The evening world. Newspaper, February 13, 1920, Page 25

fiche Our Children To Train Themselves piiab ces Aicwsana Check Was Originated by an Amer- ican Mother asa Simple Method of Training Her Chil- and Parent. m . ¥ panaceas for our economic’ “with the ‘idea that by the enactment of @ law er the adoption of some Peeise ecbenne thay ean be made to CeyrOee Shs 6 SEbaaiem of us. belfishnens be brought about. the future of America to future, 1, @, the child of to-day. he to deal with it upon the level of a children naturally so orderly and systematic that no correction was necessary where the Hittle politnesses of daily life are concerned? Mre, Lord . laughed and said, *Not at all; I will explain the mys- tery’ And J shall let her do so in her own words.” Tt all came about because I wanted to enjoy my children,” said the smother of eight. “I ‘wanted to do my best for them and with them and at the same time, while doing that I wanted to get pleas. ure and happin: out of it—not strife and reiteration and petty cares, so after three or four little ones’ had arrived and the Young sprouts had begun to shoot and was finding myself travelling the vame circle of Instructions and admo- nitions in almost daily repetition and at times getting a little bit ‘on edge’ in-the process I felt it was time to Dual Oe Sp and use my head, i¢ T had one. ‘ t then were the things which 1 anid them to do? What are a small child's proper responsibilities that he should be able to follow with- out constant pushing? ‘Wea, there was a matter of the child's personal hygiene, such as daily bath, cleaning of teeth, turning down of bed covering on arising, &c. there was the subject of punctuality in doing things—promp: ness in getting up in the morning, promptness at meal times, promptness ‘in going to bed at the appointed hour. Algo the matter of manners and behavior. Proper table manners, proper and respectful ways of ad- dressing older people, their parents and others. I qwanted them to‘ be orderly as well; that is, to keep their rooms and closets in order, their toys picked up and put away when through playing nd to develop orderly habits, ‘Ae f thought it over, it seemed tile @ pretty big list, wonderful if it could @ij be accomplished, but how? At this point I consulted Charles, my husband, and together we took @ sheet of paper and ruled up what we called a ‘Child's Allowance Chart.’ We ruled os ey down columns for each day of the week and cross columns with the duties to be per- formed and allotted a scale of ‘points’ to them. ‘To the easier things we allotted one or two points; to those more difficult, four or five. Each eheet represented one week, and our plan was to have the children set down in the column of the day, as Monday, opposite each of the items the number of points earned, and when they had missed doing a thing or failed in proper manners they took cipher for that thing. You would be surprised how the children took to it. I should have told you that the number of possible points for a day, everything being pertect, was fifty, or a total of 350 for a ‘week, and we adopted a number as a divisor, always dividing by seven in the instance of the older children and by fourteen for the younger ones. As they could not ibe expected to have a porfeat score, this would mean that older child having perhaps 300 pointe diyided by seven would g forty-thre® cents that week, and a small Bhild with the same score Givided' by fourteen would rece: which was about twenty-two cents, the weekly allowance for spending money we were gatisfied to have them receive. It was, of course, un- derstood that they were to have mo other money given them. As I was saying, the children took to it at once. Al first it appealed to them a6 a sort of a game and then as the end of the week came around and they received their money they realized that they had earned { Haw long did a child use the chart? ‘They usually begun when about five or six and kept it up until thir- teen or fourteen. After that they were too mature to need it and as a matter of fact their habits and to a great extent attitude had become more or less fixed. So, | have now tld you all about dt, have exposed Lat as control some of our impatience and turn our thoughts and our Gome one has said: “Give me the child in the first seven years of his ' Bife and any one can take him-efter that.” Perhaps that might be amended “to cover the first fifteen years of life TA'Gpafing with the child, {t seem to me that the successful way must _ dren in Correct Daily Habite—it Inculcates in Them a ' Sense of Honor and Makes the Formation of Proper “Habits of Conduct and Manners a Pleasure to