Chicago Daily Tribune Newspaper, September 11, 1875, Page 7

THE YOUNG PEOPLE. Thoy Manifest an Increascd Dovotion to Their Dopartmont, Codoubted Apprecintion of The Trihme's Efiset to Give Thew a Heans of Communication, gut They Must Fix in Their Minds the Fact that “Brevity Is the Soul of Wit,” And Learn to WWrile on Only Onc Side of a shect of Paper, py Observing the Abovo Suggestions Bluch Incomvenience Will Be Obviated. With These Few Remarks, tho At- tention of the Reader Is Called to the Letters Which Follow, They Will Bear Pafient Rcading, for They Contain Salid Chunits of Wisdom, Evolved from the Inncr Concolousness of Maidens, Wives, Husbends, and Boys. THIS MARRYING BUSINESS. Lt up thy volce, 1oy weairied mure, and slug | + Koot of rliyme into tLis confab briug | ALravo chianico this, for madils and mateless nien, Todict heaugh lfu'a blitd wpacen it thio pon { at, ufter all, T doubt not it ia To give thio quizzing-ginsa aud fan a reet, Aud, whilo we flout thio vther elde (d'5¢ b0 ?), Beor up our Wits, and our orthugraphy, And shisko thens doubtrul questions to the aun ; Though naught roward us but & grai of fuul b, wifie of minie, cound I and yoil, Agiin sfloat withia that * gumy eative,” i tho bright waves of that enchanted s=3 Toat bopataten life’s Llooms and barveste, we Would rbow tiiceo Lattiug lovers what to lo ! fhould all Lo married, T don *t know ! Those filub mustacltoud young 1 On stlteifko unidery fus, niid w: TWith hoartu lpaled upon & Lil Whoee atuall bratne atiidy wli Wi, 00t other side, thoto matde uufld, By besri-constricting foshlons Lalf-way killed, Who sit and slaper all the belght day ling, Ovcra drashy (ale, or practice thidr “ dingdovg,” Wlo cannot ke & Ioaf, ot mmond a shirt— Methioka that such wero ouly made to firt ! Tiow ean thea terilo alioulier ever boar wlong Thelosdy of 1ife atnkl the busy thrung? Wit 4 thera sn this tan sud tonelers blood to thrill Thestretching Futuro with 8 moviug will? They are Lk suckors rouud tho Lumun ruot, With Ira€ and tanacl, but ncapable of fru ] M weil that theso should wtand allgned I sexusl war— 3 Trokes to cry, “Tla too expoueivd far Topiarry in thiens days 1 Ll slics. Towil and wait in tanguit enes, Wilh drooped eyes pleading, “Oourt me, If you Ppleasa | ¥ And rouged lips murmuriag, * Oh, benenth the sun Anollier 1wan Lke papa thory’s uot ono 1% 4ad now, beloved Muso, wo'll Lrust that Giod peaple will forgivo uk, §f we'ra cyni Alitls cynio acld, the protessom sny, Tsgood to burk naclety'® dry-roinway, I foe to o that 11080 o havo the most 0f hose 2ood thinym that satiafy # mins host,” Grow more and more inclinod 1o leave (ifo's * pokes Aad rugged dutios Lo tho oticr {ulka ; Torss whst mating-graces thoy possca A trumnp-osrds in ioir gamo of esfishinees ; dnd make the good ship Courtehip (If yun plerse) Afrightful Ako sasliug for tho Golden Ficeow, Toget on Loard of which—it wise delny— Trey wait till quite avaured the thing will pay, Tor Lovo ‘getnst worldly prudence i a sin Vatil you know twill Lring you something in | Tts for this that Leaux and maldens siow Thatmielves 1u robes whose oet—sl, well 1—ihe seam- awrs kuow, Aod flirt, aud satiint with diplomsts canttan, Acroen {lio fgnres af euch othior's fortnue 1 Uouny's Vo thlug, of course; tho corpus (st you ety Tetnd'ia'tio meston of your fine decer, de o o ) 4y Jith Sne-art smile, and thin veneor of love, The Uife-Incnmbrance is thereof,. Boclety of Fashion nukes v votaries dream the chiaf ond of bolug i to eccn s Bacerity stops down snd out where'er the trada ia ly the art of Leing * geutlemen ” aud *lndles,” Truih s & sart of country ecousiu 1o tho aris By wbich ara captured gold, fadr famn, and bearta s A wlile-faced boor, whore loud and r.u«rlllfl drawl Habes us sebamed of owning biin at all, Whea Love is made & sccondary thing, , Abd wodiock but cat's-puw meet (o Dring Tia Moutuing chiestnuta 3rom snother’s fiv., ¥ast wouder that fts moral atatus is 1o Lighor that of other usnal tricka and traded? And that the hearts of polished 1neh snd muld Ot dipred 1 love, like bite of miuch-used sixoge, Grow harsh sud Barwhar, each succording plunge; gusye of the lipa, from ewecteuvd alisua, Deginerates aud tariens into e igeame, ST 18 {10 otlier sido that makes ua aa wo arel” sundry voices frow cacl front of war, b friends { I this sre not vourselvos llia Wituemes 45d teailiicw of your own uniinosuca 7 rom whiat you writo you fead us fo nfer Ttat you have cub the cabilos of self-claracter, 4nd foue adventuring on thu deklo s, 01 what pou cau (whicu protupted) a-em o bo: Cozfss (o riukivg, tuo valn cruwd to nttract A€ ek attraction vewded Lova's Arest fact), nlors 30 oau bectre & mato for whid you aré, That 30u romad without a mate 15 best by fur} %t {0 tho epocka that o'ortake us hera, 3 i 1 the fans of timea to be slucere $oawul of putile, o fund of seif-Infations ll verva {0 meel Ao futhra's obligations, Duelt, bowavee sice, no'er caughts thorough o ¢vuu Inmacence, docelvod, can learn to hate And wlint {s Hsko Ll munpiachd lovo, turncd soir ly buaaica’s honest thundes-abiowsr § Hereln, o, trite ot | thero 18 tow mauch at atako | For lewptibe many will whut ouly ouw msy fake t ature, Loruelf, who unea theso tender strings, {oourgos througli ifo s practiced ar that ting 48 sllen tinger hete, for wanton preludings | not 1 ne'er let (e etraying Land or sportivo eye ‘: ; ll:llla‘fn! cruel lips thereafier to. n trustfui warm, entreatiug haud s on hold, Ssould (el the talo ma woll d w'or 6 €41 b toids " ate,~ Are mutual sovere) and sery; To sirong and houest souls, the The Joya of 1ifs tipons & doulle Lase 43, when the ¢louda of doubt und 'sarrow clows {resent & doutlo bulwark 1o all foss, 2 Totich 4a ticse tho lack of gatlered dower ol & bindering bar&r byu Power Mllllg At work the wils of mald W, hufd the sweels of mwhhlx, W aud do t] oy i Yow'suchs many nobly slrive ladr e F100 Ui Calu aafety of 3t abchored beaste " FRTAY A CALM REVIEW OF THE S8ITUATION, foihe Kiitor of The CAi¢ago Tribuis ; on Cuiauo, Sopt. 5.—Burrounded by tho majority of tho lotior publishod in your valuable papor (Lo subject of malrimony, it beemy to mo Amost an fuy:orsiblisty to bey suything new upon the subject ; and yet to me there koews to be wo Zauy varied and conflioting ressons, afocting tbe wany and: varied phases of the livos o yonog women aud yonvg mon, tust 10 consider why they or sogrest s number of ?Om dou't matry, would fll volumes. I could anlly (el you whiy, at 26, with s satary of $1,300, 0 unmarried. QOue reason ir, I have nat met, % rsthur do ok know, one that 1 tunk so much 4 that T feul that life without bor would bo m:.