The evening world. Newspaper, February 28, 1922, Page 21

+ $Phird in a series of interviews with men and women on the Keyes to Women’s Happiness. By Fay Stevenson. OVE is not a career, It is an incident. It is NOT a life job and the woman who ex- pects to find her key to happiness (rough love, AND LOVE ONLY, is @eing to be sadly disappointed.”’ ‘That is what Robert W. Chambers, the novelist, told me when I called upon him at his home, No. 48 East 83d Street, to talk about love being a key to @ woman's hap- piness, I had ex- pected this popu- lar writer to nod his head and as- sert that love was u is one of woman's Most important keys to the door of happiness. I had even imagined that Mr. Chambers would say that a girl first found this key of happiness when sho was swect sixteen in so- @alled puppy love, then that she usually fell deeply in love between the ages of cightcen and twenty-five, married and while she might not find just the happiness she had expected, she still found that romance—the weddings of her friends and later per- haps the beau of her own daughter —furnished a world of happiness. Then, I expected him to talk of the Jove affairs of the bachelor girl and even the staid, old-fashioned apinster. But ems, Mr. Chambers shovk his « “head and announced that love, the @l@ fashioned Victorian, clinging-vine Jove was doad. “Love may be the key to many @ woman's happiness,” said Mr. Ghambers as a whimsical smile Played about his lips, “but no ‘woman on earth can expect to find a lifelong happiness through Just the love for a husband or Sweetheart. The strongest, most powerful love in the world is not @ career. It is not a lif ry A woman cannot po: just one key—oall it a love key—and ex- to find complete happiness in her own romance. She must hold the keys to other doors of happi- Ness, to other interests in life if she would keep the key of love.” “Then you don't believe in the old- fashioned love, the love of the hone: ™oon days which ripens and grows stronger each year even when the 5! ver threads appear among the gold 1 asked Mr. Chambers. “Rot!" exclaimed the novelist and ke made a wry face as though tasting @ dill pickle. For a moment Mr. Chambers sat silently thinking. His butler tip-toed im and presented him with the morn- fmg mail. The drawing room where we were talking was an exact repro- @uction of the drawing rooms one reads about in his novels. Gilt up- holstered furniture, a cabinet filled with foreign bric-a-brac and a Sat- uma vase on the piano filled with fresh American beauties gave a very, pretty setting. “Rot,” echoed Mr, Chambers as he tossed aside his unopened mail and eontinued to discuss love as just ‘‘one key’ to a woman's happiness which must be uged discreetly and with a Bumber of ot}c: keys. “That old-fasiioned Victorian love was not the love which brought hap- piness to any woman,” he declared. “The love of to-day, the love which is NE of my correspondents begs me to prescribe a treatment other than operative for her Poungest child, a mouth breather, as- Werting that two older children had @@enoids removed and have since @uffered more than before with “colds.” T have never known a case in which pt Ba adenoid tissue was ey removed that the child faile: fo improve rapidly. As has been explained in previous papers, the obstruction to breathing is usually seated in the roof of the @aso-pharynx. A child may have an obstruction in Whe nose, but children very rarely muffer from disease of the nose; their tonsils may be unduly enlarged, but mot enough to cause complete mouth ®reathing. Sometimes the adenoid Srowths that completely plug up the beck gate of the nose are so exten- give that they can be seen hanging down into the throat, More often than not, however, they must be @earched for with the finger by the examining physician. In this way one gan feel a mass of glandular tissue, and the sensation is like sticking ‘one’s finger into a can of worms, | Now every particle of this growth must be curetted away. So active is “Between You and Me” First Article in a New Series Written by Sophie Irene Loeb On This Pagé To-Morrow ve K “No Woman Can Expect to Find Lifelong Happiness Through Just Love for Husband or Sweetheart.” Treatment for Adenoids By Charlotte C. West, M. D. KER Robert W. just an incident in the busy woma life, is far more apt to prove a key to her happiness. She must have a sec- ond key which will unlock some other door to happiness, She cannot expect to hold a love-key and withdraw to this room of romance to brood over love. Her life must be full of her world interests."