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to Keep Your Husband — all she has, except her children, to Listed by Sarah Warder Mac- “"rhere are other feminists tesides 1. Gontelf, Authoress;<W HO snaten tine dnecbainiee woes Tells You Just How and man's “emotional adhesi ess." Not bd When to Employ Them ~ Most Effectively. feeling. in the least inclined to argue the point myself, I drew her on to a discussion of the copyrighted Ameri- can methods of husband-keeping, as Miss MacConnell's heroine in “One’* practices, or observes, or disdains ‘ them. Miss MacConnell herself ts By Marguerite Dean. far from setting the seal of her ap- Oopyright, 1022 (New vork venting World) proval on all of this conjural “dandy on 4 AE Une COP UN: dozen."’ We spoke first of the “dry OW can a woman keop her hus- dock for wives,” as she has so aptly fe bana? named the beauty oarlor, to which any @ wo esorts in the effort There are twelve separate Many @ woman resorts otal husband's affection, 6nd distinct methous in popular use °° TCtRN Her huasanie altccton THE BEAUTY PARLOR. “The beauty parlor method of hus- nd-keeping,"’ observed t'1e novelist, valuable for the momentary sub- jective effect—and as {mpormanent as a permanent wave. “The sense of being charming is al- ways an asset in the conquest of the nan h whether it come by way vf beauty parlors or as an act of jod, It is an auspicious prejude, that conviction, for good hard work; those who haunt the parlors are apt to think of it as an end in Itself. TEARS AND REPROACHES, ‘Method No. 2—Tears and re- proaches? That technique is as much out of date as the district visitor's distribution of red flannel and soup to the poor, as unscientific—and, like all life nowadays, matrimony :s both art and science. ‘Tears and reproaches are naturally met by the slam of the door, the slam symbolic and the slam concrete. A reproach is only a weak creature's form of demand, and it is true, though ne enwich Village means it, that love is a gift and not a in America, according to Sarah Warder MacConnell, author of ‘One,"" the year's brilliant and trating novel of American marriage And here are the twelve favorite fem- inine formulae 1. The beauty parlor—‘dry dock for wives.”" 2. Tears and reproaches. 3. Making him jealous. 4. Being his chum. 5. Helping him with his work. 6. Not telling him the truth, and not making scenes. ~7..Not letting him know he’s master. 8. Playing tyrant yourself. 9. Shirking and calling on the gods for miracles. 10. Giving him infinite variety. 11, Keeping him guessing. 12. Sticking to it. most pene- Which method do YOU use? How claim do you keep YOUR husband? (Or MAKING HIM JEALOUS, aew't'dour) “Making your husband jealous is a double edged weapon. It may be used Once I conducted a discussion in sa Husband's Warn- But it is a is instrument way, ¢ 2 road directio: e Who can use onee in the columns of 7 Evening We ping a hu the problem of ke withont ema USAR Sarin tit enter aos cutting a wrong nerve, like a ert surgeon indignant 1c I received—the g : eee BEING HIS CHUM. of it was this F husband's chum is matrimony on the American plan— love! 1 an agreeable association in moments of relaxation und pleasure and a bow- a} ing acquaintance in all serious mat- skal ters of life. In marriage, the French Therefore, combine material resources, the Eng- many women « put in faithful craftsmanship and ‘Being your “lL SHOULD keeping my expect HIM to study how to keep WORRY husband's about aving in mind this pe =. WHICH OF THE TWELVE FAVORITE FEMIN:NE FORMULAS DO YOU USE? of this masculine type, in compari- son with the spiritual vampire-wife who intrudes upon his work, As a natural eesult the woman then comes to look upon his occupation with hos- tility, as her rival and as an Insidious form of infidelity,"’ The hopeless, but faithful, ma line adorer of the heroine of gives her the folowing ‘dvice managing husbands: TELLING HIM FIBS. “Don't tell ‘em the truth; don't you do it. It wrecks homes; a man’s con- stitution n't stand it ome wome rub a man’s nose in the truth; It doesn't teach him anything except to fool the rubber. Don't you go telling any kind of truth, raw truth, not in matrimony. Never make an tssue, either. Women like ‘em, men run whenever they can see one con ing; it’s too much trouble picking up the pieces after the show is over.” The first of this, especially, contrary to the usual bromid ut “perfect confidence between husband and wife” that I asked Missy MacCon- nell to explain how to keep a hus- band by NOT telling him the truth. “The use of candor by the