“k' sud thal, coat what it with —work, wealth, " b, or happinoas,~1 wmust havo ber. Tho & I bave not boun chained by the olleats yoi tirm and airong chaing of love is, Lhave not saughit tho sociely of jthe falr o, I Hourglaes | ones Luat arn thingu of Loante, anil, therafore, it tightly uged, n Joy forover. Jitt why, being an Ardent admiror of women, do 1 nob neek tiir amil their swcol kmiles snd lovirg selancen, their Lazuty of form and fealurs, poss rourors of vorything tha’ enn lighien tha cnrns of man and mako hfo aud waibibion wocthy his noblest nud whongent enorte, d T not cliooes oy lile's pariner, nud. euconded Ly ber ws prerence aud hving in 2 atmcrbliers peoneatil with hor lovo, liva content n ify of iecluine-s and joy, Instead of (ho buroen, wnd, at beel, deso- lala e of singls Lo gndn Why? Hoeawse { ennot alford it, 1donot menn ‘it tho strict s nee of (Lo auwertion, ‘Lhat v can oxint on ¥1,200 n year Udo nnt quastion far & monicut; but s an exislence, with cnou, to entinly the anfwal wauty of fita, auch o Loun hat L uboutt aitempt to -tewet ity hinited cone 1 van 0 cover Lvo itend of oun, to #ay notinng of 1rasnective dditions to Lo numbor 2. o i'e of Jatters beforn mo shiows ninly that the ivus of w0 cen Ly rusbuned by uvers smal) fum o anuw, £nd o ja bisity coses ho wirdern ask for no more; but in yroprrtion to tha thousand giades of educaticn, ro oro the nwebior of giades of tawtes, deives, and habis. Educatfon and briogiug-up staiups wpon ench Ingividual w ojecial matl, and in proportinn (o the enltivatlon amd relinemont of the mind vo will tho newls incromso. Au exialence is all bl many wk, whils uthen wish to have thetr fives wigoothed sud inade plosrant an a satisfyivg of tho cultivated tantes of both mind and body. In marria while evi- demtly intended for all, obhgatory? sod i it beet for man to marry one that would recepl an oxistonce whon hie wonld heawato to offer snid axistenco Lo oba accuhtonicd to (ho comforty that brains nod wealth have Lbeen fuventing and verfecting for centarios 7 Homa of the writers to Tun Tunt quoto ** faint Leart nu'or wou o fair othors would lnhel the mau that nakad theso questions * tdiot™; bt what . while willing 10 pruve his manticad and flelt to tho bitter ond for the Indy of biw cholce, and work himsolf (0 death for the belovea wifo of his borom ; what man, | auk, o there who. unon wobor socond thotglt, will onter wocioty vith the dehberato intention of et one thil bin woul could admire, acourtomed Lo bo curr-unded by overy sapoiness and eemfort, and, wikout the quiver of 4 m.uels, offer hov bia hard, nin love, sud an 7 wonld A WO Nave wui, 1i in praued sGeicf 103 i DuL T New Englanders think wa i of tho Whoio Union a great deal cf monoy ropo, & but wo nro suppoked to e free from the petty chaine of caeto; then why inculeaio into cur children the thought that thoy must uoe disgraca the famls by mairving poor? Why nat leach them thab their aifuct.ons ain linbie to bs woscd aud won by poor as woll ag rieh 7 Fhen they woukd be pre- vared foc lifo's lessan, and. ¢omo in whstever + phapo it would, 1t would Giud them prepated, and beig propaei, superior co tho situatice. hon 1 poor man would not bo ahamed to sk tho band and besre of ps. and would Tonl that, rich or poor, slie Joveil him for Lis own eolf aivne, Lagpreciato that our fothors auld inuihers, who lavish upon us and our education thewr wealth, tho fruit of yeais of toil aud privatiou, i order that wo may enjoy the dehghts of this warld thxt woro Loyond their yuuthiul posrcs. wloue, thoy neiurally wish to £00 the good work { vroceed, step by step. and a fond mothor's lova and futher’n yridn haye 1 their mind's eye no ultimnte e pping virco on tho lsdder of famo L which they conld sy to their offspring, *You aco high cnough.™ Lnt who ran esumato the fabulous wenith and renown that wonld ba tho patrimouny of the lo. tio doscendantn of n owntury of mar- 2 eneh commonving ut Lh resting place of cal Tut wo enn thauk eaves mzmo\ul_\' is joseibles awl this leads mo to Ask, Why does & nsn of avity, wealth, aod jn- fhuluea frown urou_tho poof adwmurer of ki dnuzhter, and sshv do tho Iedies show prefor- cuco for thoso that can e cnd monoy upon thom when they kuow that, in the near or fur distant futyre, the man of nebos may be poor aud tho puor one ricls, whiten: preeent the son of poverty sy bu supenior in intellect 7 L du not muke thin 6 cowpluint; for (o answer cowes rondily aud quickly : T8 huish uature. 1ucems Lo me that vnless o nnn feols froe o to chooro whero b will, without fear of uwult, ho Liad botter avoid rocicty nnd loso his chiunco of yeilectiny from his sy 'tho imago of bis be- loved. Lo wapposing bie showid bappon 10 lonk bigl, love sud bo loved, thon thu old tollss frown; ihould ho persist, thoy parsocutos il ho | o nica, thoy foreako and conkgn thair daughter to tho miveiies and sonl-destroyivg powewn of a e inw Chicago bompding-lonko or svlntion with bor husband in cottago, where the wb. senco of accustomod comfors and prosonce o unacenatomed worlk drive Jovo bb mwiil wings out of thy window and lowve nsupbt but misory, Tistore cousuding, o fow words n refurenca to the chudren, the suppused joy and yride of tho huukehold: by pplace 1 ihe oty that you can rent, convemont to business, for ¥10 or §16 amonth, a it tiee for a provpective mother ? meh lows & desirabio one for tho bringing up of chifdren ? What kort of intluence upon the riy- inyg generation havo clowe, e1owand, sno confined yuuriers, jeciumed with the fotld ntmosplbors of n orunded edty,and rendered altost deafoning by tho uncuasing din,whore Lue fow Lack windows nover aucit & fuy of Uod's sunsbine or give the young khootiug wud giasping 1dea a glimpse of Nature's bundiwork ¢ 1n considoration of the above thought, and withoot wisting or intonding to convers Tug FRIBUNE into o matvimonel agoncy, who would adviso the wriler to wsrry, or who wuuld mnery lim ¢ Adax. backward in roferonco to giving their experiance in matters malrimonial. Permib a follower of the *‘Art Prescrvative” to say a word ou this all-absorbing theme, Some soven or eigut voarn sgo 1 *“foll iu love" with a beautiful waidon, and the vory sight ot her ‘always Nlled my soul with dolighé. But it lu thio same 0ld story,—** the course of true Juve nover did run smodth.” A somowbat tyiaunical mother stopped in and thraw & wal blauket ou my sntbusiasm, and, so towpoak, my vislona of lovo passed away. Bl loved mo, sud I loved her with » passion that will only dio with dostls iaclf. The stors never seemed to slino as bright since tho old lady wtappod iu aud closed tho scen, * Lhint wai yours ago. And to this dsy I mever think of hor (the girl) without & fecling of pain sud regrot. I iriod-hard to forgot her, but the tender momo- rieh which clustor round our days of wuvity are indelibly eugrossed os wy memory, A saull buudle of lotsery thed togothor with & fadud blus 1ibbon are a!l that ia loft of her undging love (7). & wag constant,—ebo marvied, Tho vows slie made e to ever ve Liuo were brokow, Bho E;u,hlall to the maudates of mutern periont aud -enmo tho happy biids of my worthy zival. 1 uever dinnk Loforo thut panful ovent, Lut it wes tho wigual for my fall, 1 tock to the ~“lowl (hat loth cheers and inotrintos,” and my comno has been nieaduly and suroly ou the great highway wheio ro wiahy tinvel. Juntend of worshiping at the sue of luve and beauty, T slud it twure connol- 1ug o worstup at tho * Bbriva of Bacchus,” I nave fostued waoy resolutions to “ et up,” but tho ftosh is, oh! #o weak, sud the denson of de- wiva always biumpis, Aud i the midet of ail 1wy ecetos of jollily the moemory of (hat dear girl haunts we like s tiwublod droam, And viten, 1 suber woments, paiuful recollecticns coms back, through a wist of tours, of what wight buve been. In my lonoly hours of ningle- cussediens, 1 ¢iigo the bour that Laye nie a i orablo oxistence. 