The evening world. Newspaper, May 5, 1920, Page 29

MAY 5, .1920 _ Fhose Week-End Husbands .,.. Luxury, but Less Bother; A. WEDNESDAY, Fannie Hurst, Nina Wilgox Putnam and Mary Havelock Ellis All Tried Experiment and Call It a Success. By Marguerite Dean. Coprright, 1920, by ‘The Prose Pubitshing Co, (Tue New York Krening World.) HIS ie @ story about the “Newest” Marriage, the Week-End Husband, _, the So-Near-and-Yet-So-Far Schuol of Conjugal Bliss. i The announcement yesterday by that brilliant writer of short stories, Fannie Hurst, that she nad been married secretly for five years to Jacques 8. Danielson, pianist and composer; that during this period each had maintained a separate establishment and each had averazed two break- i fasts a week with the other, and that the bloom was still on the peach, the dew on the cabbage, or words to that effect—is but the latest told story of @ form of conjugal union which seems to be increasingly popular among the women of to-day—however the men may feel about it! In this sort of marriage all legal forms have been observed scrupu- apartment in New York which we its conventions and shall share for our playtimes. be economically intie- ously, But habite bear a frank and striking re- “We shall Women Writers Love ’Em eemblance to those of the so-callee “free union.” The husband and wife maintain separate establishments, living together under the same roof only for such periods as their caprice dictates. The wife usually keeps the mame she bore before marriage and supports herself. She has her own } ‘eircle of friends, her husband has his. Each is invited out without the other. Such a marriage was described to me, for The Evening World, at: its inception, by one of the two persons most deeply concerned—the bride. She is, to give her the title by which ehe prefers to be known, “Miss Nina , Wilcox Putnam,” novelist and fem- + 4nist, who married Robert J. Sander- fon, district manager for the South- ern New England Telephone Com- pany, last November. Four days after the wedding I sat ata breakfast table at @ popular downtown hotel with “Miss Putnam” ‘and Mr. Sanderson. “Just now we are not going in for * he nest business,” to quote the ex- uct phrase of the bride. “I have my country home in Madison, Conn., and Mr. Sanderson lives in Bridgeport. His business demands that he travel * @ great deal, and I need a certain mount. of solitude for my work. When I feel a story coming I want to write it instead of pduring the coffée at breakfast. We shall keep an Know? Woppnigit, 1020, by The Prem Poblishing Co, | tbe New York Brening World.) 1. Who made the first attempt to cross the Atlantic in @ dirigible? 2, What is the first name of Wood- row Wilson? 3. Who wrote the poem ‘The Corn Song?” 4. What famous lake is on the Cali- fornia-Nevada line? 5. What were the names of the two wives of Jacob? é What is the length of the thread of a silk cocoon? 7 In what country was tea first discovered? %. What does the term “forte” or “f mean in music? 9. in what State waa rico first grown extensively in America? 10. How many cubic feet are in a perch of stone Ii, Who wrote “The Sky Pilot?” 12, What is the most famous glacter ot Alaska? vy ANSWERS TO QUESTIONS. 1, Walter Wellman; 2,’ Thomas; 3, Whittier; 4, Tahoe; 6," Rachel and Leah; 6, 200 to 300 yards; 7, China; 8, loud; 9% Louisiana; 10, 24%; 11, Ralph Connor; 12, Muir, PAVELOCK. ELLs Oosaener pendent,” she continued, “Each of ug is earning a living, and all our ar- rangemenis will be on a fifty-fifty basis, “I'm sure)’ she added, turning to her husband, “you didn’t marry me because you wanted a housekeeper. And I know that I didn't ry you because I wanted a man around the house to take care of the furnuce.” To all of which the cynios first comment will be: “That sounds very well—but will it last?” One answer to the cynic is that, in the case of two distinguished English literary folk, a similarly unconventional ar- rangement did last, most happily, for a quarter of a century. 1 am’ re- ferring to the marriage of Havelock Ellis and the late Mrs. Havelock Elis, As most people know, he is an tilum-> inating writer on the psychology of sex, She had written many novels and plays before her death, not long ago. When she first visited New York, in 1914, she told me, for The Evening World, the details of her remarkabie “Week-End Marriage"—a union which could be summed up, according to her, in one phrase: “ty married and sweethes “My husband and I,” sho explained to me, “have always been free human beings, and our marriage has been based on nothing but ramantic love, Ench of us has been self-supporting. Bach has had an individual dwelling, place, ‘There have been days and wecks when we have not even seen each other. “My husband has a cottage in Mid- dlesex and