The evening world. Newspaper, October 8, 1903, Page 15

Why Do omen = the rong Men? : [sssesssssessesnseenmnnnnnnnnmen Lair Readers of The Evening World Will Be Given Prizes for Answers to Three Quesifanga ‘By Harriet Hubbard Ayer. According to a number of our contributors to this interesting contest women frequently. marry the wrong man because they are talked into a marriage which Is not on the woman's part based on deep and eincere love. Personally I think the woman who is talked into a marriage he has no inclination for is a very weak-minded and inefficient t of @ wife for any man to choose and my sym- putyy would naturally direct itself to the man who Snagined he could build a happy home on such @ one- sided foundation. As for marrying for spite or having a horror of becoming an old maid, as has been suggested, the erime brings Its own swift punishment, but I do not honestly believe many women do either. A good many—far too many—of our sex are ex- traordinary susceptible and wonderfully credulous. Very young girls aro very easily deceived and can- not discriminate between gold and gilt lacquer. ‘They are attracted by what pleases them super- ficlally—good looks, good humor, gayety and the fat- tery thet works such harm with e maiden’s imagina- tion and which every man seems to have a giant's eapacity for administering. Before it 1s too late, in other worde just as soon as parents see that a daughter is unusually interested 4m one particular man, the favored individual's real character should be learned, his birth and bringing-up investigated without prejudice and always by falr means, Then if the supposed gold turns out gilt lacquer there are ways and means, gentle and proper ways, of diverting the girl—ot letting her see that the real man is far removed from her {deal. There may !n @uch cases be a little heartache, but there will be many a heartbreak saved. As these letters flow in each. day they demonstr: very forelbly the haste @nd recklessness with which the marriage relation is @esumed, and one is forced to ask "Where were the + Parents of the girls who have married the men they Knew ao little of? How does it happen that so many unhappy wives write saying they married because they felt their parents wanted to get rid of them. ‘This {s a question for mothers and fathers to an- ewer. Lack of the Power to Charm Reason for Ch a heres fo. joosing Wrong Man. T's Teason so many women marry the wrong men, in my oplnion, is: The lack of the power to charm, in one or both, is inherent in every inai- vidual. This is a power which can be developed, it $s the art of pleasing. It for all time has been a Doris. The Story of a Loweless “The Duchess.” Permission of Geo, Munro's Sons. ° exapeets OF PRECEDING CHAPTERS, Doris Costello marries ‘Thev love sh Ee, asenhes a hal is'e als ter Vera. wh ‘are carrying, ona ses RCA ORS Mee eae a eae sth an toxin in ove. with nat ore neta they over. “with whom Syirge: ‘quarrels and " He Hroutes, “Burke in love with ene Gants, whe Tah attack son van gfandiora Doria saves Clondort's iife her own. for {s aly but CHAPTER IV. Playing with Fire. I 1s summer again, and Lord Clon- beyond, a me stinct tells the: i tart's white-winged yacht !s sweep- erenie ing along the glittering Irish Gea, A gay party is aboard, for most’of the people who had made Dundeady and Coole Castles so lively the previous year are back again in Ireland, The months hava brought few changes, The agrarian Groubles at Coole quieted down after the unsuc- cesful attack on the Desmond. Dorls's wound proved trifling and quickly healed, The moment of self-sacrifice and peril, which should have brought her and her husband closer together, had passed; and (outwardly at least) the ill-asorted pair were on the same ‘old formal terms. On the yacht was old Sir Watkyn Wye, full of senile adoration for pretty Vera, an adoration ehe encour- aged, to the fury of Gerald Burke, Burke had at last managed to speak with her alone as she stood by the rail, ‘The yabct ts at anchor, and several of the party are going ashore for the day. Vera, Burke learns, has promised to Ko with Sir Watkyn. <A boat lies below. Burke (whe has come deliberately up to her as though to help her to descend the ladder into the boat) is now the only one quite close to her, except Lady Clontarf, who 1s tsretched In happy indolence upon some cushions rather uously, conceal ¢rom looking into qualm, has now and ings of aense, here, I