The evening world. Newspaper, April 6, 1903, Page 9

, ” PRACTICAL THE ART OF WINNING A WIFE. BY HARRIET HUBBARD AYER. Lesson 1. Describes the First Steps of Courtship—Right and Wrong Ways of Seeking an Acquaintance. Fa man wanta a wife he must win her. And for everything in life that is really worth winning something more than a mere wish is needed. A man must make himself worthy of the aife he wants to win. In this new series of articles it is my purpose to be truly helpful to the many young men who dally ask my ad- viee about love-making. I shall talk to them frankly. I shall tell them how they may win @ good wife and how bsg may ‘hold her when they have won er. It 4s @ well-known fact that The Even- mg World has more readers among the tight-<minded, common-sense young people than any other paper in the country. This practical advice on mak- fg acquaintance withthe right Fort of ‘gira, courting and marrying is intended for them. They start with the young man, but they by no means exclude the dear little sweetheart whom he hopes 0 win for his wife. Every normal young man means to marry. It Is really his main business in Ufo, All his efforts at money-getting, is ambitions as a business man, as well @a & patriotic citizen, are directed tow- ani the establishment of himself in a bome of his own, with a wife and family @round him. who are ¢o share his pros- Perity and whom it is his duty and his bappiness to provide for, An ideal girl is in each young man's mind and sooner or later she really comes into his life, LESSONS IN honest, manly way. Ge must never de generate from a man‘ into a “masher” and attempt to make a girl's acquaint- ance by flirting with her on the street. No «elf-respecting girl will encourage such attentions, Tt {s usually not diMoult to find some obliging friend who knows ‘the young lady and is willing to make the proper introduction. ‘ Put genuine sentiment-and as much honest ‘‘sentimentality” as you like in- to your love affairs. But do not let them become tntrigues which the girl must hide from her mother and which the young man may some day teel ashamed of. Do not write or answer “personal ad- vertisement’* for a sweetheart. Do not ask a girl to make appointments to meet yoy away from her home, Let her receive you at her home, with the full consent of her parents or guard- jans. Do your wooing in an earnest, manly fashion, which will cause her to listen for your coming footstep with a happy light in her young eyes and a tender, trustful feeling in her heart. It is never wise to prolong the courting days indefinitely, but neither is it welt to marry without definitely counting the cost. A young man's salary is usually his only income. He knows that Income to a dollar. He can know as exactly if he thinks a little about i, the outgo of dollars that will be absolutely necessary for even the most modest housekeeping. Figure against figure, he can calculate the cost of keeping a wife happy in her ttle home with the salary. her young husband must earn week by week. If the fixures balance—or overbalance on the selary alde—he may win the wife as quickly @s he can. But if, with all bis careful thinking, the figures refuse ¢o come out evem, then he would better There is another all-important caleu- lation which the young ‘marrying man" ehould make, | The girl gives him all—her hand, her heant, her confiding trust, the. welfare of her whole future life. Her young hus- band may make or mar her perfect womanhood. Shall he take her all, yet @lve her but a part of himeelf? Shall he congratulate himself on his ‘good bargain" in seoufing a pretty plaything or a capable housekeeper, yet give no thought to her pain and sorrow when she discovers the inferior or “damaged goods" quality of What she had sup- posed to be perfect? I am not much given to preaching, and I have no intention of making ser- mons out of this series on winning a wife. But I do want you young people to realize your responsibility in. this serious business of joining your for tunes together fone iMetime. Remember it ts “for better” oF eile’ ‘for wore,” Remember, too, that the marriage con- tract is the only comract which may not be dissolved, even ‘by mutual gonsent, without sad and sorrowful consequences, There are dtvorce colirts and there are agreed-upon separations. But scandal invariably lurks near the one, while the other nearly always brings in its train much loneliness and heart-break for somebody. Much pain may be prevented, ll joy may™be promoted, if both the young people, when they plan to marry, will thoughtfully count the cost. If on either aide ‘there is inability, incompe- tency or unwillingness to meet it, the life partnership which they are contem- plating would better never be contracted, v rows lesson’ will tell how much of his income a young man is justified in spenil- ing om his sweethedrt’s enter- EVENING: 3 “WORLD'S #& HOME’ Being extracts from “The Letters from a Self-Made Merchant to His Son,” by George Horace Lorimer, published in book form by Small, Maynard & Co, Boston, and reproduced here by special permission of the publishers. (Copyright, 1902, ®y Small, Maynard & O» D tobe sure to tell you not to over-study, and I want to tell you to be sure not to under-study. What we're really ending you to Harvard for in to got a Uttle of the education that's so good and plenty there, Wien {t's passed around you don’t want to be bashful, but reach right out and take a big helping every time, for I wamt you to get your share. You'll find that education's about the only thing lying around loone in this world, and that it's about the only thing a fellow can have as much of as he's willing to haul away. Everything else is screwed down tight and the screwdriver lort. I didn’t have your advantages when T Was a boy, and you can't have mine. Some men learn the value of money by not having any and starting out to pry a few dollars loose from the odd milltons that are lying around; and some learn it by having fifty thousand or so tft to them and starting out to spend ft as If it were fifty thousand @ year, Some men learn the value of truth by having to do Entered at Stationers’ Hell.) CHICAGO, Oot. 1, 189—. PAR PIERRBPONT: Your ma got back mnfe this morning and she wants me cussedness of whiskey by having a drunken father, and gome by having a good mother. Some men get an education from other men and newspapers and pwilc, iWoraries, and some get it from professors and parchments—t doesn't make any special difference how you get a half-nelson on the right thing, just 80 you get it and freeze on to it. Tho finst thing that any education ought to give a man és chataoter, and the second thing is education, That Is where I'm a little skittish about this college business. I'm not starting In to preach to you, because I know a young fellow with the right sort of stuff in him preaches to himself har@er than any one else ‘oan, and that he's mighty often switched off ‘the right path by having it pointed out to him in the wrong way. I remember when I was a boy, and T wasn't a very bad boy, as boys go, old Doc Hoover got a notion tn his head that I ought to join the church, and he soared me out of It for five years by asking me right out loud in Sunday-schoo! df I didn't want to be saved, and then lay!ng for me after the service and praying wtih me. Of course I wanted to be saved, but I didn't want to he saved quite so publicly, When. a boy’s had a good mother he's got @ gooil consetence, and when he's got a good conscience he don't need to have right and wrong labelled for him. There are two parts of a collego education—the part that you get in the school- room from the professors, and the part that you get outside of it from the. boys. That's the really fmportant part. For the first can only make you a scholar, while the second can make you a man. Education's a good deal like eating—a fellow can’t always tell which particular | |, thing did him good, but he can usually tell which one did him harm. After a square meal of roast beef and vegetables, and mince ple and watermelon, you very bright to figure out which one started the demand for painkiller in your In- sides, or to guess, next morning, which one made you belleve in a personal devil the night before. And so, while a fellow can’t figure out to an ounce whether It's ‘Latin or algebra or history or what among the solids that is butiding him up in this plies or that, he oan go right along feeding them in and betting that they're not the things that turn his tongue fuzzy, It's down among the sweets, among his amusements and recreations, that he's going to find his stomach-ache, and It's there that he wants to go slow and to plok and choose. Does & college education pay? Does it pay to feed in pork trimmings at five cents @ ound at the hopper and draw out nics, cunning, little “country” saug- ages at twenty cents a pound at the other end? Does it pay to take a steer that's deen running loose on the range and living on Sactus and petrified wood til he's Just a bunch of barb-wire and sole-leather, and feed him corn till he's just a solld hunk of porterhouwe steak and oleo oll? You bet it pays. Anything that trains a boy to think and to think quick pays; ‘anything that teaches a boy to get the answer before the other fellow gets Ree Diting the pencil, pays. College doesn't make fools; tt develops them. It doesn't make bright men; tt ‘Gevalops tham. A foo! will turn out a fool, whether he goes to college or not, though he'll probably turn out a different sort of a fool. And a good, strong boy will turn out a bright, strong man whether he's worn smooth in the grab-what- ‘yourwant-and-eat-standing-with-one-eye-skinned-for-the-dog school of the streets ‘and stores, or polished up and elfcked down in the givé-your-order-tovthe-walter- and-get-a-sixteen-course-finner