The San Francisco Call. Newspaper, July 12, 1903, Page 14

14 SCNDAY CALL. HE school i really does know. jon, yet 12 robes sh neth! ed bore. te them or they make her »on begin to hate her. season is the most trying e. 1f she steers clear of uring the first year she but if she antag- set there is Jittle hope able to manage more r on mer outing is & memory or regretted as long as J be the happy care- e, out of which she the pleasure possible. well her school lessons, free from her Euclid and yet to learn the greatest y safe, sal Others get a reg 1 from which th While othes or head, or life or limb. girl h no idea of ut any man. She } and finds too mu through grief sh up when there are too rice fellows lying around However, it is 2 much more satis- te of gffairs than in the Cays who lost a lover felt it in- her to lose herself in a Joose. factor when a cor T pi herself off the earth through & rapid decline. The independent girl of to-day tosses her head defiartly, ot to let any one think and forthwith® sallles out to e of golf or a game of hearts Cl nt lover’s best friend, and forget—if she can. There are no heart- broken girls nowadays. That wretched ence comes later. ung girl never really knows when ehe is well off, and to try to convince her of the ct only confirms her in the be- lief knows better than any one PEAN Ay else t re & libel on her heart to sup- pose that that organ ever had anything to do with some of the trashy love af- fairs that assall her, and are nauseating those who have outlived their own fool daye. - A young girl's head, ante- dating the experfence-hardening process, is too soft to know love when she sees it The first man who pours a lot of smooth palaverings into her too willing ear has & splendid chance of winning her. The & lot of theories and fads that would do credit to an In- she escapes the “career” and the “mis- may prove & boon to her friends if but if she starts out with the idea that she ng startiing with her life she degenerates into U charm ere refreshing, but, unfortunately, s of & young girl all unite to spoil her most hope- er she is spoiled they criticize her mercilessly. ed men more especially imagine they are not do- ity unless they tease & young girl until she eithes 1 who has been but lately emancipated from the bom thinks she knows it all, kuows so little that she does not know how little she (But she will outlive that.) She is full of verdant, impassioned ideas and burdened when the fact Is experience is so novel, at the same time so fascinating, that older heads than hers have been turned by its blandishments, and the man who is the first to tell her that he loves her is apt to remain a hero in her eyes as long as she lives, provided SelF=-Exiled Nobleman Who Prefers t0 Be a Fisherman Bee First Page. 0O be mere George Henry Goltz, fisherman, sallmaker, pipe-smoker end nobody of the Marquesas Isl- ands—when he might have been a Von der Goltz, honored with nobody but the god of the might-have-beens knows how many titles, known as heir to an an- cient and honored name, a favorite of the Kaiser maybe—would you have chosen as he chose? He would do the same again. Here is & self-exiled nobleman, to whom the world held out her best offerings, living in the lonely South Sea 1Islands for no reason except his own choice. Here he is doing what the hero of Locksley Hall thought of doing when he first found himself turned down. In the emd, though, the hero of the poem decided to accept his fifty years of Europe after all. But George Henry von der Golts has never for & moment’s regret turned back. He took his cycle of Cathay and he is glad of it The why of it ell remains and will al- ways remain locked in his breast He bas pessed als gliotted three score years and ten; he has almost, by reason of strength, come to the four score mark, and still he has never told. Was It astory of a beautiful and cruel German maliden? We have always been warned, “Cherchez la femme.” Did she refuse to listen to the woolng of the handsome young nobleman? Did he take a bitter heart away with him to the far corners of the earth? Or was it, as Wil- liam Anderson says, the boyish love of wandering that was upon him and drove him away from the vaterland, where his rosy path was laid out lor him by the hands of his forefathers? Did he have a brave young longing to seek new worlds and- their difficulties for himself? Did he rebel at the slavery to tradition'that “position” imposed upon him and long to be as free as a wandering gypsy? However, whyever it was. he cut loose from all that was his by right of heritage and sbility and betook . himself as a stranger in & strange land to places that the old and distinguished family of Von der Goltz might hgve had to search the map for. The family was a famous one in Po- lonia, the