Omaha Daily Bee Newspaper, September 9, 1915, Page 9

B The New Hats from the Fall Openings in Paris Republished by Special Arrangement with Harper’s Bazar. The Selfishness of Men These two models, to left and right, are at opposite extremes among the new shapes. The former is of black satin monsienr, with a little wing of black velvet embroldered in old gold or silver perched on the brim. The model on the right is a more work-a- day hat, in tete de negre velvet, with o band and wide stiff bow in the back of black faille ribbon, the cords of the faille running lengthwise to These two inodels to the left are very chic The first is a play on the familiar cocked hat, in dark blue, and the second is in Gari- baldl red, in velvet faille and ribbon By DOROTHY DIX. ] i ] \ N ~— | i There is a lovely theory that every man s a king of guardian angel—the little cherub that sits up aloft—and generously protects and disinterestedly plays the part of providence to women. In reality, the cradle to the grave man is en- gaged in a steady job of getting tho best of her. Of from course, he doesn’t mean it. More, he is sublimely uncon- sclous of this being the case. As he tigures it out, life fa simply a case where somebody must get the hot end of the bar- gain, and he s convinced that somebody shbuld wear petticoats. He even thinks woman likes it, and takes credit to himself for letting her live at all. Look where you will, and you see man's | selfishness to woman lllustrated at every turn, i Even in love man is never satisfied | unless he gets back ten times as lr\Hl"‘ly as he gives. His affection for a woman may be of the most milk-and-water char- acter, but she must hand him out a double distilled essence of deathless de- votian, a hundred and fifty proof. More- | over, she must back it up with a steady | flowing stream of gratitude because he | haq the goodness to notice her and ask her to marry him. ] i Just watch the next engaged couple you meet. Isn't the girl doing all the talking and looking pleased, and making | all the effort to be agreeable? And isn't the roan sitting up with a complacent and patronizing air that says plainer than words: "I permit this young person to adore me, and for once in my life I am aware that I have done a perfectly altrulstic and noble thing Observe the way a man kets into trouble. Doesn’'t he rush to some woman with his tale of woe? And doesn’t she have to listen to it day ai day, and night after might, without ever betraying a symptom of weariness, or daring to suggest that he's anything but a persecuted martyr? Yea, verily, But does any woman dare to tell any man, except her doctor and preacher, who are pald to listen, about her troubles?! Not one. For experience has taught her that the minute she hoists the rainy weather signal every man in sight grabs his hat and runs for shelter. If & man has e headache, doesn't he expect everybody in the house to be on the Jump fetching camphor, and ice, and heaven knows what, and doesn’t he make his wife sit by his side and hold his hand, and pretend that she bellevos he's about to dle? But if the wife is sick—dear me, he wonders what makes women have #0 many confounded nerves, and he says he never knows what to do around sick folks, anyway. And then he goes com- fortably off to spend the evening at his club playing poker. Which of the sexes has to do all of the adapting of itself to the other? The feminine. When you listen to a man and®| a woman talking together, isn't the woman always trying to converse about something that Interests the man? Don't all the woman you know study up on the stock reports, the base ball score and politics, in order to be able to talk to men intelligently? And did you ever hear of a single man reading up on the new style of halr-dressing, or the burning tople of the width of skirts, in order to be able to entertain & woman? Don’'t men demand that womén must be perfectly satlsfied with nothing live- | ller to do than keeping house, and rais- ing bables, and an uninterrupted contem- plation of their husband’s charms? But imagine what would happen if one single woman demanded that a husband s inter- est should be confined within those nar- row boundaries! Think of the brutal selfishness of good | men who refuse to make their wives an | allowance, and for the pleasure of show- ing that they are masters, make high- spirited women come to them for every penny they spend. The women give the loving, faithful! services of hearts and heads and hands, such as mo money can hire in the open market, and yet there are men who are never willing to give them anything for it as their right. It is always bestowed as @ favor, that women are expected to be grateful for, and men neither know, nor care, that a favor is as bitter on the feminine palets as it s on the masculine. Consider the selfish point of view of man's adjudgment of rights and privi loges. If a man goes out with the boys and comes home with the milkman in the momning in such a state that his wife has to get up and open the door for him, he thinks himself a poor, henpecked reature if she says a word { Suppose, however, & wife shouid