Omaha Daily Bee Newspaper, October 2, 1915, Page 15

3 k4 Iy Before his opening M, Worth gave this charming model from his collection to be sketched for Harper's 1t is made of prune-colored silk, with its prin- cess walistline an inch above the normal, and offers an- other proof that we have many styles from which to Bazaar. choose this season. shoulder. A Few Latest Models in Smart Styles fro The tendency of Bulloz marks this suit of royal pur- ple velvet with braid embroidery ot vest and inside col- lar repeated on the sleeve where it joins just below the Black fox is used in trimming, and with the suit is worn a Lewis hat of velvet trimed with ostrich m Paris 3% | rival in smartness. By DOROTHY DIX. Do you know what would do more to grease the wheels of life, and make them run smoothly than anything else in the world? Just a little judi- clous application of the salve of appre- clation. A p p reciation is the magic that takes the wearine: out of toll, the bit- terness out of sacri- fice, and that makes all of our striving worth while. It puts fresh cour- age in our souls, new hope in our hearts, more strength In our arms. It is fame, it is achievement, it is success. It spans the most sordid lite with & rainbow of glory. Appreciation Is the answer to half of the conunrums over which philosophers an sciendtists puzzie thelr brains in vain. And just because it is so simple, 8o easy, and so cheap, they will have none of it. Iv's the great cure-all for so many ills, and the pity of it Is that with the remedy in our hands, so few of us have sense enough to use it It you are an employer and want to speed up the people who work for you, and make them give you better service, just try showing a little appreciation of ®00od work an loyalty, and faithfulness. Of course, that isn't the orthodox manner in which an employer usually behaves. The prevailing idea is that the boss should have an eagle eye out for every fault in his employes, and be as blind a8 a bat to their virtues. If Smith snd Brown are five minutes late dock them for it, or read the riot act to them. If they work overtime in a rush, say noth- ing about it. Just take that for granted. If Mttle Miss Smith makes one blunder in a letter, scold her for it, but be mum as the grave about the nipety and nine times that she is letter perfect. If there's anything that will take the apirit out of a man and make him feel that it doesn't make any difference whether he turns out a mediocre job, or one that is superlative, it is to have the perfect assurance that there'll never be any commendation of his work or indica- tion of appreciation given by those in authority. It kills pride in one's occu- pation, it puts the brakes on energy and ambition to know that there are to be no medals and blue ribbons for us no mat ter what our achievement. On the other hand, it is & spur n our side to know that our toil does not go un- regarded, and that somebody understands and appreciates our efforts to do our best. Why, 1 bave seen a gray haired, stoop shouldered old bookkeeper straighten up, and look as If he had had his wages doubled at just a word of pralse flor his accuraey from his employer. And 1 have seen the tired, wan look slip from a weary shop girl's face at a customer’'s courteous thanks to her for the trouble she had taken with trying to please her, Appreciation s the one and only solu- tion of the domestic problem, and the only antidote for divorce that will work. Why do men roam away from home and seek affinities, Not because any man believes his happiness is to be found in leading the double life. He knows bet- ter. Not because his is beauty mad and seeking a younger and fairer face. Most of the affinities I've ever beheld—and I've seen dozens of them—weren't half Household Hints Parasley rubbed on nettlerash will cure it. Alum, a tablespoonful, powdered, will purify cistern water, Almonds contain nearly 80 per cent of highly digestible fat. Bread, sta'e, can be made new by be- ing steamed. Sausages will not burst flour before frying. it rolled ‘n Using sour milk as a lotion will pre- vent the face pee.ng from sunbur, To extinguish & chimney on fire, take & large handful of eulphur and throw it into the fire. When the sulphurous fumes ascend they will at omnce put out the fire. An easy way to peel peaches is to place them in a dralner and dip them into bolling water and then into cold This enables you to strip off the skin without waste, After taking off & pair of gloves, kid or otherwise, stralghten out each finger and smooth out the gloves be- fore putting away. 