Evening Star Newspaper, January 26, 1942, Page 14

A-13 WOMEN'’S FEATURES. THE EVENING STAR, WASHINGTON, .D. O, MONDAY, JANUARY 26, 1942, WOMEN'’S FEATURES. ome Self-Analysis Girls Who Only Have One Date Per Man Should Do S Any Number of Causes May Be Basic Reason For This Sad State Guard Against Outstanding Errors Such as Boredom Or Overenthusiasm By Dorothy Dix The one-date girl is one of the social mysteries. She has apparently all that it takes to make her popular. She is pretty, well dressed, well educated. She is a good dancer and men are attracted to her at first &ight, but they never play a return engagement. Most of the girls who find themselves taken up and dropped with a suddenness that leaves tnem gasping for breath explain their lack of holding power by the fact that they refuse to pet. Undoubtedly this is true in many cases, but it is difficult to believe that 21l men are of such an amatory nature that they have no interest in a girl unless she is a free kisser. There must be many boys who have no insatiable appetite for lipstick and who would find it a relief not to have to cap an evening’s entertainment by throwing in a lot of caresses. so we have to find some other reason than her moral code that makes little Jane's escort drop her at her front door after their first date and never return. % Now, just what it takes to make a girl a success or a failure with men no one knows, since there is no definite line of charms for which all men fall. Sometimes a girl is born without the come-hither look in her eyes and with no allure for the opposite sex. Her case is hopeless. But | if after having once awakened a man's interest in herself a girl lets him | elip through her fingers and loses him, it is because of her bungling han- dling, and she should do something< to improve her iechnique. There are two errors that the dateless girl is 2pt to make. One is to be so pleased and flattered at a boy's asking her to step out with him that she gives it away that she is not accustomed to such at- tentions. This is a fatal mistake, for men require other men to put their OK. on a girl before they give her a rush, and the more she is sought after, the more they want her. A girl should never jump at an invitation like a hungry dog at a bone. She should just take her dates as they come, and while mak- ing a boy feel that she is having the time of her life with him, she isn't down on her knees in gratitude for his deigning to notice her. The other mistake that a girl makes is in trying to cover up her datelessness by bluffing about her popularity and telling the boys who take her out about how many mil- lionaires she could have married, Manners of the Moment Some girls consider themselves very efficient at taking specks out of people’'s eves. I always considered myself pretty good at it until I poked at a man's eye and he ended up in a doctor’s office. It's all right, if you know what youre doing and really can see the speck. But it's not exactly tops in methods to endear yourself to your man friends. They hate to be poked at. And they will never obey your orders about rolling their eyes around and relaxing the muscles. No matter how expertly you may do it, the man who is the patient usual- Iy is convinced, before you are through with him. that you are clumsy with your hands and cruel in vour heart. It's much wiser, when vour boy friend gets a speck in his eye, to lead him firmly to the nearest drugstore and ask an expert to do the job. ‘Then there can be no recrimina- tions. JEAN. Favor Must Be Forbidde'hi Friendship | Argument With Parents in Girl's | and what swanky places some other | date took her to. Nothing scares a man off so quick- ly as for a girl to boast of her con- quests, real or imaginary, for he| doesnt want his scalp to be added | to her trophies. Nor does a boy | ever take out a girl a second time | who tells him how young Croesus | bought champagne and lobster new- burg for her, while she is eating his | hamburgers and drinking his peer. | Perhaps the reason the boy friend | never returns after his firsv date is because he was bored. Maybe the | girl spent the whole evening ta'kicg about herself and her family and the things that happened in the office, instead of steering the conversation gently and impereeptibly ardund to him and his interests and giving him an opening to tell what he said to the boss and the boss said to him. Or maybe the girl is a chatterer who didn’t give him a ~hance to put in a word edgewise. Or she may have been a dummy whom he had to work like a coal heaver to entertain. Or |one evening with her might have been enough if she was the kind of girl who is never pleased with zny- | thing; who never likes the n~ovie the lad takes her to, or the food he buys for her, or the place where they go to dance; who never fits in with his crowd and who