. Just now a new “naturel” paper is much in favor—it is a warm, | off-white shade, of smooth finish. % & % BOTH announcements and invita- tions should be inclosed in two envelopes—the inner one bearing only Suiting Small Forehead Proper Coiffure Will Make Brow Appear to BY LOIS LEEDS. EAR MISS LEEDS: I am a girl 17 years old, 5 feet 4 inches tall pounds. I have a small fore- head with a widow's peak which makes it look smaller. How ean I wear my hair to make my fore- head look higher? (2) Am I under weight? (3) I have a dark com- e}sxion, brown hair and black_eyes. hat shades of make-up should I use? (4) I have a few blackheads in the creases each side of my nose. How ean I get rid of them? E.L. Answer—A coiffure with the hair combed off the forehead will make the brow seem higher. The hair is parted low on the left side and combed diagonally backward; it is also combed back from the temples. (2) You are four pounds below the average weight for your age and height. (3) The dark brunette may use a rose-ochre or dark rachel powder with lipstick and rouge in deep cardinal. (3) Steam them with a face cloth wrung out from hot water, then try to press them out with an old- fashioned watch key. Bathe the place with boric acid solution afterward. At bedtime put on some blackhead cream and leave it over night; such creams may be purchased at drug stores and other places where cos- metics are sold. LOIS LEEDS. 80 exacting in their require- and weigh 117 | do not eat much, but I can’t seem to Should Be Dominant of Wedding the name of the recipient, with no further address. Some papers are of & size to be folded once, before being placed in the envelope—the others are sMpped unfolded into the cover. Either style is good, but when many at home and reception cards, etc., have to be inclosed I think the folded paper is best. It is advisable to have the invita- tions folded, and inclosed, with any cards, in the inner envelopes, before delivery to the bride'’s home, to in- sure proper appearance. The outer envelopes can have been sent to her in advance, for malling addresses. When the outer envelopes are thus addressed by the bride or the secre- tary, before the inclosures and inner envelopes are received, the inner en- | velope can be addressed from the | outer, thereby savid® time. | * X ® X T THE same time that the bride | orders her invitations or an- nouncements, she should order the | calling cards for her new life. At the moment, parchment cards, of a .‘clear warm white, are most popular. In choosing the style of engraving, | personal choice may govern the mat- | ter—but remember, you are probably going to use the same die for your cards for many, many years, and it is| well to choose a more conservative | type that will not easily go out of fashion. The bride must order cards for “Mrs.” alone, for “Mr.” alone, and for “Mr. and Mrs.” They must all be identical in style of engraving. If she already has 'a definite address selected, she may order it placed on the “Mrs.” card and on the “Mr. and Mrs.” but never on the “Mr.” | Ak n LACE cards for the wedding| THE EVENING STAR, WASHINGTON, D. C, breakfast are another item that must not be overlooked. These are white, turned over, and stamped on the front flap with the combined initials of the families of the bride and groom. The name of the guest is written in ink inside. The initials are usually done in silver, but if the bride is featuring some particular delicate color at the wedding break- fast, the stamping may be done to carry out her chosen scheme. For very big weddings, where a great number of gifts may be ex- pected, the formal acknowledgment | card used to precede the personal| “thank-you” note, is & pleasant ges-| ture of courtesy to those who have sent presents. Thus they know promptly that their gift has arrived, and been checked by the bride or secretary. But, a word of warning— never, never let the engraved card act as substitute for a note in the bride’s own handwriting, with a special | personal touch! Nothing denotes ill- breeding more quickly than lack of proper gratitude and appreciation! If you wish advice on your individ- ual household s, write to | Betsy Caswell, in care of The Star, | inclosing stamped, self-addressed en- velope for reply. Be Higher. Wants to Reduce. Dear Miss Leeds: I am 18 years old, 5 feet tall and weigh 125 pounds. Every one calls me Fatty. Now I/ would like to know what my measure- ments should be. Please tell me of some reducing stuff I could take. I reduce. How much overweight am I? Another problem is that when I pow- der my face itches. FATTY. Answer—A girl of your age should not undertake any reducing pro# gram without a doctor’s advice and supervision. Do not think of dosing yourself for this purpose. You say you do not eat much, but perhaps you eat more than your body needs. Little snacks taken between meals mount up, you know. I suggest your keeping accurate account of all the food you eat during an everage day (including candy and soft drinks) to see just how much you do eat. You are about 20 pounds above the average weight for your age and height; if you are of a naturally sturdy build, however, you should not con- sider yourself more than 