I have one in Cornwall, Then he has a flat in London and I get rooms there when T want them, For his work my husband requires solitude and silence. I on the other hand am very fond of people, because I like to study human natur “Under the present angement I go to visit my husband and he pay visits to me. We have the most de- tful times! We go out to lingh ther or to dinner, and we are al- ® running away on little trips, ever 80 much more domestic than I am. When I go to visit him he takes care of our rooms, “porfect love means perf There is no room for jealous gone on earning my own living just as I did before marriage. “] have never been away from my husband a day without receiving a love letter. We have met only when we wanted to meet, and the result is that we are even more desirous of being to- gether now than we, were twenty-two years ago.” So apparently even Marriage Joan! the “Newest” may have its Darby and What Is All This About? Torhe Biter of The Free Workd 1 am not at all interested in the matrimonial arrangements of this couple and it'means nothing in my young life that he has to telephone ahead when he wants a cup of ea. But in the name of God what does one family moan by using two flats these Hy as NO MORE _ Can’You Beat It! CAN %K Respect To E WEDNESDAY, MAY 5&5, 1920 TELLME: A CTA i Kose) PLACE (HAVE NEVER. MAN buying a hat for his wife! ‘The women shoppers in the trimmed hats department, as well a3 the salespersons, regarded Mr. Jarg with suspicion and distaste. Was he that type of husband a0 well known in England but so rare in free America who never permit thcir wives to handle their money? But no, this could not be, for in this department there was nothing but expensive bats! Still, Mr. Jarr was regarded with hostility, Men would get to know too much If per- mitted such privileges. “He does not look brutal enough for that!” was the general though Unex- pressed opinion. ‘Perhaps his wife is ill and he may be bringing her home hats to cheer her up. But that never cheers up a sick a-bed wife. She imagines the second wife will get the hats should she die—and, worse than that, they might be becoming to successor," whispered one shop- to another. “And he doesn’t look old enough to have a daughter away at college for whom he is buying a hat, if he is @ widower,” the other shopper'customer whispered back. At this sugestion all present softened to Mr. Jarr. Those that Were married eyen—their hus- bands might pass on, and a widower who was Interested n women's high- priced hats was worthy of respect. “Is the hat for a blonde?” asked the saleswoman, “Oh, I do not mean pronounced plonde,” she added, see- ing Mr. Jarr wince. “I hate henna myself and, anyway, !t Is golng out. Say, a delicate ash blonde?” Mr. Jarr could not think of ash or ashes in connection with his beloved, for whom he was now buying a hat in settlement of a controversy--the hat to be exchanged by Mrs, Jarr in ease she did not like it—which was sure to be the case. “Oh, I know!” gushed the sales- woman, “It's for a lady with dark hair, blue eyes and full figure, say, thirty-four,’for she is petite, is she not?” ‘Mr, Jarr was going to say ehe Was not, but thought it best to say nothing, Seeing his embarrassment, the other women shoppers sensed a scan- dal, and the thought he was a widow- er ‘fled from them. They believed now that he was a wretch, buying @ hat for some one, well, some one it were best he bought no hats for! “Hats this spring,” continued the salesiady, “are small and piquant, And owing to thy low rate of ex- change can be imported from Paris \diculously Jow prices, everything cr The gar Jiity Copyright, 1920, by The Prem Publishing Co. IF You SAY So, ILL. Go WITH You TOLUNCH (The New York Evening World.) considered, Now thig dafling is a Cheirot mode] and is only eighty- five dollars.” Mr. Jarr guiped. He remembered to have heard that such prices were asked for women's hats but he had been a skeptic. “If the iady is piquant, this hat will express it," continued the sales~ woman, “Our buyer says this hut expresses temperament—the type that is self-assertive — elusive, im- periou: ‘Oh, she's all that, and more, at murmured Mr, Jarr, “and 1 think I'll take the hat.” It was twice as much as he thought possible to pay tor a hat of its sort. But It was clic, and he felt sure it might please Mrs. Jare Who knows? “Let us go!” muttered one of the women shoppers to another. “If this store cators to that kind of customer, who buys that kind of hat for that kind of women, for no husband of his type would buy an éighty-five- times,’ dollar hat for his wife, this is no place for us!” And they held thelr skirts and walked out and around Mr. Jarr and left him paying over a whole lot of money only to be humiliated! Coprriett, HE other day I