Omaha Daily Bee Newspaper, November 5, 1915, Page 9

Women and Love HA, DAY, Sy s B A New Series by Succossful Women on How 1 Discovered MRS, LYON'S ACHES AND PAINS By ELLA WHEELTR WILOOX, | It In a feature of the agc: a part of GARRETT P. SERVISS, | Myse" b the ess, away from the ol e 7 (Copyright, 1915, Star Company.) — i b A photograph || Commander Booth Tells How sho | Have All Gone Since Taking s made womarfs r In the past t A good definition of ma ould Came to Work for Good of Others . . o Wom talk reat deal about loving. n woul P,_nkh e Wor E'“’"Wm : 'm “, with pist and | NAs. unfortunately for good te. be the picture-making animal Just as of the Lydl.l E. am s Veg 1 u ¢ yme the habit f an 1 Wwting | the sche child usually egins to d | shoot them all for love. ‘Other women | COme X in ul ) gins to draw e etable Compound. QS8 meh tnte oourth of Justios and siy | DUl to take it for g antew that o [rude figures of men and women, doss, drawings By MAUD BALLINGTON BOOTH. - B mediocre talent, or even an ability to do | ¢ yree " [ i 4 K i it s because they o6 Souial EANE ARTENAOLY,) SERDIIENGE | IaB oL 8 S S o e dust ¢ in the Terre Hili, Pa.—** Kindly permit me o ocial t agree es s mand of a slate and a pencil, s v the ! 4 i ! i love them. | mental supertc for a woman SHEGRGR of Wl Tt e g liber Gl s Commander of the Volunteers of *0 Five you my testimonial in favor of But just how | 73t b aleo) Unfortonately, the Habit of | oF Rimenity SHOWRL TRIE b5 rade L Andalusian | America. Lydia E. Pinkhar's does a woman, [tne same undiscriminating and indeli- | in 2 self by rude dia | At a very early age, Inapired by the Vegetable Com- | . na &8 and rough paintings made o the o M - o really (T!mhlsu;'"l | cate pubite to assume nis “suberior | wally of the caveris Which wers men's cavern, example of my parents, 1 ave my life to pound. When I first O woman® Hfkes to Lo tought “the best |firet permanent home showing P A g g 2 it Dhgen taking b 3 . ~ {man in comparison with her husband, Within a few years past a great num \ ng eame to me, as a natural sequence was suffering from ;na Il:e l'hu!lm)luz:: who I8 more frequently than otherwise 'ber of prehistoric cave pictures have the lookad for the fisld which offored the female troubles for, wro-:- e ke fher susetior i re ghave the | been brought to light, capecially in the Aist :'::'C'}:';m:";:‘::":‘lr‘?m:“:"‘: :‘:k:"; some time and had |one which makes her a superficial per- | lower slopes of the Pyrenees mountains, artistio i almost all kinds of her daily life? | tors on both the French and the Spantsh Dt oha bt i o fbeis | aches—pains in low- -Woman has gone But while one can forgive a blind and | giq a » Mo Suthe sense T—. sides, and In the mountains of southern er part of back and through a great unthinking public it s difficult to for- | Spain. The reader can judge from what 1 could see no ephere and could find no o A transformat | o n 8ive the eilly and self-cultured wife. Who | pe sees on this page of the surpring of our | place where my powers could be better | in sides, and press- since the days of talks about her deeply senaitive and re- | nature of these pictures made by Neoll |Used than in the movement founded by ing down pains. I our Pilgrim fined nature and her great capacity for | thie man centuries before wh " % o) remote my father and mother. This resulted in | could not sleep and mothers, Her idea |lovink. yet . who fails to resent any re- | pistory began fn Europe, | my dectding, at the early age of 16 to had no appetite. Since I have taken of herself, of man, flections cast upon the man whose name | Gojonel Willoughby verner fs one of ancestors | follow this fleld: and it was thus that| Lydia E. Pinkham's Vegetable Com- of love, is not at she bears, the latest discoversts of cave plotures | my girlish dreams and aspirations wore | pound the aches and pains are all gone all the same. Yet, unless she has eliminated from her na- For it 18 a reflection, when those un- acquainted with the qualities of a man in Spain, and a photograph of them here reproduced is due to him Interwoven with the stern, and pelf-forgotting hard facts purposes of the I cannot | praise your medicine too highly.”’—Mra. | and 1 feel like a new woman. % . . ’ a » , y % doiia ks Christian battlefield. ture the power to entertain a great and lin private life take it for granted that | rqne pietures are he o calesidl etleld. | - absorbing and dominating passion, sl;( e is dsfinated by h's wife, and pre- ‘bm‘ n.l.