Omaha Daily Bee Newspaper, September 16, 1915, Page 9

A & Why We Quarreled : By Virginia Terhune Van de Water. By Virginia Terhune Van I wonder if many de Water women have fussy husbands. I am married to a man who nags—and that is the chief cause our juarrels. I have always thought that a womar who nags and fusses is bad enough, but 4 man who has these habits is a hundred times worse than the woman who has them, My housekeeping and management of my home are the things about which my husband worrfes in our ages this. Perhaps the difference has something to do with He was 40 when | married him and I was but %. I did not realize he might be what the country would call in his ways." peor He h set lived at home with his mother, who was The year after her model housekeeper. ath we married 1 mention these facts simply by way of explanation of the truth that he is nore particular than I When we settled In our house I did not suppose that he would ever trouble him- selt as to how It was run. My father rlways left that kind of thing to my mother. But Andrew, my husband, is different We had been married only a month when we had our first quarrel on this score. My dear,” Andrew sald reprovingly at breakfast. one morning, “as 1 came downstairs just now I noticed some cob- webs in the corner of the hall, close to the ceiling. Will you have them brushed away, please?”’ His tone irritated replied, “Why, yes, of course 1 will, when I get around to them. I noticed them myself terday and meant to at- tend to them anyway.” I am surprised,” he remarked, ‘that you did not brush them down as soon as you saw them me slightly and 1 ‘I pad other things to do at the time, 1 014 him He folded his lips in the thin line of disapproval with which 1 have since become familiar, and I knew that in wardly he was criticising my housekeep- ing. 1 pretended not to see this and began to to talk of other things. Now, however, 1 have become accus- How to Loosen the Grip of Heredity Infinite Patience and Solentific Teaching Wiil Cure the Child With a Teudency Toward Nat. urel Depravity. : : ‘ By ELLA WHEELER WILOOX, Copyright, 1915, Star Company. Will a child begotten of criminally de- praved parents, if brought up under the most moral environment and eurrounded by the most elevating conditions, develop any of the traits of character of the father and mothe: by reason of the in- fluences of heredity? It all “depends.” Such a child may 80 back three, four or five generations and give to the world the sterling virtues of noble an- cestors, or it may g0 still farther back to its own former incarnations and carry out some long- suppressed tendency for good or ill or it may prove to be What its parents were. But, scientifically reared, such a child, no matter what its inheritance, in itself or from its parents, could become & power for good in the world. It wouid naturally require more care and greater effort to produce such a re- sWt than if the child started with moral ndencles, just as it requires greater effort to bulld up a sickly, anemic infant into & robust maturity than to carry a strong, virile child to the same result. But both can be done. ¢ It would not be sufficient merely to Kive the child of depraved parents a good education and Christian influences, He must have more than all the libraries df Mr. Carnegle or all the churches of the land are giving to the growing gen- sration. He must have very nearly as constant and persistent and patient tralning as that which has been given to Helen Kellar, the blind and deaf wonder of the cen- tury. Hour by nour, day by day, week by week, year by year, the unfolding mind must be led to think tender, loving, kind, protecting thoughts, The moral brain cells must devel- oped as the sense of touch is developed in the blind, He must be taught to think that he inherits all of God's quali- Ales—dove, generosity, goodness, truth, kindness, protection, justice. He must Never be told that he has a vicious origin, or be made to think that he possesses any unfortunate trait. * Stories of noble conduct and of cour- mge. kindness and benevolence should be lold him in his early youth, and he Should never be allowed to think or pon- wder over tales of vice or crime. Extreme care should be exercised over his choice of associates, books and pas- Umes. He should not be taught to shoot Or hunt, but lnstead should be interested in natural history, and made to realise the dependence of animals upon the kind- Tess of man to protect all weaker creat- ures from the cruelty and injustice of the stronger. Very early«in life the important lesson of gelf-control shouid be taught the child’ and the power of the focused thought and the unswerving will. Some time there will be a great sclen- tific institution where all these things will be taught to perverted minds and to the offspring of the vicious, just as there are institutions now for teaching the deaf and the blind and the idiotc; and then we will need no prisons, no reform- wiories, no electrie chairs. God and man speed the day be then that h 1 | e Went Softly Out Into tomed to his constant criticlsms—accus- tomed, but not reconciled to them. He is, in slang phrase, “‘a regular Betty.” Last week