* “And yet I firmly believe that there are women who find great happiness in love, in sentimental reveries con- cerning their husbands and the men they expect to marry. Why is it that Tessie the shop-girl spends so much time talking about the dance ‘he’ took her to, the way ‘he’ put her cape on and what ‘he’ said? Isn't love her key to happiness?” I asked. “Tt is an incident in her life, it may seem a pretty long one to you if you are waiting to buy a pair of gloves,” smiled Mr. Chambers, ‘‘but after all you will find that Tessie spends but a short time with this young man and she spends a good many more hours at work. How much time does the average woman spend thinking over her love affairs? A wife has house- hold duties, society, club-life; a bust- ness girl has her work, a profession- CHM N RE ys to Women’s Happiness No. 3—Love DISCUSSED BY Chambers al girl her music, art or studies. love may be ONE of her keys to happiness but it is a very small one. “The woman who tries to ke a career out of love, who tries to make it a lifelong job, is going to have a mighty unhappy time of pointed out the novelist. “The olinging-vine wife found little happiness. Dreams of ro- mance and the love ‘of a husband, is a world of reality, a work- a-day world which demands, more than thi A woman can- er through her hus band, her children, or through h knight ae in the days of Scott's Rowena. She must live it her- self and to do this she must p ses a key of happiness to some OTHER room besides the room of romance and reverie.” “In other words you think love is not strong enough to stand the test of a woman's brooding over it?” I asked. “I think that the old-fashioned woman who spent so much time over the back fence discussing the love Copertent. 19 EAR Miss Doscher 1am a young girl, eighteen years of age, and am considered very pretty. Iam troubled with hair growing below my nose and especially below my ears on my ch When 1 was a child 1 wore my hair in curls. Could it be Possible that the hair under my ears came from my hair hanging 80 loosely? Would you advise me to have it removed with an electrig nee- dle, or should | bleach my hair with peroxide? Do you not think it will hurt the skin? I have a guilty con- science whenever | feel anybody look- ing at me. | ama brunette and there- fore it is very noticeable. ESSIE. Removing the hair from the lower Part of the nose with tweezers has sometimes caused a hemorrhage, so I warn you against this method. I hardly think that the weasing of the hair loosely as a child would cause this growth. It is simply natural with some people, and of course your being brunette makes it more conspicuous. Anything that I could give you to re- move the hair would possibly be too strong for your skin. The electric needle is, of course, the only perma- nent method, but I do not think that the peroxide, if it is not applied so of- ten as to irritate the skin, would hurt you. It simply bleaches the hair and makes it less conspicuous and if ap- plied frequently will split the hair, but it will not permanently remove the hair. I do not want you to feel self-conscious, because it is better to be persevering in the removal of this cause than to allow it to make you unhappy. Dear Miss Doscher: 1 am handicapped by an ill- shaped nose. Is there any cure for this—one that is harmless and in- expensive? Also, how can | pre- vent my face from chapping, as the condition is most embarras- sing. TROUBLED HELEN. The shape of the nose can be im- proved by gently massaging and care- fully handling it, but if there is any malformation of the bone it will have to be attended to by a surgeon. If poms BESCHER” glandular tissue in children that it may again increase unduly if not completely scraped away at the first sitting. It is unnecessary to go into detail here as to the marvellous effect of fresh air, properly respired through the warming chambers of the nos- trials, upon the entire system. The change in a child is as though he had been touched with a magic wand. It is the life giving oxygen in place of suffocation. Now, when children fail to respond to the removal of this obstruction something is wrong in their general hygiene. They require, in addition to plenty of fresh air, good plain food —that is, fresh healthy milk, whole wheat bread, pure butter, stewed fruit, meat juices, tender green vege- tables properly cooked in meat stock, &c. The teeth must be well looked after, cleansed at least twice daily, the mouth and throat gargled with strengthening alkaline tonic washes and last, but equally important, such children must have a cold rub-down, preferably of cold salt water and coarse toweling, every morning. Bspecially should the neck and chest be treated. Then, warmly clad, chase them out into the open to play! play! play! Why Not Look Your Best? By Doris Doscher Yow York Evening World) by Press Publishing Co, you put a little vanishing cream on the face before going out it will keep it from getting chapped, but if you follow the suggestions for the treat- ment of the face you will make the skin have a natural resistance that would prevent this ¢happed condition. Dear Miss Doscher: | have been reading your vari- ous articles in The Evening World and | would be much