Chicago Daily Tribune Newspaper, September 11, 1875, Page 8

8 THE CITIC ()] “rco-holder doss tomarda tho publie. lero fan ~oring Iady that warks econan alio bolioven it Srrong to sit_in idiencen—is industrious trom grinciy lo and not necermity, Nots, tho bent advica I have read in al} corro- fpondenes contnlned 1 vour valuable payer an #hia pubject 1 that coming from reveral lahes wli connvol the untharriod of their sex to o in their dignity and becomo independent of tho xen Ly lenening how to do something. It e o me that i just sehal is needed. et tin ¢ Jearn ta perform tho ordinary datica of women. i weli 28 tho mon do thelrs: hocome crrditably yroficient In the art of housekroping, and thora il be fass dyapeptic Luebands aud brothers, 1 wore healihful and attractive wives and Jdaughters, Amenzariaw notoriousty delicient in well-cooked food aud good servants as £ho is vaperior in buminess talent, eneriy. and thrift, I thin beeanko the women are so industrious nud the imen indulent and weapablo 2 Na voang lady who possecues eny per-onnt at« tractious for n gentlomat need lokg remiin n {iits conntry without at least & tolerably desira- Vo bssband, if it is known that sho 1 9 eapus Tio and willing to discharge Ler duties iy tuo arital relation an the averazn youn Ameriran ison it his. Bomo of you try it and e2e, young Opsenvza, TAICHIGAN'S CONTRIBUTION. orof The CAfeago Tritie ¢ Mares VAruey, Mich., Sept. 8.—Thoto is atill roro thnt wants her ¢ & ou that aver- ntorestivg subject, mat:imony, We nte being coustautly remindod that the young men will not 1arry ud beeauso wo are ‘40 estiavagant.’ A hom daro say ihoy conld gol ns 2 Onr inascu- Jino frionds arc nover guilly of extravagance, b, no! Thoy can just comfortably care for ons on 82,000 8 your,—they ase 20 economical, surely it stho old eryof “mourgrapes.” When you fo chango your life and hebits that our unturay snmunet will not toach us to shun you, when you aie whata noblo, manly man ehonld b, o and not till thon, will you tind tho sonsible, wide- swako girl of '35 willing to traet her futuro with you, L would not danaunce sll men us being wnlrue, for do s not sometimen fiud g noble wj:ceimen, and valia hioy ng * prro gold 2 N stoikl 4 olinn ali women are '*angels. Lnve not beon g fortunuto ns ** Pausy.” 1 have woen men who bave dono all for a homs that the liest and nobiest eontd do, and hix only yeward wis s neglectod lowe aud an nussmpetineng wire, ll\ fow of tno vouns pents of the ** Gardon City ** have gdvertiesd theeeives g siell thore n uo dapger of our teiug vived as to their doepe. ‘Lhay Llessad *mx ' thnt patiently wit with folded bands waiting for * somothing to war they may bo tens sy y “womcbolly's paps,” vonld w0t sbont they would not Lo so Lot on 1he tirucial con-lition of said vapa, savdd oot dear * Cortiopoliiny,” how my lienrt s vt in sympathy {o b s bow plainly ho Yt tald e hie 1% too delicately orgouized to bear e tarden sud heat of the dar. When e ehpaees from tho wholo wotld, and marries + whomsovver e chooses,” 1 ata afraid bo will crtorta hiy duty aulifully, Good-by, saopolitan,” chetlali fenderly that *mico ion." as you will havo ueo foy it in tho Thov eay, too, wa do not understan:d opartmont that comes under tho bead of Havon't wro been learning o little well, nevoer low many year awh fiow many taen, that think who do not cematizes ia the wicre. 1'loaus do hot oxget 1o wmuch wore of un wen youesnba yourselves, Let *Agricols” 21060 the fact that there i one more ¢ city girl™ Jodes Chicngo's Dangliter™ that “knows womowhat of tho myxlarios of ho kitehen,— whe hyeth not & ihousend miles from Chicago, 3o this City Tuke hoed, guls: hio nover told un of the greal * asagaucal" 1 fanikc o must e reached (st awo whon bo | ees the folly of talkimg ol wbat ho kuows notu- 1z about. Ronsible nitn, T Uunts if houcacchos dihuemly we shall soon hear bim eaying, Somre” not *tines” aud be will rojoico aedl bo ezeeodiug giod, But T must go and gob dnwer; hwving but et arrived ab that comfort- alda uge when my clist delight is eating for wte,” 16 bowng tho * nust most deceitful thivg o ean! Tou. af ——. HOW TO DO IT. Yo the Liftor of The (hicugo Trivwie: Avnosta, Sept. fe-Iu your Hunday edition (“ent. B you hit the nail on the head sbout the quernago guestion, by vefortiug to tho roal, sub- etzntial propagatois of the race—thn working- wment and yo nelk, * fow, thon, ean e (the workinguan) mai How cou he bopo for o homo of s own, a touder wife, loving chil- dren# Ths workingian more often atid moro ustnely gow theso than his wealthy neighbor or employer, elmply becauso ho marries for love mouey, mar for show nud sod bo and Ny wife cenerally gob wbat thoy bargained for— Jovo, sud n hoalthy progens, that moko him otimes feel richor than the man of millions, slo away, then, yo mairimonial dreamiora, th tho quastion how to marry, aud how to hive 2torvards! You will nover secowplish wuch that lino Lill vou do as tho workingman dcos qenrrs, and go phendl—n ralo which incloden | nccconary cro Lo ot tho right ono: Lubit 1ot tho lingueinl quenstion. 