The San Francisco Call. Newspaper, April 19, 1903, Page 13

THE SUNDAY CALL. 13 . CQLONEL FATE FAPERY/ [ — as over the ¥ Bvery young ones ¥ child learns is to get 1 what on f & parent opinfonate eversy her hearing 1 think. <o, * aracter epitome is an unm found. dren ch asons for every cor- d be taught that the ver ng & request is & long-wind that correctinga which ated by a | nalds who have presumably never en except theoretically nds almost imper ave wrest 4 with & hov assortment e first lesson mischief, and the other wil = request d final 1 mo 1 wherefor: dwn hom the hoste girl fre elega of se the verge rk ms she re n or & woman e dead hunt and f I can han all “Why »?” and fur Between onounced 1. e by tstered Wiy to FROrOsS 23" (S TANFOFD S70270 ed * as her query to every One of the matrons p.€s- nagnificant record , & wom. and litera seemed to be the eeding. The lady the bombardment of was n social of the girl's 1l let under showed plainly that able that least were cqually at than is more a dozen of the guests in- the absolute 1g governing good rance a called her delightfuily origi- opinion was hardly sharzd or a woman either who argues fling incident is the most trying on possibie Ver Thare is something almost demoniacal about the few people can argue coolly. interchange posite views that tends ) ruffie the m ble disposition in ami world argument that begins by being pood tured and pleasant soon becomes earn- later it grows animated and tells on waxes louder and louder are decidedly warm, later hot, angry passions rise, that in the diverces and that lead to estrangements; murders have been directly tracea- arguments begun in all good na- d ending in that bitterness of spirit at only blood will satisfy. The husband and wife who begin mar- ried life with an argument are sure to end in a legal tangle. Defense of one’s opinion has a bad ef- on human tempers, which few are Men and women who have been are estranged by the I re fect for years ge of opinions and the most in- significant of trifles the basis wordy wrangles that end in so much are often of feeling. married people it is always little thing that does rot amount to a picayune that leads to the angry argument, when neither will give in, and the mischief is brewed which is so absolutely unnecessary. A large percentage of divorces might be directly traced to arguments arising from such silly things as to be practically rd, here is an old couple living near the picturesque Harpers Ferry who have not poken for twenty vears as the result of a nonsensical argument about the setting of some hens. Previous to that time they bad been considered marvels of conjugal bliss, but that argument settled it. Botn have grown old and gray, but although lving in the same house no word has passed between them. Neighbors have from time to time. tried to bridge the breach, but all to no purpose, as neither will speak first, and so the years roll on. But 1 think that if either were to die the a- Dbitterness some foolish abs ry sh nt of other would find it a hard matter wo reconcile a conscience to an absurdity that amounts almost to a crime. Don’t think that you can argue without becoming mad. You cannot. You will be- come angry In spite of yourself, and even if you do not get angry you will make yourself intensely disagreeable. We are all entitled to the full range of individual opinion, but that does not pre- suppose that we must try to forcibly pros- clyte others. To argue does no good. Let each ore entertain his own views and not try to convert people. If you have the arguing habit listen to others who haggle and contradict, and see if you are not suf- ficlently disgusted to decline following in the wake. Even when getting the best of a discus- sion there is preclous little glory in gain- ing a point in a matter that really amounts to so little. . It is a safe plan when others seek to engage you In an argument to simply iet the matter drop. You can easily do so by soying good-naturedly, “Well, you have your opinion and I have mine; as nelther hae a cash value I guess I'll keep my own.” This will avoid the argument that might otherwise prove the death knell of a friendship that has been cherished for vears. For young people to contradiet or to presume to argue with those older than themselves is not a proof of superior dis- cernment, but is prima facle evidence of that lack of good breeding that Is a WEZ L 'YVorr zndys Yor® oo 7 IND 7 FAAVE LT P young gNTs greatest charm. Then, too, a man never looks pretty when she Is angry and she certainly can- not launch into an argument without get- ting downright l?ld That is just exact- ly the status of ‘the case. Matrimonial arguments are very sure to end In tears, headaches and hysterics for the wife and a few drinks for the hus- band, In the earlier stages and progress i3 never on the retrograde, but gets warmer and warmer wuntil there is a clash and a crash and the domestic peace is broken and both are miserable. When we think of the absurd and even ridiculous trifles that lead to arguments it is almost an insult to one’s common sense that such trifies should influence so terribly one’s life as to lead to broken friendship and even broken hearts, In the very young only contempt can be felt for the one so opinionated as to think she knows it all. It takes a long while to fathom one great mystery of life and that is to realize how little we do know. When very young and verdant we feel sure that we know it alls but when we grow older, if we have the sense to study ourselves, we soon know how little we do know. In any event an argument is the strong- est proof of self-conceit. When we be- come enamored of our own opinions and faney ourselves so well versed on any subject we cannot estimate ourselves with any justice or judgment and have 10t the §ood sensd to hide our ignorance. If we could but see ourselves as others FOSFEFD By MISS he