The San Francisco Call. Newspaper, January 25, 1903, Page 6

/ S ——— WY/ D . HE only achieve beauty is to cease eeeking it. This may be a great surprise-te women who belleve that by diligent use of so-called material aids to beauty they will in time be lovely as a goddess. The ap- plication of cos- metics, care In of dress, even scientific physical e cannot of themselves produce ity. A woman who belleves that they do so and lebors constantly to make way physical 7 s \4, » 7 4 // O N G F ELLOW says: That 1s best lieth nearest: pe from that thy rk of art, which B We must all take this unto ourselves and make it mean “an Fr us. But San cisco 1s merely is nearest; it fs in very truth _ the most beau tifu city, potentia the world. It already the they are wonderful. No- equaled. Its changi on, the hills with their SN s 17y . Y DEAR CHILD ~I am ehocked, to say the least, to hear that you Lave graduated with honors; the last thing 1 ex- pected from a caughter of nii only the great tngenuity on four part will avert the consequences, In the first place, bear fn mind th s I mean mental to whom attend college for v for the cultivation of not to be ac- v very old women nions, because no- A young woman keep them to herself HEN a woman starts out to re- form her husband she reduces him to a state of mental coma that would make an- gels weep. o giiy When a girl is in love she trips on eir; when she marries she comes down with = dull, cold thud. 8 EW Y e Never belleve all that you hear. You've no doubt heard yourself at some time or other doing a real artistic lying stunt. S The garb never made & saint, but has often proven & coat of mall for a real bypocritical cuss. BE . Love should always be in season full ripe and mature. A forced growth is.fla- vorless B H Women who recklessly rush into print must expect to be mutilated by the press. B9 ik Love feasts on trifies light as alr. o 2 g When we toy with danger we learn to love it. iR God made woman, but God and man t gether made the widow. Some men are meean enough to think that the devil came into the deal with a long sult. R There are some people who actually crave large succulent doses of misery. When a man kisses his wife It is often a rather cold proposition—when he kisses * the other woman he warms up to the sub- Ject. v b When people are in love they will not belleve anything they hear. A little later they believe everything. AA 2 2% THE SUNDAY CALL. \By S wecrrmi 'L rz gizj\, ZZZZcz them accomplish what she longs for s 1 reality shutting out the means of true beauty in her worldly mindedness. Beauty must come from within. As the mind and spirit become lovely, so will the body. This is not a figure of spcech, but a literal fact. It is true that the fece changes in accord with the change of spirit. Features, both in form and in_expression; the voice; the form of the body and its motions, all are con- trolled by the mind within, and can real- Iy be made beautiful or ugly according to the state of that mind. 1 said in the beginning that you must not seek physical beauty if you would have it. So long as you desire it your thoughts are upon worldly things, and you cannot reach the truth. But when you forget your wish for physical beauty and seek only the light, then your mind A > v N VU /e T~ willg become 8o transformed that the boas® will likewise become transformed. The virtues are the real cosmetics. So long as you worry, fear, hate, rage, you cannot be lovely to look upon. You must overcome these faults. Embarrassment and nervousness are weaknesses. Only by gaining spiritual pOwer can you overcome these. 5 The remedy lies in meditation. Take meditation it it were a med- icine. Begin by trying it once a day, for only a few minutes at a time. Find an opportunity to be entirely alone. The eurly morning is a good time, when you are preparing for the day that lies ahead. Sit_erect, the spine held firmly upright, the rest of the body easlly and uncon- sciously relaxed. Fix the eves on some- thing—the tip of the nose, for instance. Cast out all thoughts. Let external things dirappear from your mind. In this state YR N L I N, ’/‘\ W ;,’* I v /) thoughts and .scenes will come of them- selves without your effort or will. ° Polse and calmness are gained In this way. If you have the time, meditate In the same way before sleeping. Then the mind will be in a tranquil state for the night. Thus you have taken the first step in casting out fear, doubt, worry, perplexity, confusion, nervousness—all those timidi- ties that tell In the lines of the face. Soon the lines will begin to disappear of them- selves. Sorrow, too, must be cast out. Culti- vate cheerfulness. Think of cheerful things. To some there is great benefit In cheerful and beautiful surroundings, but not to those who lonk upon them In a worldly way. If you permit their beauty to appeal only to the better nature with- in yourself, then they have served some purpose of uplifting. But if you regard them {n an tive way, having a worldly desire to own them, they will do you only harm. Cease to regret. Look at the present and future. Forget the #ins and mistakes of the past. Dwelling upon them will only lead you to commit them again. Think of yourself as good and powerful, and you will become so. Charity and sympathy toward all man- kind will cause beautiful lines and ex- pressions to come into your face. Cour- age will make the body more graceful, for it will lose timid and cringing mo- tions. Happy thoughts will shine in the face. American women are very far advanced In all ways, and have already acquired much of goodness and strength. The fine education which is afforded them by many schools and colleges