The evening world. Newspaper, December 2, 1921, Page 37

» SAYS the Pace.” Birth in a series of articles compiled from letters received by Miss Locb Struggling Into ~ Society’ SOPHIE f] “Every Day a Heart Is IRENE |} Broken Because of This less Striving to Be ‘Somebody’ —The Divorce Courts Are Filled With Cases Wherein Either Party, Sit Usually the Woman, Has Sought the Lime- Med light and the Husband Could Not Kee] from Evening Wortd readers. By’ Sophie Irene Loeb. whelm me. I cannot rise above them, Some These are the words I found in the letter made miserable: because his wife wanted to shine in the social firmament. The struggle was tod much for him—the struggle of his wife to get Wb | CA: into society. Many a gay party has been held in his house and the cost not counted until too late, And the family skeleton’ looked grimly on, for the family Skeleton has no funnybone. This man sees but two paths open to him—divorce or sulctde. nd he loves his wife. But to him the whole thing has become a heetto. horror, Oh! what a pitiful story it 1s, and 80 many like it come to me. Every day, somewhere, in some home, a heart is being broken because of this senseless striving to be’ “somebody.” The divorce courts are filled with cases wherein either party, mostly always the woman, has sought the limelight, and the hui band could net keep up the pace. And what is this society business? let's look at it squarely, Why do people strive to get into certain sets? Why do they go to great trouble and even extremes to get into the social fame? Where docs {t end? What does it get you? What do you get out of it? I know a number of society people. 1 know women who do nothing but pass their lives in @ mad ,whirl—an- swering one invitation after another. I know men who go through the day's work to wait only for the good time that will come somewhere at night. And in all these cases (I can’t recall a single exception) in a few years they are the most unhappy people in the world. Especially is this true of American society. And why? Because Ameri- can society is built up on the ginking sand of illusion. The big game is to shine and to outshine. You g0 to any big party or affair and it reminds you of the little col- ored boy who went to a hotel in At- lantic City as a bellboy and was asked at the end of the day what he thought of it, He answered: funniest place I ever was in, Kverybody talkin’ and nobody lis- tenin’y That sums up the average social nts in this country, and they are nothing but stunts, Most any afternoon pink tea may te summed up in gibble-gabble- eobble-git. It is a haphazard meet+ ng of people who want to see and be seen, And when it's all over it passes from memory like the mists of the morning. This used to be the case in the older countries, but the tide has turned. When kings have toppled from thrones and princes have ve- come vaudeville actors and office boys, the world has changed its “Who's Who” to What's: What. They are beginning to realize that brains and accomplishment and sweet- ness and character are more satisty- ing than empty heads and fancy dress and fine meals, In the best homes—whose pi ple are the mainstay of nations— only those are being invited who have achieved something ‘n the world’s work, be it ever so small, and if they have not at- tained something ‘of value in the community, they must have heart and soul and something to rec- ommend them besides money and a name that somebody else hi earned. And the day will come when such credentials will prove the prevalent passport at all social gatherings. Oh! ‘the heartaches, the miseries, the venations that eome to the per- s who want to rad e in society. ike the average woman whose hus- hand has accumulated a little money. She wants to. “get -in" with people, She starts ‘np with the entertaining e It isa great game Very often the wife will have sone von, whe voman in mind as 2 evel she wants to reacn—or to bea scheming and ller time Is spent planning how she will avite this ou and that one who will advance her ia Al scale: And of cou sy to al people to part fs, in plaia urlat Ah, vesthey always have ‘ enty of food the Lody, but little the soul, Oh, the stiffness, tie jimbreness, ,the sorrow,, the heart- aches, the stupidity © many sucn a sslittering throng! And the wom never knows how readily these peopu eve through her and Aer attempts. But how cat the. “nine woman" know that? She tates all their soft words and their r for gosp! The ery of real ea. ple is lost ia her jewel-bedeoked € best thing site ‘dogs in this business is t> tHrow’ money settee tee As fast as one en. shine or ne shine wetter UF ah! pict isthe q her n tion indeed, Yet how few realize taac ‘Seay are but little glow-worms alight- ght where she belongs. homoeopathically, something and has pl signs and statuett: cheeks and big eyes. Says she looks like the kids she draws. Maybe 0. Maybe not. Do YOU think Copyright, 17, (Now York Evening World.) by Press Publishing