The San Francisco Call. Newspaper, September 20, 1903, Page 9

bachelor girl. Night is her day, and when she makes her hay she don’t ist the same she's exactly like any 1 Instead of climbing wearily a corner and dinper and roomed won e time plans re black sult; with pretty t do muci ¥y nearly make the E clothed in a plaf t she looks as though she had v and as though the n the very ends of her be shaker off ng wi periodicaliy by shop girl r what their occu- fe may be, but one | woman bent on eas- of possessing enough dopt the short skirt, nd comfort so em- rstepping, of slone, to conventic tie of its ru ning to that which -dinner eant le bLearers that it girl in helor girl goes in so- that, for she wel goes a long, long way, but 8. does not govern all her movements by present custom smiles upon the dinner will never be popular. It is on» thing to be well bred and stiff and another to be 1 bred and cordial, and in this respect bachelor is well qualified. Early in her industrious life she learns that arms- length cordiality Is by e b With the score of fai g, scurry- ing workers frank, sincere manacrs never fail to be appreciated and so she works on the pian of winning respe=t Ly, ability friendship by personal worth and admira tion by simplicity and sweetn One of the very best thingzs in Miss Bachelor's life is that money counts but very t And isn't it ducky for her that it doesn’t? , she Invites guests to dine with be wise, she will study the the unafféeted and let gorgeous- ness take care pf {tdeif. There is no rea- son for her spending many pennles on decorations and she would be more than foolish to be much but of pocket for ser- ts” hire, and when it comes to squan- dering a fortune on singers, musicians and what nots as a means of entertain- ment she has reached the very ‘pinnacle f folly” If her friends are too blase to a jolly little Winner and a merry g afterward ghey had far better stay at home. “At lagst they aren’t worth fussing and feathering over. But ¢ thing is ceriain. If Miss Bach- elor makes no-great pretenses. she {s bound to have no annoying-troubles. Of course, if she fancies a low cut evening frock it is perfectly proper, but at times t is apt to look a trifle far fetched. A simple gown, but such as the wife of the t door might covet, is far lo and behold she is pre- eive as dainty frocked as the the land to add so many extra es to the dinner. A four- : ind there isn't the slightest reason for feeling as though it looked mean and cheap. Besides, just at rubs. eny manper of means. Oh, no. It is her which boasts only of soup, the meat be in two places at once. sweet 2nd graclous manner, for, like course, a salad and the dessert. other women, this free lance of a girl must possess certain charms or else she served. But this is one of her sharpest at the same time. ~cr s> T oramr It's absolutely impossible for her to She can’t very A well stand in her wee drawing-réom and And it's perfectly correct if properly receive her guests and take up the soup She isn’t twins. But CAl. HER she can, with some ingenuity, find some serving woman who can be hired by the hour, and with a little timely training she can serve the dinner and wait upon the table very nicely, and Incidentally _tide the bachelor over one of the keenest ' embarrassments of her position. 1f she cares to follow out rules laid " down by the smart set about leaving the ' drawing-room and entering the dining- room, she must be more than careful to manage it cleverly or else she may find that she has unintentionally thrown et blagket where she intended ta sca ter high spirits and good cheer. It is easy . to laughingly request- a friend to play host and then skilifully lead the lit- tle procession with any guest that chances to he nearest her. Natuarally the “host” comes last and then all are seated as soon as the hostess takes her place. Name cards are -a jolly and a pretty way to seat guests, and when the names are written plainly upon them avold those little delays and breaks that are so un- pleasant, but that seem so unavoldable at times. The dinners which the bachelor girl gives should be small ones, for, although there is no special reason why it should be 80, custom has somehow drawn the line at eight guests, and the little table set for eight is much better form and more modest than the one ready to wel- come some elghteen or tweriy. CHILDREFN ‘S 5.2 . SECTION SEPT. 20 .1203 DO YOUR CHILDREN BRING _ YOU MISERY OR HAPPINESS? HE Sunday Call’s highest am- bition is to do what it can for the boys and girls of our country. It is for this reason that a special series of “Talks to Parents on the Training of Children,”, by William J. Shearer, A. M., Ph. D., Superintendent of Schools of Eliza- beth, N. J., will begin next Sun- day. o Very frequently