mekes him fcel that he has spent his money in vain on her. Or perhaps a boy never takes a girl out but once because he can’t afford the price. She is a gold- digger who gets the last penny out of his pocketbook. She always ce- mands taxis and flowers and the most expensive places of amusement. She can't go by a restaurant door without saying how hnugry she is, or a shop window without seeing some- thing in it that she hints 1or, £nd after one experience the lad con- cludes she is too expensive a luxury for him to afford. Or it may be that the young man never comes back again because he is afraid, because sh> made him feel that she would grab him if he didn't watch out. She took a casual date for a proposal of marriage, which was far from his infentions. For a girl to say at parting: “When shall I see you again?” has frightened cff ymany a good prospect. | Based on Facts By Kay Caldwell and Alden Harrison . Since this is the bargain sale eeason, we're going to give you' double value today—some comment on a problem which many young people face and, in addition, a little lesson in winning arguments with your parents. The problem’ is stated in a letter signed “A Friend.” which reads: “I am 14 years old and have a girl friend the same age. I am very fond of her, but my parents don’t like her. They say she is fresh, and always chasing after boys. Mother lets me spend the afternoon with her occasionally, but she recently re- fused to let me spend the night with her, and Dad said I positively am not to go around with her. * “I think this is a very narrow- minded viewpoint, because if she was as bad as they think, I wouldn't have taken her for my best girl friend I would like to know whether I should do as my father says, and drop her, or go on as I have been doing.” Now for the lesson in argument The writer of this letter contends that she should be allowed to keep this girl for a friend because “she’s not as bad as her parents think.” And how do we know that she’s not as bad as her parents think? Because the writer wouldn't have taken her for her girl friend if she were! To understand how unsound such an argument is, let’s Jook at an exact parallel. Imagine a couple of high schoolers engaging in the following conversation: “I am going to shoot the principal because he is a Japanese spy.” “How do you know he is a Jap- anese spy? = Because I wouldn’t be planning to ghoot him if he weren't.” Okay, we think that shows you that this girl's argument is no argu- ment at all. Of course, what she meant to imply was that she was a good judge of character and there- fore she could be trusted to choose her own friends wisely. But she ean't argue that way until she’s proved her good judgment—which she hasn’t done. Now let’s look at the problem it- sel{. Parents often don't like some friend of a son or daughter. Some- times these dislikes seem unjustified and unreasonable, but usually they | have a sound and genuine basis. In this particular case, our read-| er's parents make definite charges | to explain their attitude toward her | girl friend: She is fresh and she is always chasing after boys. If they are right, their attitude is certainly understandable. And the writer of this letter produces no evidence to show that they aren't right. Therefore, we can do nothing but recommend that she pay strict heed to her parents’ orders to stop seeing the girl. Outright disobedience is & serious thing. Even if “A Friend” Rad proved that the girl was per- A . fectly all right and that her par- ents were wrong. it would still be up to her to try to show mother and ! dad their error. and get them to change their decision, rather than to disobey them. But “A Friend” hasn't done that She has offered us no defense of the girl friend whatever, except the | unacceptable argument we've men- tioned. She probably has offered just as little sound defense to her parents; and we suspect that her reason for failing to do so is that the charges about her girl friend are justified. Maybe theyre not; but in that case, the girl must prove it to her parents. As it is now, she hasn't a leg to stand on. And there’s a hint for all of you. Most parents will concede a point if you can tactfully present sound reasons for their doing so. But you've got to have facts and straight thinking on your side. You can't win with this principal-is-a-spy type of argument, Members of the dried fruit family make economical and tasty foods, capécially if they are used, like these delicious prune noon tea. if Ydu ”Travel# South This Winter Take Precautions To Keep Beauty Quite Intact By Patricia Lindsay There are beauties who live South and others who journey South for a few warm sun baths. These girls and women have a nice choice of cosmetic aids to keep their loveli- ness intact. For instance, a little kit for tropi- cal resorts holds sunburn