10 pounds overweight. An adjustment of your diet and regular exercise may be all you need to bring down your weight. Send a stamped, self-addressed en- velope for my leaflet, “Safe and Sane Reducing.” Some skins are unusually sensitive to certain cosmetics. Try another brand of powder and use & powder base first. | LOIS LEEDS. Dress up your bed room in narcissus—that flower of Spring! It has been transiated here into lovely motifs for linens. Can’t you picture them done on s pastel-colored linen with the flowers do them on white with the entire motif in white or with the flower yellow and the leaves green. You can make striking scarfs, vanity sets, cushions, pillowcases and towels. If it's dining room linens you want, you'll find these equally useful. Combined with pattern a handsome dinner cloth can be made. In pattern 5090 you will find a transfer pattern of four 3% by 8 inch motifs, four 5-inch corners and six 3-inch corners; complete instructions for cutwork with illustrated stitches, and material requirements. To obtain this pattern send 10 cents in stamps or coin to the Woman's Editor of The Evening 4 or ash receivers of coppery Your wedding gift seet 1o Mion Mary Cabos Lomgrordh which Law bees reeciond il be schnorledged et by parvonalleter beauty and lasting record. Popularity Elusive for Lonely One Friendly Spirit Must| Be Shown to Win Attention. BY ANGELO PATRIL SATURDAY, MAY 4, 1935. ashington Women WOMEN’S FEA Dorothy TURES. Dix Says Is There Any Way to Curb the Love Thief? l EAR MISS DIX: Cannot some appeal be made to the hearts and consciences of girls who break up homes just for the sport of the thing and to show tHeir power over men? I know & young woman who has already wrecked three familles and is now starting her devilish work on a fourth. I am interested in this case, in which there is a really nice young husband, who would go straight if he were let alone; a sweet, pretty lit- tle wife, utterly unable to cope with & vamp, and three lovely children, who will be wrecked in the smash-up. And the girl who is making all this trouble doesn’t care for the man and will throw him over as soon as she has messed up his life. There should be some way to lock up love thieves, as there is to jail those who rob us of our money. TROUBLED ONLOOKER. A NSWER—There isn't a drop of the milk of human kindness or sex loyalty or any other good quality in the girls who wreck homes for the | mere pleasure of breaking a sister woman’s heart, orphaning little chil- dren and wrecking & man. And so there is no way of appealing to them | or of stopping their nefarious work. | They don't belong in this humani« tarian day. They belong in the Dark Ages, when torturing one's fellow creatures was a favorite indoor pas- time. A lot of girls specialize in flirtations with married men. You will often hear a young woman say complacently that married men always fall for her. She seems to think that this is a proof of her superior power of fascination and rates her as an irresistible siren. But she deceives herself. Getting an | eligible bachelor who will have to say it with a wedding ring is a real Thought and care should go.into the choosing of the announcement and invitation styles for the great event. These types are most popular at the moment. The dies used for the engraving may be made into card trays Crane papers. by Copenhaver. “Assemble Your Own” ALL young girls, and most boys, long to be popular. That is uyl.nuL that most of our boys and girls are | healthy in mind and body. The per- son who does not want to be liked and | admired must have something the matter with him. It is human to want | to be liked and admired; healthy to want to be noticed and praised. Some young people find themselves blocked in this desire for notice. For some reason they cannot understand, | nobody wants to be seen with them. Nobody wants to pair off with them and enjoy long intimate chats. No- body ever seeks their company or in- vites it. And the lonely young people are thrown back upon their disap- | pointed, grieved selves. | “I am bright in school. T am not bad looking. There is nothing about my personal appearance that is much different from other girls. But I am not popular. Nobody asks me to the dance or the game. No boy, no girl of my acquaintance ever calls on me. I am left alone at every affair until I slip out and go home. I can do that safely because nobody, not even the hostess, will notice. What can I do? ‘When this happens to boys and girls they feel helpless. They look at themselves dnquiringly, asking the rea- son. They find no fault in themselves. It is the other boys and girls who are selfish and coldly indifferent, maybe Jealous. If there were any justice in the world this outcast would be the leader. Some such thought is in their minds and it is precisely that thought that blinds them to the real situation. No boy is left to himself unless he has shown some quality of disposition or character that drove off possible friends. No girl is left alone, isolated, in white and the leaves in‘green? Or 5089, which contains matching motifs, as this young girl is, unless she has indicated that she wants no friendly advances, wishes no friendly