1 ciiso tho wetwory of wonen who tritle with hearts that bend wnd bleud, but vevor Lieak, 1 cures thu muinory of pareuts who force childrou to marry whora (hoir hearty aronot. Aud 1 ourso myeel for Lomg stupid fool about une Wonan, whon Lhote uie B0 wany left just as good as my carly choicu, LUt 16 18 too late. Tho rock upon which wo mAn{ have uplit wrecked wo, and many who road this will doubsless recall a liko expertcnce. * Disap- polutmont winks the heart of man.” He yiclds to tho soft blandishinents of tho tempter, and, ore Lo is tully swwo of the tarribls truth, e 1 on thie vliortost routo to tha Iauding where thy epoctro-craft 33 0 yow bim over the “Buyx.’ Did deoigs W, Olitlds sny this? ‘Iie givls ave all a eliug show, For nuai's doluslun given; Thvir amiles of Joy, their tears of woe, Doceiful anine, decuitful flow, "There' BU Glie LU0 11 havel, Whethor (L W. C. wrots it or nol, the soutiment of the wmuso hits the warg, aud tho downfall of mauy ajoor dovil dates from tho ** jilt” of a womau who regres ot action whon hor violim Las ** pagsod tho Rubicon,” ‘Thers ara & vast number of rensons why young men Leutate to marry, Tho ory of bard thues Is & poor excuso, ‘LTiat which Illls- porls & young Lau Sl.nwhwh:) aud pays Lis whisky and tobacco bills would suppors s Life’s compunion ay woill. ‘The wecret of the whalo matler is thiu : tha girls of to-doy think more of 1oney shan \bey do of tho wan. ‘Lhey would 1ot for & momeut to orate the thougbtof “Lovyy I & cottage,” ‘Yhe average girl would not allow Lerselt t0 Do caughit associativg with & mochanio. BShe aupizes to & miote oxalted poaltion in life, Ugld the wifo of = mechauws! Hhe would MoRer WAy & bactender, who wouse a Litlo gl 1 1] CITICAGO TRIBUN: SATURDAYS 1 1, shite npron s P binbair o el toba tun wils of vt et aveat of bl biew, Yo nas oo un precty e, b prn Gl i EAERIEE for 1At vt ok neRs 11 ganeral—her greet lovo of outdrersing Jones' or Kmith'a nilo—hor evarlagting haniers ing aftor tha inteut fashions fram Paris, whiel chirnge ko often and nio ot s« rolinbin pa © Ol Lrotin” wan auritg the past summer. How mnuv wen ean you recall, doar 1eadur, who L gono into baikrustes on astonunt of o e Gavagaol faudy,—s vuin, foolsh, workil mother at tho besd, «ho would sather tan vhe vink of wcomg * tha volt" thin 1o ke her dunghters doni lews feahionablo - than Dori. or even Alvns Blewmens berdail ¢ dbey wre not satisflod to lovk re woll, bat thev nws. oulvie the gucla who don’t kaow 8 dish-pao froiy 2 10b, 2nd draw on the 010 man's purss who fue from n bank olork ta a milliounire, atd oho mey yot Do prlad to clork in & huckster wlop, ltches do take wings and iy away ever snd anon, my doats, and bustkors who coutrol (o cominree aud politics of natlong bide thair rndden joye ty and alame under water, to eecaps the wrath of outrager) dupositors. Whirn tho avorage girl tids hiorself nf.thin tar. rible mania for dresn and display, ths averago young man wit not bn Bo numeroue at Lhe bare room, Dilliard-ln, sud elnperoom. He wihl anoi the suntaty of tho daar pins (dear ia moro than ono rense), and the vori of multiniving on the 1ave of the oarth will go vn an it Ahould, Yours touiy, t¥ro, WOMEN AHD MATR'AONY, To the Bditir of The Chicaan trilmne s Cnicaao, Sopt. 3, n mans of wugceplibility and gush compriging the privcipal factor in the lottors of Maiden, Matron, Youth, nnd Donodict, recontly appearing in (be columns of Tie Tun- uNE, hinw, thank gooducsm ouly eettled mo moro firmly in my pot boliof that it must Le & terriblo bovo 10 Parda88 & Wifo—Aa genuin dic- away creature, likea!l tho racoof gusbine brilos, made up or sk aud stufiing, patent bun: peteut palpitators, putont calvos, pateut cota- rlexivns, bought bair. an1 fashlonable wrigdes, hkeeping (ho winest biain o hot water continually by lier whimo and con- celte, whilo making s elave of one gonerally, at tue wnma timo tickiing onc's vamty iulo the Dolief that ho i her *protector™ and. *pro- vider” (wavo tho mark!) '"Pu truo, womon malko fool of many; endit is eurprielng that there nve o mauy who, whilo displaging excel- lent coution and judgmont in Lusiness pursults. fall w proy so eaxily to suck a patpablo clieat as “matrimonial felicly.” I often {bank my etars that I have my eves open, and can't be caught by smiles nnd wriggles, dentist's ivory, pauper's bair, sud powdored signboards. Now, dou't get into a tlumy, my dear ledy friends, Do, I beg of you, soothe yours:lves, sud thus aveid staming your protty pinched foet through your puliback dresees, for 1 flatter myself I have seen enough of the world—gnd by thut I tncan fashionabls Jife—to read tho docnit of your iufiniterinal iteron of hearts through your slereotspo bows and grimaces, and unravel the weh of your plotling, despite your * flottery " and * halploss dopendouce " dodges, though, to give tho eredit due, you play your curds with Trofsasionnl eiill. Ulb, no, I didn’t know, of conrea, what wns meant whon Miunio Greyron enguged the room uext mineand ustallea me her ** protecior” to il the dancen, excursions, and other gavaties of the veason, and manifsied such an intorest in wy futme weifere, and, I biush to confesy it, etnadly fainted so lovingly in my armw whon st entitronn spidor dared to cross hor path. Bhe didn't, of courso, mean it, nlien sho contided to Bello Ialo (1 was sccidoutully Lelind the curtaing) bow sho intended to make a cateli of old Cherry Dlosrom and his 5-203, and then wonldn't £ho Jead tho el fellow a pretiy chags, ‘Lien to sea young folku courting is no meken- ing (hat any oue with the Janst fota of eommon senso would deelere his nppetito for fove ap- peesed bofora 1o bd o throngh with the fir:t two minutes and a helf b the wido of his adored Araminta, Augh! don't talk fo mo about tho dangbts of being belovad by u suickcring, twit- toring magpie whos enlira stook of convorsn- tioual knowledgo consicts in knowing whint somo. hody asid of sotuchody clse, and who 1undo Alrs, Sheday's falke teeth, A debgbiinl croature, eutely, to Lisn, avd earess, aud talk love to ; Dbut pleasa jardon me if I cannot porceive jusi whero th dohight comes in, But fho way mavried folks carry on - surpasses all, I called’on Blobbs the otuer day. Llobbs sud I woto chising aomo yoars nzo, but, poor fel- 1ow, ho fell a vicim to mawrimony, and 1 gave Dlobbs up ns Ireatrievably lost. Well, when [ was urliered n, Blokbn was nursing tho baby—n rod-fucod, red-eyod, bald-hoaded youngubor, just tiko 163 fazhier (L suppose thov meant just | Blobbw), whila his wifo, who looked :ike o wom- #n,—nnd govdsicsa knows that is bl enough a1’ geuetal rulo,—was nclially combuwy his whidkers! ““Now, my beloved otsence of honoy,” sho murmured geutly, “do permit mo witk these ‘ernol seiRsors 0 sevor the iermivations of them: they look so horiid." (A prolonged luss, wh no doult wes sweetness longg drawn throtyh, when 8lo welcomad me. 1 am cortain T datects od n strong flavor of onions shoul Lier.) o Well, y angel,” hs replied, * you may clfo off just nlittte. Flow can I refuso abeing so heautiful, so porfect, spd so enchunting, such a roguost, even though it wrings my suscoptible lieurt to ita vory doptha to part with them " Koverul vory cuorgetio. Klsaen, wiuly every frag- mont of Blobbs’ horrid carroty Lonrd that fell he- foro the ecissorn was tenderly gathered up by ber, proszod 8 hundred times to bor lips uns harom, and then cmofully wrapped wp in 8 ecrap of tissuo papor to bo preserved with other mo- mentocs of thero lunatics’ love: ono of Blobbs' flov:s wineh hio hdd soiled by ropeatedly wiping g nose Rith it on tho occaslon of thoir first love-spst 3 n pioco of candy thoy hed both sucked ono end of thas hn}m_\‘ afternoons he escortod her to the clreus ; & wilted ponch Lo had onco com- onred ber chcoha to; and 8 proseod suvilower, 1obbe’ favorito mmong floral gumnn ! Blonbs' wifo had boon salfering from hoad- ache, and ho was vory much concernod atout lier, ** How is my swoet's head now,” he asked. 