The evening world. Newspaper, June 1, 1922, Page 25

ee \ | | eee, eee, i i my Everything ¥ Copyright, 1922, HERE are thousands of them— couples who have lost respect for each other. Bappens they secretly dislike each other, but go on day after day in a way, they can't do anything else. How _ pathetic such lives are can- hum-drum because not be estimated. And the fault lies in something that might seem very startling to the average married couple — knowing too much of each other — too much intimacy. ‘To me the great fallacy lies in mar- Tied people regarding themselves as “one."" It sounds good, but one and one will always be two with two minds and two hearts and two sets of habits that must be respected. We might as well be frank about ft. When people marry, almost from the beginning their view of the mar- ried proposition is one of striving to have such knowledge of each other that there is nothing more to know. This, sffrprising as it may seem, is the beginning of the end of the happy marriage. The old adage, contempt,"’ works just as certainly in marriage as in any other relationship and this needs littie reflection to “Familiarity breeds prove its truth It is just as important for married to People to have something more learn about each other in the ever @ay pursuit of happines other matter that continu teresting. In common parlance, there is con- siderable truth in the phrase him guessing." I know a couple who lost all chance of happiness just because of this com- mon trait of leaving nothing known, nothing unsaid. ‘The husband told the story some- thing like this: “It began with our honeymoon, My wife insisted hearing about every girl I had ever known from the time I went to school every little friendship I had had. “What this or that girl How much did I like her? What hap- pened? Where were they now? Did I surely love her more than anybody else and would I ever again like any- body as well? “When I came home at the end of the day I had to tell every single thing I did—every move. And then she proceeded to tell me about all she did. “After a while she knew what I w going to say and I knew was going to say. “She understood what I would do under given circumstances, and | did likewise where she was concerned Nothing unexpected ever happened, and if it did, the wonder was over very shortly. “Tt was almost impossible to sur- prise her. If there was a button off my coat she knew it before I did and I was told about it. If some one tele- phoned me she had to know every- thing in connection with the call. “All my small idiosyncrasies she studied and tried to correct. Living with her was one constant business of detail. There wasn't anything in her day's work that I did not know about when I came home at night. “In a word, our life became one everlasting story about us without any variation “Finally, without knowing why, we Just grew sick to death of each other. I honestly believe the only reason i that we knew each other too well.’ And there is such a thing, Mrs. Wife and Mr. Husband. And it is danger ous, even disastrous. Happiness is very often largely a matter of getting a thrill now and then, a surprise, an unexpected turn of events. The wise man and the wise woman will so regulate their lives that they will not burden each other with too much knowledge of each other. It is too wearing, to y the least, and they don't realize it unti) it is too late. For example, don’t tell your husband ‘every trifle that happens in the kitchen or everything that you have said or done in connection with your neighbor. Let him find some- thing out for himself. Don't always tell him about some- thing nice you are going to do for him. Do it and let him get the Pleasure without expecting it, It may Prove a double joy. Leave something to his imagination. Furthermore, and of great tmpor- tance, is the matter of modesty, Many @ married woman thinks that mar- Mage sweeps away all lines of de- corum and even decency. And I know of nothing so fatal as this. The man or woman who insists on maintaining a modest mien toward the other has a greater chance for con- tinuing a fine marriage relationship. The highest respect is engendered in. this way. It Is difficult to go Into @eails in such matters, but every man ami every woman knows Just where as in to be any in- Keep un- on ever was like? what she Don’t Tell Your SAVE SOME “SURPRISES” TO KEEP YOUR “PERSONALITY” INTERESTING Always Leave Something to the Imagination. By Sophie Irene Loeb. (New York Evening World) by Press Publishing Co And when this” HUSBAND WIFE You Know . to draw the line to retain respect that is so vital A smail instance is the common habit of rushing into one another's rvoms without knocking, It is a small thing, but either party somehow can- not help feciing a sense of respect when they know they are not per- mitted to enter without knocking. What I am trying to say in all of the above is simply this—that the riage does not mean an ex- cess of freedom