Evening Star Newspaper, September 7, 1928, Page 40

WOMA N’S PAGE.’ Acceptance of Hospitality BY LYDIA LE BARON WALKER. Many people hesitate to accept hospi- tality, and some actually refuse it cause they feel they can make no re- turn in kind. When the difference in circumstances is wide. the one who has less of worldly goods is visited with sort of inferiority complex in the mal ter of obligations incurred. How is it sible to take advantage of such unty as is offered without being later on in the position of a poor relation— socially speaking. The fallacy in this lies in the sup- avenues of interest, opportunities for seeing things in another perspective. Many a person of wealth delights in the simplicity of a mountain camp, rural surroundings where the flavor of life is the opposite of metropolitan. It may be that the person who hesi- tates to be a guest has nothing to hold out that is in so striking a contrast to metropolitan life, merely a little place outside a large city where life moves upon lines neither picturesque nor unique. There are other ways than in- viting one to share one's roof and rations in which a return can be made for hospitality. One may know of some hobby that is dear to the graclous friend or relative, and perhaps it is on that can be catered to while away. A shower of little attentions along the line of the cherished interest will show a devotion for which no mere money cen pay. It matters not what the sub- ject is, there are books upon almost everything under the sun, some of which are within pocket range and new bits of information come to the listen- ing ear, or the searching eye, to which no cost is attached. While surroundings of luxury may be rare to the unmoneyed guest, so also may such evidences of interest and con- cern for their pleasure while absent be rare to the one “better off.” In the ways already mentioned, noth- | 9~7 IT IS NOT ALWAYS NECESSARY TO REFUSE INVITATIONS SIMPLY BECAUSE YOU CANNOT RETURN ‘THEM IN KIND. position that the only way of makinz a return is to offer the same things to the one who has given them earlier. Is it not the very fact that they were not what the guest was surfeited with that made such hospitality tempting to enjoy? Is it not also possible that the one-time guest may have something tc offer quite as acceptable to the host or hostess partly because of its very differ- ence from their accustomed mode of life as, for instance, a certain quiet that is lacking to those in a social whirl. contacts with people who bring ncw | by 19 and call the remainder ing has been said of the guest who re- turns hospitality, while he or she 1s receiving it, by the very way that he 2dds merriment and foy to an occasion. His very presence is sufficient to make a party a success. as his many invita- tions are likely to prove. It may be said of them that they pay their way as they go. They are what every host- ess s sceking, the perlect guest! ‘Whi it is not possible for many charming people to have just this combination of qualities, there is in almost all, some- thing which can be hapoily given in retnrn for hospitality. either while en- joying it or afterward. (Copyright. 1928.) BRAIN TESTS The ability to follow directions is of | great importance even when one doesl not understand why the instructions m?: correct. There is a complicated formula telling the date of Easter for any year in the twentieth century. Allow five minutes to determine the date of Easter in 1935. i Instructions. | (1) Divide the number anthe year‘ (2). Divide the number of the year | by 4 and call the remainder B. (3) Divide the number of the year by 7 and call the remainder C. (4) Divide 30 into 24 plus (19 times A). Call that remainder D. (5) Divide 7 into 5 plus 2B plus 4C plus 6D and call the remainder E. Now Easter will be either the 22 plus C plus D of March or the D plus E minus 9 of April. When will Easter come in 1935? April 21. 5 A equals 16. B equals- 3. C equals 3. D equals 28. E equals 2. Now the answer cannot be the 22 plus C plus D of March for that would be the 53d of March. Therefore it must be the D plus E minus 9 of April. D plus E minus 9 equals 21. MOVIES AND MOVIE PEOPLE BY MOLLY HOLLYWOOD, Calif., September 7.— There are other ways of earning & liv- ing in Hollywood than standing the - grind of the “extra” life. Douglas Fairbanks, jr. reports a unique and lucrative vocation which he says some of 1':: bright :‘ol;s of the colony are trying suc 5 Do\yl’g.. jr, had a cigarette in his mouth and was about to spin the wheel on his patent lighter when a pleasant- faced man stepped up to him and said: “Bet you a fiver that lighter won't work the first time.” “Taken,” said Doug, jr., and promptly struck a flame. Thereupon the pleasant-faced man produced a perfectly good five-dollar bill and handed it to Doug. The latter ask- ed what the graft was. Thought per- haps he was advertising some new pat- ent or was agent for a guaranteed lighter. 