he actually mentioned that he had observed I had let something interfere with my celaning the silver. He had al ways supposed 1 had a regular day for silver cleaning. His mother always had Yes, 1 said, 1 had a regular day fc too. But as he knew, my maid had been il last Wednesday and so I had let the silver alone “1e you took more interest in your home,” he suggested, ou would let nothing interfere with your household duties. A man cannot afford to neglect his business in that way. For a moment I did not know just how to answer, and he continued: “While we are on the subject I want to ask you to be more careful about the amount of provisions used, or wasted. Last week we used a pound more butter than the week before. Why was that?' We had a good many fresh veg- | etables,” I said, “and they take a great deal of butter for thelr proper prepa~ | ration.” “Thdt hardly accounts for a whole pound extra,” he objected. “You should ;knep your eyes on such matters and ex- ercise more care.” The habit of nagging and fault finding gTows on him until I sometimes feel that T can stand it no longer. 1 often hear | him go softly out into the kitchen at | night, after the maid has gone up to her room and the sound of the opening and closing of the fcebox and pantries comes to my ears. If he finds nothing amiss he says nothing to me of his investiga- tions. But if anything is out of place— No. 5—The Wife with a Nagging Spouse Tells Her Story. : r it | the Kitchen at Night. and something usually is out of place in every kitchen—he tells me of it gravely and reproachfully. A few nights ago, T was very tired and went to my room early. I was just fall- | ing asleep, when he opened my door and | spoke my name sternly. | “What's the matter?” I querled, start- | 1ea “That maid of yours went)out and left the sliced cake on it, just as it eame out from the dining room after dinner.” His tone was as portentous as if he had informed me of a national calamity. “Well, what If she did?” I rejoined. “T cannot help it." ““You ought to help it,” he declared. “T have put the cake away in the cake-box myself. Not only Is such carelessness un- tidy and extravagant, but it attract mice and .water bugs.” 1 sald nothing, but turned over with a sigh, and closed my eyes. Yet Andrew lingered. “You will speak to the maid about it in the morning, of course? he persisted. I was weary and nervous and the last vestige of patience deserted m: +“Oh, Andrew” I exclaimed. “For good= ness' sake, don't be so pett; 1 wish you would run your office—which is your job ~and let me run the house' “Then it would never be run,” he re- marked dryly. “And I don't care If it never is I exclaimed “All T do care about is to have you let me alone and stop nagging!" Many wives will think—perhaps with reason—that 1 was Inexcusably rude. !Iet those who condemn me try for only a little while to live with a fussy and nag- | #ing husbana. VLAHA, | FTHURSDAY, SKFT) ¥ The History of Perfumes Faenza Vases Used for Toilet Waters. By GARRETT P, SERVISS, Smell is perhaps the most occult sense that man possesses. Among other anl- mals it is often much more highly de- veloped than with us, and its purpose Is apparently, more utilitarian. 1t is suf ficient to recall the marvels accomplished by the dog with the sole ald of his nose Among men this sense seems to serve principally to give pleasure, although it 4lso serves the opposite purpose of ex- | lting disgust, which is often a kind of | warning. Upon the keenness of this nesthetic sense depends the whole art of perfu- mery, which has, in all times, played a | great part in human affairs—much greater than most persons imagine. In the fimt place, perfumes are aphrodisiac, and that is true not only among men, but even more among some of the animals. The orlent, says Dr. George William Askinson, in his book on “I'er fumes,” may be regarded as the cradle lower | of the art of perfumery on the kitchen table the cake plate with | The ancient Hebrews developed it highly in connection with their religlous observances. Athens was famous for its exquisite perfumes, and especlally for those carrying the scent of the violet. One of the names for Athens was “the violst-crowned city.” Solon, the Athenian lawgiver, found it necessary to forbid the sale of fragrant ofls to his masculine tellow citizens, although he refrained from interfering with the women's fond- ness for perfumes. Among the luxuries Romans, they began to rest from the when conquest of the world and turned to the‘enjoyment " of its most delicious fruits, the art of perfumery reached a wonderful stage of development. In Capua there was a whole street given over to the perfumers Roman gentlemen anointed themselves with scented olls three times a day. It is averred that when Nero burfed his wife, Poppaca, he used as much odorous as Arabia could produce In a year The house of a rich Roman always had many jars and vases filled with per- fumes and with the dried blossoms of sweet-smelling flowers. At the wsports |of the arena the alr in and over the But | great amphitheaters was often Impreg. nated with the aroma of the flowers and prepared perfumes which were used with prodigality, Not only the Romans, but