cream, special dry-skin lotion, a rich cold cream and a foundation cream. All nestle compactly in a blue denim bag with white trimming and a drawstring—nice to tote along to the beach or carry in one’s car. And that non-olly night cream I mentioned some weeks back is an- other splendid aid for Southern beauty. It disappears at once when applied to the skin, yet it lubricates parched or sunburned skin, To prevent squint lines there is| a special eve craam which should be applied before the dip into the ocean or sun bath and afterward when you are home resting. This cream contains no ‘perfume and is finely blended to soothe the area around the eyes. Of course, stay- at-homes can use this, too! Seasoned sun bathers realize that a pomade or ointment is essential to protect the scalp and hair from | being scorched. Tuck in your beach bag. or apply before you leave the house, a reliable scalp ointment. Put it on the scalp sparingly, for one does not desire gfeasy-looking hair, and then brush the hair from the scalp out to the very ends, thus distributing the protective cream Then if you go about without a hat or lie long in the sun with only a cloth head covering, your hair will not fade and dry. Such an oint- ment serves nicely as a hair dressing for dry hair, making it more ruly and adding a sheen. The trick, re- member, is to apply just enough of it. Sun and air and change of climate tend to dry one’s body skin. After a dip into the sea and a showering with fresh water, I suggest that you use a body lotion containing fine | oils beautifully blended and scented. | This lotion not only perfumes the | skin but keeps it velvety smooth and hastens a rich, lovely tan color to come. You know even slightly burned skin turns red, and some- times peels. But if you oil slightly burned skin the moment you shower, after the sun bath, the chances are vou will prevent it from getting red and peeling—the lubricant does it! Take these little precautions, if you find yourself in the South. Slm ple Buffet Setn rolls, with scone dough. Prune rolls are Jack Horner sur- prises, for visible under each rich| scone blanket is a plump, dark| prune. Healthful and economy- concealing, prune rolls are good background for snowy cottage cheese or a fruit salad. | There is no denying that members of the dried fruit family are purse- saving foods. Used with simple scone dough, they become an adven- | ture indorsed by family and budget Vitamin and mineral laden prunes | are healthful in their own right. In addition, scone dough wrapping adds the energy and wholesomeness of flour and egg. Prune rolls are health rolls which prefer to rest on their flavor laurels. If self-rising flour is used, omit | the baking powder and salt, ‘ PRUNE ROLLS. ! 2 cups sifted flour 3 teaspoons baking powder {1 teaspoon salt 1 tablespoon sugar 4 tablespoons shortening 2 eggs 14 to 14 cup milk 20 pitted cooked prunes. | Sift flour, baking powder. salt and sugar together. Cut in shortening. Combine beaten eggs and milk and add to flour mixture, stirring only enough to make dough hold to- gether. Turn out on lightly floured board and knead one-half minute’ Roll out to !4-inch thickness and cut into strips (1x4 inches). Place a prune on each strip and roll up Seal ends. Bake in moderately hot | oven (425 degrees F.) 12 to 15 min- utes. Yield: About 20 small rolls. Why Grow Old? By Josephine Lowman Here are a few aids for the woman Wwho is on a reducing diet. First. re- member that you do not need food just because you are hungry. If you are overweight you have lots of energy stored up in layers of fat. If, in the past, you have eaten more than you needed and have con- sequently become overweight, your stomach actually has enlarged and your eating desires will linger with you for a short time until the sto- mach has returned to normal. Eating is a habit and you will not feel harassed because of short ra- tions for more than a week or maybe 10 days. The following are sugges- tions for making the first stages of reduction easier. Some of them are mine and others are new sugges- tions from a widely-known physi- | | cian. | | 1. Once vou begin, never give in, | even a little bit. If you weather the | first 10 davs, your troubles are over ! and the only way to succeed is to| wipe from your mind all doubt as to whether you are going to do it. | 2. If you crave sweets, eat fresh fruits, some of the sweeter variety, or take one or two small pieces of | hard candy occasionally as dessert. | 3. Don't cut out meals but portion your calories over the three meals in any way which best serves your taste. Also plan between-meal snacks of skimmed milk, fruit juice or fruit. But be sure to count them | in on your general caloric total Ior‘ the day. | 4. Munch celery between meals.