The San Francisco Call. Newspaper, August 9, 1903, Page 13

e s Bee me she might have of the year but g tew tramp would at a more ss, more to pace a her in the break- om, one &t a time and sleepy-eyed, treated ther wait, ter to fallen urned steak commenced fas e is as true as > are looking for trou- s meet you half way, and ped down with one eye on 1 the other making wrathful ace e foot of the table is about as ce a trouble brewer as one would Be time to all your meals. d never deviate from it Ehte Because your hostess = nty tray and insists that ‘ T t ble, don’t take her at her . a on good nature. She part hat she says, but trans- Jlooded fashion it signifies as much trouble to carry s it is to keep the kitchen room in disorder half the g For this is exactly what a 10 K tr . Many a hostess has £ ng prepared a tempt- ered it in person to t of a good maid. king « maids reminds me. They a human, and when the work has cen delayed trebled and deranged they r 1 their wrath and depart t haunts. If a guest will but re- ember to present her with a pretty rib- eit or any of the thousand L at women admire she can g path to the very heart of Ve A 7MY SET TO York Xoalr— resit gings scattcred ¢, regard.ess of the fact are no other hats lying a here, tk and everywhere, but are put where they belong The best cure for such a girl is the bar- rel system. 1 know of one woman who bad four lively girls spending sev weeks at her summer villa and who nev dered her home or Ler feelings the slightest. When the bell rang th would rush about, make sundry snatches and literally fall over each other in their wild haste to escape without being caught At first this animated scramble was considered in the light of a good joke, but when it occurred every day and sev- eral times a day it lost its ginger and was speedily reduced to the ranks of the com- monplace. Finally the climax was reac ed when the most correct and dignified in the land was properly scandalized & slipper that had been lost in the cl stare her In the face all during her call. All this in the drawing-room. That settled matters. The offenders were assembled in a body and duly given that all lost articles would promptly be relegated to a barrel in the torehouse. For the next few days every me any one wanted to dress somebody as delegated to pay their respects head first to that cateh-all, and it was surpris- ing how soon they gathered their wits about m and made the acquaintance of the boxes, closets and drawers. It makes a decided difference, you know, who cares for your belongings. If it chances to be you the memory is quickened and the hands seem infinitely more willing. The careless girl never stops to think. As a rule she is having such Joyous time that her mind is brim full of gayety. Don't be that girl. If you pick up a banjo and knock over a basket of pic- tures at one and the same time, think that your hostess may come into the room to have a little chat and that the very first thing she will do will be to carefully gather the pictures and right the basket. Don’t wait until she is down on her knees and then contritely say, “I meant to do it in a minute.” Oh, those minutes cause S0 much trouble. Now and then take time by the forelock and surprise yourself and everybody else by using them at an apro- pos time This thoughtless girl, for carelessness and thoughtlessness ‘are one and the same thing, never dreams that even in the best regulated familles there are mo- ments when they would like to be alone. 7z 7, =77 ZOorsry "E RO ocz oy No matter how good a friend yu may de there are bound to be annoyances and it is best to keep them secret. Hie your- self off into the privacy of your boudoir once in a while on the plea of writing letters, for certainly you must tell your folks what a rattling good time you are having, and select the opportunity to do it when the entire family has assembled for a few minutes. Rest assured If they want you they will have no hesitancy about calling, for they are quite as well aware of the fact that the majority of THEZYE THE S1ND\Y CALL. letters will keep as you are. A little del- icacy In this respect often makes a mark- ed difference in the cordiality of your hostess, for she appreciates your thought- fulness and values it accordingly. It is almost pathetic at times to watch the maneuverings of a husband and wife trying to get a word in edgewise without a third party listening. Not even in the seclusion of their own room are they free and they are denied the privilege of a little walk because it would never do to be so rude, and in their own home, too. Far better, say I, to take to the tall timber entirely and stay there until your guest studies the code of common polite- ness. In every home there are plenty of odds and ends that always require attention. Wee things, to be sure, but if a button Is off it must be replaced with another, and while it takes but a minute a number of such trifles means much