The San Francisco Call. Newspaper, January 31, 1904, Page 12

THE SAN FRANCISCO SUNDAY CALL. be said about and treatment The writer is giad - at the people g en- y within the f glasses was to the ng, and were being worn » for service. ill forget the ex- when she was 1d acquaintance of f age, required her arms and be so, for we wear glagdes,” the people were not once e the old generations are ‘grows wiser, and again be- re eve strain, which is e reading more, s ter clerical . fferent machinery in facto- . a ther reasons that could e a tendency not make them o8 must be conceded f optics has been great- et and to-day many errors ome that years an knews nothing 3 seldom find a man on the ce & cowboy who has . with defective r~ work in ne the prin- trouble. Always the t coming < 11dér. Twelve to four- t proper distance. der 40 years of f accommoda- 2ome any might exist After 1 use y commence he.” Noth- lenses will the opti- ompetition Bt me ove eople say, yan and h strong ughly acquaint and that it is gr bie amary ave long practical ex- oughly com- succeed. Years attend a coursg of secure a diploma xpecting to know it however, to be suc- an extensive that the people them- the judge. Nowa- you to be humbugged r every person ought to ity and qualifications 1 ¥ al business is just in its in- CHTARIIE A TR L fancy and the . writer predicts that within the next ten years more than 75 per cent of the people will be wear- ing glasses. There are few people to- day who cannot relieve the eye strain or benefit the eyes by the adjustment of proper glasses. It is a positive fact that a very large class of eye troub'e which was formerly ¢onsidered incur- able, causing headache, pains in and over the eyes, seeing black specks float- ing before you, eyes watering and many other errors of refraction and lack of sccommodation which years ago could not be checked by any of the means known to the profession, are now promptly arrested and cured by the proper adjustment of lenses. The writer refers to one gentleman who some elght months ago calied after the earnest persuasion of his friends and two of h's physicians. who gested that perhaps his ailment might be caused by his eyes being dafzctive The first thing he said was he ddna't believe that his eves were th - of his trouble: that he cou:d see as w as anybody, but to satisfy his ph/s elans and friends he called upon me ' make an examination 1 found the gentleman in a very nervous and un- settled condition and after a thorouzh test 1 prescribed compound lenses. for an error known as hyperoplc astigma- tism. This defect in evere cases nesv prostrat epilepsy sometimes Insanity, which was the can aid opinion of the gentieman, for he sald nless I can overcome my ner- ill drive me insane.” lived across the bay and returning home the affected his head and that he couid night and during the day incapab.e of properly at- his business. I called on vous condi v and rot rest at was almost tending to ' THE STUBBORN CHILD | ighteenth TalK to Parents parents have won- they should do with positively re- what he is can be done The answer is not answer for one ery little use for an- ” any parents think the ed because he Is stub- s not the case. Stubborn- y an indication of a strong treated as such 1 the training f the be called to tne fact is a most excellent possess. The trou- course, when the child T right, but wills to do wrong. nt who has a child that to be stubborm not ‘ose child is & diamond In ve you ever seen such There is nothing interest- rance. None, save those ow the surface, would ¥ value. Yet properly will show the brilliancy of priceless value. So it will who s de a What ts appea an see t be with the stubborn child, if only the as wisdom and -tact enough over how such & one can be If the child who is supposed to be stubbory $ in stubbornness the result m be very serious. It is apt affect, if not prevent, his future suc- fe. Once such a habit is firm- 1 not only show itself in every occasion, but it tself ‘- the school and ese are the ones who are be misunderstood and both at home and in often they are those who ated in company with lest other children pat- The result is that d from school, educated 'd housed in the jalls ies of the land. Managing a Stubborn Child. A child who had an exceptionally strong will was trained into an entire- ly different kind of a child by the fol- lowir when still quite cess 1 ly fixed it w the home, sch T cannot r child after them they are expe be w tre t 2 he refused to do as he told he was required to take & icular t and in the kindest tones ex ed that certain conse- uld certainly result if he y with the request made. taken not to make any £ v 2ld net and should arried into execution. He was hink the matter over and de- her it would give him more es he was told or to e punishments and lose pr 2pes which he would very ach enjoy. As was expected, he de- lose the privileges and take t punishment rather than comply e directions. Great care was to see that every detail of the nt w carried out in the kindly manrer ané yet with firmy as showed thzt he need t upon the slig..tc.t modif- of the penalities promisea. e next time he refur:d to do as he ¥ slaced on the same chair, somewhat simiar promisas thinking the ma'ter cided to pun most such tol and made. over for a“out twyu min/tes ke sail. Afier “Papa, 1 will do what you tell me.” I7: had deliberately considered the matter and made a choice. He had discovered that it did not pay to