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- WOMEN"’ S FEATURES. THE EVENING STAR, WASHINGTON, D. THURSDAY. DECEMBER 31, 1936. WOMEN’S FEATURES. A—11 ,Best to Give a Little Serious Thought, as Well as Gayety, to New Year Assuring the Future Comfort of Dependents Important Resolution Necessary to Believe in “Preparedness” for the Good of Those We Love. BY BETSY CASWELL. time—and perhaps that is why we ostrich-like humans have made of it an occasion for revelry and : general celebration. We put our frightened heads in the sands of EW YEAR EVE again. - . N It is always a solemn make-believe, and pretend that we are not a bit scared by the fact that another year has slipped away from us—past all recall, forever, bearing with it one more rung in our ladder——m of life. Of course, there is no use in be- moaning the sit- uation. It is just £ as inevitable as ¢ the ebb and flow of the tides upon the shore, and there is nothing that we can do about it. So, in the main, it is best to try and forget the chill that clutches the heart when the curtain closes on another 12 ! months of life, and to look for- ward eagerly to the next phase, erasing the consciousness of what it really means. Therefore, we sing and dance, and blow horns and make merry in one way or another, and speed the old year on his way with cries of noisy Betsy Caswell. Manners of the farewell; we welcome the dawn of | the coming year with screams of joy |and blasts of trumpets to drown the seriousness of the moment. It is just as well. Morbid brooding over the flight of time has never helped any one. Much better to whistle in the dark, and not turn our heads to see the “fearsome flend that behind doth tread.” Happiness and gayety are called for, and the hope that springs eternal. * X X X UT there is one point that is so important that it must be con- sidered by every man or woman who stands at the head of & family. It isn’t necessarily pleasant, and there- fore it should be taken care of as quickly and as efficiently as possible, so that it may be safely forgotten once more, and the happier thoughts and deeds resumed. It lies in pro- viding for dependents in event of tragedy involving the loss of the breadwinner, . Whatever scheme you choose to fol- low is, naturally, your own business. But the main thing is—don't put off arranging it. If it is to be insurance —start taking out policies at once; if it lies in tangible property, make sure that all is in order and under- stood thoroughly by some one beside . A New Kind of Roll for the Family Dorothy Dix Says Any Girl Feels Flattered by Being Told That She EAR MISS DIX: Iama man 30 years of age and at present unemployed, but I have good prospects of soon getting a job. My problem is this: I am des- perately in love with a girl, but hesi- tate to tell her about my-feelings be- cause I am not in a position to marry her. I think she likes me and I am going crazy wondering whether she | does or not. The only way I can find out is by asking her. What should I | do? A PUZZLED LOVER. Answer—Ask her by all means. If she loves you, as she probably does, 1t will ease the anxiety that she feels a5 to your sentiments. It is a wearing and heart-breaking experience for a girl to go through wondering whether | & man cares for her or not, and whether he comes to see her because he is enamored of her or of her mother’s cooking. Many a girl has | wished she had a divining rod or| something with which to test out the | sentiments of the lad who was always | hanging around her but who never got | to anything more personal in his con- | versation than the state of the weather | or the political situation. And, at any rate, even if she doesn't love you every girl is pleased and flat- tered by having a man fall for her and tell her so. You needn't think that you hurt any Jane’s feeling by hand- will just gobble it up. Of course, it is easy to understand why & man feels that he¢ shouldn't tell a girl he loves her until he is in a position to name the wedding day. But that is carrying chivalry 50 far it leans over backward and often harms the woman it is intended to protect. When a man loves a woman and thinks she loves him, she should at least be given an opportunity to | wait for him if she thinks | it. Many a man loses the woman he | wants by not speaking out in time. ing her out a mess of solf talk. She| Concerning he is worth ' Is Loved. vantage and thinking how thril are the kisses of the man you love ]::g how stale and flat those of the hus- band you only endure. It isn't fair to ?;:‘:L nx;d especially it isn't fair to an, for a girl when loving lnu‘ther‘.o s * ok ok % EAR MISS DIX: Is a woman ever Justified in going about with a married man? I have a friend who is & very attractive widow and who has two fine boys and a nice home. For some time she has been receiving very marked attentions from a man who is living apart from his wife, but not legally divorced from her. Since the man cannot free himself from his wife, is not my friend risking her reputa- tion by going about with him? ELEANOR. Answer—There is small profit to any woman in having an affair with a married man. Inasmuch as he can- not marry her, his attentions only compromise her and keep other men whom she might marry away from her, and if she falls in love with him, she eats her heart out with the weary waiting and the hope deferred that makes the heart sick. DOROTHY DIX. (Copyright, 1936.) — Proprieties Of Giving |Custom of Sending Flowers Continues | By his silence he leads her to believe | his attentions are without intentions | | and so she marries some good honest | | fellow who is her opportunity instead | | of her preference. Options on hearts are as good an investment in love as | in Favor. BY EMILY POST. EAR MRS. POST: I have received an invitation to my boy friends’ urself. So much misery could have | been avoided in this world if only the head of the family had left his or her affairs in clear, comprehensive shape, with directions in the posses- sion of a reliable person as to where Moment Into bow! crumble 2 yeast cakes (compressed), add Y, cup sugar, pour over them 1% cups buttermilk, Becauwse it's midnight and New Year eve he thinks he can kiss you. 