4 May hor dear Biobba hatho that Irow of nia- baster with ruw, that theso wicked pains iy fleo from his beloved (‘rten‘in, wnd lesve hor angel form in tranqud ropose? Spesk, and blens mo with tho Julling music of enclisut- fng voico, my arsence of perfection.” (A teir- ble outburst of kiskes. ) “Your sweat's hiead is a little better, my Fupar-lump. Her doar Blobbs may batho 1t with that weft and tender hand nervod by tho en- traucing power of uovar-fading love." | Number- loss kisved of {romendaus votume. ) Alnal Slobte was Biubbs o lange nuraber him with Lo sletims of *pu and fashionablo whiggles, whilo 1 teeastonnlly feel to 1ofloct wournfuily over Ly sad and melaucholy fate. ~ What ! (lo you 1usinuata that 1 tou, will ueok tho puehinnted” haunts of matri- ntony ¥ Nob that L know of, thauk you ; at least uutil some vary sweel youuy lady uifors hergelf 20 me, snd then—theu—well, thon 1 will duly coneider tho matler aud puet vo'i ax to the ye. enit, ¥ Cieany Brossous, FROM A WORKINGMAN, T'o tha Eiltor of The Civcatte 2ribuse: Culosao, Bapt. b.—Ou lookivg through your valuable papor this mwoining, | came upou an articlo beaded ‘*Marriage and Povesty.” You wind up the article by aslivg to Lear from sowe worklog meu or women upol o above wubjecl, Taw one that bas to mako & livitg by tho sweat of wy brow, and eupport s loving wifo and one child. My time ls limited to compcso auytling worthy of your notics, it iu an old maxim, sn L thiuk, uot out of place hiore, to mention that it is uot right that mun skould Lo alons, 1 oocupy o small ous-story building, for which 1 pay #8 por mouth, andin my humblo wav ot living 1 am content it I can koop tho wolf away from tho daor. My average earniugs are about %10 per mouth whon I got wivady wark, but wometunes tho weathior will not allow a wan the fult time, [ foel happy to return hote uftor my day's fabor is ended, ‘get & good wash, my oid woman has my shppers ready for me, K004 swile vays, v, 1 hiave such & Nico etow or 'soma wios ceke for wnpper which I hope you will relich alicr your bard day's worl 0 10Xt exprension, “ Plense do not go out to-night to play that fool- ish pool,” nithough I confoes » weaknees for 18 ; “gtop whilo | sLiow you what I made for tho child, end you vead o hitlo for o whilo I meud your slurgs.” 10 1 tako up a book L do nob “feol thoe time going rouud until it ia tinie to retire for the night. Now tha next thing you very likely would wish to kuow 19, how much of wmy earniugs it takes tosupport us. With whst §raiso lu my owa garden, the o0ld lady tells me whout $2.25 per n.Iy witl aupport us as well as the bigbugs upon Atlchigan avenue, Ay wifo makes my shirts and all iy uvory-day clothiug sa well a8 1f 1 booght thom st Nutlivg's, sad oo‘flm tkeylaro more durable, 068 mo g to 800 my Pplain foors nad slove. Mow cloau aud bright wooden Lunkn in o hing 106 tiee ean. henlthy Lol b e Fnte i pee prunte et Loan ) - Luy RURENUCON v in ther dipoe - als, who piibs s % e e ] Fouatios ajen Dito ook b b o the ey b % one Police Conrte every dr 1wl fitnd sman7 morn witele me bt ot ap for degyeanors than oarral 1. et wppearstes: von wil the fmns Alwo obue: ver mors wud e ot Atimtncy o ned duiks do me 7= mivre mur- BRI | rod Gk the {umgothine < all e X 1unety Irish nocities, —uvary ol of anaud e apnd e i eae Aol ol fo g3t ior il wa dewort WY ot s ther, 11aga Vowa beion Ouu pomarh 1 ate und women, Lo (g Fhauk God for our ever dighonor tho ‘Thn above are e 1o your aiticle. OF the hool.s wu; about, Laay v b, but i, 1o recomuen | g Ko.e of (e ans, o shelyns of 1 Ay wito in o wriling b your papes molusuall hurdg-wotking men ook and i n young Wonian o de 67 (@ Laore ore n.ong) that eon o abis 1 vl save Lig littlo “earuings. wihich watod in rioting. Stert out mh menter yon willy you will tiad da marriugo thst by remnini, ime. Lam an congeant Xrons i 3 8 Whone VErANIO 18 ever gl emnry ol my family ix ax vre: Ty vl s it Uetobar g7y leit my native vity, «bakiin. My o thisi country is such thed the eoiner & nisn tri $o muko A littlo Loma tise gooner hie will have it 1 will now concinde by hopinw that wll the young wmen who read this whil Leie a ser; d ork bimeelf, * ilow sauch on wostine 7 You sill ing that you w moro thau would keep you i cos and many other ezpeness hoside, youry traly, AN IRzsu W ‘e, eI LT 4 ovun ] s, nnl e wal feeh 4 ago when | LOT A BIT CCARED. the Biitor vf 1 e Chivtzo Citicanu, Sept. .—You say 1 your last Butur- day's issue, over my lofler, - You will ceich it for this." Now, 3lr. Editer, Lexpect I rhinll ge* somo telling bits from tho soung ludies; but what T said 14 true, **alas, too trua. £til), 1T any of your tair corr-BPoRdelLs can Loy tie to the contrary, I shall feet only too grateful to T T a3 being tle meams of clering my idln of tho ouly oo apusiont Blato of afinrs amoug tho cily bollos. I havo hed s large circlo of lady fricuds in this city during the past ten vears, and Ican purcly pay that Iam uuabls toiind eveu ono nho is freo fiom the ceusuzo of my lant woak's latter. Mot of theso snwe Lelles wonld not admit that wuch a thing was trao of them, and mest of them would bo exceodiugly sur- priged 11 thoy thourths I wrota tho letter of lant weck, Buid wy opinion is but tho eamna beld by Yory many youug wen of our city,--youus mon who are rendy naud willing tw sup- port wivea coull they find ouwe fit fur them, T do not mown 1y this to way 4ha. youug taen are fuulleas,—by no me Feb many of ou Young wmen who 8re faulty 2o 0 auly tomporarily, ncd good wives would make thom w credit fo our city : 88 1t I8, many youm wmen £ro last Lhrowing hetaselvod a vay ob Ut~ lees lives Locauso thore 18 uo Les!th m wonisn, Ttead tho offusions in Saturduy lart's issuc. Whe, the girdsare pretty much sll of thotspo 1 Luvespo- Ket'of, wish tha sxception of ** Neticy 5pry.” Now, Mixs Nany, {f you-got loft in tho erand rush fur husbands soe twenty-Live or thurty years oo, unt bie iard on tho young moen of to-day, They ure probably lighi-hesdod; perlaps wo ara; bui, then, what would wa be I vio bad such a mata ? You st no doult a npico coantrs oid maul; that's cot exacy what ciy younz' wen wunl. We went yure, ulelhigont young ladiew, who will wako good wives und mothors, aud tave uys fiomn westing our lives away ou tho fast and woriLlcss plessires of the day. [ tope, Mr. Lditor, thst your pape: muy be the causo of Drinzivg about a batter understanding among oar Young follis, "L oo seeme to bo too muca slawm in ad grades of vocletv. Girls aro led to beliovo that todress is 1o uttimatum of their hves, and thoy wir.vo to outatiip their neighors in all tho accomplich- ments thal drees cau give. Why, I bave known girls to talk dreen, dress, for foar er five hours nt a stretcl, and when young et think of this they are frightened ot the expeoso Huch girls would autail on