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Copyright. 1922, ‘6 epee RUTS!” ‘4 Pauline ©. Field, head of the Abandonment Bureau and assistant to DistrictAttorney Banton; Helen P. McCormick, As- sistant District At- torney of Kings CONES) ERO rice. M. Baright, one of New York's most prominent women lawyers, all ‘secs declare that ‘“mat- rimonial ruts” are the chuse of most of the infelicities between husbands and wives, In to-day’s interview Mrs. Fiéld, ‘whose recent expertences as head ot the Abandonment Bureau have brought many cases of couples who are subject to matrimonial ruts be- fore her, tells of the ruts which she considers most destructive toward marital happiness, With her keen, analytical mind Mrs. Field pointed out the follow- ing ruts which she believes are fore- most among the average couples who ronclude they are “frightfully un- happy” together. “1, Getting that ‘Superior Feel- . Inability to accept each other as they are. “3. Inability to swing the pen- dulum evenly in regard to: (a) Money matte (b) Social engagements. (c) Holding one’s tongue. ** ‘Getting that Superior Feeling’ is probably the worst rut a husband or wife may get into,’’ declared Mrs, Field at her office in the Crimimal Courts Building. ‘This is the most destructive rut a husband and wife may fall into. To think that you THAT “FEELING OY “ SUPERIORITY” MUST NOT BE ENCOURAGED married a woman, a person who has the mentality of a child of twelve, simply means that you can never be thappy with her again. “Frequently a wife finds that she is better posted on some subject than her husband. Possibly she has been reading up on that special subject and takes him by surprise, therefore she puts him down as a moron and feels decidedly superior to him. Of course, she doesn'{ come to this con- » clusion at once, bi& day after day she lays little traps for him and she finds he doesn’t know the things she does. “Then she begins to compare him with other men. Mrs, Smith's hus- band may have @ motor car, a new diamond brooch, a bungalow in the country and she wonders why HER HUSBAND can't climp the ladder as well as the other men, Perhaps her husband doesn’t drive a nail as well as she does, perbaps he has formed the habit of putting things off and she does them herself feeling vastly superior. “Day by day this wife is getting into a deeper rut, becoming more superior to the man she married and day by day they are getting further and further apart. Now the fact of it is in many cases she is NOT superior, She may be of a quicker turn of mind, of a more active dis- position but if she stopped to think things out she might find that hubby is superior to her in many other things. “Then there is the ‘Superior Man,’ the husband who looks about the house and thinks he could do the work GOING DOWN! EAR READER: If you are D inclined to be jealous or envious of others, remem- ‘her thét they may have some sadness which does not show on the surface. There no need of envy, hatred or jealousy. It is useless mental effort and gets you no- where, The back wheel of a wagon is just as important to the running of that wagon the front wheel. You are a sary to the scheme of the uni- verse as the other person and as matters stand to-day, money is a liability and not an asset, for the rich are suffering as much if not more than the so-called poor. Think pleasant thoughts. Always, ALFALFA SMITH, - ARE YOU IN A ¢ Matrimonial Rut « Three Prominent Women Lawyers Agree That This Causes Most of the Domestic Unhappiness. SERRE OME IRREEIE ~ In the First of a Series of Three Interviews, Pauline O. Field, Head of the Abandonment Bureau, Points Out Three “Ruts” Which Have Come Prominently By Fay Stevenson. (New "York Evening World). by Presa Publishing Co. Under Her Observation. Those are the rough places over which many couples stumble and frequently get so entangled that they find it difficult to get back on the clear, smooth road again, in half an hour and spend the rest of the day out in the open air. What do cleaning, dusting, baking, mend- ing, marketing, taking care of the children and doing the thousand and one things wifey complains about amount to? A snap of your fingers! He could do {t all up in a jiffy and just sit around the house and enjoy ‘home, sweet home,’ “Again there is the ‘Superior Hus- band’ who reads the papers and keeps up with all the current events. The women in his office are well posted and well groomed, but his wife asks him about things which she herself could glean from the news and she fails to have that coiffured, manicured appearance of the women he sees downtown. He begins to feel that he is superior to this domesticated wife and that if he were in her place he would look differently