The San Francisco Call. Newspaper, October 16, 1904, Page 12

DT PLLSS Y OF ALS W TZE it /};/w,cz— 270y Y DTANTFORD 7D/ YR LTS I Y U LS V4 K‘fj/i}’ o/yifi’ FEET OU7 ZAF WoT THE HCTTE T OFGRACE. 24 y &ee the light hair flufr® *round her face when you're " beside her on a moonlight r or in a mornin’ from across the breakfast table.” She real- ized that circumstances alter cases, t could be done with per- one day could also be an breach the next. age of pin do’s ores is obviously the and “don’t’s” flourish riot, but after this stage has been y passed, new conditions bob one where somehow or ur enely and one is forced to ad- mit that just about everything under shining sun, no matter how sim- needs explicit and definite instruc- se one is up in the air to the t of kind and sympathetic d the everlasting chagrin of ple friend one's self. If you would be popular, Mildi, let you a few plain truths. Never elf be caught laughing at the embarrassments of others. In the first place it is beastly rude and you're culting a sorry figure in the eyes of y well bred person that chances to be about, and in the second place, it than bad policy. There is bound to be a ripple of amusement and 2t such a time a kindly understandjng nod will soothe and smooth away a is worse myriad of woes and In a twinkling you will have gained a friend who will be ready to swear by you for ever more. These days g0 much liberty is given one that it is more or less difficult to know just where to draw the manner line. For years it has been considered a breach of etiquette to put an elbow on the table, but to put both up and calmly survey the territory was just about the limit and showed a distress- ing lack of training and discipline. Such is not the case nowadays, al- though, to be sure, it is not considered the pink of perfection for formal oc- sions. But at teas and even at cafes and restaurants it fails to rouse the faintest interest and no one gives it even a passing thought. Unless, per- haps, the attitude is very confidential, and suggests an animated flirtation. Just why people see the faults of their meighbors go plainly and remain in blissful ignorance of their own is a mystery that has never been fath- omed. Miss Knocker confides to a fa- vored few that her best friend is a charming girl, only she feels rather sorry for her because she has some peculiar mannerisms. For instance, she slides down so far in her chair and assumes such a slouchy attitude. Ten to one Miss Knocker is complacently o7 QU wAY 7" CALL. sipping tea with her own fe¢t extended half way across the room, tripping every one that passes by, but she would be indignation personified if any one dared call her crude or even suggested that her feet wele not being properly trained in the way they should go And that reminds me, don’t take the trouble to disagreeable things about your friends and earn the name of “knocker.” Life really is too short, and besides, your de tfully attentive audience is skillfully drawing you out and makihg you say twice as much as you intended or reaily mean and some fine day it will come back to you tenfold. In short, in all probability you will be taxed with maliciously gpreading a story and when it is retold you'll have strenuous difficulty in rec- ognizing even the shreds of the orig- inal. Of course, if you will persist in little frills like polishing your nails on the tea cloth you are very apt to be called peculiar, and that word, by the way, covers a multitude of sins and a vari- ety of meanings. Just because you are going elsewhere and want your nails to retain their gloss does not excuse you from converting your hostess’ drawing-room or dining-room into a manicure shop. If you feel that a wee rub is absolutely essential to your hap- piness do it as quickly and as quietly as you can and without attracting any more attention than is positively nec- essary, for grooming one’s self in public is strictly forbidden in polite society. While you want to be simple in your manner there is such a thing as be- ing overtrained in this very simplicity. Crossing the feet or knees is tolerated these days, but she is a wise lassle who does not assume this position too fre- quently. In the first place, like all hab- it, soon grows on one and develops side issues. The next thing the hands are clasped over the knees and before you realize it you are rocking away and displaying an amazing amount of ankle and fluff fluff