| The calories are negligible, it is good for you, and is filling. | < | | They'll be a “hit” with salads or after- —Korth Phote. TheR.S.V.P. Problem Arises Incorrect to Send ‘Return Cards’ For Wedding By Emily Post A return card inclosed with an invitation usually indicates a pub- lic function—certainly not a wed- ding. And yet, a much upset mother | of the bride asks: “May we inclose cards all ad- dressed and stamped and ready to have the yes or no checked and the card returned to us? The need- less expense we ran into when our older daughter was married, be- cause we prepared for twice too many people, has made me chary of putting any reliance upon the accuracy of R. S. V. P. Not even all of those who accepted came. On the other hand, many who never answered turned up. But this time we would like to be as sure as possible.” the only answers you can be sure of are the ones who send regrets. People who would like to come, but are rot sure that they can, are inclined to send ac- ceptances. At a guess I would say that if you prepare for about half of those from whom you don’t hear and for about three-quarters of those who accept, this will be rea- sonably accurate. In any case, pro- vision for 70 per cent of those in- vited would be ample—counting in- vitations sent to a general list. If in- vitations are sent only to relatives and most intimate friends, you would prepare for all. Dear Mrs. Post: Is it in bad taste to burn candles on a lunch table? My dining room is dreary and never gets the midday sun. However, it is not really dark enough to need arti- ficial light to see by. That's the situation and you've no doubt gath- ered that I would like to use the candles. Answer—The best excuse for can- dles at midday is that the room is | In other words, whilg they | dark. do not belong on a midday table, if they are needed it is only sensible to put them on and light them. If your room is neither dark nor vet light enough to be cheerful, I think you might use candles. Dear Mrs. Post: Is it ever im- proper for a girl who is marrying for the first time to have a big wedding and bridesmaids and wed- ding finery when it is the bride- groom’s second venture? Answer—Ordinarily it is quite proper that the bride have as big a wedding as she pleases. How- ever, if he is marrying only a short time after the death of his first wife, | a conspicuously large and elaborate wedding might be criticized. But even so, not seriously. On the other hand, if he is a divorce and there was a scandal in connection with the divorce, it would be wiser to attract as little attention as pos- | sible to this marriage. Dear Mrs. Post: Does the rule of etiquette which requires that the 1743 By Bdoness Piantoni Here's a simple buffet set that can be crocheted quickly. Its very simplicity makes it especially attractive for the dark wood background of the buffet. You may want to use the pieces separately on smaller pieces of furniture, for they make attractive doilies. Make the set in snowy white or ecru, whichever you feel does more justice to your furniture. Pattern envelope contains one filet-crochet diagram of easy-to-see dot-in *square method; also full directions. Send 15 cents for pattern No. 1743 to the Needlework Editor of The Evening Star. 5. Let a pepvermint lozenge, dis- | motion of the spoon in eating soup solve slowly in the mouth. The Pro- | pe away from one instead of toward nounced taste of the lozenges will| one apply to other liquids as well as saturate the taste buds and discour- | soup? age the hunger sensations. | Answer—Yes—and also to taste 6. Don't drink water at meals. soup in cups—although it does apply esnecially ice water. This washes off | particularly to thin soups served in the taste buds and the coldness| plates, Many of those who have stimulates the membranes of the njce table manners carefully dip mouth and stomach. | their spoons away when sipping 7. Don't discuss ' dieting With | peverages. On the other hand, many friends. Their “Oh, forget it this| whose table manners are quite fault- one time.” increases temptation. less and who always dip their table- 8. Remerhber that the extras spoons away from them when eating count un readilv. One chocolate | ginner-party consomme, pay little cream or vanilla soda will undo| attention to teasooons dipped into | what vou have been struggling to| cups. accomplish. 