The evening world. Newspaper, November 25, 1921, Page 33

¥ | OR BE TR CRD What Have You Done, Mrs. Wife, to Hold Your Husband? Have You Tried to Hold Him With Your Apron-Strings Instead of Have You Grown Careless About Your Appeara~ce and Your Your Heart-Strings? Home? Wy H ‘§ When a Man Steals— The Wife of Another, Who Is Hurt the Most-? Read Sophie Irene Loeb’s Next Article On This Page Monday “Othe OH HDCT DUCE TROT TC OTE Sophie Irene Loeb Asks: Win Him? Perh om Interest, as the Other Listener ? 8 CHORE PPT RDN Woman” OO | What Has the Other Woman Done to aps She Is Holding Him by the Things You Failed to Supply—Sym- Comradeship, Affection ? Woman Been a Good Third in a Series of Articles Based Upon Hundreds of Letters Received by Miss Loeb By Sophie Irene Loeb. QO many letters come from the \) wife—the wife who has the prob- lem of the other woman, the oman who has alienated the affec- tions of her hus- band. Always, always there are bitter words against her, words of v i tuperation, words of blame and anger and everlasting suf- fering—esuch suf- fering! Volumes have been written about the other the acute angle of the oman, gle, She rarely writes to me, or, fact, to anybody. She is the w essor and the transgressor, She hows it, She has played her part— big part—in the trials and tribul pns of the wife whom she has fronged. She has often deliberately t out to win him away from that fe. pHer offense is to be condemned and ly she herself may condone it and rieve. We do not excuse her, and it there may be extenuating circum- nces—even in her direction. Wo innot be unmerciful. But there is something to be said ut the wife in such a case. I puld like to put the matter squarely fore her something like this: HWhat have you done to contribute @ the making of the triangle, or what © you left undone? Why has he nd the other woman? Perhaps you ’e nagged and nagged him until be glad to get away. Perhaps you Mave demanded ¢o much from him t you have driven him away. Saerch deep. Look over your actions a long period past. Men don't, as fule, just run away from their wives running to catch a car, The pro- is usually slow. Either a man ts ply bad, which is not often, or there been a contributing cause to tis away. Have you been that con- Hibuting cause? Have you grown reless about your appearance and out your home, going on the belluf t because you have married him, p ts yours forever and ever} regard- s8 of what you do? i) What & false foundation on which > build your future! ) Have you failed to give him the love The Hear Copyright, 1921, by the Press Publishing ‘THe sory of & typical New York srl. On a stonographer, “Her acart is divided between eon LOWNIEY, & well bachelor wars her how lorors. ‘Mogla reading Us: story to NE evening when Peggy had settled herself for a cosy tine at home and was studying up “speed methods” in typing;she heard the door bell vibrate with three long, shaip rings, That was Billy's ring! “Waat on earth lean he want?” she asked herself, for Bilthough she had nad tuncheon wita im he had not said a word about palling. In fact Billy had not called ince they agreed, to luncheon and ubway home together, He had bean to night school and they had pot spent an evening t»gether in aces, josh! Aren't you glad to see me sked Billy as Peggy peeked ou. at him not quite cerctin, despite the hree long rings, that Billy had ar- rived. "You know Iam, Naughed Peggy. “Glad and surprised, How did you get away from school “[ just. played hookey," declared Billy. “This seeing you in the day time doesn't suit my Romeo Instincts at al I wanted to have a real old fashioned chat with you to-night so I just bobbed up.” “You couldn't have done anything thai suited me better,” chuckted Peggy as she brought out a favorite Drand of cigarettes she used to keep for him and lighted up the chafing- dish for fudge. As she bustled about making Billy at home she saw her father cross the hall and give a pierc- ing glance into the room, ‘Then she semembered her promise that now sho Was going about with Townley she Would not allow Billy to call. old fired: Aa Peggy and Pekingese Sing-Hi curied up on a settee she began to examine Billy with critical eyes, At times when he blubbercd on about him and his bu: S48 Opportunitics she te fairly stick a pin in