The evening world. Newspaper, November 23, 1921, Page 13

“Put and Take” At the Peace Conference Is Humorously Described by Neal R. ME DH HRT “The Pretty Wife TO THE WIFE— ; «Have You a Will-o'-the-Wisp Fancy for Another ‘ox Man and Are You Breaking the Heart of Your wn Husband? If You Lost Your Pretty Face hat Would He Do for You? Second in a Series of Articles Based Upon Hundreds of Letters Received by Miss Loeb. oe core brn! TM eal «Mis is the second of a series of @rticles which Miss Loeb has built upon hundreds of letters received by ner.” They have come from homes made unhappy by mistakes, from Nivés saddened by faiture—mistakes and failures which could have been quoided had the right way been shown in time. By Sophie Irene Loeb Copsright, by the. Trew Publishing Co. (The New York Evening World, HEN the pretty wife of the homely husband writes, she complains bitterly that he wants to be a stay - at - home and she longs to be enjoying her- self, She always has married very young. He is usually a little older, Most of the time she has taken him to get ahomeand crea- ture comforts or she married to get away from her parents, with the belief that mar- ried life means freedom. She begs for advice, since she longs to be admired, wants pretty things and loves to go to places. Why this woman has failed to get happiness is because she has not tried. If she has the glorious gift of beauty, she has many pitfalls and many things to consider, Most of the time she is flattered to death and gets * an exaggerated opinion of how lovely she is. She goes on living in a fool's para- ise;~and pities herself that she is married to a homely man and wishes mhejeould break the bonds. Nine times out of ten such a ‘Woman, if sne could have free- » in a very short time would “be begging to return. fo such a wife, I would put the ter as follow: «Have you ever stopped to think that thev friends who have flattered you, the men who cast knowing glances at you, those who have even tried to make you break away and have cupged you to/conapire against your isband—have you ever stopped to think what they would do for you if you were in trouble? How far would Mey! go to ald you? Suppose all of a sdétien you lost your pretty face, ‘would they care whether you lived or died?, Have they deen put to the test? Have you ever considered what a tower of strength it is to have somc- ene like your husband stand by you and-be with you, right or wrong? (Ha it ever occurred to you that It W mich easier to break a home than to, make one; that any fluffy ruffie may. fit from one place to another @rid get nowhere and that it takes a conn ¥ DAY'S illustration shows the hands in the position ready for a general kneading of the en- the face, ‘This you will find will give you, very beneficial results because it moves the muscles that lie under- ngah the surface of the skin and bentfits the general circulation, ‘This general kneading of the face also gives you an opportunity to give ‘the features careful attention by wanting down pith a strong stroke where the fiesh has massed in the owromg place and permitting a good atretching and ironing out of the Wiitkles, and at the same time If the Rafids are maintained in this’ position While crossing hollows it affords a @lendid opportunity for nourishing the tissues, thus filling them out and beving the face the rotundity of youth. After the day's tasks are ended the face usually has a taut feeling. There ig a tightening around the muscles of the mouth and e¢yes and a general eerre in the other pertions of the ace. So do not fail to try out this Rint I am giving you in to-day's les- gon ‘and see how it will relieve the Higued condition of the face and fea general nimbling up and help to Acquire the proper relaxation e muscles that should precede a goer night's slumber. ben you consider that the face is ted to the dust and grime of day, and that it is the one part _ot.the body that is always exposed to @evere changes of atmosphere, and also that it is the open book on which eagh, passing vexation as well as 4¢ep: emotion ts written, you see how necessary it is for you to spend a little time each night in caring for the face, Too often you neglect this * pightly attention and the result is shat. you wei have to spend twice as ““qaueh time in the ond in trying to Why Not Look Your Best?. By Doris Doscher Cupreight, 1901, by the Press Pubfisting Co, (The Now York Evening World.) THE ROTARY MASSAGE. O’Hara in His Own wom 2oNOONTHIERABGODOHOT INAH HI KID real woman ‘to hold a home and her husband; that you have a better fighting chance for happiness if yéu ko on year after year and play a, big part in the life of one good man—no matter how homely he may be? Besides, it really does not matter so much whether a man has a hand- some face or not—it is what he does. It he loves you dearly, it is a terrible thing for you to betray his trust and bé treacherous to him. If you are flirtatious and secretive, you are cheating—cheating in the worst way. If you can't be honest—quit—get,out! You are taking his all and giving him your worst. Save your self-respect, if nothing more. Give some other woman a chance--a woman who will appreciate his worthiness and be big enough for him. But if your affec- tion for him ts not entirely smoth- ered, then better leave well enough alone. 