17 you will not ofs thiw, yon ey doubtleed afford to do without o werangman's luxurg—*love o a cottage,” b § testify in no dream of tho faney. Wi muke matrimony o matter of duilars and centswnould oxpeet. to find thn vexation. I ¥ ullnot oxehauge my loved onos fur all the wenls Chicasto, : that, the moro wealthy oy o afrald of pove ldiors man nrkod me, 1 ropliud by asking, Canuot tho wants of all his obildsen? — And 1 our. end none of them luve starved, 1 daw't kot biuw wa have hvods but tho fiet 1 timply that wo havo lived, and happily, too, ut’ why do towdn and bacholors stop Lo B gglo, uud epeculste, and plulorophize, and coiculale nbout wwrrisge? Id it m tho farr of God mud of Naturo that overy mean phould bave Lis own wifo and overy weman hor own fuebeod? And while you aro wiiting and tuksling (o uequiro proporty, time flieks apace, und you reach tho uge of wonlity 2 “arolehed wiceinon of the wactched results of yesusing o obey God's law, whilo tho childron of th:0 poor man grow up in Labits of industry aud plnea thomuelves and their pareuts far bayond ilte yeach of went. Wons! A PRACTICAL GIAL. T ths Ltitor of The Chicayo Triviine : Cuicauo, Eopt. T.—1 havo vead with consider- ablo inntorest for the past twa wocka the articles upon matrimony in your pacer, bt have taken 20 part in thes mysolt, However, 1 feel now as if 1 would hko tocontribute asmall articly to your columps. 1 do not thisk T cuu weito onytling new upon the subject, but I whall curw my mind s Jittle, 3t vothing moe, fhey esy one of the prineipal reasuus 111 youny mon do nob marry i that they cannat rapport & wifo in idloucss, How, 7Y youg Indy of 20; have lived {n the city tho grosvr part of my lifo, and associated with vome of tho wenlthiest familiay, nud also thowo of the mi ddlo clasy, and tn consequoncy am . acquainted arith & greut may young Iadiey, 1 can think o? ou v ona or two who do not kuow how to do work. sull, 1 wil admut that wonio of theso ssime pitle would like to marry wesithy peoatlomen, sud Lo supportod in” idlenoss, Pho wmoess of - them kuow would 8 rTy & [oor wan if they lovod uim, and take ho'dand belp htm make n howo cheorfally and wiMugly. Auother reasun whe Lhey are ufraid to marry s, that thoy could not uiford to dross thom fu tho style they bave Loen acoudtomed to. Dits you kuow why tho Indien dross o binch 2 18 14 to please theso eamu youuy wou who oY 60 ‘w1 ich sbout gisls' extravagoncs. Al gootlemen hkeo to sev a lIsdy wcely dressed, and 1 have alwoys Doticed thak ont tn come papy thoso that wors the Lest dressod Ye- ceryed. the most attention, Cuy you blawe b young ladies for wanting to dreda well, for moss of them like Lo récuive fhe uttention of thi gentlemen, aud o lonk us tbe gentlemon co'vtitig to neglect tho pluly-drossed vios, {wit so loug will the girls try aud drees to the Lt of ther ability. A great many gl perted by thelr paronts to musry wealthy men, wual if ot who 18 uot calls ou thuir duughters tuey try aud discoursge bis vieiws, when thy rmao uirls, 3 let slono, would uarry souse yeos young wan just starsivg iu e, sud Lo far bappicr thau thoy would be tu wwu. sy a men juet for bis tnoney. As 1 have il before, 1 bsvo Jived in tho city the greator Jérs of wy life, and ww the only daughier of woll-to-du pavents ; have rocslved a fair educa- :00 sud sowo accomplishmenty, aud buve Lad 4 grest wavy of thy lusurics of life; we Lave hept wont of the time vue servant snd sowo fuues more, but Wy wmothier 1s 8 very practical uud onsible wowan, aud hins broughl me up tot tu touk down upou work, for 1 1t auy, more dis- wraeful for mo to vark theu tor my Tutbur aud i 1 i them, Dbrothare? Soma think o, T am acqualnted With a8 kindw of howeework, aud can put tho things on a horze and hiweh h'm up A9 ok a0 1004 et ; snd Taatly, entertnin come- pany in_tha parlor, * Now, yeung men, there ara Tmireds of uitly that ata ‘s grest deal emnrter than L am—if re anly wera looking for them, S0 in tutore L wonkt adgisg yoit fo ' ove yoir s upen s ot Judge uita s 2= Iy i QUE: Trivime : fon deserve thio thanks of tho ronding podlin far Aiverting at this time soung reoples attention Irom the biighting ery of *hard timea." the perplexing considantion of 8.0 intereanvertitls honds, the inflation and contraction of preenbacke, 1o resumption of gpecia pavinests, and the Ohio canvag, to tho mare ecngenial question, **Why young man and women donot sanrry.” Consides ing tho untaber of lettera you have siresdy receivad, reprozenting tho cjanions of nearly all elassos of citizeus oo tho matrmioniat queation. it way very cansiderate in you to mied, #nd ingitito for, the woikingmen. 1 am ove of a0d briefly cend yeu my experienco and By viewh. 4 T om & meckanie, 40 yoara of age, the happy possesuor of a wife and Aeven chitdron, tho eid- eat of whom ta 'G yesry, and the youngest 4. 1 was toceiving a ralary of £2 por day when T mwarried, sac had 21 (o sparo after fur- nishing o cottage for myrelf apd wife, Bix atter marrisgo I opencd an account in a and 1 have not closed it yet. grodually ralked from 22 par day Lo # 1,600 per year, epublivg mo to Fioep to iy hauk nccount, And keeuro & comfort- tond, 1 am jtborally educatitg my wping fivo of them as schuol—aud [ pava not peruiited my Wit to osrn a dimo Steo out marriage, _exceptivg what eho e carved o compotontly mavaging my Bonsgs wold, 1 bavo drank Loer and strongor drink when 1 helie yed it s benofit 1o mo. and I have also chowed oud smoked when It suited me. chiniren—i far T Lovo writton facts ; I whil now give my opinion. T Lolleve young men aro comitting a erime againgt ety and tho Htate Dby not gotting mazied. A buok might be filled with Lio ronrons why they to nob, but Lwill ouly mention four 1. I’aronts nra in too much of a hurty to have their daughtera married young : and liko othor commodities, witon the market is forced, prices tumble, aud demaud cesses, It is now the enstom when girls arrive af the