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**Love When 7 * #* if You Fall in Love, Then Wait Too Long, the Rainbow Fades and the Glamour Goes. cS: 4% Let Career Wait—Marry First, Then Go Back to the Other When You’re Forty. Woe After That,” Warns Sophie Kerr You’re 25— May. Miss It You Can’t Make a Man Over-- If You Can’t Love Him ‘as He Is, Then You Can't Love Him. Would Be No Unhappy Mar- riages if Every Day Husband and Wife Said “I Love You.” * * * sone " By Marguerite Mooers Marshall. @epyright, 1922 (New York Evening World) by Press Publishing Compan; ‘ NE thing is certain; the beau- O tiful, normal flowering of love—real love—which {8 so Much more than a mere physical in- fatuation—between young man and young woman. One thing is certain: if you put aside that love or put it off because you want more money, or @ career, because your great-aunt ob- Jects—you put Beauty out of your life. You miss a glory at twenty-five, and even if you look for it you cannot find it at forty. “The flower that once has blown forever dies!’ "” That's how Sophie Kerr, one of our most brilliant and sincere women nov- elists, answers the question raised by the provocative title and dramatic plot of her latest novel, published to-day, “One Thing Is Certain.” Against a background of life on Maryland's Eastern Shore, a picture in words as colorful, as crowded with real men and women as the canvas of an old master, Sophie Kerr has depicted the tragedy of a lovers’ quarrel. It's no Romeo-and-Juliet affair, with the pair of star-orossed lovers dying young and escaping their pain. It's the tragedy of years of bitter, withered, thwarted life, for man and woman, as the result of an unforgiven wound in the spring- time of their love. All of us have known at least one such pair, The poet Coleridge was seeing them when he wrote, plty- ingly: “Alas! they had been friends in vouth, But whispering tongues can poison truth, ‘And constancy Jives in realms above, And youth is fickle, and life ta vain, And to be wroth with one we love Doth work like madness tn the brain.” And yet young lovers continue to quarrel, continue to put off their union for trivial reasons, until the rainbow fades and the glamour goes. “T know it,’’ agreed Sophie Kerr, her blue eyes clouding under their fringe of curling black lashes; eyes blue as the sky-colored Chinese sereen behind her chair, We were in her apartment, at No. 816 West Seventy-ninth Street. She gave an impatient shrug. “Oh, they are so foolish!'’ she ex- claimed—‘‘these girls who think they can't be happy unless the man they love earns stch-and-such a salary and can give them a maid and a car, as well as a home. Then there are the other girls who put off marrying their lovers because the girls’ careers mustn't be handicapped. And there are girls—not as plentiful, I admit, as they used to be, but still to be found—who give up the man for whom they care because somebody in the family objects to him or thinks daughter should stay at home. “What parents are guilty of in this managing of other people's I:ves! It is dreadful.to me, the way in which the older members of a family assume the right to ‘marry off’ their children —or NOT to marry them off, to cling to them like leeches. “As for the girl who puts off mar- riage until her young man is on the way to becoming rich, she deliberately loses the best out of life, sells her birthright for a mess of pottage. And although I have a profound belief in the value of work, in the right of every human being to some absorb- ing form of it—still, work is a thing a gtrl can put off more easily than love. Let her marry when she loves, have her children young. If she has a mind that's worth anything she can keep it alive while she devotes her- self to her babies. Then she can go back to her work, even when she is forty, let us say, with all the en- richment of experience and tempera- ment which marriage and maternity have given her. “But if at twenty-five she puts aside love for the sake of a career, she can't go back tu love at forty. She has put Beauty out of her life, and ‘the flo that once has blown forever dies. The attractive author of “One @hing Is Certain” paused to give me ‘» Siehty challenging glance, evea ‘while ste smiled. “You understand," she sa¥, “that I don’t want to sound like @mshy sentimergalist. Ar? whe I say ‘love’ J don’t mean tafatuation. Real love Iu threefold—the physical attrac- tion of the body; the mental comrade- ship of the mind; the mighty element of protecting tenderness which is of the spirit. “It's when the normal young man and woman have this feeling for each other, this most wonderful of all emo- tional relationships, that I so hate to wee them spoiling and blurring it with nagging, or quarrelling, or evasions. It is the beauty which life gives them; like sunsets, moonbeams, flowers, the sea, only more glorious than any of made to me about. successful mar- she sald, ‘there would be no unhappy marriages, or almost none, if, every day, the husband would tell the wife that he loved her, and if she would say, some time dur- these. And if they quarrel because {ng the twenty-four hours, ‘You he didn’t telephone her when he said jnow, dear, I do love you!’ ” he would, or because she keeps him Jatighed and nodded. waiting, or for some silly little nig- she de- gling cause, they act ike children pulling a flower to pieces, rubbing ourge,"’ she concluded thought- away its freshness with soiled fin- “when the young marry for b love ‘they sometimes make mistakes. ‘You speak, in your book, of the 1: isn't the love that lasts, Yet— danger to love when @ girl tries to haven't we all a right to make our make her lover over," I reminded. own mistakes? And if a fortune is “It's one of the worst dangers," at that she sald promptly. “Trying to reform refuse it because, later on, we the man you love {s useless in. the lone {tbh agihe (OnBYEnAy taKe. it firet place, because you never succeed. away from us? Even if one of these And the attempt makes him miser- unpieasant things happens we enjoy able and you, too. It you can't love our fortune while we have it. Surely him as he is, faults, weaknesses and we may enjoy our love Hkewiso, Its all—then you can't love him. Here, goigen memories’ will console us, again, there's peril in trying to man- Whatever may come.”* age another person's life.’ “It is far better to be a Has-Been I reminded Sophie Kerr of a pro- in love,” I quoted, “than a Never- foundly wise suggestion she had once Was."* FOLLOWING MARK TWAIN————+ An Innocent Abroad London Has Hard Stuff, Light Wines, Beer.and Too Much Rain. ‘By Neal R. O’Hara. : Copyright 1922 (New York Evening World) by Press Publishing Co. left to us, does anybody sugg: we ma Awful Weather Had the British All at Sea Till Some One Blamed It on an American Millionaire. LONDON, Aug. 18. HERE is no doubt Great Britain ts strong on the water. If you don't believe it, y'oughta see the bath tubs they have here, Take the plug out of an average London tub and it would make a handsome drydock for the Aquitania. A real large tub looks like the Yale Bowl and just about has its capacity. And speaking of water, England is just staggering through the wettest season since Noah built and launched the Ark, So far, this summer has been twelve times as wet as normal figures call for. It's rained practically every day since the first of June, Not steadily— nothing as fortunate as that! It simply commences to pelt down when every one thought it was going to be pleasant. It catches you in your sun- shipe clothes—and that's the worst of it, old dear. When the sun comes out tor six consecutive hours, the papers run the story on Page One, No kidding ebout that—they really do! Lloyd George, Parliament and Margot Asquith #ie most generally blamed for the rain, but none of ‘em can get a majority, “It winter comes" isn’t a threat in England. It's a promise, For if winter comes, it means an end of raining and they'll get snowflakes for a change. One of the prize theories about this rainy business puts the onus on an Amertcan millionaire. There's no kidding about that, elther—lots of Lon- doners believe a Yankee magnate caused the country’s worst wet season in fifty years. Here's how: For several years now the weather has been awful and it's getting worse all the time. A local scientist doped it out that a change in the Gulf Stream’s course is at the bottom of it. That's where the Yankee billionaire comes in. We Americans, you know, can do anything, 80 one of us sliced the Gulf Stream out of the fairway. And that one ts the late Henry Flagler. The theory that England has fallen for is that the sea wall built for the Florida East Coast Railway, that juts out seventy miles as far as Key West, is what has thrown the Gulf Stream out of plumb, ‘Where it once behaved itself and slid by tho upper part of Ireland, now it's been diverted at the source and babbles into the English Channel instead, That's what brings these continual rainstorms, they say, and also a lot of man-eating sharks that have scared all tho bathers at Britain's Southeast coast seaside resorts. London 1s a consistent town—nix. Women smoke nonchalantly In the- atre boxes and hotel lobbies, and you see plenty ‘of ‘em standing up against the bar scooping suds in the second-rate public houses. But the cops won't let the local stores sell candy after 10 P. M How would you like to see the shops on F Street and Pen Avenue, Washington, with big signs in front of ‘em like thi: Waistcoat Designers for His Excellency, the President.’ ‘Offic Chip Purveyors to Warren Gamalie! I., by Presidential Warrant." Carpet Slipper Outfitters to the White House and Cabinet.’’ That's what you get off the front of all the smartest shops in London. If King George runs short of a handkerchief and drops in to get one quick, a three-foot crest goes on top of the sign next morning that makes the store a caterer, by appointment, to the Kink. Why American tourists are not rated as Intellectual giants by Europeans, ig neatly tlustrated by any hotel conversation: ‘What boatcha come over on?” ‘The Terrific. Awful nice boat, too."* ‘Wwll, we come over on the Macaronia, ‘We're goin' back on the Neuralgia."’ “Are yuh? We're gonna take the Bombastic. glad when we sail."’ “Same here. We seen Paris and Rome and Berlin and London. And noae of ‘em has got as tall a building as the Firemen’s Mutual at home," “You said it. These poor saps over here think they're happy, but gee, they need to be Americanize*,” And se on, ad infinitin, Wagll the NewnxSut, oad Bombastic sail, That's a slick boat, too,'’ And believe me, we'll be Gow | KNow HER SOME GIRLS PREFER MONEY To BRAINS 2 THAT RICH OLD | SHOULD LS&Yf SOF IWAS CRAZY ABOUT HER, . YES, 1 PRO PoSsD) IGiHER, BUT < DUFFER CUTH OuT A HER, 5 ND MARRIE, You HATE YouRsSELe f Zl ce By Sophie Copyright 1922 (New York B Mothers Kidnapping Their Children ning World) by Pres Irene Loeb Publishing Co. MOTHER spent the night in jail months with the father te el! tony. [Nn Bight Years of Service Never as a result of kfdnapping her child from the husband from whom she was separated. This 1s one instance of thousands Every day, somewhere, some mother is trying to get to her child, If there is one law that needs adjusting, it is the one setting forth where the ehild belongs when the parents When, when will understand he can’t settle things by dofy- ing the natural laws? ‘The place for a c’ oh, man that one 16 with its mother, un she {8 an improper guardian, an that is rare. When, oh, when will we under- stand that no matter what the courts decide, the heart of a mother ts al ways aching for the little ore, and no amount of money legel documents will change the fe ing of mother love? She will go througt: kinds of hardships and sacrifices in order to get her child, and she will break any one she all laws, no matter how she may agreo to them, because it is the moth stinct that 1s drawing her the babe that is @ part of her. Some day man will weke up to this one fundamental principle and wil make stringent laws for the protection of mothers and children, The statutes will prescriby that when couples sepa rate or secure @ divorce the children shall go to the mother until are at least fourteen years of ace, regardless of what other settlements are made, and that any one who st a child away from such a mother shall be put behind bars. Certainly a father has rights. has the right to see his childre has the right to have them for period, but in the main they be the mother and should not be away from her. This thing of leaving them a few months with the mother and a few toward they He H shi take Children are weaned away from one or the other and strife usually ts en gendered. They are torn between the wo forces, 1 know of one divorced mother who actually gave up her children and, hds suffered the tortures of Hades, because her husband cut her oft with very little and she ts unablo to give the children the comforts and pleasures that the father gives them when they are with him This woman told me: ‘When the children come home, after belng with my former husband, they are mis- erably gpofled. I can do nothing with them, They don’t like my three lit- tle rooms, coming away from his spacious home, “They are wood children and they try not to make me feel it, but I can seo it clearly, They want this, that and the other thing which thetr fa- ther gives them, and thelr comparison ‘s too much. They are young and naturally they bend toward the way where thelr welfare les. “I fear that they will learn to dis- © me because I can give them so ittle, and [ cannot help seeing their gladness and antictpation to get back to the father, So I am letting them stay with him, subjugating my own rights and my own desires in the matter in the interest of the children ‘Of course, they should love me and want me no matter how poor I am, but they are only children, and tuey will not realize my misery until they are much older. In the mean- time, I cannot deprive them of all the good things they can get by be- with their father, But Heaven only knows what I suffer for the loss ¢ them," Po me this 1s one of the most cruel uses I know about. I wish this man, who has since married, could be pun- ed to the full. He 1s absolutely eartless about his former wife, giv- her the torture of taking the ren away and giving them so ich when they are with him as to them away from thelr own other, It the law was properly made, this ther would have these children ere they belong, with her, and all comforts too. The trouble of It {s that people are bitter at part- and revenge is uppermost in their nds—revenge which {s but dead sea {t and only begets misery for those ho foster tt, The manly man, however, no mat- what grievance he has against wife, will realize that the place his children is with their mother 1 will not assume his legal rights order to fulfil the natural one, Had an Accident, Never Was Late, So Employer Surprises Him With Bountiful Reward. Martin B. Griffin, twenty-six, of Ithaca, N. Y., is the perfect chaut- feur, and @ day or so ago, when he exchanged marriage vows with tho girl of his choice tn the little college city, he was rewarded for his perfect record by a gift of $10,000 from his employer, Mrs. Andrew D. White, widow of Dr, Andrew Dickson White, first President of Cornell University, and former Ambassador to Germany. Martin had not expected the gift, but he registered double happiness, and it ts doubtful if he realized even in the smallest degree that he ts any better chauffeur than hundreds of others. But in the estimation of Mrs. White young Griffin has earned the money. Martin has never had an accident and he has driven the White car ex actly elght years, and in all of the larger cities of the East He has been perfect in punctuality; never in all that time has he been