Evening Star Newspaper, January 28, 1927, Page 34

w How to Deal With OMAN’S PAGE. Child Who Ts Shy BY LYDIA LE BARON WALKER. Tt 1s surprising how people from the time they are little babies until they are old and decrepit in ing an audience. The 4 tion, and if they do not succeed in get- ting it in one way they will in another. So it is the wise mother who remem- bers this instinct when training chil- dren. It must be quelled when it be- SHY CHILDREN SUFFER UNLESS PERSUADED INTO CONFIDENCE. comes a feature in a child’s habit, but it is not as difficult to help such a child as one who does not know how to get altention and is then what we call shy Ja pivot and if he cannot get an ) nothing to express, but simply and en- | tirely because he does not know ho\\'l to do either without appearing ridicu-| lous—or so he imagines. And shy | children have vivid imaginations. We | might call them inverted imagina- tions, for they press upon their brains without the outlets of prattle and later of conversation that a child who is not shy has. | The shy child often has outbursts of ! temper or fits of sulkiness that amaze the parents. Often it is during such | periods that the child is severely pun- | ished or greatly misunderstood. Tact Required. i But if it were not for these safety- | valve perfods, preferably the bursts of temper, the child might have an_ill- ness that would prove baffling. It is at such times that a mother's store of tact and understanding is heavily drawn upon.’ To act unwisely then, estranges the child, while to give audience with understanding cements the bond of loving affection. When the outbreak, if such a thing as being sulky can be called by such a term, occurs, the child is deliberately put- ting up a smoke screen between him- self and others because he feels his audience is “not with him,” though that audience may be but one person, perhaps one of his parents. But the fit of ‘“sulks” shuts him off from every one. The sulky child i one of the “difficult” kind to train. He Is usually an egoist. His life centers more than is natural about him: ence in any other way he will by fusing to talk, refusing to play and even refusing to be with others. Some- times the remedy that works best is that of like curing like. When no at- tention is paid to him during these very trying periods, they will pass. When to Speak. It is in the interim between these times that the parents have to use every means to get the child to un- burden his thoughts to them as his audience, and to so help him to de- velop that the periods gradually grow less frequent. Help the poor child to see that he will be shunned by those whom he really wants play- es and friends when he shuts him- self off from them. The smoke screen illustration may prove helpful in visualizing his atmosphere of aloof- ness that shuts him off from his playmates. Lesson in Values. The child who does antics, who talks loudly, who interrupts, who brags, etc., is merely trying to attract at- tention, to get his small audience. He is happy when he succeeds—but others are not. The ignoring process works wonders for such a child. But it still remains for the mother to im- press upon the child that whenever he has something worth listening to, or whenever he actually heeds attention or help it will be granted gladly. At such times he deserves an audience, and it is well for him to learn what things are worth while. Bragging is The shy child suffers agony at times because he (or she) cannot express himself without awkwardness or only in a halting way. He craves the abil- ity to remain unseen and unnoticed, not because he has nothing to say or silly, Interrupting indicates he is poorly brought up and reflects on his mother—he will not like his impli- cation. Necessity, Whether in old or young folks, is a cause for immediate attention. The Daily Cross-Word Puzzle (Copyright, 1927.) . Griet. . Persian poet. . A game. . Beverages. . Contest or speed. 5. Black. . Insectd. . Parts of a play. . Drink excessively, . Mountain in Bolivia. . Fabulous female demon. Deface Entertains. Salty. Wasting. Exploded. . A high explosive. Large boay of water Brazilian city Female sheep. . Athletics Changes. . Roman garment 2. A bantering jest. of surface On the sheltered side. T Mountain in Thessaly Down. Strikes softly. Artiticial butter Literary ¢ Openings. ropical birds. Players A particula ¥ 4 Units, Nodule of earth, Gazelle of Tibet. 28. Grain artificlally germinated. 