The San Francisco Call. Newspaper, May 8, 1904, Page 15

THE SAN FRANCISCO SUNDAY CALLL BrauTY BY 'THE BO’]:),T;TLE ngs ds exactl he sort of eye the means. But 1 be expensive > 1s a cheap qua but the pro- fegsor does not recommend it. True t it passes muster by gaslight, but sunlight shows it up. . It 4acks ten- and at the price you can hard- . t it to contain much hidden e g Th dvises the your- brand pays for it will be fixed upon, hair. pattern book ais ea a litt but it of the a willful hing through mally rainy downs g ane stulating 1 1 15t the pop- € satisfactory hus- d f: T red in this a girl who does not ‘porth of be a da willful ‘beauty, you have the hair for it the whole s e falls to the ground brows ashes, the professor assumes, ould lik match the hair entricity tk profes ature, after best 1€ atness combir h taste, the 1 imed rows being eyelashes sor suggests— the suspicion as usual Just of a curl. The professor would also sug- tle less cheekbone ones are | worn low this dy have a dim- or does she fancy the clean, square-cut jaw? Maybe the square- cut jaw and the firm, sweet mouth is more suitable for the married woman. It goes well enough with the baby and the tea urn, and the strong, proud man in the background. But for the unmarried girl, the dimpled chin and the rosebud mouth are, perhaps, on the whole, safer. Some gentlemen are nervous of the firm, square jaw. For the present, at all events, let us keep to the rosebud and the dimple. Com- plexion! Well, there is only one con.- plexion worth considering—a creamy white, relieved by delicate peach pink. It goes with everything and is always f Rich olives, striking pal- ou hear of these things do- The professor's experience, that for all round work ing we however, is you will never improve upon the nlain white and pink. It is less liable to get out of order and is easiest at all times to renew. For the figure, the professor recommends something lithe and supple. Five foot four is a good height, but that is a point that should be discussed first with the dressmaker. For trains five foot six is perhaps pref- erable. But for the sporting girl who has to wear short frocks flve foot six »Jer'ome : would, of course, be impossible. The bust and the waist are also points on which the dressmaker should be con- suited. Nothing should be done in a hurry. What is the fashion going to be for the next two or three seasons? There are styles demanding that, be- ginning at the neck, you should come straight out, like a pouter pigeon. There is apparently no difficulty whatever in obtaining this result. But if crinolines, for instance, are likely to come in again—wellnthe lady has only to imagine it for herself; the effect might be grotesque, suggestive of a walking hour glass. So, too, with the walst. For some fashions it is better to have it just a foot below the neck. At other times it is more useful lower down. The lady will kindly think over these details and let the pro- fessor know. While one is about it one may as well make a sound job. It is so simple, and when you come to think of it really not so expensive. Age, apparently, makes no difference. A woman is as old as she looks. In future, I take it, there will be no ladies over five and twenty. Wrinkles! Why any lady should still persist in wearing them is a mystery to me. With a moderate amount of care any o Jeromc E LIGIBLE. BACF‘IELORS,WOILL BE INVITED T FILL N A PASE, could save housekeeping middle class woman enough out of the money in a month to get rid of every one of them. Gray hair! Well, of course, if you cling to gray halr there is no more to be said. But to ladies who would just as soon have rich wavy brown hair or black or = dellcate shade of gold I would point out that there are one hundred and forty-seven inexpensive lotions on the market, any one of which, rubbed gently into the head with a tooth- brush (not too hard) just before go- ing to bed, will, to use a colloquial- ism, do the trick. Are you too stout, BREEDING AND GOOD MANNERS IN given graces t 1s done by a al be done ces per- ily lifte vears. ss and po- xtends its gra- circle. n that the avior of the to each other duti The obligations to children have to- tain duties based on filial respect. 1 family nutual mutual du- ationship and #r h other, on a T 1 the family welfare ar n proper family pride, which p > poorest should feel ilv may also contain other re servants may be kept; guests T rtake of its hosp: v. All of ese must ge ong smoothbly togeth- B home loses all to that name if crossness is shown, it quarrels are frequent. The wheels of the do- mestic machinery will move more eas- ily if politeness constantly lubricates it Children should never fail to show their mother and sisters the same cour- tesy they would show to any other ladies. A boy should early be taught to lift his hat to them in meeting them on the street or in parting company with them. He should rise when they enter the room and see that they are comfortably seated. He should always allow them to precede him. He should t them in and out of cars; he id carry their parcels, and escort them when they wish it. In short, he should be chivalrous in his home life. No boy who is rude to his nearest rela- tives, or neglectful of them, who is not solicitous for thelr comfort and pleas- ur , has a right to be called a gentle- The sister, in her turn, should be taught to trest her brother with an af- fectionate courtesy. She should never fall to acknowledge his kindnesses. She should do for him anything in her pow- er which he may need done. Train your children to be courteous to servants and you will probably not be deprived of their services when most needed. If you permit them to run to the door when some callers come, you need not be surprised