her thump to keep from going to sleep, “Peg, you're different,” exclaimed Billy. ‘Since you've been going to ‘Dusiness you've changed a deal and I can't say I’m pleased, Where dt! that thing you're hugging come “ By Caroline Crawford ay—every instalment a new epi BILLY BRACTON BOBS8 UP, , bits of slang which m and comfort that he craves? Have you turned a deaf ear to his troubles and his misgivings? And then, after he is gone over to the other woman, what have you done about it? Have you nagged some more and demanded explanations, put spies on him and made him feel as though ke wag hunted to death, and backed him up against a wall—a wall that finally came between you? Have you threat- ened him and cajoied and demanded your rights? and what are your rights? Perhaps he has a counter-sult of wrongs that you have inflicted on him. Oh, I am not excusing him, gent'e wife. I am only asking how far the triangle was completed by your own doings. You have tried, doubtless, to hold him and break down the power of the other woman, and how have you done it? You have used your apron-strings instead of your heart- strings. It can’t be done that way— not these days Besides, how do you know that the other woman is not holding him by just the very things you failed to supply—sympathy and interest in his affairs, comradeship, affection? Yet, wait. Slowly and eurely you will win him back if you want him, by kindness, by ignor- ing painful momente—by hiding your hurt a bit until again you can shout with glee. I know a woman—a wonderfull little woman, who did just that. The other woman was right in her own home. Yet she went on, for she loved him— her husband. She had a little baby and before thie woman came into their home all was happiness among them. She knew that if she fought {t out with herself eventually the attraction would pass. She knew it was transient—fleeting. She also knew that if she did not act wisely the attraction would grow more and more and she would loge him alto- gether, She told me how her own great consolation was going to a concert and hearing good music. She tried to forget her sorrows in soothing strains and it made her sweeter and better—and she won out. He learned almost to hate the other woman and soon found the real jewel in his own wife, but she did not nag, nor scold, nor fight, nor fume, Her battle was within. Ah, yes; there were ftriends—good friends, who told her they would not stand for it, and urged her to come Co. (The New York Evening World.) hi Which Man Will Peggy Choose for a Husband? Payton, eighteen, has just entered busin lovers, tilly’ ‘iSracton, and Harri wnlor, “The office ope rs, ELM atraire “Do you mean my darling littls Pekingese Sing-Hi?" asked Peggy pre- tending to be just a trifle hurt. “I'll bet that same old bird that pnt you he roses the night of our ass dance gav» him to you," coa tinued Billy as a black cloud, which sent Peggy into ripples of laughtot, crossed his face. ‘You aren't jealous, are you?" she asked as she depos ted Sing-Hi upoa the settee and began to stir the fudge. “I 1over did like lap dogs,” grunt. ed Billy, blowing a blue clond of smoke around hig head. “I lke : Chow Chow, an Airedale oran English bull.” “Por giris?” “Sure, Why not? After a while, if you continue to carry this thing on your arm, you'll be carrying a lor- anette.” For a long time they sat quictly nibbling fudge with Bly tiking an occasional puff at his eisarette. De- spite the youthful pinkness of bis cheeks, the folly, boyish laugh and de up Hilly Bracton’s personality, Pergy vealixed that she really did care for him “I have had something on my mind for a long time,” drawled Billy at length. “We've always heen pals, Peg, but now that you are getting so indifferent and around hugging this fuzzy little bit of—let’s cal him dog- gerel—I want you to know how I feel toward you. Peggy, I'm dead in love with you, It's time you knew it, and I want to know if you care enough About me to wait two, or possibly three, years more for me?” “Why spoll the palship?” asked Peggy frankly, though whe felt a big thrill in her heart, for now two men had proposed to her. “lL want some sort of an under- standing,” declared Billy, “and I want it to-night" “I'll be a pal always,” whispered Peggy, “and some day I may promise to be