Both Child By Mrs. Charles E. -Lord YT eamrnieht, 1920, ty The Press Publishing Ca, (The Now Yoek Brening World.) HAT is the matter with America? and women, so-called leaders. of opinion, rushing in with ‘Wo ee well-intentioned men and. social ills, apparently infatuated what will. be the real factor ip that child, not upon the level of a grown- ‘@p; in other words, to deal with tt simply and by simple methods rather ‘by repression or exhortation, always seeking to stimulate the child as far as possible govern itself and be self-helpful and self-reliant. (The writer of this illuminating article is the mother of eight children, nd recently entertained a friend for several days at her home near New York City.—Ed.) Let the friend spenk a few lines: “{ must confess that in anticipating my visit I had pictured continual jon. Happy confusion, no doubt, but to me eight children within four walls oe nothing but bediam. ecntrolled, law, which means of orderly habits, seif-disciplined, conscientious. educators and one or two j schéols wrote me about it. So, — Charles said: ‘I think, dear, that you have something the world wants,’ and 60 we copyrighted It and printed it and’ put it in the stores, hoping that many mothers may get the sume help from it that I have, RS, JARR was of a particularly sensitive nature, so far as her husband was concerned—that is, she did not mind eo much what other poople maid te her; she could listen carelessly or angwer back acridiy; but let her husband say one word in imovatience or scoffing jest, and then the war medicine com- menced to seethe. Thus, to-day, for some simple thing, the entente cordiale was shat- tered for the time being; hostilities had broken out succeeded by a sul- len armistice of silence, which in turn was followed by an tmpartial chanting of wrongs recently remem- bered. At this stage of the proceedings marrig! couples talk as though to a third party—this third party may or may not be present. In this case no third party was present, Gut Mrs. Jarr led off in this wise: “T'm sure I get no thanks for try- ing to do what's right in this house! Women that don't care are thought more of and @re treated better!" “{ don’t see what more @ man can do than, 1 do!" muttered Mr, Jarr, with his eyes cast upward. “A saint couldn't please her.” This remark, remember, was not addressed to Mrs. Jarr, but to some non-existent, ghostly comforter. Orally to Their Auras, “He talks of saints!” said Mrs. Jarr to the absent third party. “A man who acts like a flend—who acts like @ perfect fiend!” “If a man don't bust out with tt,” explained Mr. Jarr to the yisible anbiter—“if @ man don't bust out, just for relief, somewhere, somehow, some way, sudh as swearing or breaking things, he’d just go crazy especially when he can't get a drink anywhere these days!” This last was in @ low tone—but not too law. “My nerves can stand !t no more, Airs. Jane continued to the empty air. The Jarr Family By Roy L. McCardell Consrisht, 1920, by The Prem Publishing Co. (The New York Evening World.) Ctr nnn nnn AAA RRA RRA RAR AAA AAARAAAAARRRAAD AAACN Sweet Bells Never Jangle Qut of Tune—At Least Not When There’s a Ringer In. FATTY, SEE iF saci Ger IN KITCHENETTE We IT WON'T DO THE KITCHENETTE I Too WE HAVE A ‘FLAT WITH A Big KITCHEN Nou Bert! ICAN'T GET IN IT TOWASH THE DISHES YYou ARE STUCK ON THE KITCHENETTE Oy “He can get drink—he does get drink. The men all get drink, anyhow, and it costs dreadfully!” “What do they want, what do they want, anyway?” asked Mr. Jarr of the unseen, appealingly—he knew whal he wanted, but there was none in the house. “A man cap't say @ word. A man works like a ; he never has @ decent suit of clothes; he can't af- ford to go out himself and he's afraid) to bring a friend to his house. Wher does 4 man get out of it all?” “If only young girls knew!” said Mrs. Jarr to the absent third party. “It young girls knew that when they married ed were giving up every. thing—and for what? For nothing sald Mrs. Jarr, answering herself. “ hired girl gets her terrible high wages. When her work is done she can go out and enjoy herself. If a cross word is spoken to her she can leave. But a wife—look what a wife has to put up with! Ghe is an unpaid slave; ele is treated as if she had no soul of her own, She is expected to be patient and oheerful and submissive and abjedt when she's stormed at and sworn at"—— here Mrs. Jarr choked back a tear. Behind His Own Back, “If a man wasn't nagged at all the time,” said Mr. Jarr, taking no heed to Mrs. Jarr whatever, and talking ag though behind his own back, “if a man wasn't rowed at and had a Little peace and comfort in his home, or if