unskilled another edged tool," she declared “It seems to me that candor is the iceal of every great relationship, but so far the marriage relationship has not developed to its full stature and we are perhaps not ready for its use. Of course, too, there is wide differ- ence between honesty of and nagging, unpalatable domestic truths, with their sordid ill breeding. NOT MAKING SCENES. “As for making issues, or scenes, they are the refuge of the incompe- tent. You can never be sure the tain will drop at the right moment and the aver male has a sound dislike for household dramatics as un- skilful, expensive and contrary to the fine art of living." PLAYING TYRANT. Concerning the effect of the diz rically opposite domestic tactics of letting the man know he's master and of playing tyrant one’s self, Miss MacConnell had this to say The consciousness of always bad. There is no further stim ulation to conqu and a tyrant lurks in all of us. No man can stand it. Probably few wives can afford to let their men know how much they care for them The effect is often as disastrous as that contrary method of clipping the wings of their vanity One" about soul cur- mastery is “The woman may perhaps play tyrant—never be one, ne over- whelm her mate's personality, nor dictate to him. There is such a thing as an occasional feminine caprice, ot deft perversity, but it must be at once spontaneous and the accomplish- ment of an artist, a fine occasional opportunity for the perve imp somewhere concealed in all of 1 SHIRKING, “Shirking as a method of managing marriage is useless and doomed—tc tunately for the dignity of all of us! The feet of the shirker are set upon the path of the divorce court, unless r luck is better than deperts, The only mirdele is that which comes from valid spiritual pow t is ne this we call upon for blind de liverance. GIVING HIM VARIETY “And Cleopatra's way of keeping husbands—other women’s husbands?” I suggested. “Why shouldn't we use ‘infinite variety’ in own?!" “First, you must truly keeping our possess it,"* cautioned Miss MacConnell. “Infi- nite variety means using all of your- self; for her own sake « woman must attain flexibility and temperamental richness, and alas! many of us sound like a tune played over and over with one finger on the parlor melodeon. A woman ought to be more versatile in inventing fresh forms of love- making, for the pructice of love de- mands invention like any other art, while the average woman lets her devices become as stereotyped as a form letter. “The parable of the ten t alents is of view, my first question when I saw cial discipline, but eee pe eS 1s oe tall, graceful, blue-eyed Miss Mac- ann Blorify comradeship 19) ony, : : ’ canta i. rest, HmUSeMeNt ° | Bonnell at the Civic Club, No. 14 West “s:4ng one result of this," I inter- | KEEPING HIM GUESSING. h Street, was simply this: “Do yer “is the woman who prides soe think keeping her husband's love herself on the fact that her husband 4...) yates SRE Se TAD Rus : s is an excellent w is re never brings his business into his py avery mie ado Sage pene Who knows that he is going to ‘Mterest and love—but uid, a lo, indeed,” replied Miss Mac- 1 °i0'q «pooch somewhere, but doesn't & Woman must have t ment v4 Connell, steadfastly, ‘And I think Know the subject of it or the oc- She must develop her erests In her ot pit's ® Job on which we American casion, who has absolutely no intelli- Personality to such an extent that she 2s, [Women aro falling down horribly, The Sent conception of the hardness of his “Cine nomelt 5 tyou believe 4 work, or its importance, or its tech- ut I have an idea tat you believe 1c ehigf reason is that we don’t realize yi) And then she wonders why the real secret of keeping a husband's ts. the work cut out for us; we think je—or some other business man—has !ove is everlastingly keeping on the lage succeeds automatically and an affair with his intelligent private a0h, sticking to it, never letting ay F only policy is that of drift. Com- seeretary, who ts a working partner, Meret can ripe MEP SS t bi with this laisees faire attitude 1 think it's no real marringe when a MacConnell. ‘For tha 8 conclu 4 ined le Pabekey idee * wonian Is divorced from her husband's Sion to which Aletlic ap WAGs . on the part of American women is the work.” comes,” even greater naivete of American HELPING HIM WORK, STICKING TOIT d Imen—their childlike ignorance of the him with it is a splendid + ‘Yes, a wife must stick to it as a ° neoessity for managing any human ot the possibilities of true painter sticks to his canvas, with a 1 