‘-; u‘rn:-: ‘|‘DIII|: ::\l:(n‘" ‘\'.: “]‘:“:: '{':n‘hueynnt ambitions of youth, the | AUGUSTUS LYON, Terre Hill, Pa. must feel toward the man she loves, In|sume to suppose that his wife enjoys SUNeE W RS WAL et ves of enthusiastic ardor of girfhood, the grow-| It is true that nature and a woman’s the main essentials, the same emotion which her great grandmother felt. It is the natural and wholesome orde | ble of love absolute the situation. If she does she .s incapa Of course there is type of man who kills out the power of {love in & woman's nature |man and upon the appearance of tho | world at a time so remote that even the | use ot ron, bronze or copper had not yet ing conceptions of mental capacity were all turned from the roseate hues of life which usually occypy the minds of the | work has produced the grandest remedy | for woman's ills that the world has ever known. From the roots and ¢ things that a man should be the | . Skl younz, and were directed to the sad, ? ! :’“mwy_m“" and the bread-winner.| He is the man who, after he wins a|Peen dreamed of. To come upor them shadowed paths where sorrow and sur. | herbs of the field, Lydia E. Pinkham, Woman's natural and wholesome place | woman, proves the petty tyrant and en- | D ‘N gloomy recesses of caverns, which [fering held out hands of appeal to my | fOFty years ago, gave to womankind is the home-maker and keeper. When, | deavors to obliterate her individuality and | 8T Oftem situated in places mot easily #Irl's heart and clalmed all that I pos- | 8 remedy for their peculiar ills which by force of circumstances, accident or inheritance, the woman is the purse- holder, she does not love the man it she vaunts this fact in the eyes of the world A wife who held that she was de- votedly in love with her husband took pains to inform caliers that “she feath- ered her own nest.'' She had brought him a fortune, while he was only a clerk, to crush every ambition she may have for self-improvement. Such a man sneers at his wife's opinions, doubts her Judg- ment, ignores her feelings in a thousand contemptible ways, makes her conscious of his bellef in his own supremacy and superfority and of her nothingness That the wife of such a man might enjoy her hour of triumph when some- reached, 8 like getting an unexpected view behind a curtain that has not been lifted for many ages. The outlines of the drawligs are so | like the rude sketches made by children that one can at first hardly persuade himself that they are the work of men | dolng their best to picture the scencs around them, while on the other hand {the drawings are so perfectly preserved phessad for thetr alleviation. As for success, If others were answer- Ing this question they would point to the executive and public gifts which have enabled me to control and influence Iarge crowds of people. The success I have gained through these gifts T will admit, but personally I prefer to lay emphasis uron two gualities which partake rather of the heart than of the mind. has proved more efficacious than any other combination of drugs ever com- eounded. and today Lydia E. Pinkham's egetable Compound is recognized from coast to coast as the standard remedy for woman's ills. In the Pinkham Laboratory at Lynn, Mass,, are files containing hundreds of urnished her own | time regarded by the indiscriminating ob- yp o thousands of letters from women seeks ::;:n- b g sorver as hia suporior, would be but nat. | AR cases that It in equally aifticult n'l refer to my deep and passionate love | ing health — many of them openly state But by speaking of such a fact she ural But such men are not as fre-| ' m;luz-\ their Sichiodt d% tm';‘:"::“m:"“" has increased in | gyer their own signatures that they have roved hersel incapable of the refined |quently encountered s the “New| In the caves examined and = photo- it passing of time, and an | yogained their health by taking Lydia an tender qualities which enter into & | Woman,” whose pride is not in the man | STaphed by Colonel Verner the drawings ense sympathy of dlsposition which | deep love. Had she really known how to love she would never have found pride and pleasure in making her callers she loves, but in her own achievements, be they lesser or greater, and whose talk of love does not ring true. {are usually made with red or yellow | plgments on the light-colored sandstone of the walls. Sometimes there are two makes it easy for me to enter nto and feel, as In my own body, the {lls and heartaches of others. Perhaps I might E. Pinkham's Vegetable Com pound; and in some cases that it has saved them from surgical operations. e DURY | WhaR &, Worban. Feally ow or three sets of drawings wnich have 5o mention thorough- réilise; Dbt hle BRAREEL S ED, it P ittt :r:‘.:";‘:‘ | been made one over tho other with dif- neas as & factor in my miccess. From a| - e chased by her own