them. TlLou, when we look at the couetitntion of - tho sociely itl, in it not o fact that thoy aro wearing themscives away; can it not bo plainly saen 7, Wy, & Min — Whom 1 know fow years ago, Shew sho first came ont, Was # nice, freuh yoaug givl, with oli, uuch dolictoun color! T saw her dismount- 1 from hor carriao y ostorday In front of oue of our dry-goods palaces. Blo had heen to Fu- rope to recover her hoatth, 1 hardly know ber, lor cheeks wero snoken and pautod ; rho was thin_aud wan, but clegantly dressed. Sho 1011 wo sho was uatried to be-aud-+g, o rich old man, one of_our old uabohs, ofd onough 10 by ber fathor ; bus then * gho does ns she plensen,” sho eaid with & stido, and sho went 0 Lo dpoud us woney freely, Thisls but oue instance of many, only nuuny do not got tho rich old man; 1 bave hadone or two friends ark mo why L did not look for woms protty country gil. Tho roason in that tho couniry siris sroul- mo:t o8 bed sa tho city belles, fur, eion if they lmve uover moved in thal suciets, thny hiave read sbont it and tho moment you bring tuem futo the city they are uncoaring iu thair otfors to muglo aod keep up with city Loilew, &t witstover 13 good in them ' 800l be- comes **lont_tu viow, though to mewmory dear.” L trunt, Mr. Editor, wo shall have rome tiscus- sioue of tha othie wide, atd 1 wn wilhog to taku all that 1 eatey by speskiug iy mind fresly on Uny wuvjeet, luanuy 8. En VHO'S EXTRAVACANT Now? To the Entor of [l Chicige Trioune : Cimncaoy, Bept. T.—1brough the colutons of your papor T have sean a great deal of 1nee junde uboul thu extravaguucu of guels of the preavic sgo. Now 1wish to bave & say aboat thi 1 jusnt tha! the msjority of girls wre not oue-bult wd oxtruvagaut sy youug won. Thers is abu one woman in overy buudred that ioxsos here Bolf in s vosy loud etylo aud altracts Lhe atian- tion of uvery mau who pavios bor; Lavt 4il are blanrod fur one, Now [ epost from e in do:laring thal wo girls csa take dresson sl make them lute wiw in latost wivie withoul coslivg ono .coui, thon wpboss s well drossed as suy kuly couid winbi to, [ Matier mvsolf thay [ dreve s well uy suy one olso, sud have alee ws muny clotlics ag 1wy bu cousnierod necesvary for suy yuang lady, and It 18 1o uxaggovation waon Lesy I ean dross mysoll ou feey than 3100 & vaar: yos, lowy, by a great deat; oud all through a little managenicat that conta notling but 8 littlo tuue. Now 10r $hus0 Foung meu that Lave tzken the troubla tu ury out against the gcls. 1 sy uow, us 1 oemd befure, girle are not oneLalf ss oxtravagaut o8 youug wen. Thuy must have their a1k undorclotbios, whou plain muslin wuite us 3 they muet bave witk heudkoerchiots, when pisn winle cambric sutw us; they could nut pusaibly do without thoir powdur snd bair-oil, sod it would be shceking indoud to fut the aweet croature inhale the odors of a closaly- pached sereei-car 1f ho had not w drlicstel vpere umed haudkorchict to pince bolore bus datnty proboeeis. 'Lhew, siain, thoy muat have fuur or Sive now sults of elat % yoar, wheu 1 Luaw lota of gir's that don't get two new calico drvsses » voar, bat hiavo to make old once ovor again, or Wo may have very gonerons elder wistera ihat will discard & tow 0ld clothes for onr Leuelit. Qluu the ghly bave 0 pugds ther - geuious braus W sppear respoctablo. They (tnoxa Eweet mion mean) must have throo or four now Lats & yoar, when we sotrun ugr cld onea. % 'hows, theu, are tho men that cry ont aguinst taking & wifo because of Lar oxtravsuce, ~Why dou’t thoy speak tho truth and say their walary iy awallowod up in their own fiuery, und conve~ quently uothing is keft for & wife.” Lut, ok no, 1V all tho Zault of thows girls, ApotLer extrav- sganoo practiced by young men s {hat, if they yo 10 s60 & young ludv, they must got & bugky sud palr of borseds to bako Lor out. Now, it slie 14 w pirl of suy suuss, she would not wish auy such Ling ; sud, anowsor thing, eba would uever sx- t ft 1f they did mot losd ber to eliove by the stylo they pus on @ rmde tan e mears Tishle to ©os y it s conld el afiurd it Yonns men Lo bt dadion unnil S beodiess Tor e day i done. nud Lo 8GT el thn honeeield e, ey papped in from 7 (o 12 shey would find 140w i exicn Wungqars, Woraing With a will How Ay OuD L < of othor girts 1o tht o genticinan R a1 )t he PO2d R AT h toel, tuen w3 0 daicty uome aod b 605 4i Uiat L e eu, Oth 1 gl thse d ne ol rethee temgin IR o e e of 1y s waking aor el g then v e o Jene o) (s Lraiuloes [0 n Lok e 9m re G Ha ¢ of women. Do wwsvagg whoe §lave 1 1 nuve nut been | tedazine 3 1 v, partof oL withool, e withoch Uy ¥ c d il Atanurl 1 uerenury donn e i e ing g heante wad g L HG RIA RRIAGE (0 Hit N, Tutin Fiitay of It URE 670 Tridte @ VetsoNa, Minn., Fepl, B—Like n majority of the youth of 1hin esuntey. L bave my own views au the quonsi her it in” advisable for a Fouag man to w; or remuin gingle; aulas ¢ v r their opine on shinubjeed wits sow permiceion [owl uow gve piinn, Lo it wott o or fess From we- wtandpoint 1 oean consid e the ques. tiain iy s mniter of d uad cente, au Woupn ¢ have otten wocs] the peotlen, 1al Wave 2r1v0 al tho couck edou that vy hidures Intow ecieuely evnoncoaty, thite the wier; ralazy pad to yeuue men e oot eufliciont to supjiort thew av maarie ! wea, aud sllow thew s chirnen tn Feve suy mones Au ap illust: auon, s My salary is 1500 & vear, 1K 40 L6D. gideration tho cort of hiving here o thers. 18 cqual to, say, £1,200 ia Chicagzs, Now, presum- ine that I want to pet marricd, and can secure for & wilo sowne iadustriouns and eouis el girl, 030 who ran codlt, weshy and mend s woll oy beoa lsdy in the parler, und whose ehuracter atd dirposttion are of a kind to make n man kavpy. how lar wiil v 000 go toward enne Pitins U Vil the neceeeatien asd comfurte of 1.6 1 ChuTBRG © 3 0uT' 8 CRPELBL oW caes, Total 5 ey ol o dat, b o cconumy, 1 can mairy atd suppoit o v incowo with ruy azonng uf connubial bjs. cie., thirown d b Tt s OF Lug yesi bave k furgtus o O b otber haud, i § rewan si Ponwe account L0F & yaar wa Wrd, ut B 1er wosh Clothle. Fxts u i h i Tnausice (et n. ¢ qood,” rays por single tun, will bave hati k0 3 to #quander sour urplu-” Well, kuprase that Ihiave. it i3 not any thu less true that I could sove 1f T would; and if I donot arcumulatz as n titplo men, wheu to doso I need not wacritico nurthivs necesscry to my comfol. L1t presume abie that I would fave mwoney as s marricd man, wiien T khoutd have to tako my savings from tho anount veeded, in order to famirh a comtorta- ble hivelibord for the weman 1 wonld bave prom- ited o Jove and caro for to tho oxtent of my ability ? In fivo years I will b 2, voune enongh to marry, end can Liave, rav, ¥1,560, Bus then [ will nut'io ute meycapitsl to ertablith myael! in bnancws; o L mue wuit at least five years "hbut rou, tan thiet will ko you i T think 1 have clearly proven t it io not advienkle for & young man tomniry ouly incorae is w eulars of 240 or 41,640 avenr. Perhiaps somo cf the ewtimablo roung ladics who are whhug to mutry sy young mea of good cheracter and Labits who has an income of #600 to 2800 per year can explain to uy how thev would meuage to live on vuch atu amannt, aod thng omi‘;u several interceted youug men, as aell as UREETIC : RO RCASOR 1H THE V370, Tuthe Eatdor or Tl cdza Trib'ene : Cuteaan, Sopt. 7—=leiog wisrested mthe rub- fect so freoly digenssed’in sour paper, and bay- ing rosd with much iuterest misoy of the ominions sasanced. 