schoo! of the professors. But while fhe lack of @ college education can't keep No. 1 down, having {t boosts No, 8 up. It's simply the difference between jump in, rough-and-tumble, kick-with-the- hecls-and-butt-with-the-head nigger M@ghting, and this grin-and-look-pleasant, dodge-and-save-your-wind-until-you - see - a - chance-to-land-on-the-solar-plexus style of the trained athlete, Both styles win fights, but the fellow with a littie sclence is the better man, providing he's kept his muscle hard. If he hasn't, he's in @ bed way, for his fanoy eparring 1s just going to agatavate the other fellow 80 that he'll eat him up, Of course, some men are like pigs, the more you educate them, the more amusing little cusses they become, and the funnier capers they cut when they show off their tricks. Naturally, the place to send a boy of that breed is to the business with Mars; and some by going to Sunday-school, Some men leamn the | can't say just which Ingredient 1s going Into muscle, but you don't have to be/ TBBON, ribbon everywhere, and th R the most artistic designs, Femi- mine fancy, wide awake for spring and summer novelties, has hailed the wonderful rivbon creations with de- light. Gowns, hats, pararols alike are incomplete without the original touches of ribbon which this year are woven and twisted into the most unique shapes. ‘The summer gown will lend itself moat gracefully to the adornment of ribbons, and the fanciful natural designe which will cover summer frocks will add the touch of nature’s flawers to the har- moniaing tints of the gown, ‘The illustration showe a summer gown of white, the ginile of which ie made of narrow ribbon loops. The falling ends are of the same narrow loops, with a profusion of French knota, The ends of the girdle are composed of a number of loops which are light enough to be fluf- My put into motion with the movement of the wearer, The simplest summer gown da transformed into a strikingly new garment by the addition of one of the wonderful ribbon girdles. On the left side of the bodice a spray of ribbon flowers ts shown, the follaga and petals realistically imitating their living representatives. On the summer sown the spray of flowers will be one of the newest conceits, and whether the gar- Ment be white or delicately colored, rib- bon flowers are of sufficient variety to harmonize with any shade, In the model's hand a buwen ef ribbon violets {s held, and the vole! girl of | spring and summer is propuested-as giv- ing up her Bnglish favorites for the ribbon flowers. Tho hat worn with the ribbon-bedecked white gown Is trimmed with an Alsatian bow of ribbon, and completes a study which Introduces a new art in the realm fot ribhon yenge. ‘The advent of the ribbon into the spring and summer wardrobe 1s a more gervice- able fad than many of {ts predecessors, When the reign of flowera wae supreme | their usaxe was confined largely to the |hat. but now a color design may be car- ried out in ribbon flowers. throughout tha entire costume. With a bunch of violets on the top of her white or wiolet chiffon parasol, @ graceful bunch tied at the handle, inrxe, loosely clustered bunch at her waist or on her bodice, a violet girdle with the fowers intermingled with the loops and French Knots, any lady ney. be ones da racer Violet girl ere sora, oes, 1 area n heatee: @ charming effect. For who jcora for yellow there are owers made from riboon which car out the idea most artistically, tara ‘the rose lends itself to the flower-maker's fingers. in more ‘vere “han aly othor fawer The blue-eyed giri whose taste turns to the color of the sky finds her fancy gratined In the deltentery made sy Psy ins bluebdells, Mme-nots of one's. Individual. to color. ‘the Dower ie a 30,000 WOrEN SAILORS, ‘ may be ai In recent address Labor Commie- sioner Carroll D. Wright referred to the fact that along the wild coast of Breton there cre some 30,000 women earning @ Iivellhood as sallors. They ,) rank, 08 cegards wages and work, ex- actly as do the male members of the crews, but each is the holder of a Government permit, one clause of which forbids her to act as says the Philadelphia Public Ledger. In Norway,,Gweden and Finland ors, large are employed as pilots. They go in tiny boats te meet tneoming vessels, nimibly climb on board and exhibit their diplomas. Ai the girls of Himin, Amusements. Whore To? {PROCTOR 8 Fortin ate CASTORIA |i When @ young man finds ‘his {deal git! work harder for “raise” in his salary, wha Chrous, net: te: ganeme: Geeciname’ Vewsaral sali it ‘plac of M | Gnd wishes to win her for his wife theland, while working, wait hopefully far |q “amment! 