ago of 17 to place them m the {ront ranks of tho matrimomial column, dressod in the latest fashion, and sentenced to ktand guand winlo thero 18 the faintest hopo of cateh- ing & husdnud. This praclico is not so very objectionabls when parants re weslthy, but f9 moral sulewlo to children of the joor, Reliove tho girls from this battalion dill; Keop thomn homo to assist tholr wmothers, aud learn s hittle of tho datics of housekcoping until s little oldor: gpive them as pin-money a percentage of fashiou' fee. nud thoy will beget a soll-1oitint, saury independoneo that will tend Toueh o Lring #eliools Of YOUNK toou 88 Suiturs 1o their feot. 2. Chureh rocicties aro sorlons hindrances to marriage. ‘Tavre is tov much style, gosaip, sud Visitig: smong tho memberd, 1F the brasy Jow- elry, satin veein, aud silk gownn wero forbidden the ehurches, and only liome-made goods ad- imitted. marriazes would multiply. Thero 19 no man pussossed of suflicient mnerve to f(u to n fashionablo chureh wociely for a wilo on an fneome of €2 per day. 1o mav beable out of 212 per week to ront and furnish o cots tago suitablo to hinwoll and wifo; but, ohi horror, will it wuit tho Jady momberd of the church, all of whom aro sure to visit him ; cxamining cvorsthig in detail, from his wife's undorgarments to the pateh- es on his worsig pantaloous. If young_ married people woro left to themsolves for xt Juant oito year after marriage, I think tho Tholy Datda ™ woulkd by more froquently tied, 3. Youug women hold themeelves too chesp 1 fady- yuaug mon, houliy that mon_ of this class Doy warry unleas napplied with self-supportir Wives, Gils, if youcan koep away from tho lady= Titier, yor vl do wuch 1o proziote carly mar- res. 1o may smusa you at 5u ovoninig party, bui he may also blast your roputationy in the ofiieo or tho workshop ness 4ay. 1, Oun tho subject of marriage mont {onn.". mou aro eowmdg, Toutead of taking leston from tho widowers, who marry ns often an a chanco offer, young tuen allow thomselven ta he frightene. from entering the only tappy statn in lfo by such baby searc-crowd sa the «lindow of & mother-in-larm, tho vision of roxsip- iz nj10stors, or tho slandorous uspersions ccet Dy their ausocinles on the honor of ull women. *Flioro §» 10 #enso th being wo much afraid of tho iablen kot Whet goatly tiod up it naver kurts, opiember, youny mon, that Foit can bo mastsrs yoar own houao; snd aldo that yonvery ofien air more danger in your effarts to gecura su 1ihicit embrace thau you may incur during a fife- 1imo of wedloe! And oh ! what a differauce ~ hiie comparity adalterated viuegar to the pure Jjuica ot tho grepe. URADURIND, A GOOD DEAL OF HEART HERE! To the Ecitor of The Chicago Tridune: . Curcaao, Seph. G—The yital question of *love wd warrlage,” though so *sickenlog and foolinl " to that moral sheot, the Chicago Times, is, who'lier we allow it or not, the great quoi. tion of the dny and tno world, 'Foo long huss falso 1doa of modesty voilod it from free discus. pion, and with your pertaission, Mr, Editor, I swill “upeak my picce " I uko to nco the boys telves and offond tho girls; fo seco the girls ‘‘take up arme egningt 8 &ca of troublos" jn tha fond Jiope that they may, ** by opposing, oud therm," comparativoly at least; but, anI always fiked tho litzlo boys t3o well to see them banishod from tho houso as * moisy nuisances,” so I hava o lingering foudness for tho big ones, aud {—Mehitallo, oo of thp girls of Chicago—am oing over to tho envmy. Wo liave somo fow (7) faults, gitls, ovon the beat of us, that rather disablo us as lifo-com- ponjons for tho ehioico specimen of tho prescot day known as Man. We are too much [n- olined to ** liopt, before see Mr, — (whom, by tho way, we like protty weil), 1will have some- thitg to woar bosido this emo old suit [ which is veally far from threadbare. and doos not show itw aix montls’® wear in oither material or stylo, "Wo liave nearly & dozon very good and ot very anciont limen coliars ; butwe don'y feol like woaring out thoso ©chokoy,” ko Vury passe, whilo tiho ** other girls” uro all blossotntug ont 112 1he ** Lurn-duwn ” (OF VICR Yorea) ; 0 utl, Wikl vhioes, tundkerchiofd, switches,” cufly, tied, critnpeen, gloved, fans nmbrelias, aud woauy, too many, other not quitn necessary articled uf expensp, thas we caunot sisk losing caste s oue (ricnda—geutiomen in pariicnlar— defend them- and ry woll yor want of. ‘Puere! f began to work for tho nt1kce I'vo made wprsuid inletake it ovon tho *‘dress™ subject,—their best hold,"—for don't wo ail dress as we do to gaiu tho good opinion of tho masculines 7 lvety il knows ths e face! Wien Miss wurs Femurky to tho above-mentioned ir. Whooo good opluion we rather covet yow'll remembor, ity looks & hittlo out of i her last wmtor's Jackot, don’t aut M — for politonuss’ ake, 10urmurY, “ Lathe Uraving offousc)y wnd an oflicious mutual rtend (7) ovorbiears and reports tho same, wo 20 (uito Ikely to decide tuwardly that wo witt hnvo w now cloak et Buturdey night from Jhelt & scitor's, it it tukes ous outno wool's carnings for the ¢ioth, aud avothor wook's earn- Jugga to mako it! Not'to pleaso thio oyo of Mus Laura, thoug, not a bit ot it} ‘Tho new oo, 1f 120t Of Uit 48 LIK6 Diaterial, or as warw ns tho old, i not, wo thinke s dittlo apitefurly, “out of dotbi” sod, thoush we mearly mwmed our oyosight in it. mauuiscture, we oxtinct wlight graius of comfod ftom tho certaity \hat Mr. —— will uppreciate, thut, though wo *work Tor o Jiving,” wo sie not entirety Lind to the pecomsivy of ** boconung aud tastcul rosm,” out, girls, we must all leart tally and practi- vally tho detals of housukoupivg. iicre, ot jcust, wo caunot ehonhier tho biswme of our short-comiuge op the boys; OVery ouo of ua nhould bo cupable of dotiy uil the uccessary work of 3 pnall amily ; hen if wo are lucky enduglito tave cosuly Lomes aud wany scrvauts, shall wo not bo eblo to uspire tho sometimes overboar- ing Lridges or Latrick with a wholosuue awe uuid roverenco for our superiority, oven i their own depnriments ? z 1 wieh Jiuew, personally, ‘¢ One of Chicaga's Daughters,” though aicher thau I (in more \eayd thun one § feur). 