means much to their development. Spiritual growth is > 7 N AN N 7 NS A N 7 7 % ? S - < R Y ¢/ Dy 711r- Lorell WiI~ife many tints sloping away beyond it, form a picture such as man could never paint. Given such a picture, ret us cherish It. If the painting of a great master were given to you, would you be satisfied to frame It in a dingy frame apd hang it in an obscure spot? No; you would want it to be seen, and that uncer the best cir- cumstances, in the best environment. Let us do as much for our great plc- ture painted by the greatest master of here are such countless points coming to mind when one tries to enumerate the ways In which this city could be made more beautiful that it is discouraging. Looked at all together, they are almost appalling. One feels like throwing up his hands and crying “Impossible!” But taken one by one, patlently, persevering- ly, the reforms can be accomplished and i’/ U >, A/ S until she grows old encugh to see thelr absurdity. There is one fdea natural to every/wo- man—man. If she finds herself drifting away from this subject of thought, she must come to the conclusion that’some- thing is vitally wrong with her; either she is a genius or an idiot. Both are un- natural, consequently uncomfortable. A man likes a woman with a fad, provided fad is himself. The hope of a wo- In two ways: either to take a name for herself. The r born in a very few, and is plain enough. even to her enmies. If a woman Is to be great. she will not be the first to recognize it. The second is born to every woman. Any woman can marry; but the majori- ty of them forget that any woman can- not marry any man. A woman is often fickle from nece: v, and a man falthful for the same T How many men, we rraise, would re- ttier woman gave them encouragement. But to return to college. first . T tear that Love, with a woman, 1s a speces of in- sanity. Poor thing! It's just as well. If she weresabsolutely sane she might not be so awfully in love. B o e Things get wofully mixed sometimes. A woman calls her dog a darling and her husband a brute, and she ought to know. Queer, lsn't 1t? Rl Y Don’t worry about Platonic real thing of us. love; the !s good enough for the most AV Some people would be out of business entirely if they could not attend to other people’s business. v 1 am glad that my ancestors are dead. It gives me a chance. R Some people travel on their faces, others on their shape, and some on their nerve, and, strange to say, those kind of people seem to get there. Strange, isn't {t? o e e A woman’s love Is a pretty cheap com- modity when she lavishes it on a Skye or pug, yet goodness knows she might do worse. 8 s When people are in love it is a question of give and take. One gives, the other takes. o . e Women have been tempting men ever since Eve boomed the trade in Paradise. She succeeded—how are you getting aiong? Yot Never trust a fellow who blows about himself. Wind puddings never satisfied an empty stomach. . . An Improved digestion and a well filled purse might drive many divorce lawyers out of business. S Never judge 8 woman by the newspaper cuts of her. Some of them ought to be conclusive evidence for damage sults. (The editor and I know all about that.) o9 e When a woman loves she wants to give we shall one day see our city all that it now promises to be. First of all, let us preserve the natural features as they are. The primary step is the saving of our seven hills. The water and the hills are San Fran- clsco’s famous beautles. The picturesque rising of the peaks from the surrounding bay afd ocean is the feature that strikes the stranger first of all when entering our limits. In them lies our foremost oppor- tunity for work in the way of improve- ment. Telegraph and Russian hills, those wonderful silhouettes that we know so well; Holliday and Nob Htll, affording graceful sites for homes; Rincon Hill, dignified. associated with the city’s early traditions of wealth and elegance; Twin Peaks and the Presidio Heights, afford ing two of the most famous pictures of our city—how can we afford to lose one of these? = < with all your learning you lack diploma- cy. When you enter the world's battle- ground. you have only one enemy to overcome; a man has a thousand: you are only one of them. His ambition may lead him miles beyond his abllity; yours should be increased only within the ex- tent of your powers. A man is part of the world; you are only part of man; that you are the better half remains always to be proven. In his contest with the world, 2 man finds troubles Innumera- ble: In your struggles with him you can find those same troubles, and others. .The woman who complains that there is nothing in life, either refers to herself, or what is synonymous, an old maid. Al- though there is seldom love in War, there is plenty of war in love. Man s your natural enemy; society has made him such. In possession of aiy enemy there are some very desirable treasures. De- vote your whole education to this one battle, because outside of it there Is noth- ing else. All women can trace all their sorrows to man or the lack of him. The same with their happiness. Deny this herself and all of her possessions to the adored. Poor fooll He takes all and glves In return a mortgage on some land of promise with reservatigns for tears and regrets. e o How many men can a woman love? Well, she'd be & fool to give that sory of enap away. . . . How many men can love one woman? Simply a question of the woman's ability to keep a secret or of the men hunting for trouble. o s e A kissable mouth, even though an junct to an empty head, is often a large slzed stock In trade for a woman. . . If you tell all you know you will not be g0 Interesting the next time. . s e Matrimony that degenerates into & con- tinuous bread riot becomes too strenuous for the average woman. . e . When people become so exasperatingl good for this wicked old world lhcy".hfllflz be furnished an angel's outfit and free transportation to another and better world. é'n:h ©old world is good enough for most of us.)g . e . Some people are so easily fooled that they seem like a special dispensation of Providence. . . . Never marry & whole family. find one member thereof lbo'ut !