The evening world. Newspaper, May 13, 1922, Page 11

nto 4 five | venwa | WOMEN ARE ASKING: “Can the Woman With Home Duties Also?” Have an Understudy? a Career Do Justice to Her MRS. FREDERICK REPLIES: “Of Course She Can, Provided She Is Able to Place in Her Home the Equivalent for Service—But in Order to Replace Herself She Should Be Able to Earn inough Money to Pay a Competent Cook, Nurse, Business Manager and Fount of Inspiration!” By Mrs. Christine Frederick. Household Efficiency Bwpert, Author “Household Engineering.”” Copyright, 1922 (New York Evening World), by Press Publishing Co. HERE are three classes of ay women — first, the average man's ideal, who openly and evowedly loves housekeeping; next, the woman who out and out dis- and lets everybody know it; and last, an increasingly large number of women to whom housekeeping is not absolutely distaste- ful, but who pre- fer some other work in business, in teaching, or CMSTINE FREDERICK whatever career may appeal to them The woman who loves homemak- ing—and may her tribe increase—is no problem to the sociologist. The problem lies in working out the hap- piness of the two other groups with- out throwing family life overboard. How is the woman who dislikes housework and yet wishes to retain the joys of home life to set about it? How is the woman who has a career going to do justice to both home and witbout letting health, Jamily or en.zer suffer? Ellen Key says that woman cannot do it. I believe Moreover, J believe that she should have both home and career just like her hus- band, providing that she can replace in her home her equivalent in ser- vice. The average woman who earns fm small wage—perhaps $10 or $15 per week at her chosen work—cannot generally replace what she would be worth if she devoted her efforts to homemakifg rather than to this labor which brings in but a‘ small amount. It is a mistake to suppose that even ® competent servant at $50 or $60 a month can ever replace a real home- maker who combines the duties of a servant, a nursemaid, a business manager and an evangelist! This matter of replacing herself the home costs considerable mone All the mother-careerists who have been interviewed lately as to how they manage this difficult problem have in sum said that they com- petent housekeepers, caretakers for their babies and other expert help as needed. In other words, these women were sufficiently expert in their pro- fession—sufficiently paid—to afford am upderstudy in their own homes It is wearisome to hear numbers of really good housekeepers who are worth $75 and board in their capacity of home managers complaining and imagining that they would be worth #0 much more in the economic field. I know one case at least of what I should call a born mother and house- keeper moping around because sho doesn't see her way clear to get into # business office, where it is doubtful if she could earn more than $15 per week. Too many women set an undue eco- nomic value on their work outside the home. If put to the test they would be in the $12 to $16 per week class, as I know: many college graduates and experienced women who are glad to be earning as much as that sum in high grade business offices. These ‘women cannot generally replace their own services in the home. In order to do that and swing the career and home at the same time the woman must be exceptionally efficient, so that she can command a salary which will not only equal her own services in the home but leave a margin. career her that she can. in I hear mutterings that ‘‘Men have career and a home; why shouldn't women?"’ But before men can have ABIES suffer with thirst just as grown-up folks do, and water is quite as essential to the physical welfare of the infant as it is to the sdult. Milk is not a drink, it is a food, and the baby's cry is often a plea for something to allay she thirst. Water is,the only remedy, and thig should be given as early as the day of birth, During these first two days, while there is an insuff- lent flow of milk, moderately warm water should be given freely, While dentition is in process water is es- pecially craved by the disturbed sys- tem. The water should be prepared each day. Boil it, and when cool put into # covered jar or bottle. Put from one to three ounces of water into the feeding bottle and give between meats. Water should never be given less than one hour before or after a feeding. The temperature of the water is a matter of individual in- clination. Some children can take it cool, others must have it warm; but it should not be given very cool, and likes housekeeping