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«6 ae ae AR ad oe ame ‘wr oe o oad he « i MONDAY, JUNE 2, 9 ites Not Another Woma But Her Husband’s Job” When a Man Is Made to Choose Between a Woman and His Career,’’ Says Novelist Tod Robbins, “‘ He Should Stick to His Career—Girl Who Would | Marry Him Only on Condition That He Give Up His Dearest Ambitions Should Be Put Out of His Life.” By Marguerite Mooers Marshall OVE or a career—which? No, this is NOT another of those interviews with a flaming femi- nist, who believes a husbaw@ should be dust beneath the chariot reel of any woman who by her Art can make as much as $10 a week, Deadliest Rival n, ‘Coprright, 1919, by The Press Publishing Ca, (The New York Rvening World). es yar Nor will you be asked to read—to-day, anyway—the purling sentimentalities of the “old-fashioned woman” who talks of Giving All for Love, and acts on the prin- ciple of taking from Jove all the traffic will bear. It is only the exceptional woman, even to-day, who | has anything like a career to renounce or not to re-| nounce for the man she loves. But are not men con-| tinually being confronted by the parallel dilemma reer in Eden wi threw away his career as ‘When the issue is drawn for the man between the work he ita to do and the woman he wants love, how does he decide? "The deadiiest rival of the Ameri- wife or sweetheart is not another Seeen but an American job. Yet the woman who seeks to destroy this . #iyal destroys her own happiness” ‘That is the conclusion drawn by an x young man, Tod Robbins, Whose newly published realistic Hovel, “Red of Suriey,” is one of the host promising pieces of fiction done im this country for a long time. @T ie the story of the son of a fisherman in a Long Island village, has ambitions and ideals which litt him far above his sur- Woudings. Yet, in the end, the com- hen-minded little woman him and clips his wings. He ___ might have continued to fight against (NW deddening influences of poverty J sordid environment. He obvi- hasn't a chance to do anything except catch fish like his father be- fere him, after his loneliness and affections have betrayed him a a. marriage with the woman who wants to “mother” him but who does i @ream of understanding him. “Your hero,” I told Mr. Robbins, has done exactly what everybody always advises a woman to do—he, hag made love and its gratification the most important thing in life. Yet Wels decision makes of him a pitiful, @imost a contemptible figure.” “Hie is going to have a lot of bad half- hours,” the novelist admitted. “He is going to regret, deeply and often, giving ur the work he loved for his wife. As he broods over it, he may even turn against her, as #0 many men haye turned against the women “who thwarted thelr ambitions.” “Then you think that when a man to choose between a woman and work be should sacrifice the jan?” I asked. were put into the world for purpose than for mak- Yove,” he summed up, terely, man should sacrifice the finest of him—his ambitions and When a woman tells him he must choose between his and herself, there is no ques- that he should stick to his ca- Love may be a part of his ut the best work he ds cap- of holng 15 his life, and the is greater than any of its ich really, you know, ts the ex- @lanation of the peychology of men Harry Mawker, who leaves & wife and a nice little baby to perilous seas and the faery forlorn of the uncharted sicy. “It doesn't seem fair to the woman who loves him,” I have sald when heard of such feats. Yet just how would humanity have advanced oft eavagery if every married man had refused to risk his life or stay from his wife? That is the of it, Nevertheless, I know ‘@pe woman who thanks her etars ther husband doesn't want to be an aviator or a polar explorer. “To a man bis work should be more Geveloped sach importance in the Far East as the soya pean, products are used at home as a ae @ fertilizer, and for lighting lubricating purposes, and are ex- oll and bean cake. As a the principal ingredient of replaced pet: in China when lack shipping facilities kept the product market. soya beans are generally and harvested although Have they not always struggled with it? = -trough his yielding to the woman he loved. Mark Soya Bean, One of China’s Staple Foods © single vegetable product has | Adam's ca- ruined irretrievably, we are told,| world conqueror for the love of important than love, yet no man really sacrifices love for work,” Mr. Robbins continued paradoxically, “ ‘Love,’ for which he must trample under foot the best of himself is not love at all. Suppose he thinks himseif in love with an unscrupulous girt who wants @ great deal of money and who will marry him only on condition that he give up his dearest ambitions and make money swiftly, perhaps discred- itably, She is not really the woman for him, and the sooner he puts her out of his life the better. Likewise he is foolish if he marries the super- flolal girl, who may not be heartless but who is too shallow to understand him. The attraction she may have for him will be a transitory thing.” “Perhaps,” 1/ suggested, “he had better not marry, if he wants a career, Do you agree with Kipling that “Strong hearts faint by a warm hearthstone, He travels the fastest who travels alone’? “T don't agree with that at all,” he replied, “From the ideal