Co. stand it no longer. I am sick body and soul. CREME You Often Read About Her GRACE GEBBIE DRAYTON. Grace Gepvir Drayton NVENTED the queer-looking kids who turned the t of a nation to soup. ferent that pa as much. Originator of doll so? pUp & My debts over- y.. will end it all.” of a man who was “WANT To SEE THE MANAGER. OF THE FIRM xO IE CAN'T SE You WITHOUT AN ~ hes IMPORTANT HE CAN'T BE DISTURBED Studied art, then developed all with fat ONERY WELL! | TUST CANE To PAY HIN SOME MONEY ing a little hour or tw The pathetic thing about it is that these fireflies think that they give v1. real warmth in their p but a sparkle that p. You Stop to real joy could be ing slush and without the s strife the best plays. ‘The They se? joy ness in bit of char giving. They them and Their lives a they are real. There is 10 po! much poise derived from their 1 cial intercour soul-to-soul. If you have bi tone or human beings like that you are “In, on” the greatest society in the world It gets you the most every way ‘The man or woman who must ever be in the for ties with the "400," if you ple loses what perhaps but four rr friends have to give you in know Stop breaking into society! P who are att you attract, and who come to vou by such means, will leave by just such means, That is why the man I menticn pught aid from those had entertained—thos= his friends. writes, He whom he whom he thought we He found that they were only th The way to know a good time—the way to understand you are really getting somethins are thoroughly sh, How much better it is indeed to know just a few people, but good ones—people who are the salt of the earth—who may not have so much money, but who have good sound sense and sweetness in their makeup—who are real friends: who love you because you love the things they love? When 1 think of the people in the cities and in the small towns, fretting running to and fro trying to be some thing the: Sevenson’s words: how much better it weuld have been to have been sit- ting by the fi re not, | always quietly reading. What ar isfied without the se I know of a mother and dat they can, and not too often. They read the best books; they se love nati n sun wor! ind some one w ve of themselves the fullest b he rt-to-heart round of f beauty, in courage, in love gladness The aristocrat of the world to- day is he who can touch elbows with the lowly and not be de filed, He ean find solace in a book and a tree and in the even- ing star, He chooses his com- panions, not for what he can get from them in return for what he gives, but because he is truly happy being with them. acted to you a -wenther variety f the social is when 1 and ve! ther teen t happs, Any forced, and should be forfelied at an cost Select your suciety imstead of @training to have it select you —and gone! when it is | gars XX RRMM ERR RRRKNA ARK AER ARE en PEA ie By Maurice Ketten by Pres pune Mita (HRERERRRRGH WRN RANK CK RRR HE IS TOO Busy To SEE (2.2.21 HANE ~You AN. APPOINTHENT 2 rise NO (-— ° a Bt we eee i ampere ames: cm m Stati World Couldnt Rotate of” Stop Without 'Em , They Show Anything Under the Sun, the ¥ Same as a Muslin Skirt. By Neal R. O'Hara. Copsriedt, 192, (New York Byer get along without statistics prove he can't be elected Statistics show anything under tho sun, same as a muslin skirt. To err was human 'n olden days, before statistics put universe in gr But now no excuse for skidding on mistakes, so long as your logarithms ve. | Cita f * 8 Helps for the 4% K Me x Mother : 1921, (New York Hrening World) By Brew Publisiing Co T |g not casy to resist the p di I ings of a child for forbidden foods. Indulgent parents will yield, and even quite a firm father or mother will think, “just this once will do no harm,” and they will probably say, “Now, I shall give you Just n lt. tle bit to taste.” While this de may bo quite true, it ts not w relent, as it lays the foundation for future pleadings and tbls, “Just ‘a little” will probably pe repeated so often that before the parents realize It. bad habit has been formed ft &ulso soon pvelops a bad taste for these foods which are usually of the rich or sweet variety, and the child will not have the same relish for the plain foods allowed him. The “just a little’ Is also quite likely ty become a portion in response to persistent pleadings. The only way to avold this Js Brmness in refusing even H taste. The child will soon learn that the food served to him ts all that he is allowed to ha and he will be per- fectly contented. A three-year-old child thus reared refysed candy of- fered by a playmate because “candy is not good for little childrén”” And a four- r-old in the same famuy contentedly remarked, “When 1 get big 1 can eat c and jam and candy,” and she never resented the fact that all foods upon the table were not served to her, lt wos a matter of course to he all children thus wisely trained. © Keep the wind thermometer han feot from the floor and k degrees F. during th infant