dare “Yes, £ did, enhancing sm: “My rible—becaume her, of her soft cl me,” he says. near. ‘You will not go ashore with him?" he says, in a low, hurried voice, his face set and stern. “I am afraid I must, tf you will let me pass,” laughs she, still scornfully re- gardiess of danger. “I am stvong enough at least for one thing,” returns he, in a tone curiously mill. “‘If.you will not be mine In life, you chall at least be mine in death!" ‘As though at last—too late—fright- ened by something in his face, she moves backward; she slips—then his arms are round her—there is a faint struggle, then @ splash, a cry, ing of the clear waters, and an awful ailence. It is followed by a piercing s from Doris that rings through the ae ing. again. Ah!" Sir Watkyn? me? person in the ‘Vera comes Kit Beresford @gony, and then Vera is drawn to @urface of the water by one of jt) having hold of Burke, who te tnsensible. ‘That tt has been anything more than | #9) @ most unfortunate acoldent has not courred to any one, Later, recalling the scene in view of after events, they | her, wonder and almost guess the truth. ‘Vera alone knows that Gerald, in Jeatous raxe, meant to kill her and to drown. with her. But the idea tickles her vanity and when, on their next meeting, he humbly begs forgiveness, ehe gally pardons him and continues to play him off ageinet Sir Watkyn, On the evening following the yachting party's return to land there is a ball at Castle, Vera looks forward and then ,gracefully, ‘The night of the ball arrives. Just be- j| fore the dancing beging Vera is inter- cepted in the lbrary by Sir Watkyn, who begs for the first dance. “There 1s no one,” she replies, sweetly, “Ah!" says Sir Watkyn. He seizes her hand; the denouement she has worked awiftly toward the library from the hall softly, smiling even now, ing anxtously to release her hand. “I have something to 8 Sir Watkyn, mumbling his words “By and by, perhaps—after eupper—you will’ “I shall be here,” says Vera, in a low voice and quicisly, yet so carefully a6 to contusion. Burke enters. “Ah! you, Gerald!” Whereupon Sir Watkyn, “Yes"'—advancing toward her with @ lowering brow: “: out her arm and laying the very ¢ips of her fingers gracefully upon his éleeve, “that wherever { was, there you would surely be—pefore iong.”* to.a caressing whisper. Mfe!—my darling!" Burke, hs yolce vibrating with a ter- passion. He falls on his knees before d presses his lips wildly to @ fold a, if you are really true, kiss “Not now, not here,” says Vera, lay ing her Anger warningly upon her lips, “Hush! get up; there is some one com- Later on we shall see each other menced, then? Have you come to claim Punctuaily, ! charms, though I am the least punctual ber hand upon his anm with @ radiant Not even the faintest passing oe of regret or agitation mars the sparkling beauty of ther soft baby face. Tt ts long past midnighit. The climax of the ball hes been reached. people are perhaps enjoying themselves, some certainly are not. | for half an hour she has been closeted with Gir Watkyn. triumph in her eyes. Ghe whispers to to the old baronet. Gerald Burke meets her to claim a Faron ep, factor in shaping the destiny of man and woman, Cal Mt what you will, I call it personal magnetism. Personal magnetism measures the difference between success and failure. A man may have that art of pleasing, that power of charming, a well-developed magnetic power, if you please, that fascinates woman. Still she knows he Is not her ideal of a husband. sne marries him and finds out a little Iater she has mar- ried the wrong man. If that mysteriou’ inward force known as charm was fully developed in both of them it would have been a happy marriage. ‘Inere 18 noth- ing in a human being that attracts eo much as per- sonal magnetism. There is nothing which repels s0 much as a lack of personal magnetism. C. M. K., Hobart, N. ¥. The Ideal Husband Loves His Creator Best and His Wife Next. Dear Mrs. Ayer: HE {deal husband 1s one who loves his Creator above all things and his wife next; who does not find fault but encourages with words of love the actions that are deserving of them; one whom his children love and respect, but do not fear; who is always modest tn his conversation; who does not think housework is only for women, but who is ready to help his wife at every turn. A YOUNG WIFS. The Secrets of a Perfect Life Are Here Divulged, Dear Mrs, Ayer: Y {deal {s one that will keep the promise he made