ssomar asho ryues ZILLIAN poITT TLTNA Wimie 3 CcCAX /71?5%_‘5 Ws 2 o GEFTISG 7LAD 7. see us perhaps we would not imagine that we knew so much, or at best we wouud be very sure to keep these opinions to ourselves. ERSY LESSCON N WRIST. BY MRS. E. P. SCHELL. GREAT many whist players seem to have more or less difficulty in discriminating between situations that call for play according to set rule and those that warrant a departyre from the same. There are many that are classed as good players that have not the facuity of discrimination, but jump at con- clusions and thereby wreck the hand. This due to Inability to appreciate e Importance of principles when ounter to one another. Many icinles are so simple that the not felt called upon to explain them, leaving much to the intelli- gence of the player. Neglect to make master eards when the opportunity pre- sents is a e in question. How many times have we heard the declaration af- ter a lost game, “If Blank had made his winners In one or two deals we should have brought home the prize!” Why is it 80 many aces and kings are carried home by expert players even? -Largely because the players go to extremes adhere too closely to another principle that the books lay great stress upon, viz., the keeping command of opponents’ suits. The sound- ness of the Jatter principle is beyond ques- tion in the tentative stage of a deal, but as Beverly W. Smith has well said: ““These cards are valuable for two pur- poses, at least one of which a player should always have In contemplation when holding them up—that is either as cards of re-entry for his own long suit or to block and prevent the bringing in they run of the authorities b ve of a sult of the adversaries, but they are valueless for re-entry when you have nothing to bring in, and useless as block- ers when your partner is playing the strong game and has shown ability prevent the making of adverse suits use of his great trump strength. Th the two most usual cases where sirict adherence to the rule causes loss, are entirely similar so far as affecting results are comncerned In both, the loss is occasioned by the fact that one’s partner is not given an opportunity to discard at a time wh it would be of benefit to him. Hoiding o or more winning cards of an opponent’s suit, of which partner is known to be vold, and with no sure card of re-entry in another suit, you should immediately proceed to make such gooa cards, giving partner as many discards as possible, for under such conditions you cannot hope that either adversary will lead this suit again until absolutely compelled to do so, and in the meantime partner will be led sut of such losing cards as his hand con- tains. If partner has led trumps, upop win- ning the trick and holding no sure re- sntry In another suit you should such winning cards in the opponents’ suit before returning the trump, exercising care not to force partner to overtrump, which might break down his trump hand. It is not unusual to see the averuge player in the last part of a hand reduced to the mortifying necessity of discarding such cards on his partner’s or the adver- sarles’ tricks—cards that should have been made early in the hand. Due care must, of course, be observed to retain cards of re-entry when they will be need- ed to make your partner's suit; in such cases they are of far more importance than merely to win the immediate trick, and should be carefully husbanded. lead During the recent play for the Payot trophy a trick was lost by the holding up of the ace for fear of giving up commana of opponents’ suit. Trumps were with op- ponents. When a low spade instead of a strengthening card was led, and sitting second hand with only ace and king played king, and if the ace had then been led it would have saved the trick and the match. But through fear of givirg up the command led another suit, which fell to second hand and gave the fourth hand a discard of the queen of spades and giving him the opportunity to trump the ace later. North to lead w *Ah sh *Ks 9h 24 4d *Jd Qs *As 55 Kad 1c 3¢ [ 1 Qe *Ke East and West, seven; North and South, six. Trick 1-North leads fourth best of his long plain suit Trick 2—Sou correspondingly shows his partner his best plain suit. Trick uth leads to his partner’s declared t with a supporting card; be- ing weak in trumps he would not be un- willing to ruff a heart should North fail, after his second round, to have secured ccmmand. Trick 4—East cannot lead trumps, as with his suit of them his best chances are by holding up; both hearts and spades have been declared against him and the diamond suit seems his best lead. Trick 5—West conjectures that Bast's lead may be from weakness and, if so . as holding four trumps, hope R e him a ft; he therefore leads his ace of diamonds, knowing that this lead i* soun whether East may have led from either strength or weakness. W wing th follows with another dia- this cannot injure his t it may perchance get & & k Tr mend, partner a ruff from him. Trick 7 h can now do nothing bet- ter than go on with his winning spadess Trick $—South notes that the tem of spades must be with East. Trick $—South gives his partner a safe ruff. Trick 10 —North gives his partner the mest advantageous position he can man- age, by forcing the lead on West. Trick 11—East, would not be justified in finessing jack of clubs to West's low card lead; West would pretty safely have king or queen, as well as nine turned, but not toth king and aueen. Trick 12-West here correctly passes Jjeck led by his partner; he knows the queen is against him, and if he covered jack with his king he must lose the last triek. if South possessed either the queen or ten, as is probable. Trick 13 shows that the queen of clubs was ‘correctly held up by South at last trick; the fall of North's eight of clubs to trick 11 informed South that nothing could be galned by his covering East’s jack of clubs.