1 ot refrain from add- fug s tow vordy, sod, i b0 doing, would ade dross my ressrie to tho young men, 1 lhave Been plad to neo & subjoct of ro Tunueh juterest brought before the pablic, for if thero i# auy roed icsson why youns tuea do not taketo themsolven wived and build up hopes, it iy timo woknew of it, But, to y iud, the unized of- fort of tho youuy meu ju this direction haw thua far been & very fuebly one, sud, 1 wust adiit, dues not esy much for the young men of oir city, or teir owbition to lave wives, cluldren, aud bomes of their own, ‘The excaso that girly are ton fickls eud extravagant s too absurd to descrae notica, W ull kuow 1t w innutas with pirls to wishi to pleaso tho Loys, alibonglh thov don't liko to admit 1ty and I would aric slach class rucceeds o pleasing tho g Vihio duvote their timo to frivolities and show, or thone wiro cultivat® a luve for domestie Iife aud autivs 7 Why, the turmer bave no entirely ont- e thuir L2016 retiing sintors that they ure en- turtly iguored. sud tho young men 4o Mot Kuow thero sre auy wach girl v oviskence, when thoro Mre rcures Gt ihem only waiting tu be fuand out, But thev ds wot advertire theniselves by the Tarinonable deeotation of their Ludies, or tuo frivolons e of their couversation, snd they ean Lvo without poins 10 so-calle! fantuonable vartios and pinces of amusement. Tuetelors thoy aro out of rwviety, and, ss far us the young e ko, cu’ of the wurl But if by chaucy wue of them efioald appear at obe of yoar fashionabie entcrtainments aliv is regarded us oweshing benesth yonr votics, while the * pay butteathes.” a8 yoa cull thew, get all tae stien- tin vou bave I 1 your powor to besiow. 1t reemi 1o we i[ thews Youug mwen will look urouint i they Wil find soine married men who have Wives that aro Lot companions and hiaipmeets, wives Wit braios, with ambition for thuir fau Iiew, aind with industry 10 assigt thoir husbauds, Thiese aro tuen O FOMO seconnt, tmilding, up Loy thatare A cretit to thewrclyes and 1o thur co: utyy, They aro mon who are livin; sometltg bosides thelr own procions selves uen who Luve too much maskoud to Le watmued wlone, whio see a bigher ueo in w a litde money and (bren rpaud- wg ot kv tha Lilliad or cardiable, or N Ry Y L0 dero sousnal ERjOVINSHL. When thay thonght of warrying they did not stop to LIk Luw suavy of their backeior Lisbite thev woald haie to rewouuce, buw often they vo ihl go to th re or concert, or how much Josu thiey sould spond on thelt own pricious [ Thesn woro muor cousiderationn, They wers mubidons 1 be mon, aud 1Ot BEAVES O womo reusnal babita, such wx smoking, drinkinyg, snd geueral disupation. hoy Lind conrago to #Lrike out froms tho (mpore atmosphiers of back- elar resarts, and eroct homes wheio lovo ati pu- nity should rule, and, when they were ro inclinud, they had no serions trouble to fAud s girl with & heart and band to help thom, and now thoy ato lovod snd choriabed by wives and ehi'- dren, and bonered by all good soeiety; and they luok bach with pity as their poor, furloru buch- tlor frivpts ue they call them. Why den't young men warry? Took within yomeclven Yor tho Lrus auswor 1o thia perplusing Yuostiou; fer wheu you have overcomo your soitintmers. and in its stend tiavo cullivated s love for that which is goud and pure, thers will be vo obstaclo in tha way of wour warrving, for thy girls will try to please you than ss wow, and what will pirase you theu will bo wiose i ace cordance with their tie womavhwod, Mavd. 0 Iive for e SOME PERTINENT INQUIRIES. 1o the Editor of ‘the Clivaga Tribane ¢ Oriwagu, Bept, B.—According to the ladica, b is'all the gentlowen's fenlt thas thuy speud 80 miuch monay,——it in all speut for hilliands, cigary, oto. How masuy of tho young ladies woull ga $u s party ins car, and uot gruwble fur a wonth {o lier tady friends? And if, atter eho got there, sud there waa ua supper, what woulashe thiuk ? 1t was only last winter tbat somo you.ig lady (?) growlud through the paper that sho ™ bad 0 walk a fow blocks ¥ fo s party, *sud tbou she &du't Javo suyihing to out.” Wht kind of a T w40 tae vettimuts of huudo.os of | 7 ind* wouid th vonil her? Now, I the rafh b goun thers in a earriaze, it would £5 more, and if they Lisd had vald e £2 or ¥ moro. ‘il Iadics v Iut thogo, or thoy Would louk t, --for those partios the gen- I there should ba only a it more, lamn ud theafro, and if thero hevame mind who n ) bie o hieas from them U THE TG Lon DARLINGTON, o't lee by 1Lt AL temen o triy g OisEFLUTA Sonld gt lia wa tbink, from th T tia L'd e wt Lo Caaengy Toabn Leve «ntten, that ¥ em romo antepunt Pty Sewt, 9w B 8 | g © panted i cacity Sewt, -1l e — 3 i G Lt spingter, bin R SEa0Siee of | terent tlis ve R 1 Aut Eray Fow tue b Lo of iy hinart, aud | boGL VL vERuE turrespu.l e uf © bviug fo RN RUTEE my, nwl murticd i, s goud ebrng tor a pruituce o, 100 the yesr, ¥PL qun o smel fudtiok of fiebnrrotan, L, dear we, Mr, Editor, ) ean beat tho Le t of turto, in & xBowing of that Kil, T un by 1o mess tho Guly ous, vituer, 1w thin city, who lives se well aw U du, ou e smsll an meome. As & repreventative of A clasy L oeo- it & placo in the 1auks of rout euntnbutorm i this department. Tho bewt exhibit wo fur made by auy of your citreer.ondonts fouls ap tha oxpenses for s fam- Viv of four or five sotne 3049, Al bonor to the hounewife, to whow. doutitiess, the creditin «f bringing hor sheaf of olive-branchos Votbs of comfort and rospectability, at au 4 demnud upon the buauand's pocket. 1t wocld you eay to paddiing the family . witu e jaol freignt, as an outlag of, T peryeur, and with sl city comforte, oo tlatt Perliaps yon would like to know Lum it 1s dous Well, Il ehow you. You : adanreat, but [ awaure you that tizone who are ot sesomphalied in the art of tu bl most note in ‘the . W0 st wouglt of sny 101 veary ago, we went. d i tespeable boardiug- luigo, ept o widow. and weenred eligi- bla roome,—iu fuct, the bet i she house. It 0@ peceseary. of cour: o pay promptly form few we aud nearly $100 bad to 7o betore we wero fuily acqueluted and domestinated, Than Unas disapnomted i money, sed Lwe, thrae, toar wecks tan, and the widow bad to wait, ex- pyting it alwars “nest week,” Tho larger the il gios. the o wemau fearel to give us e graud bornes,” aince eho kuow that iy that ehsw rbe wouid mnrely doso the entire del Vi, here we roosted till o cuattel miorterge #wooped dowi on ull thio PooF o' eficets, and wo Lad to leok up auotier ‘aidder. But bosrding-bonses don't hie bautes: es fn cuureen of time wo had to lid & lingering fare- weit to hasaemils and Keok “a local babiativn whd s nome” as o housckeeper. Ab! there in something gravd and inspirg i the very pame, 1t wan with & lordly sir, thorefore. that I in- spetel 8 ey warble-front on one of tho and tugaired tha terms of tent of the The funse wns soon arranged, and pos- teovich given, 06 nex: thing way furnicure, Ltia munt be rot on eredit, of course. I zecol- sected bow Bou Bteady, s Lard-working fricod of mine, who earvs five imes the salary I can, tsnnubea by » farmture desler s fow daya Poor Bub ix e plain man, but his word 1 sn goid whon curs an obligation, wanied shout 250 worsh of furniture, ali of 8 sudd.n, o« his wile's sirter was coming to syend tho winter with them. So