do the rame Ay even once. It would be the divorce court for hers, for there Is precious little 2 man will forgive a woman, but all eternity is not broad nough to bound what he expects her to forgive hjm. And what is it but the selfishuness of man that for so many years kept women shut out from practically all educational privileges and gainful occupations, and that still keeps them shut out of their political rights? | Man had a good thing and he wanted to keep it for himself, and this is at the | bottom of all the hue and cry about! woman getting out of her sacrod sphere. | | cts when he | Man doesn't worry about woman's sphere untll she gets some job that he wants | himself. | And the funny part of all of this iy that men haven't any idea that they are bein selfish to women. *=rhaps because they | have been that way so long they dom |’ know any bette By ANN LISLE. There was once a pretty, young girl whose employer was known as “Old Skinflint.” He paid his private secretary 188 a week for sitting at a stuffy little desk in a dark corner and working from (9t e His own daughters got §8 a day to ex- pend in bright corners of electric-lighted tea rooms or anywhere else they chose. And it never occurred to Old Skinflint to think of his private secretary as exactly human and as full of the joy of living as were the butterfly young per- sons whose allowances were so much more because private secrotaries were so much less. The wrongs of the young woman who earned $§ a week Instead of being given that much a day included the fact that she had to hurry down a cold lunch | which the office boy brought her and to stay at night frequently to get out let- and asked, “What do you say, my dear, to a little dinner with me this evening? | Dulcle knew very well that a little din- {ner with Old Skinflint would be likely to| ibear no relation to such salaries as 38| a week. Also she had read a great deal \of modern literature about Beauty and the Beast, and Morals and the High Cost of Living. So she fixed her eyes| firmly on Old Skinflint, said a little | prayer for the job she was quite sure she { was losing and then recited her creed: i‘ “I am engaged to a young man and T {am in love with him, and whenever I !get enough saved up out of my $8 a | week to buy me $100 worth of trousseau I am going to marry him. So I don't €0 out to dinner with any married men Old Skinflint blinked and remembered that his Annabel had presented him with 41,500 worth of bills for her summer ward- jrobe and that Christine’s hadn't cost ters of which the boss bethought himselt |™uch less, and then made a very re- at a guarter to six, and which he must sign and get off the very first thing in| the morning. Tho year that our pretty, young girl came to work for Old Skinflint | markable apeech. “Quite right, my dear. The world would probably disapprove of your din- ing with an old man who might very his family decided to summer in Cali-| a8y be your father—but it you and fornia. And at the end of the month he found himself very lonely indeed. Now the girl's name was Dulcfe, and she looked exactly as sweet and inef- fectual as her name indicated. She had golden hair which actually did fall in ringlets about a classic white brow not at all marred by the fact that it was distinctly low-brow. And her big, blue {eyes were as vacant as shallow pools. Her nose was little and pert, her mouth soft and tender, and her chin and jaw suggested babyish beauty rather than strength. One afternoon at 5 Old Skinfiint, who was lonely indeed, leaned across his desk |your young man wait for a hundred dol- lars to pile up you will probably know many times as lonely as these I have while my folks are in Californla. “So from Monday on you get $10 a | week—and maybe some time the young [folks will take your papa along t Coney.” And when Dulcie told her young “nee?™ | | ing a gravity your years do not sanction. contained the usual $5, and when she | ventured a protest, Old Skinflint looked at her with no glimmer of understanding and informed her curtly that there were plenty of young women with ability quite equal to hers who would be glad to work for $8 a week, and #f the salary was not | sufficlent she was of course free to seek | better pav. | Dulcie stayed and continued to save a dollar a week out of her munificent salary Moral: Sometimes virtue is its only re- wand. give the effect of stripes. By BEATRIOE FAIRFAX. Pride is generally considered as a rather contemptible thing. It is, unless it has the right foundation. To be proud of the clrcumstances Into which chance has thrust you, to be proud of the beauty with which a clean-living line of an- cestors has dowered you, or to be proud of the wealth with which a hard-fisted grandfather has {nvested you—any of these is Indeed a contemptible form of pride, But this pride I should scarcely call Beatrice Advice to Lovelorn : ¥l e Don't Be Jei Dear Miss Falrfax: yeare old, and I go with a girl my age; 1 Lave a friend who 1 think likes this n also girl, She makes dates with me and th #he makes dates with my friend. I hi asked her who she wanted to see, and she sald me. Do you think that I should get ‘‘more” at her for making dates with my friend? BOY Your youth makes your attentions to her anything but serious, thus giving her the privilege of going with others if she chooses. Don't spoll her good times by assum- man about it, he sald, “Nuts! The sly old dog Is probably crazy about you, kid. |You ought to be very careful, but play the game right and you can probably get {papa to pay you $15 a week while he 18 |teeling lonesome for his girls out In California.” However, Dulcie's next pay envelope \ furc'again. 