The Seattle Star Newspaper, September 26, 1924, Page 16

Confessions of flirtatious Wife BY CYNTHIA GREY “ce MARRIED flirt’s confession” might very well be the title of this letter. Tt came to Cynthia in reply to her request for sugg: t to the wearied married woman who asked, thru this column, how she could get a respite from much weariness of soul She proposed an “old-fashioned flirtation” as a cure-all. Overcome by a very similar aversion to routine of a quiet home, this reader sought her own panacea. She found res- pite. She also found many unerpected reactions and sults. You'll be interested, perhaps, to see part of her story: <0. 9 re- ISS GREY: It is with some hesitation and misgiving that I send this note to you which, of course, is too long to print. Married 12 years. First five years was nearly all happiness. Then he began to get preoccupied, like this other woman's husband. There is no sorrow in the world quite so keen as that caused by neglect, or indiffer- ence, I don’t know which to call it. I have often said to my- self, I could bear outright discourtesy, harsh words or even a slap now and then. But not this insidious, non-combative To make a long story short, I sought outside interests and found them, easily enough. Men seem to be lying in wait for women whom they should not learn to love. But far be it from me to lay the blame on their shoulders, for I was certainly seeking that which I found. Z Three men came into my life, after that fateful day, when I made up my mind to have something other than drab cold- ness in my existence. Each charmed me in a different way. But each, I found at last, to be akin to clay. The zest, born of secrecy, filled me with delight at first. But there was the awakening and the bitter remorse which came the day my husband woke up. Apparently astounded beyond all bounds, hurt to the quick, he seemed. No explanation on my part would do. True to his man nature, he could forgive geance on all women because of my deceit. It was vain for me to explain. He left me. The pastime acquaintances disgusted me, at every thought. T have been alone in misery and unhappiness for two years. Would that I could undo the past and return to that heav- enly oblivion of routine with my husband in my own home. Can woman never understand that she is marrying a mor- tal, not a god; a fault and virtue creature, not an idol; a person who is not all good or all bad? Will a wife never realize she cannot look ta husband for all her happiness, but must make it for herself, within herself. Warn this wife against the harmless flirtation she is even now planning. A day will come when she must rue it even as I loathe my own experience. “BROKEN SPIRIT.” Secret of Happiness _ Dear Misa Grey: When the war) Tobbed me of everything that was; Gear to me I fied to the jungics Man With Family of Ten Needs Work EAR MISS GREY: I am com- to forget. And in the years of bit- : came ter struggle and hard work I found tog to you for ald in finding Ghat the secret of happiness is not|| * Jo. I have 10 children and 7 cannot seem to secure work, tho fo satisty our craving for romance—|| T°)nOe OOtt Oa tried, Tam ea. fi is that which makes us contented, | Makes us proud of our work, keeps| Us being both mentally and physic} ally fit. | ‘There was I, a city lad, who didn’t | iknow anything about gardening. My} Belfappointed task was to pay for this 120x240 piece of rocky wilder-; Head wind make a garden spot out! @f it. And slowly the place 13 be-| ginning to take shape. In the mean-| time, I have learned a good many) ‘things. Never did I know there|| 4608. ‘Was such a joy in raising flowera) And bushes and fruit trees. Never did| foi! tn love with her, She carried I dream one could learn to love his|/on her part of this pastime, but to flowers and cherry trees. this boy he was wooing the woman Sometimes I am weary of this/he loved, Time passed on—she liked of driving any make car, had three years’ experience as grocery clerk, night watch- man and was a deputy sheriff for two years in Wyoming. I will be thankful for any steady employ- ment. Miss Grey, I haven't any phone, but two of our neighbors have of. fered to let me give their numbers, in case any one has work for me. pabl KE nwd-5499-J3, or matter-of-factness that kills love and murders sentiment. ...| me nothing, raved at my madness and vowed eternal ven-} ard strugsie. But when the daffo| @ilz begin to bloom, when the prim- foses show thelr colors and the Birds are in the chorus of my) favorite record on the “phonograph, then, indeed, I am happy and con- tented, and there is a new resolve) to finish the Job and mako this little Spot a paradise In which we can _ live happily, the flowers, the trees, the birds and I. | The average city dweller does not Know the romance and love in & flower garden and fruit orchard. ow thankful the roses are for the {cod 1 give them (fertilizer); how thankful the dahilas are for every drop of water they get, and how Proudly the fruit trees raise their heads when wo suppty thelr root- gystems with fresh air. Flowers and trees show their apprectation fm the form of better blossoms, bet- fer and more fruit. Give and take on