Omaha Daily Bee Newspaper, October 13, 1915, Page 9

[ h Matrimony is Full of Bills Be Sure to Have the Price. Nothing So Quickly Wakes & Couple from Love's Dream as the Sound of the Collector Ham- mering at the Front Door By DOROTHY DIX. ' ‘This s the third commandment of mat- rimony: Thou shalt not marry until thou hast the price thereof in thy pocket for, lo, matrimony is full of bills, The two greatest promoters of di- vorce are the in- dividual who first held out the al- luring theory that “love is enough,” and his twin brother in iniquity who laid down the proposition that two ocan live as cheaply as one. Millions of guile- less young couples have married on this platform only to find that it col- lapsed -under the welght of actual experfence. They fondly belleved that love was enough, and that, it you were united to the idol of your soul, in some miraculous way Cupld would feed you as the ravens did the propheta. of old, and that, anyway, you would exist in some sort of a seventh heaven where you would be indifferent to such sérdid things as food, and clothes, and shelter. But, to their amazement, they found out that after marriage they were just as hungry thrée times a day as they were betore; and they took just the same in- terest in clothes, and found plumbing, and a good bathtub and elevator service just as necessary to. their bodily com- fort as in their bachelor days. Moreover, family life isn't a sum in simple addition. . It's generally compound addition, and one and one in matrimony don’'t make two, but an indefinite num- ber whose cost no man can guess before- hand. Thése sordid and disillusioning con= siderations are a blight to romance, but they are certainties that have to be faced. Matrimony has to be properly financed in order to be a succces, for| nothing so soon and go effectually wakea | a man and woman up, from love's young | dream as the sound of the bill collector hammering on the door. It Is a sad truth, but it is the truth, nevertheless, that our bodies have to be comfortable before we have any spiritual uplift. No man Wwhose stomach is cry-| ing out for good food ever stops to think | of the state of his heart, ! No woman who | is worn out wit cogking, and washing, and sewing, ‘and nursing fretfil bables, |* hgs got a romantie thrill deft in her sys- tem. She would rather have a $5 bill| to hiré a:mald with.than a ton of death- | less love lyrigs addressed to her eyes, + Ninhe-tenths of domestic happiness has| its root in the money question. A young| couple marry before they have the price of a wedding ring, and the expenses it én- | tafls. The man finds that he has sold| himeelf into bondage to wrocers nmli butchers and dry goods merchants and doctora, Work as hard as he may, he can never satisty the unending calls upon his pay envelope, He has no chance to get ahead, | no possibility of enjoying himself, or; doing apything but theé daily task to which he s driven by his family ‘eces- | sities, No wonder hb gets discouraged, dis- grunted, grouchy snd that he comes to sce in his wife nothing but the millstone about his neck. The woman finds that marriage has turned her into a domestic slave whose whole life 1s passed in the endless round | of cooking and sewing, and serubbing and washing, and tending sickly bables, and preetising pinching economies. She becomes disillusioned, even about hersel, | because she knows that hard work and privations, and the lack of pretty clothes and luxuries are fatal to a woman's looks and charms. A | Rightly or wrongly we have formed habits on whose gratification depends our happiness. The .man accustomed to 800d food starves on course food, the man accustomed to daily baths is uncomfort- able without them. The man who has | lived in & pleasant neighborhood, amon¥ cultivated people, is miserable in & squalid tenement, with uneducated, unre- fined, unwashed humanity about him. The woman daintily reared, and accus- series of compart- tomed to all the elegancies of soclety, 48 | /o e any one of wretched if deprived of the softness of | wpioh'he could open life. | at will, dnd keep all The moral of all of this is that no man should marry until he is able to properly finance matrimony, and has enough money on hand to be reasonably sure of being able to live approximately in the same way in which he has been ac-| customed to live. Above all, he should not marry until he has money enough to be sure that he will not be hounded by the spectre of debt that eats the very heart out of man and paralyses his energy and ambition. 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Tt is narrated of Na- poleon, whose abil- ity in this particu- lar was most mar- velous, that it was as though his mind the rest closed, and do all of his work, and exercise all of his energy n that one single compart- ment He had so trained himself that having a single object which he wanted to attain, he could act as though that were the one exclusive object in all the world | that he had any concern for, and simply | focus himself upon it, and forget for | the time being that there was anything clse anywhere that he had any interest| in. The entire man, therefore, in all nis et (N | R R ¢ (N P 7 W | Plaid serge is here suggested for. a simple morning dress, but homespun or any other ma- The collar, cuffs and belt should be made of plain cloth in a contrasting N -~ G -y (V. 7 —r Simplicity is with its flare of modéls. ¥ ¥k the hall-mark of this suit that, coat and fullness of skirt, will hold its own among the season's more elaborate special point of pressure upon the piston- rod. A boller liberally perforated with points of leakage would mean no motion at the driving wheel, 8o that Napoleon, although occupled upon a different line nevertheleas won his success by the use of the same principle as is availed of by the quarryman and the of work, locomotive