attention is called to the fact that upon the children of the present will depend not only the prosperity, but also the very life of the nation. How seldom is empha- sized the truth that the future happi- ness of parents and children gener- ally depends upon: the character of the training the children receive. The first will be “Primary Requi- sites of Proper Training.” Then will follow: The mother’s influence in training. Punishments. The father’s influence in training children. Training through encouragement. Habits. A sure method of ruining a child. How to secure obedience. How to deal with the bad boy. Memory, imagination and reasom. The fears of children The joys and sorrows of children. The treatment of the delicats or defective child. The child’s questions. Training a child not to ery. Training a child not to tease. Training a child to tell the truth. Training a child in the use of money. Pubescence and Adolescencs. Parental dont’s. Characteristics of a heglthy child. Training & child’s body. Training a child’s mind. Training of the will. el L And besides, they’re more cosy. Ever so much more so. There Is no dividing off into couples, as one may do at a large function, but, instead, conversation is general, for it certainly would be the height of rudeness to break into chatter- ing cliques of twos and threes. The dinner, like all other dinners, must come to an end, and it winds up with cof- fee and fun, but the grand finale may be just as the hostess best likes. She may rise and with two or three of her girl friends go to the drawing-room,. leaving the men with their cigars and stories. Or she may follow-the far prettier and more sociable custom,.which, ‘by the way. is now sanctioned by the best of soeiety, of serving coffee in the' drawing-room with the cigars as an accompaniment. To be sure, it requires some little amount of tact to manage these little affairs, but it she be a true gentlewoman, born and bred, her dinners will pass off with the utmost approval. Some fancy that the bachelor is given to dinner revels. Well, she isn't, and couldn’t be if she wanted to. Just as soon as she opens a pudding which sends forth four and twenty blackbirds to flut- ter about and make a noise she is decid- edly tabooed. She remembers that she holds her posi- tion In scclety by her ladvlike breeding, and that as soon as she departs from this high standatd she loses the position which is, by right, hers. And once lest it is lost to her forever. She could nevee hope in her maddest dream to climb back into the graces of gcod so v, and when it comes right down to ¥ transgres- sor has a hard en of it. Ostra- ) nt thing in the but and rigidly ip sud- deply some utterly beyond the p Her dinner over oves the coffee cups and ysuip finds it high time to exert to amuse her chosen few be Mght it certainly nev mon. Scandal, the flippant s and the darker side of life neve touched upon, but far better lies, & witty story or a bit of tation. There are simply scores of ways of can- celing obligations, and just b use she situated in life does not mean that the bachelor must e or less. An awfully easy cale to follow a dinner ar kill two birds with one stone. A dozen or more additional friends dropping In at 9 means but little more work and they rarely fail to make a very pleasant finisn to en evening. Few bachelors are blessed with apart- ments spacious enough to give a dinner dance, but if space permits it is a splen- dald way of knocking down nimepins, and even If things are a bit crowded no one reaily cares and while one is at it might just as well do it up brown. There is but one trouble about this dance, though. It is much more formal and frequently takes on quite the air of a function, and as such requires the serv- ing of a 12 o'clock supper. But after all the.gorgeous expenditures of the matron are 'not ‘expected of the bachelor, and i¢es and punch’ will answer to.all intents and purposes. Dinners, dances and the Mke are all very weqll and good and now and then they.are-deemed positively essential, but nine out of ten girls much prefer the rol- licking chafing ° disb _supper, Wwhers all hands assist in the préparation of the com- coctions.. . There is mnothing elaborate about it and she manages It easily and gracefully, . Her .entire paraphernalla is at her good right hand and with an able assistant at her worthy left she is queen of the situation. - For the bachelor and her evenings there is just one big don't. Whatever eise she. may do she must not lose her dignity, for it takes the place of many servants and it takes the places of a chaperon. With- out it she cannot hope to hold her place in the world, neither can she make any progress toward the high position tfo which any girl of education and gentle breeding may aspire. -