in the relationship of one to the other. On the contrary, to recognize the value of respect constitutes a safe- guard that stands in good stead. The safety line lies in forestalling the possibility of getting satiated with each other, which is disastrous. If you don't believe it go down and hear the wails and woes of the Do- mestic Relations Courts or those of divorce. People just grow weary of too close an association, There js nothing new to find one in the other and human nature cannot stand jt The ideal couples are those who do not permit the pursuit of pleasing ch other to become merely a duty They put forth every effort to hold on to that something during the pre- marriage period regarding each other as a distinct personality that must be treated as such, The big watchword consideration. Without dies and love with it. Look Your Best \——By Doris Doscher.— yright, (New York Evening World) 8 Publishing Co. Dosche very dry. 1 it with cold then wash it with soap and water, finishing with a dash of cold water, but it never looks clear. | also have numerous lit- tle hairs on my fai 1am nine- teen and have medium brown hair. MARY. Dry skin is usually caused by a lack of circulation of the entire body. Sponge baths as cold as you stand them, is constant it respect Tr EAR Mi My skin first cleanse cream, can followed by a rubdown the first thing in the morning, will help you overcome this condition. Systematic exercise should be done every day and the diet should contain of milk, as the skin will re- ar more readily than to any- applied to the outside. Glycer- ine and rosewater may agree with your skin better than the cold cream. And you ean dilute it with water as you wash your face, Frequent ap- plica h ons of peroxide will make the s less conspicuous. Dear Miss Doscher: lam thirty-eight years old, 5 feet 61-2 inches tall and weigh 140 pounds, but my bust only measures 31 inches. Please print a flesh food that will help me develop a 36-inch bust. M. D. You are about the right weight for your height and all you need is to learn to take deep breathing exercises as frequently as possible so as to fill out the top part of the chest. You will find that arm exercises that lift the muscles of the bust and bring these muscles into play along with the breathing exercises are helpful in fill- ing out the hollows of the chest, giv- ing you a much better development. tell me how much | should weigh? | am a young girl of twenty-three, 5 feet 6 i tall and weigh 190 As this is so much it makes me look older and also | have a double chin, so please tell me what | should eat and do. DISCOURAGED, One hundred and fifty pounds would be a better weight for you at your age. If you will send me a self- addressed envelope I will give you in- structions for reduction and how to get rid of the double chin A Few Strawberry Suggestions THINTRIRY S MOTHER. LM Gone TOMARRY \ CARGU i CRADLE | @ You \ OLD ENOUGH To BE MY CHILD! SHE IS GS 4, ey YOUR MOTHE Sou CAN T) H MOTHER, You RE ROBBING THE Copyright, 1 HE average family spends a T goodly sum on its summer soft drinks. Why does the house- keeper not see her opportunity to save money, and to better serve her family’s health by making soft drinks at home? There are on the market sufficient kinds of bottled fruit juices of the highest grade, or the housewife can use the sirups from canned fruits or make sirups from the fresh fruits which are in season. No artificial flavors can possibly compete with natural frult juices as a cooling tonic and means of refresh- ment. Grape juice contains potash salts, tartaric acid and iron, and is particularly high in ability to cleanse the blood and to keep the body tem Copyright, 1922, (New York Evening World) by Press Publishing Co CHARLOTTE RUSSE. AKE a thin sheet of jelly roll or use lady fingers. Line sides of the moulds with the cake cut to fit. Soak one and @ half tablespoon- fuls of gelatine in half a cup of milk for half an hour, Whip half a pint of cream. Set gelatine in a pan of hot water, add two tablespoonfuls of sugar and stir until dissolved (do not overheat or milk will curdle). Strain into a bowl and set into a dish of eracked ice, add one cup slight- ly crushed, sweetened strawberries and stir. When it begins to thicken gently stir in the whipped cream and flavor with vanilla, Fill the lined moulds with the mixture and let stand until firm, When ready to serve dip batton of mould into hot water, then turn Contents out on the dish. Cover top and sides with whipped cream or meringue. Put a border of same around base und fill with berries or they may be served plain with one or more berries on the top. STRAWBERRY WHIP. Beat whites of two eggs until stiff; add one-half cup powdered sugar and one und a quarter cupfuls crushed B (Add small quantities of sugar and berries strawberries that are very ripe. alternately until used up.) Beat the mixture until stiff and considerable in bulk. Chopped nuts or grated cocoa- nut may be