suf- fer the loss of a great deal of pleasure for the sake of the satisfaction of having his own way. Not a few times thereafter it was necessary to place him in a chair and await his dacisions. In but few cases, however, did he de- cide other than wisely. Later he was trained into habits of obedience by reguiring him to comply with such d rections as. “Get up on this chai-!” “Come here!” “Go to that corner!" “Sit on the floor!” and many other similar commands. These direc were given as if it were a game. may object to such a method, but it resulted in forming the habit of obe- dience in a child of unuSually strong will. In the past e'ght years that boy has not once refused obedience to the expreseed wish of the parent. May thi= case not be suggestive to some parents who are naturally disposed to show that they can not only be more stubborn than their child, but that, by relying on greater brute force, they can compel them to do as the parent orders? Such conduct is not worthv of a loving parent. The Most Stubborn. In the great proportion of cases of stubbornness the child is not intention- ally so, though the contrary may seem to be the case. It seems almost impus- sible for some children to comply with requests made under certain conditions. They seem positively mulish, in the Very worst sense of the word. Luckily there are very few such. Many of these are under an intense nervous strain. It seems that one of the best ways of managing such a child is to strive t) get the child to think of something else. If he can be made to forget, it may be easy to lead him back to the desired path. Those who have had experience with a balky horse will understand what is meant. Buch have discovered that no amount of beating will have the slightest effect. One man, whose borses were drawing a load of hay, endeavored to start one of the horses by bullding a fire under the horse. The horse moved far enough to get himself out of danger and to set fire to the load of hay. By unhitching the horses the man saved them. He has not yet been able to collect the Insurance on the hay and the wagon. The parent who uses brute force with a stubborn child, of mnervous temperament, may fare far worse than this man. Those who are most successful in the man- agement of such horses find their great- est success in dlverting their attention by tickling the nose, putting dust in their mouths, giving them something to eat, or in some other way making them forget their determination to be balky. May there not be some suggestion in this method of procedure for those par- ents who have e-ceptionally stubbo~n cilldren? The Only Child. How often the only child grows up to . orvositc of what parents and friends would wish. That such is the case all must admit, That there is some good reason for this being the case many have surmised. What the reazons are few ha» attempted to say. OFW 7HAL 29T e One great reason why the only child is likely to be spoiled may bef found in the fact that the parents are disposed to give the child nearly everything he desires. Being the only child he Is likely to get miuch more than it there were several children. His every wish is granted by parents, grandparents, uncles, aunts and friends. Such being the case, is it any wonder that a child reated in this way is apt to grow self- ish and expect the same treatment from everybody, even when he grows older and should know better? The only child is apt to be petted and complimented by all. If there were more the praise would be divided. All Visitors to the Lexington Cemetery almost invariably ask the question, When will the Clay monument be re- paired? The head of the statue of the distinguished Kentucky statesman was riven from the body by a thunderbolt on the night of July 21. Patriotic citi- zens will be pleased to know that stéps are being taken to replace the statue. The Hon. Willlam Klair, Representa- tive from the city, will probably intro- duce a bill at the next session of the Kentucky Legislature appropriating money for the purpose o* repairing the monument. Thomas H. Clay is preparing the de- talls for the proposed bill, and recent- ly wrote to four New York sculptors asking for estimates op the cost<of a statue of the same size and proportions and made of the same substance—Ken- tucky limestone—as the present statue. Those who have examined the broken statue believe that a new statue will have to be made, as the head is badly broken and the features cannot be re- placed. As soon as Mr. Clay has gathered the detalls in regard to the cost of the re- pairg he will submit the bill to Mr. Klair, who has agreed to introdude it in the Kentucky Legislature. The entire shaft and base of the monument are also badly in need of repair and of some measure which would protect it from the erosion to which it is rapidly giving way. The State has voted a Sum for the purpose of restoring historic monuments, and this fund may be available for repair- ln; the Clay monument. he monument cost in the neighbor- hood of $55,000. The expense was | orne by private subscription and by an ap- propriation by the Legisiature. The corner-stone was laid on July 4, 1857, with impressive céeremonies. Rev. E. F. Berkley of Christ Church delivered the prayer upon this occasion, and the ora- ASRED TO REPLACE CLAY STATUE -pedestal, tlon was delivered by Dr. Robert Breckinridge. The ceremonies were conducted by the Masons. The monu- ment is built of Kentucky magnesian limestone and