'To roll them into & ball shortens their lives conslderably. To keep cheese fresh, cut off a small plece and place the remainder in & cool safe. Spread a small film of bytter over the cut part and cover it with a clean cloth. This will prevent that hard cracked condition, which ruins the best of cheese. as good looking or attractive as the wives who had been deserted for them. No. The real reason the average man who wanders afar off after an affinity does so because he gets no appreciation at home, and what he's out on a still hunt for is not love, nor excitement, but appreciation. The poor fellow is tired of tolling like & dray horse from morning till night for a wife who takes every- thing she can get out of him without ever once making a noise that sounds even remotely like gratitude, or giving any indication that she thinks that there is anything fine, or noble about him, or that she's lucky to have gotten him. The man doesn't mind work. He doesn’'t begrudge his family one single luxury that he bestows upon them, but what gets upon his nerves is that his family takes it all as a matter of course, and seem to think it no more than he should do to slave himself to death for them. Tha what makes father grouchy and surly around home, and it could all be so easily changed if only the wife and children would tell him daily and hourly how much they admire him, how much they appreciate him and how grateful they are for his sacrifices Belleve me, many a tired business man would weep for joy if he got even so much &s a pat on the head from his fam- fly by way of appreciation, such as they bestow on the faithful old carriage nag It's the lack of appreciation that makes 80 many women discontented and fret- tul, and disgruntied with home life. And you can't blame them. It is discourag- ing to spend your life cooking dinners for & man who gobbles them down with out ever apparently noticing whether they are good or bad. It is discouraging to pinch, and pinch, and ecomomize for a man who kicks about the bills, any- way. It is discouraging to try to keep yourselt looking nice for a man who never tskes a gpecond glance at you. No wonder women get to the place where they ask themsglves: “What's the use?’ and begin to hunt up time tables to Reno. But they wouldn't if thelr husbands would show them any appreciation. There lan't & woman living who wouldn't &ladly work her fingera to the bone, and pinch the very buffalo off a nickel in getting the most out of it if her hus- band would only tell her how much he admired her; and what a grand little manager he thought she was. There lsn't & sacrifice of domestic life that appreciation wouldn't sweeten. There fan't & jar that couldn't be avolded by its use. The difference between & happliy married couple and an unhappily married one is that one show their ap- preciation of each other during life, and the other wait to put it on their tomb- | tagonism that it has been known stones, By ELLA WHEELER WILOO=E, (Copyright, 1915, Star Co.) The people to whom the Christian world sends missionaries are astonlshed and puzzled to find the various sects of | these followers of Christ quarreling among themselves the high church with the low church, the Protest- ants with the Roman Catholics, the Liber- als with the Meth- odist. The various theosophical centers are at war with one another, The residents of Japan are partiou- flatly curious re- sarding these quar- rels, as they are educated, in their land, to think all quarreling in & fam- fly an evidence of bad Dbreeding and they are educated by the missionaries to think Christians are of one family. In Japan the two religious denomina- tions are the Buddhists and the Shin- tos. Their temples quite frequently are #ide by side, and indeed, almost every Buddhist temple has a Shinto “annex,” #0 to speak, and there is a very amicable feeling between the two sects, The Shinto people worship ancestors and date their orlgin back to the Sun Goddess, who ls their ideal of a divine being. Almost the only principle included in this worship is one which gives utter- ance to the sentiment, “Never must we cause shame to our ancestors; it is our duty to give honor to our ancestors.’ Yet alas! many of the believers in Shinto do things which must cause shame to thelr ancestors, just as many Chris- tions (by faith), do things which must reflect upon their dear Christ and bring discredit on thelr creed, and as many Bud- dhists go contrary to the teaching of their Lord; but the quarrelsome spirit of the Christians among themwelves s a continual subject of criticlsm in the Orlent. Envy and jealousy were severely con- demned by Christ, yet His followers seem to indulge these unholy emotions with- out acknowledging them by their ugly names. In religion, in philantrophy and in all kinds of reforms and socleties or- wanized for the betterment of the race we find these devils of jealousy and envy showing their hideous faces. The Soclety for the Prevention of Oruelty to Animals s often at swords' points with the Humane soclety in the same town. So bitter has been the an- to Oreate neighbor enmities and break up Republished by Special Arra: with Harper's Basar, : :' : : : Plerre Bulloz joins black broadcloth to blue fallle in » suit which is heavily embroidered in black silk braid. Kolinsky fur trims the collar and outlines the large scallops of the short jacket, A hat of black Suzanne Talbot completes a costume that need fear no ngement atin from old friendships. The Sunshine socleties and the King's Daughters, both formed to help and brighten the lives of the un- fortunate, are not Infrequently engaged in a war like unto the War of the Roses; and the vital forces which should be conserved for the high purpose of the organization are wasted in petty Ignoble bickerings and quarrels, all re- sulting from jealousy, Such a condition of things must make the angels weep. It is impossible for one who has the real good of huwmanity at heart, the weal sentiment of sympathy malg and the real desire to evangelize the world uppermost in the mind to feel Jealousy or Intolerance of any other ef- fort in the same line. He who does not feel enmity or even lacks the epirit of love for other workers in the same field s only seeking self. &lory. He decelves himself if he imagines he is an earnest philanthropist or reformer. He s only a politiclan in dlsguise, It one wants to lessen the cruelty in the world toward children and animals, why not feel heart and soul in sympathy with every soclety or organization that s working toward that goal? He who really wants to brighten the lives of “shut-ins” and give comfort to the sick and poor will instinctively say “God bless you" to every other worker In gimilar field, She who 1s a King’s daughter In very #pirit will bless the Sunshiner, and uniess this feeling drives out any possible in- trusive thought of jealousy toward other organizations there is not the spirit of God or unselfish love of humanity 'or sincere sympathy for animals in the heart. There 18 only a desire for self-aggran- dizement and an ambition very like unto the ambition of a polticlan to sboceed in some cherished aim, For jealousy s of the devil, and ean have no place in religlon or philanthropy, In-Shoots Sympathy seldom heals the wounds of the underdog. === When the heart is young the face sel- dom grows ol rapidly. There may be plenty of room at the top, but the rent Is always steep. Some wives can henpeck 80 sweetly that a fellow does not realize it. Somehow the market always seems to be open for the other fellow's ideas. and, for ani-| By Virginia Terhune Van de Water. (Copyright, 1M5, by Star Company.) My husband and I have quarrels about his ideas with regard to the equal--or unequal—standard, and his bellef that he may say and do things which, It I aid, would be Indiscreet. He claims that I should avold all appearance of evil In this he s right, but it I should do this, so should he For instance, he s particular as to the kind of woman with whom I am acquainted. If there has heen & broath of scandal about anyhody I meet, I must avold her or dlsplease Joseph. Last winter we met & pretty and bright littlo actress. From all that I could ob- |serve aho was as Kood as ahe was pretty. | Hor husband was an agresable chap who let her do much as she pleased. T lked !them both. Hut one evening this woman told me {an amusing story, which was rather (risque, and I made the mistake of ro- peating it to my husband, I also ex | plained that she had no evil thought in {telling this tale, but that she was prob- ably in the habit of talking quite freely to the people in her set. “She meant no harm,” T added, “for #he told this in the presence of her hus- band, He laughed at it H My husband frowned slightly. | "I do not like you to associate with women who talk ltke that, nor with men fwho laugh at their jokes,' he said. | Yet the very next time that he and I chanced to he company with this cou- ple, I saw my lord