The evening world. Newspaper, October 6, 1903, Page 15

#: forgetting, encourage sin. Require a high standard of morality of men, but also of self, The world would be purer, there would be fewer tears shed, and un- beppy marriages unknown. ONE WHO STUDIES LIFE AND CHARACTER. The Ideal May Be Found in a Hovel or Perhaps Ballroom, By Harriet Hubbard Ayer. As editor of this department 1| wish to express my appreciation | jj of the letter trom Mrs, Prescott, an Evening World reader, who in her elghty-fourth year and despite her physical aMictions has writ- ten her sweetly optimistic con- clusions of the ideal husband, In my own heart 1 velleve this val- Dear Mra. Ayer: 8 I sail down the River of Lite, fl Encountering disappointment, and probably strife, ued letter is from one of the! | £2 Give me a heart that’s full of cheer, ideal wives—the girl who mar-|To make my existenco, which I spend here, ‘aad at eighteen—who mourned her first husband's! A living paradise. ‘oss sincerely—whose natural place was that of wife 5 and helpmate and whose endearing and sterling qual- ities were the magnet that attracted the two hus- bands of the ideal kind. Let us be grateful and take hope that in these faye of dally divorce court histories any woman can weite, after sixty-six years of wifehood: “I have had two ideal husbands; I think my love grows stronger every day." Let us also remember that the wife who in life's @unset writes so gratefully of her long, happy life married each time “a poor carpenter, but a good man."’ A great sermon on ‘How to Be Happy Though Poor could well be written with Mrs. Prescott's +) letter as a text. ya The Ideal [Man Must Have Led a Good Life. I ask not for deauty, nor pompousness of rank, The pride of my Ufe centres not in a bank; But give me the wealth of a loving heart, That will bear and forbear, shoud occasion impart, Pretty faults. We are none of us perfect, alas if it were so, What a sublunary heaven would be this world below. So we all strive, in an innocent way, To create our deals, and with imagination’s fair play We often succeed. Where shall we find him? Ah, that is the question, ‘That perplexes the wisest in their moois of reflection, But whether in hovel, or ballroom so glary, Pure love is the same, making each ordinary Soul divine. INCOGNITO, Women Choose the Wrong Men . Because They Are Blinded by Love. Dear Mrs. Ayer: Y opinion of why a woman chooses the wrong iM 4 $ b4 $ yr Dear Mrs. Ayer: i {eal man for a husband must, in the first ¥ Place, have led a good life; he must be pure- hearted, tender, unselfish, true, noble, spiritual, ¥ {* affectionate, high sense of honor great respect for! woman particularly his wife. He must be intellectual | Bnd cultured. His religion must be from conviction, 4nd not from mere form. He must have a decided -and strong individuality, and be able to stand firm amid temptations, yet he must be sensitive in char- peter, trust ambitious to succeed. No woman need fear to " & fear he will not be loved alwaya by his wife. 2S marry the wrong men because they do not husband 1s: A young girl in choosing a husband, in most cases that fail, 1s eo much blinded by love that she does not care whether she has studied her lover's character sufficiently. Above all thin watch narrowly his actions towards his parents. For a man who is good to his parents is good to his wife. Beware of a jealous husband. J. V. H. He Must Be His Wife’s Equal Rather than Her Superior. %; Mia husband must be a manly man of qualities, He must have strength of character, a big heart, be noble, courageous and chivalrous, He must be her future in such @ man's hands, and he need @tudy men deeply enough in small details beforehand. forgtve men too easily, often through false sen- forgetting God made the Ten Command- | for both men and women equally, and, by so Doris. ‘The Story of a Loweless Marriage byl “The Duchess.” s s BENOPSIS OF Lteapoge deste Crap Seater want to ask you @ question,” she stam- lontart, oes at last, the words coming trom her cpt lara gach etter, Bons a x avowadly | wil on gang, with teas