to God to love, honor and cherish her, for his wife what he would have her do for nim. If he js not in @ position to have servants he should not expect her to do what he would not. They should consult with each other, and when he can afford a holiday share it with her; go sometimes to places of amusement that Mis wife I!kes; share his joys and sorrows with her; not to give her all the sorrow and forget the joys: do his share of the entertaining .evenings, not git down with the alr of “I am here! Now entertain me!” ts the secret of a perfect life, and he will have the blessings of God and the respect of his fellow- men. RG. iH A Very Happy Wife Expresses Sound Views: Dear Mrs. Ayer: OMI:N very often marry the wrong man be- cause they do not stop to think that the man ts to te her partner fer life. They see a man a few times an’ think they love him, when It ts only a mere fancy which soon weara off, and then trouble begins. Let every woman study the habits and disposition of long as they both live; who will do always) ¢ ‘HE EVENING WORLD offers three prizes of $10 each for the best answers to the fol- lowing questions: BEST DESCRIPTION OF THE IDEAL HUS- BAND. WHY WOMEN MARRY THE WRONG MEN? WHY DO WOMEN CONDONE THE FAULTS $9G9OOLOOHG0FSHOO6OO5HHH9F9G-O9HH9HH99G9H190095595009 $0668 IN MEN THEY CONDEMN IN THEIR OWN SEX? A $10 prize to the best answer to each ques- tion, : Letters must be written on one side of the aper only and must not be over 150 words jong. . Sénd letters to Mrs, Harriet Hubbard A Fvaning World, Pulitzer Building, New ®| marrings. ‘This will | ward, i happy home will thus be $ |He Should Treat His > York City. COMPOUNDING AN IDEAL HUSBAN.’. woman would do this I think they would all be happy. A VERY HAPPY WIFE, Closter,+N~J. The Ideal Husband Must Tell His Wife All His Secrets. Dear Mrs, Ayer: N {deal husband should admit nis wife to all his the man she thinks she loves and see {f she thinks the is able to go through life with him. If every Marriage by to throw Burke I would be @o glad to hers, whea outside, coming p is distinctly theard. rit is Burke's, 4s coming.”” In- she says whilst try- say to you.” him all idea of haste or ays, calmly, eyes without @ who then some faint glimmer- haetfly quits the room. Burke’ ou did not expect me y: says Vera, with her most ile, “I know,” stretching Her voice einks says poor ition, hopelessly sorrowful—} inging gown. - aa the door opens, ‘You, Hansika conan eoens If you wish advice I confess, has ts world myself,” She lays zer Building, New York Gome|Dear Mme, Judice: I gored, out of the Iibrary, where the okirt in the back. ‘There is @ flush of @ hint of her engagement flounce and covering the new gowns or the making-over of old ones, if you wish advice concern- {ng home dressmaking, write to “Mme. Judice, Evening World, Pulit- A Five-Gored Skirt. secrets and make her his @ole confidante. ‘ney who truly love have but one heart; their thougnts. The Home Dressmaker. SS SS concerning City,” and she will give it to you in this column. nN IY HAVE a black taffeta silk skint, five with a graduated ciroular founce which reaches half wey up It does not touch the ground, and I should like to have it remodelled with @ Mttle train, I thought of adding silk to the bottom of the seams with rows of black ribbon velvet. It is be- ginning to wear @ Wttie bit at the top had mad t 4 ie one on of she ‘ih h by. eto Zetone steps. he moves deliberately pa Bh na bel KES ivcdhand near the belt, and I thought of putting atrips of velvet there to simulate a yoke, I do ‘not know how to lengthen it, end will depend entirely upon your advice, Am five feet seven inches tall and quite elim. MABBL F. Your request for a@ suggestion to rim end Tein lengthen a circular flounce skirt is one ry frail rt of many thmt I receive daily and I have here designed a sketch for that purpose | that 1s quite different from the usual method of adding a band to the foot or 1|@ hip yoke, &c,, and is @ treatment which will give a modern appearance to Rip off the flounce and lens out- en, tountalo, whape as the cambric with the differ- pid ence only of @ fanciful edge in any de- slgn you wish, I have selected the aliplest, curved points upward, about 8 inches apart; you can add a fancy braid as g heading to this. A yoke is not fecessary with this lengthening method, except in gowns to hide a worn place, or in some {nstances to give # breadth to the hips, but is a pretty addition. Lengthening a Skirt: Dear Mme. Judi HAVE a blue cloth skirt that 1s too short. 