and master chatting wafly with the wife, and laughing up- roarfously at some of her speeches. When LWhy We Quarreled-~ we were alone together, I mentioned this tact. “You see that she is very entertaining, T sl “‘She is amusing, oertainly,” he replied, “but she is also given to making re- |marks of doubtful propeiety. I don't want you to be at all intimate with her.” | Then he told me of & jest that she had | made, “That was probably what you were Ulaughing at when I saw you with her,” T remarked. “It probably was,” he affirmed. *“PBut {T @0 not Ike to hear women say such | things.” | “Then,” T mccused, “why do yod en |courage them to say them? It's mot falr for you men to exg women on, laugh |at their indisoreet specches, and then |warn your wives away from them.” | “We men have a right and a duty to |guard our wives,” my husband reminded me. “And not to guard other women?™ I asked, | “Certainly not. That is the other wo- man's business.” | “It 1 unjust to applaud n & woman that whioh ypu condemn behind her Alone in i taken. which she may stop. ance in finding a good place You can trust,-- Room Where Should She Go? Where Find a Room? Kvery Mother realizes the danger that confronts a young girl coming to a big city alone. Dangers lurk at every side, evils that masquerade as virtues, false friends who are the worst of foes, and innocent pastimes which in reality are the vilest prac- tices. Too much care cannot be If you are a Mother having a daughter about to come to the city to go to school or college, or to work, safeguard her as much as you can. Look to THE BEE to offer snggee- tions regarding the most reliable boarding and rooming houses at Or, if you are a young lady com- ing here to study or to seek employ- ment, come to THE BEE for assist On file in The Bee offices is a list of reliable places where excellent boarding or rooming facilities are to be found. THE OMAHA BEE No. 9 things,” he returned, “because you do not know life as we men know it.” “Good 1= good, and bad is bad,” T as serted. “For & woman—yes, But not for = man,” he rejoined Tt Is the same way about his eriticism of women's dress. He wants me to dress in the most conservative style. He de clares that he hates false hair, powder and rouge. Ho will not even permit me to have my hair waved with hot irons “It the Lord had meant you to have ourls he would have ghvem you curly bair,* he remarked upon one occasion “And, by the way, [ do not want you to wear any of the extremely decollet: drosses that are now In fashion.” This was when we wore discussing o dance to which we'had been Invited. 1 had spoken of the kind of gown I wanted to wear and had proposed having my halr dressed for the affair. I had Aot ben to a dance since my marriage, two years ago, and I was quite excited at the prospeot. Of course, I dreased as my husband de. manded—wearing a walst cut in a modest V in the front and back, and with my un curled hair wound in a plain twist. As I glanced in the mirror and noted my pale face I remembered how my hus band hated powder and rouge, and com forted myself with the thought that in hin eyes 1 would be lovely. Yot when he was introduced to women wenring low gowns and unnatural eurls and with arma and necks glaringly white and cheeks suspiciously pink, he seemed to enjoy them. 1 contrasted the looks of every woman present with my own & mure appearance. “I look dreadfully plain'” T told my husband in an aside. “You look very natural' he assured me. “You look as I waht my wife to look.” “Hy the way, did you notice that woman who just came in? She's a stunner, isn't she? One of the fellows has promised to introduce me." “I had to acknowledge that she was ndeod ‘‘a stunner,” yet I remarked to my husband that it was more art thad nature that made her handsome. “Don't be spiteful!” Joseph admonished TLater I triod one of the new waltzes with the husband of this “stunner.” As it ended my husband drew me to one side “I wish you would not dance with a man you scarcely know," he sald. Ul dldn’'t like to wee you with that chap's arm about you." “But you were dancing with his wife"” 1 retorted. “That's quite different,” he replled. “A man can do that kind of thing.” “And this woman means to do the same!” I exclaimed, angered by his tone and manner. “And when I come to an- other dance I shall dress as other women do.” “Then,” he sald with a finality that made me know he meant it, “we will come to mo more dances.” And, being his wife and & good Woman, I had to submit. to live. 104 Bee Building