ag the! thal tp Behe castle Gs, | fat pounds frigid even to herself.” How him! irtation. Tt ie tente Taking bis. hand from the, Goor be ubjes he vicintey murders are} facea her. There is unmistakable anger “Have you POM it heard Chris- GHAPTER 1. tian because you have HB others, drawn by Kit’s cry, cam: iieraysr, “that you ing never cal running up. Search was made for} by it?” Met have not ep eoeten Ae Her eyes Permission of Geo. Munro's Sons, | oft inful Clon much more so on Fa pert ‘of nthe in his eyes, f te Ter he hi hae drawing nearer or St Danger! ies wd from 8 the mysterious Man with the Re-| J ae aya a to cunderatand.t} ‘ volver, but in vain, rn »} q “He was waiting there to shoot some] ‘Then. one,” said Clontarf, “but whom? There onyeet 10 1am pave! ing that ‘ou seems no end to these agrarian murders. | oP8ha ving as O2'% wonder whet landlord will be next to ‘tirie you d ry ene ™me & remark to! tee.” addressin, 2 This 18 60 exactly . There is @ cloud over the jolly spirits ar w jof the party as they go back to the fonts his words with acme “eaatle. As they pause on the porch Ger- | ness. + © ald Burke is talking earnestly and softly OS Me oe Ue) 2 Sarees to Vera, Hatter un’ anes 134 “I wish you would call me Gerald,” | ing away trom (ior therein gays the young man, earnestly, in a very | T: ou score ty eee," ways et zou 1t,"* says Clon rrp the Groonven ence catch my eye every ithe low tone, meant for her ears alone. Dense with a fm esate “Doris,” says Vera, Softly, but clearly |and speaking with iy fae Vehiemence she has a wonderfully clear voice at all| You think my refusal to mention Neue name is @ sign that I have forgottén It, have I not the same reason for suppos- Is you pera forgotten mine’ pH Clontast y m times—calling to her sister across the porch, “Mr, Burke wants me to call him Gerald, May 1?” vans "Certainty, dearest, 1f you Uke," | Eady Clontart, a tiny pink shade showing Yet have not," quickly, “porlet 1638 too to be lightly forgotten. certain change of tone. * “Yteelf in her pale cheek. Pe to asic met" Ho AEA for her eo what a funny little thing she ts!" In the listless attitude of one po says Kit to Brabazon. is Noknowncrrert ond to whom interest “Very,” gravely; “but she will find it safer to trifle with a rattlesnaake than with Gerald Burke. There Is danger in B50! those quiet eyes of his.”” Ye. ‘But how fearful a danger none of them \,, then guessed. Doris went up to her boudoir to dress pe “Yes. A imple ai aueation—yet hardly one after all. Her bloodless itp: almost refuse to Jet the words pass them, but her will conquers and she goes on—"I hope it Js not true what I have heard avout you and Mra, Mi tague Smythe.” “What have you heard? “That you w €or dinner. There, waiting for her, was] once. That is noting Pebteltr | wih her aunt, Mrs. Costello, a sharp-tongued Rakaienntes expressive motion of the hy you love wit! eld woman, who hated and distrunted| fang: Sut tat vou are in love with Clontarf. Her voice falls her as she finishes, but ¥* "So you've been to Coole for afternoon | she holds her pretty, stately head erect Near" snarled the old Indy, “Who all) 94 ever, paieee :, Were there? Was Mrs. Montague is not true,” says ntarf, slowly, | Smythe there?" never ave been, I never should be in love w! - “¥es—and looked so charming.” athena very “by autiful. Her voice is “ay, I know her sort. All paint and er eyes, though not alto- powder. A little honest soap and Water ile to eyeraea, are Surned/ away trom would so change her doll's face that none of her lovers would know hor. her A hi re in b} ery, ‘Tou betteve MP re and Pshaw! However, every man to hislto niin again, Punta tet . y taste, and, i¢ she was there, Clontarf tRng vot you es sat simply. iene Bapeye sunt An tng HO" oun, Couahes Why? ith that unlikely tale?" uae = ; wi “Why? Because he was in love with garding her keenly. ‘ou aie W*ner before he ever heard of your for- Must nol ask mo that y " lad to know it is untru tune, and ts so still, That's why. Bind cov, your saber. hsanid tec jad *Who could have told you this in-}cruel for you. And