is about th nonths old. After that it should be 55 degrees, and after baby has passed its first birth- day the slecping room should be kept at a temperature. ranging between 45 degrecs and 50 degrees in a night. a gift in every word and wid) nc ‘That is a question which comes to y persons who have a number of rela- tives and friends and wish to put a limit of price through the department’ \_ shops convinces one strom: When © 18 So much of in the world—so much that sa th- iter and son in a log house in the Adiron dacks. They live there all the y sound as much individuality and “A” the person to whom it is to be After Théy have a iew friends~ true friends, whom they visit when- ve given as a more expensive gift tid restful n. They have time to do a —not mere alms needs tiveness and its individuality 1 use pve attractive and de can be purfhased for $1.50. eon, and tints core ated with a bril- bouquet » powder puff edn sweet cretonne appropriat and useful gifts Sally gabeth or Sue! d whow usually one’ hiways appre- Tn fact that Is “yearly 1 handkerchief, linen handkerchiefs embroidered corners can z de ndkereMet three in a box, fay f you are having dome any moral oi A Bluebl:d doll for, 82, please CoWhide belt with sterling new buckle, ft can be found for $1.98 men re are some other with b ari, aryl py idles of N stag, ind military blue $1.98, And they have. the cutest leather three- fold compartment for bills in pin soa or pin moroceo for $1.98 Silk stockings women ave anotli welcome gift. A van be puryhased for $19 or both men ppriate on ; White and Russian calf an Most’ every member o: and likes his or her own box of most attra can be bought for $1.50. “ ther, Hi > And while we are taliing about mas- culine suggestions: Pocket knives pcobola n $1.98. All silk four hand ties in plain and fancy designs £1.98, Felt ¢omfy slippers in brown J quality in black etive box of assorted choc- he bousewile always appreciates and some gift for her home, Madeira ous- jand-embroidered bread tray covers be found for $1.50. And they have cutest whiskbrooms with patent holders and painted «nobbed Duy pone nokee sibs“ Soatain all sewing acces- T [jePUO8 2 28 20 BRE AH ae ae DE DI DE DCB EH CH BE OH HE HE HO BH BH HRT PH HOH Christmas Presents YouCan Buy For Two Dollars or Less By Fay Stevenson. HAT can J buy that will attractive, appropriate same of the RR EHH 3 RR. Xe heads for $1.50. Water pitchers of white glass, with a deposit of ster ling silver in effective scrolls, costing $1.98, 1 of witehen knives may be purchased for $1.50. And a light cut erystal handled cake plate or cheese and cracker dish may be bought for $1.98 Lace and silk boudoir caps, trimmed in pink and blue and orchid, prettily boxed, for $1.98, are most acceptable ty the tittle lady who comes to br with her hair still in curlers. bottles filled with smelling salt cubes mi present for Aunt F ta or ¢ Fanny, ‘These can be pure $1.98. And there is en impor domestic perfume a painted or cut suit some dainty ea dainty gift. Two sets . charming sin aed for dand mizer in hand- which would feminine member of the family to T." for $1.50, And let's not forget the kiddies Ye lieve it, but some of the most at tractive dolls only cost $2, They tiny dolls, but such cute clothes — Whiskbroom in and such cunning Peldet "wien mine’, alder with paint~ faces you never Kaee hend, saw in your life. a \ baby boy doi! with bandy ees, 4 nu may not be- t i make can doll with clothes which wo: any little girl long to play he be bought for All s ng and instruc. tive games and sports can be bought for $2 and less and many children’s books. Colored wooden cubes whic make any of the geometr Jesigns ed on the cover can be pur- sed for $1 and doggies of wood a fascinating way of their, tails when in motion four wooden wheels 1 able toy for the ch ginning to toddle vat $1 Oh, there amount vu Just know how ext article—Uills for 4 and jas. > wih ¥ The Heart of a Girl | By Caroline Crawford Copyritht, 1021, (New York Evening World.) by Preas Publisting Co Which Man Will Peggy Choose for a Husband? ypleal New York girl, Vesey or Yours her se usually box party it was all #0 Her parents had replen- sand fancy coiffures for They were re anything she would promise to marry ‘Townley had been ta to the theatre th, and since Pe; unchaperoned they did not take a but used the subway. box seats they usually had or after-theatre supper, owoley's sister wondered if this were to show off h evening gowns before another HEH REX Dayton, eighteen, divided ‘between a well-tondo bachelor tea rinks new. lovers: Begia Veuny's affairs, Just Verne Neart on To} exp A THEATRE ENGAGEMENT WITH TOWNLEY. first when Harrison Townley took Peggy to the theatre they were accompanied by do not account for so many unhappy Marriages?” thought Peggy. rh girl who wishes to test her love for a man must spend a few hours each week away from the glare and glitter of a jolly crowd, She must ffnd out whether they