5 If he has got down in the dumps and does not want to go out with y-u, try to create a spirit of joyfulness’ in him. If you aro young and pretty, you can do it. By the same influence that you attract others you can at- tract him. Teach him to learn tho things you love by kindness and sweetness and graciousn¢ss. - Squelch that hatred feeling that arises within you and emile at him. You have no idea what it will do. He may become young again and even attractive, Get him out of himself. Think what a fine thing it is to do, anyway. The pretty woman who lives for herself and thinks only of the things that will satisfy her will never rise to big cecasions, She never be a fine woman— she will never have beautiful thoughts—she will never under- atand the joy of sacrificing a little for somebody e It is not only a joy but a privilege. All she has to do is to look around at life—at the pretty women that were, and what they sre now—women who have wasted themselves on people who ‘have’ given them nothing but woe and misery. Much better to hold on to the Rock of Gibraltar in the form of a faithful husband. Besides, the world is moving on apace and the twentleth century woman takes her place in her com- munity. She owes something to that community to help to make it. You cannot help make it by destroying domesticity. It is the foundation of the family that keeps the fire of lifo alive. If you have a spark of love for your husband, hold on to it as something precious. And to the husband | would say: Remember that it is human nature for a wife to long for ad- miration and pleasure. If you want to hold her you will have to help her get and it bett: do away with the evil effects of neglect later on. The first essential of a well groomed woman is that she should learn these few simple lessons that I have been giving on the care of the face. ‘There is no professional that can do for you as much as you ean yourself because you know just where the face needs the greatest attention and just what results you are striving to obtain, so whatever else you find that you must negiect do not let it be the nightly attention to the all over rc- . tary massage. Spasmodic efforts at massage, con- sidering only separate portions of the face, will not give you the general good-looking appearance that an en- Ure going over of the face with the proper motion will. Of course you will remember that in previous taiks I have tmpressed upon you the neces- sity of first seeing that the face has been absolutely cleansed by the ap- Plication of hot water and a gocd quality of soap (differing, of course, to the different textures of the skin), and then the application of a good skin food or massage cream well rubbed in with a stroke that will bear upon eh ald oe) merer al of guch blemishes as Ww: inklea, bollows, lines or muscles, and the Sophi Trene Loeb Says: ¢ philanthropist; Homely Now and Then. for you to be with her when she it than to have her steal It ie all very well to keep the home fires burning, but a little spotlight now and then. I know a man—a very homely man who had a crooked back—he was al- most @ hunchback—and he kept the love of his wife until the day he died just by such tact and carefule ness. She was a very pretty girl. Karly he learned that she loved to go out to the movies and the theatre and to dances, and while he did not care for all these things, he sacrificed him- self. He invited young men to go with them so that they could dance with her, He made it a point to take her out where she could see and be seen and enjoy herself. She appreciated it, and after a while Ten ‘*New CEs HEH By Marguerite Mooers Marshall. Copyright, 1921, by the Press Publishing Co. © you want to “get an angle” on hoy: to get ahead? You can get not one but ten “new angles” on success from tea men who have’ viewed it at closc quarters and whose “angle of vision” may therefore be considered reliable. They figure in a newly published book of special interest to every ambitious boy, “Famous Leaders of Industry," Second Series, by Edwin Wildman, author of “Famous Leaders of Industry,” First Series, and for- mer editor of The Forum. The sub- title of Mr. Wildman's book is “Life Stories of Boys Who Have Suc- ceedéd,” and it Is indeed a sort of blue book of American industrial overlords who, in the words of the author, were once “boys of grit and sumption.” Most of the “boys” are still living and dominant figures on the American scene; all of them so recently won t? greatness that their names are well known to the younger generation. As fascinating as fiction are Mr. Wild- man's brief biographies of them, which