hearthstone @ man goes forth refreshed and ‘warmed for the battle of life, With the right sort of wife he will travel faster and farther than he could go alone. “She is the woman who does not laugh at his ideals or nag the life out of his ambitions, She keeps his torch alight with the breath of her interest and encouragement. she understands that, even from e selfish point of view, it is better for him to have work which absorbs him for hours every day, in order that absence and outside interests may send him back to. her with an ever fresh realization of the wonder of her and of their love. If you want @n emotion to last you must not overwork it, , * “It is true that the American busi- ness man sometimes carries too far ‘his devotion to the job of money- making, fram the viewpoint of do- mestic happiness, Jealousy in the American wife is mere commonly aroused by her husband's work than by another woman, and I think sho not infrequently has a case, Yet un- less she handies the situation with tact ahe is more likely to antagonize her husband than to recapture his in- terest,” “Wouldn't it be a good idea,” I suggested, “for her to cultivate a few interests of her own? Why should Rot women, as well as men, have the joy of coming back to the shelter of love after the struggle to realize am- bitions?” “Love-making and career-making ought not to conflict. for either sex,” agreed Mr, Robbins. “Why think | we must choose between them? Why |not take both? In the complete life, they synchronize.” Or, as it is written in an old poem T like; "Beloved, let us both work so well, ‘That all our work is richer'for our love. And still our love is sweeter for our work.” three minor varieties are planted in | April and harvested in July. There are nineteen kinds of soya beans oul- tivated in China, but those cultivated for oil are known as the Month White Bean and the ater White Bean. These are generally ro- tated with winter crops of wheat, barley, ay watchs are harvested some weeks ore he beans ary planted. Seeds are broadcasted and turned under in carefully prepared beds and then replanted, generally in about ten days. No fertiliser is required for soya beans, the roots of } plant gathering nitrogen from the sof. The native farmer, while not un- derptansing the scientific reason, nows experience that grow well without fortiiser and that @ moment and will be explained later). How the a Eee nang, gngnaron PILOT, LT, E.F, JONES PILOT, UT HINTON NC.-4’s Crew Is Quartered While Flying Diagram Showing Where the Commander Is Stationed, Where the Pilots Sit, Accommodations for the Radio Operator and the Mechanician, and. Sleeping Quarters and Connecting Passageway COMMANDER ALBERT C. READ sss ——= —S SCALDS VERY OND should have snugly tucked away in a convenient corner u little emergency case labelled “Quick Aid to the Injured.” A shoe box will hold the following articles: Halt a dozen bandages varying in width from 1 to 4 inches, A spool of adhesive plaster 2 inches wide A tourniquet (this can be made in label praperly. carron oil, A roll of absorbent cotton. @ cotton pad, A package of sterile gauze. A pair of scissors, A band brush, A bottle of liquid soap (tincture of green soap is the best), A glass vial containing 1 dozen bi- chloride of mercury tablets 1.1000 etrength. A email bottle of phenol sodique A bottle of carbolized vaseline. A package of bicarbonate of soda. A bottle of boracic acid, A %-ounce botile of tincture of sodine. Thus equipped we are ready to render first aid in almost any every- day household injury. Lack of effi- cient kitchen help is causing many minor accidents, notably scalds and burns. Now the first thing to remember in scalds and burns is to apply nothing dry that will etick, and so tear off the skin upon removal, therefore all ap- plications must be wet or olly, The second thing to remember in exten- sive burns ts to protect the part from air, not ony for the relief of pain but to prevent air-born infection. There is nothing more painful than @ eteam e@cald; when but alight the part should be covéred with wet bi- carbonate of soda (cooking, not wash- ing #oda) or plunged in a strong so- lution of cooking soda and cold water. Other remedies are white of egg and olive oll, olive or limeed ail, plain or mixed with chalk or whiting, If the soaid is extensive, sprinkle liberally with cooking soda and cover with soft cloths wrung out of very cold water, Turpentine liniment is a valuable gemedy for ordinary burns and one that should be on every kitchen shelf. ‘This liniment can easily be made by meiting over a low temperature 13 patient is hurried pletety, Cov feet, by the famous wax and resin, eves almovt stimulates beans are more productive than other fields, Thus cotton is often planted one: spring and beans the next, although wheat is always the fields that have been planted with winter crop. With an abundance of, What to Do Until The Doctor Comes By Charlotte C. West, M. D. Series of Articles \britten Especially for The Evening World Cut Gut and Save in Your Home Copyright, 1919, by The I’ress Publishing Co, (The'New York Evening World), AND BURNS ounces of resin cerate, merely ‘melted | as quickly as possible, ounces of olj of turpentine until smooth mixture results, ‘Turpentine Liniment: Por Barns. One of the most popular remedies for