lnheritance, \nd el Pril ootlingd, SUAR et | ferent colored plgments. The —animals child whatever I turned my attention to of belng the offering of YL imatances, | She would rather, when in argument,| FePresented include stags. hinds, ibexes, had to be done to the best ot m$ ability o o wd mx‘::e n:oum have kept|be proven wrong herself, even while mo- | ©Xén, horses, wolves, dogs, fishes, birds, and knowleage. Nothing slse would ever aud' 1ove ‘and <p mentarily piqued, for the very foundation | ¢tc-» @8 Wwell as men and women. satisfy me, and this spirit is as potent her silent. Another woman, gifted with a certain talent which made her name known to a large circle, exhibited pride and satis- faction when indelicate people called her the “head of the house.”” She even went 5o far as to repeat the sentence to the quiet, cultured and intellectual gentle- man who had honored her by making her his wife. Had she known how to love she would not only have kept such a tactless speech from her husband, but she would herself have been wounded instead of flattered by it 4 No woman can love a man and desire to be thought the head of the house which bears his name. No woman can Jove a man and take pleasure in having people think her ‘‘smarter or more Ca- pable than he in his own domain. If the fact forces itself upon her, in spite of her love and devotion to him, that she is smarter and more capable, she suffers keenly, because the real hap- piness of a woman who loves comes through looking up to her lover and leaning upon him in all the big issues of life. of & woman's love must rest on the rock of admiration. There 1s a maternal love in most women, but it is quite another emotion from the great primal {nstinct which causes a woman to select one man from all the world as her type of the ideal protector and friend and comrade. It is an impulse of maternal love to feel pride and happiness in being the stronger nature, and in giving pity and comfort to the weaker child, and to laugh over its faults and weaknesses. Every mother considers berself stropger and wiser than her child. But when a wife is proud and satisfied to think herself stronger and wiser than her husband she has not known real love. She may be the natural mother, but not the fully developed woman. In every great love the maternal element must enter, but it most not be the dominant element. It {s impossible for a woman to feel admiration and pride and respect for a man unless he deserves it; but let no woman pose as an intensely devoted and loving wife while feeling gratifica- tion and vain pride at being thought “su- | sent hunting scenes. A very interesting circumstance is that some of the men are represented as | carrylng bows. Colonel Verner thinks that the pictures in one of the Anda- lusian caves were intended to repre- This is extremely interesting, because the same motive is found in many of the drawings of & much higher artistic character that were made {by the anclemt Inhabitants of Greece and |of Crete. The presence of bows in the Neolithic drawings of Spanish caves raises the question of the antiquity of the uee of that weapon. The bows themselves being made probably of wood could not sur- vive through thousands of years, but the pictures show that they existed. As authentic memorials pertaining to & { By ADA PATTERSON. He s a young doctor, ambitious, hard working, flerce battling, who, when he Is especially bruised in battle, wants his wounds healed by sympathy. Read his story, no intention of doing such a thing. I tried to sound the depth of my disap- pointment in the matter that she might understand. I have never since told her of a disappointment, or of any low mood of mine. When I want sympathy I go to an old friend in New York and get it.” “Another doctor? He will understand your problems. time so remote that no other form of history has survived, and when no great, lasting monuments like the pyramids had yet been undertaken, or could have been thought of, these cave pictures possess & value and interest that are almost unrivaled in the whole range of human history and prehistory. % The Story of Three ness life. She knows what I meet, and knows my nature, and she is sorry.” ‘But you didn't marry her?" “No. I had known her for years, and I had always thought of her as I would of a man who was a good chum. Untll after I returned from my wedding trip, she met me and so tenderly congratulated me upon my marriage. An orchestra was with me today as it ever was, As a fleld or sphere, our work depends to a great extent on faith, Take the divine out of our work and you have the ordinary philanthropic agency which s vulnerable to oriticlsm and attack. Work which