anybody had any respect for him, why, why” “Please, ma'am,” said Gertrude, the Jarms' domestic profiteer, putting her head in the door, “Mrs. Stryver’s here fund says can she come in?” Mrs. Jarr jumped up quickly. goodness sake, “For don’t fet her see us quarreling he cried as the git withdrew, “Let's pretend we love each other, at least! “Why pretend?" asked Mr. “Don't we love each other?” Yes, wo do!” said Mre. Jarr, put- ting her arms around him and kissing him. “And you are a big softy to pay any attention to anything | sa: Jerr. “I declare, you two are the two greatest old married gushers!” said Mrs. , looking in. “Don't you ever @ like mermal married peopl But Mr. and Mrs. Jarr laughed the idem,to scorn, thus “Ha, hal” Glimpses Into New York Shops Copyright, 1920, by The Press Publishing Co. (The New York Brening World.) At the glove counters they tell us that prices of gloves will be stagger- ing with the incoming of the Easter supplies. And still we keep on wear- ing them and paying the exorbitant prices. However, the sales slips show that many women are discarding the akin glove entirely and substituting the fabric glove. These are now be- ings manufactured in styles quite as Deautiful as thoge in kid, and special attention is given to attain a perfect fit and make them desirable for dressy as well as general wear. In the new silk gloves the white is the leader. Metal brocades evidently have come to stay. All winter we have deen using them in hate, dress trim- mings, begs and slippers? and now we seo them as girdles om dresses and vests in the spring suits. They continue to be popular as evening ats, Sandals are the favorite slipper for evening wear and they vie for popu- larity with the novelty strap models. The stippers in bright metal brocaded silk are in demand and are usually worn with gowns of plain color satin or velvet. By the way, keep slippers of metal fabrics wrapped in black tissue paper and they will not tarn- 6 . The shops are showing large Jeweled brooches which women are wearing pinned at the breast pocket line of tailored suits and dresses, It is an idea introduced by women, com- ing from overseas where nearly every soldier you meet is decorated, anc women over in France like the idea #o well that they have adopted the breastpin and wear it just as their husbands and brothers wear the ser- vice insignia. Parrot green “has | been a populer color this winter and many of the new garments for Southern wear show this brilliant color in the trim- mings. And then there are scarfs, veils and parasols in the same color and, éven the jewelry shows a pre- dominance of green. The new collars of bisque-colored batiste, net or organdy are very dain. ty, and are just the thing to reliev« the dark taffeta and street frock for spring, They are narrow, as is ihe mode now in collars, and come shapes, ‘doth in the square ead ovet / Do You Revise Your Vision? By Sophie Irene Loeb Copyright, 1920, by The Preas Publishing Co. (The New York Rrening World.) eee ie Successful Man of To-Day is Always Open ct Minded and Heeds the Opinions of Others. z A PROMINENT business man made the following significant “ {go by. ‘Their vision has remained at _,_fommente to me the other day: | 4 standutill. They have looked only “I find that the people who really/in their immediate foreground and arrive are those who not only have vision, but failed to see ahead,” are reflection. know on whom we something like this: “There's Jones not’ afraid to re- vise their vision. The trouble with many workers to- day is that think they vision, they know something well and can do @ certain task in an experienced man- ner, they have der, yet there old thing he has done for years, because happen to get out of that rut. He goes along going good work, Geowla veers Wome has not brought out his best, “Such people go right along, but they do not forge ahead. They do not expand their view of things. They are content to go along in the same so-called efficient groove sometimes never. change it. “It may be constant and safe enough to give them a fairly good lv- ing, but they do not advance them- any further than the present. and his “slant” on once been sure and successful, unwilling to change. and paves! te bay Kecaeaniy aioe) sasal his appreysl he is prone to cast Such people in the main are not un aaide and Gepend Upon Die: past success only. ambitious, else they could not have arrived at even this degree of effi- clency. But haying labelled them.