the reliet of @tensive burns is which consists of equal parts of lime water and linseed oll The mixture is to be applied freely with or without cloths, or by means of whichever may most convenient; of chief importance is to cover the injured area liberally with oll, then cover with oll-soaked cloths until the doctor arrives or the When a child suffers an extensive burn, or falls into boiling water, the litle body should immediately be oov- ered with a clean cloth; ofls or gatur- ated solution of bicarbonate of soda, or whatever remedy is handiest, oan then be poured quickly and liberally upon the sheet, drenching it “com- with a bienket. Most children die of shock—et ance administer a stimulant—whiskey good (1 or 2 teaspoonfuls in a little water), and place hot bottles at the If the doctor ts a long time coming—and off his been used, pro- cure more after the above first aids have been administered and keep the parts well soaked; and water has been applied, get picric acid and spray this on generously Ali druggists carry this in stook. Doubtless everyone quainted with the antbrine method of treating extensive burns, a method perfected at the front during the war Miraculous things have complished with it upon the eoldiers who received such injuries, The chief substance in ambrine is paraffin, other ingredients are bees- probably now using the treatment for these cages, as ft re instantaneously and quick chemists in our large cities are pre- pared to furnish @ preparation of this character, and while it mag not be ambrine, it answers the same pur- pose, #0 it is well to remember this, then add 8 a Be sure to be to a hospital, if cooking soda is now ac- Dr. Alexis Carrel been ac- All hospitals are paraffin healing, Many cheap fertiliser no definite rotation of crops is attempted. Weeding is done frequently, espectally after season, and the withi used to fertilize other fields, the, rainy ered weeds are ? TWO MINUTES OF OPTIMISM By Herman J. Stich Copyright, 1919, by the Press Publishing Co, (The-New York Evening World.) Can You Bite? OU won't stand firm till you stand on your own feet. The further you lean back the harder you'll fall when your mainstay is detached. You,will begin to fare well when you say farewell to “pull.” The more you seek or accept the consideration others are de- nied, the more you're coddled when others are kicked, the more you're feted when others are fettered—the harder will be your lot when-you must tltimately make headway of your own motive power. The more you're sequestrated and fostered, the more your path is smoothed and obstruc- tions removed, the warmer you're hothoused—the more cer- tainly and the more suddenly will you succumb when you're exposed to the modern Olympus —competition and comparison. If you've always been babled, you'll never father any enter- prise, Your parenthetical props can't shield you forever. Eventually the need for curtailment will arise and you'll go—parenthesis and all, Then how will you walk if you haven't even learned to crawl? And how can you ex- pect to run if you never walked without a stick? If you've never made progress off crutches, how will you possibly sustain your- self without them? You never manoeuvred a pad- dle, What will yon do when the water begins to lap into your oat. You never sat unsupport- ed in the saddle. You never tamed a coltish job, What will happen to yon when circum- stance grips the bit between its teeth and has its own head? You're trying to travel to suc- cess in a balloon—you'll have to walk back. In these days everything of any account is engineered by men who neither sought nor bought favor. They labored un- constrained and unconfined, They thought and fought unen- thralled and unfettered of obli- gation to “pull.” They cut taeir (qading strings when they dis- carded their swaddling clothes. They preferred adventurous in- dependence to precarious de- pendence, To-day we trust them because they trusted themselves, ‘We'll take a chance on them because they took a chance on them- selves. They made their way by hew- every inch of their ground. In no way can we conceive them deficient, because they were al- ways self-sufficient. And you? Face the mirror squarely, Scrutinize yourself appraising- ly. And pronounce judgment aloud, Well—you needn't say it aloud if it hurts. Waisper it-—if you must. “I've been muzzled so long—I've been pampered and petted with so much soft stuff— my teeth haven't tackled any- thing tough for such an age— 1 CAN'T BITE!” Can YOU? i MONDAY, JUNE 2, 1919 So Many French Girls Marrying U. S. Soldiers Rules Had to Be Printed French Laws Make Marriage No Easy Accomplish- ment for Doughboys, and French Mothers Worry Over Their Daughters’ Happiness in America, but This Doesn’t Keep Cupid From Being Very, Very Busy. By Elizabeth Van Benthuysen Copyright, 1919, by The Press Publishing Co. (The New York Evening World), PARIS, May 15. © common have become the marriages of French girls to Americany S soldiers that an official pamphlet has been issued giving the legal requirements and formalities for the marriage of Americans im France, and many anxious French mothers are flooding the mails with ing their way, by fighting for . the border and that my child is in di The next one asked: “Is it true that polygamy exists my gon-in-law will have the right