ho atepped around (o & forniture desler, who be thourit Lnew him a little, avd explained modestly his dile:miua, atd how be sbould Layo the miouoy, surely, ;u & con~te of months, Tho deslcr way i tey bud bbut down'on tho credit busi- so b inks T, scme other lino of arrroach is nece eesary, Eo, poppitg Iblo un o.egant tarp-ont, Juired for ont bour, I drove to the futniture rtore. You would iave thought me to ba the Priuce 6f Wales or Baron Rothselilds, s 1 sanntered alopg those eislen of gorzeuns boukchold goulds, and sclected my crdor. Al the pay required of e was the mandate, “Send the il 1o wy office —Uill-day 16 the Just day of the mouth.” The ramo hitle manegoment at other (lacos soon eqmipa oy house 1u style. Tncu comes tho buteh- erand grocor, Ha! ha! what netrifo beween thr gentlemen of these occupations to Lave tho privilezo of dehvering at my burk door every- thine choico t juints and vepetablos, and evon tho fancy viands, * far-feietied, fic for ladies, ' Notliug smd wbout pay for o wonth. Taew, it cash is not cunvenient, “pp it ecldom 1s, why, ® thirty-dey note wildo, It will astonieh any ono who trigh it, wich any tact, huw far thin thing may be ruo aud not cost s Iellow s cent, Attor you get mio the tradesman €100 or se, avd ho begins to suspect your want of reeponsibility, he ecos that it will mot do (o cut you off on sup. plies, and thns offcnd you sud dash all hope of pas tall. Bohe keapscn aud cultivates yoor geod pature, and you coelelonaily throw him a ¥ **on uecount,™ To earry it ont succeser3lly, one should have An oifice down-tasn, el 1n rutuer impos ing &tyle, ai:d & AN np of zome uby of kinds of business of whowe rumiing ‘*No feller cau findout* much stout. Thew, wich & boy to watch it, snd tell luguirers that you ** have just gono out ou important bueinees," you cau bid defitnco to a rogiment ot duns. ‘Lo butcher and bakerand candlo-stick-muker” will run till sheir hoots bave to go inlo honpitul, and thov conclude to lot their long-standivg acconnts do the running thowse Vs, Wo ure the clagd who bave tome 1eputation in town, We aro men who nie trasted by oar fel- jow-citizens. Wo rro the peorls whuse uames aro deenud worth teconling o the dia- siew sud Jedgeis of buemiens wew It i1 the eignagies of such sy we that are bumlled Ly bsukers, in.pected Ly notarier, and often oicupying the atiention of she learned magnates of e Bench Evory one wherever 1 have dewdt knows mo by paine, and vall never forgul e, Iluw wikerent it s witls tho veady-pay tman. Aow, thore 18 lub Steady. Mo afwayw, as & rul, pays cash oy be ordara m goods. 1o has tiaded m yvear probably wits the grocer who wewds me my iruck. Yot tho other day, s 1 entoied the atuse, just as tSob had lels it tho grover euys 10 pie, “C\WIRG ts to nawe of that tikn vou we! 1 101d b, and oxpressed wurpriso that the fels law did not kuow s old o custemer. ** Well,” #11d the winu o 1es ALd molass-w, ** LB WIWAYH Pays cach down, wud e only kopw biut e the pan Wil & koutan uose who lives at 4000 Crowfoot avenu Yo would go througl the world thus unknown by eveu vour grucer 7 As 10 1y house.rent, why, that dun't coet me s cony. Uuce wwtailed ju 8 Louse, wnd witha elarp’ Lttle unrerupulous lawyer 10 |lay the cords fur YOI wlith Gucersery, oBe téod wut troutdy bisetf about ront, 7 he lnudlord, of bo watly bis hutse badly, wib afoo: u few w.nths, PAV Fou 8 gocd baulk to foxve taer v eleciiuent beture vorupt s gintewiee and packed s, b 2ou see. it oty ueeten + 2 laptation ol 3oul nflaaie to it et as duit oty i u the otutotod of D ve 1o 4ot ain with ol uee o whch Bovey, Coaland whisky sta abuzt ) the noces s of Lfo that dutand carh. U1 Inte L bave heen carrv principle s sphero besaad Ly 1 tave buou opern'iu v tho Laasd of Trade, anil 1o the ups sud dowie mostly downs—I L0 K6L N0 3ue Ghechune uf & ceriain bank to 110 tune of zeveral thousalies. Now, i 1 need & good word of erudit fu wIYAUCO 80ING BOW franduction thore s to jlace where 1 would gouner dend 8 fuquirun: customer thun o that bauk, ‘They are el cated, ¥ou see, to have mio taake suine wenvy su | e pay them what 1 owe them. fndved, it u'l sbow them I had & prefty sire thing oo wheat to-day, and uesdad & fow tho 1suats to ¢ the Lzol,that very bauk would Jet e Lave it * Ha it gaes. Ouly put on enough etyle so as to g6t deep, apd thew evesy mau whol yua have Lirpouted fy vour et friend,—uuless you fool- isliiy to: i elp. Perbiaps you 1lunk it 1e ot Louorable 7 Vibat sayu the poet ? Honur and $ae (rowm oo Cogdition ri et well yuar part there wlf (e bowor Gies, Yours reeg st fully, Tep U, Miar, | FROM A MARRIED MAN'S STANDPOINT. 7t badttor of Tha Chicaan Trbune: Huwrisoy, Mlow, Sept. 4.—1 liave read with itercat $he Teceut communications frow tho oty folkn in roference to the marrisgo quos tiow, uud slthough I have just turued the core uer on the shady wide of 30, and may thotetory not properly bo elussed as youuy follis, I novers fholess wish 60 esy may say aud throw my fuflus euce 1o what I think @ tho right direction. I ami w marrisd mau, and know how it iv my- oIf. 1 biave boen thero: and Lo amount uf argu- mont, howover plausible ; uo arsy of figures, couviucing though MWey puay sppesr Lo Lo ; uo dodging or quibbliug 1:0m YUURE LIOR LU0 COW~ ardly to follow tho iuchnatious that should be Lnplantod 1w tho broast of vvery man, could con- yiuoo me that wben | warried the wowen of wy choioo, when I was but 23 yours of uge, 1 did ot do tho very bogt $hivg tm I oould hiave dons, ¢ 1140 practics these L of domestio e, looked st from n mociMl, manitary, moral, pecuniary, or ang other poind of viaw, T onty roguet that Edid not choose the botter part a sear or mo Leforo I dit. 3ty 6aro i« wimilar, I have ro doubt, to that nf thotirands of otliers. and il §4 the samn thap nasily every vouug man's would Le, if, inatead of stopring 10 quibble avar the pronsble az- yonse, aud tha possibln loss of komo nelfish in- dtlgenco, Lo wonld wot matrisd, taking care, of caurse. to find rome good, ¥nnsible, kind-heoart- td(r"l that would ba a fit compagion for him, rd nettle donn to n happivess mors complate and satifactors than sny ho conld posmibly find i1 ABY COWRE Of WuRis-nuNnOGTNEY 1 catun out of the army st the g0 of 23, and wan married shortly after, My eajital consisted of boaith, atroogth, a roszonablo swount of en- apd & very emull aviount of manay, « 1 alao had womo tact and common souve, awing wy to oxceoding mode-ty I muat ho ax- 4 trom namiug the quantity,” We,—that 1s wito aud §,—lived sconomically, but not nig- yardiy: worked dhigontly, but not bevond onr threngel s kept witlm our tnoome, bul did not UenY CLreslVea ANy Dodemsary wmusvment, #08 tho reayonabls requiremnents of socio- t ok wltho eud of ton yeors, I have a Lhirh el busiuees that nots sbout 4,500 § .My I:fa 1a toaured (in ease of 2 ) for 26,000, 'ono half of which 18 alreadv pmid wji, st amm o romtortabla shape financially 5 the majority of the Lrople in the world view such matters, 1bave wotfur a mingle moment rogrettod my chioico 1u a wifo, o wisbod T hsd doua dilereut- 13 by postpoutug vlie et ur 93 100rh COUYOHIEND seavon, And e tnlly convincod that hod I watted to ostablish mysetf iu business, and eccure a competanca and a hotna bufore doitig tuy duty by wsrrying the gl I foved, | would never haso voached the poiat K was coming at, but would atill Le w ycor, wiser- ablo. wtarvad ‘*ronstubont” of a bachalar: atily vaiuly lovking for happiness .in the cearrylog out of wy own reliiah ende, and waiting for tha thoe to come, but whick probably would never have reached nie, swhen I could step into 8 placs aimi- Jarto thoono I now aceupy, Lut without sny special effort ou my part., My udvice to Lhe stroog, bealthy yosog men of fairjability ia, pot to rusb hoadlong ioto tha marriagn noose without thouglit or dincretion, but do it when you aro convinved tuat you have found the right one, and dou't fear too mneh the bowls of old backs outeide the fold, who are too cowardly to go in thowsclves, and wizh to keap every one elso out, Tuose viewa ate sent from a martied man's standpolnt, hoping that thoy may be the means of inducing momo well-mesiing young man to “tos the mark." and make somoe yunug lady baupy by using her an wall or hotter than nnder the most fuvorable circuisstancos ba would uss bimeelf. Yours truly, Hryvese?. MATRIMONY AND POVERTY. To the Edicur of The Chicadu Iyiune: Cutcacy, Bept, 6.