| #4 Rot the other fellow’s, In plain selves “good workers,” and ahways|P#flance, he does not like to change looking forward to the day of oppor-|"/8 mind. ‘This is a very dangerous tunity when eomething better mighi| ting Ideed—the man who hates to come along, they do not allow their change his mind. vision to go far enough to be able| I have known many men who are to grasp the opportunity when it does|!m the midst of big inatters, and | come. have yet to find one such wo has not “In other words, being satisfied | been glad to acknowledge that he has 1 his mine thing som that the thing the they do not make are doing is good, the proper effort to make it better or to find some other ung it way of Improving upon it to the ex-| In other words, the successful man | tent that it will make their sery the day not only has vision which more necessary in their particular ' t others but work. glad to revise that vi on on “This 4e one of ihe big reasons why-ahance of belles resulla, there are so muny good people that never seom to get better as the years This presents considerable food for How many people do we pass comment he has all the ear- narks of being at the top of the lad- he is doing the same He is 60 clover and intelligent,” &c., and you wonder why on eurth he doesn't from day to day but the truth is the whole trouble lies in the fact that he | ® His line of vision has not penetrased Then on the other hand, there 1s the person who thinks that bis Judgment things havi He sees only his own line of vision, dy else ‘hag contributed the The Modern Wife Must Be Be An Intellectual Comrade To Hold Husband’s Lm sae t Declares Robert W. Chambers _ Much of the Married Infejicity “*Clinging Vine” Type; Now That Woman Has Interests in Life—Professional, Business and Both Husband and Wife Than Ecer Before. I i By Fay Stevenson °§, ~ Coprright, 1920, br The Pres Publishing Co, (The New York Stening World) 5 the new woman, the busineas woman, the professional woman, the ba Jo 2 cal woman, going to make & change In love? Are'men going to admire her for her salaried gbility, sional skill of her potitioal views (and Politieal positions)? 4 . ‘ J tho old ditty, “Can she make Can she make i —soing to be substitufed to: “How much cam she earn, charming Billy?” Not for one moment do we mean to suggest that man (at least some men) wili consider the salary of\the modern woman when he falis in love with her, Dut cers — tainly this new woman is bound to inspire a new love in the breast of her admirers. The embroidering, pn Has Been Caused, by ‘ter ie Golag 4: cherry pie, Billy boy, Billy box; oberry pie, charming Billy? from those which he of love and the new woman. yesterday morning bright and early One has to catch Mr. Chambers early @ man writes from 9 in the morning No on Chambers. “No do for her?” 1 asked. nett, lo ally | thi political interests, both hi through the lon jim, that it might be. moves and has her being, haa solved remembered to say admires instead vine ways?” I asked. “This is a change which has take ‘being a parasite in life. “But if by chance there should shakes his head ‘that woman's place and hers too, There was a change though the air had received an extra of Jill's post as Jill herself. rival, She talked to Jack as one life wa She clung tess i like an oak and ‘This new woman getting more like her European whiche of their own, and with that spirit radeship and happ in married lectual interests. | think the modern man greatly woman. No matter how fascinating, how pretty; how sweet a be, she must be an intellectual comrade to hold her husband's admira~ i yt of married years. As soon ag a husband feels no’ interested in hi me subjects which he vitkees the tie that bind “But this woman who has her own interests, her own world in which she business efficiency, her professional or arti ful political views rather than her ‘Allec-sit'by-the-fre; eweet little in the future,” replied Mr. Chambers, can come from woman's cutting through her four walls and taking an active part in the outside world,” laughed Mr. Chambers, “let him réad arage Bennett's description of the modern Jack and Jill. “Jil took the place. Jack could no longer feel the sensuous secret thi due to the fact that a beloved woman was waiting, waiting all day'for | to return, living solely for him and tn him and on him. Yet-his spirits splendid,” para- site, clinging vine woman is gone. Tho new woman {8 independent, byt! own thoughts and goes her own ways. Therefore will man not around and base his love for her upon entirely different feminine qualities t his father's or his grandfather's heart on fire? In fact he has written a inet yy ee article upon, the current issue of Harper's Bazaar.” And because Mr. Bennett sees this new change and favors it, I hurried to Robert W. Chambers, our celebrated novelist and serial