1 would like to lengthen {t, Dut I cannot match the goods, I thought I could use blue with a stripe oke, but I think I am too ® Dear Mee $ HE his wife, as she occurs at his aa his wife has sufficient something serious he will rate husband and children | of business, side: can. Blessed the Woman ire. woman who makes the {ties every good woman |oriety and fidelity. \an ideal husb: A wom obeying the Jud: ro we ant of * expltu wisely but t and analyzes, re he mind selves, the mother of man. Dear. Mra. A\ = AT Is tH y idea of an | their hopes, their fears, their feelings, aye in common; | tliereforo It {s impossible that there should be a secret| Me If women would endeavor to marry| transaction. on either side. their own, and would disposition, {t would be should show thelr character in {ts true act in manner foreign to thelr nature, those with whose character and opinions they are) acquainted and whose sentiments aseimilate with | heartless so analyze their temper and| Isn't It her duty to be gentle and kind? Indeed, ki Hoth! ness is nature's greatest means of expressing and tter for both sexes. A man may admire and respect his wh Nght and not| awakening love. ‘ney should’ wife; support her in comfort, and gratify her every Ayer: {deal husband must be, should suppr will endeavor to console him as on! his primary con’ Such a hisba: halo about himself unconsciously, and be Indecd @ hero In the eyes of his wife. | because she follows the promptings of oad $96 | allow themsclves to be scen In thelr true colors betore gave much unhappiness arter- Ho should be temperate in all things. found. PATIENC! Long #ranch, N. J Wife with More Regard After than Before Marriage. in the first plac» > true man and have at least moderately well — veloped mental faculties. He shou'd treat | wife with more regard—tf possfole—after than bef they were married. His pleasures should be sha: Who Makes the Real Husband Her Ideal. Mrs. Ayer: T is dificult to describe the Ideal Husband, | every woman has her a wife of a con- He will make his home and erations auntalée create a Mrs. L. HORWITZ. > ae whim; and she may be everything Kindly, without lov~ Ing; but whére there {s an unselfish and mutual love A| the mote they love, the more their kindness to eee other overflows. Hence, exactly fn proportion husband renders his wife happy, does he tereDy compel her to love him. But he who makes Nis wite miserable engenders hatred. eben > Love of Money the Secret of [Marrying the Wrong Maine a de- his Dear Mrs. Ayer: fa prineipal reasbn why women often cca wrong men ts the love of: money, which Serips aba vAnd very ture tells us ts the root of all evil as certainly to sha > hey vu areata getting a atten I thime the parents are to blame in secking £68 iio 1 4 riches. for their children, instead. of inepiring: thea Araneta at dome (th hisher, nobler, more Christian Ike ohatacl cordde in her, when ahe|t believe in Meat martin that when petrons. wht aro to be partnera for life meet in time they will loxg and know thelr suitability for each other, and In God's own time, which Is always the best, oil. marrg> I require four:things:in,my. ideal: G) A true gentio- man; (2) a true Obristinn; (3) one whom I Liat Osa (4) one who truly loves me. Berkeley Hefantas: 9 "as The Fatal, Winsome Ways ai of Man, the Becetvert for| Dear Mra. Ayer: own fdeal. Blessed the HE reason women marry thé wrong man ry renl an ideal! A few qual I they aré very often deceited by thelr” witht honors are: Honesty, @u- some, decettful ways, When a man vows his A man possessing theas makes love for a woman and after she if married to hi yan marries the wrong man|to find out his wayward and wrongdoing, It mae fr heart, not/any weman Yearn how déceltfal they aro and her mind. She “loved vot}/has the wrong man. Mo 1s just as polished up a> ins all, She thinks, reason8/an article you buy In @ store, and after you bave Jp and often knows the object of her lovo But still she loves, for the heart sub= In woman love | dones faults In men she would condemn in women be- cause women must be better (morally) than men, Men despise women haying the same faults as them- Men the strong—avomen the pure. EDITH NOLDRETT. is all, In Proportion to His Love the Husband Compels Love. {deal husband? She cun> Woman !s ‘The man {s as careful in choosing a companion for he would be in making a great business