and manage } differently. “Superiority—that miserable idea that you know more than your better half—is the most miserable, destruc- tive rut any husband or wife can get into. My Advice to the ‘man or wom- an who has acquired that ‘superior feeling’ is to shake themselves, to wake up and step out of this rut, which means the loss of self respect, of confidence and love.” In speaking of the second rut, “In- ability to accept each other as they Mrs. Field said: “Here is a rut which ts constantly open to the husband or wife who will QUARRELS OVER MONE MATTERS ee Hf not take each other as they are. Both husband and wife must learn to ac- cept each other's faults as well as the good qualities, Angelic hus- bands and wives do not exist. The man is bound to be cross, even a bear at times, or he will have some out- standing fault. And the woman is going to love society, be late for din- ner, & nag, and remind him of all the unpleasant things he doesn't wish to hear. This is human nature.’ But don't fall into the rut of hating each other for your weaknesses. Pick out the best, the very best, and accept the rest ‘for worse.’ ’* Coming to her third outstanding matrimonial rut: “Inability to swing the pendulum in regard to money matters, social engagements and hold- ing one's tongue,’ Mrs. Field said: “Money matters have been and Probably always will be a rut to couples who would otherwise be very happy together. But this is a matter which every individual household must settle for itself. The present budget system helps many couples and in personal allowances husband and wife must learn to make it a case of fifty-fifty In regard to saving and spending. ‘ “Social engagements are the cause of much unhappiness between hus- band and wife, If the pendulum does not swing evenly between them théy are very apt to fall into a rut. Some men are naturally hermits. They simply want to stay home afd be alone all the time. This is, of course, unfair to the woman; but on the other hand she must realize that home means quietude and comfort to a busy man and he must have some free eve- nings each week. he “Apothtr swing to the pendulum which may keep couples out of matri- monial ruts is ‘holding one’s tongue. It the tired business man can only learn to refrain from talking until AFTER he eats his dinner and the poor little housewife can only man- age to tell him her household troubles when they are sitting together after dinner one of the meanest little ruts in’ the matrimonial road ‘could be avoided. It isn’t what you say, it's the way you say it, And the things you say before dinner when. you are tired and agitated are not sald the way they woul. be if you waited until you were in a calmer frame of mind, “The matrimonial road is full’ of ruts and pitfalls, but if husband and wife learn to avoid these ruts, to ac- cept them and steer out of thein way, they will find that the love which drew them together still exists.” Other Matrimonial Ruts to Be Avoided will be discussed in a second article by Miss Helen P. McCormick, Assistant District Attorney of, Kings County, ¢ WORLD, THURSDAY, MAY 18, 1922, “oa , In the iG How to “Look Your Best” Spring To Keep Your Face By Doris Doscher. Copyright, 1922 (New Yorx Evening World) by Press Publishing Co. HE most appealing quality of WD facial beauty. is the freshness, the clearness and_the smooth- ness of the complexion. This coveted complexion is not, possible when the face is covered by blackheads, and, alas, this condition {is all too prevalent. Never mind how ‘ regular the fea- tures are or what- ever other point of beauty the face may have, if these black spots appear on the prominent portions of the face it is bound to detract from the general good looks and give the face a dirty, muddy appearance. The first thing that most of you at- tempt to do Is to cover up these blac! heads by putting on a coating of pow- "SOME. FAULTS MUST BE OVERLOOKED MOUTH BREATHING.— P ERHAPS the most common interfere seriously with health are troubles of the nose and throat. The to her breast while in the act of nurs- ing, thus interfering with its breath- laying the foundation for future dis- tress to her child that may affect it As every one is aware, the nose Is but partially developed at birth, as- general growth of the body. That Portion of ‘the nose which we see is part, the part with which we breathe, is inside, and is most intimately con- brain, and thereforé, of intelligence; with the ears, and therefore with our formation of the mouth, and therefore with the growth of the teeth; with the supply of oxygen, upon which life d pends extremely small, whereas the glands at the back of the nose and in the interferes with the intake and output of air through