if they show curiosity at times when you will be greatly morti- fied. It is surprising how often parents permit children to monopolize the con- versation. Let them early learn to be good listeners. See that they never fail to put into their proper places articles they have been using, or clothing they have been wearing. The whole machin- ery of the household may be disar- ranged by carelessness in this respect. To a systematic, tidy housekeeper nothing 18 more vexatious, nothing more wasteful of time, and often of money, than this fault. It is just as easy to train them properly in this as in other matters. In no one thing is good or bad breed- ing more quickly seen than in one's manners at table. It is especially no- ticeable, because people are there brought into such close contact with each other. A few hints for table be- havior are given in the hope that ‘they may be suggestive. The well-bred person will nof sit too far from the table, nor too close to it, nor sidewise, nor on the edge of his chair. He will never tiit his chair. He will not finger or play with the knives, spoons or other articles on the table. He will not put his elbows on the table, nor stick them out in using his knife and fork, nor bend his elbow in eating 80 as to bring his arm around at a right angle to his mouth. Unless quite young he will put his napkin on his lap, and not use it as a bib. He will use his knife only in cut- ting his food. He will not use his own knife, or fork, or spoon, to help himself to articles of food. He will not secure a plece of bread by stabbing it with a fork. He will break, not cut, his slices of bread, or his biscuits. He will break off little pieces of bread before butter- Twenty-Eighth Talk to Parents By Wm. J. Shearer =2 ing and eating them, and not try to eat from a whole slice after he has passed the age of Infancy. He will not eclutch his bread animal fashion, by as many fingers as possible. He will cut his food as it is needed, not all at once. He will reject bits of bone, or other refuse, by the aid of his fork. He will take soup nolselessly from the side of the spoon, not the tip. He will use the teaspoon to stir the con- tents of his cup, and will never drink noisily, or from his saucer. He will never turn the glass or cup over on his nose in order to drain the last drop. He will never gaze around while drink- ing. He will never “reach and stretch” at- ter articles on the table, He will ask politely to have them passed. He will aek the servant, if one be in attendance, and not bother his neighbor. He will not talk across his neighbor, or pass things across another’s plate. He will never appear to be greedy, or eager about hi= supply of food. He will never find fault with it. He will never put much into his mouth at once. He will eat slowly and will refrain from drinking much while he is eating. He will not talk or laugh with food in his meuth. He knows that obedience to these rules will save disagreeable exhibitions of choking and will prevent dyspepsia. He will eat leisurely, that the meal may be a more healthful one for his interior organs, and that samples of food may not remain on his exterior, or on the table linen, as reminders of his awkwardness. He will chew his food with his lips closed, for he knows that mastication is the first step in digestion and that the sight of the process should be concealed. Those who are well bred uncon- sciously teach the right way by their example and the gise will learn from them what to do in case of doubt; while the faults of an ill bred, untidy, hasty eater are often an effective les- son in good breeding, owing to the disgust they inspire in one desirous of behaving properly. Children can and should Le taught to eat whatever is best for them. Any child may easily be trained to eat, not only any wholesome food, but any injurious food as well. In this, as in s0 many other matters, parents must bear the responsibility of training in right habits. A great many parents hesitate about insisting upon thelr children eating those things which they know are best for them. They naturally think that it is as hard for the children to eat what is not desired as it would be for the parents. Such is not the case. The parents prefer those things which they have learned to like. The children are forming habits. The habits of the parents are already firmly fixed. Children in every part of the world quickly learn to eat whatever they have to. It makes but little difference whether that be oil, blubber, fruit, ber- ries, meat or something of all these. Why, then, should we hesitate to train them to eat what Is best for them? Is it not true that the most of us have never given much thought to the importance of training a child’s appe- tite? Yet does not the health of each largely depend upon the eating of what is best. It is far better that each child should learn to eat whatever wholesome food hasg been prepared for the rest of the family. The exceptions to this rule would only need to be made at a time when the delicate health of the child made such exception advisable. Parents should guard carefully against giving a child anything to eat a short time before the regular meals. If they do so it is only natural to ex- pect that the child will not be hungry when he should eat and will want to eat when he should not eat. The time at the table should be spent not only for supplying food to the body but also for the higher enjoyments which come from intellectual and mor- al improvement. Those who consider it merely a place to get something to eat meet upon the same level as the lower animals. Let us agree, then, that the table is not merely a feeding place for the fam- ily. Neither is it a place to review all the unpleasantness which has arisen “ing 15 or are you too thin? All you have to do is to say which and inclose stamps. Like the two beans that Alice found in Wonderland, one prescription makes you bigger, the other prescrip- tion makes you smaller. But do not make a mistake and send for the wrong recipe. If you are al- ready too thin you might, in conse- quence, suddenly disappear befpre you found out your mistake. One stout lady I knew worked at herself for eighteen months and got stouter every day. This discouraged her so much that she gave up trying. No doubt she had made «a muddle and had sent for the wrong bottle; but she would not listen to fur- ther advice. She said she was tired of the whole thing. In future years there will be no need for a young man to look about him for a wife; he will take the nearest girl, tell her his ideal, and if she really cares for him she will go to the shop and have hers: to pattern. In certain Eastern tries, I belleve, som is done. A gent to his family eighborhoodl the weight and size of m. his favorite wi hipting that if an- other can be found of the same propor- tions there Is room 1 her. Fathers walk round among daughters, choose the most pecimen and have her fattened t is their brutal Eastern w ¢ ng it. Out West we shall be more d:licate. Match- making methers will probably revive the old confession book. Eligible bach- elors will be invited to fil “Your favorite ¥ “your favorite mea waist”; “do you blondes?” and so on The cholce w be left to the gi “I think Henry Arthur is just too sweet for words,” the eldest girl will murmur to herself after the ba so tender, so likely to be true. Ah she will be & happy woman who gets h whoever she may be.” Gentl with her quick woman’s tact s draw from him his of v woman should be. In to a year she will burst upon perfect She: height, complexior right to a T. He arms. “At last found her, the w And if he does and the bottles do their effect, there wil that they will be happy ever after: Might not sefer Why rest sati coy ideal of merely beaut! science, while she is it, make them all good and clever? Hang the expense! Spea as a family man myself, I am hand in my pocket a of the cost. I feel s case were put clea: bands 1 without a for the and brothers murmur. 1 suggestion. I women beautiful and & not oecur to me that t} yroved upon in either own papers that have ¢ ioned me. I used to look at this lady or at that body seemed to be no- nk how fair she was, w I only wonder who They used to tell me, when I was a lttle boy, that girls were made of sugar and spice. I know better now. I have read the prescrip- s her chemist. tion. When I was quite a young man I used to darx corner and listen, with swell heart, while peo- Id me where little r wonderful eyes ple at the plano girl bables got the from, of the things they did to them in heaven that gave them dimples. Ah me, I wish now I had never come across those ladles’ papers. I know the shop where they make those dimples; I have passed it and look . 1 thought they were produced by angels’ kisses, but there was not an angel about the place that I could see. Perhaps I have also been deceived as regards their goodness. Maybe all en are not S0 perfect as in the popular short story they apPear to be. That is why I sug- gest that science should proceed still further—make them as beautiful in mind as she is now able to make them in body. May we not live to see in the advertisement columns ef the ladies’ paper of the future portrait of a young girl sulking in a corner. Before taking the lotion! The same girl dancing among little brothers and sisters, shedding sunlight through the home. After the first three bottles! May we not have the caudle mixture: one tablespoonful at bedtime guaran- teed to make the lady murmur, “Good night, dear, hope you'll sleep well,” and at once fall asleep, her lips parted in & smile? Maybe some specialist of the future will advertise “mind massage,” “warranted to remove from the most obstinate subject all traces of hatred, envy and malice.” And when science has done everything possible for wo- men there might be no harm iN“Ner turning her attention to us men. Her idea at present seems to be that we are too beautiful, physically and morally, to need improvement. Personally, there are one or two points about which I should like to consult her. wo HOME BEHAVIOR since the last meal. Considered as such it is not only a great injury teo the moral and intellectual welfare of all, but it also makes impossible the secur- ing of the best results from the food taken. . Except where the habit has become fixed to the contrary, the time for coming to the table is a greater period of freedom from worry than any other during the day. At this time, those things of particular interest to each are lald aside and those matters of general interest to all are more likely to be considered. For this reason there is likely to be greater relaxation from other matters and the time is oppor- tune for the discussion of things which should be of interest to all. If a systematic attempt is made to impart useful knowledge it is wonder- ful how much can be accomplished dur- ing the time which would otherwise be spent in unpleasant bickerings or worse than useless, gossip. At this time all should feel perfectly free to ask any kind of questions, so long as the answer does not involve any unpleasantness for any one. In this way can the instruction be made stimulating and beneficial. Only in this way can the table be made the moral. intellectual and physical center of the home, as it should be. Table talk should be such as to be of Interest to as many as possible. Too many parents are disposed to do all the talking for their owwn benefit and to speak to the child onl:- when it is nec- essary to compel quiet.