The evening world. Newspaper, May 30, 1921, Page 9

A Mother “But Parents Must First “SPANKING NOT NECESSARY TO HAVE CHILDREN HONOR ~ AND OBEY THEIR PARENTS” oo Answers Judge Talley Make Themselves Worthy of Honor, and Find New Formulas for the New « Problems of Child Training,” Says Mrs. Gruen- berg, Recognized Authority on the Subject. Copsrignt, 1941 fronted by many youngsters charged low legal age. “I don't know what has come over the children,” declared the Judge. “It i amazing the number of boys who appear as offenders. In my opinion the fault lies with the parents. The com. faandment of ‘Honor thy mother and father’ appears to have been disre- garded, and in its place has been sub- stituted, ‘Parents, obey thy, children. Children now ape adequate pun- ishment for their misdoinga both at hothe and in school, and the inevitable yesult is when they start out in life they have not the slightest respect for law or order. The appearance of these youths, the number of which is 4 Tecord in this court during the past year, is disheartening to the Judges who preside and is of the great eat problems facing the’ country to- day.” ‘That's the opinion of a man and a judge. What follows is @e viewpoint of a woman and a in Mrs, Sidonie Mataner Gruenberg, who has tour harming children, Who has written two books on childhood, and who is the Vice President and active organ- izer of the Federation for Child Siudy, No. 2 West 61th Street. “There no more important and formidable task confronting us to- day than the intelligent care of our gbildren and the checking of lawless- ess among them,” declared Mrs. Mruenberg, who herselr has investi- gated recently the cases of many children brought into court, “And [ wish you would emphasize the fact that the problems we face are not merely city-wide, but country-wide. “Parents ARE responsible for their hildren. They should be taught to jor their parents—but the parents wid make themselves worthy vf honor. The trouble is that many of ws lack standards for regulating the new. democracy which has invaded the home. We have broken away from the old ideal of the repressed, Baugh punished child, and many of ws do not yet understand how to keep our children free without allowing j them to degenerate into little anarch _gtOne mistake which the parents of to-day often make is that they do not tey to find new formulas for the new ems of child training, Take, for ample, that common factor of mod- ern life, the automobile, It is gen- rosea egutabtaee that, in one way or r, the automobile is responsi- for much child delinquency, But a way to counteract it is to work it plans for using the automobile to benefit the child, instead of shut- ting parental eyes to the fact that ity here, will stay here and.cannot be apace harmless by a flat command u the child shail ignore its exist- c@, So, instead of placing a taboo ‘on moving pictures and other modern jopments, parents should use them for the welfare of the child, in- @tead of allowing them to be used for his hurt We do not really the child of other days,” continued the author 0: Your Child To-Day and To-Morrow ‘hd “Sons and Daughter: We do not want the subdued, ‘Yes-mamma- no-mamma’ type. Or, at least, if we want it, the desire comes only on those occasions when we desire to itapress our guests with the super- Buman goodness of our offspring. UtNevertheless, absolutism in. the home ought not to be rep by anarchy. The first step for every mother who wants to train her child properly is to understand the child's Rature—to learn if it responds most want in our ‘smiling! By Roy L. 66 ATOW, Willig and Bmma,” said N Mrs, Jarr, calling her chil- dren to her, “Mamma was telling you the other day about her going to sec Mrs. Marshmallow, the lady who has such nice, well behaved ehildren.” Hl bet I could lick that Aubrey Marshmafiow!” said Master Jarr. “Oh, Willie, you mustn't speak tnat way!” cried Mrs. Jarr. ubre Marsbmailow is a little gentleman, and he wouldn't fight ‘Izzy Slavinsky is a nice boy and eo.is Johnny Rangle, and they fight Master Willie persisted, ” bout th rough en fet whom Tve told you not to play with,” said Mrs. Jarr, “und listen while I tell you what nice children Mttle Aubrey and Imogene Marsh- mall are.” ri How frogene Marshmallow sometimes,’ skip "Can Rieti up to 300 and not trip on “ur, salt, pepper, mustard’ lke he Mary Rangle can?” asked Hittle girl. i onthe isn't allowed to pay on th alk—no children where she Sisew a ract, people are