enjoy each other as much under the sane gray atmos- i other's society as they aiden sunshine of others’ les and compliments is particular evening as Per ynley sit together between the mission of n musical comedy beth seemed to realize how little they had in common. ry not happy." whispered Townley, a8 he studied her face in tently Peggy didn't try to pretend she was, She looked into Townley's eyes searca ingly a8 a wistful smile played about her lips. In that ce both knew that the li ove would jave to be coaxed and pamp emain with them through t ears of married | Peggy realized that T was an ideal suitor, ane w whom her parents to marry. But s new there w never be any romance, and g emotions of “this is the y the workd for me young ished her Townley, for his part zed bard it is to win the art of a rl J to be eligible in the eyes But ue ! wanted to as his w nad planned ty marry when wa A mere 1 and Townte was ee man who had always succeeded in fe. It h 1 finan 1 Pere nid, “You ‘ Saturday ' Paw eWorld) by Press Publishing Co INCE Anti-Saloon League discov im land of Useless Statistics But be they ever so useles ‘om. Running time of rockets from here to Mata is governed by statistical laws, Statistics determine beans per plate you! grab in automatic restaurant, If Siwash cd sas it is te in the’ children's sleeping room open at night. Have a hg about three pit at 65 night until the red decimal point, U. 3. has beeit we can't #ts thirteen votes for Bryan, Wonderful! haven't been doctored. No officer, factory, home or flat is complete without bales of raw figures and fractions. When ouija board fails te > seratch correct answer, let Arabia’ = numerals proceed with statisting, br Statistics fresh from Orient prove | that Chinese family can live om 12% 0 cents a day, or 244 cents per queue. | That's interesting, Statistics from New York's guninen zone prove po= licomen are a plucky lot—they al- ways whistle when they're in trouble, That's official, Data gleancd trom history states 4) that aboriginal Americans painted.) their faces. wore very fow clothes and gave all they owned for a Httle hooch. And hjstory is now repeating Itself, ‘That's undeniable, Statisties unfurled at union headquarters show //) that waiters are only union guys that — demand a shorter lunch hour, And from sources that cannot be ime peached aggers Interesting fact ~ that there are always two sides to every question and lawyers to argue on both sides, No doubt about that one. Statisics now go to prove the fact that fron that the Statue of Liberty stands on is wrought. Idea it standa for is also rot, but you don’t need statistias to prove that. That's ob- — vious. Figures also tend to prove” this: Laugh and the world laughs with you; read ‘em and ween and you need ao loan. That's a good point. Data from Imperial Domai © in Atlanta shows that meetings of ~ Ku Klux are klandestine, as usualy) And, statistics from latest Postal] 3uide show there are always ton” letters in Pittsburzh. ,Figure that’ out for yourself, If Methusaleh had doposited ane © dollar at six per cent. interest at age of twenty-one, statistics show box would have died with $17,000,000,009, 000,000,000,000,000, oF just enongh | for his heirs to eerap over, That's human From cabaret dis® trict tric a that B. Y. O. L, fg latest fraternal order in which ever¥= © thing depends on{ the grip. That's 7 important. And bvidence aired in divorce courts each day proves many: guys don't know the war is over, the © way they are carrying on. Other nimble figures go to prove that married life may not be so ex+ citing as bedroom farces show it, but it has a longer run. Statistics show beyond a doubt that beer is off again, on again, gone again as medi- } cine, That's tough. And data states that wrong numbers are best sellers published by the telephone company, Thot's all. , j ¥ YT: 4 1 j ' fogs a De A Be Good Prune Desserts 021, (New York Evening World), By Pres Publistiag Oo, HEN cooking prunes it is eco= nomical to cook @ large quaa= tity They are delicions when codked inside the oven, whieh | n economy, as they require @ and this can be dose oven for roasting oF If kept in covered glass jaray prunes will keep well. PRUNE SOUFFLE. 4 One cup stewed prunes, chopped. & Heat whites of two eggs very atif® # and sweeten with half a cup of pow= & lered 8 Add the prunes, mix = thoroughly and Lake in moderate 4 ven twenty-five minutes, Serve with whipped cream PRUNE WHIP, Cut one smal _ tee RE baking. q ; wed prunes # ight pinch vo eggs and beat stiff. Then add two tablespoontuls of sugar and a few drops of vanilla, om emon juice may be subs | Fold in the prunes, pour, ed baking dish, place im twat rand bake im en ten minutes. Remove cov 1 wn When cold serve with a custard sa or waipped » small pleces ©! salt to whites of eda frereces PRUNE JELL. # stew alfa pound of prunes; soalelg uly a nan atine in a cup of twat Fy wo and a half cup. @ welatine sugar. Remove” ri une J over th . Ps