The evening world. Newspaper, September 2, 1922, Page 11

of the Modern Woman. a—Why “Old” Tender Senti- ments Have Gone Out of Style. What Has Happened to Modern Romance? Margaret Culkin Banning Explains— 1—What the Modern Man Thinks 33—-Why _Most Men Are More Sentimental Than Women. 4—Of What Modern Husbands Are Really Most Jealous, By Marguerite Mooers Marshall. Copyright 1 HE Modern Man speaks: What's a feminist? Damned if | know, It means anything any woman wants it to mean. It’s driven everybody to incoherence. But what | mean is that kind of woman who doesn’t make any concessions to sex. “Women have stopped being ro- mantic. They've done worse. They've pene trated our souls and dug out the WARHIN® romance and an- alyzed it among themselves. They're picking all their instincts to pieces, reading Freud on sex, analyzing every honest caress, worrying about a submerged in homes and husbands It’e wrecking. It's spoiling their grain. “It's a rotten time. 1 only know that the trend is dangerous, They got their inch of political equality. Now they want an ell. They don't want to be wemen any lenger, “FAKE women!” That's the newest charge against the New Woman, and it is brought by the hero of a novel written by one of them! In intelligence, in educa- tion, in humor, in broad and tolerant viewpoint, in her faith in woman- hood, Margaret Culkin Banning, author of “Spellbinders,"’ finely rep- resents modern women, Yet in her Novel, published to-day, she puts with remarkable fairness the real case against them from the vfew- point of the modern man—that they are, in a single phrase, vivisecting romance, that they are no longer “spellbinders."* Men, she thinks, are not really afraid that women won't keep house any longer, now that they can vote. Men are afraid women won't keep hearts—won't bother to do so And that winsome, charming Mrs. Bunning is sorry for the men, I dis- covered when I interviewed her. “Romance ts under a cloud,’ she assured me, with regretful dor. “Women are pretty well through with spellbinding politically and emo- tionally. The last fifteen years of free speaking, of intolerance for sen- timentality in any period of life, of confusion with vulgarity and bru- tality, have pretty well atrophied most of the ‘tender sentiments’ which used to be considered estimable. A good deal of wheat has been pulled up with the tares. “Tt is now difficult to have or dis- play simple emotion without being considered a fool, and psycho-analy- sis stalks the courtship. “The smart self-consciousness of it ql is hurting men more than women. Men have always been the aggressors in romance, and beneath all the cheap hardness of their current regard for and talk of women you come upon loneliness, They have lost an illu- sion which they denied and mis- treated but of which they were secretly fond.” “Isn't it true,’ I suggested at this 2 (New York Evening World) by Press Publishing Co polat, “that man—not woman~--is the truly sentimental sex? Isn't it man that cherishes the withered rosebuds? Isn't it he who indites sonnets—or free verse—to his lady's eyebrow? Mrs. Banning smiled but nodded “You ure right of course,” she suid, “Men have been responsible for most of the cruel things done to women, but the have so) owritten th greatest love poetry and the ideas of romantic love and chivalry were all their own,"* Margaret Culkin Banning next touched on an inte ting point in the psychology of the man of the hour his quite new jealousy, not of some other man but of his wife's women friends and woman movements It affects men like the income tax,'’ to quote an epigram from “Spellbinders™ “they hate to give up 80 large a of their property Man's system demanded concen tration of the female on the male and gave opportunity for jealousy only when his province was invaded by an other man Now jealousy is spread out,’” obs the brilliant author of “Spellbinders."” The mind of the woman he loves may be subject to his imbress than to college influences; he may be shi rv jealous of the frie hip she hi with other women, the regard she has for her job and poYtical interests. Also he is often Jealous of the fuct that she doesn't wait for him to tell her about man or woman, but goes to her copy of Freud and looks it all up." Then Mrs vning ps spects to our “fake women.’ There are plenty them,’? she declared, “tinged hy the new ideas eating thelr cake and having it, try ing to grab tho comforts of the old system and the privileges of the new Innumerable women are canting fem- inigm without wanting to do anything except tack new privileges to an ec onomie scheme of support by man, giving him in the e of pe od feminism just as little for his money as possible, Innumerable girls are in- voking the names of feminism and freedom to cover up looseness and unwillingness to accept any discipline and in defense of an equal standard of immorality. The result is, with many of them, that they are laugh- ing at the idea of romance, which at least helped to keep the old system from being avowedly sordid, but they are as yet unwilling to go the mit in taking full responsibility for their freedom." “What's the answer?" I interposed, at this point. “Is romance really dead? And is it the modern woman who killed Cock Robin—I mean, ro- mance?" But Mrs. Banning smiled reassur- ingly “Romance,"? she said, ‘is inherent in humanity. It is not popular now because it demands certain qualities which are falling into disrepute—self, sacrifice, devotion and idealization of one person by another, Yet the re- lations between men and women (if they are not to be so ephemeral as to mean nothing to the race but its de- struction) demand so much sacrifice, pain and devotion that without ideal ization it would be too hard to see them through. “And as women get less self-con scious about their new privileges, as they begin to share the stage again with men, especially when we come to @ generation to whom there is no novelty in votes or latch keys,’ Mrs Banning ended on a note of confi dent hopefulness, ‘we should come into @ period of stronger men and women and magnificent romance. Copyright 1922 (New York Evening World) by Press Publishing Co, HE ts a lady who heeds no gossiping tongue, But says the word of comfort and gives the clasp Of a sympathetic hand to an erring one. She gives no imperious orders But treats them And knows full minds, That she would not take herself; Nor expects those who serve to be but slaves, th the light of humans Ike herself; Nor casts a stone knowing full well That her own house may be made of glass, Who never fails to give the benefit of the doubt, Nor eceks to reform except with reason, well that loud words go with low Nor does she condemn those who choose to live a life According to a standard different from her own, To her modesty and courtesy are assets, ‘And that to pose makes a sham of one's self. She it is who listens and learns from the lowly, Who dispels the mofehill of anger To bar the mountain of misery; Who 1s not blinded by the glittering gold, No matter how much she may possess; Nor falls to see the underlying truth Through the filmy froth. She gives way to the weak and the weary, No matter how self-sufficient she may be. She is not indifferent to the welfare of her friends, Nor inquisitive of their live @he has the courage of her conviction Rather than that of convention, And knows always that the best judge is he Who is acquainted with temptation. Bhe never stoops to conquer And ne'er makes engagements that she knows she will break Bhe cultivates a spirit to condone offense rather then condemn it, And, when vital, chooses the lie that saves Rather than the truth that sear She oultivates the trait of tolerance, ‘That no one may make her hi ¢ him And, more than all, @ lady never tries to prove it. SATURDAY, Milestones on the Road to Health _ And Beauty “'Twenty-One” to “ Thirty-Five” (The Fifth Milestone) By Doris Doscher. Copyright 1922 (New York Evening World) by Press Pul . HE few years that slip by between twenty-one and thirty-tive are marked T by a change from early womanhood to full maturity. years of fruitage and tho results of carly efforts commence to be realized. I¢ the girl has chosen a career she finds hi of business tasks with responsibilities and the burden of an executive on her shoulders, Too often this reflects in the body by ag tress the woman of thirty-five. But we have learned so much in regard to healthful dressing and sane ways of living that many a woman at thirty- five passes readily for a flapper ten years her junior. But unless the first gray hair, the early appearance of crow’s feet, the little lines that droop around the mouth, the stiffening of the figure and the Inerease or decrease from the normal in weight are watched for and remedied, thirty-five will marke the farewell of the youthful appearance ty fe) of any woman. 