emphasize their humble begin: nings and drive home, over and over again, the truth that, just as every soldier of Napoleon carried a Mar- shal's baton in his knapsack, so every American youngster carries potential success under his hat. The deeds of all of the “famous leaders" speak. But ten out of the twenty-eight who appear in Mr. Wildman's pages have summed up in their own words the essential requisites for success. The ten, as catalogued by the author, are: James J. Hill, the builder of the Northwest; Edward Henry Harriman, a wizard of finance and raéiways; John Hays Hammond, the wizard of modern gold mining; William Childs, the father of the modern restaurant; Andrew Carnegie, steel magnate and William Wrigley jr. the chewing gum king; Theodore N. Vail, the great captain of the tcle- phone industry; Ellaworth Milton Statler, a pioneer in magnificent ho- tels; George Washington Goethals, the ‘builder of the Panama Canal; Bartlett Arkell, who revolutionized the packing and canning industry. And here are their respective “angles” on the problem of how to succeed, the brief statement of big men as to what qualities win and why: JAMES J. HILL: “The spur of neccessity of which many complain is a rich heritage. There is no royal road to success, A good aim, diligence in learning every detail of your bust- ness, honest, hard work and a de- termination to succeed, win out overy time. “Some opportunity will come at some time to every man. Then It depends upon himself, 2nd upon what he shall have made of himself, what he makes of it and what it will inake of him. The office boy of to-day may become President in a decade if he be made of the right stuff and makes his services Indispensable.” EDWARD HENRY HARRIMAN: “To achleve what the world calls success, @ man must attend strictly to business and keep a little in ad- vance of the times. Grasp an idea and work it out to a successful con- clusion.” JOHN HAYS HAMMOND (in tho words of his wife): “My husband characteristically ascribes his success to hard work, self abnegation and opportunity.” WILLIAM CHILDS: “Pick out something you like to do and decide to do it better than it has ever been don? before. If you expect to make money, you must select something for which there is a real popular demand, cr for which @ popular demand may be created by normal methods. Don’t accept the inferior when the superior s obtainable. -Build big; the wider ‘our original vision the more chance you have of worth while success, Make the best use of the best mater- sals you have in hand. This is a bet- ter maxim than to alm high, as one does not usually hit as high as he alms.” WILLIAM WRIGLEY JR: “You HRM WHR H EK MONON AM RH RR RM RK SUCCESS From Tén Big Men Who Proved Them Right by ““Making Good” are right there. * the Panama Canul.” Husband ie { TO THE HUSBAND— Don’t Neglect Your Wife’s Pleasures. They Are as Necessary as Bread to Her. Keep the Home Fires Burning, but Give Her a Little Spotlight he even enjoyed it himself. He didn’t realize that he would until he Joined in, se Ah, yes, the big thing is to adjust yourself to things as you find them. You may think you will find greater happiness in another.way. It is usu- ally a will-of-the-wisp fancy. You can make the best of what you have and get much out of it that is now lacking only because you have not tried. After all, the pretty wife and home- ly husband had at some time an at- traction for one another, The thing to do is to turn the magnet the right way and let it keep attracting. It can be done, but it takes two to do it, next drticle, “The Another Woman's Angles” on (The New York Evening World.) must have a good product in the first place and something that people want. Explain to folks plainly and sincerel: what you have to sell, do it in as few words as possible—and keep everlast- ingly coming at them. Tell ‘em quick, und tell 'em often. ANDREW CARNEGIE (pointing to his head): “The elements of success— intellect, foresight, or brain power— Forget that word luck.” THEODORE WN. VAIL Yon being asked how he atcgunted for his suc- cess): “By never being unwilling, «whem young; t& Bo another man’s work, and then, when older, by never doing anything somebody else could do better for me.” ELLSWORTH MILTON STATLER: “Get started in the right direction and you just have to keep a-golng—you can't stop!" GEORGE WASHINGTON GOETH- ALS: “Organization, supervision and direction of the human element built BARTLETT ARKELL: truth and act vigorous!: “Famous Leaders of Industry,” 3ec- ond Series, is published by the Page Company, Boston. “Tell the ON INE a ie ae ae The Modern Maid Her Thoughts on Men and Matrimony Are Cleverly Expressed in the Maxims by Marguerite | Mooers ors Marshall—Friday. A BOTTLE OF AROMATIC SPIRITS OF ANMONIA | A BOTTLE OF NILK OF MAGNESIA . AN | WANT SOME BI.CARBONA’ OF SODA . SONE DIGESTIVE TABLETS. A G00D TONIC FOR THE Sac Vy re ae DOTE FoR. HONE REW AM NOT YET_ BUT LAN GOING To A THANKSGIVING DINNER. HEE MNR WRAY HO Ow