1t seems the pleasant-faced man once worked as an extra. Got $5 and $7.50 a day for long and tedious hours. An idea struck him while waiting in a hotel for an appointment. He observed that many lighters struck flame only after the second attempt. J* seems it is quite easy to rouse the gambling spirit in Movieland, where money is easily come by and gayly dis- posed of. And the pleasant young man clears as much as $50 a day when flints ;:eh worn down and luck is running gh. Douglas Fairbanks, jr., was casting for his new picture. Since it is to be a romantic sequel to his musketeers story, he wanted imposing men who could walk gracefully and sweep the floor with their plumed hats in a cav- alier bow. Hundreds of men were tried out. Marching toward the camera in groups of five, halting, going through the routine of the bow. An assistant chose those who were to be retained for the picture by saying, “Will you stand to the right, please, over there.” And to those not qualifying he used the for- mula, “You may be excused " When the first 800 had been run through there remained what should have been 75 or 100 of the eelected ones. But imagine the assistant’s horror to find at least 350 expectant gentlemen standing in the section reserved for the aceepted. The wily applicants had simply maneuvered about and joined the gang that had passed muster. The extras call that “pulling a nifty.” Lia Tora will be the cinema beauty of the next six months. Longer than that one dares not forecast. She is from Brazil and is of the fortunate group who are independently wealthy and use movies only as a charming ‘diversion because famous directors insist on sign- ing them Up with large sized contracts. Tora was seen by a camera man at a Do 20 ce MERRICK. gathering in South America. She had gone there to chaperon her younger sister and was not interested in motion ictures at all. But the camera man Kuuud on making & test. And Lia Tora photographed so beautifully that the studio insisted on making a contract. There was_the matter of a husband, a wealthy Brazilian sportsman and prince of good fellows. He was quite agreeable, so they all came on to Holly- wood, La Tora is being made star of a picture. Alma Reubens remains at her home and Ricardo Cortez maintains the apartment at La Leyenda which he took some weeks ago. The two dine together frequently. Neither admits that the sep- aration is anything but a friendly one caused by clashing of temperaments \::der the strain of motion picture mak- 8. Friendly separations are becoming a steady innovation in movieland. (Copyright, 1928. by North American News- paper Alliance.) Lessons in English BY W. L. GORDON. Words often misused: Do not say “They most all came to the party.” Say “most of them,” or “almost all of them.” Often mispronounced: Akron (Ohio); a as in “at,” not as in “day.” Often misspelled: Fulfil, or fulfill; fulfilment, or fulfiliment. Synonyms: Impair, reduce, crease, mar, damage, weaken. Word study: “Use a word three times and it is yours.” Let us in- crease our vocabulary by mastering one word each day. Today’s word: Bravadn; boastful behavior. “It was with an air of bravado that he entered the room.” ‘While men of Finland refuse to give up skirts that pull over the head, they are adopting American soft collars. | Removes Tanned, ‘ Freckly Skin en up. o | an" astringent 1 ‘ounce p | lite and 1 half pint witch hazel.—Adver- | tisement. N'T PAY nts for half a pint of liquid insect=killer— when you camn get the same quantity of Black Flag—the deadliest made—for only 25¢ ( Money back if not absolutely satisfied.) BLACK Some prefer Black Flag Liquid to kill fiying pests ~—Aflies, mosquitoes, etc. de- | i | THE EVENING SONNYSAYINGS BY FANNY Y. CORY. Tommy had the coleramorgles from eatin’ green apples when I was away. They's all got ripe now an’ not a morgle left in ‘em. (Copyright, NANCY PAGE Fall Hats Close Fitting With Tricky Lines BY FLORENCE LA GANKE. 1028, “Are the new hats becoming, Lois? I haven't had a chance to get down to try any of them on. Some of them look rather queer.” “I wouldn't call them queer, exactly, Nancy, but they are different. You know this Summer we had really sen- sible hats. They had brims and they shaded the eyes and protected the skin. Well, this Fall the hats are smaller. Of course, that is to expected. They show two decided trends, I think. The brim is large, but cut to come down over the right cheek. Sometimes the line is as extreme as that one I showed you in the paper this morning. “The rest of the hat is off the face. There is no brim on the left side, as a rule. There may be a tricky crown which comes down fairly low almost to the eyebrow. “They are all cut short and close fitting in the back. That is done be-: cause furs will be worn. To get away from the bare neck line it is still good style to wear a rather heavy necklace choker. “The colors are browns and blacks. The material is still felt or that flky felt called soleil. There are not many pins nor glittering ornaments. There, Madame Page, I have given you a dis- sertation on hats. Now comie on down- town with me and see whether I spoke the truth.” As they came out of a shop they saw a wedding party. Arz you interested in wed- dings? Write to Nancy Page, care of this paper, inclosing a stamped, self-addressed envelope, asking for the leaflet on Weddings. (Conyright, 1928. Crab Chops. Shred one crab and cook it in al double boiler with the following until quite thick: Three-fourths cupful of milk or cream, one tablespoonful