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Charmed 1 Coprright, 1921, by the Prem Publishing Church at Fifth Avenue and. 126th Street. Dr. Petty hae been giving a weries of Sunday evening “hearth- etone talks,” discussions of the vari. cus problems of love and marriage. ‘The other night he spoke on “Carrying Courtship Into Marrted Life,” 80 1 went to ask him how and why it should be done, “Probably the best method of pre- serving marital happiness,” summed Wp Dr. Petty, who is young, cheerful, eemsible and a frankly happy hus- band and father, “is to preserve, after ot For if both husband wand wife can find their romance at home, they are far less likely to seck t abroad. “There is no reason in the world why @ husband should not bring his _ Wife candy and flowers, plan lit wmexpected pleasures for her, pay ne! compliments, tell her, in so many words, how much he loves her. And \t is just as important and essential that she receive these attentions as ahe would have received them in toc days of courtship; that she say charming things to her husband: that ‘be teli him how much she loves nim. “I know,” Dr. Petty interpolated, Doyishbly, “that my wife loves me. I haven't the slightest doubt of it Yet 1 confess I should feel unhappy if she mever told me of her love. And I think I should be ungrateful indeed if after all the care and affection javished on me, all the hard work and sacrifices and exactions imposed on a woman who marries a man in @ public position, I did not tell my , wife how I care for her, if I did rot pay ber the little attentions that, rightly, Mean so much to women.” So, you see, Dr. Petty is one clersy- man Who practises what he preaches. “Don't you think,” I suggested, “that the hagpiness of married life | depends largely on the way in which little situations, little details, are ‘handled? It's al} very well to talk about having some one who will stand by you in a erisis—but in the aver- age lifetime there are not more than one or two crises. What a man or woman really wants in marriage ls © one who will make petty, aver- ade everyday life run smoothly and happily.” “That is perfe~tly true,” agreed Dr. Petty. “Ihave. °n said that almost any woman wil. stand shoulder tw shoulder with her husband when he is confronted with some great dis- aster, yet the same woman may be irritant to him in the small H bles of every day. | jometimes women fail to show appreciation of the charming, nice things their husbands do for them. he, pf One man compla: bitterly on that point. ‘My wife, he said, sa ‘talked for months about hi a gealskin coat, So I got her one for Christinas, A girl friend guve her {4m embroidered towel—and, do you } know, she talked a good deal mor about that towel than she did abou j the coat! I couldn't help feeling It was because the coat was a gift from a mC Now that sort of thing,” the cler- gyman pointed out with truth, “is no encouragement to a man to be ro- mantic. On the other hand, there is the type of husband who maintains that he is not a man to express his feel.ng orally, his affec‘ions are silent and deep. Which sounds ‘very well—but why fs NO man of that type during his courtship days? Why does he wait until he is mar- ried to discover that he cannot ex- ress his love in words” Preve wondered,” Lremarked. ‘Then there are the married persons who say that they are too b for ro- mantic attentions. 5 “That's an excuse and not a rea- son," replied Dr. Petty, “just as a woman offers an excuse and not w reason when, she attributes her bad er to nerves, be one can afford the time for little words, gestures and at- s of courtship which may be into married life. Any one , for there are true ex ant words of my con- whose ta cent gregations was a plain cobble vife had been sick and bed-ridden for yearh Every night of his life h ‘carried home to her a@ flower. It didn’t cost him more than a “specially when a woman reaches 2 sale, Mie? and sees her uthful charms fading a bit, and tries to re- store them with artificial beautitiers, the thought comes that ber husben: no. 10 cares deeply for her or nd admi that she Is passe anc old. that dangerous age, unless her husband gives her proof of the falsity of her morbid imaginings—un- less be courts her all over again- ghe may listen to the call of romance tside the home, oetpefore mariage @ man is a lover, wand love is blind, It should deand, even after marriage, A hu band should not try to make a diag- nasis of his wife, to list all her little failings with a cold and critical eye: det him keep his gaze fixed on bev ‘as he always has imagined her dur- sing the days of courtship—and, wooner or Jater, she will become what he believes her to be. It is just as sdmportant that a woman should fol- dow this procedure in regard to her Nmusband “The courtesy as well as the ru- 2 WANT TO STAY MARRIED? “Court Your Wife as You Courted Your Sweetheart !’’ “Charm Your Husband as You - der Miss Delafi Your Fiance !’’ Rev. Dr. Petty Thinks Candy, Flowers and Unex- pected Pleasures for HER, and Expressions of Love and Gratitude for Thoughtful Acts for HIM, All Help to Preserve Marital Happiness. By Marguerite Mooers Marshall. Ca, (The New York Rrening World.) OURT your wife as you courted your sweetheart. Charm your husband as you charmed your flance. ‘Those are two all-tmportant rules for happiness in married life, according to the Rev. Carl Wallace Petty, D. D., of the Mount Morris Baptist BOY AWARDED MEDAL AS BEST EXTEMPORANEOUS HIGH SCHOOL SPEAKER ERAN mites REVSTONE View een-year-old Frank Miller of No. 45 Forsyth Street, New York City, was awarded the medal as being the best extemporaneous speaker in the high schools of New York. mance of courtship should persist after marriage. A husband and wife should be as polite to each other as they would be to outsiders, instead of acting on the principle that ‘he—or she—is mine and I can do what I like with him—or her.’ Courtesy as well as charity should begin at home, “Like everything else,” concluded Dr. Petty, “love must grow—or de- cay. It cannot be a fixed, stat.c thing, The best way to keep it fresh and alive and growing, throughout a long married life, is to express it in terms of courtship. If the home is the foundation of our American s0- ciety, as we say It is, happy marriage is surely the foundation of the home, And the cornerstone of happy mar- rluge is romance,” tf AAA OOOO THE EVENING WORLD, WEDNESDAY, APRIL 20, 1921. > pnopsnthanssnopeanonenoge aright, 1921, ridiliebing On, York Evening World.) By Maurice Ketten ALWAYS PRECIOUS KISS YOUR WIFE WHEN YOU CONE LONG HAVE YOu BEEN MARRIED 2 Gomme AND WHEN ALMOST TWO WEEKS TH RENOVAT Fier he's ° BY NEAL R, O'HARA «¢ | The Three “R's” of College Nowadays Are “Rah- Rah-Rah"—The Laddies Enter as Raw Material \. and Exit Four Years Later as Rah Material— | The Transition ls Known as Education. Conyrtant, 1081 on a colleger, Not even a head tax. this rigid course. The laddios enter the college as raw material and exit four years later as rah material, The transi- tion Is known as education, The professors don't teach ‘em the time-tried subjects for fear of making ‘em useful, The three R's of college nowadays are rah-rah- rah, They pack the curriculum with studies like these: ICHTHYOLOGY 1,—The study of fish from the minnow to the red herring, inclusive. Ichthyology 2— Fish, continued, from finnan haddie to sharks. Ichthyology 3—More fish, continued, from swordfish to whales. (Try our special clam chowder on Fridays.) Ichthyology 34—Lecture course by Professor Cubb, “The his- tory of the fish industry from the birth of the worm to the discovery of the sardine can.” (Course meets on meatless days only.) ALCOHOLOGY 39—The study of ancient formulae in the original wood, with plenty of laboratory work. Students entering this course do so. at their own risk. Course XXX open only to eraduate students, NECROLOGY 67—The study of the dead, from beats to heads, with side trip to the Dead Letter Office. GHRMAN 42—History of the Fath- erland from the spring of 1815 to the fall of Hindenburg. Course 43— The growth, expansion and explosion of the empire, with war maps and red and blue tacks to illustrate. BARRERISM 26—The story of dandruff and its growth to world importance. Course B, cutting, stropping and honing. Course ©, tipping. HEI 57—Analysis of the pic- kle industry, with study of warts, wrinkles and other blemishes of the pickle. Those are the courses that make success. The freshman enters col- lege with a carpet bag and four years later exits with a trunk load of white flannel pants. That's progress, They even teach em to write phoioplays. But why go to an agricultaral college to study films when the butchers. are in charge of the scenario department? English dore. at that. trade. his three R's reading Boccaccio, along Politics and Love Do Mix! Miss Charlotte Delafield, Quit Society for Politics Will Marry a Politician and Will Continue to Hold Her Polit- ical Job. Conmriaht. 1921, by the Prow Publishing Co The Now York Evening World.) 66 HEN politics comes in at a W wornan’s door, love will fly out of the window,” the Anti-Suffragists used to assert lu- gubriously. But since women gained the yote many a political romance has flow- ered—and one such romance has just bloomed in N York's City Hall, with the announcement «¢ the en. gagement of Miss Charlo:te Dela field, Secretary President La Guardia of the Board of Aldermen, Miss Delafield's fiance is Robert Mo- Curdy Marsh of No. 45 West 11th ret, And the chiof interest in jife ach of them—aside from each other—is polities and good govern. ment. It was through politics that they met, just a} December, to in | Who lives at No, 20 West 58th Street and is a well known figure in New York's B00, world, crowned her years of earnest work for Suffrage—woman's right to participate in politics—by accepting a political appointment as secretary te the President of the Board of Al- dermen, It was at a reception at about that time in City Hall tat she and Mr. Marsh first met, , t00, sood iepublican, in the Stat bly from the 25th District in New york, and who gave up his candidacy for the Senate to serve in the army. He evidently did not find that inter- est in politics made Miss Delafield any the less