is of God can never be this, and therefore I belleve cannot be allowed to fall In delivering men and women from the weaknesses and sins which ruin thelr lives and wreck their spiritual being. ‘The true Salvationist, the whole world over, is distinguished by his unswerving faith, upon which he relies first, last and all the time, As an application to the world at large, faith in God is to me the world's only hope. It is the one thing that applles to all classes, all conditions and all spheres. In it is found the solution for all prob- lems, the balm for all wounds, the re- dress for all wrongs, and the secret of the universal and uuparalleled suocos: with which the Salvation Army has met all around the globs lies in the faot that it ..as gone to the world with an unalter- able faith in God. N “No!— I Said In this age nearly all women are |perior” to her companion. wives of men like His face settled into grim lines, playing ‘The Rosary, her favorite song “doing something.” In the days of our | And if a man wants to arouse the high-! pyy ana draw | “Neither a doctor nor a man. It s & |That was my first realization that maybe rawo :urdroz.;a}u'hmuufl “::h?m"." 2 OOTRRS Puritan foebears careers for wives were | est type of love of which a woman I8 your own deduc- | girl whom 1 knew long before I knew my |everything might have been, should have [ the rule of g o ‘d ~s ness 0'4.0’0.00"1.0'0 . scarcely known. Now almost every wife [ capable let him make himself one o 4ong I will not wife. She was my chum before my mar- | been different. So we have gone on be- and then make 4 o one meets sings, paints, writes, plays, re- compel her respect, her admiration and your life tell, wherever it ia lived, by need to draw any riage. She 18 my chum again. When L|ing chums." lotting 1t [ cites, lectures or gives readings. her love all in one | tor you when it s feol downcast I always go to her. 8he| “And she 18 growing older and is still | 1ife 1a ;o;:‘lz’::":";":;“';‘:‘:“::"" Ne T want what I ask for— ——= ! finished. sympathizes, comforts and strength- | unmarried?” i£ bounded by selfiah considarations, Helt lnk..mn W what it ,,mm“ld He told it to me [ ens_me. o “Bhe 18 my age. Yes, I've seen a few | will dwart and diatort the highest and Mo .:on:n-. rive in a long c;ou- “Hm your \\If(‘»‘ R |l hairs since my marriage. When | noblest of natures, whereas unselfishness cha = she's sure of Ad { t L 1 o 10y Bestrien: 1I° o0 BETE S oMy wite docan't know. Bho f8 L0 |our baby came sbo sent him his first |eniarses the character and bevutifies the Calangt & ok e HIbAC: 4 0! a O era minded del g gift, a pailr of little shoes /she had | countenance, vice tOo oveliorn Fairfax depressing rain. Ho falthful to my wife. The girl 1 & £00d, [ g icioq o v 3 ViR wholesome, tasty b“l“ told me that a day self-respecting, self-supporting ome, Prl- | your wite knew from whom they 981 ings — of positive, uni- Suggest a Compromise. Dear Miss Fairfax: During my college think I could. It is hard for me to keep yp in my school work, it worries me so. y parents were always against our [like that gave an extra push down- | ward to his spirits secretary of one of the money mag- Bhe knows the contests in busi- vat natet came? “No, she wouldn't understand.” (The next article in this series will he by Jean Webster, Long-Legs.") author of ‘‘Daddy form results—of purity and economy. You try CALUMET LA 7s* .o vacation this year I chanced to meet &|keeping company, but I loved him and | When they are | young lady on the tennis courts at Cen-|thought I was old enough to choose for (low. Then as L i tral Park. I have played tennis with her | myneif, Please advise me what I should | most women and for several weeks every day, and 1 have | g grown fond of her. Not only that, but 1 sincerely feel that 1 love her. She has told me recently that it was her intention to receive private tutonng in French this fall, and, inasmuch as I am proficient in the language, I have offered my services. However, 1 _insist upon receiving no fee in return. Naturally enough, she refuses| happy, that is for the future to decide, | to accept my tutoring. E. G | Naturally enough you do not want to| accept a fee for your services from the girl for whom you care. On the other! hand, she undoubtedly does not feel justi- | single, however, to the end of your days | fied In taking up your time without ln;lhun marry a man who does not love you, | no any way recompensing you. Try to make | her feel that the privilege of doing this | work with her means a great deal to you, | and 1f she insists that she cannot accept| your services quite free, try to compro-| mise by suggesting that she give you a| 0, If