of flour, the yolks of two eggs, one table- spoonful of Worcestershire sauce and a little salt, pepper, cayenne and parsley. Let cool and then form into little chops, roll in cracker or bread crumbs and fry in butter. Serve each chop with one of the claws set aside when dissecting the crab. Canned crab may be used in place of fresh ones. BLE SUGAR | Jupreme/ Sweeten your iced tea at the table with this new ACK FROST FRUIT POWDERED SUGAR It dissolves instantly and brings out the delicious flavor of tea. Specially pre- pared for iced drinks and to serve with fresh fruits, cereals, salads, etc. | signal set in households. | try to boss each other. STAR, WASHINGTO DorothyDix Grim Battle Is Fought Which Drags Itself Out Endlessly, With No Result But the Gradual Death of Love. Says One Reason Is Desire to Rule. Why Marriages End in Failure. HE one thing that does more than anything else to make marriage a failure is the lust for power, the desire of husband and wife to boss each other, the determinaticn of each to dominate the other. It is this passion for supremacy that turns marriages that should have been peaceful, happy and prosperous into a 30 years' civil war in which the h:sband and wife fight over every inch of their hearthstone for possession of the throne. it is this mania for imposing their wills upon each other that kills affection | between husbands and wives and makes them hate cach other, because none of us loves a tyrant. It is this rule-or-ruin spirit that breaks up homes and that keeps the storm For at the bottom of nearly every domestic squabble is not some question of right or wrong or the wisdom or folly of doing some particular thing, but the wife's insistence on having her way and forcing her ?lflntllon onther husband, and the husband's determination to have the say-so the matter. 1t is this love of domineering that leads to divorce oftener than anything else, and the principal reason why divorce is increasing is because women are rebelling more than they used to against man’s assumption that he is the head of the house. Doubtless wives have always secretly henpecked their husbands and resisted their authority as much as they dared, but so long as they were financially dependent upon their lords and masters they had to give a certain degree of obedience and subservience. . Now, however, when a woman is as free to make her own living as a man, a wife has become her husband's partner instead of his bondwoman, and if he his august will and kissing the hsn:.i c‘hnt. rules her with a rod of iron. 0 LL of us know, not only from our reading of history, but from our own experience, that personal liberty is the greatest passion of the human heart. It is the one thing without which there is neither happiness nor dignity nor meaning to life; the one thing for which men and women have always been willing to fight and die. And, considering this, it is passing strange that husbands and wives should continue to try to enslave each other and to make of the family circle the only place in the world in which people are bereft of every vestige of freedom. But they do, and that is why so many young couples who are so much in love with each other before marriage so soon fall out of love with each other after marriage. There has been no deterioration in either one. They are just as good-looking, just as intelligent, just as upright and desirous of doing right and making each other happy as they ever were. But suddenly they, who were so congenial and got along so harmoniously together, are at dagger’s point, scrapping with each other, enemies instead of lovers. And they are bewildered and do not know how it happened. ‘The explanation is obvious to the onlookers. Before marriage they did not After marriage they do. The young husband feels that he has authority over his wife and that she must be a puppet who will only move when he pulls the strings. The wife naturally resents this. She not only did not get married to get a master, but one of the joys she looked forward to in matrimony was making over her husband according to her own little pet paper g:h'fiz? &r ;icman. Hence these tears and the daily fight over everything, from Half of the unforgivable things that husbands and wives do to each other are not inspired by sheer deviltry or meanness or cruelty, but by egotism. Three- fourths of the mean little, nagging, hateful things they do that take all the joy and pleasure out of domestic liie is just the result of their efforts to assert their own authority. A man shows this when he refuses to give his wife an allowance on which to run the house and for her own personal needs. He knows that in the end it doesn’t save him a penny, that he would have to pay the bills at the end of the fixocnotsl?; :nyzu)n L\r'lelx"y (afle‘rll helertl'fiLev‘enla tightwad who begrudges the meney 0 suppor s family. Buf tickles his vanity for her to h like a mendicant to him for every cent. ey i A man shows this ignoble desire to rule his wife and make her feel his power over her when he forces her to ask his permission about every cent in her life—about joining a club or accepting an invitation or going to see her mother or buying a new dress or getting fresh wall paper or doing any of the thousand and one things that are in her province and not in his and about which she is far better able to judge than he is unless she is a born fool. AND women show their bossy complex by trying to force fheir own opinjons and tastes upon their husbands. It is determination to dominate her husband and segregate him from all other influences that makes the bride separate him from all of his old friends and substitute her circle for them and that causes her to resent every suggestion that his mother makes. It-is the determination to make him do her way instead of gratifying hi own inclinations that makes a wife quarrel for a ll¥etlme over lg.