these narrow pas- more particularly the condition of these glands, of glands in this location at birth, because children are peculiarly sus: I.mean to those diseases of early child- hood so well known to all of us, such cough, diptheria, &c., and whieh are due to germs that are carried about sentinels that guard the passageway ‘to the lungs and blood and protect the germ diseases, to which the tender bodies of children are 80 liable to suc- and-more able to resist the action of germs, the glands in the nose and ‘By Dr. Charlotte C. West among conditions in children that mother who lovingly presses her baby, ing, does not realize that she may be throughout its entire life. suming shape and form only with the the least of it. The most important nected with the development of tho senso of hearing; with the proper lungs, and therefore with a sufficient In an Infant, the nasal passages are throat are large, The least thing that sages affects the general heuith, and Nature has provided an abundafice geptible to air borne diseases. By that as measles, chicken pox, whooping in the air, These glands are nature's body against the invasion of ‘these cumb. As we grow older and stronger throat ‘shrink, because we no longer -have the great need for them we did in childhood.” But anything that interferes with nose breathing during the early years of life causes these glands to take on an ‘additional growth, and in time large masses of them may be formed, completely stopping up the aff pas- sages at the back part of the 80 that breathing through the nos@is not only extremely difficult and only par- tially performed but in some tases is absolutely impossible and mouth breathing not only while asleep and during the night but all the time be- comes the rule. Free From Blemishes der. This will never remedy them and In fact only aggravates the con- dition. If you stop to consider for a moment that the body is continually throwing off through the glands of the skin waste matter of the body, you will readily see that closing up these Pores with powder will never remedy, the condition. Blackheads are formed in the pores of the skin and consist of fatty mat-' ter surrounded by accumulated dirt, The sides of the nose, the forehead, the chin and the corners of the mouth are the favorite spots for the invaders and sometimes they pene- trate far into the skin. When they are removed they are a half inch in length, showing that some germ has Penetrated deep into the duct of the skin. When they are deep seated they are usually found on persons with a very oily skin. But hardly any of us is entirely free from these disfiguring marks. Too often they are forcibly removed by a metallic object and leave not only an enlarged pore but an actual scar. When you realize that these blackheads are really only an accumu- lation of dust and dirt in the pores of the skin you will see that the only method of removing them ts by thor- oughly cleansing the face. This does not mean « superficial washing of the face, but it means a treatment that will actually reach the imbedded dirt in the pores. The first thing to do is to wash the face with hot water, followed by a thorough scrubbing with a soft complexion brush and a good quality of soap. Use the brush with a circu- lar movement until you have given the face a thorough scrubbing, espe- cially where the blackheads are im- bedded. After this rinse with warm water and then use the following cream, which will soften the black- heads Lanolin .... +1 ounce Almond oil 1 ounce Tincture of Benzoin ....% ounco Then the face should be washed again, after which the. blackheads usually come out by themselves in the final rinsing water. The finishing touch should be a rinsing with ico cold water, to which a few drops of benzoin have been added, This will again close the pores that have been opened by the hot Process and Prevent new dust from again obstruct- ing the pores of the skin. There are some cases where the blackheads lie deep in the skin and their removal will require more than the above treatment, ia and zine ach one dram, and rose- water, four ounces, well shaken together and mopped over the: spots will surely effect a cure. The only way to keep black- heads from forming is to remove all traces of dirt and dust as soon as pos- sible from the skin. A long walk or an automobile ride {s bound to cover your face with dust, and, if you do not wish it to rest permanently there in the shape of blackheads, you must give your face a thorough cleansing after these outings, If you are absolutely sure that you have removed from your faco every trace of the impurities that have been cast off from the pores of the skin during the day, as well as the accu- mulation of