Evening Star Newspaper, May 7, 1926, Page 48

WOMA N’S, PAGE. Self-Consciousness May Be Cured BY LYDIA LE BARON WALKER. A letter lies before me in which the writer says: “Please tell me how to overcome self-consclousness.” There Rre hundreds of women who would | One thing t5 be overcome is fear. self-consclousness is banished. All this may sound reasonable and theoretically satisfactory, but how is the desired aim to be attained in a specific way? It must be remembered that whatever else lies beyond our power we do have controd of our thoughts, or we can have if we wish. No one can prevent our thinking what wo wish. rulers over our thoughts. If at times they do seem ungovernable, we can turn then: sistence. Eliminate Feal self-conscious person is afraid she will not appear to advantage, that she may say or do the wrong thing. that her dress is not correct for the occa- slon, that her house will not seem well kept, or any one of « thousand differ- ent things may come to mind to dis- turb her poise Think of Others. Instead of attempting to stop such thoughts, thing hard of something else. Let that something else be the conifort or pleasure of the person you are with or the company in which you re. You will become absorbed in deas outside vourself as soon as you can benefit others or help them to have a good time. Before you are aware of it you have lost your self- consciousne: in the finest wa. Ways to Interest. 1 you know a person well, you will realize the subjects that interest her. Ask her about them. Talk about them. She, or he, will become absorbed in the favorite topic. You will be eonsid- ered a good talker merely by putting in a word now and then to stimulate the conversation. Remember all_you can that relates to the subject. Your | something better occurs | sa SERVING TEA TO 1S GRACIOUS COURT . X GIVES THE HOSTESS SOME AC- | TIVITY THAT TAKES HER: THOUGHTS AWAY FROM HE SELF. like to be freed fro trait. Fortunate ile there it is the changing from one mind to another that is bafin; secret lies in forgetting one’s self, f relf-consciousness is the of | hinking too much about one's self. Tt | not exactly egotism, for that im plies a self-satisfaction coupled with self.consciousness; but it is a center ing of the mind on one's self so that other thoughts are excluded. From this it is apparent that the thoughts inust be turned to something outside his distressing nd means, | tt be way of | BEDTIME STORIES * Very Humble. ] Have you ever noticed this The truly humble are seldom grumblers. This is because they have learned a | great lesson. The truly humble are as | a rule those who once were vain and | haughty and proud, but have learned | & great lesson. Little Mister Smarty, the young Grouse, who had thought he knew {t ell, had first nearly been caught by | Sharp Shin the Hawk, one of his very | worst enemies. and then had been caught by Farmer Brown's Boy, whom he supposed to be an enemy at 'ALWAYS AT HER HEELS EXACTLY AS SHE DID. the time. And in both cases he had suffered a terrible fright, and he had known that it was all his own fault. That night, when little Mister Smarty went to roost, he didn’t go to sleep right away. He thought over all that had happened that day. “It.” 2aid he to himself, I had taken the warning of Mother Grouse in the first piace, and had flown up into the trees as I ehould, that dreadful Hawk wouldn't have frightened me so. If ie hadn't frightened me so, I wouldn't ave driven that little stick through ny wing. 1f 1 hadn't driven that tle stick through my wing, that two- egged creature wouldn't have caught me. 1 can plainly see it was all my | wn fault. Hereafter 1 will mind in- | stantly , from be the greatest worry his mother had, little Mister | Smarty became the most obedient of | the 10 children. The dreadful fright he had had taught him a 1 nd There'snohard workto shining with Solarine- it’s very quick and safe* for brass, gold, silver, nickel and aluminum. grocers, hardware, drug stores and auto shops ANy " 5 {to pleasant | anything. thoughts will be kept busy, and there will be no opportunity for self-con sciousness. If you meet & person and have no idea in what their interests lie, watch carefully for some hint. The weather will form & topic only until to one of she (or he) casually wonderful day for golf—or it may be te or & walk in the woods, etc. Follow it up with something-about the gam the courts, the country, etc. Or if the weather is stormy, perhaps the sub- ject of reading, sewing, indoor games, etc.. may be brought in, and here is the lead to follow. How can a person think of self when using every effort to think of what would be interesting to some one else? Happy Arrangements. 