both sides. That is real love. A PEARL DIVER. Mother Needs Clothes for Four Babies | Dear Miss Grey: It seems that you | are always ready to help everyons! Out of thelr little difficulties. Per- haps you also can help me. I have two little boys, aged 6 and 7, just starting school, who aré/ badly in need of proper clothing, | @speclally coats and warm under- wear. Perhaps there is someone who has some clothing their little boys have outgrown or something that would do to make over as I| the money he lavished on her—for this boy owned a beautiful home he hoped to take her to and was able to give her all life's comforts—and hoped to. But one day he oc e to Seattle on an unexpected trip, and {t #0 hap- | pened he accidentally ran Into this lady. Of course he walked up to speak to her, and then and there she had to turn and introduce him to her husband. Miss Grey, he was too much of a man to let this trueting husband know the truth—but that boy's soul died that moment. Please print this, Miss Grey. Ev- ery word of it is true, and proves the folly of a married woman carry- ing on “Just a harmless flirtation.” A MOTHER. eee For Fair Play Dear Miss Grey: The public has been aroused over the Leopold-Loeb case and that of young Bernard Grant. An example of the injurtice of our laws, which are supposed to’ govern rich and poor alike, these cases aroused the whole nation. But do we realize that the same Injus- tice Is being practiced tn our local courts? Apparently, {if one money and Influence, one can away with” practically anything. A case has come to my notice tn the past few days which Is a fair | exampie of this. A man about 60 years old, a booze- fighter all his life and absolutely worthless, forged several checks on a firm which gave him a job after he had been turned down by all his | am quite handy with a needle. jfriends on account of his { ; rrespons!- ‘There are four small children in| itty ‘a Mis ie the family, «nd, owing to sickness| 4 man who had cashed one of the 4m the family and the father being | checks had him arrested, and his Gut of work a good share of ths |bhail was set at $2,590. Thru the In- time, there ls never any money left | tinence his family waa able to exert, to buy clothes with. | Thanking you very much for any| were all made good and our wort |ho wag released from jail, the checks | help. A MOTHER OF FOUR. (Cynthia Grey, MA in-0600, bas! name and address.) eee A Tragic Flirtation Dear Miss Grey: I cannot help Tait answer this married lady who Tongs for a little spice in the form of @ fitrtation. First, if she knew the binding tle God intended for every marriage, never would her thoughts turn from the only way worth living—upright ‘and honorable in all things. A baby's arms, its sweet smiles, are the greatest thrill that can ever be for woman. Also there is so much good to be done right here in Seat- tle—or why not join one of the many Bible classes? Now, Miss Grey, for the other side. ‘This is true of a married woman who éarried on a little flirtation. I know this boy well—went to school with him—lived across the street from him in a miner’s town, and at that time he was honest and clean-minded. But we moved away and {t was years Fils family moved to Bremerton. There my Prosecuting attorney has dropped the case of first degree forgery which he filed against him Septem- ber 18. What chance would he have had fluence? Becanse his family made the checks good, does that pardon his crime? Is {t fair to send a young boy to the penitentiary for forgery and turn a middle-aged man loose on society who has committed |the same crime? Doesn't {t make one wonder Sf there ts any justice in our courts, or is it just » case of how much mon- | ey and “pull’ is concerned In a cane? ONE WHO WANTS TO KNOW. eee Dear Miss Grey: What foods are rich in fron? e NELLIB. Almonds, barley, “dry beans, soy beans, dry lima beans, fresh lini beans, Boston brown bread, graham bread, entire wheat bread, entire rye bread, cabbage greens, chard, corn, currants, dandelion greens, dates, exes, egg yolks, endives, dry figs, hazelnuts, dry lentils, molasses, mustard greens, oatmeal, olives, dry mother and I visited them—his par- ents and himself, He had met a supposed girl in She proper way; he Deas, pecan nuts, dry prunes, rals- ins, brown rice, romaine, spinach, turnip tops, walnuts, | t THE ROSE JAR Leaves for Memories Spices for Excitement Salt for Preserving Predicts Baldness for Women Home Hair Specialist ys Short Hair Craze Is Destroying Woman’s Crowning Glory and Robbing Her of Sex Appeal —/ | BY HORTENSE SAUNDERS years in 3 bob your hair, a le, vice president ale Beauty ‘Trade as the Whol sociation er, “whether you | prefer to have your hair on your h | or on your face and distributed « your bo HOW TO CUT MATERIALS LESSON NO. 5 IN DRESSMAKING | (This t the fifth tnstal ment of & series on dressmaking which Mrs. Pearl Battin, of the Battin School of Dressmaking and De- sign, is writing for The Star.) he urges, Tt fs very necessary to first ob- | “Up and down” ts the popu- | |lar expressior describing materi lals where the design points all one way, or when the nap is smoothed |by rubbing the hand over It. The