1 believo sho must Lo & soneible girl, aud 1 dearly tovo all suctl. Buch snothers an hors aro the **glory of the world” sug ve children, if » littip rebellious at firat, ap- precinto thow in aftes yoars; 1 kuow, for Lhave ono wyself. 2 Wo wel * (instoad of maufully nover really rich, but 1 did some- carpeuter, SEPTEMBER TRIBUNT : timen think it wan rathor unjust that T mdat do tho baking, whilo Mamie, Ida,and tirace, whota pareura woro no wealtndor than mine, wero ont aftor fowees, or tho pond, skating: T azain, oven ot that early day I felt the gap arity of my vosition of neofainess twhen, on own-towh trip with there sama Do=oni-Telonds, e all anw, longed for, and 1 oaly could bay, on the spot, o box of “cholre mixtires, poaches, or cotored crayone. M., L, and G, would slnass 141283 pa ta by ta sonie fo-morrow. ™ 1 easn g comfegtable salary now (moro than my former weeldy etipond), trom which I livo comfurtabie, amd have, during tho bast vear, saved which anm ehoull have boen ot lenst ot largos eould T enromyroll of somo of thow. nunecesvary wastos of shich Liold voi.. 1 board, 0 it Is tinanenlly to my sdvantago to work my hoad rathor than my lands at prevent 3 but I hinye that pleasing conrcious- heas that [ am *worth my keoping” and more, too, A8 A kitchan girl or & busiucds part. nor.. L hope, am nnxious (only niy dear mother knowa how auxione), to marry, and erjoy a homo and family ; it I hopo God wiit bleess mo with & Man sho will be at onco an intolligout and refined comoanion, and A tender. toving Lusband ; with whora { may hopa to make and find a real hone, Rnd to whom Ieaa aver turn for comfort, aid, aud ssmpathy in thoss dark hors of tronblo and peni which must como to ovory tiua wifo. 1, though uat yaur cotrespondents, have mot with gentlemen who, ualike * Cosmopolita: Willing 1o elinro my cares through life; v themeuelven with tho necessary * relf-patnifices” withont hopes of a ** mmriaga portion™ ; but my tdeal man has nos yet come; ho whom I conld hope to love, ondr, and respect Ull death shoutd 80 freoly bleasad (7) 5a gome of overal pritus. 1 ‘“bopocn, hopo ever” Better find myrclf an “old mald™ soma day than do worse! Meanwhile, girls, lot us try to improve onr- wolvas, and 60 fiely oacls othor, Granted that wo ato * too guod " for tho ** Lovely 8ix”; but grant, slso, that, iry weover 8o histd, we can Jiever beeomo too wiso, ronsible, aud goad for 1ho true mon for wham wo wat. Don't let asbo silly because soma of tho bogs aro 1 MenITApLE, THE PENALTY. 10 the Tilitor of The Chteaan Teibunt. Citrcaoo, Sopit. 7.—1aving road soveral of tho lottors on the marril question that have Iately appearad in your journal, aud failing to find the difticultios in tho case squeroly anwwered, I am induced, by reading vour editorial on martiage znd povorty, to Iay boforotho young poopla as brielly g possible o way o which they can got marred on 2300 a yesr. If thoy will pay tho peunlty, it may Lo reduced to 190 year, and still lower, the penatty of conurse being correspondingly severo. 1t in tho way that tha great urwy o sobor, in- duatrious workingmen do in this aud all other countri®, It iy uo patent; it ls not a now- faubiionad way. and no ono has the monopoly of it. Itishydevotingoneselt faithiully to themost remunerative, houcat lubor that can bo found. and living within ouc'sincome, 'Tho ofd proverh that **The diligent haud maketh rich." in not perictly truo withort somo qualiiication, Greay wenlthi i only pousible to n few, 08 to xny per- fonal effort miet bo euporaddod o _rare combiva- tion of circumstancos bevond tho individual con- trol. But a moderato competence {8 within tho resch of all who will pragtico industrious and fruzsl baebita: und right horo 19 too pen- aity, io that it calls for & dogreo of sell- denint which 8 _nmost heroic, ft rojmres tho dangheer of Deunis tho Inborer, or John tho to dony heielf the gorgeous finery which is dieplayed by tho duughters of tho Al- Tony or the Fiwka of fashion. It admonishos Adolphus tho clerk, witl s 3800 a vosr, that ho caw't atford to gpond as much out of that an Lis omployer, with his £3,000 and vast re- tources ot his back, In short, it requircs nothing Jesn thau to renounco_ganio of tho most impurtant foatures of our social syrten. A clear illugtention of this is_ween in the dificrenco wmong workingmen. Tho aserags Awerican Jnechanic receives HIGHOE wago# 13 tho averaze «wa will ray) German mochsuie, Tho lattor gen- wrally has the largest fatuily, nud yot we Bud fhay he sceamulates property fastor than tho Am can, notwithstandmg his superior nd“-‘lnlng{ but you will nolico that the wifo and_daugh! of thie Gelmen aro not afrsidtogo down town In n** porfoet fright ™ of ahonnet, 1don't wont to be undsrstoud a4 waying that they ave wo, for J. beliovo thoy dtces as uppropiistely asthuir mor.o facliouablo sisters, but the question of ltncss ot comeliness Lias 110 woight in the mattor ; ¢ iy the fact that a certaln garmoul is not of the rmmlem fashion that s wo crusbiog to her prido. This samo principlo upihes with anunl fores to uny other oxpouditnre which in dispropurtioned to the incowe, A fashionabla clitreh will swallow up doltars just as easily as an oxtrasausnt wocial circle. And ibis just as ca, indeod it is easior, to bo on the brink of usuperisin with the pruncely rovenues of o fial- ston than with what some would call tho paltry pittanco of o duy laboror, JoR B A NEW VERSION. To the Editor of ‘T'he Clicam Tribune : Cuircaco, Sept. 9.