is of Corinthian archi- tecture, consisting of stereobate, base, shaft, capital and statue. The statue is twelve and one- half feet in height, the base of the statue being 120 feet from the ground. Henry Clay died in Washington on June 2, 1852, and the funeral in Lex- ington was held July 10 of the same year, when the body was placed in a publiz vault. It was later Interred beside the remains of Henry Clay’s mother, but in 1857 was placed in a marlle sarcophagus in the mausoleu: then ready to receive it. Later, in 1364, the body of Mr. Clay's wife, Lucretia Clay, was placed in the mausoleum. The statue was carved by John Haliley, a Frankfort, Ky, monument builder, and the monument was finally completed about 1861. the gentleman after having worn the glasses some six months and found him a comparatively new man, with regard to his ability to work, and the entire recovery of his nervous trouble. There are, of course, many defects of the eyes, and too often people buy glasses that only partlally overcome their trouble, but they see so much better than formerly that they feel con- tented and belleve they have the proper lens. No person can get a thor- ough test unless each eye is fitted sep- arately, and then, of course, by a com- petent and conscientlous optician, and as I estated above, you should be able to judge the difference between the spectacle dealer or the so-called three- day diploma opticlan from one who has equipped himself and spared neither time nor expense In having a thorough knowledge of his profession, and this cannot be obtained in from two to six months’ time. Presbyopia is a condition of the ad- vancing age. Technically this is mot an error or refraction by a loss or par- tial loss of the function of accommoda- tion. The symptoms usually begin about the age of 40, and near vision becomes blurred and iIndistinct. Print runs together and you are compelled to hold it too far off. You not only de- prive yourself the comforts, but it will require more time for your eyes to re- cover. Myopia—in this condition the eye is too long, and Its refraction causes par- allel rays of light to focus before reach- ing the retina. The acuteness of vis- fon for distance -is always below the normal, while near-vision is usually good. Myopia s most frequently, if not exclusively, acquired during school lite, and it is often developed to quite an extent before any inconvenience is experienced. This is another reason RECTER . Optician why all children going to school should be compelled to undergo an examina- tion of their eyes. at least at the begin- *ning of each term. Too often children are chastised because of the miscailing of letters or not being able to se€ the print as the teacher or parent expects. Hypermetropia is commonly known as far-sightedness. In this defect the is too short and its refraction Is sufficlent to bring parallel rays of | to focus on the retina. Hypermetre is the direct antithesis of myopia, fr which 1t differs nearly in every respe It is the most common optical defect and often causes a great deal of trou unless corrected with proper glasses. Astigmatism Is an irregular eurva- ture of the cornea. This means that orie meridian of the eye refracts in ex- cess of the one at right angle to It which causes {mperfect vision for all distances, the only remedy being eylin- drical compound glasses to be worn constantly We also frequently find where one or both eyes require differ- ent ground lens because of the one eye being stronger than the other and which is seldom known until an experi- ment of some character is made. For instance you cover one of your eyes with the'hand and attempt to snuff out a candle suddenly placed within a few feet of you, you will find that you will invariably either overreach or under- reach and put the fingers too far to the right or left’ of the flame. Or dip- ping the pen In the inkstand on the table is an easy matter when one has both eyes, but let him close one and he will ind himself either overreaching o* to one side or the other, while with the other eye, the one that does practi- callysall the seeing, he has no difficuity. The reason for the apparent reversal of the habits noted above, the change from under or over reaching, is nat- urally of the different focus of the eye and demonstrates that the good eys has been doing practically all the work. A great deal more could be d that would be of interest to the reader. It {s this fact, however, that the writer desires to Impress upon you—never treat carelessly or with indifference an organ whese mechanism is of the most delicate nature and is eonsidered al most as valuable as life itself. It is always safer and advisable to have the eyes tested even in the simplest cases which {n the 'end will prove more eco nomical and give far better results. "AND THE ONLY CHILD By William J. Shearer + + love & pet, and it is well for all to have one of some kind, if it be only & dog. cat, & horse or some other animal. But it is very injurious for a single child to receive all the petting which loving parents are apt to bestow. No parent should withhold commendation for pralseworthy acts, but the undeserved praise which the only child is apt to get is likely to make him so proud and overbearing that life is miserable for those who come in contact with him. From the time the only child learns to walk he is apt to be followed per- sistently. At every turn he is met by a restraining, hand. Much less