added. Chill well before serving. This is nice served with boiled custard STRAWBERRY TAPIOCA, Soak one-half teaspoonful of gela~ tine in cold water to cover, Dissolve with very little boiling water, setting bowl in hot water, Use one quart strawberries, Cut the largest in halt, dip cut side into the gelatine and line a chilled glass dish with these. Lay aside a few berries for the top. To the remaining half of the quart of berries adi half a cup of sugar, one cup water and juice of one lemon, Cook until berries are soft. ‘This should make two cups of mixture, Stir in one-fourth cup minute tapioca and cook until tapioca is transparent, from five to ten minutes. Fold in beaten whites of two eggs. When pool pour into the strawberry-lined dish, Chill, then cover with whipped eream and adurn with a few berries, Home Made Sodas By Mrs. Christine Frederick. Household Efficiency Expert, Author “Household Engin (New York Evening World) by Press Publishing Co. perature low. Lemons and limes are natural tonics unsurpassed. We should cultivate a wider taste for the bottled lime juice, which, by pouring a few drops into iced water gives us an instantaneous drink without trouble. Loganberry juice is other refreshing flavor, with possibilities, Pineapple and apple juice also may be bought bottled. The juice of any berry has a subacid piquancy which delights and cools. Peaches, pears, watermelons and 80 forth contain salts and acids which are especially needful to the body in summer, since fruit acids give enersy and counteract Iassitude and “fas” caused by high temperatures, These fruit juices may be used plain or par tlally diluted with shaved ice or cool water as substitutes for tea and cof- fee at regular meals. Now, !t is only a step to cor any fruit beverage into a “soda means of carbonated water. Any dr store or first class grocery will supply your homes with a case or less of hot- tles of carbonated water or 'vichy.’ In addition to fruit drinks there is the large class of “sodas’’ having milk as an ingredient. No more refreshing and less taxing complete summer meal could be taken than a large glass of malted milk, with egg and ¢ late flavor, eaten with a few ¢ ers, and it is especially suitable to the needs of the hurried housewife Beaten eggs may be added to the fruit an- wide flavors, chilled and called by any fancy name desired Several small devices wWl greatly assist the one who prepares the bev erages. Chief of these 1s a regular deep “shaker,"* made of metal, with a strainer at the top, in which drinks may be swiftly shaken back and fort! thus insuring perfect mixing. So! times they have a small fruit squeezer in the top of the eap, Others are a good glass lemon squee: an whip and a wooden spoon, wit! handle, since no fruit beverage sh be stirred with metal, An tee with serrated edge will serve to shave ice quickly and into fine particles just right for many fruit drinks. A quart freezer for making ice cream will provide for the making off tice cream sodas” and ‘sundara” { hi nuts and fruits. THE EVENING WORLD, THURSDAY, JUNE 1, 1922, {| Love | HER any SHE HAS | LOTS oF id ce ) un “MARGIE” By Caroline Crawford j Ta sah pei * POOR Bay] DHE IS \_ ROBBING, THE CRADLE me ARE OLD rue H To BE Mote £P- Copyright, 1022, (Now York Evening World) by Press Publishing Co. TELEPHONE TINGLES. ARGIE was back at the glove counter again and glad to be there. “You certainly show the effects of g00d country air and plenty of milk and eggs," announced Malsie, after a critical survey of her friend, ‘But I'll tell the world I'm glad to have you back again, The other girls at this counter are a bunch of cats, Margie, and I certainly have missed you.” “And I'm glad to be back,"’ enthu- siastically replied Margie. ‘‘Country people are all right, but after you're used to city folk and city ways it's pretty hard to go to bed at § and wake up at 6. Milk and eggs and plenty of green vegetables are all right too, but give me a good, big juicy steak and a bakery pie and I'm happy." “Well, how did you come out with Prince Charming stuff?" asked Maisie. ‘Your mother told me Chan- ning worrled her life out about where you were and she finally had to give him your address, Did he come out to see you?” your “Yes, and it's all off between us; at least 1 wouldn't marry him if he were the lust man in the world," declared Mar Then she told her friend how the young man had suggested that she put her mother tn an Instt- tution and marry him “pid Willis Channing say that?" askel Maisie “He did, and you don't know the half of it," continued Margie, ‘'He took 4 story of mine 1 wrote some go, told me it was poorly write but that he could fix it up and for me. He sold it all right, but his own name, and just the way | had written it How did you find that out? | simply chanced upon the maga- zine and saw my own writing under hiv name, When he came out to call third Ume, I thought I'd test him out again, so 1 asked him if he would be willing on me and proposed for the to support mother. And then he sald to put her in an institution."” “Well, I never would have thought that of him,"' declared Maisie, ‘'He Was 80 g00d looking and so apparently good hearted that I felt quite certain he was your Prince Charming. Well, I'm glad you found him out, but what has happened to Frank Spafford?"’ Margie looked across the counter and her eyes filled with tears “He's no good, either,” said Maisie, slipping her hand through Margie’s. “Never mind, darling, we'll find you a real Prince Charming " Frank Spafford is a splendid young man, and you mustn't say anything about him,’' announced Margie, sud- denly looking very calm and serene. “He is my Prince Charming and I have perfect confidence in him, You frightened him, Maisie, by going to him and telling him I was in love with him and it was up to him to propose. You can't do that with a real man. You nearly spoiled my romance. But 1 know I shall see him again.’ It was Maisie’s turn now to be si lent. She felt a trifle guilty In try ing to make young Spafford propone. She remembered distinctly of telling him he talked love in circles and now she wanted him to square himself. But she dismissed her worry with the thought that if he had really loved Margie he would have gone to her at once and told It was evi- dent that he was just hiding now. That evening Margie found her mother making over an old dress of hers her so, “What's the use of fixing up my wardrobe?” she asked rather dis- couraged. “My Prince Charmings have all flown the coop But just then the telephone began to buaz and she flew to it “This is Frank Spafford,” said a very familiar yoice, "I'm on my way over to your house.” To-Morrow—The Meeting, a0) Of a Modern Maid \——-=-_=_—=—_— By Marguerite Mooers Marshall, ww York Evening World) by Pres Publishing Cn. Copyright, 1922 (s In love, woman is selective—if she can’t have the mate shi wants, she is very likely not to have any at all. But mar is collective and takes as his motto, “The more th merrier!” to make love to her. Yet when at any man, he at once begins A (hat she's really “a bright little woman,’ surely the answer away with!" The clever what she called the turn! rain. girl of yesteryear “platonic friendship; "* calls it ‘being a good pal," Husband and wife can differ religion, literature, sport—and yet they'll fight for day about whether the new car should be taken out in thi FOOL never seems quite so stupid to a woman as when he im tryiny a female moron casts lovelorn glance to think that he's misjudged her, at * after all! A judge has been asked to decide how many Hes young man may tel! while he courting a girl, Bia is obvious—"'as many ax be can ge used to specialize 4 nowadays, # and, as ever, Cupid eat amicably on polities ae The truly modern woman may be defined as one who does not ean to be pratmed at the expense of the sex to which she belongs. Sometimes a cat says ‘‘Miau! miau!'' and sometimes she asks if yor aren't glad skirts are coming down— lecoming to YOUNG women!" nce the very short ones are oph Tt must be ao nice to be a man needs no conversation; it biography. In women's society, at any ratesdy is sufficient to have mastered the arts of a 4o%e A divorcee's past is usually not nearly so interesting as her future. The Jarr Family By Roy L. McCardell Copyright, 1922 (New York Evening World) ‘by Prose Publishing Oo. 66] T LOOKS as tnougn T have to go to Europe," said Mr. Jarr, when he came home the other evening. “When do you expect we shall go?” usked Mra. Jarr. ‘I'll have to have time to buy some clothes, You know T can’t pack up and start right out for Europe in a day. “T didn't say WE were going to Europe, I said that it looked an though I would have to go,"' remarked Mr. Jarr. “Yes, | know that,’ said Mre. Jarre sweetly, ‘you said you were going, and I said WE were going, You did not give me any particulars as to why you were going, but if you are going Tam going. I need a nice trip abroad just as well as you do,"’ “Oh, come, I say!"’ cried Mr. Jarr. “The boss is considering sending me abroad on business for the firm. But how could you go; who would look after the children? For, supposing you could go, the boss would hardly consent to my making it a family trip."’ “My mother will come and stay here and look after the children,"’ re- piled Mrs, Jarr. ‘‘Just the other day @ and I were reading in the paper about how many people were going to Europe this summer, and she sug gonted that she take care of the chil- dren in case you and I decided to take the trip." _ “But suppose something happened to the children while you were away?'’ suggested Mr. Jarr. ‘Something might happen to them while I am with them,"’ said Mrs. Jarr, calmly, “I'll have to trust them with somebody some day. They'll grow up and get married. So I might as well see something of the world while I am stil young enough to en- Joy travelling, now that I have the chance." “Now that YOU have the chance?’ repeated Mr, Jarr. “Yes, aren't you going to Europe “T only said I may.’ “And if you may, [ will,"’ said Mrs. Jarr. “But this will be a business trip,’ Mr. Jarr protested, “And I mean business this trip," said Mrs. Jarr with finality. “Well, you know that I would dear- ly love to have you come along, but I don't know how the firm will take it." “We will not consult the firm in the matter.’ “But we'd better,"’ Mr, Jarr insist - ed, “I really think we'd better. You come down to the office with me to- morrow and I'll take you in to the boss and tell him, or rathef ask him, bout your going.’ “Edward Jarr,” said Mra. Jarr, calmly, ‘you remember telling me as a good joke when we were first married, about a certain comedian you knew, who had a wife, who was an actress, and how he always got the management to refuse to take his in the same company? You told me the actor would take his wife to the manager and say beseechingly, ‘Governor, haven't you a place for Nellie in the company? | work bet- ter when whe is along, and I am so lonesome when I am parted from her.’ And you told me, as he spoke this way, he would stand a little be- hind his wife and shake his head and frown et the manager, and when he was through speaking, shape his lips ag though saying, ‘Say no! Say no!’ And then the manager would reply that he was very sorry, but all the cast was filled.” “I don't remember ever telling you such a story,” protested Mr. Jarr. “And if I did tell it, I must have told it because I thought It was most reprehensible for any married man to act that wa “Well, just the same, we will not consult the firm,” sald Mrs. Jarr. “If you go to Europe I'll go along!” “Of course,” said Mr. Jarr, “L won't go if 1 cannot take you.” “You never said a truer word, Ed- ward,” replied Mrs, Jarr, ™~ Courtship © —and— . Marriage ~: By Betty Vincent —/ Copyright, 1022 (New York Evening Werlt by Press Pubiishing Co. = 66 T\EAR MISS VINCENT: | D am a steady reader of . your advice and there- fore take the liberty of coming to © you now with a personal ma | am a young man of twenty eight and have taken a young. woman out ht times, and now © after two months have elapsed | met her with the understanding — that we go about together for a. time longer to find out if we agree before becoming engaged. But to my surprise the young woman re- | plied that if | wanted to see her again | would have to make up: my mind as to my intentions. © Please tell me if the young woman has any right to force a proposal, _ IRVING G, I am afraid young woman employing mid-Victorian method, which the maiden aunt or old-fagh, loned father used to use with—“Ame what are your intentions, © yours man? You do not have to declity! yourself on such short notice, agf you are quite right in wishing to ser whether you can agree, Simply con tinue to call if you care for thit young woman, and stand up for you: convtetions that you need to kadY cach other better before you wed. “Dear Miss Vincent: | am eighteen years of age and know a young man of the same age) whom | have learned to love. My father does not approve of me doing out with him but my> mother does not see why | am not.’ allowed to. The other night 1, made a date with this boy to go te a show. My father went out, with me, to my surprise, and con- sequently | could not meet this young man. He became angry _ because | did not meet him and refuses to speak to me. My gir! friend is trying to get us to make up and wants me to meet him at her home. Do you think | ought te do this when my father feels the way he do J. A When a girl lives at home she w subject to her parents’ guardianshig and should respect their wishes, Dé not meet this young man on the sly but Invite him to your home and in- troduce him to your father. If you have already done this and he does not approve of him I would advise you to wait until you are twenty-one and better able to judge character before you take things im*your own hands. Careless Shampooing Spoils the Hair Soap should be used very carefully, if you want to keep your hair looking its best. Most soaps and prepareo shampoos contain too much alkali. This dries the scalp, makes the hair brittle, and ruins it The best thing for steady use is Mulsified cocoanut oil — shampoe which is pure and greaseless) and it better than anything else you can use. Two or three teaspoonfuls of Mul- sified in a cup or aus with a litthe warm water is sufficient to cleanse the hair and scalp thoroughly, Sim- ply moisten the hair with water and rub it in, It makes an abundance of rich, creamy lather, which rinses out easily, removing every particle of dust, dirt, dandruff and excess olf, The hair dries quickly and evenly, and it leaves the scalp soft, and te heir fine and silky, bright, lustrous, fluffy and easy to manage, You can get Mulsified cocoanut @l shampoo at any pharmacy, it's very cheap, and » few ounces will supply every. member of the family for months. Be sure your druggist gives you Mulsified Ly MAXIMS Cc}