MBER 1915, Essence Bottle Made in the Hartz Mountains, nearly all ancient nations employed great numbers of pots, jars and other vessols specially constructed to contain perfumes, and this fashion was revived in Italy, France, Spain and ‘elsewhere during later centuries, Accompanying this article will be seen photographs of some of the pots used for cosnietics. The Intensity of the Arab' love of perfumes s strikingly Indicated by the statement in the Koran that some of the hourls of the Mohammedan para~ dise are composed of pure musk, The Empress Josephine seems to have caught the Arab love of musk, for, as is well known, she used musk so liber- | ally that Napoleon strove, in valn, to persuade her to giye it up. It is said | that yet today, in her favorite chateau of Malmaison, the smell of musk remains in spite of all the scrapings, washings and paintings to which her rooms have been subjocted during the last century— she died at Malmalson in 1514, The anclents Invented various combin: tlons of perfumes, derived from flower: with gums and olls, which served to per- petuate the odors. Roses have alway. been among the most favored of odorif- Vases Used for Perfumes and Toilet Waters. erous flowers, and, today, immense fields of roses are grown in southern Kruncs and in Bulgaria, from which the preclous otto, or attar, of roses Is obtained. Dut 1 ¥ " AT T S \ Urbino Vase of Pitcher Form Used for Toilet Waters. there are other flowors having a mire delicate scent than that of the roses First stands the violet, Athens' chosen flower. .Then comes the enthulastl praise of Charles Dickens, who called it “the omphalos of the floral world, ' Or- ange blossoms, mignonettes, tuberoses, are among the other most valued flowers producing perfumes. Then there are perfumes artificlally Peveloped or combued, and aromatic ofls, like lavender and peppermint. most mysterlous of odorous substanc used in perfumery {s ambergris, which is sometimes found floating about on the surface of the sea, or cast ashore, liie a divine gift, as in Andrew Marvell's lines: From Lebanon he stores the land With cedars chosen by his hand And makes the hollow seas that roar Proclaim the ambregris on shore, Ambergris is a graylish white substance ocourring in masses rarely as large as the | when one hot atter- ~ | The Healers | [L =~ iy ADA PATTERSON. Onee 1 thought the bullders are the most useful persons on earth. I still think that no class of the world's dwellers can surpass those who bulld bridges across spaces that wore remed impossible who cause oltles to arise out of deserts, and who link eiti by th benefl fent paraliel bands |of steel we call rallronds, But there s a |class that equal hem i doing the world's w well 1 had my first clear [ viston of them noon 1 the green of the park crossed the to a square {ssued from shade and stroot building whose dark front was broken by a balcony on which were of little white cots. Within the cots lay lttle white-faced children, thelr heads in 6dd metal hoods that looked like anclent helmets, or their foet fastenod to the end of a bed by n pulley that slowly stretched the little strotohed a row { 1imbs to the length and shape nature had intended those limbs to be. And ma 1 went in at the big hospital gate It closed after a rosy-faced child of 3 who was belng led out by a mother whose face was transfigured by a great gratitude. oolish folk spend most of their hours pleading for things they want, and whan théy get them they at once begin wrest- ling with fate or Providence for some- thing else they want. This humbly clad mother was one of the wise folk on earth. It was plain from that flluminated face that she would give at least half her time to thanksgiving for the great, unex- pected good that had come to her. For the busy, white doctors hustling ahout in thelr white linen conts had wrought a miraocle for her. Her rosy child with the happy eyes, who walked lightly beside her, had been pale and sombre-eyed, with twisted body, even as that row of little ones on the balcony. The doctors had cured what had been belleved incurable. Only this morning 1 passed in and out of the office of one of the famous sur- weons of New York. On his desk were {hree small significant words, in white fist, and' belleved to be formed in the in testines of the pot-whale, When dis solved in aloohol it gives forth a pleasing odor mo persistent that a handkerchief will retain it even after belng washod with soap. A word of warning need not be given about the use of perfumes, because many of them affect the entire nervous system. | he Seemn to Have Lost Interest. | Dear Mise Fairfax: I am 19 years old | and have kept company with a girl nino months my senfor. We have been going | together for eleven months and love each other dearly. Now, last week, | Wednesday, 1 asked if'it would be agree- |able for me to come up Bunday evening at 8 o'clock, as 1 was to go out with my mother Sunday afternoon. At firat she said it would be all right for me to call, and then when I saw her Saturday afternoon she said that she |couldn’t” see me, as whe was going out with & girl friend and wouldn't be back in time. 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