oppor- tunity is given for development than to those children in families where the number is such that a great amount of freedom is necessarily permitted. Such children may receive a few ex- tra bumps, but they will learn lessons which will prove invaluable in after life. Only Child Sometimes the Best. [ ‘While it is; indeed, very much harder to properly train an only chill than one of a number of children, the fact re- mains that some the very best trained children have been those who came from familles where there were no other children. Where ‘hic is the case it has been the result of the par- ‘s appreciating the e uliar danger and difficulty in the training of an 1y {1d. Seeing clearly the darsers, it is possible to avoid them. s hoped that the few suggestions in this talk may ‘give help to mafty who are ende .voring to train an only -~ 77 Those who have the responsibility of training a single child hould guard carefully lest they overdo the training. Too frequently this - the reason \'hy the children of ministers do mot turn out as they should. -Being intensely in- terested In the proper training of their children and being determined to do everythine that is st, 1.y have sometimes been led to repress far more than is best. Many times such pare:ts Go more harm by too m.c® training than is done by other raren‘s who are much lacking in all systematic train- ing. The Children of the Rich. \7hat has been said -oncerr':i_ the » 1ining of the only child ar .lles with equal if not greater force to the chil- dren of the rich. Certain It is that the children of the rich are generally at a great disadvantage in the battle of life. 1t is the exception when such are able to hold their own in competition with those who come from families in which luxury is unknown. The motto, “Give the poor boy a chance,” should be changed. It should be made to read, “Give the child of the rich parents a chance.” The poor boy will take a chance and hold it. We need not bother to give it to him. We are told on the best of authority that it is easier for a camel to go through the eye of a needle than for a rich mar. to enter the kingdom of heaven. The same figure of speech might be used to emphasize the difficulty of properly training the only child or the child of wealthy par- ents. Too much prosperity is apt to ruin aduits. Is there any wonder that a child is almost certain to be ruined by having his own way all the time? ‘Who has not seen a child running the house and all in 1t? Who has not feit sorry for the unfortunate parent on the street, in the car or In the home? Many times one feels disgosed to take charg> of* such an. one for a short time. such an occasion there would probably be an attempt to cure “by the laying on of hands.” No one who has watched a spoiled child bossing things could fail to feei sorry for the parents. Many times they are deserving of pity. In some cases they do not seem to know they have really nothing to say on most subjecta In other cases they realize the condi- tion, but seem helpless. But should not the child be pitied even more than the parents? It is not his fault, but the result of Improper training; upon his young shoulders rest the cares of the house. He must decide whether the parents shall go out or re- main at home, whether he shall go to bed or stay up longer, whether he shall eat what is put befors him and as to a great many other questions, which most parents decide for their children, thereby relieving them of a great re- sponsibility. Who Is to Blame? ‘When such a condition exists, whose fault is 1t? At first we are disposed to biame the child. But is that just? Un- der the same conditions would we not have acted the same way? Long before such a child could utter a word he was probably trained to do what he now does. Before he was a month old he was probably taught that, even If com- fortable, he should not le quiet, but should cry, that he might be walked, rocked or patted until he fell asleep. Ever since that time he has probably had such training which most certainly prepared him to be the despotic ruler of the house. ) But place the blame where you will, the fact remains that no parent has a right to ruin a child by allowing him to assume the duties which belong to the parent. It is the parents’ duty to decide for the child until he has de- veloped sufficlent judgment to decide for himself. It is the chiid's duty to obey, and the parents’ duty to see that he does so. —_——— Spencer and His Funeral. Mr. Spencer left the most stringent and precise directions as to the funeral ceremony. Some members of the com- pany at the crematorium were desirous| of proceeding to High- gate Cemetery after' the cofin was withdrawn into the furnace. But they were informed that not even the inti- mate friends were aware of the hour at which the cemetery would be reached, and that Mr. Spencer had left directions for only his secretary to ac- company the urn to its final resting place. This is to consist of granite and will remain uninsecribed for several months. Thereafter will be engraved upon it an inscription which Mr. Spencer him- self prepared in detail, but the terms of which are not yet to be made known. It ¢an only be conjectured what were the illustrious thinker's reasons for prescribing this long de- lay, but they are probably : be found in a desire to avert the consequences of the temporary emotional excite- ment created in his admirers by his death.—London Daily Chrwnhls’ Os