province of Prussia, in the times that costume plays are lald In. From Polonia they went to Germany and kept their distinction. The Emperors favored them, the German public held he never forfeits her respect, and yet there are many heroes of a girl's salad days to whom she reverts with a prayer of thanksgiving for her escape. The girl who remains heart-whole is spared much, for with her first lesson in them high. To be a Von der Golts was enough for ambition to ask. Even down to recent times they have remained of high rank. The modern Von der Goltzs have been best known as high officers in the navy and army of Ger- many. Admiral Von der Goltz reached the highest position In the navy under the Emperor's especial patronage. He was an own cousin of the exile. Professor Von der Goltz of Strasburg is a brother of the wanderer and ene of the greatest scholars of the empire. It was a chance in life to start out as a Von der Goltz. It was a road paved for & young man to tread easlly. To make & tallure he must have gone out of his way. Then what whim could it have been that seized a 21-year-old boy and sent him to the ends of the earth? Or was it something deeper than & whim? Was it a life tragedy? Burely no one uld think 80 to see the hale old man to-day loafing contentedly in his hammock, puffing con- tentecily at his pips, reading contentedly some out-of-date raper that has reached his tsolation. He had been finely educated, as the German youths are. He was already well started in lifé. One day he Germany was scoured for him. No trace was found. He had mysteriously dropped out of sight. The disappearance was common talk at the time, but the By " @OLONEL KA love comes also her first sesson of sorrow. Her first summer outing should be the happlest time of her life. She is free from all knowledge of the world. Her lofty ideals picture in roseate hues much that otherwise would be only common- time was more than half a century ago. Only the old people remember the story of the vanished boy. ‘While the search was going on he was making hi ay to America. That was the new world that promised all sorts ef dreams fulfilled to the boyish heart. New York and the East were not new encugh for him. After some two or three years of restlessness he made his way to Cali- fornia with the band of sturdy ploneers. He was full cf good spirits and the love of adventure and the daring te woo it, but he found no fortune in the min Perhaps he did not much want it. He likeéd to seek new lands, to see for him- self, to take risks, but the greed for gain seems never to have been strong in him. 80 he made his venture and staked his clalm, but the earth yielded up very little to him and he never made much more than a lving. Before he left America he married an English girl. She knew that she had a rolling stone for & husband, but she seems to have loved him and been loyal. Per- haps she, too, loved a rover’s life. After a period of wasted effort at min- ing, George Goltz—for he dropped the “von der” when he left the land where it was known—moved agaln toward the set- ting sun. He bad crossed one ocean and continent; now he set sall again and made for the Pacific islands. place. Her bellef in all things good has received no rude shock of suspicion, and she takes the world as she finds it, and the world is very beautiful, lovely and en- chanting to the girl radiant In her youth and beauty and her untried soul. Every normal girl wants to be popular and her first season clearly defines whether she shall be or not. In the very verdant period a girl often ‘boasts that she does not care what people think of her, and affects an independence fatal to popularity. No woman can af- ford to carry this spirit of independence too far. It is sure to sound the knell of mnuluny. which may also mean ostra- m. ‘We are all dependent on others for every pleasure we enjoy; If this were not s0 the Isolation that would follow would prove little short of maddening. . A girl's first alm should be to cultivate & suave, graclous manner which may at times defy even age itself to beggar her of charm. And, girls, always cultivate the woman contingent of a man's family ‘who pleases your fancy. Remember, that it is the women folks who give the teas and entertainments in the winter, and if you incur the {ll will of & woman of social prominence in your set she can ruin you among them. She can noise it about that you are {ll-bred or some other horrid old thing, and if such a criticism galns currency you are doomed. Avoid dark corners at summer hotels. It may be mighty sweet to sit in the gloaming way off in some secluded spot or some sequestered nook, but the girl having a penchant for dark corners and moonlight salls lays herself open to gos- sip, which she cannot afford, which even when unmerited may