consid- eration. All human beings are lonely and seek companionship and friend- ship. There is & reason for the ex- ceptions. The reason varies with the indi- vidual. One is superior in manner, The atmosphere he creates around him makes others shrink from him, humiliaf Another is critical of all and ev ing. Nothing is doné as he could do it. Nobody succeeds as he could succeed. Nobody be friendly in such an atmosphere as that. None of us can open our hearts to harsh critics. We close them and go away as far as we can get. Some people are mind-bound just as some people are muscle-bound. ‘Their minds are stiff from lack of use. Their spirits creak on their hinges so seldom have they been opened to the good fellowship that has been press- ing upon them. Shut tight in their narrow cells they peer out, self im- prisoned victims; so bleak in their gaze and so chill in their touch that no guest lingers for another greeting. To to be popular—that is, to have friends—one must be friendly. To find this world a warm and welcoming place one must shed warmth and wel- come from his own spirit. The whole thing narrows down to the «zuemmz.I “What have you done to earn friend- | ship?” Nothing? Then you have the reason for your loneliness. Go out and do something that is heart- warming, smile on somebody who needs a smile, lend & hand to some- one who is waiting for a lift. Be hu- man as you expect to be treated hu- manly and you won't be unpopular. The whole community will be your " (Gesvrichh. 3008 BY BARBARA BELL. MART girls who enjoy wearing strictly taflored clothes through- out the Summer will want sev- eral wardrobe items of the “assemble-your-own” type. The overblouse and separate skirt shown in the sketch are a chic com- bination to start with becsuse either garment may be worn interchange- ably with odd leftovers from last year, or with newer and brighter purchases of the current season. ‘The skirt is well cut, with straight, slim lines and plenty of room for action in the front pleat. It may be made in plaid or checked wool, or in plain white wool, linen, coiton or silk « crepe. ‘The overblouse has jacket lines and is at its smartest when developed in a solid, dark color. Yokes are on all the latest sports models. The ones featured hers show jsuntiness in the pointed outline at the back and youth- ful simplicity in the horizontal treat- ment in front. Central elonnr and large butténs are an important detail in eclothes destined for service. ) Attractive Overblouse and Skirt of Contrasting Colors. | o Syl /489-0 Sleeves for practical wear are plain and conservative. They may be full length, or cut short just above the elbow. Barbara Bell pattern No. 1489-B is designed in sizes 12, 14, 16, 18 and 20. Corresponding bust measures 30, 32, 34, 36 and 38. Size 16 (34) re- quires for the overblouse 2% yards of 36-inch material; for the skirt, 1% yards S54-inch material. Every Barbara Bell pattern includes an illustrated instruction guide which is easy to understand. BARBARA BELL, Washington Star. Send 25 cents in coins for Pattern No. 1489-B. Size Name, Address... (Wrap coins Securely in paper.) fAnnouncing Weddings in Rare Cases Railway Tickets and Other Questions of Good Practice. BY EMILY POST. ]"DEAR MRS. POST—My fiance is a widower, I am a divorcee; my nearest relatives are a bachelor uncle | and a maiden aunt.. Since they are brother and sister I am wondering if |it would be possible to have both of their names appear on my engraved wedding announcements. I would | like this, if it can be arranged.” Answer—It is not usual to include | separate names, but I see no impro- priety in wording the anncuncements: | Mr. John Brown and Miss Ardith Browa have the honor to announce the marriage of their niece Mary Brown Blank to etc. “Dear Mrs. Post—I wish to take a | city to visit my family for several days. 1 suppose, according to eti- quette, I must let her buy her own railway ticket or accept her money should she offer to pay for it? I know now the situation is going to | embarrass me, and yet * * *?” | Answer—It is true that etiquette | insists that when a journey is long, a woman pay for her own ticket. | But if the fare cemes to less than a dollar you would get a ticket for her when you get your own, and if she offers to pay for it tell her that the amount was too small to talk about! If, on the other hand, your journey is fairly long, you would let | her pay for her owu ticket, if she makes it plain that she prefers to do so. (Copyright. 1935.) Cook’sCorner BY MRS. ALEXANDER GEORGE. DINNER FOR FIVE. (Suitable for Company.) Leg of Lamb Mint Jelly Candied Sweet Potatoes Buttered Green Beans Biscuits Butter Grapefruit Salad Strawberry Cake Dessert Coffee LEG OF LAMB. T S tablespoons flour 8al teaspoon salt 1 cup water Thoroughly ~wash lafhb, sprinkle with flour. Fit into baking pan and sprinkle wita flour, salt and paprika. Bake 20 minutes in hot oven. Add 4 the water, cover, lower fire and bake 3 hours in moderately slow oven. .Add remaining water after baking 2 hours. Baste every 20 minutes. CANDIED SWEET POTATOES. 