thar is anything but the acme of modesty. And after all it's so easy to avoid Blunderville. Just stop and think twice and during that time pay strict attention to your neighbors, for it's always safe when in Rome to do as the Romans do. If they are slow to act gain time by some hook or crook, and lo and behold, your problem will be successfully solved and no one but yourself need ever be the wiser. & vHE PRYVLE % 5‘5/7 WHILE 7I2HING Y 7°8F CHFRTIELE D GEACEFUL B7 THE SEME TIHTE. coarse hair 1s llable to become stubborn if cut too much POINTS ON WEDDINGS Invitations are usua weeks before the date ceremony. The Invita engraved, never printe: pense as well as the expense them is borne by the parents bride. Certatnly, it v t thing to ask your inter a list of the names he would wish to If the list is too fons to him so ymew d by will avoid mis and unpleasantness la gifts should be acknowle sssible after their receipt by a | al note of thanks b this is imperative. The sar plies when gifts ar friends or relatives of to-be whom you have not § bridegroom pays f and from the church pays the minister’s flowers for the bride and bridesm: The correct outfit for a br a 12 o'clock wedding is a objee names, xer tee coat, fancy or white walistcoat, gray hair-striped e glo and white tie. T r the br is always made neck long sleeves. As the decorations a be in white and g¢ I would suggest that the bridesmaids’ gowns be of the same dainty color scheme. W hit fon or silk mull over soft shed pale yellow taffeta would be charming, with hats of shirred tulle trimmed with white ostrich plumes or ow and white blossoms. THE CARE OF WHITE HAIR (Mrs Van H,)—When the hair good and the hair turns white at an age com L paratively young, nothing can be done 7 PoSITICA THRET LS FPERMLSSIBLE ONZY™ TXS THE FRIVACY U Y oUXK So if you're in doubt at any time tfemember one simple, almost childish rule. Keep your eyes and your ears wide open and your mouth discreetly closed, and as sure as fate you'll come out on top of the pile and land high and dry. — Answers to Correspondents ANNA sachet bags be careful to keep them sweet and fresh smelling, as the odor (Perfume).—If you use of stale perfume is anything but pleasant. Use this powder, as it is as lasting as any: Powdered orris, 1 pound; powdered bergamot pill, % ounce; powdered acacia, % ounce; musk, 20 grains. A. B. C. (Bathing).—The mere fact that you take a cold sponge every morning should not hinder you from taking a hot bath at least three times a week. No, it most decidedly will not hurt you. Use plain Castile soap and a good flesh brush and scrub yourself well and you will see that you will not only feel better for it, but will look better in the bargain. SARAH (Almond Meal).—There are a variety of ways of making almond meal, but as this is easily made at home and pure, T will give you but this receipt: Almond powder, 1 pound; cuttlefish bone (powdered), 5 ounces; curd soap (air-dried, pow- dered), 2% ounces; white Castile soap (air-dried, powdered), 2% ounces; orris root (in fine powder), 1% ounces. Mix and pass through a fine sieve. MRS. J. M. (Corsets).—Even if you do live in the country, make it your business to have your corsets tried FAULTS on and if necessary fitted. You cer- tainly come to town to shop now and then, and I advise you to wait un- til that time, for you will be better satisfied and more comfortable. The tape girdles are good for some figures, but even these tiny affairs are fitted and laced in a certain way over the back and hips. It lis a difficult matter to give the price of a good corset, for it all depends on the make and the boning. However, I know vou can get a good, serviceable one for«$3.50, and it probably will answer your purpose quite as well as a §10 one. GRACE (Waists)—Waists' are just what you make them, fancy or plain, costly or inexpensive, and one is just as fit as the others Some of them are strictly tailored, others are fashioned with a surplice collar, some elaborately embroidered and again others shirred or trimmed with laces and embroider- ies and all manners of frills and fur- belows. STAINS UNDER FINGER NAILS (Mrs. H. M. B.).—Sharpen a small stick (a match will do), roll a tiny bit of absorbent cotton over the end, dip in diluted lemon juice and gently force the acid under the nail as you force the flesh backward with the ball of the thumb.