not wanted je weir neighborhood who have chil- dren,” said Mrs. Jarr Spoes God know it?” asked the lit tle girl, “Or did God only want lit- tle children to live in the cellar, Ik Mrs. Tony, the lady who !s married to the bootblack on the corner who has hole lot of children? Mit talk about this to you another time,” said Mrs. J ikon some> ewhat aback at these in eugeni and theolog Don't you want m tell you how beautifully the litle ailow children behave eerueo there's. company?” asked The Jarr Family Copyright, 1921, by Tho Preas Publishing Co, (The Now York Bventng World). By Marguerite Dean. by The Preas Publishing Co. (Tee Now York Evening World RB our children becoming utterly lawless? Are their parents to blame? The questions are raised by the serious accusations just brought ‘om the bench by Judge Talley of the Court of General § sions, when con- with crime who apparently were be- MRS. SIDONIE M. GRUENBERG. quickly to suggestion, to reason or to direct command. Obedience is the first great law, But the best way to Insure obedience is by giving no unnecessary or arbitrary orders. “When possible, explain your com- mand. Give as few commands as ible. But insist on t' ¢ ability to promptly and {n.olligently. as in a political democracy there are laws which the Individual must heed, even though they seem to limit his freedom, so in the de- mocracy of the ht se there must be rules for the saféyy and health of the child and for a just considera- tion of the welfare of others. Judge Talley asserted that he -ras In favor of corporeal punishment, even int. public schools, as “tne only met. od of bringing the younger generation to its senses, the only mean. vf teaching children to respe their parents, school teachers other elders. “It would seem,” mildly suggests Gruenberg, “that "intelligent rents do not need to resort to auch methods in the traning of norms children. Children that are treated like animals will behave like ani- mais; violence and brutality do ni bring out the best in a child's nu ture. Iam sure that the most <n- thustastic advocates of corporeal pnn- ‘shment will admit that it is not always practised with discretion and that it is in most cases not only un- necessary but positively harmful, “Solomon said: ‘Spare the rod and spoil the + Our late beloved an of Ar érican novelists, William n Howells, suggested ‘that we t with profit spoil the rod and e the child. Punishment may be sary, now and then, but it should be a sort of emergency treat- ment, At best, it has a negative va By showing a child what th do, by constructive suggestion, the mother will accomplish more than by enforcing, with dire penalties, a long list of ‘don'ts.’ ‘If parents will eluded Mrs. Gruenberg, has formed “branch union: ers in many parts of New Yowk, "the will golive problems of childhood which as individuals they fail to solve, All the mothers and fathers must work together if all the chil- dren are to be saved.” M co-operate," con- ho ‘herself * of moth- McCardell the litte boy. “I'm good wo when company comes and I like 'em.” “The Marshmallow children behave just the same when company is not there, I am sure,” said Mrs. Jarr. But she said it weakly; she wasn't sure. “They do not play on the sidewalk,” Mrs. Jarr went on, “They have a governess to take them out in the park and they never get their nice clothes soiled, and the governess teaches them ‘botany and bird lore and they play the piano beautifully together and can speak French.” “Mr. Slavinsky can talk Yiddish and he is going to teach me,” said Master Jurr, “And I don't want to play the piano, Paw says a man that plays the plano is no good.” “Your papa is joking, I am sure,” said Mrs, Jarr. “But you mustn't in- terrupt.me. I want to tell you of a beautifal and refined game the little Marshmallow children play. It is called ‘Child's Play in Botany,’ and they pretend that various articles in the room are flowers, their favorite flow and they each endeavor to deseribe the flowers. Now you and your little sister go out in the din- ing room and each select something as a favorite flower and see who can best describe it to mamma!” The children dutifully went out to ome little Marshmallows and choo no favorite flower. In a few moments screams arose from the din- ing room and the little boy came run- ning in “Mamma!” he cried, “I sald the rug was a daisy and it was my favorite flower, and Emma said, ‘I'll tramp on it!" and she did! And he pushed me!" shrieked tho little girl “I