was with a wom- an who was. weeping bitterly. She had to face a new future. A crisis had come into her life. There was:a parting of the ways. “I thought I could do it," she walled. “But it wan no! use, It couldn't be done, And it ts not so much the loss of him that counts ta) Fal as the waste, the wa mersvei miserable waste of years and fruitless efforts.” And then I learned the story. This woman had lived ia @ small town, and married a young man with whom she had gone to school. She was tender-hearted and fine in spirit, and had much courage. ‘The young man she married has made her life miserable, She know all hig shortcomings before she took Maxims ofa Modern Maid By Mi Qopyriant, ip yi MAI urtourite Mooer Manballl OVE is a flame—bvut to some it ls candle-hgut; to some, will-o'-the- wisp; to some, conflagration. The man who marries one woman in ord@e to forget another, loves—not THAT other, but SOME other—all the days of his life and wife, ‘The moon may have been made for lover#—but it's pretty tough on the moon! Why men marry tallor when their sults need pressing. Why women marry: themselves may be blamed. So that there will be somebody to telephone to the So that when life goes wrong some one besides There is the man who gives up his subway seat to a woman—and there is the man who promptly slides into it ahead of her. Now that blouses fasten in the back again, a husband's life is Just one darn button after another. Donbtless women are all 100 per cent. loquacious—yet why is it that the chatterbox of a business office is always & man? When the average Ancl to maniqulate a double meaning, it turns so unmistakably into a SINGLE meaning befure be is through with it, Even in Now York a truly respectable man is somewhat pained when @ Nice Woman denounces prohibition, When a proud, noble “sensitive gentleman” is bullied by his employer, there exists the possibility that the latter may be a much-harassed man and that the former has a streak of yellow a yard wide, It is only poetic justice for a man with a past to marry a woman with ee A TT Ae WIVES ARE SO JEALOUS ! Pa and Ma Are Divid Little Billy Siegrist Would Follow in Dad’s Footsteps, Flying Trapeze Man Leaves None.’ , By Elias McQuaid. ‘ Coprrieht, 1920, by The Prem Publishing Co. (The New York Irening World.) ILLY SIEGRIST’S Pa, who Is B with the circus, thinks the little argument which has been golng on since Billy was born aeven years ago was settied for good and all yesterday by the telegram Izzy Rat- kowasky (W. U. No, 1877) brought to the dressing room of the “Big Top," over on the “lot” in Brooklyn, Edythe Siegrist—that’s Billy's Ma— smiles and says, “Maybe. ‘ ‘The telegram, a night letter dated Canton, O. sald: DEAR PA: TO-DAY I DONE A PIROUETTE FINE. WHEN AM I GOING TO JOIN? if The Siegrists are important people im the circus world. They do a breath-taking series of sensational acts. Big Lew Graham, the hand- some man in evening dress who makes the announcement, speaks of them with respect. “Startling feats of skill and sure- ness,” Lew Graham says, “upon the lofty flying swings! A company of ab-so-lute-ly fearless performers who defy the laws of grav-l-tay-shun and fly like wing-ed birds through space!” (Although he ts a New Yorker, Mr. Graham pronounces’ it “birds” A bold of an announcer). Little Bill back in Canton, O, try- ing to learn his A,B, C's, Ia always dreaming of Lew Graham’s announce- ments and the crowds and the bands and the clown's and his Pa's wonder- ful act, where Charlie Siegrist (Pa) makes wonderful leap across the dome of the Big Top, plroueztes in midair and is caught beneath the seo- ond trapeze by Edythe. NoT WITH A MARRIED NAN ! “What's higher than the top of tent?” asks Charlie, y “Too dangerous," says mother, “Ei don’t want my son to break his neck” When Billy was: six, last winters father and mother decided to stop! ~ talking about his future and “leave ity to the boy.” , ‘They agree not to interfere with | the lad’s choice and they have kepk a. the pledge. All that Pa did was fgo3 erect a young trapeze in the garage a out in Canton and let Billy watch him practise all summer. =e “And before I left home,” Charlie, “I'm dashed if the couldn't do eVerything I do and do tt ten times better. Why She Married Him By Sophie Ircne Loeb. 1920, by The Press Publishing Co, (The New York Bvening World.) him “for better or for worse.” as It hag developed it was worse,” He was a very attractive man, but he seemed to have some bad quali- ties. He had a light, haphazard view of life, and nothing mattered much. He had bad habits, and Aittle sense of responsibility. But he had a way with him that attracted women—the well known type. And so this woman, in the ustial way, married him in the hope that he would improve, and that her infu- ence would