you ask a return of what you have given reciprocity, as well as good taste would dictate a return of his presents. As to your marrying some other man and making him a good home and yourself but the chances are time will heal the present wounds and you will meet some one upon whom your affections center and who will reciprocate, Better remain matter what your attitude toward him Picvtu'rersrpue Hats some men do he talked freely to a semi- stranger of those things that were clos- | est to his heart. “1 work steadily ahead no matter what comes into my life," he said. ““That is the one settled thing in my life. No | one, nothing, can disturb my routine | nor interfere with the accompiishment of ! my work. Everyone must have his fe:t placed upon one Solid substance in this world of change and mine rest on my work. “But every man receives hurts in the fight. He is cast down in spirit and wants to be lifted up my sympathy. The biggest man in the world has moments | of need for gentle appreciation of what | he is trying to do. The strongcst man | wants the wounds that another man has | | | v .. OO OO0 e §and you'll never B-ck,m it. Cllfl? - O Ve 9. # AL n-c-lA-:lchh-u New Cood Bosk Froe—Se Slip in Pound Cam bit of her handiwork or some book which 2 hi 1a is hoos 2asad by | you are very anxious to own for Christ- | miven fo-Dia BEWA. oF &8 RopAN, ShS L HERE 1 bati mas. |tender undermtanding. © - | are no real substitutes for Wil & o at one settled ng in ) ~ grs Ly 11te 1s mly wobk, The most unsstties Tone’s Old Golden Coffee any more Don't Be Forward. thing in it is my mood. Mercury has | than there are any real substitutes for coffee. Dear Miss Fairfax: I am 18 and o thix n my spirits in the swiftness : . . stenographer in a large office, where noLhing 0B By ap N Over forty years’ experience in aging, roast- there are many people. There is a young | of its going up and down And 1} . 1 P . . o) 5 man, Working for 4 concemn with Wwhor | naven't yet gotien used to the fact tha | ing and blending has given it a distinctive T b Ho I about Mrand 1 sasice | PR R ARG M SNSh Sl He | taste. Its quality is uniform and its aroma him ve much Alne of business a & each o | . . . . "There 1s something quict and reserved der the gulse of professional ethics. | so tempting that you keep tasting it while aRout this Mr. B-x which has somehow “One evening 1 went home with my it is still too hot. ~ You will find SERANaG to ton: S0 S TS spirits at thelr lowest. A man who had | | been my friend had shown that he | | could not withstand temptation. For a | 9 | few dollars he had weakened and be- | foolish or trayed me and dealt a fearful blow at Unless this man singles you vut for his | my’ belief tn friendship. 1 told my wife | ¢ attention th s very little y n do | about it. 1 told her of ray utter surprise Old ‘ : ld - h,,;“:.,', ’b,“ \,‘ ‘l]. “,m‘_‘m, amiable as | and my bitter disappointment. I sald f 0 en ! possible. You can hardly rush vp to him ‘My dear, 1 felt so bad about it. I ] e g K e s o B s Grivapne felt as though, If there had been a gun | i gracefully compel an intimacy which he "‘-)"fl""‘“‘“ What 4o ;Fou think ©ehe | docs not seek. That & false friend wasn't warth such | a happy solution to the ever-present coffee Own yourown ! g 2 2T , grief? That he was a mean, horrid man 0% g o = e e E s e | to.treat her dear Loy #0, That she had problem. At grocéet, in sis-tight ¢nd home. You can | one with a young » | your favorite dish ready for dinner and | | moisture-proof pound packages, either ears. 1 think a great {1t would comfort you? . i i "agioet ot | hotie! B | wouid comtart yout .| steel-cut, with the chaff removed, or in the purchase one on company with another girl. bean forthose whoprefertogrind it at home. I asked bim for my lett 1Irulh. What she sald was, ‘If you 1.-«4) that way aboul it you should have easy monthly &ayments like rent. ead the real es- tate columns. back. It made him angry ’ I could not keep the ol g i done it ; Fiven ime, and. that he didn 't want what The ruin drove against the windshield TONE BROS., Des Moines 1 had given him. 1 have decided not to glve them to himi. Do you think it right for me to keep them? 1 am williig to give back the ring. 1 love him very much and would like to be his fri but he dues not think that Established 1873 Millers of the Famous Tone Bros. Spices of the automobile. The cold drops ohilled | us as those words chilled the heart of the man who heard. ‘Of cour the doctor said after a silence filled with thought, “I told her I didn't mean just what 1 salk 1 had A dress hat of brown velvet has a titlled edge. The black satin canoter | has & fur pompon.—¥rom De Masi, Fifth | avenue.