relationship deftly, intelligently, pa- greed Miss MacConnell, vision clear for result t oun a4 “but in this the initiative must be the achieved and infinite power for the . hg eee igo man's, On the other hand, I should drudgery that is pari of ail succe ~ jut the greater responsibility rests 0) that a woman really succeeds as she declared, earnestly Maki nq lon women, because they are the na- qa wife if she makes the man eager success of love and iar ‘ . tural custodians of all such relation- for collaboration art of life, for wives. I the w : eta 4 “It is usually lence a man they have chosen hips. Also, the greater suffering is “It is usually an aud’ hey have chosen eee One peeled astra . ® wants, not a collaborator; a working their failure is the worst sort, becauss ithe woman's, because a eneeds her jortnership, perhaps, but net a part- it includes others. Ihusband’s love more than he needs nership in work. After he builds his “You've always got to work to k hers. She is made that way. No pridge or cathedral, or writes his phil- your garden weeded, You've alw | ter how independent economically osophy, then he wants woman at a got to fight magnificently for love ne-| BOF Professionally, she remains emo- gort of special matineo—a creature your days end, putting into that at jonally the dependent sex. She is with enough intelligence to admir: struggle all you know or can learn of he emotionally adiiesive,’ to quote a and applaud but not to interrupt, In spiritual magnificence — imaxination, ronderful phiase of H. G, Wells's. (ear of interruption, whicl sometimes skill, wit, humor, steadfastness by'y Wpshe is the everlastingly detached rib jecomes a clutch, the average man artistry, And it IS w i \ f mah, never satisfied with that de- flees t yman who would be Hus- only because a successfu ge | £ chment, always trying to be re- band’s Helper, as he would flee an the best expedient the wor wat ted; trying to be ‘One,’ while for octopus. It makes him feel trammelled found for overcoming \ and spaces man gets along very and enslaved; the obvious vamp, tho universal tragedy—the loncliness of icely as he is. Poor as he is, he’ siren, 1s @ harmless dove in the eyes the human soul.’’ \ \ SATURDAY, AUGUST 12, Can You Beat It! WAIT TILL | | MY MIMD LLL GO WITH You WHERE |S THE FLA PPER WHO 1 CAN'T Go FOR A WALK EF JOHN | AN Too aaaue TRAMP / Hiss ( FLAPPER DRESS JOHN VE CHANGED ALONE — ARY At 1 Of those he For youth's pain is swift over and tears quickly dried. merriment only added salt to his wounds. And tt It mocked him One there we Who wound He clasped lev He had seen ¢ Tenderly ear And he ret (Ne . meagre board the To keep body and soul together loved. And with a sigh he The news of ¢ Almost instant I i workworn, a man golden haired, her arms around his neck close, but for a moment For his thoughts went back to one like her ‘ly as he returned home. i for—the child born with a golden spoon in her mouth, aiden spron that fed and fed even until old age wlled and wondered why it was always thus That he could not have riches and the wherewithal To give to these he loved, e day. his eyes fell on a thing most sorrowful, Golden Spoon | By S phie Irene Loeb \ w York Evening W > by Press Publishing Company Copyright, returned from the labors of the da was scarce enough THE LOST RING. OVE, romance and the joy of liv- And she who had shared all the poverty, ie And had borne the burden of motherhood, And five times went down into the Valley of the Shadows— She sighed. The morrow looked more dreary And the future spread out bleak and bare The sordid things that were hers, ‘The days were varied but Little. And despair was in his heart—this toiler, Unable to rise above the weight of things mundane. He sat there by the evening lamp Full of pathos and gloom. Soon the little ones played mirthfully about him, ing died in the heart of Sally Peters when she realized sho had lost Billings'’s engagement rin. It was a large solitaire diamond and worth hundreds of dollars, she knew Then too, the fact that {t had belonged to his first wife made the loss seem all the more tragic. “Come, come, we'll find it,’ urged Croton, as they ran to the spring to- wether and plunged their hands in the water. ‘You see, it isn't deep here and the chances are we'll find it.” But Sally was not so optimistic, and she knew by Croton’s pallor that he too was sorely distressed. For over an hour they searched in vain, going from the spring back to where the carriage stood, but there was no trace of the lost ring. “It is simply fate. You'll be in hot water all the rest of your life,” sud- denly declared Croton as he jumped into the carriage and held out his hand to help her in. ‘Sally, every- thing 18 against you If you middle-aged old widower.’ turned to the evening's printed page— marry that A tragedy The child with the golden spoon was no more, But Sally was so involved in her A terrible eecident it was, and those bereft were laid low indeed cwn thoughts that she did not heed For she was the only one. Croton’s prediction. ‘'I don't car And “How Yet he piew And he That ded And that as Ic T called her of the golden curls to And hugged he ich Lam ere is hope for better things r close 1 He is good to have spared “Por me to heid in my arms." ured the And knew that all the golden spoons in the Could not make up for the pangs that mu enyied ro more, for he realized th krows no discrimination of rich and poor, he suddenly exclaimed, “1 didn’t want to marry him, anyway; but I'll pay him back for that ring if 1 never live to do another thing “How? and eried to himse you pain of that other father, world t be his, “I'll go back to work and save and save until I have the price of a # 3 there is life taire as large as that,’ she replied { don't care if it takes six months Cc Copyright, 1 a | during your Answers to Queries From Housewives —The condensed milk 1s perfectly safe and | would strongly advi sure your milk supply camping vacation, be sure to select a This will do nicely for all culinary 8 and you can take a chance ©n securing fresh milk to be used For camping purpos purpo a beverage. (New York Evening World) arenes | hard work, I'll do it." tow romantic,” chuckled Cro on ake a vacation, becor to a so-called millionaire enga while enga wecept brook By Emilie Hoffman————_______/ by Press Publishing Company the cooking oil is preferable to lard and | think you will soon overcome your prejudice, Strain it through a piece of cheesecloth each time and it can be used repeatedly, ement ring, lose it in the caring for another ¢ p, KO back to work and save enough 1 to buy the millionaire anott heretel-l-ten-g!" Well, that is exactly girl T am.” you to in- in this way but reliable brand. Novice''==1 should judge the con dition of your sherbet is due to lack of sugar, The amount of sugar is “But you haven't heard about the quite important in making sherbete, type of man I am,” announce ( If too much ie used the mixture does ‘on, “wait until you hear my piar not freeze well, tive 1 told you I had an offer of > Sally’s Summer By Caroline Crawford 1922 (New York Evening World) by Press Publishing Company. COME WITH YOu TAKE YOUR WALK Does a Girl Ever Marry Her Summer Beau? thousand a year. That's a large amount of money for a chap just starting, and I'm proud of it. I asked you to elope with me, and just when I should have had my answer and was trying to get you to give up this old widower that tree limb fell and I was temporarily injured, “As I look at It now it all seems quite a matter of fate,’’ continued Croton, ‘You tmmediately did all you could to stanch the blood on my fore- head, and in doing this you lost your precious old engagement ring in the spring. Now, let that ring go. [ll get you a new one to repay the miser- ly millionaire and we'll start marriage with a plain, gold band. T can get tho solitaire with @ good first payment and pay for the rest on the instal- ment plan Sally was too a azed by Croton's generous offer to speak. Not only had her heart been touched but she was thinking of the love which had sud- denly been awakened tn her as she bandaged and smoothed this stalwart young man's head. This new love was not only a girlish fascination but a maternal, deep feeling which she had never before expertenced. “I can't let you do all this for me,"* she finally said, ‘Why should you be forced to buy a new ring for Billings because I was careless enough to lose his?’ “Ror two reasons,'’’ said Croton. “First because I love you and second because you lost that ring while you were doing something for me." “Idut it was something which made happy and taught me the lov me very value of rather than money," suddenly lied Sally as she slipped her hand into his # Billings do his — worst,’ laughed Croton as he bent over and kissed her. To-Morrow—Another Complication. MILESTONES on the Road to Health and Beauty New Series of Articles By DORIS DOSCHER Begins on This Page NEXT MONDAY . with your fat friend, THE JARR FAMILY ee. Roy L. McCardell Copyright, 1922 (New York Evening World) by Press Pubitshing Company. HB® weather has been so cool I don’t see why we can't give a party for