jup and down of pile materials lis designated by both nap and shad. Jing. Tho garment will show light jand dark If the material {s not cut jall the same way. Plaids and stripes may often show | left and right, also up and down de- | signs in the weave. Overlooking this point is a very common mis-! take, especially among women who | have no special training. | Floral designs should run up- |broadcloth, velour and camel's hair |materials should bs smooth when rubbed down. In all pile weaves the | |nap should run up. | | I have sald before to plan the cut-| |ting of a garment before purchas |ing the material. ‘This is expecially necessary when materials have an up and down. To get all of the |@arment the same way of the nap necessitates the purchase of more | | material thon when there is no nap| to consider If it 1» a left and right dress—t |mean by that when one side ts dif- | ferent from the other—it necessitates keeping the writing up, mistake. Now, after all the pattern 1s placed, and every piece Js acocunted |for, the pattern laid out so that way, go all over it again for reas. |surance, then cut. Keep the cross weave of the cloth Jat right angles with the longth at jal times, whether a dress is cut single or double, In planning plaid |garments, the plaids going around the skirt should match at tho side |seam. Cut the front first and then |match the plaids thru the skirt be fore cutting the back. Another point that Js not always observed is that the plaid# going around the skirt should run parallel with the floor. thnt I have mentioned before and that I bring out in class lessons makes this a simple thing to accom. plish. ‘After cutting all tho pleces, pin the garment together for a fitting, taking care to pin along the Mno where you expect the finished seam to be. (Copyright by Mrs. Pearl Battin, 1924.) (Next week: Intelligent Use of Pins) rial has an up and| ¥ & study of the fitting dart | “The Scientific and | cutting all pieced singly; then one |must be doubly cautious, To be safe, write the words right and left on the side of the pattern which | would be the outside of the dress |Then sprend the cloth out alngle Jand right-side up. | Plan y to put the pleces of | not make any serious | were he a man without family in-|*h® nap or design is all the dame | | Man's age-old ideal of womanhood—and the modern realization. tr every b not permitted to grow on the h Cutting wil grow eli tributes the gro" “It the mod bh well other | alr hment tn | om have leas hair is because ed 80 to in the days when owning glory, wo- > and kept the halr as they us hair waa their ¢ men stimulate the sca. She fsn\ to pross out the wave pald my to have pressed in. So sho runs a |combsthru it a few minutes just as | a man does, and that's that | “Then in order to keep It looking | well without ren! care, she washes it once a week and eventually has 0 | robbed tt of its natural oll ft 1s no longer able to grow naturally. The! | ends split and the hair falls | } “It im true women are spending | more time and money at the hatr- dresser's than ever before, getting | shampoos, waves and trims, but their | hair is actually recelving less care/ | than ever before." He maintains that six months after ® woman has cut her hair, she can.| notics an added growth upon her | arms, particularly if she exercises | so that sho frequently brings the| blood to the surface. | His greatest objection to short halr, | however, is his bellef that {t robs a | | woman of her sex appeal | “Women are interesting to men in | proportion to thelr ability to suggest romance and glamor,” re concluded. | “When sho cuts her hair a woman | | destroys one more f{llusion—and there are no fow left as It | | 2 bi Rie De pr Pree" pe Baked Apples ala Gold Medal Baked Apples — a deli- | | | cious dessert at all times. But try them this way and you will call them delectable:—when apples are baked and cold fill the center of each with a dab of Best Foods Gold Medal Mayonnaise and crown with Maraschino cherries. Best Foods GOLD MEDAL MAYONNAISE has a dual character — in addition to being the most delicious of dress- ifgs it is a genuine food. Made of freshest eggs and the finest salad o} piquantly seasoned, BY-BE-BF BF BF BF-BF-BE e| | _ Fall's latest fad, the fas- cmating and flattering shut-| ter green, trimmed with | brown fur and the ubique- | tous buttons, forms the color} scheme of this piquant little afternoon gown from Mac- Dougall -Sauthwick’s, posed by Aileen Stewart of the West Seattle high. Photo by Frank Jacobs, Btar State Photogravher a reba Ee lt 4 |Let’s Fool "Em, A QUEEN Says Bobbette ters say T to havea th hardwoc I A porch and grow nes 4 rosebuds by the d With windows looking on a lav And room beside E ear the ripp Iam a7 I never en When I find that little cottage, worry as Snuggled in the West . I'll walk right in, and there I'll stay and rest (Contributed to Kose Jar by Mare. Edith 1B, MeMilber) FANCY SUGAK Eva Platt, a niece of for- should we permit the men to mer Senator Tom Platt, of eee a ee at New York, has been elected queen of the September Fies- ens From the confectione 5 Ronpre. 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