1t is perfectly marvel- lous what can be accomplished by the daily bath, the nightly massage, strict attention to diet and exercise in pre- serving a woman of thirty-five in her first youthful glow of health end beauty. In the first place, there should be a change of diet as soon as the bony structure is fully developed. This is accomplished before twenty-one, Now there should be on the diet lst such foods as contain elements necessary to give renewed strength to the blood and nerves rather than those that help the growth of bone and muscle. There should also be a slight decrease in the amount eaten after twenty-one. In early youth many indi. diet may he commit prevented by laxative foods, It is during these years that the re- y motherhood are usually borne, and if I could only im- press upon every one of you how much you could do with a little care to your health and appearance during these years, you would find not only the bur- den less but yourselves absolutely re- spansibilities of e juvenated In the first place, if you stay at home, do your housework in such an efficient manner that you have ample time for outdoor recreation. The re- action on yourself of work done in a careless manner, or bringing up your children in a haphazard way, ts de- pressing and makes you appear years older than you really are. And you must be in touch with such pleasures (At right.) A balloon is an | excellent aid for stretching the figure. This helps you to \ keep the girlish figure so neo- x 7 essary to the woman of thir- pretions in od without their effects being immediately noticed, but if you wish to retain a clear skin at thirty-flve it is absolutely essential that your food ts well chosen, properly masticated and that constipation ts ns that tl; and recreations as will keep you co} versant with agairs home, so that you W ful outlook There is nothing that will so qui woman between tw have a chee ly age that 1 and thirty-five as to fe doors of youthful re jon are ¢ ing on her and she h of good times, Very often you v more time in despondency than would in getting up and hust seen the around your tasks so that you cun ¢ Joy some of the same sports tha did before marriag However, it makes no real differ if you are a busi: woman home maker, you must at thirt seriously consider preserving youthful appearance as far as y« uble. We always find a wom thirty-five anxious to forget her | day. Very well, do so, and why n Time was simply made f venience in statistics and w mean't to hang like a m around your neck You can age in one hour un tain circumstances more tt would under ten times th were well and happy, Above want you to keep the enthu life. Perhaps a few of your und air casties have, by the t . reach thirty-five, tumbled to you Do not let this give crow’s feet 1 eyes, a frown to the droop to the mouth, for that come with matu sweeter and more true, You know persons 4 they have the wrong outi hate and temper all leave their so when I say that you > @ cheerful outlook on life giving you the best recipe ing youthful indefinitely Do not drift with the tide. five should find you f vigor. Go out and get ever is your dream of sucee , SEPTEMBER 2, ‘These are the self at thirty-tive In the midst (Above.) To give a natural fluffiness to the hair, try fanning it, av in the illustration. will be surprised to see how the growth of the hair improves as well. (At left.) Allow the balloon to roll down the arm, across the body and down the | game makes for strength, but chase a balloon if you wish to acquire grace. as in the illustration other arm. A footh cuses of fllness ut thirty- ply traceable xpressed desires. You will find life very seldom demands t you sacrifice outside of the A family's happiness is often marred crowning yourself as a martyr chas ying your youtht woman of thirty-five needs ourself that you do not from the normal in we ur girlish figure, ut this time le night nutil you have of late hours must go after ind neatnes a long way ard giving the a feeling of satisfaction COURTSHIP and MARRIAGE —— By Betty Vincent md (New York nw Puliivthing Cor 66 EAR MISS VINCENT: Are D there amy nice girls in New York? I have been getting you this for Copyright oning World) up enough spunk to ask long time, T formerly came from use and seem to have a hard tim equainted with the right sort of girl. I have been working for fifteen months in thts burgh, and al though I muke pretty good money I can't find any way to get in with the right crowd, Once In awhile I go to dance, but I don't enjoy dancing unless Iam with the right girl, Sun- ys and holidays I absolutely don't know what to do with myself. — I don’t intend to flirt to get a girl if T have to remain a bachelor all my life. I want to mect a nice girl, and have all the intentions of getting married if I do meet her, but where, oh, WHERE will that be? J. A. 1." Before answering the above letter let me state right at this point that the writer's name er address will not be forwarded under any conditions. Fre- quently when @ young man makes an honest appeal like this, answers flock in by the cartload, all from young women who imagine they are just the young girl he needs to meet. However, matchmaking 4# not the aim of this column, What we wish to do is to advise young people in regard to love and matrimony—not to find mates for them Now, in referring to the young man’s letter, let me say that