militate against her for years to follow. The girl who lingers in the open, who has a smile for every one, who waves a laughing good-by to friends, leaves a pleasing impression on their minds that is apt to stay. A porch or plazza s an awfully lazy place, and a girl looks her prettiest amid such surroundings. The lazy summer time {s full of soft wooings, and the langour of the summer girl invites all its caressing possibilities. eled, trying place after place. The Phil- ippines knew him for a long time, but it was the Marquesas Islands, the little French colony In the warm weather coun- try, that finally became his permanent home. Here George Golts and his wife settled down and many children and grand- children grew up around them. These have scattered; some to the Philippines, some to Hawall, some to the States. But their father is contented with his little wooden house and hand-to-mouth way of living. He goes forth and shoots a wild pig or catches fish when the larder is empty, or picks fruit from the nearest tree. He makes salls and sells flour and drinks to the natives for what pocket money he needs. .Papers come to him from New Zealand. His bed is & ham- mock. He gets wine on the steamers that go there from California. He has a good meal, good drinks and a good welcome for everybody. ‘Willlam Andresen, the German artist, found and sketched him lately at his own home at the harbor of Talohas, on the Island of Nukahiva. “My ancestors were famous in the of Frederick the Great,” he sald, “and I am contented now. Which would you be ~I or my ancestors?” The charm of a girl in her first season lies in the novelty of situations. If she is wholesome mentally and physically she enjoys everything that comes her way. The.games, the sports, the out-of- door exercise all add to the charm, and she sees life through the glow of her awn buoyant spirits. On & yacht the wind may blow until her gown flaps a merry measure Wwith the salls, and her hat may take wings, but she laughs a half embarrassed laugh at her own discomfiture. Life beyond the scheol room is busy unfolding new sensations and creations and she lives and loves it all. It is then that a girl should be taught to control her feelings yet without too much repression, and parental influence should mold & girl's character. So many young people encourage the {dea that they must show their likes add dislikes, despite all other considerations. Mothers of debutantes are often fearfully mortified by & girl's bluntness, who does not care what she says, and has not had the experience that teaches that polite- ness rules the outside world rather than the honesty recognized by the school girl's code. The too free expression of opinion is one of the most fatal mistakes of the newly fledged society girl, who is prone to in- dulge her likes and dislikes too plainly and thus finds herself at times unpleas- antly misunderstood. It is an easy matter to treat every one with the same courtesy and until a girl learns exactly where she stands in a man’s regard to show a de- cided preference for one rather than an- other {s unsophisticated, to say the least, and if the man does not return the re- gard may lead to embarrassment. The man whom all the girls like s apt to make sport of the girl who betrays a preference for him, There are numerous and difficult les- sons that a girl must learn, many of which come through humiliations that she remembers with a& feeling akin to shame and wonders If others too remem- ber. There are two traits that a girl may cultivate to excellent advantage: the one to be natural, the other to be adap able. The girl who is natural heart is of the right stuff, is always lov- able. She should treat every one with that courtesy and consideration that is the royal stamp of good breeding. Cheap wit, indelicate sarcasms and eriticisms that are often both rude and cruel are sorry passports to favor, and the girl who indulges them will soon find herself undesirabls. Cultivate adaptability. To be able to ot into any groove that time or circum- stance may warrant, to enter fato the spirit of any diversion proposed, these are the charms that help & girl magnetize the friends she meets on every side. A girl has it within herself to define pretty cleverly her own social orbit. She can make herse.. adorable or deplorable. She can be sweet and lovable, or pert and hateful. She can be companionable for man or beast, child or woman, anything ranging from § to 80, or she can be so disagreeable as to be intolerable. If she is wealthy she can make herself so charming that people will forgive her be- cause it really is nothherhlnu.lt. .::..:: not help it, and if she is poor cumvn‘: soms talent or accomplishment that will make her sought after. 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