the Cackleberry and then maybe they will go home before the summer is over 80 I can get a chance to have a rest and vacation myseif,"’ whimpered Mrs, Jarr. “Why give a dance? asked Mr Jarr. “Why go to all that bother and expense? If you want to get rid of the Cackleberry girls, why don't you tell them to go home to Philadelphia as we want to take a vacation and go away?" “Because I don't want to make them mad at me. Their mother ha come in to some money and is think- ing of buying a cottage at Atlantic City, and that would be a nice place for me to visit and take the children. If I sent the girls away mad at me I'd never get invited to their summer cottage at the seashore—of course, they haven't got it yet and maybe they never will, because their step father, that loathsome bully, Bernard Blodger, gets all his wife's money. Besides, I want some enjoyment myself, so why shouldn't I give a dance?"’ “But everybody id Mr. Jarr. ‘Everybody is coming back to town,"’ replied Mrs. Jarr. it's been such a rainy summer that the resorts are deserted. Mrs. Stryver and Clara Mudridge-Smith would be glad to run in from their country estates, too, be- cause at my parties I always have young people."* “What do those two dames care for young people? The Cackleberry girls won't interest Mrs. Stryver or Clara Mudridge-Smith,”’ said Mr. Jarr. “[ didn't say they would, but Mrs Stryver and Clara Mudridge-Smith love to dance with young men, and Jack Silver was always crushed on Clara'*— “But Mrs. Stryver," interjected Mr. Jarr, “that fat old dame, surely she isn't after the cake-eaters?"’ “She likes to dance with young men, and if she ts stout she fs danc ing to reduce,” said Mrs. Jarr indig: nantly. “As for cake-eaters, as you call them, I suppose you mean young fellows in their teens? Well, Jack Silver {s no chicken, he must be near forty, if he’s a day. He was a bachelor friend of yours and he's selfish, conceited thing, or he woubl have been married and have a family of grown children by this time. As tor Doctor Gilbert Gumm, he must be over thirty. And Herbert Tynetoyl: he's twenty-seven, and Ralph williger has been a professional col- lege boy and cheer leader at football games f ten years to my knowledge.” “Oh, very well,” said Mr, Jarr re- signedly, “if the Soclety for Preven tion of Cruelty to Children cannot act in their behalf, 1 don't care how many collars they wilt or how oft their clothes are tramped on dancing Mrs. Stryver and if you want a party, why, have a party, but I don’t know where T can get any booze for \t at prices within is out of town," ere won't be any booze, as you call it," said Mrs. Jarr severely. “I may make a bow! of grape juice punch, which, if it Is good enough for William J. Bryan, who has had his hair cut, I see by the papers, al- though he was getting so bald that it was all falling out—why, it's good enough for me.” “Who else will be at the party?” asked Mr, Jarr resignedly. “Why, Cora Hickett and Maud ‘Terwilliger, and I suppose we have tu ask Mrs. Rangle and Imogene Rat ferty, and my mother is fond of dancing, and she wants to come." “If W's going to be an old folks party, for, according to what you say Jack Silver and Doctor Gilbert Gumm are eligible for the Home of the Aged, too, why don’t you send invitations to Uncle Henry and Aunt Hetty? [ suppose you will be saying that they are expert dancers, too?’ “Certainly they are!" replied Mrs. Jarr. ‘Uncle Henry bought a fif- teen dollar phonograph on instal- ments and {s always writing me to send him records of the latest dances But I am not going to invite them, they'll te as hard to get rid of, if they come visiting from the farm, as it Is to get the Cackleberry girls to go home to Philadelphia.” a BIBLE QUESTIONS And Answers QUESTIONS. 1, Who were pre figuration of Christ? 2. Which one of His twelve disci- les did Christ refer to when He said: ‘And one of you is a devil?’ 3. Whom did King Ahasuerus pro- mote above all the other Princes that were with him? 4. What is the Ninth Command- ment? 5. What verse in the Bible con- tains all the letters in the alphabet but one? nt at the trans- ANSWERS. 1, Peter, James and John were at the transfiguration of Christ. 2. Christ referred to Judas Iscariot when He said: ‘And one of you is a devil."" 3. King Ahasuerus placed Haman the Agagite above all the other Princes that were with him. 4. Ninth Commandment: “Thou shalt not bear false witness against thy neighbor 5. The verse of the Book of Ezra vil., 21, contains all the letters in the alphabet but one. > Ce i ED Neh Re ee ee A ee i ‘ | | eae ee Ra ae