'HEN the witching hour nrrh'esi on New Year eve there seems to be a custom in many countries that gentlemen may kiss any ladies within reach. It's not a custom that we would fight against. However, we'd like to know, as woman to woman, how to control it. Somehow, the mugs always seem to make a lunge at us. = We've asked a number of our more expert friends. And we've gleaned a number of answers that may prove to be helpful. One is to watch the clock and at 12 start clinging closely to the man who seems most pleasing. (Even if it is your husband.) Another way is to hide under a couch for 5 or 10 minutes just around mid- night. Or you might have a mask handy and slip it on just as the clock strikes 12. Your kid brother's base ball mask will do very nicely. And, of course, you can always use a lighted cigarette as a defense measure. Anyhow, good luck to you . . and & happy New Year. JEAN. (Copyrisht, 1936,) all details, etc., may be found. Lock- boxes in banks, copies of documents left with lawyers—all tend to speed the machinery of the law that, will enable your dear ones to be comfor- table and cared for. I think it is such a pity that peo- ple are so apt to “shy” at the notion of making a will, or taking out life in- surance, or in arranging an annuity. Many of them seem to feel that by directly facing the fact of the future | they bring it all the closer. I am | superstitious enough to think just the | opposite—it is usually upon the un- | prepared that the blow falls soonest! And think of the peace of mind that |one may enjoy when one is secure in the knowledge that dear ones are provided for and that matters will be | taken care of for them swiftly and easily at any time. * kK % MAYBE you think I'm a “gloomy | Gussie.” Perhaps I am. But I |also am a great believer in locking the stable before the horse is stolen. One can sleep so much better! We live a swift, dangerous life these days, for all our comforts and me- chanical wonders. Cars are faster than ever; so are railroads. Fire on | the high seas claims its toll in spite | of modern construction; homes burn | with a hideous frequency. Planesare carrying more passengers than they have hitherto, and though the records for safety are excellent they still take their toll along with the other means of transportation. Medical sci- | ence unfolds more curative wonders every day—but lives still continue to slip between doctors’ skilled fingers. We are lots better off than the gen- erations before us in many ways, but we haven't succeeded in becoming any more immortal! The very best that | we can do is to assure ourselves that the future is taken care of to the very best of our ability, and then we can really relax and enjoy ourselves. Make this the top iteps on your list of New Year resolutions! * ! INlEEDLUEWORK For the bedside table in your guest room here’s a new cover to work in #let crochet. The pattern is a floral one, so that it will suit any bed room. The center of the piece is a panel about 10 inches across. This is worked Arst, then a rather wide band is made around it, in deep spaces of treble crochets, and the whole is finished with a conventional border 1% inches ‘wide. When the piece is finished, it measures 18 inches across. The pattern envelope contains complete, easy-to-understand illustrated directions, with block-and-space diagrams to aid you; also what crochet hook and what material and how much you will need. To obtain this pattern, send for No. 410 and inclose 15 cents in stamps or coin to cover service and " T(coprright. 1986, postage. Address orders to the Needlework Editor Good Idea To Abolish Stag Line |Better That Every Girl Have One Partner. | BY ANGELO PATRI | JPARTIES are in season, and many a lovely young girl is crying her- self to sleep because she is not popular, not asked to dance, never “cut in" on. The stag line couldn't see her for some reason or other. Maybe she was not willing to hand out “lemon drops.” Or there was some other equally moving reason that permitted the young gen- tlemen to snub her publicly. I would like very much to abolish the stag line. I would like, too, to understand why hostesses permit it to form along the sides of their dance rooms when s0 often the arrogance of its members is & blight on the party, a curse on some of the helpless girls. It does not seem hospitable to permit a line of lofty young nitwits to scan a group of girls with cold and calcu- lating eye, measuring their attractions and bestowing the palm of their ap- proval upon the loveliest of them. Why should young girls, guests of the hostess, be 50 publicly humiliated? Why are the boys.such cads? Why don't the girls themselves do some- thing about it? Why do mothers al- low the condition to continue? I know the routine very well. I have seen it work. I have heard both sides tell of its workings. I can see nothing human, lovely, gay or decent about the usual stag line manners at & party where such qualities are assumed to be common to the group of