vet''—with a wey ‘famous story?" saye Doris, turning a| sesture—4t may happen any day, It is Rarratin Vaca’ to nee tormenter but putting it off from to-day to to-more “None of your precious friends, at all/Tow, as it may be They tell us al to love ‘one dn their events,” can heat nothin them, | hearts must awake “aa Iam accounted nworehy to sit Ih Ufetime: it 1a, therefore, but a question ene! c othe: ort prewnse, Bu 1 have our gouroay ‘Ht will not be worse for me t ww ay, I know how the world w: ot mT hover "quit “may” Gwn “itur |you, at that rato.” saya Clonearte with nffected lightness, vet he ie, watchin eer sure of tha 's Doris, curo-|her narrowly. How sad she temper by" a supreme ‘effort | What. means that slow, warm blush pau! T shail ak him.” that Is oreeping. upward, dyeing cheek Hises ‘and crosses to the study, /and brow? Is she thinking oF another Wmwhich whe has just heard Clontarf enter. oo: t the question to him—as she tis an ugly thought; Iam sorry I hhad told her aunt she would domip suit{ introduced it," gho anya, with @ nettled determination with her; but “Let us not discuss it, how to a it pow to meet bim Pee, to Montague Smythe—ls she a face, and in cold language ask it? There 1 Kiyen as she so debates wit Not exactly. Smythe {s eome- arene ti B ‘or Barbadoes, or tho no one knows exactly id doubt.” om ON. where—in Brasil, nds; fn miserable uncertainty, he into the room and advances to- amanda distant table. ‘A chill falls upon her; her lips toel Tye. pafehed and aumb; but tne: denice to lier feut at reat, one way or the nevet grows less, She will ask Nothing—no weakness— her} only give her tne— She lays one Iittle hand wearlly rragainst her forehead, “ peree Ty truth, there is very Uttle time to! Sei pve, Cigntart.” who hae plainiy "come| t boo! not jor 001 ‘sation, Lindy ods Ing ipocued, he, desired volume,” | without 16 wretohe to 9 door, le al moet | 5) | cuGtiecan hardly be sure, he looks Hed tt when she compels herself to! ,,"ONe can Bb eet turn in his direction. Bho hin lowered her hand from her [a'womancwith husbaihd=more Wretch. w to the side of her head, The other | I is ‘Meaning yourself? The words co Baal the han laid pon fhe mantel-ploce peel ream Hine npulel phot iad . t “Why isn't hte claly knocks her ee aay Glontarf. mf “And t! 0 en means death. HY 10 A ovldentiy Tepe = ed @ speech made to him. "At least, @o jee; I suppose this kind of thing rr tt taay, Butt think abe mais mistake ail the sume, tA ‘womenesitue ated ag ahe Inno widow, vet Iiterail ber herself, as though vel REE her resolution needs’ support {nla permisston--futt of impetuous anger, |» RUNE color! Re sue ontts her tips to speak to tm | Ae ya toe ladly recalled tren eee That Is what your new winter a minor, difficulty. prosents itself. His |! Je then ton tate hat must be if you would number ers have piready cl closed upon the addy silence follows his question, yourself among the ultra-fashionable, 16, of the door; hla back Je turned to aa ama, Jase thing you ahouia ‘But that is what it had better not be eattentiont five said to Fiero neue ay nye Unies you are @ blonde with « dassiing ne Biny trace 9 "OF foal ‘gone, frou compléjon or @ brunette whose akin is ee to room. wrrible reason to ra-}* eae h Rend daeme? ae ittire she sweeps wh without a flaw. Paris has decreed chat at shade, exactly reproducing the }maroon tint of the boarding-~house '® delight, eball be the reigning ox $10 each for the best answers to lowing questions: BAND, es , long. — Send letters to Mrs. Harriet g WHY WOMEN MARRY THE WRONG MEN? ver Evening World, Pulitzer Building, New > WHY DO WOMEN CONDONE THE FAULTS York City. 9OSO0990999999999HH9HHO9O9 OF 8H009OOH. FOSDHOOODHHOHHHHS €099O99O9GHO0LO8G0-600HH56: HE EVENING WORLD offers three prizes of the fol- BEST DESCRIPTION OF THE IDEAL HUS- ID tion, Letters must be written on one side of the paper only and must not be over 15 MEN THEY CONDEMN IN THEIR OWN SEX? A $10 prize to the best answer to each ques- ‘Why Do Women Marry the Bron Men? snesvannmnneesiene' Hair Readers of The Evening World g Be Given Prizes for Answers to Three Questions, a true Christian man as the head of the house is al and everything. 