more.” Just then the clock struck ten, a big maltese cat, the family pet, came striding into the room as though somebody's foot had aided her and Billy and Peggy parted hastily. “I'l write to-night,” said Billy. write what I can’t tell you now,’ To-morrow—Her First Love Letter, out publicly against her husband and denounce him and get away from him. It would have been very easy. She would have found the sympathy of all, but she would have lost his love, which was the thing she wanted most. Any woman can break up a home, but it takes a big woman to hold on to it. It takes a great soul to stand by and see it through, Search deep in your heart—you, the wronged wife, and if you want him badly enough, as this woman, you ean win him back. You won him once. How did you do it? Certainly not the way you are do- ing it now. Try it again. If you want him, eteal him away from the other woman, just as she h stolen him away from you. It is the only way by which you can hold him—his love—his all! your pleasantries, your changed atti- tude, your sweet voice, your gentle- ness, He will know your struggle, your forbearance. And if he is worth It he will be decent about it. Of course, if you have lost your de- sire for him, if love is gone entirely, then the best thing is to let him go, for there is nothing so dead as a dead love. But do what you do frankly, honestly and without malice. Constancy and love cannot be as- sured by legal lines. They must be secured along the line of love, which is the life line, after all. Grasp it. Save your husband and your home. If you are sure you want him you will sacrifice your pride, perhaps, It is better to have battled and lost than never to have made the fight. For then you have no reproach. You have done all to preserve that which you want most—your home and your Perhaps he will be surprised at husband. AOR SETS ‘Parley N Conference Looks Like Game of: Put and Take. Delegates Speak the Diplomatic Tongue, Which Is Always Pressed Against the Cheek. By Neal R. O’Hara. Copriight, 1921, by the Press Publishing Co, (The New York Evening World.) A RMS parley shows potent progress. Proposals are translated three ways—English, French and Japanese, Replies come back in one language—diplomatic. Only one way to speak diplomatic tongue. That is with tongue in the cheek. When you mean No you speak a thou- sand words, like woman sending collect telegram. Following are news nuggets taken from Washington ash heap after be- ing sifted through international sieve: America willing to beat its swords into McCormick reapers. England will beat armored tanks into snow- ploughs. Japan willing to make econces- sions but also wants some in re- turn, What Japanese want are more rolling ball concessions at Coney Island and Far Rockaway, Japan also demands privilege piping Yap cablegrams and rubber- ing at messages on souvenir post cards. In return for these slight favors Japs promise to quit build- Ing safety match@s that light in ratio of one out of ten. As afterthought, Nippon diplo- mats claim Japan needs Shantung for private golf links on account of yen Japs have for game. In return for increased laundry privileges, China agrees to punch } smaller holes in domestic money and fill oil-burning street lamps with Standard Oil, And in return for these crumbs from conference table, U. 8. gets three-mile strip of two leading oceans that pass by native shores, No doubt that conference has got away to charming start, U. 8. 60 confident scaeme will work that Hughes has agreed not to cut off whiskers till leading navies have been sunk. Now Ford makes bid loose battleships, Hank made wise crack that history is bunk. Now claims ships that make history are junk. Promises to make tin Lizales out of busy Berthas, Would touch acetylene torch to lead- ing dreadnoughts and melt ’em into sedans and coupes. Price $2.75 a copy, F. O. B. incoming tide, Statistic demons in Ford plant now figuring bids for Rock of Gibral- tar. Also mulling over scheme to buy Panama Canal as watering sta- tion for Ford radiators. But other patriots view with alarm offer of Hank to snap up all dreadnoughts. Claim Ford controls boats that rattle on land and now covets saips for all “I'lk that battle on sea, Big mail order house planning to Stick in bid for excess gold brafd on