guests. The whole thing seems cruel, calculating, ill-bred, and its effects on the boys are certainly not elevating. ‘When a boy attends a party because he is paid for it, or because he expects special inducements will e offered him by his* hostess, or for any other reason than the legitimate one of pleasure in the company, he sells out to the highest bidder and by that very token, it would seem to me, loses any standing he might have had among decent people. And those who bought him have to answer for the degreda- tion of a boy's character. I know this sounds harsh, but when one thinks of the shame and humilia- tion that some of these stag line youths inflict upon eager girls whose only crime is their desire to be liked, to be treated with courtesy and con- sideration by fellow guests, who go to the party with high expectations of a girlish good time, only to be scorned by the presumptuous sophisticate who for the brief time is lord of all he sur- veys, it is difficult to be calm. There must be ways of avoiding such anguish as' these youths cause some of the girls. I would think the matter lay in the hands of the hostess. If she invited only young gentlemen, boys who understand their social obli- gations, who have been trained in polite ways, who appreciate that they have a duty to their hostess and to their fellow guests, there would be no girls found in tears in the cloak room, no broken-hearted young things scur- Tying to the shelter of home away from the scene of their humiliation. it about dance programs? What about a hostess’ duty to see that every girl has a partner? And what about allowing them to be turned loose among the unsuspecting? And if the hostesses can’t or won't remedy some of the abuses, what's the matter with | the s themselves taking o han? teaching boys their social duties before | Chic Daytime Frock Cleverly Designed Dress Is Also Suitable for Spectator . BY BARBARA BELL. 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Make yourself at- tractive, practical and becoming clothes, selecting designs from the Barbara Bell well-planned, easy-to- make patterns. BARBARA BELL, ‘Washington Star. Inclose 25 cents in coins for pattern No. 1956-B. Size...... LU R —— . (Wrap coins ucllrelybln paper.) warm, not hot; let stand 10 minutes, add 1 teaspoonful salt, also Y, cup butter or shortening, soft, not hot: sift, measure 4Y; cups not bleached flour, resift with V; teaspoonful soda. Beat in until very smooth. Brush top with butter. Place bowl over warm, not hot, water. When very light (about 35 minutes ) turn out without stirring onto floured cloth. With floured, covered rolling pin, roll out as thin as pos- sible. Brush dough very lightly with flour. Place flat onthe dough a cookie sheet or large flat pan. Cut along edge of pan in strips 2 inches wide. Cut strips into sqyares. Brush with melted butter. Pile up 7 squares. Place cut edges down in buttered muffin pan. Repeat until all cups of pan are filled. Brush top with butter. Set in warm place. When very light (about 10 minutes) bake at 409 degrees 20 min- utes. Rolls separate in layers easily and require no butter when eaten. Beauty Tip For Festive Occasions Be Glamorous and Gay for Holiday Event. BY ELSIE PIERCE. TAY on the conservative side for your wedding day, but adopt all the glamorous, new tricks you know and as many new ones as you can quickly summon for gay holiday par- ties. ‘This year, more than many a sea- son, glamour and elegance are run- ning rampant. Wear flowers in your hair, fresh flowers, and & brand-new hair dress, one that is so radically different that it will' admit quite frankly, “Yes, I've changed Ilots, haven't I?” Wear rich velvet, heavy brocade, silky damasks, rustling taffetas. And top your evening gown with jewels, bracelets at your wrists, rings on your fingers, & pearl choker at your !throat or jeweled clips. But make sure that the jewels don't outshine the skin they touch. Change your nail polish and for the one evening at least leave the conservative side. If one of the new mauve casts harmonize with your own and your costume's coloring, by all means try it. Speaking of harmony, make sure that your make-up is perfection ite self. The time when you want most to look your best is holiday party time. And your make-up has much to do with the final picture. > I do hope a thoughtful some one presented you with a make-up har- mony kit containing the make-up essentials in colors to harmonize with your favorite costume. If not, do treat yourself to one immediately. It will do things to your morale as well as your costume and your face. Wear shadow on your lids, mascara on your lashes, use two powders instead of one. Don’t forget your hands and arms; they should be part of your glamour campaign. They deserve the same kind treatment you give your face, and after soothing and softening you should treat them to a make-up, too, consisting of a not-too-white whiten= ing. There are any number of pere fectly heavenly preparations that do everything but rub off on your es- cort’s coat. Now straighten up, for all that re- gal splendor calls for regal grace and carriage. Fortified with all the glam- our tricks you can summon, you should have & grand time. (Copyright; 1936, Venison and Noodles. 1 pound venison, ground fine. 2 tablespoons butter. 2 stalks celery, diced. 2 onions chopped fine. 1 green pepper chopped fine. 1 can tomatoes. 1 package noodles. % cup roquefort cheese, crumbled. Salt. Pepper. Brown venison in butter, add celery, onion and pepper. Brown together. Add tomatoes, with salt and pepper to taste, and allow to simmer for about one. hour. Add the noodles cooked in boiling salted - water. Heat through Add cheese -just. before they are in business. * ¥ ¥ % DEAR MISS DIX: I am a married man. My wife is more than 20 years my junior. 