24. Ra. 26. Corrode, 28. Mature. . Once again. . Member of an ancient Aryan . The northern Jewish kingdom. . Meshwork. ] Ring that makes a joint water- . Laud. . Lubricate, . An edible tuber. . Luminary. 5. Rod. . Curved Molding. i . Goddess of discord . Certain North American Indians . Grl's name. 4 . Watering place, © A heavy weight. Everyday Law Cases Will The Court Aid One Wrong- Doer Against Anothery BY THE COUNSELOR. Walter Henderson went into busi- ness. He made money—lots of it. But he spent money—Iots of it. The more he made, the more he spent. And the more he spent, the more his business suffered, and when he realized hi: t‘ulu:nlon it was too late. His credi- ors were pressi | Lors avere bressing him, and failure Planning to save a out of the failure, he éL’bflQ‘L«“fl“?fi :_Uch:}n‘rd‘ Double, a close friend, to hold 531(_ im until after the insolvency Henderson left the eity and retup when things nad quieted, lli!ulanls:ll was to sell the $10,000 property and &0 Into business again. He went to Richard .Double, ex. {l]a‘{l(‘d hllfl :‘Nln :lm‘l asked Double o sign a_deed conveying roperty g e g ving the property But Double refused, Henderson funjed and threatened but Double wxs adamnant, and gneered at the thicat of & suit against im. Henderson brought sult, setting out that the property was his and was conveyed to Double only to hold for Henderson until his return, But the court tefused to his plea, and reitérated the maxim: listen to old legal THE EVENING STAR, WASHINGTON, D. O, DorothyDix ONNYSAYINGS BY FANNY Y. CORY. Dest as 1 gets her walkin' pitty good, her gibes a sigh an’ lets go all ober. (Copyright. 1027.) DIARY OF A NEW FATHER THURSDAY NIGHT. Big hearted, that's me, even if T have to be forced into it by my wife sometimes. I was poking around the apartment at dinner time because dinner was late, and Hildah had gone to the stor to get some things which we were out of, as usual, and I found some cheese and sliced chicken and little pickles and cake hidden away and 1 said, “My favorite dishes. Are these part The Ideal Home. Descridbes Place of Peace and Ins; Home of Freedom, Where Parents and Children Are Friends, Where There Is No Fear, Quarreling or Tyranny. CORRESLSONDENT asks: (are no bickering, quarreling, harsh | there is an understanding, sympathy; tenderne ; hs it & temple of refuge, to which its inmates may flee when hard beset | makes by the outside world. | his underlings. | children and breaks his wife's | woman who is she-who-must-be-obeyed and who gets her way |and hysterics. father and mother are not kill-jo; except that they have a wider know B because they are forced to. that th she paid about her extravagance. of dinner?” and Joan said, “You leav those things alone. I got them for Hilda when she entertains her sweet- heart here tomorrow night.” I said “Ain't I the genitl host?” and Joan sald, “Youdon't care what you do to an adjective, do you?" I said, “I hope the radio battery is charged up enough to please Hilda and the guest of honor. If her immigrant boy friend doesn’t get to hear both coasts it will break my heart,” and Joan said, “You can't hear a 50,000- watt station in the next block on that set. It is time we were trading it in on a better one.” I said, have to.trade in your husl wealthier one first,” and Joan said, “I wish 1 could.” I said, “In the past year we have bought a radio and some furniture and a car and your trip home and all the ¢lothes you needed to knock your friends down home dead with, so what are you kicking about?" Joan said, “Don’t forget what the cost while you are groaning " 1 said, don’t con- sider the baby an extravagance,” and There are no petty tyrannies in m {man, who, because he is the purse-bearer, No husband who crushes out a n apirit and makes of her a sullen slave. Instead home is a place of freedom, where eac| margin of personal liberty, and where all are so des well-being of the others that liberty never degenerates into license. I'N the ideal home the children give obedience hecause th They obey their parents because they know v are just and falr, because they respect their parents’ judgment, and because they love their parents so much that they cannot bear to grieve them. And that kind of obedience is based upon years and years of giving children, s square deal, of comradeship, of comprehension of the individual child's peychology, of tact and diplomacy in handling the youngsters. In the ideal home there is no fea his wife about being detained downtown to see a customer from Oshkosh, when he has really sat in on a poker game, because if he doesn't, he will have to go through the horrors of a scene with a virago. her