Copyright, 1921, by the Pres Publishing | The Heart of a Girl By Caroline Crawford ty Co, (The New York Evening World.) : Which Man Will Peggy Choose for a Husband ? The story of w typical New York girl. tered business aw a sten Bracten, her, own age, lor, The of! ths story ‘to-day—every instalment @ new Pegs: Dher. Her heart, i Harrison Townl His new experien y Dayton, eighteen, has just en- Nlivided ‘between. two lovers, Billy ® well-to-do bachelor ten years brings new lovers. Besin reading Peggy's affairs, WHY SOME BUSINESS GIRLS SUCCEED. PGGY often wondered why some business gitls succeeded and others failed. Some girls seemed to live for their work. Their eyes ea grew bright when they talked of their daily busi- ness life and their cheeks flushed with pleasure as they toll about the different stages of their progress. Other girls detested business, cdn- stantly watched the clock and looked forward to the day they could marry. Peggy thought she knew three rea- sons which might account for the success of many girls, There was the girl who wanted to make her name, the girl who was out for money and saved it just like a man, and the girl who fell in love with some man in business and wanted to make good to please him, Peggy hated to admit it to herself, but she knew she belonged to this last type. She had no ambition to be- come famous. She left that to the artist, actress, writer type of girl. She did not especially care to save money or to climb the business lad- der, She knew she would marry gome day and drop out of business life altogether, But she knew that if she fell in love with some man in her office she would be spurred on to do her dest work. This business awakening came to her through John Sanford, the man who was taking Richardson's place. He was Peggy's ideal man, good look- ing without being handsome; a good dresser without being a Beau Brum- mell; a typical ladies’ man without being flirtatious, When John Sanford dictated a let- ter to her the full, even tones of his voice put life and energy into her finger tips. Her hand semed to be guided by his lips, her mind to run along the same channels as his. Sometimes it seemed as if she almost wrote the words before he said them. Many times he framed his sentences in the very words her own heart com- posed. Sanford was 2 man of forty-five. He made twenty ~- gat» nee old Townley seem lke to Pessy and when she thought of Billy he seemed a mere infant. Sanfora treated Peggy like a deughter and she knew he did not dream of her ad- miration for him, At times she way ‘almost glad he did think of her in this light and then again, when she noticed a certain boyishness about him and heard him whistle snatches of popular airs, she wished he would consider her as a full-fledged young woman, Frequently she {ound herself won- dering why so attractive and mag- netic a man had never married. Had he been disappointed in love or had his love and protection for his wid- owed mother kept him single all these years? Although Miss Smith had given her all the details she knew about this man she disliked to ask her for any further information, She pre- ferred to keep her interest and ad- miration for this older man a secret. Many times she had heard business girls say they preferred the society of mature or older men to that of men in thé twenties, Now she was beginning to understand why. Townley tried to be boyish and bring out her kittenish qualities. He wanted her to be cute and innocent and girlish. She had to play a role for him—the role of a girl she knew he admired, Billy Bracton brought out her nat- ural qualities, but he did not inspire her. Both tried to see how funny they could be when together, and while all life took on a humorous side when Billy was around, his re- marks began to bore Peggy. He was always talking about what he would do in the future. John Sanford had done things. He was doing them all the time. He made other people want to succeed, He was serious about life, and yet, no one could see the humor of things quicker than he. But he was a work- er and because he was sincere and earnest he made Peggy want to do things, too. Evenings she found herself looking over her old text books and planning how she could better educate herself, She began to read the newspapers more closely, to want to read novels by the best authors and worth-while writer: And sometimes when she was study- ing and working she wondered wheth- er it was admiration and respect or love which spurred her on. To-Morrow—Billy Bracton Bobs Up. ——- WH RK ROY You Often Read About Her MRS. GIFFORD PINCHOT. Mre Girrorn Pincior © Uwe & une. ELIEVES that a woman can be society and be useful at the me time. Big help to her husband when he wanted tc be Gov- ernor of Pennsylvania, but wasn't. Probably just as useful to him now that he is busy keeping the Penn- sylvanians from destroying their own fores! But her unusual height, matohing that of her elon- gated husband, gives her special advantay @ participant in pub- lie gatherings. Visite New York for social purposes, but confines political activiti Imost entirely to Pennaylvi eeeennaiinasseantE CRANBERRY TOWER. OLL out puff paste quite thin and cut into circular shapes, making each one smaller than the preceding one. Arrange in baking dishes with the left-over cranberry Jelly between each layer. centre hollow and fill this cavity and the top of the tower with whipped cream, to which powdered sugar and flavoring has been added. When serv- img cut each portion through to the centre. ‘ Have the 4, HSC DTI RS HG HOH OH © The Jarr Family By Roy L. McCardell Ouppetget, LOG, by the Press Publishing Co. (The New York Krening World) mas and then New Year's! They won't be long coming and going. Dear me! How time fies oO nue then Christ- after one reaches maturity,” sighed Mrs. Jarr. Well,” said Mr. Jarr, “as Thanks- giving is just about due and Christ- mas over a month off and New Year's yet to be heard from, it's no wonder you feel mature, the way you pull the days toward you. You remind me of the woman my mother used to tell of who would say; "To-day’s Monday, to-morrow is Tu@yday and the next day Wednesday—half the week gone and no work done!'” “Please don't be making compari sons between your family and m self,” remarked Mrs. Jarr icily. have never posed as a humorist.” “Aw, don't get cranky about noth- ing,” replied Mr. Jarr, “and as for time flying, I'll bet the children think it's a long time from Christmas to Christmas.” “Well, | wouldn't mind how quidkly the holidays came if I had lots of money like Mrs, Stryver and Clara Mudridge-Smit said Mrs. Jarr. “They are talking of nothing but go- ing to Palm Beach and of the clothes they are buying and getting made.” “We shouldn't envy the better for- tune of our friends,” remarked Mr, Jarr_good-naturedly. “Well, I do, just the same,” Mrs. Javr declared, “and perhaps I could buy nice clothes and go to Palm Reach too if I never paid my butcher and grocer.’ “But they must pay theirs,” said Mr. Jarr, “They take their time about It when they do!” replied Mrs, Jarr. “No wonder the milkmen went on strike, It was because of people like the Styvers and Clara Mudridge-Smith. ‘That kind of peOple let their milk bills run up Ull they are bundreds of dollars, and then they send a check to the company. The milkman gets 2 per cent.on all bills he col- lects, but he doesn't get anything when people pay the company by mailing a check. The me this himself.” “So that was the real cause of the milkmen's strike?” remarked Mr. Jarre. “Well, ‘live and learn, as the yorng man said on his deathbed.” “And the motto of people like the Stryvers and Clara Mudridge-Smith should be, ‘Live and let live’ anid milkman told at's the butcher's motto, I said Mr. Jarr. assume you are making fun of sighed Mrs, Jarr, “But that ts just the way; I never get any sym- pathy from you.” ee | r up!” said Mr, Jarr. < ‘ oan ae ae don’t be mad at me or your friends; this is the beginning of the era of universal peace; let us all disarna.” “And that reminds me, tmey ago go- ing to Washington, too, Mrs, Stryver and Clara Mudridge-Smith are, They will stop there u week or two before + going to Palm Beach, for’ Washington is full of handsome foreign attac! and balls and receptions make it one of the gayest socia) seasons Wash- ington has ever known.” i “Would you like to with them?” Mr. Jarr inquired. “Maybe it can be arranged; the boss was saying tie other day he might want me to go to Washington on some business.” said Mrs, “I have nothing to wear, Jarr. “Mrs, Stryver has asked me if I could go with them, and Clara Mudridge-Smith has invited me to be her guest.” “Then I think we can negotiate the gala attire,” remarked Mr. Jarr. Mrs, Jarr thought a few moments. Then she finally said, “Ob, I don’: think there'd be much fun going with those two, Mrs. Stryver 1s such a frump and Clara Mudridge-Smith ts such « flirt and gets so jealous; anyway, this is flapper year in Washington, Aimy ‘Tutwiler tells me; and I am not going anywhere and be a wall flower, while @ lot of chits of girls in their teens with bobbed hair, who smoke and swear, have all the dances.” “Tough young gals going these days, I'll say!" remarked Mr. Jarr. Yes, i it dreadful,” was the r>- I_wish our little ply. Emma ton and show them!" erent Mr, Jarre wondered, “but eai@ no word, EAR FRIEND: If you are In trouble or sorrow, this will help you as it has thousands before you. Whatever your diffi- culty is, it has come as a test or examination for your courage. As you are able to overcome the small and trying incidents of Uifee so you are able to overcome bigger perplexities that come to i wl Therefore, instead of fantting ex: cited, meet the diffioulty, ks full well that you will enjoy the yistery all the more for having bs ht tne igndt Ant, oureae cowardice bo! m Begin with You cannot oats refore, choose the shorter word, it is bedi to Cid il arn “Oh, was sixteen, I'd take her to Washing- «