won't play flowers no. more!" So el in Ma children. ded the children's first lesson hmallowism or ac:thetics for ATE” ae REE Rhyne tte Ve Mpg dene cehetpeg tay eee WOT yg lati, Mined toes yer, eT ,, eppetll? iy Villy, irre Fe LU As Lt a ' irs HE HAS BEEN WORIKING IN HIS GARDEN ALL DAY _The Day of Rest! THERE IS A Goad HUSBAND! Senior Instructor in Short T search for home, and the toward immodesty in feminine dress have been attributed to a hitherto unsuspected cause, senior instructor in short-story writ- ing at Columbia University, assist- ant professor of English at Hunter College, Henry Memorial Reward Committee, declares are largely the result of our modern fiction. the young girls who read these novels by ‘The Brow A Tie New York Brening W Modern Fiction to Blame, Says Dr. Blanc Story Writing at Colum- bia Urges Return of Old- Fashioned Romance as Cure. 2 the Presa Prfhliaing Co. few York Evroniny World.) HE over-sophistication of the younger the flexibility of the marriage vow; the feverish pleasures outside the increasing tendency Dr. Blanche Colton Williams. and Chairman of the 0. that the above conditions “It is a cycle, of course, of war there has been a greater empha- Asa result, Dr. Williams declared, get ‘One the 4 OR. BLANCHE cOLTOM WRiAmS use and effect,” Dr. Williams said. ‘1g [o*0n sone iu a aca the age is decadent, it only natural i We omg 8 eh cone that the lit@érature would reflect that peers De ie ors ia the good- but in reflecting, It passes the “rng only antidote for conditions customs on to the young who would gicruyated by the sex novel and si not otherwise see them Dlayed uD in the over-sophistivated story of udo- ae See Meee lescense is the wholesome romance, In “While literature ix @ reflection of the opinion of Dr. Williams life, we in turn get our ideals of life “We need a pure Are aaial from literature, If the exaggerated “ahd this can be accomplished only sex novel continues to come from the by some great literary force—-some press in such amazing quantities, it great group of writers who will. de influence not only the young for the present age of fiction what people of to-day but those of the Charles Wagner did in a small way succeeding generations, Since the for his in prosenting the siiuple Life dern writers who sis of sex than ever before, owing sweeping his readers into a strong, to our release from strain and to the healthy current of fictioa is Zane pure joy of living—-which is well Grey. In dealing with and reflecting enough, if not overdone, in a graphic, faithful manner, the “The over-sophistication of the so- West of to-day, with its plains o: called ‘flapper’ does exist, and the sage, mountain pea ad the fresh very young novelists who are near to ozone, he takes his readers into the it are reflecting it in their books so open spaces. He depicts life in the that these peculiar phases are pic- open versus life in salons and lobster tured in roseate colors pall In the society novels you u rated sex story, where- \ Copyeiat rant JOHN WHY DON ‘tT You DO LIKE OuR NEIGHBOR D SOMEBODY TOLD HIM THERE WAS A BOTT OF es (33 I WISH 5 SOMEBODY D TELL YOu THAT MAY BE YOu'py WORK HIDDEN THER HALTOD( THE DOCTOR COMES By CHARLOTTE C. WEST MLD. Acute Indigestion. A CUTE attacks of indigestion ore he Colton Williams you get the fresh air and young ro- mance which makes for wholesome- ness." among the most commen all- Dr. Williams pointed out t ments of civilized mankind, siinple love story has all but pé bre are various forms of acute away, and that in its place We have gastric and intestinal disturbances, the novel, interested in realism, in att of which are loosely classed under the mystic and in the exploitation of the name indigestion. An acute at- adolescence and motherhood, “[ heard an editor say in address- ing my short-story class, that he would gladly pay $25,000 for a whole- gion of the stomach, which ts goon some romance—if be could get on followed with gaseous distensions giv- she related, “The simple love story iss ing rise to more or less pain. Heart- not without its complexities. There burn, acid eructations, nausea and can still be the villain and the dif- vomiting may follow and relieve the ficulties to overcome before the aiiatlon tleman is at last rewarded by hia ‘phe pain with upward pressure of lady.” gas may become so severe an to affect Asked if the life of the people the heart and has caused death. changed with the tone of current guaden heart failure, due to acute