in- debted to you if you could advi: me on how 1 could gain weight. | should be weighing fifteen pounds more than | weigh for my height and age. A.A. C. A light nourishing diet with plenty of milk 1s more easily assimilated and more likely to make you stout than partaking too freely of overrich, heavy food. Plenty of sleep in a well ventilated room and exercise in the open air and faithful attention to the after-bath rubs should be all that is necessary to help you gain weight, unless there is some real organic dis- turbance which would require the services of a physician. But I am sure you will gain fifteen pounds more if you will follow my sugges- tions. Also take deep breathing exer- cise, because plenty of oxygen in the body acts as a tonic, et Ks Pees ss “She Must Hold the Keys to Other Doors of Happiness if She Would Keep the Key of Love.” affairs of the neighbors and the cling: ing-vine wife who never had 4 thought unless instilled by her hus- band are* passe," declared Mr, Cham- bers. ‘That is why the key to happi- ness for the ayerage woman of to-day is not just a love-key, it is a key to a desk, a studio, a library, a key to the world where she may pursue some life interest. “Then,"’ concluded Mr. Chambers, “after a woman has found her life work key, some interest in life which will be continuous, she may turn to love as a MINOR key to her happi- ness. And because she has other in- terests, because her world is as large as her husband's or the men she meets, her love will be a MAJOR one, The next interview will be with Mra. Lewis B. Woodruff, playwright and society woman, who discusses SOCI- ETY a8 @ woman's key to happinet Famous Women EMMA WILLARD. HE first American wom- a an to win international fame in the educational field was Emma C. Willard, who was born at Berlin, Conn., Feb. 28, 1787, Mrs. Willard is one of the six women who have been élected to the Ameri- can Hall of Fame. She began her career as a teacher at thc age of sixteen, serving as Principal of several academics. In 1809, while in charge of an institution at Middlebury, Vt., she became the bride of Dr John Willard. In 1814 she opened a boarding school for’ girls in Middlebury, and sub- sequently a seminary for girls at Waterford, N. Y. This insti- tution was moved to Troy in 1821, and under the name of Troy Female Seminary became one of the best-known institu- tions of the kind in America, In 1830 she made a tour of Europe and published a ‘‘Jour- nal and Letters From France and Great Britain,’ contribu- ting the profits from the vol- ume to the support of a school for women at Athens, Greece, which had been founded through her efforts. She wrote 4 number of other books, in- cluding a volume of verse, which contains the famous poem, ‘‘Rocked in the Cradle of the Deep.” Mrs. Willard died in Troy in 1870. MING (SWUST ee 7} You MY MOTHER GETTING UP ee , ' SYes, SHE TAKES HER {f BEAUTY SLEEP DL IN THE MORNING ‘ uf \ BN SHE NEEDS aeeee BR Yes Pappy Says Beaut> ADLY Onek Do You Know What Ails Us? -; Neal R. O’ Hara Gives Us the ‘ y Answer—and the Right One } On This Page To-Mor D YeuR MOTHER Bt a LATE ! row BEAUTY SLEEP SHART Boy = } ee cebdioN How Do TAKING By Mrs. Christine Frederick, Household Efficiency Expert. Author “Household Engineering.” HOUSEWORKER wishes position in family of adults; five years" best ex. Perlence: country | or city: | congenial one more than salary; willing, reli- able; referencs plain cooking; uo washing or Inundry. A DVERTISHMENTS similar to the above are to be found by the dozen in any paper, the distinguishing words of all being the phrase: “No laun- dry y It would seem as if the washing of linen has be- come the Article X. of the household, an issue which every domestic re- jects with antict- patory warning. They may be en- ticed to clean, cook or chauf, but never —no, never—will they make your dirty clothing clean, Now all this dislike of laundry pro- cesses is simply a very wrong ‘“‘state of mind’’ and one left as a hang-over of that time when ‘‘washing’’ meant carrying water by the pail, taking a Turkish bath under most unpleasant conditions and playing a rub-dub-dub finger exercise on the washboard. ‘The old fashioned cleaning of clothes by hand depended almost solely on friction for its success; the friction of the bar of soap, or the rubbing of the article back and forth on the cor- rugated metal rubbed the dirt out and the clothing out! “Boiling” was a tedious, dangerous, distasteful job! If there is one thing I am more enthusiastic about than another it is the modern power washing machine and the ease with which it gets re- sults in cleansing clothing, But the woman using a power washer must understand. how to use it. It does not depend upon friction—it depends on these things: The temperature of the water; the kind and strength of the soap solution used, and the force of water as a cleansing agent, To $ any woman who “doesn’t