-r hisbgndl:; cigar or his paper or his wearing slippers in the house or the way he likes to have his hair cut instead of leaving him in peace to enjoy his own little personal idiosyncrasies. It is bossiness that causes a wife to make her husband eat the kind of food she prefers instead of the kind he likes, and it is sheer bossiness that makes a wife sit on the back seat of an automobile and tell her husband how to drive. ; N Of course, husbands and wives will deny that they spend their lives fighting over a little-petty authority. But they do. Look about you and you will see that almost the onlf' happy families are those in which either the husband or the wife is a weakling who gives in without a fight or a diplomat who makes the gesture of obedience while getting his or her own way by finesse instead of force. Only bere and there will you find an exceptional couple big and broad and wise enough to give and take and to accord each other personal freedom. who shall rule the home like dogs over a bone. What a pity. And what a pity we can’t scrap the domestic czar as we have all the other autocrats. DOROTHY DIX. (Copyright. 1923, Baked Hash. Mix three cups finely chopped cooked beef with one finely chopped onion, one green pepper chopped, two cups soft bread crumbs, one tablespoon tomato ketchup, salt and pepper to scason, and | two cups of gravy or one cup milk and one cup of water. Mix thoroughly, pour into a greased shallow pan. Put two or three strips bacon over the top and bake in a hot oven—400 degrees—for 30 minutes or until brown on ‘top but not too dry. Early Fall days qall for more sut- stantial foods like Auth’s Smoked Ham — tender, juicy, spicy —a favorite for more than fifty years. And more than 2,000 Quality Grocers are ready to supply you with Auth’s Smoked Ham because it’s the BEST — incomparably For sale by all stores that feature quality products. Refived by The National § AT o el FLAG Black Flag Powderto kill crawling pests — roaches ants, etc. © 1938,B.7.Co. fine. Ask for Auth’s by name. Insist on Auth’s and you insist on Quality. tries to exact too much of her she quits instead of meekly bowing her head to | The great majority of husbands and wives spend their lives fighting over | Swathed Girdle. The very smartest of the Fall dresses, whether for afternoon or evening, are very tight and swathed of hip line. The variety of girdle sketched here is smart and becoming to nearly every type of figwe. It lends itself well to the soft fabrics, such as crepe, velvet and satin for afternoon, and_chiffon, velvet or satin for evening. Its many variations show twists of the material, large or small bows, drapes and ends. (Copyright. 1928.) Your Baby and Mine BY MYRTLE MEYER ELDRED. A Summer resort is an excellent place in which to observe mothers and children. If there is ever a time when a child’s good manners and habits serve him well it is in thesc hectic places, where discipline goes by the boards and the loudest shrickers gel the most favors. Incidentally there is much justifiable pride and an equal amount of mortification for conscien- tious and slack mothers. The history of most of the meals would fill a book entitled ‘The Wrong Way to Handle Children” and gave me much food for thought on the futilty of the written word, as against dyed- in-the-wool convictions. One can de- nunciate loudly againsi the utter use- lessness of forcing children to eat, but from every table one sees fond but often distracted mothers hustling each spoonful into a reluctant mouth; pic- turing the “grandness” of this and that vegetable, and growing positive- ly livid at a refusal. And usually the child doesn’t eat, in spite of all this. One wonders what satisfaction the parent gets out of such heated battles when the victory is al- ways to the weak. But we didn't in- tend to talk about food. “Agnes” was a huge, inflated, rubber | seal which was intended for the water but never left dry land. back the smaller children jumped. They lugged Agnes about, they kissed her ugly, grey face, they adored her. One night Elaine’s mother came to where Bobby, aged nine, and her daughter, were romping. - “Just a few minutes more, darling, and then you will be go- ing to bed.” “INl go right away mother,” said Elaine, “if you'll sit on Agnes’ back.” “I don't want to, darling, I would feel so silly.” “Please, please, please,” pleaded the excited children, and Bobby in his eagerness grasped her arm and pulled and hauled at her. Unable to get away from the two of them, the mother Tunl:ed to her daughter and said help- essly : “See what Bobby is doing to