8he insists on serv- | ing breakfast in bed every morning jand on dressing and undressing me | and in putting on and taking off my | shoes. If I give her money to buy | things for herself she buys something house to spend Sunday. I am not engaged to him and have met his | mother only once, but we offen have | the son at our house. Should I take the mother a little something, since it is not likely that I will ever be able to ask her to anything? | Answer—Although it is never neces- | for me with it. She denies herself to lavish luxuries on me. She does not want me to work. I have had several heart attacks, but have always been an active man who has made and | lost several fortunes. I like to work and it is my disposition to want to look out for myself. What would be your advice in a case like this BOB. Answer—Are you sure you are not seeing things and that the kind of & wife you describe is not a hallucina- tion? I, myself, have never heard of such a creature and find it difficult to | believe that she exists and so, lacking all experience with dealing with what must be the ideal wife of every man's dream, I can only suggest that you thank Heaven for your blessing. Or else put her 1n a museum, where other husbands could take their wives to see her. DOROTHY DIX. * % % ¥ DEAR MISS DIX: Would you ad- vise a girl to marry a man while being in love with another man? Could she find happiness in such a union? The first man has better qualities than the second, but the girl is content only when with the second man, MARCIA. ANSWER—Oertainly not. Such a marriage could bring a girl nothing but misery and disaster of an un- congenial marriage, because the sacret of happiness in marriage consists in having got your heart’s desire and being satisfied with your husband or wife, A great many people seem to think that marriage is an automatic cure for an old love; that there is some changes & person’s tastes and affec- be farther from the truth. If a man or woman is not in love before mar- riage there is small chance of their falling in love with their husband or wife after marriage. When they see | each other at close range and have | to put up with the clash of different | personalities that marriage inevitably brings about, only love can soften those blows and keep a man and woman still endurable to each other. Nor will marriage blot out all con- sciousness for the old lover. On the contrary, the very knowledge that she has burned her bridges behind her and that she has no right to think of him will make her regret her decision and throw a glamour about him that will fan her passion for him. She will be continually comparing him with her husband to her husband's disad- My Neighbor Says: ‘Turn potted plants from time to time so that they will grow even. As the days grow longer the foliage will become luxuriant. Wash the mouthpiece of the telephone frequently to keep it in sanitary condition. Rub the sole of a creaking shoe with a flannel dipped in boiled linseed oil. With fish of all kinds serve baked potatoes, pickles, pickled beets, tomatoes, cold or hot slaw, chow chow, catsup or some such relish. (Copyright. 1936, tions and inspires them with love for | the one they marry. Nothing could | other special occasions? sary that you take a hostess anything, | it is always a nice thing to do—par- ticularly if you go often or are under obligation to her. In this particular case I can’t imagine that there is any obligation since your family's kind- | ness to her son is probably one of her | reasons for inviting you. However, | if you want to take or send something, then candy or flowers or nuts, or & book if you know her taste in reading, would all be perfectly suitable either to take with you or perhaps to send to her later. * % * % DEAH MRS. POST: My young child would like to take a birth day present to her kindergarten | teacher, who always makes a special occasion out of each child’s birthday. | Will it be proper to send it with the child to school or should I send it to | the house? Answer—If you know that the other | children are taking presents, too. then I would let the child take hers to the | teacher. Otherwise, it might be better | to send it to the house so that the | children who have nothing for her would not be embarrassed. * x % x wDEAR MRS. POST: What would | you suggest that I give my fiance | on his birthday? After they are en- gaged, may two people give more per- | sonal gifts than those allowed them before? Answer—When a man and girl are engaged they may give each other almost anything. The qualifying “almost” means that they may not give intimate wearing apparel. * ok * X \DEAR MRS. POST: Is it proper for a man to give a girl flowers magic in the marriage ceremony that | any time, either to wear or for her apartment, or is it better today to send flowers only on birthdays and Answer—A man may send flowers at any time, not only to his best girl, but to any woman of his ac- quaintance, whenever he chooses to and can afford to. Your apparent belief that flower-sending customs have changed is probably due to the long period of depression which we have all been through. (Copyright, 1636,) Abundant Juice Refreshing Flavor Wholesome and Delicious These essentials combine ATWOOD" GRAPEFRUIT L : Table Luxury Wholesale Distribusors W. Chas. Heitmuller Co. 1310 Fifth St. N.E. 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