1 was afraid i« It is Rude to Protest. Dear Miss Falirfax: I am at a loss to know whether it s the proper thing | for a young lady to offer to pay her owu | fare when meeting a young man on her | way to business. 1 met n cusual mc-| qaintance and he pald my fare; then, when he entered the subway, he paid my | offer to pay | own, becanse on a similar occasion, with another young man, 1 offered to pay my fare, he was insulted, T. F. When you meet & musculine acquaint- ance and he pays your car fare, thank his graclously. Do not belittle yourself or him by discussing this little social courtesy, which is quite to be taken for granted. Refuse by All Menns, Dear Mis : I am 2, and met a man filteen years my senior, but he looks B, 1 have only seen him twice, and he has asked me sor my hand. I do not love him at all, but ‘my people |want me to marry him because he is | wealthy, while I am poor. I thought if I became engaged to him 1 could learn to love him, but I find I can't What shall I do? IN DOUBT, There never was enough wealth in the world to mean happiness to a marriage without love, Refuse him, and make your refusal final Don't let any one force you into a marriage like this. Are You Fond of Yourself? worthy of the name—it s rather temptibly stupid snobbery, and, heaven help us, most of us are all too likely to be snobs of just this unintelligent sort. That we are snobs of this sort some of us calmly know, and some of ua stupldly don't. Some of us find amusement in our own nstinct of exclusiveness, and others take it mo solemnly that we are hope- lessly impeded by it. With a temperate oxclusiveness tempered by u sense of [ humor and based on a knowledge of human frality I have no fauit to find. It actually has an instructive value to the excluded and compels them to cul- tivate powers and manners that will take them Inside the paling of worth- while soclety. Exclusiveness implies the survival of the fittest. It Is necessary to human soclety. With the mort of pride that makes one dainty and exclusive and Insistent on good manners, one can find no more fault than w'th that which makes one inslst on eating with a fork Instead of with a knife, or on keeping one's hands clean and smooth. Being proud of yourself means first of all not being ashamed of yourself. To fail In having your soul and mind and body as clean and well ordered as cir- oumstances will permit would be a mat ter of which one should be horribly amed, But in order to be proud of yourself you muat bend clrcumstances to your will and be a litle cleaner, and neater and finer and stronger than they seem to permit. Making the most of yourself is scarcely A cause for pride—you have to make & bit more of yourself than the material warrants. There is no necessity for look- ing down on the people beneath you—the thing you have to do is to look up, quite unenviously, at the people above you and cone very calmiy to proceed to reach and pass them, It is very easy to make excuses for yourself, But how can any of us be proud of the person we have to explain and make allowances for? You may well be proud of yourself if at the end of w day you know you have seized on every opportunity that flitted across your vision and if you know that you have held yourself rigidly to a standard so high that you had to strain every nerve and muscle to reach it The very moment that you have just cause to be proud of yourself you are likely to be most humble about what you have ‘yet to accomplish. True pride is actually of royal lineage and ls quite unashamed of faiiure, since it means to bulld on fallure to success. True pride exacts everything of ftseif and nothing of the world; but it never permits the world to drag it down or soll it. It is never ashamed of its be- ginnings and never falls to recognize the fact that whence you, come means noth- ing and whither you are going every- thing. It is quite ready to lend a hand to fellow travelers and quite unwilling to yleld one jot of its staunch climb up- ward to any temptation. You cant be proud of yourseif unless you are climbing, but that pride is » purely personal matter between you and your soul and should be inflicted on ny» one else. It should mean excluding no human being from your sympathy, but every unworthy thing from your plan of life. When you can look yourself stralght In the eyes and tell yourself, “I did my best and I criticised no one else because his best did not happen to be mine,” then you may indeed be proud of yourglf, Hear the following numbers of BY ALL M {ANS the new Vietor Records, on sale now. 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