literature, Dr, Williams replied in the indigestion, usually occurs at fest:vi- utah ore renee ; tes, the ingestion of large the same time accompanied by hixn effect," she declared. ‘The people did Ungle with new life. me emotional tension The combination Way, $f (more wholesome nANCES Hroves disastrous to middic aged and w written, a heulthior reaction . i would get in. We need o fiction elderly men with flabby mus- of the Zane Grey type which will cles make the peop 8a whole eager for Phe tack clothing, tack usually comes on after burried- ly eating a heavy meal, ‘There 1s die- comfort—a sense of fulness in the rAa= where In the re heart ¢ first th ay thing in an at. to loos relivving the assisting the circulation, Immediately ood lterature and get them away from this defunct era, just as the Romanticist# came as healing for Classicism, Now we x, One of nature en the distengion follow with a heavy dose (@ teaspoonful) of bicarbonate of soda na glass of quite hot water, The ua tion of this is twofold; the soda by bringing up the 8 the pain; the hot Water the heavy mass of food its rapid propulsion into the intestine, Absolute quiet in the semi-recum- bent position, sie sipping a pint more of hot water, usually et attack and ve almost nothing but 4 tired of it!” —— gas, dines 1a NEW INVENTIONS. ALL sockets invented by New York man enable a tenant of an apartment nove or rearran fixtures at will without ts nall the to re or electric Nahting toole. ———— OVERWEIGHTED DOG. An English inventor's rowboat IRE Is a born Viegiain one person, whi m fant Be | wna gona fline eosa nae Jed into an easily carried turediy cor 1 with the re- pound package, Nas & % quests of amateur hunterd for the canvas bottom with hollow sides Q joan his Vically,, however, that ure inflated with an alr > the ners patience was exhausted pump. snd he thus delivered himself to a A Swedish inventor has pat- Q man who asked for the dog one day; ented a motor to be mounted on » here, my friend, there wasn't . 4 better water dog living until you the handlebars of a shooting gents took to borrowing drive it by @ bolt connected to @ him. Now his hide is so full of shot the front wheel that he'd sink to the bottom like « brick."—Philadelphia Ledger. of, MODERN * BY MARGUERITE MOOERS MARSHALL * (Copyright, 1921, by ‘Tho Pree Publishiog Oa (The New York Bvening World), ‘ /VIIITID In the Universal Man-Hunt, Women Wit the Sporting Instinct Pursue the Bound- ing Bachelor; Women Without It Take Pot-Shots at the ‘‘Bounder’’ Who Is Some Other Woman’s Husband. W that ho doesn't HEAR of it! HOW WOMEN SOW WHEAT IN THE FIELDS OF LITHUANIA. HE woman takes the wheat or corn inte her mouth and blows the kernels to right and left she moves along. In the bow! she carries an egg, a piece of bread some gold, following the ancient o This is euprned to symbolize the production of a bumper crop to be raised. The land which was once a battlefield is allotted thess people by HEN a thoughtful woman finds out that her husband doesn’t like to hear of her lunching with another man—why, she takes care Nobody ever forgave the old-fash- joned woman for yielding anything before marriage—or for not yield- ing everything afterward. A member of your family is a pe: son who tells you disagreeable truths, borrows the contents of your chiffonier without asking, and peev- ishly submits to your care when il. No man ever yet has succeeded in oxplaining to a woman why he doesn't use the whole fifty words when he telegraphs her a night letter. ‘There are so many nightshirt ad- vertisements on the way to Wasb- ington—ts a Congressman « creature who has not discovered pajamas? When a sentimental young man kisses a girl he likes to believe that he is the first—and yet he really en- joys himself more if he isn't! Even the best of feminists never quite knows whether to feel comp! mented when a man tells her that he “can talk to her just as if she were another man.” ‘The most annoying person in any office 1s the enthusiast who is con- 4 tinually shooting up the place win his blank-cartridge ideas. What is home these days with- out a brewer? Courtship and Marriage By Betty Vincent Copyright, 1921, by The Press Publishing Co, (The New York Bvening World), a young girl give a HOULD , young man a birthday present when he has never presented her with a gift? be proper for me to give a young man a birthday present? | have been going with him for six months, and as yet he has never presented me with so much as a