the very fact this type of letter brings #0 many letters from the young women them selves answers the question itself, There are plenty of “nice girls in New York,” Mr. J. Hod. There are plenty who are in the very position you are. They are looking for nice young men. But you can't tell ho r where, or when you will meet them I might advise you to yo 90 a church and meet the young people of some organization, but you are just as apt lo meet the girl you describe at a dance or some friend's home, About the only thing I can advise you to do is to w-a-i-t. Don't try to rush into matrimony or to meet the right girt before she actually appears. You maw be lonely now, but if you wait, some day some friend, or some chance ac quaintance, will introduce you to the very girl you dese to know. And the moment you meet her, you'll know! to get “Dear Miss Vincent: I am ac- Quainted with three young men. They all flattered me and for a time IT was undecided which one I cared for. This summer one of them sent mo a card and just from a cute little remark he made I know I like lim best. I can’t have a party at my home and Invite him because some one in my home is ill, but how can 1 nowledge the fact that I was ple ? i UNDECIDED.” Send him a postal card with a re ply equally ax appealing as his mes sage to you Fables Summer Post-Mortems By Marguerite Mooers Marshall Copyright 1922 (New Tork Evening World) by Press Pu MORAL: “Ay Keep Somethin’ to Yersel’ Ye Wadna Tell to Ony!” HOSE who are not victims Of what a friend of mine once called “Siamese twins matri- mony” Are about to rush toward each other With something closely resembling shouts of glee Everywhere Wives who have been in the country, in the mountains, at the seashore Vor the vacation season, And husbands Who have been enjoying their own kind of vacation (oh, yes, they have) “All alone in the hot city” ‘These temporurily disunited couples Are making ready to reunite On Labor Day, or the day before, or the day after. And really they're quite looking for- ward to it! Distance lends enchantment even to bald-headed husband with false teeth, And to a wife who has been one for ten years. : Journeys end in lovers meeting. Summer separations make September honeymoons- Provided there are no summer post- mortems! If only—oh, if only— The happy pair doesn’t go to work and spoil it all By TELLING too much! For if there is any summer holiday that can stand having the Whole Truth told about 1t— Well, it's not a regular one, that's all! Every regular vacation for husbands and wives Is slightly IRREGULAR Why does Estelle come back to town with a new sparkle in her eye, A tantalizing, beguiling renaissance of her girlhood charms? It isn’t altogether the ozone of the mountain alr, ‘ Or the invigorating effect of sea bath- ing. It's because for a few weeks or months the sea of heavy domes- ticity Has no longer swept over her, sub- merging her real self. Or, to change the figure, she has es- caped temporarily from the domes- tle ark, The ark into which all the animals Ko two by two. A man who isn't her husband has paid her a compliment— To put it more simply, a MAN has complimented her—husbands don't do such things. ie Fait tng Oo A man took her sailing and motoring Beeause he wanted to—not because she reminded him, at least ten times, ‘That “It's been so long, Horace, since you've taken me ANYWHERE!" A man sent her roses—red onea, Talked TO her Instead of AT her— the conjugal conversational method. It was all perfectly harmless—and she's come back feeling ten years younger, . And more in love with her Horace than ever So why should she harrow the poor man’s feelings by going into un- necessary details? Why rouse the old Othello in hig in- nocent heart? Let the dead summer bury its dead As for Horace Well, how many times di@ he take that pretty widow to dine in a Long Island roadhouse ? How. gullantly did he play squire? How much did she help him tmprove his dance-staps? Was there ever a more sympathet listener, when he told how he swung his first big deal, * And how he once went around in eighty, at the Golf Club? Did she make him feel like a Great Man, A reincarnated Romeo? She did! And even though he would be the first to admit that she can't hold a andie to his wife, is the reason why his wife finds him so m more spirited, en- thusiastic and loverlike than when she went away Then why spoil the spell by telling the tale Oh, yor, of course there should be perfect confidence between husband and wife But NOT unt!! it hurts—either one! Fur be it from ine to urge that con- cealment of any serious matter Should prey on your damask cheek But why make trivialities serious By dwelling on them? It was Sir Harry Lauder who told me of a wonderful Scots proverb— “Ay keep somethin’ to yersel’ yo wadna tell to ony !’