your mother!” It worked like magic. Elaine flew to her mother’s defense, loosened Bobby’s clinging hands and bidding him good- night went off happily clinging to her mother’s arm. She had all the airs of a rescuer. One can think of so many ways in which the average mother might have bungled this situation that this little lesson in tact and the use of just the right plea at the right time struck this observer as particularly effective. On its fat | The Sidewalks of Washington BY THORNTON FISHER. “T suppose you wake up in the middle of the night and scribble down your ideas, don't you?” The person to whom this antiquated remark was di- rected is a man whose living de- pends upon his faculty for devising clever phrases and catch lines. “Wake up at night?” responded| the latter. k| should say mot. ‘When I retire I go| to bed to sleep. It would take some- thing, considerably, Jouder than an idea to entice me irom my rest. “I have heard of people who declare| that they are im- pelled to leap from bed to make a captive on paper of an inspiration. Personally I do not be- lieve there are many writers so inspired as to climb out of bed on a Winter's night in their pajamas or nighties to shiveringly jot down fleeting thoughts. “There are some, of course, who may occastonally do this, but none of my acquaintances are afficted with the habit. Mark you, I do not mean to say that so-called inspirations do not come to us at times, for they do, but most of us have to be awake to greet them when they arrive. We are busi- ness men just as much as if we were engaged in storekeeping. We indorse our friend's observations, and they should at once puncture the | PUTON MY LEFT SHOE | fallacy that writers and artists are | creatures of inspiration alone. A fa- mous novelist who was in Washington not long ago informed a group of young men that he usually sat down be- fore his typewriter at 8 o'clock. and, with the exception of luncheon recess remained at his labor until 5 or 6 in the evening. “Even when I haven't an idea, I place a sheet of paper in the machine and do not move from my chair until something begins to click,” he said. ‘We once enjoyed the unique expe- rience of watching a popular song writ- er compose the words and music of a number requested for an act. It was to be called for one Sunday evening. At 1 o'clock in the afternoon the maker of songs began to write the words. At 3 o’'clock he sat before his piano with a blank score sheet. At 7 o'clock the WHO REMEMBERS? BY DICK M. Registaged U. 8. ‘When Washington’s original jazz band consisted of two colored men with a banjo, kazoo and a bass violin made irom an old trunk top? one who had ordered the number called and reviewed the work of the compos- . ‘The plece was accepted, and a week later was being sung for thou- ands. Not much chance for inspira- tion in this instance. No group of men regard their work more seriously than those who write and {llustrate for the public. If they waited for an inspiration most of them would starve to death. * x ok % “I have just been musing over what slaves of habit we are,” said a success- ful professional man in this city. “The ‘detour’ signs this morning caused me to think about it,” he continued. “For a number of years I have been accus- tomed to following a certain route to my office. I can drive it blindfolded. Then, this morning, I had to detour be- | cause one of the streets on my route is under repair. The detour led me down several thoroughfares I have not been on for a long time, and I was amazed to see the transformation Some new structures had been erected since I last drove through those streets, and I learned something by changing my_course. “This may sound trivial, but let me ask what shoe you put on first in the morning. I invariably slip into the left one. I am not a southpaw, but I always insert my left leg into my trousers first. Why, I don't know. In fact, I never think of it. £ “I haven't changed my break- fast menu for many years, not because I am not tired of the same old things, but be- canse it has be- come habitual to expect them. “When I enter my office in the mornung. there are certain movements I automalically make. Habit is certainly the master of most of us.” & We have a friend who retires at a regular time each night. He arises early, not becatise he must strictly ob- serve office hours. On the contrary, he is the governor of his own time. but during young manhoed he acquired the habit of early rising. If he remains up after 10 o'clock in the evening, his next day is wasted away. EER] 1Into a second-hand book shop yester- day there sauntered an elderly man sadly in need of a new hat and pair of shoes. Slowly he p2rused the t'tles as he moved from shelf to shelf. Firally his eyes brightened ané he drew a volume from its place. “How much?” he inquired of the proprietor. “Fifty cents,” was the reply. The stranger inserted a hand in his trousers pocket and counted out 45 | cents in nickels and pennies. ‘t‘l:guh." he murmured, “this is all I've ot. “Well, call it 45 cen's, then,” said the owner of the book, smilingly. The man and the book went out of the store together. But he certainly needed some new clothes. 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