ross, but he hat told me the date of his birthday, and since | tike him | would like to give him a gift. It is neither conventional nor wise for a girl to spoil the good fellowship of a young man's friendship by be- stowing the first present, It would be imuch better to congratulate him by word “A VETERAN” writes: Dear Miss Vinoent: My pal ha a sister whom | think a great deal of. While we were schoolma’ we got along with barely more than a word now and then and | thought she was one of the finest girls on earth. Then 1 went to war and when | came back J realized | was head over heels in love with her. Now, as a friend of her brother, | have been at her house many times and her mother makes me welcome as her son's chum (not the girl's sweetheart). Naturally, her brother t: all my time and wants me to larking with him, but whenever | do talk to the young lady she seems to ¢@ me. How can | make my case clear to all the family and find out if | am a welcome suitor? Be frank and open and above board. ‘Tell your pal how much you think of his sister and ask the mpther If you may take her to the theatre, for walk or call upon her as her friead. Surely since you have been an ac- cepted friend of the family thace ought to be no reason why you coud not know the girl, but it would be much more honorable to declare your intentions than to have a sub rosa affair. Vincent: | am four- ge and think boy fifteen. He great deal of a has told me he is that age, but others say he but thirteen. Whom am I to believe?” Are you thinking as much about your books as you are about thi: boy’s age? You are too young to fret about “how much older or younger’ he is, but should only play games and romp about with boys as you do with girls, Dudley. | Ellabelle Mae Doolittle Ry Bide (Copyrigat, 1A, by The Prem Publishing Co (The New York Bening World), H, LLne Ellwbelle Mae Doolittle, telling wome litle negro children the story of Hectaplus and the Coo Coo Bird gut in the street, looked toward her home “What you want, my darling mam- ma?" she cailed, It was her mother's voice. had jruessed right. “The cat is sick. “Children,” said t must go. Hectaplus shoo 66 The girl Come here!" noted Delhi The story eggs the Cao Coo when Bird with his blunderbuss.” What's a blunderbuss?" asked Petey Scroggins, one of the litte children, “Oh, Mush, you little mugwump! Miss Doolitde plainly was peeved at the question. Perhaps she did not know What a Dlunderbuss was, may hap she did. Anyway, she turned and hurried to the buck yard, where her mother wus caressing Tabby, the cat. yall I give her some pills?" asked Doolittle do 80," replied the tess, "and I wi write a nice riiyine about poor Tabby.” Mrs, Doolittle got the pills, and the poetess skinned upsts to her bou- doir and wrote & poem. T she read to the cat. It follow Oh, Tabby, you dear old « Tam 50 sorry you are all Take mother's pills, dear And maybe they vou will still, Think of the tong life you have had With us, the family of Doolittle; Jumping from the pantry shelf, Knocking down pan and skittle, My sister's child, Teeney Ricketts, Sussed her school teacher You got licked, didn’t you, Teeney? Now you won't be so conceited, But, dear Tabby, let us converse. You are a dumb animal, Kitty, But do nob die; the world ts sweet And everything is rather pretty. Strange as it may seem, the oat, on hearing the poem, sprang to her feet and ran under the porch, There be died, Miss Doolittle took the rhyme to the ineeting of the Women's Bet~ terment League, at Hugus Hall, and read it, explaining the reason. for its coming into being. The ladies ap- plauded with great gusto. All were pleased Coorrigist, 1921. by tue ree Publishing Ce, frie Now York Brening Workd) QUESTIONS. 1, What is the name of the arm of the Bosporus on which Constantinople is situated ? 2, Who married Pocahontas and took her to England? 8. How many square inches in @ board foot? 1. What is any species of fly which deposits its eggs upon Mesh called? hae is the Slate flower of Mary- land? 6. What is a shoer of horses called? 7. What poet wrote “The Pied Piper of Hamelin? 8. What is the right of self-govern- ment called? 9, What inflammable material in comin se is pounded of cam- phor and gun-cotton? 10. W Asiatic conqueror, histori- cally famous, in the fourteenth cen- tury subj «1 Western Asia and stern Europe? ANSWERS. 1, Golden Horn; 2 John Rolfe; 3 144; 4, blow-fly; 5, yed Susan; 6, farrier; 7, Robert Browning; §, autonomy; 9 celluloid; 10, Tamerlane,