6 cooked potatoes 2 tablespoons pine- 15 teaspoon salt apple_iuice ¥, teaspoon paprika 12 cup water % cup dark brown 4 tablespoons sugar butter Arrange potatoes in shallow pan, sprinkle with salt, paprika and sugar. Add rest of ingredients. Bake 25 min- utes in moderately slow oven. Turn 1o allow even browning. STRAWBERRY CAKE DESSERT. 6 pieces sponge 1% cups whipped cake cream 1 quart berries 1 teaspoon 2% cup sugar vanilla Wash, hull and chill berries. Add 1, sugar to berries, arrange on cake which has been ‘placed on serving plates. Add rest of sugar to cream and add vanilla. Spread on berries and serve immediately. One-eighth teaspoon mace or nut- meg for each 2 cups of meat in meat loaves gives & flavos, 2 ~ | girl friend to my home in a nearby | proof of a girl's attractions, but taking | |a married man away from his wife requires about as much skill and prow- |ess as taking candy away from a sick baby. Nothing on earth is easier. ]‘THE girl is young, pretty, gay, care- | free, out for a good time. She doesn’t have to think about what things cost and running up bills. She is better dressed than the man can afford to dress his wife, and she has the allure of novelty. Domesticity has begun to pall on the {man. He is hungry for a little ro- mance. He is flattered by a pretty | girl's preferring him to the boys of her own age. He is pining for adven. | ture, and so, when a girl begins call ing him on the telephone and making dates with him and meeting him for stolen lunches and dinners and rides and night clubs, she lands the poor fish without his ever making a squirm to get off the hook. | WHY do certain girls devote them- “ selves to ensnaring married men | |instead of single ones? Sometimes, | perhaps generally, because they are gold-diggers, and the married men, | or at least the kind of married men they go in for, have more money. More diamond bracelets and chiffon lingerie and fur coats are to be gotten |out of them. | Sometimes the girl is animated by a spirit of adventure. Having an af- | fair with a maried man is dangerous. | It is risking her good name, for peo- ple invariably believe the worst of it. And so the difference between pursu- ing and capturing a married man and | getting a aipgle man is the difference | | two will still be left. between big-game hunting and shoot- ing tame rabbits. AND sometimes it is sheer cruelty that makes a girl have an affair with a married man. She gets & sadistic pleasure out of seeing the {man's wife writhe with Jealousy as | she flaunts her power over the hus- |band in her face, and she gets a devilish delight out of contrasting her youth and beauty and freshness with the wife's fading good looks, her fat, her dowdiness. Of course, in the end the girl who specializes in married men gets her just punishment. She spends her youth breaking up other women's homes instead of building her own, with the result that she is left hus- bandless and homeless, a soured old maid. For the husbands in the end go back to their wives, and the desir- able men do not choose as wives the women whose reputations have been tarnished by flirtations with other women's husbands. DOROTHY DIX. o e EAR MISS DIX—I married a divorced woman with three chil- dren. After a few years of married life, which has consisted of poverty, | pinching and depriving myself of everything to support these step- children, I find myself growing old be- fore my time. My wife is pure as gold, straight as a string, pretty as a pic- ture, a good manager and economical, but there are these three children. The oldest one is old enough to go to work and I'll soon be rid of him, but How can I get rid of them and still hold their mother, for I feel my love might return if we were alone. Can you suggest any remedy in this case? A MERE MAN. Answer—The only thing you can do is either to leave the mother or possess vour soul in patience and wait for the other children to grow up and get on their own feet. You certainly couldn't be cold-blooded enough to tear them away from their mother and send them to an orphan asylum, nor is it likeiy that she would agree to such an ar- rangement. BUT it doesn’t seem to me that you have any right to welch on your bargain, because you were perfectly aware when you married this woman that she had the children and that you would have to assume their sup- port. If she had rung them in on you afterward (as one woman did whom I knew, who a few days after the wed- ding presented her husband with & ready-made family of seven, whose ex- istence she had kept a profound secret until after she had landed a meal ticket for them), that would be something else again. Certainly a man who marries a poor widow with children gives an almost superhuman proof of love and gener- osity and nobility of character. For well he knows that the balance of his life must be spent in slaving for them and that he must continually deny himself in order that they may be fed and clothed and educated and started in the world. But sometimes, vyou know, the bread we cast upon the waters does come back in angel food, and it may be that these step-children that you cherished in their infancy will be your prop and stay in your old agt. At any rate, let us hope so. DOROTHY DIX. (Copyright. 