2. wake nes, ||. Tt isn't so much knowing whote lot, at knowing @ iftte and how to'use it}. Yor Infants and Children, eeeeon hs et ‘Ano first thing in order is a proper introduc- | his postooned wedding day. amusement he may take her}}/ 110+ counts. Your affectionate father, jonn Granam. | [he Kind You Have Always Bought ‘Onidwell, Wylie’s Dogs, others. tion out of which an acquaintance can grow. Ge must gain this introduction in an Living on love and an inadequate sal- ary needs @ separate article, 1 redid jater, in how he may make a good im- pression om her family, THE MEETING OF THE OLD WORLD AND THE NEW. Modern Crusoe, Bears the Seeore Me i Amusements, sh | A Wooing by sige By B. M. Maniates The Story of a Man Who Made Love to the Wrong Girl. Mopyright, 1908, by Dally Story Publishing Oo.) | vision. She motioned him back. man wish anything el after he had “Gg OOD evening, Joan!" said @ big.) “Uniy Mrs. Philips, Xou have eeen her| seen and knowh you? My father is a j MADISON SQUARE C oor Lens ete, ‘Warehipa, Freaks, Prodigtes, ‘Thint Week of the Ghost BARNUM & B (pow $1 (SST GRAND JEROME $YKES HUBER’S ‘474 MUSEUM MADAM MBYERS, THE BEARDED LADY. Ha es athletic young man, appearing: otten id in the entrance to the box, pong “Too often, A little widow who flirts, recluse and knows nothing of women or society, I will tell him of you o,f ‘ Fe A girl with a dream-centred face, 1 ting in the chair nearest the door, looked ‘up slowly and serenely, but the Ameri- ean Beauty ehe held swayed on its atem, ‘The man seated himself beside her and @axo1 longingly into her beautiful eyes. ‘It seems a very long time since I Gave seen you, Joan, You have been ‘not " attiome’ every time I have called within the last fortnight," he sald, regretfully. Joan's eyelld’s lowefed and she raised the rose as @ screen to her face. she Teplied, “you his travels. Having betn separated from him so long, I naturally thought you would, wish to devote all your time to + bim," Ke ‘Would never have thought that yr ifos noua you known Jove the frivolities of re he flewh and the devi! vou think, then, ¢! T companionghip in the man whose life is devoted cold pureuit ef sol- travels are ended, He has $8 uh i 3 = i aff < i es = FA 3 T have no use for her type.”’ ‘Tell me,'’ paid Joan, softty, after a Uttle silence, “some more of your father, Tam interested in what you sald of him. Describe his personal appearance.” “Oh, he is good-looking, (I suppose. Tall, not elderly-looking, wavy hair, but slightly tinged with gray, wears glasses, Ho 1s of the pale, interesting sort, not big and beety, lke me, How did he ever come to have such an of-the-earth, earthy, progeny as I?" Jonn made no attempt to solve this welghty problem. Her expression be- opine half-amused, half-abstracted, The orchestra was playing its loudest. ‘The other two occupants of the box were in the front chairs absorbed in each other, Suddenly Waldane said in a low, strained tone, “Why don't you marry my fathert’’ Surprise and other emotions held Joan Paralyzed in motion and speech for 4 moment, Then she turned and looked Into his eyes staring miserably end hopelessly into hers, she said coldly, “1 jes, I know all you would say. When I'told you of him and how he would treat a wife, I was judging from my own little measure. Just now, in describing bis looks to you, it occurred fo mo how he might appear from a Woman's standpoints woman intelli- went, refined and scholarly—like you! You've been awfully good to me. Don't think 1 haven't felt how condescending it wae in you to waste time on such an bdiot ay I! I have been misled by your friendliness. I've known that you al- Waye missed something In our friend- whip and in me, and that there must bo times when only your kindness kept you from showing how bored you we! My father is not old. You would a mire his great inteliect. You would be interested tn his aclentific researches." » “Perhaps your father em not be {uolined,” whe sald m "Ob. my father!" anes Wai seh od ‘How could * oF any ohper } to-night, and ask him to come with me to call. When once you have asked Joan gravely and meditatively, “what quality is it e in me that you would desire tepmother?”’ Joan!” he faltered. ude the idea of my mar r father is a new one to "but bi m to a to be his sister, he murmured. proved it have said Joan ouriously, “how describe me to your father week to arouse his interest and one women In Mrs, ng oie rains Sax tha’ Fook! ane fe he fbeved. pend over the Voous ttle Widow Bines of intense devotion he saw “ty! fpr he ejaculated, blankness of Waldane's Psy concealed fo Le Sips the. ren of his feelin 4 in and the knowl ei] himself appear ri falas caused him to ae ead walk to the furthest corner of lie dreaded her piri but there wee po mirth in ‘olce when she followed highand ania hig 63 “Tom, a ti eee stualed i, not ‘altoge chee mens, 1 ev leve him to more worldly wii ihe ee 4 Fae a that at @ that ve goes piers regi 3 ah vdamoaat, ope man secml ng), Re a per soma! iN» i A 4 FO i atid gi vue ed} x King Baward, ecoompanied by the Queen, went “behind the scenes” « fow days ago et Buffalo Bill's Wild West @how. 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