to take as many wives as he pleases?” Mr. Charles Gerson Loeb, promi- nent, in the legai colony in Paris, was selected to draw the pamphlet which sets forth the demands made by the French law on the about-to-be-wed, and he has been called upon often to make explanations to the French as to the rights that the women have in America. I found the American Ambassador of Cupid in his office at No. 36 Ave- nue de Opera. Here are his instruc- tions to lovelorn American doughboys and French girls: ‘Marriage in France is essentially a civil contract. This principle was established by the Constitution of 1791 and has been consecrated ever since by the laws of the French Re- public, and the Penal Code at this day forbids any minister or priest of any church or cult to give a marriage benediction to persons who have not previously justified to them that their marriage has been celebrated by com- petent civil officers, that is to say, by the Mayor of the town or district in which at least one of the parties has resided for a month, “It follows that in France the re- ligious cc!ebration of a marriage is of no practical importance whatsoever and has no legal forcg or effect. “All Americans, whether civilians, officers or soldiers, forming a part of ~|the American Expeditionary Forces in France are subject to these same rules when they contract a marriage in France, and it makes no difference whether the bride is of American or foreign nationality. Therefore, in all cases of the marriage of an American in France the ceremony should be carried out in conformity with the French law and by a French Mayor. The laws of the United States hold | valid a marriage contracted in | France between two Americans or be- tween an American and a French cit- izen, or between an American and a foreign citizen of any other country if the marriage is done in accordance with the French law.” /'There are twenty districts in Paris alone, each having its own Mayor, and the American here must, of course, reside in the district for a month, or the girl must have done 80. The pamphlet goes on to say that the test of capacity to marry in France is nationality and domicile, that the person wishing to marry will be governed by the laws of his own country as to age iimit, the produc- tion of a birth certificate, parental consent and the publication of bans. In other words, an American marries \according to French ceremony and Odd Wedding Customs in Other Landsi In the Hawaiian Islands— Dancers Perform- ing Butterfly Dance at a Wedding Festival questions as to the status of their daughters when they come to America, with the men who followed Pershing. “My daughter is eoon to marry an American soldier of the West,” wrote one French woman. “Is it true that still the Sioux Indians are om anger in going there?” ‘always in the United States and that phen hada atalino eindRtneent hens law, but his capacity to de 0 im governed by the laws of the Stater from which he comes. As there ane forty-eight of these in the United® States and each has a difference of” marriage laws, the question has ite own peculiar possibilities, ‘Where the French law requires, fort instance, that the parties must pro-~+ duce birth certificates, the States im America have no such requirement, and the French require an afidevit/ from an American as to his birth, at. tested by the certificate of a 1 who is accredited at the American Consulate. “This aMdavit,” runs the instruc~ tions for the newlyweds, “must be im’: the French language, must be swortt to before a duly qualified American, Consul in France, and then legalized. by>the French Ministry of Foreign Affairs, and must contain: “1, The name of the person (full Christian and surname). “2, Place and date of birth. “3. The full name of his or her father, and the mention whether or not he is living or deceased. “4. The full name of his or hen mother and also as to whether living or deceased. “5. The domicile of the parties and their residence in the United States, “6. The fact whether he or she bas ever been married before, and if #0, the manner of termination of such previous marital relation; “7, If divorced, full details concern- ing the divorce; if a widow or wid- ower, full details concerning the first, marriage and the date of the deceasa of first husband or wife, “8—It naturalized place and date of completion of naturalization.” ‘The lawyer's certificate to make, this hold has to state that the parties are of marrying age in the Stato where they reside; that no birth cer= tiflcate is essential; that the consent of parents is not necessary and thatwe in America it is not required to pubs lish the bans, One would fancy that all of these; details would be enough, but there ara some more to face the American who. is bringing home a wife. ‘ ‘The landlord or the janitor of the house where the parties live must” give them a certificate of domieile’ showing more than a month's resi- dence in the particular Arrondisement or district, and then the Mayor, may make the pair one. While one need not publish the banss in America, under the French law, they have to be published in Francat for all marriages. Usually the period! is for ten days, but a special dispen- sation is given soldiers and war workers by the official who corre-, sponds to the District Attorney in this country.