late in keeping an appointment. He always used good judgment. He was loyal at all times, and he had foresight. Not only was he a prudent driver, but he was cautious and never failed to keep an eye on other drivers Ie pays to be @ perfect chauffeur. $10,000 Wedding Gift to “Perfect Chauffeur” MARTIN & 6 ORFF: and vehicles. He knew his place. He performed many duties voluntarily just for the sake of Mrs. White's comfort. When Dr, White died recently Martin went to Mrs. White and of- fered to seek another job, ‘However, Mrs. White preferred to retain him, But Martin had no vision of @ fortune coming to him-as @ result of faith- fulness Martin Griffin began life handi- capped by @ congenital lameness which threatened to make of him a cripple, but from his early infancy he displayed @ determination of char- acter that has stood him in good stead during the quarter of a century which he has lived. Bible Questions and Answers QUESTIONS. 1, By whom were sackcloth gar- ments worn? 2. Who chose Samaria as the site of the capital of the ten tribes of Isreal? 3. Why was so much {:nportance attached to the coming of Saul? « How many years was Israel governed by the house of Omri? 5. To what section Galilee was the name ‘allies of the Gien- tiles" gtyon? 6, Why did Samuol select David from all the sons of Jesse who. came before him at the feast? Copyrtmnt ANSWERS. 1. Sackcloth garments were worn by mourners, and in extreme cases they were worn next to the skin, ‘ 2. Omri chose Samaria the cap!- tal of the ten tribes of Iarael 8. The Lord had chosen Saul to be Captain over the people of Israel 4. Israel was governed by House of Omri for 45 years, The name ‘Galilee of the Gen was given to Upper Galilee uel selected David be- cause God whispered to him th none of the other sons of Jess was the chosen one, the 1022, by the Triangle Feature Bervice. The Jarr Family By Roy L. McCardell Ceprreht, 198, (New York Byening Workt) “ec OU shouldn't come here ito see me tn business hours, Dinkston,” sald Mr. Ji petulantly, as the shabby poet-philo: opher drifted into the office. “But before or after business hours you are not here” replied Mr Dink~ ston mildly. ‘Besides, I didn’t come here to see you, if you please,” ank he ambied over and entered the pri- vate sanctum of Mr. Jarr’s employer. Mr: Jabez Smith, philanthropist ani merchant prince, as the wholesaic woollen trade papers described him.’* “Ah, Mr. Dinkston, glad to see you," said the head of the firm cor- dially. ‘‘Have you decided to return to your duties as efficiency engineer? Since you resigned we bave had ne one able to cope with the compléer card index system and costgraph charta which you installed. Bestdeg there has been no business, and ) haven't had the heart to look a dim gram of overhead charges in the face. % “Pardon me," ventured Mr. Dink® ton, “you mistake the purpose of my visit. I have laid aside all business cares forever. I come on a charitatie mission,"’ “We refer all applicants for relid{ to the Society for the Prevention of Indiscriminate Almsgiving,”’ sald Mr Jarr's boss. ‘They will send an iff vestigator to make inquiries concern ing not only the present condition o, the applicant but his antecedents anc ancestry as well, and especiallr whether his progenitors were heredi tary defectives or of subnormal intef ligence or if they were of high or lok grade morons."* Mr. Dinkston smiled appreciativel; and replied, ‘Yes, they will make « research Into the relation of heredity and environment, together with » gametic survey of the parents, and ; somatic description of the offspring of the applicant. Then, after the an thropological charts have been fillé& out, showing where the nearest of kin were neurotic, alcoholic, tubercular, migrainous or debilitated, the dati will be tabulated and published with photographs and micrometic measure- ments of skulls, bone formation, to- gether with mental tests and psycho- analytical reports on the subjects of * the inguiry."” t “Why, certainly,” said Mr. soe Smith enthuslastically, “but how did you know?’ , “I am the originator of those com- prehensive systems of sociological sur vey for the Skinner Foundation, which has expended a $20,000,000 fund on compiling such statistics,” said Mr Dinkstom proudly. “And this reminds me that I am here on a matter of prompt eleemosynary relief. I desire you to contribute $5 to the funeral o @ poet, to put away the literary re- mains, so to speak.” And seeing the merchant philan thropist falter, Mr. Dinkston added, “{ will read you' this epic-elegy in twenty cantos that I have written on the poet’s demise.” “Never mind the twenty cantos," cried the merchant, “Here is $20: cremate the poet and the poem with him! . Careless Shampooing Spoils the Hair Soap should be used very carefully, if you want to keep your hair look ing its best. Most soaps and pre pared shampoos contain too much alkali. This dries the scalp, makes the hair brittle, and ruins it. ‘ The best thing for steady use is Mulsified cocoanut oil shampoo (which is pure and greaseless) and ts better than anything else you can nse Two or three teaspoonfuls of Mul- sified in a cup or glass with a little warm water is sufficient to cleanse the hair and scalp thoroughly. 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