-:uul:g &5 you can manage. “ . e Some men suppress a smil wal- low it. Beg urgon! ik . . The bum sons of great fathers al marry heiresses. It must be so numtum. to be In touch vzth n. first-class corpse. . What pleases the eye satisfy the heart. cealisy o If people were all good It would be & very un!n'.et.un.g world, D 1t you think men are not vain watch one The improvement of the streets is an- other most important matter to be con- sidered. They should first of all be cleaned. No beauty can be built upon any basis but that of cleanliness. A girl might as well try to make herself lovely by donning a white chiffon boa over a dirty calico gown. After this tree planting should be at- tended to. The selection of the proper trees for this purpose {s a most important matter. Attention has been called to the fact that palms are not appropriate to the non-tropical appearance of this city. . Private gardens are to be considered by every one who owns even so little as a window balcony. No foot of iand can we afford to waste in a crowded city. The bits of yard space permitted us for adornment should be cherished as if they were sacred and made to flourish with and you contradict man himself. Make 1t a point never to contradict a man. Argue with him and question him. Ask him for enlightenment on any sub- Jeet, no matter how well you understand it. This will give him an opportunity to explain, which Is very pleasing to him. Remember, a man ltkes a woman with will and spirit. fle also admires one who is timid and dependent. He leaves it to you to make the distinction agreeable. To a woman of experience this is simple. In all cases where the danger is such that a mgn may easily protect you, be timid. Under circumstances where an action on bis part would be without glory rely upon yourself. If you see a harmless drunkard appeal at once to the manly courage of your protector; if & runaway uorse, depend upon the swiftness of your own legs. In this way you nurse his vanity without ever forcing him to expose his true nature, In argument, assert only those opinions wrich you know it lies in the power of man to disprove. In order to exhibit the ferce of will, disagres with him up to the select a spring hat or survey himself in the elevator mirror. . ieiie A widow always has a dead past. . s e A man’s bank account is his best friend, whom he can always keep banking on. o v e Don’t take the conceit out of peopls; it may rob them of every comfort in life. . e e Bome people are good because they have never had the chance to be any- thing else. S % It does not take a dynamite bomb to blast our hopes. e s e ‘When in the throes of reform hysterics you may find yourself excellent material for experimental purposes. o s . ‘When a man leaves home for re recreation he leaves his wite also least that is the gag he gives the other ‘woman. e s e Now that women have such strenuous times at their clubs, poor hubby finds his occupation gone. A . e Some people rush into matrimony with & dashing I'allegro crescendo; later they creep out to the green music and slow lights of an andante diminuendo. sile [ Is matrimony a twostep, a lockstep or a quickstep (to the divorce court)? B Never allow a husband to become too sympathetic with the widow of his best triend. The wld‘nw may like it too well. e N When a woman catches & man’s eye, does it mean that she has taken an 'eye- ball? (That ain’t bad.) . e e A colicky baby takes all the romance out of young love's dream. ¢« o . ‘Women marry as they play & game of chance, and often find a checkm: of all the beauty that our sofl and climate permits. There should be great care ta- ken in selecting flowers according to col- or. Some color scheme should prevall, in- stead of letting a garden become a medley of ill-assorted tints that present no har- mony to the eye. Window gardens should be planted with the same care. Plenty of them are needed; they lend cheer to the bleakest exterfor. The school yards are a mater of espe- clal interest to all those working along such lines. It has been proposed to let each school have its own garden culti- vated by the children of the school. In this way our young citizens would be edu- cated to understand the art, and In time would know how to plan the arrange- ment of their own private gardens. More parks are wanted. It would be al- most Impossible to have too many. What a rest to the eye each patch of green is alded by education of this kind. But it is a thing far above and beyond the merely intellectual. I have seen little of Ameri- can women as yet, but in the short time that I have been here since my arrival from Calcutta I have been impressed with their spiritual development as much as with their Intellectuality. Much of this that I am teaching they seem to already know. Cglmness, kindness, courage—all these are like healing remedies to the diseased mind. Women who have achieved a high spiritual plane are noble and kind moth- ers, and their children are the better. It is good that children should look upon a mother who is beautiful in every way—mind, body and soul. Such beauty is one with goodness. Increase the time of