husband about the price of her hat and tell him she pafd $5 for it when 25, because if she doesn't, he will berate her for the next 10 years No child is afraid to tell father or mother about some little foolish wrong thing it has done. “What is vour defip‘tion of & home, and what is the husband's and the father's place in it My ideal of a home is where love and pe: fault-finding, se and harmony abide. There recriminations. Instead that never falls, and that ideal home; there is no autocratic ruthlessly imposes his will upon 11 the joy of their youth in I{'vs No by pagging h individual has the widest ous of the happiness and In my ideal home husband and wife and parents and children are friends who love each other and trust each other, and who talk over together the problems of life and bring to their solution the combined wisdom that springs from the difference in sexes and the difference in ages. Father and mother feel that they lose none of their dignity in getting the point of view of flaming youth; and flapper daughters and cake-eating sons listen to their parents and are guided by them, because they know that and would not curtail their pleasures ledge of life than they have. ¢y want to, not The husband is not forced to lle to No woman has to lle to Instead, when husband telephones wife that he is going out to dinner with the boys, wife answers back cheerily, “Right-o, have a good time. And when wife confesses that she has paid more than she should for her new lid, husband answes : “‘Good for you, old thing. you would wear a gold crown all sét with diamonds. If you had what vou deserve, And Mamie comes to mother with her first little shy love story; and Jamie goes to father to help him out of a boyish scrape, and mother and father give the little boats a shove off the rocks that they might have foundered on, and that sends them out into the safe, deep waters of life. The deal home is a place of comfort. No matter how plain it may be, it is always clean and orderly The food may be simple, but it is always well cooked; and for each member ¢f the family there is always a comfortable chair with a book and a light and a chance for individual dog@ll‘l’lm(‘nl. . the ideal home there are dreams and the stuff that dreams are made of. There are no cold-water throwers; htest day by prophes ambition and destroys his faith in himself by him how impossible it is for him to do what other men do. sunshine out of the brij who kills her husband no dour pessimists who take all the ving storm and disaster. No wife telling .No parents who put out the fire on the altar of a child's soul by ridiculing its every effort and laughing at its boasting of what it 1s going to do when it is grown Instead home is a place of inspiration, a place where courage is bred into one, a place to which one may go secure in the knowledge that if no one else in all the world believes in one, the folks at home do. The fact that it was necessary to justify the faith of those at home has turned many a coward into a hero, and made many a man and woman, who else would have failed, fight through to success. In a word, the ideal home is the greatest achievement which a man and a woman, working shoulder to shouider and putting into it the best intel. ligence, the greatest energy, the highest purpose of which they are capable, can achieve. It's a two-person job. No man and no woman can do 4 alone. It takes team work, but when it is accomplished it’s the nearest approach we have to Heaven on earth. As for the man's place in it, he should be friend, counselor and ide. He should be not only the head of the house, but its heart and backbone as well. And when you find a man who not snly does his duty by supporting his family, but who gives to his wife and children companionship and love and sympathy and guidance, you are mighty apt to find an ideal home. Joan said, “I will admit he is not always a luxury, but you may as well charge him up to me along with every- thing else we own.” THE DAILY HOROSCOPE Saturday, January 29. Astrologers read an unimportant planetary government tomorrow, but 2 benefic aspect dominates. This should be a favorable rule for advertising and publicity. Writers this year are to enjoy great profits and to attain unusual success, for there will be much reading. It will be disappointing to seek em- ployment under this sway, which indi- catés that small pay will be offered, the seers aver. Financial matters should recelve attention while this rule prevails, and there should be new respect for the results of careful saving. The