0090996 | Subject and ibute to exist, Marriage follows If love were first concel touching the sube heart Yersa, there would be no such question, “Why Do Woimen Marry the Wrong Men?” LH 0 words Hubbard The Ideal Man Must Dear Mrs. Ayer: who depends on no his wife's equal, rather than her superior, but one whom she can be proud of and able to look up ta. goia ch thst need not have a penny in the world as long as he has| tae sy ‘ the qualities to make tho penny, with his wife to help| SY @vold those that throw a bluff and alwa He must be rich in character, so that his wife| for what he isnot what he has, ced temptation and proven himsel He need not be handsome, but he must be strong looking and one whom his wife would be whom she can ONLY A GIRL. him. can respect hii man who has f true metal. proud to introduce to her friends, One respect, but never fear. Must Love So Profoundly that He Will Be Faithful, Dear Mra. Ay HE {deal husband to be faithful, ¥o that there ts no otf In his love she will do all she a little heaven for each. other happy, there is no time for discontent, ing seems too much to do for one another. a@ position to judge, as I every day, their troubles, hen a ag it was with mine. there ar? men that can come up to the standard, but meet hundreds of and that seems to be the keynote of 1 know that| to ask for every cont must love his wife enough woman knows] one can fill her place can to make his home Studying how to make the, as noth- 1 am in| women| ie all} they are so few I shall never look for them. OBSERVANT. The Money-Spending Young Man Is Throwing a Bluff. Dear Mra. Ayer: OU ask why women marry the wrong men? [| Jove, so that for the time being “thought” should say that if the young girls would be more particular with whom they go, why, they would I mention the young girls, and speak, not from my own be better off in the end, for ‘I am one mysel color of the winter. So at the present moment windows glow with it, the show cases are violet bowers. fact remains that thew: dinary complexion who good looks ought not to wear another matter. nan values the shop millinery But the| » rm of or her any one of the many shades of purple. offered ‘They are ya} beautiful in the ah Jexperlenca but of soma of 1g man has tots of money He A it | know of such young man HE Ideal husban wife. He must | tally, kind-near | darker shade and girls think If a he is just the thing, DIS and seem real sweet the worst at home. I know this ;How Many Husbands Realize This Ideal? Dear Mra, Ayer: 1 husband ts one who caret be strong physica’ considerate, J and sincere. Must treat his wife as an and companion and must placing implicit confidence and trust in some Interest in her ideas and try and to her way of thinking if possible. Mu temperate, neat in appearance and clean ambitious and anxious to save for a ral age, but must not be mean and niggard cial dealings. Should give her an n the home with, Women Invest the Beloved Object with Ideal Dear Mra. Ayer: OMAN'S nature Is to_seek love an W the earnest desires of her life to n who can satisfy that men are easily under its spell and fancy by “heart” and “passion.” In such a love 1s reciprocated, then come the “till men's imaginations are aroused, and in xe on the outside, for th to be keep no secrets from her, 0 that she will not be compelled yearning. Therefore, wo- 8 for thelr affections they make a hero of their M ¥ ideal of a husband Have No Womanish Ways. uaities which do not and also the “awakening.” ved and then resulted in t-strings, instead of vice him idea of the Dear Mra. Ay 1s a self-made man. A man ono but himself to make his they she says yes when she really means no. afraid to burt the man’s feelings by saying no, ‘This, I think, in brief sums up my ideal husband; thereby giving no roow for complaint or fault-finding on the part of wits If there were only more husbands like mine more homes would be happier. «Is It Weakness of Intellect, Me LPB Birdie?” I Cried, ert were as strong iy thelr minds as'men Weer, would never marry the wrong men # When a man asks @ gitl to marry him They are whea easy to say nO.as It 18 to say yes. Women must learn to control thelr ming, or rather cultivate it, before they have anything whatever to do with T am only a few weeks over seventeen years old and have sald no three times, and will net say yes until the right one comes, the one I'll really FRANCES JARKOVSKY, Maspeth, NW. & + This Young Girl's Ideal Is Frank as to Finances.’ ung girl, and as girls will, I havo my (dew Many living. In other words, an independent man. A. are. nd “is}man who can't do enough for his home and mother. but I should} She tries to mike his home comfortable. Why can't have|he do the same by her? He 4s, of course, not a maa|it is just as y are] with womanish ways, That ts intolerable. A man a faot, as I] Should not marry until he can be all this, If a man F, G. M. | can be unkind to his mother, what ts he going to de| men. Now, to a wife? He should not be married for six months or a year and then neglect his wife If he does there Are others Just as amusing as he was, who are sure| love, to on hand in case of emergency BACHELOR GIRL. ‘ully selects © tly and men-| The Ideal Man Must Be God-Fearing lust, generous N = Dear Mra, Ayer: equal partner and Honest and Truthful, Wee ee Dear Mrs, Ayer VY ideal of a hy sand love thtul t not extravaga has with, world's goods but laying to come, not thinking of h Dut having sympathy ani creatures, helping tho will permit. A man weuld make an 1d her and take adapt himself ast be strict!) in his habita, ny day or old ly with her in allowance to to deal EQUALITY. Qualities. d it is one of meet Some one with a Word o' Dear Mrs. Ayer: amt eal husband. / Let Him Come Home at Night I Is that te should trust and} aia and 1 in Ht too exacting W A ren in the life comfort and pleasure with his fellow as far as his me qualifications, I think, *) and te ip his treas ls owr Ay be good to not think thi that there a: Here We those AUGUSTA BRACKETT, Dear Mra. Ay f Cheer and Thanks living themselves In! HP {deal husband ts to my way of thinking the | when consoi Is replaced man who can come home at night with al ingly share state, if the] word of cheer and thanks, and appreciate the jusions.””. Wo-| comfort and sunshine afforded in it by the wife, who order to find | tractive to him. He mus’ in her turn will do all in her power to make it at- in the full t be a God-fearing man, for| ideal husban case, however, and the var binations which the trying presented may lure many women tha unwise purchase. A beautiful hat of the new shade whieh, with the other ercations ‘lus trated, le reproduced by permission ot] the Millinery Trade Review, Is of violet mohair felt, in shape the popular tri corner. It le rimmed with velvet of a color \s| to! ple silt roves half way acr Another i is of prune: ture st line to the face. It left aide, and its ofa keco. the ia rals solo tr ‘huge shaded ostroh her. Whother or not cho will do it te] Which all tints of lavender and viulet ns'sts | ti her, in ave artistically blended. Less trying is a charming walking Lat ERR SNe ERM TACT re te eae if You Are Blonde Your Winter Hat Must Be Prune-Colored. But If You Are Brunette It Must Be of Brown, Gun Metal or Gray.: =| Of g n shape @ variation of the poke. It is simply trimmed with a loose seart of gray satin intern with ba of silver ¢ which 1s also used as a binding for the edge of the hat, “A ve modium s effective round hat of the ch has come tn vogue ontirely eRe dlue of shi shade Use ribbon near a ha alte hite © vartety pands Ansparen ef the pi of the face monted with bands short white satin, caught with silver buckles. of pleated A Nock of tiny wh hite show Birdy, wien C em to have alli for the moment [eat the erown, finishes the novel creat: CASTORIA For Infants and Children, The Kind You Have Always Bought Bears the Signature of Amusements. HOW TO RUN | A CAMPAIGN. A WORD MAYOR LOW ED. HARRIGAN MURRAY HILL THEATRE, ; LEXINGTON AVE. AND 42D. 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