Admirals’ working clothes, Hughes’s proposal has staggered the world. Model column of marine intelligence next year will contain schedule of arrivals, sailings and sinkings, .All our first class battle- ships will be held up, same as our first class mail. Navy yards. will be switched to municipal playgrounds —rowboats rented, 10 cents an hour. By time Sims gets ready to retire from navy, won't be anything left for the Ad. to retire from. Disarmament will spoil all naval recruiting. Guy that joins the navy to see the world will be issued uniform of water wings, Denby will still hold job in Cabinet, but only as ? Secretary of Junk. Sounds like Sweet patootie proposition and only one defect. Ten-year naval holiday would sure benefit world, but it carves no ice in Switzerland's bud- get. Amusement tax on all Swiss yodeling will remain exactly .the same. a RKERKMEMARR RR XX RRRN RE You Often Read i & AboutHim & HENRY E. HUNTINGTON, Henry E.Huntine ror ~ UNS railroads and buys “Blue Boys” and other million-dol- and rare books, just as you and | lar pictur and such luxurie buy new silk neckt ovate troduced America to Spain after the 1908 unpleasantness through the medium of Spain's gr: rtiate. whom he brought to New ing with some of their un- ntings. Up to date has not been held responsible for the la’ influx of Spanish dancers. id 28,000 for Gainsborough’s “Blue ” and will move it from ben’ y don to California to ks ual with the ether moving plotures. i ie oe TPT CHDCH IK Can You RN CHIEU! FORE MRK RH TURKEY | WISH THEY’'D PUT A LIMITATION ON THANIKS GIVING, DINNERS ‘YOu CAN EAT A THANKSGIVING DINNER BUT You CAN'T BE THANREUL WITHOUT A THANKS GIVIN CY DINNER WITHOUT BEING THANKFUL To Disguise Large Hips Appear More Attractive? Margery Wells’s ~ | Article Tells By Roy L. McCardeli Vitus, and Mr. Jarr had been “Sht for peace, he did not want to come. cried Mrs. Gabb, the Chairwoman, as fore her with an ivory gavel. “What does she want to order?” whisp Mr. Jarr. “You can't get anything to drink here unless you slip five dollars to a bell boy. Mrs. Jarr gave him such a look, and nudged him to keep silent. prepared!" to her tract attention!" the Conference for the Reduction of €ye out, Armament in Washington, because him at all.” the Ladies’ Peace Club was not in- The Jarr Family Goprrtsat, 1921, by the Prose Publishing Co, (The New York Rvening Worl.) T was the meeting of the Ladies’ you what that message ee h it Sa He c 1, the women of the whole world w I Peace Society at the Hotel 3 We will nat wer it any other way. We only got the vote brought along by Mrs. Jarr because in England by throwing stones.” Pe the reason they dress so i : 1» dowdy,” whispered Mra. Jarr. ‘The ladies will come to order!” cin une throw rocks in a pice “ress?” “I move that we proceed to Wasb- she rapped viciously on the table be- ington and stone cried the English delegate, the conference told you so,” said Mrs. Jarr husband, Clara Mudridge-Smith coming ‘n in her Bew gown and civak! the way to go to Washington to at- “Yes,” Mr. Jarr admitted, “This meeting is to protest against dressed woman can knock a man's stone throwing woman would never make a hit with Unsightly blemishes, and I want you to be very faithful in massaging your where a OKIE Dear Miss Doscher: What is the best and quickest way for removing pimples from the forehead? | wear my hair low and | believe the rest of my 1 would very much like to wear my hair entire- » ly away from my forehead, but on account ef these unsightly marks | cannet. Do you think that drink-__ ing yeast dissolved in water weuld de any good? A CONSTANT READER. Pimples on the forehead are very vited to send delegates!” said Mrs. Gabb, when the audience had ceased Z¥SUCQGHDUCH HH HHMI KE by reading the minutes of the last tmeeting wherein we demanded repre- sentation.” “I move the minutes be adopted without reading!” said a militant fat lady arising. “We all know that those addie-headed men in charge of the conference paid no attention to our & rustling and talking, ‘We will begin & demands: lowed these remarks, all the womep |: Maxims ?' Modern Maid | By Marguerite Mooers Marshall Gopreient, 1921, by the Frees Publisting Co, (The New York Mvening World.) No Mother Is Ever Satisfied With the Woman Her Son Mar- ries—and, at That, She