® If you cannot reach the stain in this way dip a small nail brush in the lemon juice and brush directly across the ends of the finger tips, so that the brts.llr's of the brush will pass between the ends of the fin- gers and the nails. This will clean away the stains perfectly. OYSTER AND CHESTNUT STUFF- INGS (Houskeeper).—To fill a fowl of ordinary size will require three tea- cupsful of prepared stuffing. A most delicious oyster stuffing is made by taking two scant teacupsful of stale bread crumbs, one-half pint of oysters drained and cut in half; season with salt, pepper, celery salt, one table- spoonful of butter, one-half teaspoonful THZS 700Y BE Cor7FeRTRBLE BUZT 77715 AT ELEGAARZT ot sweet cream to moisten the crumbos and one egg well beaten; mix and fill the fowl or chicken; garnish the bird before carving with fried oysters and parsley. For the chestnut stuffing peel, blanch and boil one pint of chestnuts until tender, using slightly salted water; drain dry over the fire and then mash fine; molsten with one table- spoonful of.thick sweet cream, season with salt, white pepper and a dash of nutmeg if liked. Then mix in two tablespoonsful of melted butter and one cupful of breadcrumbs. Serve with brown sauce and garnish with boiled chestnuts, or add the chestnuts to the sauce. > SINGEING OR CLIPPING HAIR (Margaret).—For years there has been much difference of opinion as to wheth- er singeing or clipping the hair is the better method for removing the faded and split ends. If singeing is resorted to it should be done by an experlenced hairdresser, for, in the hands of an un- skilled person, more harm than good will result. Clipping, however, can be done by any careful person with good eyesight. The hair should be brushed smoothly and divided into strands. Hold a strand firmly In the hand, and if the ends are very much faded or split, cut off one-half to one inch, ac- cording to needs; then pick up the shorter hairs and clip each end just enough to remove the split portion. Continue thus uuntil all the hair has been gene over. If neglected for some time the hair is apt to dwindle greatly at the ends and be quite thin and worn for three or four inches of its length. If this is tHe case it is a decided im- provement to cut off this portion of the hair and thus start 2 more uniform growth. The pernicious habit of using a hot curling iron is responsible for much of the shabby hair one sees, If the iron must be used have it as cool as is compatible with the desired re- sult. When the hair is once got in good condition it is not a good plan to keep up the clipping process, for the te restore the original color except te dye it, and that I cannot recommend. Most, If not all, compounds which it is claimed will restore color only by stimulating the growth are merely dyes in disgulse. Take the best of care of your health, bestowing regular care upon the face to keep the skin smooth and fair, and you need mot feel gensi- tive that your halr is white, for every observing person will recognize the dif- ference between halr white with ad- vancing years and that which is pre- maturely gray. A strikingly handsome woman of my acquaintance has snowy hair at thirty-five, with the clear skin, rosy cheeks and the figure of twenty- five, preserved solely by hyglenie liv- ing and massage. She does not dress like an elderly woman because her halr is snow white, but is a dream at the matinee in a gown of soft dark crepe and a hat of glowing red. The shrewd young woman with gray hair has her inning again by adopting the quaint flowered silks and muslins so fashion- able this season, made In 1330 modes. If her dressmaker is an artist she will look like a powdered beauty from a rare old painting. To preserve the snowy whiteness of the hair, be very particular to use only the very best hair pins, preferably those of shell and keep the combs and brushes scru- pulously clean. Shampoo once a month, mixing the following soap jelly with the first water, or rubbing it di- rectly into the scalp: Cut a cake of pure olive oil soap into fine shavings and dissolve in a double boiler with one quart of hot water; cool; add onme rcunding teaspoon of bicarbonate of soda and strain into a wide neck bot- tle; perfume with half teaspoontul of concentrated extract of wood violets, shake well and cork tightly. To use, pour one tablgspoonful into haif a pint of hot water and rub into the scalp: or pour into the first water. Rinse in several waters and dry in the usual way.