* And a very good motto ft is for the home-coming Summer Widow and her Hege lord the Summer Widower. Just tell each other you had a grand time— (Although, of course, dear, I missed you dreadfully?) — Tet It go at that. P. 8. And don't be too darned in- quisitive! Sh —~ The Jarr Family By Roy L. McCardell Copyright 1922 (New York Evening World) by Press Publishing Oo, “cc HEN is this poet to be W buried?" asked Mr. Jarr's boss, the philanthropic Jabez Smith, as he handed $20 to Mr Michael Angelo Dinkston. As Mr. Dinkston was himself the poet in question for whose funeral expenses he was collecting, he replied evasively: “The exact hour has not yet been determimed upon,"’ and he added under his breath, ‘nor the exact day, etther."* “Jt ts well that you are collecting for the mortuary expenses of the subject personage," remarked Mr. Jabez Smith, “for selentific and prac- tical philanthropy has demonstrated that impulsive charity for the living only pauperizes those it endeavors to benefit ll, in the abstract, 1 am interested in morons or the subnormal that respond only to the simplest mental tests. “Had the applicant for relief, in whose behalf you come, been simply ill or incapacitated, rather than de mised, I could conscientiously refuse any contribution whatever, Yet [ am interested in the high grade feeble minded of abnormal tendencies, and would see to it that thelr cases be fully investigated and reported upon. “Perbaps I have erred, as it 1s, in contributing to an interment without fully investigating. The poor are prone to be too extravagant as re gurds to funerals. In fact, the poor ure extravagant in everything, The wealthy are wealthy because they are thrifty, but although I have contrib- Feed the Brute Favorite Recipes By WILLIAM J. BRYAN. French: bvied Onions. NIONS are ny permitted foods and they are prepared for the ny ways, The best that I woof hae been * name of Fret ed onions. onions in t form at the famous ove Park Inn, N.C, and have roduced the (ish nto many private Lenws Take a He large onion w at be made up of « large number of dining cars and on (any into slices through the rings so that each slice will by Famous Men. Mat of given I first since other whole rings. Then break the slices up into Separate rings, drop these into a thin batter and fry them as you fry Jooks like a little shout. I find that the dish te universally prais May I add « word in regard to French-fried potatoes. Each ring radishes, of which Lam very fon ‘The long White le radish ts, in my judgment, the best variets adde and I have fou at ed to the salt m: 4% the radia ht, 1022, by ‘The Bei! Syndicate, Inc.) uted twenty dollars in a moment of impulsive sentimentality, I shall nc endeavor to withdraw my donation ‘The last remark was doubtless prompted by the fact that Mr. Dinks- ton had put the twenty dollar bill in his inside breast pocket and buttoned up his coat, “In ot ter dead Dinkston. “Not if they are in good health and industrious, replied the philanthropist, “but where they are” inefficient through physical or mental defective- ness, they represent only a charge upon the community. To be incom petent is to be unsocial, To instance, here is the report of the Yellowby family of Hog Hollow, Indiana, a family of defectives for seven gener- ations. ‘The Yellowby family have ee the & of Indiana over sixty thousand dollars in the past forty years through the costs of their | ing public Charges in jails, hospital alms! ouses, and lunatic asylums. You note in this volume ~(here Mr Smith took down one of the ponderous tomes of the reports of the sociologi- cal inquiries of the Skinner Founda- tion, * o Research in Regard to a Rural Commupity of Hereditary De- fectives') “A corps of trained an@ high-sal- aried social investigators and statis- ticlans were employed for ten years on making this report and survey. It is a model of efficiency, a compilation )-ordination that is a valuable tion to our knowledge of social conditions as they affect the economic industrial conditions, and as they | react in such cases upon society as a whole.” words, the poor are bet queried Michael Angelo i understand that this set of re- port# on the Yellowby family cost the Skinner Foundation $200,000 alone,”’ remarked Mr. Dink ton it," sald Mr. nally Il eontributed nner Foundation the Sktnner Foun - | of efficiency.” si excuse me tf I dtsagree,” Dinkston, affably. ‘It would n far more efficient to have Yellowby family up against und shot them at sunrise, vine he bowed to Mr. Jat ed him « Jare’s ‘ day and de- passed Mr, Jarr's desc r office, he leaned over and © motto of those wo 1 prosperous as at, the Inept and ath to the fam- * asked Mr. Ja ce eee nee eret re ———— o_o