Helps For the Mother a home they must be responsible for the financial obligations of that home; otherwise, society they neglect their duty, Similarly, woman's share in a home is being responsible for the operation and management of that home; otherwise, society says she neglects her duty, Man is not permitted to shirk his financial obligations. Why should women be permitted to shirk their managing responsibility? Eighty men out of a hundred dare not shirk their responsibility. to pursue an unre- munerative career, Their wives would be the first to raise their voices aganist it. Nelther is it fair, then, for women to pursue an unremunerative career at the expense of the home. Home responsibility rests equally on hysband and wife. Neither is ‘free’? to follow a career until home obliga- tions are fulfilled. If the wife deos Pot choose to fulfil them herself she must be able to adequately provide for an understudy, She cannot jump them altogether. Courtship —and— Marriage By Betty Vincent Copyright, 1922 (New York Evening World) by Press Publishing Co. 66 TEAR MISS VINCENT: 1 am a girl twenty-two and have gone with a boy of twenty-four for three years. He is a splendid chap and doesn’t smoke or have any faults, but he is very old-fashioned and doesn’t dress as well as | would like to have him. During the last month 1 have been going with a boy of twenty-nine whom | like pretty well. He is also a very fine young man, but people tell me that he brags he will never marry for love but for money. Now, Miss Vincent, | am undecided which chap I like better. | must give one of them up very soon, but I do not know which one | really love. Please tell me what you think of these men. “ANXIOUS.” Do let clothes and so-called fashion stand in the way of love. Re- member it would be very easy to get the first young man to wear the type of collar you admire and the style of clothes you like if that is your only objection to him, As to the young man and his money—do not believe ple tell you. not other marrying all that peo- Test the young man out on this subject yourself some time. “Dear Miss Vincent: Although only twenty, | care a great deal for a man ten years my senior. It is not the difference in our ages which ! question, but he is a widower whose wife died two years ago. Would he expect ms to take her place? Would | per- haps remind him of her and there- fore make him unhappy? “BARBARA.” It is very foolish for a young girl to have any doubts abeut marrying a widower. The widower pays the highest compliment to his dead wife when he asks another woman to take her place. He is proving that mar- riage is a success and that he his .no utmost confidence in the marital state. Comparisons are always odious and I do not believe the average widower ever classes his second wife with his first. for s ico water must never be gi ven t child of any age, Pee Before punishing a child convince yourself ‘that it is really a case of ‘cussedness."* Often the mother her- self is the direct cause of what she terms disohedience Children who do not get enough sleep are apt to be irritable; very often the diet is at fault impertinent retorts are often but a repetition of what the child has heard in the home. La of self-control may be a mirrored ex- ample of the mother herself, Ther fore, administer punishment discrete- ly. The healthy child who is properly cared for and carefully guided in the way he should go will rarely require punishment A baby must never be urged to walk. AS 800n as he feels sufficient ly strong he will attempt it without assistance. In the normal infant this usually takes place in the twelfth or thirteenth month, and by the six- teenth month the average child will walk alone, THE You ADORABLE CHARMING DEAR HEART | COME AGAI Soon N EVENING WORLD, SATURDAY, MAY 13, 1922, ISN'T SHE TOO SWEET . FOR WORDS, | HOW Dib You (S VERY RICH a SHE IS VER» RICH QU WOULDN'T AKE SUCH A FUSS OVER HER IF SHE WASN'T s./3 22. —$_$___. “MARGIR”’ By Caroline Crawford Copyright, 1922 (New York Evening World), by Press Publishing Co. Margery Mindon, nineteen gentlemen's hum” is Maisie Lee, a fellow sales floorwalker, “Margie feels hor real her Ideals, “Begin this story to-day and CONCERNING IMPLIED LOVE. helps to sup; love counter in a i THEN Margie returned from her ride in Frank Spafford'’s new flivver her head was brimful of ideas. Did he love her? «If so, why didn't he propose? He talked of love, of his ideal type of girl, and painted vivid pictures of her as this very for her was im- Not once did he type, but his plied, understood. actually say, “I love you." love Margie wondered if the deepest, truest lovers openly declared their love or preferred to have this mutual understanding.’ Two men had entered her life, two professed to care for her, but only one proposed and expressed his love for her in a direct way. Which man did she love? Which man meant the most to her? Frank Spafford was keen, kind and quick to understand one's moods, He read her thoughts, he remembered Previous conversations and expres- sions verging upon the sentimental, Because he underst people so well did he imagine they could see’ into his heart and soul? Was it possible that he loved .hev so deeply and thought she understood this so well that to mention the word “love” or to converse upon this subject nearest his heurt would cheapen thelr love and deep regard for each other? On the other hand, Willis Channing was impulsive, eager to tell her of his love. When they were out to gether he told her that the breese had put a delightful color int cheeks, that the sun shining upon het golden hair was beautiful, that her eyes were violet s days and blue others. She treasured all these things in her heart Spafford. never paid her a divect compliment, He would study her, often steal Jong glances at her when he thought she did not know it. He jc New, Nork department store, Mer mont rt her widowed mother by working at the eady"’ is Clarence Wi will ‘com and live up ‘out, admired her, she knew, but he dil not tell her so with his lips. And yet, Margie believed she loved Spafford bettér. Was this because he was her first beau, the first young man who lived up to her ideals of « girlhood Prince Charming, or did she really appreciate the man who under stood her so well and said 0 Tittle? “Mother, which man do you like better, Frank Spafford or Willis Channing?" she asked one night as the two sat in the living room. “My lands!" exclaimed Mrs, Min don, ‘you don't expect me to help you pick out a Prince Charming, do you? For years you've been talking about an {deal man, and now that you know two nice young men I hope you're not going to leave it to me to select one for you." “Mother, dear, I just wanted your opinion of these men. I am a little confused, I admit. I only expected to meet one ideal type of man, and just when I thought I had found him Wil- lis Channing came into my life and Proposed,"* “Proposed! My dear, you didn't tell me he had asked you to be his wife.’’ ' “He has done just that and I am to give him an answer within a few days.” “He is a mighty nice young man declared Mrs, Mindon. “I like him very much, Margie, but I must admii I like young Spafford too. There is something almost spiritual about him It was that last sentence which caught Margie's attention He was almost spiritual and because he ur derstood her so well and believed sir understood him was probably why he did not declare his love the way W is Channing, ruddy and of the Wes had. But Channing was impatient and Wanted an answer He was not a mu to be kept waiting for a girl to m up her mind, If she knew Spaffo loved her and intended to make } his wife would she wait? Would be willing to work another year ¢ at the glove counter? How could s find out whether he really loved } or not? Monday—Ma Spatford's LAUGHTER By Sophie Irene Loeb AM the greatest gift of the Gods. He who bids me come adds to his life, For I am Laughter, Lbring the glow of gladness and dispel the God of gloom Mirth, the merry sprite, is forever by my side And brings happiness in her wake, bie who forbids im Ah, he is poor, indeed His is the countenance that repels; the mien that maddens In dark.corners is his abode and out of the way places. His Ways are sinister, and to be repelled. Mark you well, you who would be happy Who goes day after day without me. I am the one unfailing healer of all ills. I am the rival of Father Time For = I put wrinkles in the shade, ‘To Youth I am the very essence of life And to Old Age I bring the memory of years gone by When all forsakes you and you are down in the depths If you will just let me come, no matter how sordid things may be ‘They will change as if by magic; and things will clear, Some there are who try to force me just to fit the occasion But, alas, then I am poor, indeed. For I am hollow and do not ring true. But let me come out of the fullness of feeling And I give back much Not only to you, but to all who come to mo For the ring of me is full of delightful contagion And many a time I bring tears—tears of joy. 1 weigh nothing, but [ am worth everything for money cannot buy me And yet the poorest may have me. Ah, the world would