~1 thiulk somo of tho stories told Ly your corzespondeats on this marriago (uestion aro * too attentated.” Threo years ago, baving been told that a man could livo s4 coaply warriod as. siugle, T took unto myself & wife, and folt like & Princo as T put an Alaska on her queonly-shapod Land. e was very pratty, madorately atylish, and bashful—timid eye, ote. ALy age was 33 sho 20, Salary 1,000 per sunum. Tho yoar beforo marrisgo Wy cxpanucs Wero approximately as followa: i Board, $05 Total.. eonensevesrs Thus I saved about £150 that year Tho year after marriago 4 100 20 200 0 Clothea for wife, 200 Anusements. .. 0 Totaleressns eerriessennsnesses s $1,200 1 gava up my cigars and billiards. For tho first four months, things went seom- ingly swimmiogly, as 1 had my nocumblations in the bank to draw from, you know ; but lo ! thera came o chango; bank acconut * busted,” bills comiug to,~uo mouay. Theu I roasoned with ny darling, and suggestod that wo cut down ex- pausen, to which sho sssonted. Iirut, wo most tako n chospor house, sald I firmly, but sbe mildly remonsirated that wo couldn't got a hog- l;uu uny cheapor, and, whon I prossed my point, or timld syon glwred fuartully a8 uhe nrm“:elud e, o over the hicad with ** Tho Happy Tlowaver, wo made up. Auy roform [ might suggoet sho opposed, { pavo up getting uny clothos for wysolf, drossed i rags; bat my noble, wolf-sserificing geocrosity touchod nu womanly chord ln ber breast. ‘Fuingn grow from bad to worke, 1 obtaimed niguswork ; my eyo grew haggard and wild ; wy choak palo aud wau ; my chostnuy Iufi:k: uukempt nud suagpy ; my kneos weak sud shaky, During a)l this trinl my darling would com fort me by romurking * 1f £ was a v and cot'd not support my fauily, L would Llow my brang out,” sd elmilar consolatory expresxions. Tut ono night, srriving b home after tolling past midnight, 1 found the house empty and de- Hortod (excopl a fuw unpsid bills left sticking on tho wall), aud n polite, katcastic nate inforuing me that sho had sold out aud clopad. Wath a wap, sickly suile, snd an unatesdy hand, 1 graupod a revolver, and with it pointed. ahovo Joy cranium, dischargod tho contents ¢t its soven chambers with tho wiid yoll of joy. “Phank heavou thet on this dth day of July I ugain o free.” . ‘Graduslly tho bloom of health roturned o my cheek; [ gow fat and lazy ond prospored. My ‘wite wont to t. Louis and now eports u damagoed ** puil-back " aud a dollsr cunin, Ob! 16V0RKG I8 WOt Now, Mr. Editor, pleaso lot those poor coun- tar-Jumpers hava the beneflt of my experlonce, xnd conmder o thy reclivivg nlnud.p STILL, ANOTHER TREASURE. o ths Kdtor of Tha Chicayo Tribune; Caieaao, Bept, T.—~1t it is not too late, plosse put this noto tu your paper for o, 1have been deoply intorested 1o roading tue many articles 1 agree with ** Alaud Ayrtto” lu thiuking that ktowing how to danco does not unfly ove for Lousebioid duties. I lhiave boon called s **socioty girl,” sud 1 admit that I liko operas, theatres, partios, utc, not overy might, but as m roliet and recroation from daily dutios. I have beon told many times that I wos one of the most beautiful dancury in Chicaga, but 1 would not be afiatd to competo with suy ove in wakiug bresd, cake, aud gottiug up & diuner. I Liayo been L SATURDAY, I]| 1875 —SINTEEN Has a Fromtage of THE HOST ELEGANTLY FURMISHED AND "THE MGST HANDSOHELY DECORATED HOTEL Bvery Possible Safeguard Against Fire has bkeen Adopted, and the Building is Completely Fire-Proof. TS VENTILATION IS SURPASSED IN NO OTHER BUILDING IN TUE WORLD. 1t Has Over Six Hundred Rooms, Two $3.00, $3.50, $4.00, $4.50, and $5.00 a day, according to location of Rooms. called “utylieh and gracetul,” but I can serub nud dust o houso as well (if not batzer) than nny Christino or Dridget 1 huvo weon yot, 1 can ploy and sing as woll as the majotity (which is not saving muelt), sud can sad do mako ull my own clothos, and muny of my hats. 1t does not pleaso mo to Ye ealled & **socioty glil,” for tho gonersl accoptation of the term ina moro buttortly, 1 do not wish to apy:car conceitod, to o thought better than other ghils, for there ara numbers of girle with mosa accompiishments than I possesa who aco equally s good houso- keeperd, 1 om 21 yenrd okl, and havo bad good opy.ortupitiva of marrying, but 1 da not intend {0 marry for a homo slon«, a# I want a hnuband who wifl be good and kind {o me, and think more of makiug our homo happy than of making movoy, I o glad that ono man—* William "—aclmowl- odges that men are not | uro enongh for women, —for_we all_kuow it,—but hiow ckn we halp ite ¢ + Willism " aud any mora like him could bo- como koown, thoy would find thst nil women Coven anong the ¢ vaclety girls”) would not turn their backs on thowm simply hocaugo_thoy were aot drunkardys and hborttnes, Reveces. ONE MORE HAPPILY-MIATED MAN. To the Kditor of The Chicam Tribtine - Cutrcaan, Sopt 4.