understand how @ washer can wash clean” I always use the illustration of a city hose being turned on to a dirty street—ever watch the way the wa- ter flushes the dirt along the gut- ter? No matter which of the four main types of washing machines is used, it is the weight and power force with which the water is directed on and through the clothing that gives the means to wash out the soil from the fabric without rubbing friction, . Add to this power the ability of a “solution” of soap to “cut” grease and affect it chemically. One must never use even shaved pieces of soap in any machine. All soap, together with other cleansing chemicals, must be\ made in Mquid form, perfectly dissolved. Cut up your soap, add water in proportion of two quarts to a bar simmer until like water. Add one cup of this “solution” to each “load” or tubful of the washer. The exact kind of soap, the quan- tity of water @oftener such as borax or soda, @c.. will depend on the kind of water ana the kind of cloth- ing. Do not make the mistake of using very hot water to wash clothing in a machine. Hot, scalding water only sets the dirt. Use tepid or slightly warmer water for the washing; then, after wringing them out of the soapy first water, put the clothes back in the washer, and give them what I call a ‘‘scald-rinse’’ of as hot water 48 you can obtain, If you give them this scald-rinse, they twill not need to be boiled. It is a mistake to think that boiling removes the dirt trom clothes. On the contrary “boiling” dirty clothes will make them still blacker! The object of boiling is not “How They You Run Your Home? THE BLUE OUT OF WASHDAY removal of sanitation. 1 am, of course, speaking above of white clothes—sheets, towels, nap- kins, cloths, white body clothing and coarse underwear, Never give woollen or canton flannel or delicate clothing a scald-rinse or use on them water hotter than a tepid, lukewarm ter perature. Never use the same water in which coarse and heavy clothing is washed for lighter, more delicate pieces. Never wash stockings of two colors together, nor wash them in the water left over from a previous load— use fresh clear water for them or they will be “linty” from the previous wash water. Before putting in any clothes at all pour in the soap solution, fill up the washer to the desired water line, close the tub, and start it operating for about three minutes. This will make the solution wel! mixed into the wash water and sudsy. Then drop your clothes in, piece by piece. Never overload any power dirt but bleaching and washer, Time each tubful or “load” as it is called. It is just as important to time washing as it is to time a cake or other set task you wish to be a success Washing this new way is not a “dirty job"—doesn't fatigue, and in- deed 1s actually fun! You don’t have to spill a drop of water on the floor, get yourself mussed or untidy or sweaty. You don't need to lift each steaming piece out on the end of a broom handle, not much! Get a power washer, Mrs. Housekeeper, before you permit the family to buy a new talk- ing machine or let father get a new fishing outfit which he'll likely want very soon. A power washer of the right type, operated right, will take every bit of the blue out of Monday! Originated.” band on a public occasion sixty-one years ago to-day, when Jefferson Davis was inau- gurated President of the Confe eracy at Montgomery, Ala. As a vaudeville song ‘Dixie’ had been dashed off in a few minutes of in- spiration by Daniel Decatur Emmett to fill a gap in his New York pro- éramme, but it remained for Herman Arnold, then leader of Arnold's South- ern American Band at Montgomery, to ° trate what was to become the great patriotic song of the South, ad Da was first played by @ HE first to suggest the scheme 7 which resulted in the organiza tion of the Chautauqua Litera and Scientific Circle was Lewis Miller an inventor and philanthropist of Ak ron, O. Miller was the leader in out ning the plans und promoting the institution for carrying culture and natruction to the masses. or Kanization was completed at Chau tauqua, N. Y., in 1878, with Mr. Miller as President of the association, and his ble assistant, the Rev. Dr. John H. Vincent Bishop) as ¢ (afterward a Methodist ancellor the faculty Tey Courtship and Marriage By Betty Vincent Copyright, 1922, (New York Evening World) by Press Publishing Co, “Dear Miss Vincent: Some time ago | met a young man who | was told dearly loved Whenever I go to his sister and he happens to be there he escorts me home and seems to be delighted to me. But this young man is unusually bashful. | invited him to my house sev- eral times but he never comes alone. Would like to know if it would be wrong for me to ask him to meet me at an entertain ment to which | am going? “ANXIOUS.” y opportunity to meet this boy at his sist hom Be as cordial and friendly as you please when you sec him there, but if 1 were you I would