conjunction of Jupiter and Uranus, July 15, is read as presaging changes affecting many nations. In the United States the people should eliminate graft and corruption, for the Nation 18 to become the great helper of a distraught world. Persons whose birthdate it is have the forecast of a quiet year in which they ought to prosper. Children born on that day probably will have eventful lives over which they will retatn control, (Covyright, 1927.) In Berlin nearly 2,000,000 people are employed in more than 254,000 estab- lishments. Get Healthy Flesh— Where You Need It New Combination of Yeast| | and Iron Makes Lovely Curves and Clears Your Skin—or pay nothing Thin] of ounds of enlh added 3 weeks! Your complextan ' m u s cleat ang” youthiui all In a singl course Areatment ‘o e plesaat ot ity But how does it work 4o quickly ? The. Dproperties and iron in a new concentra form Anat s 9 rimes more effective than yeast and ‘ron taken separately. Are Sickening Oils Necessary? sl that 1 'SP Ro N Hed ST g [t VEAST gives ‘you all The welght-hulid ing benefils of table of cod 1 no sl taste or afterward 1 your skin is pimply.” ealiow or lotehy. take IRON- 1ZED YEAST today—and ‘see the marvelous change 1o & clear. fresh. giriish com) I8 gour, peight ts below non 128D YRAGT' now—cand hote ‘how pounds are gajued. holiows Bl out’ and smooth, dc curves | Fesult. Get "TRONIZED of yeas| “He who comes Into equity must ‘| come with clean hands.” (Copyright. 1927.) — Mexico has a tax of 6 cents a gal- Go today to t atore. Get » fy IT""{JE“‘M. lv-nrmn{l nl M effecty, ask b * ¢ will bo refunded inyig from dri ent to_bi + to THE TRO! nven direct DOROTHY DIX. BY MRS. HARLAND H. ALLEN. Old-fashioned Quilts Unless you are going to buy just a patch quilt for your bed, not a cover- ing that will add to the attractive- ness of the room, you won't be in- terested in old-fashioned patch quilts of present day manufacture. But if you see any of these quilts, you will realize how much more than just covering may be bought in one. These old-fashioned quilts are still made of real India chintzes, palam- pores and French calicoes, as well as domestic stuffs. Most of them are made in patchwork designs, and these vary to suit all tastes, rooms and mood: In some of the real old quilts you may still find that a bride's wedding gown or a groom's coat is used as the resplendent centerpiece. Today hundreds of patches may be used to make one quilt, but the machines sew them so quickly that they are made more cheaply ‘than human hands ever could. Apart from apparent age it is very easy to tell the genuine old quilt from the modern. the old ones, under the design, there was a layer of cot- ton or wool padding, and th layer for the bottom surface. most patchwork quilts are made by being tied together, thus stitches and time are saved. Many patchwork quilts bear curious names. Most of them refer to their patterns, and ingenious quilt makers Certainly no one can affo You pay only 75 on your el In addition to s the above offer we will allow you Ap have improved on them at the present day. “Job’s Trouble” has a pattern made of hexagonal blocks, like a honeycomb. Tt is suggested that ft was 80 named because it took Joblike patience to make it. Southern mountain women _ still make quilts in the way our forebears did, and if you are fortunate you may be able to pick up one of these quilts. They are bargains at any price, be- causé they are produced only with the most laborfous and palnstaking effort. The materfals of the old-fashioned quilts were beautiful and often bril- liant, but Mhr{r we have a greater varfety of fabrics being woven, and our quilts are fust as fine. Finer ma- terials are used today because calico is no longer expensive, and chintzes are reasonably priced. The result i that you may buy an ‘“‘old-fashioned’ quilt at a price lower than that of the cost of the patches alone in Colonial days. Today most quilts aren’t padded be- cause central heating and brick and concrete walls make mountains_ of layers unnecessary. When you buy a quilt today you are buying warmth certainly, but you wouldn't want the excessive warmth of some old- fashioned quilts. Wé will always have use for the beauty, however, of the old-fashioned quilt, and it almost seems incredible that we can buy it 80 inexpensively and with so small a cost of effort. TR ) -t' -a | = s e to miss this wonderful opportunity JUST THINK OF IT: Down and small mcn!hl{ lF'yunl\tl of only 75¢c. when you buy an “American Beauty” ELECTRIC IRON The best iron made 00 for your == old iron —any