b And would perish altogether Leave me not as long as {am man‘s best friend { am Laughter! sorry place, Indeed, it for me lasts. r Housewife’s Scrapbook ens should be thoroug washing. If leaves jut salad dressin ste, Drain the green + clean cloth nd mix savory and chopped 1 with a piquant se vegetab en salads are improved by peppers. Chives and pe { used together Only the inner etal ft to be u: fo outer stalks and serve o Use celery tops for flavoring ' sl) Large lettuce leay hy pin- broken, never cut, and t done just before servin scat The stalks of rdiy € £ over the top a tablespoonful of 0 like asparagus and ser chopped onion, chives or green ® Hollandaise sauce. eit son ee ne ner ee nee ea maid be hould be pul d wit) MORAL: Talk Her “ec (D you have a nice time D dance, Dorothy?" That's what Mother her Little Daughter at the asked On the morning And here's what Little Daughter said: “Well, it cer- tainly was some struggle!* “You know Tom, he’s a regular snake*! “That boy's no egg’, I'll tell the world! “He sent me that slick anchor'— “The sweetpeas were just the right shade to go with my dress— “And he came in a dimbox*—no y stuff for that boy! ‘All the old crowd was there— “Millle and Sam and Clint and Glad and Floss and Dick— “Every little old finale hopper* and house party queen"! “That Millie is some pocket twister"! “She made Clint come across with American Beauties, and she told me he’s blown her to luncheon three times in the last two weeks— “Yet she's wearing a Dartmouth frat pin, and one she collected last year at the Yale prom. The Jarr Family By Roy L. McCardell Copyright, 1922, (New York Evening World) aT eens Publisting Os. shad ip ‘a new family moved in next door,” said Mrs. Jarr, “and they had beauti- ful things, all mahogany furniture and a baby grand plano, for I saw their things taken out of the van, and the janitor told Mrs, Wilkinson, who told me, that their name is Watts. I wonder if they are any kin to our friends the Watkins, whom we met at Atlantic City last summer? I wouldn't be surprised if they are, for the woman whom I saw on the sidewalk telling the moving-van mén not to break anything looked a good deal like Mr. Watkins, only she doesn’t wear eyeglasses, Still, I don’t think she could be his sister. Her namo would be changed when she married, wouldn't it “Well, if this family is named Watts and the people we met at At- lantic City were named Watkins, how could that make them akin?" asked Mr. Jarr, ‘Watts and Watkins are two wholly different names."* “But you needn't speak to me abruptly, like that!” Mrs, Jarr re- torted. “I say the two names ARE very much alike. The only differ- ence being that one name is Watts and the other is Watkins, and the last name sounds as though it meant ‘kin to the Watts’ So I say, it's a small world after all."* “How you rave!" said Mer, Jarr. “rl bet you ten to one that the Wattses are no kin of the Watkinses or the Watkinses to the Wattses. And why you pick on such ridiculous soincidences as that gets me.” erything ‘gets’ you that I say,” replied Mrs, Jarr almost tearfully “(MH take it all back,” sald Mr, Jarr heartily, “You may be right, who knows? “The Wattses may be kin to the Watkinses by both blood and marriage and look much alike,’* “Well, I'll be glad to have some nice neighbors,” aid Mrs, Jarr. “There is no reason why people should be so suspicious of getting acquainted and being friendly in a big city, when ' they live in the same nelghborhood. Here in this great town one hardly makes q real friend, and everybody js so selfish that they won't go to each other's funerals. I remember when poor Mrs. Hickett's husband died and she hired a hundred folding chairs from the undertaker, and hardly a dozen people came, and it spoiled the day for her, But in a small and friendly town everybody comes to your funeral, even for nothing but to see the flowers and fill the hacks and ride out to the cemetery. I don't care what you say, but If there's one thing that can bring comfort to one in a great bereavement it Is to have a well attended funeral.” “I suppose so, 1 suppose 0, Jarr assented, “And that's why I keep friends with a lot of people I would cut if I fol- lowed my own inclinations,"” Mrs. Jarr went on lugubriously “If I should dle, although I hope 1 won't die till my children ape big enough to look after themselves and not be little martyrs at the mercy of 4 cruel stepmother—-for I know you would marry again—I want a nice funeral, And I want you to promise me that I will be buried in my best dress, and my hair perfectly plain and my mother's old gold