always be most conven- tional and avoid asking young men to meet me at entertainments, Leave that to them. “Dear Miss Vincent: There is a young man in my acquaintance who is frightfully bashful. He ie one year my senior, and when he meets me on the street he fre- quently walks beside me. However, if he sees anybody he me. You have ever knows he immediately blushes and leaves me at once. What am | to do? VIVIEN.” Jolly him along about his bashful ness and tell him you will refus speak to him the next time he le you merely because he s he knows ‘Dear Miss Vincent “My sweetheart, one year my senior, has been going about with me for a year. Four weeks ago he suddenly stopped calling. He had told me of his love many times and that | was the only girl he ever loved. In short, Miss Vincent, he was a model boy. | have written id received no 1am very much worried answer. and afraid that something has happened. What shall | do? “H. M. K.” If you have « brother or boy friend h 1 him up. otherwise ‘ marked “return if not Copyright, 1927, M“ MICHABDL ANGELO DINK- STON, Demonstrator of the Applied Science of the Psy- chology of Salesmanship, still held Mr. Jarr with his glittering eye. “If possible,"’ he said, “get an audience alone with your prospect, where there will be no interruption and you can command his full attention.” “Look here, Dinkston,"’ Mr. Jarr protested, “this is my busy day; if you are trying to sell me any psy- chology, suppose you come up to the house to-night and rave there; it will amuse the children."* “In cas his home, » you canvass a prospect in you should be cheery and informal than when interview- ing him at his offic more * was Mr, Dink- ston's rejoinde: Yroceed as fol- lows: "Just calied in to have a few minutes’ talk with you and your charming wife and to see your dear little tots.’ If there are any tots. “‘Sust what bank are you doing business with?’ Salesmen note,” con- tinued Mr, Dinkston, ‘Wait just long enough for the prospect to an swer, and then say quickly, ‘Do you realize that you are simply renting your money to the bunk, and that the bank puts it to work and makes it earn from 8 to 30 per cent?’ Give your prospect no time to reply, but saw ‘Now, Mr. Blank, with the avail at ital you have—it not make any difference to me how much you should have your money work- ing for you and not be renting it out it a cheap rate to work for others.’ “What's all this hot about, anyway?" said the puzzled Mr. Jacr. “ ‘Now Mr. Blank,’ '' Dinkston con- tinued, *'you like to make money, don't you” His answer invariably is * “Well then, you have now an opportunity to te yourself with ‘ome noted capital who have been most successful in large financial op- ions and who are making «prop. osition to you whereby you can ¢ operate with these financiers in a prop- osition Where profits will most grati- tyingly accrue to you, Let us und stand each other, Mr, Blank have s¢ money you can use, have you no Now, do not proc with the sales talk until your prospect as- sure that he has available capt- tal.” But I "yes 1 You am not going The Jarr Family By Roy V. McCardell (New York’ Evening World) by Pross Publishing Co. that I have any available capital," said Mr, Jarr, but Mr. Dinkstor! waved aside this statement and pr ceeded: \ “The opportunity we have for you, Mr. Blank, is embraced in four sound Propositions—first, the plan; second, the management; third, the earnings; fourth, the safety! ‘* ‘By plain deduction you can realize that it is investments of this kind” that have made fortunes for other men and will make a fortune for you. We call this making money with money. We pay you a rental of 10 per cent, on your money and in ad+ dition to this you become a partn in the profits in everything above the rental cost of such money.” “Look here, Dinkston,” cried My, Sarr, you trying to sell me ot) stock? I remember now Rangle tot me you tried to sell him $50,000 worttt at one cent a share. Cut out all this mumbo-jumbo salesmanship psyeho! ogy windjamming and tell me what you want?" “Well,” said Mr. Dinkston, “what [ was getting at is this—the Amalga+ mated Universal Oi! Corporation hak demised, and T want to know if you'll rent me a dollar on the terms set forth in my sales talk.” “Certainly,"" said Mr. Jarr; “any4 thing to shut off the psychology Here's the dollar.’ “Thank you,” said Mr. Dnkston, ‘and here's the rent for it for a year and he laid a Canadian dime on Mi» Jarr’s desk and departed, GOING DOWN! EAR READER: , The task has to be done. Why not do it joyously? Have you ever stopped to consider the meaning of the word JOY? Joy is the grand combination of ALL Virtues—the summum bonum of the delights of liv- ing. To do a task unwillingly doubles the effort. To do it joyously decrea the wear and tear, “Joy cometh in the morning,” the Good Book cries. Let it to assure you \ come each morning and stay all day. Very truly yours, ALFALFA SMITH.