5 S 9. Remember how many calories ~ . | there are in cocktails and high- Imports to Continue bolls. beer and wine. One ounce of | The three principal k)nds of ma- whisky contains 100 calories; one-|hogany used for furniture today half bottle of beer, 75 calories: two | West Indies, Tropical American and ounces of sherry about 120 calories. | African, must all be imported for — use in this country. The impor- tance of mahogany in our war pro- | gram, however, assures a continued supply of mahogany for defense needs, with a left over supply avail- able for civilian uses. A bright fire in a coal-burning furnace does no good to anybody and generally means that you are wasting fuel. You need f{u‘n emuh i bright coals and bright flame w- ln:‘ to make sure the gases distilled | To Keep Cheese off the coal are burned instead of | If you serve a lot of cheese in being allowed to escape up the your family it pays to buy it a chimney, and you need a certain |pound or more at a time. Keep amount of air supply above the coal |it well wrapped in wax paper and to help in this burning. otherwise | store it in the refrigerator. It will valuable fuel will be wasted. stay fresh for a long time, ‘\ Don’t Spank A Small Child Harsh Treatment Will Help Upset His Emotions By Lettice Lee Streett Dear Mrs. Streett: I have a baby girl, my first, who is 17 months old. My problem concerning the baby is that she seems very nervous, and is getting a very bad temper. She smacks every one who comes into the house, and whrn she is angry she throws her dolls on the floor. 1 smack her hand very hard every time she does this, and people tell me that she is too small to be get- ting a spanking. Perhaps my smacking her is mak- ing her nervous, I do not know. I wish you would publish an answer to my problem, and tell me if I am | doing right in trying to conquer her temper while she is young. Your column has been a wonder- | ful help to me; I will continue to | read it as I have a lot to learn| yet. Sincerely, MRS. H. B. Answer—It is at least encouraging. Mrs. H. B, for you to admit that | you have “a lot to learn,” because this reveals that you have an open mind. However, you are woefully lacking in knowledge and under- standing of the care of a baby. I say this not in criticism, but be- cause I want to help you both. As 1 see it, the seed of vour problem is not in your tiny daugh- ter, but in you, yourself. You must educate yourself in infant care be- | fore you can hope to correct the beginnings of this unsocial behavior in your little girl. I wish you would write to me | asking the title of an excellent, | easy-to-read book about haby care. It only costs 15 cents ‘and contains a wealth of information vou should know. Inclose a stamped (3-cent), self-addressed envelope with your request and I shall send you the name of the book and where you may obtain it. Please do not send the 15 cents to me. Now, about your problem; your friends are correct when they say that your little girl is too young to be spanked. Her baby mind can- not possibly comprehend why her mother’s hand strikes her. I think there is no doubt but | that the reason she attempts to hit others is because she sees vou doing the same. Bables are mimics. The way they learn is by observing the actions and words of those who care for them. | ‘The baby's nervousness may be’ all, or in part, due to the disorderly emotional scenes that follow your sharp punishment. However, I would like you to let a pediatrician examine your little girl to be sure | that there is no physical reason for this nervousness. A well baby is generally placid. with a contented expression and a calm. wide-eyed gaze. Proper diet. adequate sleep and ouidoor exercise. a regular schedule, a happy home environ- ment and a gentle mother are es- sentials to sound nerves. Loving care, a show of affection ' and sympathetic and prompt atten- tion to a baby's physical needs that are necessary to his bodily comfort do not spoil an infant: they help him. for he needs a devoted mother. _ What hurts him is a mother who is sharp. impatient. overexacting and indifferent. and what spoils | him is 0 be picked up and petted when . he is crying from temper. and to be given anything he cries for by overindulgent parents. I suggest that you refrain from | hitting vour little girl. When she throws her tovs away in a tan- trum, or when she attempts to strike blows with her baby fists, pay no attention, just leave her alone. She will soon learn that the practice fails to win for her that which she seeks, just as all babies do—the center of the floor. | NEURALGIAY Capudine acts fast becauss it's liquid, relieving pains of neuralgia quickly, pleasan: Soothes upset nerves. Use only as directed. All drug- gists. 10c, 30c, 80c bottles. Liquid CAPUDINE —eme==-CLIP THIS RECIPE.cccummm Spanish Beanpot RECIPE OF THE WERK TESTED AND AP- PROVED BY MCCORMICK CONSUMER BOARD Puc in beanpot } 4 cups canaed kidser beans Y cup juice Remaove spice bag. 4 slices bacon 3 thaps. McCormick Omion (soaked 20 minutes in 1/3 cup cold water- in) Y cup nrong biack coffee reason milk is pasteur- ized. | A&d Dash to Wardrobe i Give Yourself a Lift by Wearing I This Charming Feminine Frock | By Barbara Bell Is it about time you had some- thing new to wear? Here it is, a dress to lift your spirits—to give new tone to your end-of-the-winter wardrobe. 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