—Whilo witting in my room at thohotol T was mich amusod, indood odified, teading tho mauy aud varied idoan on tho matri- moninl quostion. This 6 n subject of grave - fnportance, Lut als! how very few young men and women look st the subjoct avight. “Love iy Dlind” ia an o0ld saying, and must be sdoutted to bo a Lrue onp, Yot At tho aame timo wo connot expect to fud porfaction. Now Mr. Wil W, Wilson, one of your lattor- writers on tho subjost at isne, has just tho klen ot o wite. IHosays; It mattors not whother sho be worth thousands, or huy but one calico dross, if sho hias a pretiy faco, o good heart, snd good oommon sento, suo i tho girl for me. Mr. Wil- won is sound : may bo find just auch o gird ; vhe will bo worth hor woight u gold 1 can assuce him or auy other vouny man, for I speak from oxporlanco, Ty wife boin fust such n girl when T marriod hor, aud, God blews hor sbo Lua proved 8 true, lovng, and gool wite, and wont devotod mother, Young wen, it ull layu with you to chango the ontiro systont of traming Young ladies; Mmako up your infudd you waat muuh a wifo a3 Mr. Wilson wanty, and as Xdaily bleas God 1 have, and marry no oiher; thon voung wowen will seek (o be more what heiz Heaventy Father would lave thow be, aud thoir carthly paronts will inore substantially edurato their daughters and tho better fit thom +| for man's happncus. v Agricola," ouo of your writers, finds fault that sa masny young men lay rountd tho city, when they should ** go Went " amd assist in building * up homea iu the beautiful country.” He iu, T am well nattistled, right; but, 3r. Editor, it would ba wen it ho ur somo oue who is posted were to onumerato somo of thosa places tlat ars really worthy of & young maw's votice, I kuow suvoral young mon roy- wolf, who want to get out of the city, but **ga Wost " takos in & largo country, and when yoang meu havo not means to truvel all over the Wost to find a dewirable Elncfi, 1t would be well if thes had sowe toasonablo udes befors thoy startod. Will **Agricola " reply ? 1L A PROFOUND SECRET. o the Editor f The Chizugo Tribune : Cuicaao, Hopt. 9.—Yon do not state in oxact flgures just bow many youug men aro awaiting the matrimounisl arguments of your msny cor- rospoudents belore deciding to propose. 1 am 1welived ta think, however, that the nrgumonts thut will * wottle their biash for them,” aud, for that watter, mako it tov, will be thoso irresisti- bie ones that can bo soon in pull-backs on our etreots any day, ‘Thoss aro tho argumonts under which the matrimonlal plaus aud spacifi- catlons of our young mou aro more aud taors modifled until the only pocniuiary quostlon fs the in your paper ou tho subjeot of * Matrimony.” | oo of paying tho wmivister. Lut it is possiblo® there are somo who, from not having enough 1dvo of ono kind, and too much of anothor, may be ablo to take a cool, calculating viow of marrisgo and bring it dowa to ono of figures. To such I wish to hopart ‘a socrot. It may seem strange thoro should bo one upon a subject thought, talked, aud written avout 10 wuch, but such (s the fact. Hundredw kuow of it, but to the goneral public, and the Lachielor in partioular, it isa profound socrat. Over One I TELE PAGES. _G_AND PAu. o CFRATND PACILFIC THE LBADIVG WOTEL O housand Feet, HOTEL. WORILD. Hugdred of Whith are Arranged en suits with Bath-Rooms, efc. Hoino ono has truly sald that tho amonat of civ. ilization of s people can bo micasured by thew treatment of woman, 'Lhia rulo is applicablo to overy ndividual; tho botter a man tronty thie ladio of his fawmily, the more iuieliizent e will bo fouud to ba, ~ o aro comlug up frmn barbarisw, and aro not sot 5o much civilizod but that we utill misuse and misroprasont women. Particularly do wo sbuso hor when we talk of tho busbands ebe hss ruwinod by lher oxtravagauce. Whoro thero is ono extravagants Iy-dressod noman, thero ars n dozen who do not rees os woll as theis husbands would bave then; and thin fa tho secrab which I coud dontially givo thoso who aco decp fu figures upos hix nubject, Extravaganco Is wholly a masculine attributo: women tako to ecconomy s naturally aa o duck takes to wator. Tho rich dreeses ur athe ematician will goo to olten aro ot ovidences 4o wueis of womon's oxtravagance as of tho sffection of husbande aud fathers. Fur- thermore, these drossca aro not all g0 uX- pensive; very many of them owe thoir euuty in two sonsca of the word to tho being within them; aud tho percontago of ospeno 13 stlll furtbor :oduced when w0 Lako Into consideration tho leugth of timo the valuablo dreasos can bo mado to last. The quostion of expouss I8 always one of roat embarrassment to the young wifa. Hor natural sovaitiva and veonomical ~ disposition is atlit further incrcased by tho gencral complaint of Woman's cxtiavagance, aud sho ofton Locomes atmont doutltuto us to dresses, and’ln rags as to underelothing. before tho bhusbaud becouios ulivo to_tho selt-donisl sho s pruc- ticing. Of course, thero nro oxoeptlons, ‘Thero aro_ women who bave heon Lho ruln ot thele husbands by exteavagance, and thore aro mon who would complum if thoir wives speut oont a yoar, ‘And flually It Is cowardly to havo too greats fear of mistortunc and owmbarrassment. I wo follow tho very Luowing man who hag been too cuto to marry, o cautions to dan- fiermmly invest bis copital, and who as with groat prudenco sud forcthonght cnmrullr guarded against all the troublo that fieah 1 heir to, wo will find that ho las cut off aboul everytbing worth Mving for, and ihatl ho i living a fint and Josiptd life. Troublo Is not always 8o much 10 be nvoided us to bo sue- mounted, Tho sweols of thia life ure given mostly to thote who '*do and dare.” M. M. SOME GALLANTRY LEFT, AFTER ALL. To the Kdwtor of The Chicago Bribuns ; Erary, 1L, Sept, f.