How unlucky and worthless would life be to sich a man,if he were decelved by a soulless, creature, whose appearance seemed perfect. a little while you can see the bad pointy, And an thing, he Is Ikened to a child with a new 80 proud of it and soon gets tired of It, in’ spite the woman's pleasaatnces, and he goes to seek an othvr one. BF, Ly Ing A Fatalist im Petticoats a. Gives Her Views on Marriage, Dear Mrs. Ayer: HE {deal husband {s the’ man who never par T that he promised before God and man to Jovi, honor and cherish. It 19 not the winning of woman that 1s diffeult; but it is in keeping whlch you have won, I do not think that any marries the wrong man. Theoné you marry i the proper one, or fate would not have ordered tf 80. <& women often thinks she has married the wrong man Decause he ts not what’ shé expected him to be, Please remember, girls, that you have to live with ® man to understand him, and he ts running 48 Og-9 chance as you are. GLADYS = nd Me? xX a4 NEO Se out @ flounce, you can lengthen your blue cloth skirt In the eame manner as the sketch I designed for Mabel F. In- | stead of @ ciroular-shaped piece in the oa On . pave #t out Dias and tne Stott fo tted alte) Yelveteen wills be n\ pretty tor the bias ‘and omit the hip yoke, aa you are too stout A Blue Voile Dress. Dear Mme. Judice: HAV aix yards of new blue voile. I I would like to make a pretty dress. I am seventeen, very short for my ago and would lke to make the dress oo as to make me look taller. AO. R. ‘Box or aldo: piateg) akires or @ gored skirt trimmed in seams will give you a taller eppearance, yoke on all of them. Your voile wi! work in nicely @ ‘plaid denies on. the entire Ouse Coat to eusteh the er oi med mh fancy colored dive and rsa ete cymne For a Stout Figure. Dear Mme. Judice: Please advise how to make a Ddlue brilllantine, I have a very pretty pleco of it, and being rather stout I would like something thet would make me look siiml I am a woman of thirty. seven, My bust measure is forty, watst (thigty. I am 6 feet 6 inches. Please axiviee in regard to skirt and waist of same, I do not want a shirt waist. What would be pretty for a Uttle girt's dress for the winter season’ The little one is &x years old. BETHEL, Your figure is sulted to almost any myle coat, and a three-quaner length, made caren fitting and machine stitched, ‘with 103 wala peste, sraciag. from to of. contras Omit a bi By Mme. Judice. Persian embroidery, will be a good Je ffect, Full sleeves, with wide cuffs to matoh the lapels, and a nine-gored ski | With aide) plaits, from the knses to ine is a sensible and pretty way to take up briliantine, “Any of the, pisin coolers in light- well meterials trimmed with gay plaids or flowered ribbons will be very pretty for a little gir. An Evening Dress: Dear Mme. Judice: INDLY describe a blue crepe de Chine evening dress. Am tall and sionder and wish tt made so that I may wear ft er high or low neck, Lu Why not make your blue crepe de Chine like the iustration that appeared } in this column Sept. %7 I can suggeat nothing prettier or better adapted to a tall, slender figure. You can make it according to directions there given, of have an adjustable yoke of lace or white chiffon to wear instead of the Nigh shirred neck of dress material, From three to five tucks, any width, on the flounces is also a good fdea for crepe de Chine and omit the lace, Stylish but Inexpensive. Dear Mme, Judice: OW can I make an evening dress of black mull atylish and not expen- sive? CHARLOTTE L. Shirrings, tuckings and smockings such good ideas for mull that I think a black gown made simply with any of these treatments 01 ches hip of the skirt (quite deep), ice at the waist and entire top of the sleeve will ive a quaint and dainty look to al lack mull. Another pret may is the three ¢ pf inch«witte hucks in the} entire dress, ainning at the hem of st rd with a six What Art [ay Do to Make the Auto Beautiful « « «| CASTORIA VINCENT says # ys Aesthetes in London Demand More Artistic Motor Cars, and “Punch” Offers These Suggestions :| | For Infants and Children, The Kind You Have Always Bought | Signature QxrOrD Gray, A Dark—soft gray cloth makes the smartest of fait |HOW TO RUN overcoats. fA Especially—when it’s | erly cut and put together. 7 amusements: Oxfords--Stein-Blochs $20: . Broadway—22d Strest.:((/:99 A CAMPAIGN. | 5 Ca RD Amusements. | A wo MAYOR: G. B. 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