kind or conditien ACT AT ONCE! The Potomac Electric pliance Company 14th and C Sts. N. W. Phone Main Ten Thoasand mm-—fihfl-‘m*-' it salls. FRIDAY, JANUARY 28, 19217. Willie Willis RT QUILLEN. “I ain’t ever goin' to get too big to kiss mamma If she’ll do it when none of the fellers is there.” Your Baby and Mine BY MYRTLE MEYER ELDRED. One of the commonest methods of encouraging spoiled children and mak ing tyrants of them, is to attach un- due fmportance to things which should be accepted matter-of-factlv. The lov- ing mother who in the first awesome days of motherhood takes such pro prietary delight in her new possession and cuddles and fondles it, making a ceremony of every act, soon finds the wise infant shrieking for these at tentions when they are uncomfortable and inconvenient for the mother Mothers who make such a todo over a child's eating or non-eating, make it possible for the child to use this as a weapon for more attention. His fin icky appetite becomes the most im- portant thing in the houschold. This can only come about when the par- ent has allowed the child to think, as one educator aptly puts it, that he eats only because it pleases the par- ent. The child whosa tantrums set the household on its ear will turn on tan- trums like a faucet when he has found that his emotions are of such power. The adult who needs a constant round of pleasures in order to be hap- py at all is the direct outgrowth of the child who has been coddled continu- ously from infancy by over-indulgent parents or relatives. The chronic dyspeptic is the child whose attention has been directed con stantly on every bite, and taught to look upon each as possible menace to his well being. Inevitably they be- came so. The mother must know what her child should eat. Put it before him without talk or an analysis of its con- tents so that the child may eat it, en- Joy it and forget it, the only healthy attitude toward food. The child whose tantrums are not dsieouraged by disregard of them may outgrow the actual tantrums, but he becomes the adult who uses his emo- tions to get his own way. She, for it is almost always a woman, becomes blue and morose when the world ceases to gaze at her with animated attentlon; weeps because no one “loves’ her And almost always this type of emotional adult, who has never learned control, llkewise goes to the seventh heaven of bliss for the slightest cause. The education in the unimportance of every day happenings comes in in- fancy. One eats and drinks, sleeps and makes merry as a natural thing. One does not create a false halo of importance about these natural events and make it possiblé for the child to use them as a rod over the parent to gain undue attention. NG . Bisouit Tortoni. Six macaroons, one quart vanilla ice cream, one-halt cup walnut meats. Pound the nuts and maca- roons to a powder., Mix these in the ice cream just after freezing. Pack up in & mold and set away until firm. To prepare the vanilla ice cream use one and one-half cups of milk, one-half pint of cream, one table- spoon of cornstarch, three taple- spoons of sugar, three eggs, one-half teaspoon of salt and two table- spoons of flavoring extract. Mix the milk and cornstarch, which has been rubbed smooth in a little cold water. Cook in a double boiler for about 20 minutes and strain, Have ready the eggs beaten with the sugar and add these to the first mixture. Have the cream whipped and add this to the eggs and sugar. Stir fn the flavoring and salt and freeze. “Salt-Rising BBE'A_D BARKER’S _Whole Wheat kind of pancakes is better for your family? Use the rfl: mixed, ecientifically blended ginia Sweet combination of wheat, eornt and rice flours and notice how THE FISHBACK CO. Indianapolis, Ind., U. S. A. NCAKE FLOUR JCKWHEAT FLOUR and SYRUP . omc e W A g O FEATURES. IF YOUTH BUT KNEW BY ARTHUR CAPPER, United States Senator. 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Without accumulating some little store of money or property, however, it is difficult if not impossible to attain what most people desire— security, independence and influence. The lack of even a little capital cuts off opportunity to engage In business on vour own account; the possession of it is a lever with which you may move mountains. Thrift in itself is not a virtue, but it is for most of us the only means of making any sub. stantial progress in life. The lack of that quality has ruined many a life which held bright prospects. p ople of today are full of ambitic of buoyancy of spirit. 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