—Having read with much intoreat your arlicles on tho ali-absorbiug toplo of matriwany, I wish to ¥ay a word to ooryoung mon, Iutho first place, thoy must soon learn oconomy. Tho ontlook at progont iu that wo aro coming down to hard pan ence more, and the day of big wagen and little work is fast disap- poaring, aud young mon must throw up thelr Dbad habits which are the cursa of tha countiy,—whicky, cards, snd tobacco,—aud get back to living as they onght, A men, Lot loafors, ‘Then I dare sy tho youog ladios will ba only too gisd to make happy homes for the thousaud mud one young mon who, without reform takos place, will saon be sad wrocks ou & voyago just beguu. And Lofore young mon talk af tho exiravaganea of the duts, thoy hetd bottor look at themselves, with hoir tavan, dirty habits, aud son whak thoy have to offer for a good, puro, and acononical wifo, 1 voutiso to 68y, in 8 groat musjority of cases, thie girls gos tho worst of tho barkain. Yours, Dreexprn. THIS WASN'T WRITTEN BY A GIRL. To (he Liditor & The Chicago Tribuns: Krosu, Ia., Bept. 5.—)y ma soys that she wishes to gooduess that I would burry up sud got mariied, Bho iy elways complainivg about expeneos aud euch hotrid things 3 but how can IdosonodlI find somo nico young man with sufliciont meauy to support me in tuo stylo to which T bave beon sccustomed? 1 donm't believe it & gitl's becomlng © more drudge ns soon s he gots mariled, just as shio onght to bogin to enjoy lfe and seo something of tho world, Ihate housework svy way, aad dou't caro who kuowa it sud 1 know that most of the girls of my soquaiutanco, that have any styte, hate it, too. Whas a fool a girl 14 to get married and havo to sweep stalrs,cook, and stay, at home il the time, ond tend disagyeoabls young O for one, don't intend to do if, and snelthior doos any of ourect, The idea of those horrid, siily women writiog about gatting wer. sied aud living on & tlat, sud uot going vo any FTOEIN 3. IDIRAFELE] < (el s et il TR bridal tour, and how ridiculous {—ouly liaviag 3100 to dress with in n whole yrml_‘ll uess thoy would ook like pocfect frigiits ?)cfuln the'end of the year! I think enich 1k is Tow and vary ungentoel. When T gel mazried L will not keop house unlern Lesn Wa iu regpeclalie siyle. I om afraid wo may uot bo ublo to koep our earringo, hut I must wve & placa whoro £ van recoiva. 1f I cannot hve wroporly 1 would rathior board, Auywsy, thero ara s greut many vory_pgontect propio who board. "fhore's Mrd. Ilirickes, who has sueh fovely diamouds, always ‘boards hors in tho winter and ¢oos to the spriukd in tho smnmor, and whon 1 an married £ will go to tho springs in the summor, Of that 1 am de- torminod. Whiat tho tnon really Waut s to have thoir wivos moping at home whilo they sro off pleasuring, Yours, devatadly, lisxic Hasa, CULTURED MEN AND WOMEN. o the Editar uf Lhe Chicano T'ribunc: Cuicsao, Hopt. 5, —leing {nterosted in the dlscussion ¢ Vhy young people do mat yosrry,! permit ma to Aay B few words to young mon and youpg women. "' make wmonay kocms to bo tho only aim ia tifo for young mou. From their carliost yoars this doctrine has beon fveulealed upon them, and overy higher, nobler thought is deomod sub~ serviont to money-making. Very fow young mon have any sott of s cducation boyond that Ynowias s * busno-s courss.” If thoy are auly monog-producing machives that is sufiterent, T grapt 3 but If they aro men, if thoy ‘havo braing and Irtollosts, this education dooy not safilce. It 18 trio that many sre forced to work for thom- olvos at oven tonder yoars, bug tharo aro alio pleaty who rofuse n thorough catlegiato courso (row (udolonco sud disincliuation to study, Aftor begiuning businoes, itu caros sbsorh them #0 clowoty that at 25 their mental improvemopt 8 5o moro viwble than it was at16. A knowl- edge of the wo:ld I, perhaps, all thoy have soquired. Vory good in lts way, but by no weans the eno thing noedfal, How abont young Iadies? L'ho genorality of them go to fasbiouable schools till thuy aro 13 or 10 years oll; then thoy ** graduate,” snd aftor hisusoloss porformauce nll nfontal disciphng, all study, 16 ontiroly cast nwide, s ronund of disgl- pation fallows, andsoouor or Jutor tho giri 4 com- mits uatrimeny.” To whom? To soma highly cultivated, thinking man, No, To somo ono whoso intalligenca is often moro lmited than Bor own, ‘Thero are, Lowever, & fow soillary oxcoptions to this 'closs, A girl, efter loaviugl eetool, koops up bLav langusgos, roading, or uuy particular braveh of stndy in which eho i most interosted, nnd nlowly and atoadily ndvancos in epif-improvement. Hho ooy into sovisty, sod tries to iptroduce BOMO> tiing more souxiblo 1w convorsation thau what 18 gooorally hoeard. Dut her companions are not Ploayed withi hor pedantry, as they torm it, sud Lho fu not much atiractad by tho shailow igno- yanoe of thowo whosre hor iuterior iu culture, A clovor girl iu tho English uccoptation of tho Word 8 n yare avis, und, i€ sbo doos apposr 1 uocloty, caunot bo iterestod iu tho frivolitics of iho fusbionsbios, dud ehe =~ waou Withdraws fom thom. 80 it 4 withau intollect- unlman, 1o fluds uo ploasure i the couiany of umndrods of averago so-aatlod +* excallout ™ young meu and wowou. ¥ keens iulus mers ‘congonisl