The San Francisco Call. Newspaper, November 3, 1901, Page 17

THE COoT les THE SUNDAY OALL Hsre are t of what g out a society c figures O0CIETY ed g frien br She 1s Mrs wha great W women ac- to successfully idea what 11 think.” mathematics, I rtable T gilt it ir azy be necessar: would ures. ~It goes ke music comg are sm costs not le son. When t ed. With twe amounts is ab instrumental han two and a ger, are ghould say that not be too gr “All girls th girls do n estima nd. Wi vo week, thou an estimate for days drive or to any extent, nk would all girls n they that If a les- al is add- that alone ut twenty-five dollars. T and dollars would sic. My because T 2. mortany atrala or m. . But tney ve their trap both here and in our country hom The cost of learning to handle the ribbons s not to be consid- Jsually some one in the family sugh about it to teach them all necessary. It is more practice than anything else. But the ponies and all that connected with them cost in the meighborhood of five hundred dollars. “And clothes,” she added. “And I echoed. Lives there a girl with soul so dead that clothes do not interest her, particularly the cost? “Clothes, one would think, arénot an clothes, important item un#l one's daughter makes her debut. Bub eleihes mua ixg- pGrtant_ -rnere s never a ume wnen tney are not of the utmost consequence. From the time a baby is old enough to notice her gown and to look in the glass they are of intense importance. “The girl who grows up without the least regard for her clothes seldom can be taught to think of them seriously. She must be educated to dress herself well just as she is trained to use careful Eng- lish. Fortunately mothers have little dif- ficulty in that line. But when such a thing does occur it is little short of a calamity. “Ot course, she eventualiy falls in love with some man, and that is the greatest cure that I know of; but it may be too 1ate. INOT ONE gIr1 OUT OF ten thInks half as much about her clothes and her appear- ance as when she is striving to look well in somebody else’s eyes. “But understand me. I do not think that any girl should be made to think of her apparel and pay no attention to other things. The simplest frocks are the pret- tiest, but by no means the least expen- sive. “How much ought they to cost, you ask? Well, let us see. The opera season is coming on and that means clothes. An evening gown costs anywhere from six- ty-five to a hundred. The plainest fab- rics must Dbe silk-lined and the findings TABER, PHOTS . count up In a hurry. An opera cloak costs about $105 or $110; not any I . And then there are silk stockings, slippers and petticoats to. go h each gown, to say nothing of fans and the numerous little acquisitions that go with such an outfit. “Each toilet calls for a certain lay-out. If it is not complete, the entire effect is lost, and no mother wants her daughtery to appear in public and not have all in keeping. I know I wouldn't. “Naturally her clothes are the greatest expense. I would not want to try to dress my girls on a cent 'ess than $3000 a year. Even then I think the margin 17 would be rather includes all afternoon r dresses, But aft you, that There are 8. frocks ns. mainly About on the side long the mt Roughly it a host of other indispensables “And do she must be taught how to or does it lust come 1 looked thoughtful a minute. \ the girl. You e people seem to d when to things vs making blun- a good policy in the She be- g ruffles her. know exa and that tea. th less. inex- t at the end of A simple five- dinner bound to cost about dollars, and during winter there are somewhere in the neighborhood then the ‘coming ons to speak of the welve or fiftes [: tea. With no decorat and with no attem display, the ca- terer's bHil will be between four hundred and fifty and five hundred dollars. “I do not think that fifteen hundred would be any too much. There might bs a little margin, but I have found out that, es a rule, the other needs assistance. Yes, I think fifteen hundred would be about right.” “By the way, Mr heard of a conversat! “A—7?" she asked frankly. “Why, ye d glibly; “a eon- versation tutor. One who teaches charm- ing manners, who s good words and phrases, strengthens French and pol ishes off the roug! as it were.” I had never heard of such a tutor until a ide you ever I asked. lace: recently; for they are an Eastern product and have not taken root in our sc as yet, “No,” she answered, “I have never spend six months of Anyhow, I do not If a girl has no can be developed heard of them, and I the year in the East. constder them necessary. humor I do not think i by any amount of training. That is some- thing that is perfectly natural. Is there anything else that you can of that is neces: for a bud’s hap- and welfare?" I asked, busy with my unruly figures again. Six thousand and more to come. Good heavens and all that money spent on one girl and In one ¥ “Books count up a li think tle. A girl ought to know what to read and what to re- member. But all that comes when she has good books to choose from. The young people of to-day enjoy reading, and it is an instructive and innocent pastime. “And the other is a o Europe. Two would do no harm. Fifteen hun- dred dollars would about cover all expenses, I should judge. Mind you I do not say that all these are nec- essary, and least of all, this trip. But there is no getting around it that travel broadens and makes people see things through other glasses. Again gives confidence. But really, much of this can be dispensed wi debutante has beauty or personal magnetism. Whils beauty is more than s ep and helps wonderfully, still if T were given my choice, I should Again creeping. The rapidly they M magnetism mine had been tiny, but how Just even $7500. ibly expensive,” I mused those “Yes,” she answered smilingly, “it 1s.” “But to go back to t beginning. Does it all pay ted. “That,” pe upon how you look ps upon how she marries. pretty much of a lottery. Bu s that gi pleasure, I thi after all this pense, she fails to be what you were strive ing after rarely the sure of anything? more's the pity. But that is case. Anyhow are we ever MADGE MOORE. Wedding Fee News some friend who has been through the ying ordeal. He knows, of course, that $2 is all that is required by law, but somehow he feels it Is worth more—a case of sentiment ver- sus pocketbook. It he could tell the parson standing, showing how was, it would stmplify ably.. This he cannot do, can, trusting to the pa nd that he would give m afford it. While $2 is what the law allows, soms people pay a trifle more—$3, 34 and %; as a rule they pay $5, which is as much as the average man can afford. Occasionally 3 or $10 is given, while fees of $25 and §50 are very rare. The total average of marriage fees of the clergyman sum up about $500 a year— & neat little sum, by the way Next to the bridegroom the clergyman’s wife is the one most interested in the fee, for it goes into her pocket, and the more generous it is the better for her. Occa- stonally a lucky one whose husband pre- sides over a church with millionaire at- tendanigeis presented by him with a check for $100. The largest wedding fes on record is the one paid to the Pope by the Duke d’Aosta for the privilege of ma his niece. The average minister is well paid at $10 or $2. Therefore the bridegroom must not feel that he will be misjudged if he HE parson® fee is one of the most agitating questions the prospective bridegroom has to deal with, and he is financial generous he matters consider- » he gives what son to under- re if he could does not give an extravagant fee: and it | will be accepted if it is not more than the traditional bag of beans given as a fee to a New England pastor in early days. In Catholic churches the fee goes to the church and is counted as a “special ofe fering.”"—New York World.