dust before you retire at night, you blackheads forming on your face. Do not confuse pimples with black- heads. They are a distinct affliction and require a different treatment, In our next talk I will tell you just what this treatment is, so that you may rid yourselves of not only blackheads but pimples and have the reward of a good, clear complexion for your trouble. need not worry about | The Jarr Family By Roy L. ee ace sgaye 1 Gor 7H LEFT /N McCardell Copyright, 1922 (New York Evening World) by Press Publishing Go. 6677 HERE'S nobody in thts house who takes one bit of inter- est in it except me, I do de- clare," said Mrs. Jarr petulantly. “There's that broken pane of glass in the bedroom window, and the shade off that roller in the front room for weeks, but you won't fix anything! You'd see everything go to rack and ruin and wouldn't care!" “Meaning me?" Mr. Jarr inquired. “Yes, you!” replied Mrs. Jarr, “and you took the fly screen out of the dining room window and didn't put it back; yet if I say a word, you fly Into a temper and upset me so that I al- ways wish I had attended to things myself.”” “I am not flying into a temper, you are,"’ Mr. Jarr retorted, ‘and if you don't stop bawling me out I'll take the air,” “That's nice language to use before your children,” whimpered Mrs. Jarr. “The children are not here now," ventured Mr. Jarr. “It would not matter if they were,” said his good lady, “and I want to say to you right now’—— But she never got an opportunity to say it, whatever it was, for just then the doorbell rang, and Mrs, Jarr, answering it, was heard to ex- claim blithely, “Oh, Mr. and Mrs, Grimmer! Hew are you? Mr. Jarr For the Spring Luncheon ASH cooked prunes to a pulp. The business woman who can- not devote much time to pre- Paring meals will find among the canned goods an excellent brand of “prepared prunes’’ which are in pulp form,. Stiffen this pulp with cracker dust or bread crumbs and, if desired, chopped nut meats may be added Form into oblong roll, dip jn egg und cracker meal and fry in deep hot fat. PINEAPPLE FRITTERS. If fresh fruit {s used it should be eut into thin slices, sprinkled with sugar and allowed to stand a couple of hours, Cut each slice in halves, drain and roll in sifted bread crumbs before dipping into the batter. If the canned variety is used drain the slices, cut each In halves and dip into the batte Fry in deep, hot fat, drain on soft Paper, dust with powdered sugar and serve with pineapple juice. (rated pineapple, which is nice for this pur- pose, may be purchased in cans. ‘I should be drained and mixed in the batter, using one’ cup of fruit to three cupfulg of batter, To make batter; for any fruit frit- ters sift together one cup flour, one- half teaspoon salt and one-half tea- spoon baking powder. Stir in one- palf cup sugar, gradually add one- alf cup’ milk and two well-beaten eggs. One egg will do if one tea- spoonful of powder is used. FRUIT OMELETTE. Use either fresh or canned fruit. Shred.it or heat tt'and mash it into a pulp. The gratéd pineapple makes a delicious omelette and.is ready for use. Beat three or four eggs, add one tablespoonful of sugar, a pinch of salt and just before putting into pan stir in one teaspoonful each of the fruit pulp and lemon juice, Fry in a hot pan containing one teaspoontul of butter or ofl. While omelette is still moist pour over one-half of it a cup- ful of the hot fruit pulp, fold ove: brown, sprinkle with sugar and serve immediately, and I were just wondering If we would see you to-day! Bring your dear husband in to meet Mr. Jarr.”’ Mr. Jarr had a dim recollection of having met Mrs. Grimmer, an ex- treme stout lady, with three chins, and each chin a determined one, some time somewhere, but Mr. Grimmer, very tired and dyspeptic looking, drooping little man, he had never met before. Still he took him by the hand and said heartily, “Gldd to meet you. Did you see ever such weather as we are having?"’ ‘This remark about the weather in- spired Mrs. Grimmer to snap at her husband, “Reginald, take off your rubbers!" Mr. Grimmer did not have any rubbers on, but he was so cowed, evi- dently, by years united in matrimony to @ lady with three strong chins, that. he proceeded meekly to go out into the hall and pretended to take off the non-existent overshoes. In the awkward pause that followed, Mrs. Jarr inquired of Mrs. Grimmer &s to how she was feeling. “Feeling) My dear Mrs. Jarr, if you only knew what I have been through with since I saw you last, just three months ago it was, at Mrs. Stryver’s reception, How I have kept on my feet, my physicians cannot understand, But Dr. Fuzzby says, it is Will Power! t “Before I called in Dr. Fuzzby, who is a serumologist, I had tried X-rays, violet raya, osteopathy, chiropractic, nature-dieting, the dally dozen and Swedish movements to music, and even psychoanalysis, And you would wonder after all 1 had been through and all the operations I have under. gone, that I am able to totter aroun Then Mrs. Grimmer described all her operations, and there had been some yearly dozens of them, for an hour. Then she bade goodby, and led away the meek Mr. Grimmer, who had never said one word. Once outside airs, Grimmer re- marked to *., husband, “Go back and preteng you have left your rub- bers, an¢ see if the Jarre aren't fighting They had been quaprelling when we came in, 1 could see that.’ Mr, Grimmer returned, and re- ported that when he asked for his non-existent rubbers Mr. Jarr was beating his wife, This wasn't true, but Jt pleased Mrs, Grimmer “[ always suspected he did!"" she said. “That's why I told you to take off ‘your rubbers, so you could go back and find out for me for sure.” To-Day in World History One hundred and eighteen years ago to-day (May 18, 1804) Napoleon Bonaparte’ was decreed “Emperor of the French.” In December he was anointed Emperor by Pius VII., and four months later he crowned himself King of Italy. GLAD You i er REA Aaah : WORK ry, a IN THE KITCHENETTE MAISIE REPORTS HER CALL TO MARGIE. ELL! I've told him any- way.” With a sigh of relief, that was Malste's opening remark to Margie the next morning after she had called upon Frank Spafford and told him it was high time for him to de- clare his love for Margie, "You've told him what? And by the way, whom are you talking about?’ asked Margie @ little bewill- dered at Maisie’s emphatic attitude of having done her duty. “I've told Frank Spafford that you love him, that you're weary and wan waiting for him to declare his love for you and that if he ever intends to dis- cover America and pop the question to you it's high time he got busy!” Margie was agcustomed to Malsie’s slangy epigrams but this talk about her telling Spafford that she loved him puzzled her. It was quite a time be- fore she realized that Maisie had actually visited young Spafford at his home and told him he ought to pro- pose to her, Then, as Maisie folded her arms and looked proud and satis- fied with her art of expression and knack of ‘bringing things about," the truth dawned upon her, h, Maisie, you haven't told him thet I love him, have you?” she gasped. “I most assuredly have, Abso- lutely!"" ‘Margie grabbed hold of the glove counter'and for a few moments the whole store seemed to swing around and around. Then she steadied her- self and all sorts of thoughts rushed into her brain, “Would Frank Spafford think she had sent Maisie to tell him she loved him?" “What did he do when he lear -d that she loved him? “How could she ever look him in the eyes again now that Maisie had taken tye step?" “You needn't look so white," de- clared Maisie. “Many a young man needs a tip that it’s time to propose. Some of these dreamers would hang around for a thousand years before they realised they should speak their minds. Me for action every time and when a chap wears my parlor furp!- ture out hanging around I believe in setting a firecracker upder his feet." “But what did he say, what did he do?" “De? He sat there like a chip- munk with his head on one side and his ears open, So I gave him an ear- ful all right. And when I left he thanked me. It may have been ear- casm or he may really have meant it, but anyway he knows you love him now and if he is a rea} man and in- tends to make good depend upon it I put a@ flea in his ear.” “I'm afraid you spoiled my love af- fair," suddenly cried Margie. “Oh, I'm afraid you have driven my Prince Charming away and spoiled all our ideals and beautiful understanding of each other’s natures, He will think I am a designing flapper who put you up to go to him. What possessed you to do this, Maisie Leet’ “Never mind, darling,""’ whispered Maisie, ‘tyou'll see I've done the right thing. That's what you call bringing 4 man to terms, I'll tell the world. And Prince Charming or not, every girl has to give Cupid a push. If she won't do it herself, then it's up to her best girl chum. “But you spoiled everything, moaned Margie. “I imagined he would call last night and he didn't. You see, he knew I loved him then, for you went to him early in the ning, Don't you suppose he would have rushed right over to see me if he really loved me." “Time, give him plenty of time,” soothed Maisie. ‘He {s the last man in the world to do things on the im- pulse. It may be a whole week, dearte, before he calls, But belie me, I have more faith in your Prince Charming now than I had before I told him to hustle up and make good!"* To-morrow—Willis Channing te the Front. *