meditation as you advance and the good results will steadily increase. So may woman become ideal. in the heart of & grimy city, even though it be only a block squar This 1s en- tirely aside from their value &s rest and recreation spots. They are preclous as well for their beauty. There are countless other points te be considered in the making of a city beau- tiful. The erecting of monuments, the improvement of architecture, the laying out of curving streets, the utilizing of va- cant lots for garden purposes—these are only a few. There is no such thing as estimating the moral effect of beauty. The greatest essayists cannot cover the subject. It is at once strong and subtle. Beauty that appeals to the eye finds its way to the soul. Willlam Morris says: “Art which is to be made by the people and for the people Is a happiness to the maker and the user.” When such bhappiness les within our reach—shall we not have it? % &2 point where he begins to show anger; this will not prolong the debats to any great length. When finally convinced, never fall to express wonderment at the vast- mess of his intellect; thers is no danger of his misinterpreting this for sarcasm. Be careful not to Introduce any foreign sub- stance, such as logic, Into your speech; this is stepping outside the bounds of your sex and might confuse him. Never talk to a man about yourself, no matter how great his interest in* you might be; he prefers the discovery of your virtues himself. If at a loss for a subject of conversation, take the man. It is only a step from continually thinking about to talking about himself. Next to talking about his affairs, a man enjoys most your opinion of him. In or- der to make this enjoyable, explain how at first you were not favorably impressed, but as your acquaintance deepened o did your affection. This gives him the tdea that his charms are not all physical and will help him to sustain life when ke looks in the mirror. Never talk to a man about another man, course it's all right; we are just aching for a checkmate ourselves. . Some people who think they are smart are just plain, everyday fools. s e is Cobwebs of circumstance may knot the hangman’s noose. When you warm a snake at your bosom, don’t squeal if it stings you. - e e Men like to idealize a woman and ‘the moment she steps beyond the precincts of ideality that moment she shatters the 1dol that men worship. . There s a great difference between pok- er spots and polka dots. S e It Is always the peacemaker or the curi- osity seeker who gets the worst of a fight. . wiw Love is often an expensive luxury. oo It s an easy matter to be good on a good income. « e . ‘When you assert that all men are equal be sure that you can demonstrate fit. R When I note the palaces of rich dl- vines 1 wonder if they fool themselves into the belief that they are poor in spirit. i om.ie ‘When you line up your saints and sin- ners and examine into the record of each T'd like to take my chances with the sin- rers. Which do you prefer? o e A wise man never takes a penny for his thoughts. Bome people have to die before people discover any good In them. SRR Don't try to be witty; it takes a smart man to play the fool gracefully, and you may not fiil the bill. o e . An up-to-date liver that attends strictly to business is a monopoly that the head of a glant trust aches to control. especially to the other ma: A man likes a woman of good taste; he determines the extent of this quality by her_affection for him. No two men have exactly the same idea of beauty, but every man agrees in what {s not beautiful. Soclally, a woman whose only fault is her face Is worse off than the woman whose face is her only virtue. Naturally a wo- man who combines both virtue and beau- ty becomes a very marriageable charac- ter. For this reason be thankful you are beautiful, my dear. And before I close, just one mors thing: do nét fall in love with the man you wish to marry. This places you in e position where your best judgment is handicapped and puts you In danger of acting opsnly. There is no greater fool than a man in love, unless it be a woman. Try and re- member that In dealing with a man it is your welfare and his sentiment.under con. sideration, not your sentiment - and his welfare. Hoping that you will gain profit from these few little hints, believe me,%your af- fectionate Fortune only ylelds to the persistent weoer. e The human heart is like a well-strung barp—a succession of sweet tones and of discords. D e Some women love like a balking horse— no telling what kind of a stunt it will in- dulge in. o e ESome men suppress a smi lew it. Beg pardon. . . ; others swal- . When a man kisses his wife it" a rather cold proposition. When he the other woman he warms up to the sub- Ject. * e . Success is often a matter of spectacular effect. DR A disregard of appearances is a lack of - .« . The life of a grass widow is not always green, nor does it run to hay seed. - When the giddiness of youth Is tramed in a bald head and motheaten chin whis- Kkers it is time to pray for the departing spirit. 5 Y% . Matrimony !s often like champagne— first a bubble and fizz; then a little flat. P Never trust the man or woman who can't give your hand a hearty clasp. Sre . The hoydenish girl of her school days develops Into the most companionable wife or the cheerful mother. P e It is generally the quiet Sunday-school girl who figures in scandals. . e Even a husband or wife may become offensively familiar. & et When a man tells you that he knows that he is not perfect you can lay the stakes of all you are worth that he thinks he 1s. & eia Are men greater gossips than women? Well, what @o you think about it?