brooch, You needn't let me wear my rings. I want " Mr. you to give them ra Mudridge Smith to hold in trust for our little Emma till she is seventeen, and my old chains and watch and earrings, too, Promise me thut, for the frst thing @ second wite does is to get hold the first wife's jewelry and have the chains cut and the brooches made into bracelets, and the rings remounted Oh, dear! “Does this Mrs. Watts who just wed in next door look like a dying woman, that she should put these things in your mind? asked M Sa “Why, no," said Mrs, Jarr. “Do you ask that because you think her hus wand may die after To o before, and you can her mayry } | Fables for the Fair FLAPPERANTO By Marguerite Mooers Marshall If You Want to Understand the Flapper, Language. he's a jeweller’, that girl! "Oh, yes, Sarah was there, but she's only a ground gripper!?= “Her brother's just like her—he's a regular dud''! “He took Millie game last fall “And coming back she managed to duck the alarm clock!® “But did he pull any of the pash stuff'?? ‘ “He did not—he kept right on punching the bag'* all the way home. “He and Sarah are strong with the pills’*, but WE think they're crape hangers* “T was button-shining"! all the eve- ning, “And I only hit the corn-shredder'* once! “Gee, I'm glad Tm not a Swift's premium’?! “What d'you think Glad told me in the dressing room? “That gitl’s some little clothesline’! “She said Mrs. Travers is dropping the pilot’, and that Russ Lyons is buzzing around Nell Joyce “Because he's a forty-niner** and she's a fire alarm" with the allmony. “You could have knocked me for a row of Chinese bathhouses**, “Course, maybe it's all static", and T always thought Nell was too Ritz"* for a poor man— “But Russ is such a good necker’* all the seraphs*® are dippy over him. “And he knows how to hand out the apple sauce’. “Wonder if he'll have to borrow money to buy the handeuff??? “Oh, and what d'you think— “Joan has given Jim the air’! to the Princeton “And Barbs went with Jim last night. “That girl's a regular strike- breaker"! “I'm no holaholy’’, but I think shame, “For Jim is a g.g."* and Barbs will lift him from Joan for keepa— “Joan is nice, but she's such a baby grand**! “That's about all, mother, except that you know you told me not to pet, “And T knew Tom would want to coming home— “He's an awful cuddle cootis’*— “So IT picked a fuss with him at supper, and after he got the can"’ T just scandal-watked"* out and into a taxi, all by my little lonesome: “Tt had some mad money’ squir- relled** in my party-bag, “But now I've used it, T want some Flapper—in more hush-money*’ from fathe: Thus ‘urbleth the Flapperanto— If you know what she means! If you don't, the key—in English- is printed below. But, do you wonder that the elders sometimes find it difficult to under- stand the younger generation. A dance. Devoted squire. Fool. Box of flowers. A taxicab. Belle of flapperdom, The same. Girl who eats, dances and drinks ‘up all of a man’s spare change. * Flapper who measures success by the number of fraternity pins she collects. ‘* Sober minded student. ‘' The same. *? A chaperon. ‘* Bmotional torridity, '* Talking—and that’s all * Teachers. * Reformers. '* Close dancing. ** Young man who dances on girl's feet. '* Wall flowers, °° A gossip. 7" Getting a divorce. ** Man who is prospecting for a rich wife, ** A divorced woman. °* | was utterly astounded. ** Conversation that means nothing * Stuck up. *! Petter. ** Girl who likes to be kissed. ** Plattery. +” Engagement ring. ** Turned him loose. *? Young woman who goes with her friend's admirer, during a quarre!. "* Goody-good person ** Gulltble goof. ** Heavyweight »* Petter. ** Got the mitten. ** Rolling, mannish walk. ** Money to use when angry with your escort. ** Hidden. ** Allowance, Going Down! EAR FRIEND: Are you al- ways advaneing? Are you always looking ahead in the very thing you are doing now? By that, | mean are you just a little more than filling your place? The reason you do not advance more is because you do not keep the thought in mind that you are progressing and carrying every- thing along with you. Times are good—growing bet- ter and will be better, When we were at a dead stand- still with no amusements to at- tend, wi came along and with a few wires and a box we could make a receiving set with which we could hear the greatest singers in the world—for noth- ing We ARE progressing. We ARE entering the greatest period in the world’s history, Refuse to listen to the croakers who tell you things are bad. BE PROGRESSIVE! Truly yours, ALFALFA SMITH, \ NEES se St cepa aes eee er ene