writer, in order to aes) hie T am strong, very strong for this new woman,” declared Mr. Chambers at his home, No. 43 Kast 834 Street. if one wishes t talk to him,-for whem until 7 at night steadily there ts little time to seo him unless one arises with the birds. admires this new woman more than I do,” continued Mr. the war developed her, brought her out in full bloom lke a rose; but she was aiming for her independent goal right along. My ohly surprise Is that she hasn't arrived sooner!” “And now that she has arrived, how is she going to change man’s love 1 don't quite like the word love,” objected Mr. Chambers. “With” 's change the word love to admire. k that a great deal of the married infelicity has been caused by the clinging vine type. New that woman has her ewn in life, now that she has her business field, her professions and her and and wife are going to be far happier wife to have her own intel imires this ¢; interested in the’ innate stroma. ox! many an unhappy situation. ‘| her and for her husband is going to be very full” "a/ “And when a young man admires a young woman (I rejoiced of loves) “he wil albmire her career oF possibly ‘n place and will continue to take “Woman used to pride herself She was only happily married when ehe-could of the luxury and pomp lavished upon her. be an old fashioned man who ord is in the home’ and nothing Dut harm in the alr of their home. It was charge of oxygen, Jack was as Jack's business ceased in Jill's eyes to be worker to another, She knew and Jack perceived that be past, included Mr, Chambers, “She ie ers; eepecially the French women. who always win and hold a man's admiration, | used to attribute European education, which meant #6 much more than:ou! ite decided whether it is this education ittle new, for our women have caught ints rit, the spirit of independence, of individuality, of rf charm, by work or business’ | believe we shall have more com- life than ever before.” Copyright, 1920, by The Press Publishing AYOR Cyrus Perkins Walker of M Jelht in a card in the Bazoo nnounces that he ts for Prohi- bition and will not tolerate drunken- ness on the city’s streets. The an- nouncement comes as @ surprise to many Delhians, as Mr, Walker had let the Impression get around that he was not keen about the “dry” law. His taking a stand in the matter came after an incident that occurred on Main street Wednesday ‘afternoon. As the Mayor was passing the Dreamaway Theatre, which was di charging its matinee crowd onto the sidewalk, he was approached by & seedy-looking individual who was un- doubtedly intoxicated. This person, he 18/\ho was unknown to the Mayor, ac- When some- body comes along with an idea or a Suggestion that does not immediately | cording to Mr. Walker's version of it, took his arm and began singing loud- ly: “Legh git anuzger drink, Cyrus.’ The Mayor attempted to get away from the man, but the latier stuck like a leech. Just as Mrs. Elisha Q rertle, promptress of the Women’s Petterment League, came out of the theatre the man yelled, “Old Cy a me ig drunk agin. The matinee tonished. “Well, I declare!” said Mrs, Pertle. » that oh our Mayor! His friend is almost as tipsy as he is." patrons were 45- wore intoxicated as be Was strugsling to free himself, Suddenly both fell, 4 it was then that the Mayor broke ay. He was indeed indignant ng the crowd, he said: Brown here?” Constable je The job, sir!" replied the officer, pping forward. Arrest that mant A fight followed in which Consta Brows Was knocked down four Ume but he got his man to jail by making him think they were going to a shun- : ~ — oo It did look as though the Mayor | r of Delhi By Bide Dudley Co. (The New York Bvening World.) es8. “My friends,” he said, “an effort has. been made to blacken me in your e8- timation.” “Impossible!” yelled @ man, “Thank yo “You gouldn't be blacker.” he Mayor finally explained tt the seedy Individual hed been diten liquor by some anti-Walker Demo-« crate and made to claim friendship with him in omer to defeat hifn in bie race for.re-election, The explanation was some, but others were of the nevertheless, that flock together.” by “binds of @ feather ‘The idea prevails in many quarters that the Mayor hae friends who drink and that possibl; he takes liquor now and then himself, ‘The whole town is talking, There is much indignation. ADVERTISEMENT How to Take Care of a Child’s Teeth Every up-to-date mother will the little ones a child’s-size tosth brush and a good dental preparation and see that they use botlr d will not permit chlorate and ¢arbolic acid tooth others likely to prove harmful. Prof. Lewis B. 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