engineer. There is nothing in this principle that needs prevent a person from having a || 8reat many things upon his mind. Most people that count for much in the com- munity do have, but harm and a spend- thrift use of personal power begins only when they attempt to have a good many things on their mind at one and the same efforts oving in different directions at the same moment, which prevents successful move- involves a tjme with their thoughts and ment in any direction and wasteful expenditure of energy. People who are burdened and anxious vannot do g00d work unless they have the grace to forget their burden and ex- | tinguish their anxtety. cessfully invest ourselyes in o variety of Nor can we suc- enterprises, unless we keep them, lfke Napoleon, in compartments so essentially distinet from each other that the idle compartments will If a man with all the of Napoleon was obliged, n succeed, to put the undivided order to whale superb outfit of wisdom and determina- tion bore entirely upon one point. Then | when that was accomplished he could | close up that compartment and put him- | self in some other one, and In that way i always have all that there was in him | invested in the pursuit of but a single . aim | We know that if the quarryman wants | o break into a ledge of rock it is not done by iIndiscriminately flying at the ledge with a sledge hammer, but by set- ting up & drill at a particular spot and congentrating his muscle at that spot He gathers at that drill—not more than an inch in dlameter—all that there 18 in him in the shape of raw strength, and the drill goes in, the hole is charged and the rocks fly. That is & common- place kind of llustration. No sensible man would think of breaking up a ledge by any other process. In order to run a Is produced, but locomotive, steam kept in econfinement, B In-Shoots Charity as a rule cussedness in this wicked world The horn of plenty always seems to turn the small edge in the direction of a lot of us. After & man has sworn off, the oppor- tunities to get free drinks always seem to increase, If you can succeed in ome rut do not imagine that you can run the business|™nds & of the whole universe, When we see a 6-year-old boy suffering with long curls in hot weather it is proof so that its force cannot expend itself that mamma's menthl cogs need adjust. in every direction, but only &t the one ing. know nothing about | what s golng on in the busy one. varied genfus of vernishes too much himself into the one particular purpose of which he was at the moment in pur- suit, how much more rigldly is that prin- ciple applicable to the great majority of people, who either have no genius or one of exceedingly limited proportions. That, I might remark in cloaing, is the secret of the difficulty that some of us have in soundly sleeping at night; we close the windows when we go to bed and lock the doors, but omit to shut some one or more of those Inner compartments in which the mind does its day's worl; #o that, divided In two between sleeping and thinking, we neither sleep to much effect nor think thoughts that show themselves to be worth anything after we have become fully awake, D) It does not follow from being inter- ested in a newspaper article or in a pub- lle address that one is thereby actually benefited. Readiness to be interested is |one thing, we are all of us that. Dis- | position to be Instructed and to have our views modified and replaced by other views iy something different, and that is what very few of us are. We commence to read an article and read till we encounter an idea that is forelgn to our way of thinking and then | either skip to some other column or be- #in fortitying ourselves against the dls- | tasteful notlon that secks to Mself upon us. We read newspapers and magazines and listen to speeches and | sermons with a view of tinding in them | an expression of what we ourselves think, |Just as & handsome face turns to the | mirror in order to enjoy the retlection | that' the mirror throws back. { So that when in the course of our | reading we encounter an expression that | exactly fits our own mind we pat our- selves with the observation, expressed or unexpressed, that “that is exactly my fdea,” or, If it Iy an expression that strikes back at us in & way to challenge our mode of thinking we evade the chal- lenge by assuming that the writer does not altogether understand what it is that he s writing or discoursing about. Still writers keep on writing and ora- tors continue to orate, but with an un- derstone of wonderment in thelr own to whether their most success- | ful writing does anything more than to |afford their readers intellectual enter- talument and their most sincere preach. ng anything more than to give momen- tary occupation to their hearers’' ethical propensities, impose | Why We Quarrelled 3% afl & ] xx ARETRRRN RERXE aEs XA AR TEEL TexxsaxELmnE. EamxxINXREEE LN CxEgEERF AXRTEIERREAL TtrazmrRIKRXELR ARFAEIRAREE LR TxARFEERRRS Frivolous Wife. | i & Ay No. 3—The Husband's Side—He Tells of the \ A i o e it b i v ““The idea,”’ she cried, ‘‘of a man expecting a woman to make up by his society for all the fun he wants her to lose.”” By VIRGINL TERHUNE VAN DE WATER. ‘Copyrigh, 1915, by Star Company.) It is stranke that pe who agroe in the essentinls should quarrcl euch a nonessential es wocioty. Yet this ls what my wife and 1 did Molly lived i ouiTy (o 10l our marriage. When sho came to New York as my wite she was lasclaated t the gayoty and the senseless whirl thut mean less than nothing to me. She i | charming, and my friends called on her and Immediately “took her up,’ as the saying goes, Molly informed me that it wag our duty to return the calls made upon us. This 1 agreed to, thinking that when this post honeymoon task was performed we might rest In peace in our little home and each other's companionship. But Molly had no such idea. Instead, she insisted on entertalning all who entertained us. This meant that that we guve a serles of din- ners that cost more than we could af- ford. At last I set my foot down hard. ‘‘See here,” 1 sald, “I am not a noclety bud, and I decline to be one. I will not pay for any more of these fool dinners such as he have been glving for the last two months.” “But,” she protested, “everybody gives them." ““Then let us have the charm of origin- ality,” 1 proposed. “Let us cut out the dinners. “What sha!l we have Instead?’ she asked, her eyes lighting at the thought of some new form of entertainment, He face fell at my answer: “We'll give nothing. At least T won't And as T bave not an unlimited income, you'd better decide to let the other fel- lows do the entertaining for the rest of this year.” “In other words,” she retorted, be spongers and grafters!’ “Nothing of the sort!" I contradicted ‘“These people entertalned us; “we'll we re- | ) turned the compliment, Now let the thing | drop. The game's played.” | “Then,' she said, “am I to say shut up {in the house all the time and be lonely and stupld and bored to death?" It did seem @ bit hard, and I saw that it d1d. So I modified my statement some- what “No," 1 sald, “but if you must go to affalrs, jet them be the things that coroe off In the day time, not at night. There are plenty of lunches and afternoon te if you like that kind of thing." Sho followed my proposal with a vim that surprised me. If she did not recolve | an invitation to lunch, she asked some friend to g0 to & restaurant with her. I held my peace for a while, then I re- minded her that it cost more'to eat at | a restaurant than at home. *“Bince you must have some kind of social gayety,” I suggested, “‘do make it me afternoon affalr that does not sssitate the price of an elaborate ne meal The follawing week she announced that sho had decided to join a bridge club. “That will be something pleasant for the afternoon,” she remarked, “and it will not mean that 1 have to pay for a lunch- eon or for any other meal This sounded gocd to me, and I con- gratulated myself 1hat, naving run the gamut of gayety, Molly would now be | antisfied with devoling an afternoon or two of each week to her friends and carde. 1 was doonied to spocdy disappointment. when the bridge club was well under | way I counted four afternoons out of the | #ix woiking days when I reached home to | flud my wifo absent until dinner time. Bach time I spoke a gentle reproof, but {t produceq no effect. I tried to be patient, but at the ond of | & month 1 could control my Indignation |no longer. It was & cold and snowy evening, and I had had a hard day at the office. I reached home at a quarter of 7, and as 1 entered my apartment I called my wife. The negro mald replied from th kitchen door: “She ain't in yet. Dinner's ready, too, but I ‘spec’ she’ll be home right soon." I walted until twenty minutes past 7. Then, as our regular dinner hour was 7, I told the mald to wait no longer. I seated myself at the table, and had fin- ished my soup when Molly entered hur- riedly, “'Oh, I'm glad you began without mi she sald. “T'll be ready in a minute.’ ‘"What detained you?"' I asked sternly when she had returned to the dining room after laying aside hat and wraps. ‘“We played late, and the street car came up slowly on account of the snow,” she explained, “When did you start uptown?’ I queried, Molly truthful, and she answered frankly, “At a quarter of T." “And you expected to ride that dis- tance on a surface ear in fifteen min- utes?’ I asked. Bhe flushed angrily. “Would you have me leave before the other women did land thus break up the game?” she de- manded. “Yes,” I declared, "I would! And if bridge means neglect of your husband and home, you will give it up." “I won't!" she exclaimed. “We may ns well have an understanding here and now. You have stopped every other amusement I have, and I mean to have a little fun. T declare —her eyes flash-~ | Ing—"the idea of any man expecting to make up to a woman by his soclety for | all the fun he wants her to lose! “Wives have a right to do as they please, | Just as much as husbanda have, Some ‘wives may submit to unreasonable rules and regulations, but I don't mean to! You may as well resign yourself to that faot.” . 1 have not resigned myselt to the fact, but I have to accept it—or lose my wite. | | | J.Rufus Wallingford Ese. To-morrow Announces inthe M B that cial é within five vears. . FULL DETAILS in RE. "\ INVESTING a DIME OVIES Patience, people. You may think the plan Mr. Daw and myself offer youand 9,999 other brilliant Americans is the only one | have handy to help make you weathly quickly, and on little investment, 1 plan to devote my time and that of our high-priced staff of finan experts to your service. If you were not fortunate enough to be one of the 10,000 members of the Wallingford “Movie” Ring, do not despair. | will have an- other plan just as good for you. But anyway, tomorrow, [ will tell you how, for the price of a 10¢ loaf of bread, you might make a fortune. How our co-operative mov- ing picture going public would extend like a net over the country. Here's the proposition. You could investa dime. So could 9,999 others With the $1,000 thus received we could open a moving picture the- atre. Each of the stockholders would bring two friends. This would give us 30,000 customers to start. Those customers are given coupons to urge them to bring two more friends. So that we could open a chain of theatres throughout the country. Being utterly optimistic wouldn’t do for us. We are not radical, we are very conservative. That is why we are hesitating to decide about the proposition at once, even thoyugh inside of a week 10c would un- questionably become $10 and inside of a year $1,000. 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