1935.) Ugly Mantel | Made Thing | Of Beauty * BY FLORENCE LA GANKE. IT WAS while Nancy was visiting at Jane's home that she learned a few things which could be done with mantels. In the house where Jane and her husband hed moved there was an old-time fireplace. The fire- place itself was of big, ugly red bricks. ‘The mantel and frame was of cheap | wood, stained a rather vivid red. It| was supposed to be cherry stain. | The mirror was held in place by Jane said that she studied the room | for hours before she finally decided how best it could be renovized. Then she took her courage in her hands and brought in a workman. He seemed aghast at her demands, but later admitted she was smarter than he thought. frame and mirror ebove the mantel. | He said that it would deface the wall and make new plastering necessary, but they found that no additional plastering would be needed. They were having the room repapered eny- way, so the uncovered places could easily be covered with paper. ‘Then they got some white paint and painted the bricks white. It re- quired a number of coats of paint. At the time they were painting the bricks they painted the wood frame of the fireplace. This made it blend in with the bricks so that there was no longer a demarcation between the woodwork and bricks. They painted the metal strip which framed in the fireplace opening as well. The rest | of the woodwork was painted, too, but that would not have been necessary, really. The mirror was not put back. That found itself hanging on a door upstairs and becoming a full-length mirror for dress inspection. In place of the mirror a picture was put on the chimney breast. The same White | pottery bowls that had held artificial flowers under the old regime now found themselves holding plants of growing ivy that showed most effec- tively in their greenness against the creamy white woodwork and brick. The carpenter built in a bookcase and a cupboard with doors for holding | games. The whole cost was nomina considering the enormous change for | the better that was made. | My Neighbor Says: Growing peonies need lots of water. Give each plant a whole bucketful of water every 10 days during the dry season. ‘When making cinnamon toast cut bananas in thin slices, ar- range on toast, sprinkle with su- gar and cinnamon and brown un- der the broiler. If cherries or berries ar2 rolled in flour before putting them into the pie crust the juices will be thickened and will not run out. A paste made of dry starch and water brushed over a grease spot and allowed to dry on will remove spot if not of ‘too long standing. (Copyright 1935.) | First she had him take down the | | the sauce is smooth. The Old Gardener Say Guinea gold marigold is one of the annual flowers which should have a place in the garden of every amateur who likes bright colors. This annual is true to its name in color and blooms with the greatest freedom. Seeds can be sown in the open ground as soon as the soil is warm and the young plants may be moved about at will. These plants may be used to fill vacant spots in the border if desired, but look much better when grown in beds. Mod- erately rich ground will be satis- factory, but a sunny location is desirable. The seeds may cost & trifie more than those of ordinary marigolds, but they are well | | worth the difference. (Copyright. 1935.) Veal’s Good Points Are Numerous BY EDITH M. BARBER. THERE are few seasonable foods to- day. Almost every food ean be | obtained all the year around in large | cities. Veal, however, is most plenti- ful and therefore at its lowest price in the Spring. There is no better meat than veal of high quality which has fine-grained, soft flesh with small bones. It should be rather pinkish in shade with a thin covering of fat, which also has & slight pink tinge. It comes from an animal not over three months old, but | not younger than three weeks. In the framing of wood. | | general, veal today is consistent in quality, as Government supervision does not allow the poor quality which once flooded the market to be sold. Years ago veal had rather a bad name and was supposed to be indigestible, Actually good veal, well cooked, is as casily digested as any other meat. Wiener Schnitzel. Cut veal steak, ¢ inch thick, into pieces for serving. Dip in egg and crumbs and fry in butter on both sides until browned. Add s little water and finish cooking covered, bout 30 minutes. Sprinkle with lem« "l on juice, garnish with sliced lemon, capers, sardellon and a fried egg. Blanquette De Veau. (Lemon Stew.) Cut three pounds of breast and shoulder of veal into pieces and put into & heavy saucepan with two or three slices of onion, two sliced ear- rots and one clove of garlic and one tablespoon of minced parsley. Sprin- kle with salt and pepper and add two cups of cold water. Cover and sim- mer over a low fire for an hour and a half, Melt two tablespoons of but- | ter, stir in some of flour and add to the meat, stirring over the fire until Remove the meat from the sauce; heat platter. | Then beat two egg yolks with the juice |of & half lemon. Add a little of the hot sauce and stir this mixture into the saucepan and continue stirring until thick and smooth. If the sauce is too thick add a little more water and pour sauce over the meat. LpogTahs. L8b.)