—I am ono of the married o, and bave watchiod with keen intercat the discuseion pro sud con ou tho marriago ques- tion. Hove carefully read your editorial com- meaty, sud fecl Liko' indorsiug tho sentimenta expressad thereing but think stll further, tho a5 nts buve not been carried home to their proper eourco, 1 think the fault lies hore: The home-training of our girls is not cnloulated to wmake 8 workingiaeu's wifs, Thoir fathers, por- bups, corns the family loaf by tho wweat of hin brow, while they pass from the common to the High School. Hero they aro ladies (2) ; their etudics tako all their time; they arv too tired b wight to do soy Lousework, houco they cannot iron o man's sbhirt, eanvot wash, canuot bako o 10af of brewl; whilo motber toils over a liot stove to got up summer Cresses for thew thoy aro diligently employed reading a book With flaming yellos paper covers, sirotcued pos- #ibly at tall length oo the lounge in tho fronk room. Pity to tho poor fool who, like a moth, gets dazed for & time by Loo many of our Chis cago girls; they wake np sfter marriago to find 0w tbey have dous for themmcives. I am workingman, and prond of tho fact, aud Lo- lisve & young man can dignify labor. My em- ploymeut, to 3 cortuin extcul, makes o stu- dious, My wages nre fair, 1 warmed ab 22, tahing a young worsn I bud Loown for years for my wifo, posnessed of good common-sense, not earing to Le stvioda lady ; cru therotore do her own work, o hiave beon marriod nearly tivelva years ; havo two childian; y wifo makos her 0vu ciothiug, the childran's, 1y £lirts aua over- alls, etc., at her own req I bought her & gewing-miachino for that purpose, | 8ho hires no pirl: does ber own worli, Out of 870 & mouth woeau hvu very comfortably, and can some- tunee eoud tho family out into the cvmntry duriog tho Lot weatber. I du ihat iustead af ependibg tho monoy for boer, cigars, theatres, picuica, testivals, and the many wuys that worziagmen's mouoy goes. iy iv pus by for rummer, end the wite aud children are beno- fited by tho cbange, while I sometimes join them. Of cowrs: we aro obliged 1o economlzo to do the, but we nover stini ourselves of good food, wo dou L try to oudress onr nelghbors, and cau thorofore pay onr way aud bavo s ittie sometlung to spare. We don't believo iu getting into doot to entertain compsny. This hew poew wy expericiva, und I have slways bold to tho old provery, A won must a5k hin wilo's loavo tuthrive.” Therefore, boys, koos wiio you ine toud 10 marry ; doo't jump too fast; **lcok be- futo you leaj ;* you wow'l lobe your girl if you are worth having ; kho will Wit '8 year or two for vou to get woency t) foraish yout neat ; do. this aud you won't regses fullowing the nd’;iu of oM, BRIEF AND TO THE POINT, o the Edutur of The Chicaro Tribuna : Cuicauw, Sept, 4. —Whilo the subjoct of mate rimuny 13 bewyg sgiteted, I wonld like to put in wy liitlo ples. Wo are reprarded by the wortd generally as butlerilios of fashion and porsouy Jurt ewted to adurn o ball-room, aud with ; only. wnlicient iueligenco ko convense ot thy mosd trivil topice, 1 wishi it were in wy power o corruct this mistaken ides of the public mind, thus placiog us on b higherilevol,—the pouition Wo ovughs i reality to oceupy. 1 think youny men should not judpe the girls from outade mppearances ouly, ‘Thoy do uot soo them ai fomw, 8o #fu net capavle of judgiag., SBoma youny ladied try to conceal from thedr friandy 146 mnouni ot knowledge they possess of honse. bold metiers. I Juok upan thay ae falss pide. aud bave never sor been afrab) {u ronfent wha koowledye I isve, fur 1 am cors twi 4 understund sil tho Nttls wywtecies sud u:ly of housekospiug os well sy my wouher. § bave s'80 boen umiployed in an Oftive s copyist £.r kevers] yours, thus oarnivg about $1.500. £ wia uot obliged 1o nmintuin wyself, but did & meto'y from w love of tudependunce. I Lmw wrtien this for the ressou it sxdle oue more o Lae lint ot thoss wiho wish tu Lu thought nesl of, - Neacy, Al ENTHUSIASTIC * OBSERVER. INDIaNAbULLY, Lid., Bupt. H.—Lurcka! M. Eduur, I Luve suddeuly found whst | wants Did you resd the letior of *One of Cluesgo'y Daughters * published in Ssturday's Twnose? 1t wot, thes have the devil bring you u copy and resd It immeditely, 1t will pay yod, even if you do bisye Lo quit wriing on that editonat tesder ou polities or toduce, 1t i cutaiued o, the Eagu on mnatiimonial didcusatous, Just think af it! A dauglter in oue of Clicago’y woulthios and st arigtocrativ fauulice, tuat roside in 8 wathls front, cau, aud does, cvok, wash, iron, and attend to the ordwary bouzehuid duties of & Wuwau iy sy purteet sl sulisfaclury w menuer that her wmotber Lan discustpud Middy, snd jue formed the family lauudroed thed ber secvioad atw b0 longer required. What will bocome of if this siste of things n slluwed to contluue? Aud what 4 to Livowe of we il X dou't uake tho woyusintance of this socomplished and de wivabis youny lady, sid capture her bofase koma Que of the thoussnds Of youug wen who are geriy waulehing and thirstivg fog :’AG .:gm kind o{ & wifo wlepe i und carmed ber off shead of moid Tunt theio &re exceptions to wll rules is fully pioven tw my mind by the facts set forth w thiw Youug Iy lotter; and sbeis deserving of w W noole, sud loyal Joune Losuand, which Srticio csu by found with caso amony the larye duopg of sble aud euergetic young Amuricaits wiat ull the honored positions iu our country's- buewess, and who esnn only AH tham beoausa they binve the brains, enerygy, apd porssysrencd nuoessary (0 ouable them 10 dischanse thy propor duties of nien, Dpol whioes excriions aud iususgement depend tho vucocss ard Lappinese of our entira land. Why, £ thougbs thiat the tashion of an iatellie Ewt, ‘uitivated, and sttructive youoy womau's nowing to suy coueidurable dekrve how to pere furm the routine dutics of s housowite bad be-' oume obuvlete! Woll, wome very esti - Dlo do Liave ukl-fashioued notions, sad oo that s young wsn'v s fup, & butch, an 1ghoramus incapatle of - wife, thst dou's fall in Jove with and marry an insipid 1guorant doli, that's hwoed snd stsyed \d doctored up 10 the requircments of the proa~ ::i fashlousble sociely, sud who bas Bo wore idoa of properly dm:hu'fm the dutios af &+ JVILE TG Wik bur ly thep s modes,