interesting to him. Their friendship flourished and engagement is announced, It is understood that Miss Delafield will continue her efficient work at City Hall and her interest In the Re- publican Party after her marriage: she has made no plans to do ot wise. Mr. Marsh, too, doubtless will continue to find politics Interesting The matrimonial partnership will be a political partnership, a union of in- terests in public as well as private uffairs, And so another Anti-Suffrage now their boxy—that no man will fall in love with a political woman—"bites the dust!" A Bachelor Copyright, 1921, by the Prose Pub ishing BACHELOR'S life Not after the age of forty. Joan went back to the country to- day—even Fido appears a little sad. She said she did not lke city food, it made her sick. Sh» has two degrees in domestic science, so maybe that is the reason, I wish I had met her when I was younger wonder ff some one could haye told her about our annual ladies’ night party at the club? Housekeeper left this morning. Sorry now I made such a fuss over @ little burnt pancake. I could have given it to Pido on the side and she would have never known it then. She said I was irritable and touchy. And slept too long in the mornings ui she has gone, however, She was worse than any wife I ever heard a married man talk about Every summer is preceded by win- ’s Notebook Conyright, 1921. by the Prem Pablishing Oo. (Phe New York Byening World.) I man who makes ardent love to a young lady, tells her how haw a sister to educate, a widowed mother to support or some very plaus- gaged for a number of years. Fre- quently this young man declares he and does not wish to announce their engagement until just a few months Many young girls thus waste four or five years with these young met, sister Who was being educated marry, or the mother who was dependent other excuse almost as good why they should not wed or even announce up It is true that many young men do same time the honest man will de- clare his love openly, go to the girl's HERE is a certain type of young much he wants to marry her, but he ible excuse which keeps them en- does not believe in engagement rings before the wedding. and then, when they see the young dies, and still the young man has an- their engagement, she begins to wake have all these obligations, but at the parents or guardian and announce his ©o., (The New York Rvening World.) I broke two glasses and breakfast this out of a hotei pause I hid Fido under Hope I get an answer to soon, Maybe I one p! e table. that advertisement worded it wrong. They say: He will fall some day, And when he does It will be hard, For they all fall some tima And the longer it is away The harder it will be But he still lingers, And they still talk and say He will aurely fall some day, For they always do. Before and always, if a bachelor were to marry he would wonder if his wife could cook; cook more than one kind of meat; bake bread like his grandmother used to bake, and have chocolate cake with half-inch coat- ing ready by 6 o'clock when he tele- phones at 5.80 that he is bringing his boss home for dinner and that is his favorite cake, intended marriage to the world. The moment a young man says he wants not wish to keep matters a secret. More than one girl has listened to this “why I cannot announce our engagement now,” and then, after waiting four or five years, scen the “why I can't” walk off with another girl to Lohengrin, “Preplexed” writes: ‘Dear Miss Vincent: | have been going around with a girl By approve of me, time we meet. ali means do n you meet hir “Dear Miss Vincent: 1 young girl of eighteen and very much in love with a young man of eighteen whose family does not His mother and father both scowl when they see me and treat me shamefully every He is nice to me when We Are alons, but very chilly whenever with his parents, you think he cares for me?” not act 1 as and if h to keep the engagement secret ® Cares tor yuu he will return, Many clever girl begins to wonder why. A a xirl has won her old suitor back by real suitor who means to lead a girl acting “the sume as usual” when she to the marriage license bureau does MYCts h Dae am a Do : ry I don't think b is breaking his who is four years my junior, neart ayer you, my dear, Whenever She is only sixteen and | am aa mun is nol brave enough to be cour- junior at college. To please her teous to * girl under ¢ r umstances: like these [ do not think his affection | bought her things which were oie ts Inuch Iter not waste not exactly proper for a young man to buy. | told her that | could not marry ‘her for several y' ) but she seems to think that 1 will jilt her within the next ear, Should | continue to buy jer these clothes and blouses and let her go on thinking | am not peing to wed her? And how can convince her that | really wish to marry her when | finish my education?” Do not buy her blouses or clothes. This is decidedly improper and un- conventional. If the young lady does not know this you must tell h Better take the money you her and invest it in an engageme! ring and have a thoroug standing with her and her pa your t A’ guardian. “Lonesome” writes: “Dear Miss Vincent: Because | do not dance or like to do so, do you think | will ever find some real girl who will not have the dancing oraze but will be content with evenings spent in a show in- stead of a dance hall?” Where have you been? There are plenty of good little ladies who would be only too glad to go around with you. Not all the girls in the wor) are dance crazy, a certain young man called upon me regularly thre nights a week. Then, for no rea- son, he stopped calling and has not been to my house in nearly six weeks... | have learned he is paying attention to another girl, What would you advise me to do?” “All is fair in love and war," dear, and if the young man p: re another young lady's society to yours (am atraid there is really nothing you Harry n Museums, particularly thinking about Aztee by the Prem Publishing Co, (The New York fventng Worta), '! + N a few weeks more the colleges will be dumping their chiet pfodugts on a world unable to protect itself. There is no tariff or luxury tax ' He comes into the world on,@ free list and goes out into it still a deadhead. Nothing stirs him, from THE THREE “R’ NOWADAYS ARE “RAH-RAH-RAH!” adding up chorus dames’ figures, gets Latin from prescriptions,-G off the frat pins and learn’ on Knowledge is power! college guy never looks like a But remember, the and has it on the non-college din His mind may be biaii match his dad's check, but he where his next three meals areg ing from, That's something!” ~ | ‘There are only two things a ed) leger Is sure of getting straight his hooch and the football sign: After those, nothing else At the end of four years he diploma that proves he’ mat. A diplomat is a guy keeps his mouth shat and credit for knowing something, A chap leaves college with a eral knowledge and finds the digi market is for private informatt All of which proves that the fah- institute is véry good, but Sing & is somewhat better, out of Sing Sing you've learned But say what you may of U The modern varsity laddie spears bow-tie boys, the world couldn’t with writing home for more money and couldn't, efther. the billiard That's w! When you ‘em, The gollegg THE, “ARR oy L. MSC, Copyright, 1921, by ‘The Prem Publishing Co, (The New York Rvening World.) ‘OU remember Mrs. Rangle’s sister-in-law who has hecn visiting her from that City of Kansas?" Mrs, Jarr began, “Kansas City, which is in Missourt, you mean,” replied Mr. Jarr. “What difference does It make—the City of Kansas or Kansas City?" sald Mrs, Jarr, “And I want to tell youalao that it is very impolite of you to in- terrupt and correct me, especially be- fore people! And I wish you'd stop it, for the next time you do anything ke that LM give you your answer, and if there is one thing I despise it is married people making a show of themselves and being sarcastic to each other before strangers—and, anyway, a very large town that has beau- |, wide streets, she told me." ‘ou were saying,” Mr. Jarr Inter- rupted git PARIS HONORS MRS. H, P. WHITNEY’S SCULPTURE exhibition of the sculpture of Mrs. Payne Whitney of New York has opencd in the Gallerie Georges Petit, Paris, under the auspices of Leone fle, Curator of the Luxembourg and The exhibition comprises twenty-seven pieces, of which M, Benedite praises #An he Titanic Spirit of the Red Cross” and “Paganism,” vuntain,” you wher Like sh Jarr, thin: juite a sl ried ag tells me, are alike Mr towntown all ——j TAMILY7 “Oh, yes; the fat one!” sabd Mie Jarr, taking up her discourse, “Dye ‘ the thin one that has a lot of mosey i and js 80 set against home-mate . liquor, so when she's visiting the Rah« they have to pretend ee have it In the house. the fat one is poor—I think Wi band is a telegraph operato '. b real generous and always br} something nice to the children, for all her money, the thin one gives them a cent, but they e: i she'll leave it to them in her But I don't seo the good of that, cause they always outlive you.” “They sure do,” sighea Mr. 4 “and outtalk you, too.” “It came so sudden like,” { Went on without hi aie ie | Just chutched at her heart and fain dead away; and while he did go i mourning for her, he married away again—and, you can say wi ~but 4 man is wearing crepe on sleeve for his first wife and a flo in his buttonhole for his bride! §| was very fleshy.” ' ou said she was thin,” said | “Who' : “Ww ho's thin?" asked Mrs, Jarr,, “Why, Mrs, Rangle'’s cousin ansas City, who died so sudden. de were you talking about?’ Jarr, getting nfused. ‘If You would have a littie patidile and ten, tell y " said Jarr, “Mrs. cousin in a, M purl, or wherever it is, ert Mrs. Snoreby died sudd Chic » dnd Mr noreby mai L very stout trained qurse inalde Bee months urself «to each other.” remember them, I my ne said nek to me ber them very distinctly, but he mag- tin right away, ike, SUPERFLUOUS HAIR Jarr admitted it and wel wondering why, ff i ull women were diffe viii" dataaks | seest aah it, ‘New Werke Chie { i But, al b tee es ' ing him, 4 1 think ‘t's terri And that yet you | the Snor Mr. Jarr, dn't be so hearth | Mrs. Jarr. “It ; I don't rem Mrs, Ran; you see, all you