Hasn’t Anything on Him. woman is because she knows (1) why the boss is always “in con- ROBABLY one reason why men hesitate to marry the business A loud clamor of conversation fol- nt talking together at once but connected with the matter in hand, Mrs. Gabb finally made with the gavel that the conversation drowned, and ng they were et for the time ca, It gives me great pleasure in in- troducing the speaker of the day, the famous the Hon. Mrs. country to protest, in the name of the Militant Feminists of England, ference” when his wife telephones; discussing anything In any way him to remember his wedding anniversary, and (3) just how much work (2) who remembers to tell Ayre is really done during “a long, hard day at the office.” When a certain type of woman tells you how weil you are looking, ie Mra Gaby YOU immediately begin to wonder whether it’s your hat that is on “The minutes being adopt- crooked, or your nose that needs powder. What a man thinks of widows—that they are sweet, helpless crea- Breaker tures deserving chivalrous protection; what a woman thinks of them— Holmes of London, who comes to this that they are necessary evils; what they think of each other. Grandma showed her ears and covered her legs, granddaughter against the women of England not be- reverses the process; therefore, it is argued, there is no moral difference, ing called upon to send delegates to the Disarmament Conference She has been to Washington"-—— But again the yoice of the Chair ggents! was drowned in the outbreak of gen- eral conversation of the women pres- ent, mainly comment upon the ap- also, Airis rr Re p- must have been rather less fastidious than the modern woman—or else parel of the distinguished visitor, who , Mego pe had arisen on the platform and bowed Jt !8 only the effete man of to-day who slumbers with his mouth open grimly when her name was men- and his hair towsled, toned. ss dae Vink @ttaaih is Sometimes a cat says “miau! miau!” and sometimes she tells your began. “I come bringing # militant bushand that she saw you lunching the other day “with such a good- inessage to this so-called Peace Con- jooking man! ference in Washington, where I was 8 4 not permitted to or 1 will cell But, oh, the difference to beauty! Poets are the press agents of love—and put not your trust in press ‘When « woman doesn't know whether she loves a Those goddesses who used to go around admiring young men asleep 4 How Would You Dress— ed THE MOTION Not Look Your Best? (Copyright, 1921, by th~ Pres: Pubilabing Ca (The New Tort Bventng Werth.p ‘ ANSWERS TO READERS’ QUESTIONS, 1. ‘e and Make Your Figure To-Morrow By Maurice Ketten “1 SECOND 6 ERO ene anN meee 2 re forehead every night with a good with warm water anda mild soap follow this by rubbitig the face plece of tce, This will free the p ofthe skin @ret of the'impurities then, by the ice, them #0 @ they become speak, mols ‘will not accomplished in a day, You must Pay strict attention to your diet s0 to free the system from all impuriti and drink pleaty of water and ts the hreathing exerdises and you find that the ofa digestion and absolute cleanliness cure those pimples. great deaj. It is getting on my temple on the left am forty-six years of age. De}! you advise a dry shampoo maders| of white cornmeal, powdered!’ orris root and table salt, or would just powdered erris root do? te a salve good for the hair? | wash: my hair once every week. te vaseline good fer the hair? & am very gray. H. B. A. Poor growth of hair is usually 4 to poor circulation of the scalp. ¥é will find that massage if propel done and frequently persisted in stimulate the circulation, ther feeding the roots of the hair and gi ing them new life, Pay particu attention to that spot on the left if of the temple where your hair is tl thinnest. Perhaps your scalp is dry, In that case I would not adi you to wash it every weck, but o every ten days would: be suffick The dry shampéo of oris root if f lowed by a thorough brushing is beneficial, but if the scalp is dry, vaseline well rubbed into roots of the hair ts a very good for the scalp, Sometimes putting’ hair up in curl papers, ° around the temple, and then lj that side of the head all h a pressure which iaterferes circulation and would hair to out. To pr thorough hair CORTE scopes Pht ee