bachelor apartmeuts, aniply entertaped by his books, amd oqually cul- tivated masonline frionds. Ho ho iy ‘prwhcnllv owt o wocloly. A girl desirous of kuowlng nsoro at 30 thau sbo did at 20 will not aucoood 37 slio marrioa a man OF lcss intolligeucs than her- well, for iu nino cares out of ton the intollect in a wowan s streugthened by thoe influenco of & weraug masciline wind, How many women 635 are any further advanced in any branch of loprn- {ug than whon they left scliool 2 Iiow many are onough iutorested to pursuo any particulsrstudy ond porfect themselves in It merely for tho love of study ¥ Uf courno, thorearo mauy sllow- =ucas to ba mado for them. 1t married, theybisvo fomily caies to absurb their tine, and very, vory ofton their bustauds ara men dovoted to niovey- makiug, with no intercst in self-improve- ment, snd lmunlu;i evun less than the superticially oducated wifo, Auy clover, . tolligent girl would rather romsin eingle, un- lesa sha could look up to her Lusband, and, whont douttful of her own judzaiont, uu. lu‘lltlhn;‘:,?' roly on hlw, If men waut thorough- Iy ouucated, thinking wives, they inust dovoto more thmo to their vwn seif-culture, for thera are women who are earnestly secking uftor +Truth,” and want o guido and director lu the wau they choose for & husbsud. Thisis ono Taason why sowe gicla do uot marey, for thoy could not very easily tind many such meu aupng North, and South, Progr:letors. T — !hfl‘lh;oll‘! of young 0xquisite “gacioty.” o8 that constituts Wipow Beport. A PLEASANT EXPERIENCE. Tothe Editor of The Clucano Tribuns: Gryeva, Sopt, G6.—There Las boon so much eaid about fashionsble girlB—thal they wore o extravagant, and so unfit to mako good wivea! 1 would say to those fashionablo but poor yousg mnen that they Lnow but vory lttlo sbout those faghionable muls. Mowever, I wilt give thom my exporionce of waeried life. My husband mat mo first ot my eistor’s. Blo wass wealthy sud fashionable wowsn, aud I belonged to that clasa, 1fo did not know that 1 under stood auythiug but dressing and making wysolt ogrocablo. I was 18 and le 20, s tall, hande somo, manly-looking follow, with tho best of lonlth, good babits, refined in manners, ol in- anstrious. This was all tho capiial he posuessed, and ol that I required in s busband, o wes gotting n yearly salary of #000. Ile pro- posed marrings, and X accoptod. e wovo marriod when I was 10. I thn told lnm that I_understood all kinds of Louse worls, and that T was in the habit of maliug all my ciothes, nnd that we would takes pleassot homo on 8 goud strcot, and that I'would pay sl {ho oxpennes of the house, We routed & bilex houso; my fatbor furnished it with tho oxception of the diulng-room sl kitchou my busbaud did * that. onpoged o green Gormon girl, smart and inte! gont. Then I put u sdvertisemont in i oper to tho offoot that @ flrat-clsss privite wnily would tske two gentlomen and toelt wives to board, whero they would rocoive al tho comforts of & home, Soversl spplisd. toolk two that I thought would bo tho most dosirablo. One party boarded with us four yoars m;.fl I.:mg othe uxe. eq&‘"] n,h“’r:;m Walory tho firat veor A3 , tho %1,000, tho fousth §1,200, and tha fifth €160 Tis nsod his monoy t0 good advantago, but +ull workod on & salary, and wad amployed by the samo firm from firet 4o last, When wo had beou marrlod pjght yoars we ware worth $20,000. W ind ot tast casto, and In tho meantime hsve vob Jacked onjoymont. We havo attouded loctussly tho thoatres, aud often tho opera. Wo dauos and I play the piauo as watl, it not bottor, thad Whon wa waro married, sud we sro still youss aud fresk, Wo biave tho same Gorman glrly we Liaso troatod her as if sbo waa human, Bbobs Lad & nico, couveplout room, with ! hoft lsir waitrosy and mpiral-spriog bed She i4 as pout hor halitt as any Indy, and s competent housckesper. ) Lnow mavy a fashionable girl who {8 just s come potont uy 1 was, but thoy do noi make a practios of tolling 1, 'They aro always more nmbitiont to becomo somothiLg, snd will scrific moie (0 accomplish it, snd not maxo thomuolved com* mon in doing it, than auy otler class, M. W, ————— A LETTER. afany thanka for my papers ! The masage—s 1t 10048380 it was, duac~1 rezd With s sorrowful lidurt : did §t pressga Your luve as deapairing—or dead 7 You weary of silenca,—of spending Afar off thess profitieas years ; You loug to zecel , or ba sending, ‘Homw proof of our (aith or our fears, Of cur falth 7 Why, sy fricad, did I doubt Yo% Etiatenco would lose half Ita sest} Trecious hopes centrs in and sbout youy— Your love fa my and Tost, Of our fears,? Who can vox oralarm ua ? No trony imars our friendsbip s yeb ; What eVl can threaten oF bart us 1 ‘Wliat chance bring us aliame sad regret ¥ Aro your dayw novar brightened with visions? Your niglis hever filled with awect ams T ‘When fogether, through gerdens Ely: Wo float upon Mly-fringed stcoasis, At our e2as, on soft anshions rectining, Wa feal thiat all trouble is past § That abova us a glad sun b ahining, ‘Aud love will viornally lsat, From tho Bummer-stospsd hls to the chiliness 01 grven foroet-dell, Baught is koard Baxo u plash, of a 801G, through tho stitlness Of spray-breathing fountain, or bird. With the tipple and fucenss come stealing ‘low languor aud tremulous Ll N bbids and our lips tout, fovealtng the pasaion and foy of & ke, But the night wanee—wa wake ta the Diorrow, 'Aud Ioatho our awaling. O, friond, Tt tis bope uad Lisve atlonca’ all sofrow, A pariing, sad cure, LaYe A ci Latsl