to the busy housewife, who more likely than not is planning what .o do next to please her friend. When you have a few spare min- utes take the trouble to inquire if there is any mending to be done, and when doing it make'it appear as though it was a gen- uine pleasure by being cheerful and bright. Sho! g excursions are very apt to be a terri! bore, especially if You are but an onlooker, but you know from expe- rience that a gown must be the exact col- or and material or it won’t do at all. Get it out of your head in a hurry that your friend fancles what pleases you and re- member that she is purchasing with a view of decorating herseif and be wise accordingly. Of course, you can say what you like and what you dislike and make all the suggestions that you deem best, but it won't take you very long to dis- cover the lay of the land and then use a bit of diplomacy and keep eloquently silent. ¥ It has always seemed a trifle strange that visitors expect to go scot free as far as expenses are concerned. By some manner of means it has come to be the custom that every cent of miladl's ex- penses shall be defrayed by the hostess and very willing and glad is she to bear them, excepting when you stay for months at a time, and then it is not only right, but it may become a positive drain unless there is a well-filled purse always at hand ready to be dipped into. The woman who is the most popular plans now and then to return a surorise by coming home with theater tickets for all, or by discovering a quaint restaurant that simply must be investigated as her treat, or again she picks up a bit of cloth at a bargaln counter and tenders it as such. These courtesies are not expensive from a money point of view, and consid- ering that your actual liying is not costing you a sou, it is mighty cheap. One of the lightest and easiest methods is to invest in some early fruit that is a tempting lux- ury or to remember that flowers are al- ways suftable and pretty to have about. If you will try this scheme you will find that you will be repaid tenfold. There are a thousand and one ways in which you ean give your hostess to un- derstand that you are interested in her home and her family. I know one girl who arrives just as her friend was In the depth of putting up fruit. What do you think she did? Sit down and watch the 13 process from & distance? Not sha. Up went her sleeves as soon as her hat and coat were off and she peeled peaches with a 11, making light of the disagreeabls work until the task was finished in half the time to the tune of laughter and jok- ing. That little girl is welcome at any time and any hour. By showing her will- ingness and eagerness to do all she could and so make the best of an awkward sit- uation, she won the eternal gratitude of the entire family. Instead of being a hopeless hindrance she proved herself a genuine help and her ready smile and sunny presence brighten every home that it pleases her to enter. Of course it is not expected that a guest shall be burdened with any amount of labor. As a rule that is precisely the reason why people travel about from one place to another. They want a rest and & change and it most certalnly is not & rest to pitch in and do more work at a friend’s In a day than you would do in a week at home. It is not the actual task but the spirit that prompts the offer- ing that is appreciated. One of the most unfortunate mistakes that a guest can make is to go to the theater without a latch key. It lsn't quite as bad If she thinks to ring up at 11 or so and ask that it be put im the milk pail or under the door mat, but to wait until nearly 1 o'clock and then saunter in perfectly unconcerned is about the limit. It shows plainly what such a girl can ba thinking of, for selfishness is written in capital letters all over her. It is a very simple and & very easy thing to forget a key, especially if you are not in the habit of carrying o but that any one could so far forget herself as to deliberately enjoy an after theater supper when she knows full well that in all probability some one is waiting for her is beyond all understanding. It doesn't seem to enter her head that it is not the most enjoyable thing in the worid to be robbed of one's sleep or to be waked ln the midst of it either for that matter. The first cousin of the night hawk Is the flend who sings and plays the piano when all ible people are Ia the of Nod, or rather inwardly swear tearing their halr because they are & there. The business man with his count- less worries needs his rest and it is noth- ing more or less than a beastly shame for him to be depri: of it night after night and in such a heartl way. Tact will almost carry you aroun globe, but it never should be exercised to such an extent as when you are one of a small family. The very narrowness of your confinement calls for every bit of adroitness and knack tbat you possess. 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