tend to reform him—the well known story of marrying a man to reform him, But this woman went even further than this, It was not exactly the usual “marrying to reform" the man, but she had the mother instinct and Wanted not only to mother him, but his children as well. “As 1 look back on It, I did not really love hjm in the fashion of lov= ers, I simply thought it would be'a good thing if in marrying him I >culd help him, and to lead him in the way he ought to go Two lovely children came to this unfon, but the man seemed even oare- less about them--one of the worst aigne indeed in any man This man wus very much of a but- But “for terfly, and the breaking of this union came’ when he attracted by some of his own ind. He sought evil companions—other women—and thus the story ends. But this mother with her two chil- dren is fortunately able to go on without him. §! is still young and attractive, and some day a good man will realize how worth-while she is. This woman ts anxious for me to write something that will warn oth- ers. And there is something to be said about it. The worst mistake a girl can make fa to marry @ man to reform jim, Thin is trite, but everiastiogly truc If he doesn’t “go str before hi leads you to the al you cannot igh ar, expect him to do #0 afterward. You can only hold a man by heart strings, not apron strings. And forged shackles of law lose out to spider threads of love, ‘Thus, if love in the first instance does not have the reforming influ- ence before, a man marries, | the chance a gir! oa le very great in~ tok “That's what I'm golng to be,” says Billy. Edythe Siegrist wants Billy to be a lawyer, doctor, elec. tical engineer, banker—preferably a banker—father than a circus performer. She loves the life of the circus and the people of the cireus, but— “1 want my son to alm high.” she- says, The Evening World Beauty Expert Tells How to Prevent Gray Hairs § (This is the tenth ina series of artloles on Polishing Your Personality.) By Pauline Furlong. was bry pig eed hry de thirty years and I'v mn twenty-two ] this show.” Tee ‘ tan’t everything,” 5 a corel whole lot,” counters “and anyhow, every boy ought to fol- Jow in his father’s footstepa."* -. - be: . “tythe Ste « 1 tn t lows: word, “show me the footst left the man on the flying trapeua * Coprright, 1990, by The Prem Publishing Oo, (The New York Evening World.) 4 WING to the very large amount O of mail I have received from anxious readers who are get~ ting prematurely gray I shall to-day outline some valuable suggestions which may ‘be followed out with splendid results, if persisted in. Theale methods are both safe and economical ‘because they may be applied in the hom ‘Most women will find, upon investi- gation, that extreme dryne: causes gray hairs to appear and frequent oll Daths and oll massage will often aid materially im overgoming the troubl especially if taken in time. Then, too, the hair, scalp, brushes and comba must be kept scrupulously clean and nightly brushing, with ptift rush, which will penetrate the hair, to reach the scalp and at the same time not irritate it, wil stimulate the blood supply tothe hair and evenly dis- tribute the oil with which the scalp should be previously annointed. Just a few drops of olive oi} will prove sufficient and any more will only make the hair heavy with grease ang 180 cayse it to appear dull and Ii packet of Henne Linne Shampoo. lather formed with just a little of this powder and see how every strand dries out into adorable waves thar hold radiant reflecting gleams of Titian, bronze and gold. Positively guaranteed to ¢ direct. price, 2 ¢ For Flay “Heavealy” Hale try washing your hair with half the contents of a 25¢ horoughly cleanse the scalp and brighten all dull and lifeless hair. Money back if dissatisfied. At your druggist and all de- partment stores or frem us Nete the very lew less by encouraging the dust from the atreets to adhere to tt. lous shampoo mixtures, used wehn washing the hair, also have a strong tendency to darken graying ‘irs, and among them are melted tar or sulphur soap, yolk of one ge and a glaseful of red wine. as effective, and from. three ounce; half teaspoonful ate of iron. This may be us¢d as a wash as often as necessary. For really coloring «ray hairs, the simple walnut bark mad into a stain, from walnut bark ot Ounce, alum ‘solution one-half ounce. ‘water two cups, is a good one. Boll the bark in the water for at least an hour, When cool, add the alum and then apply to the gray hairs with # soft sponge. : i ‘Two ounces of bay rum mixed with one-half ounce of powdered ‘sul; makes a perfectly splendid Wash graying hair, when applied to the roots with a soft sponge. helps to remove dandruff and se; and acts as @ stimulant and ‘tonic well. + the rich, creamy marvelous French