1f persons call, think of their com- fort. Try to seat them where they will have the best vi either out of or of vi in the house. Oc- rourself as brief a time as ssible in getting tea and buttered bread, cakes, or merely tea and cra ers it people call in the evening, offer chocolate or coffee with cakes o crackers. Nothing is more conducive conversation than such homelike hospitality. Forget self in seelng that the people have things to their 1iking. It is apt to be engrossing. Then be ready with toplcs of the day to discuss. Show yourself acquainted with what is going on and you wiil be sure of finding a topic of mutual interest. Self-consciousners is gone. vou. Perhaps P “This is Y THORNTON W. BURGESS he was smart enough to profit by that lesson. He was a changed young Grouse. Mister Smarty didn’t fit him as a name any more. As a matter of fact, he soon became the smartest of the flock. But he never showed ‘off. Every time that he did a smart thing | and knew he had done a smart thing ( |and was tempted to show off, he would remember the time he had thought he was so smart, but wasn't. At once he would become very humble. He got to thinking this thing over one day. “It's queer,” thought he, “but my brothers and sisters seem to like me better than they used to. Yes. sir, they do so. I don’t know just why they do, but they do. After all, its1s a great deal nicer to have people like you—really like you—than just \m admire you because you are smart. Iy, it is surprising how much there is to learn in this world. If ever I s much as my mother, 1 shall satisfied. Yet I used to w more than she did. sed to think she couldn’t tell me Now I know better. I know that there is something to learn |every day, and the ones who do not learn are not the ones who are going to live the longest.” Now this shows that Smarty really was smart. From the time he started out in the morning to hunt for his breakfast with his brothers and sisters until he went to bed at night he was busy every min- ute learning something. He noticed just how his mother was continually listening. So as he watched her he would continually listen. In this way he soon learned what different sounds meant. He goon learned to tell when a sound was suspicious. He soon learned to pay noattention whatever to harm- less sounds. He watched his mother and copled her movements. He was al- ways at her heels, doing exactly as she did. Many times he did things that she did without having the least idea why they were done. But after a while he began to understand some of these things. So it was that after a time Mister Smarty once more de. served his name, only with a different meaning. Tirst he had been called Mister Smarty because he thought he knew it all. Now the name fitted Lim because he was truly smart. Yet he never showed this smartness off. little Miste: | He never appeared to think he was than his brothers and is because he was hum- any smarter sister: ble as $1.65, $1.85 and $2.15 Section. Streas Moo of self, and when this {s accomplished We ourselves are absolute | or supplant them by per- Al You have overcome it | e, the course, | Willie Willis BY ROBERT QUILLEN “I like Aunt Ada best. She knows how it is about a bod needin’ bread an’ jelly between meals.” | (Copyright, 1826.)° Your Baby and Mine BY MYRTLE MEYER ELDRED. Opposite Problems. AL writes: vould like to start my baby girl ! Iternate breast and bottle feed- She is 6 months old and welgh; |20 pounds. She wakes up about ever | two hours and I feed her. This makes me think that she must need some other food. She Is teething right now also. If you advise the bottle feed ings, does one use certified milk and how shall I prepare it?" Answer.—A baby of 6 months weigh- ing 20 pounds could not possibly be undernourished If he keeps on gaining, he will be a tremendous size. Stop nursing at night and give only boiled water when he wakes up. and shortly he will | stop waking. I think it likely too | much food rathier than too fittle mak: him wakeful. Feed but once every four hours during the daytime and not after 10 at night. 1T shall be de |lighted to send you the feeding and eaning leaflet, Which suggests fc mulas from now on. Send a. self-ad- dressed and stamped envelope with your request. Certified milk ts, of course, the safest to use for babies. | | Also Weighs 20 Pounds. | Mra P.J writes: “I can't un- derstand why my !S-month-old baby | only weighs 20 pounds when vounger | bables weigh more. There is nothing | wrong with her health, as she is a happy little tot and plays beautifull: he gets a cup of milk at 6, at 10, and 6 and she gets cod liver oil, cereal | soft egg. soup. ete. I dilute her mi with 5 ounces of water and add 2 | tablespoons of corn sirup to it. I do lall T can for her and still she doesn't | gain. She doesn’t seem to like cauli | lower, asparagus or peas, as she spits 1em out | Answer.—The ba much unde: | weight, and for one thing there seems {to be no necessity now for using any dilution in the milk. Four cups of whole milk would be all right, and at her age should be easily digested | Perhaps you are giving her too little in quantity of the other foods. There is nothing wrong {n the way you are feeding her, nor anything to add to the diet, so it must mean that yoy are underestimating her capacity. She should cat vegetables and it you will cend a self-addressed and stamped envelope and ask for the leaflet on “Forcible Feeding,” this will help you in accustoming the child to eating all foods. HOW IT STARTED BY JEAN NEWTON. ! “If Worst Comes to Worst.” | 1t we analyze it, there is not much |sense in this expression. Its signifi- cance in everyday speech is gleaned from its old and repeated use in our language rather than from the sum of its individual words. “If the worst comes to the worst” means something to us, even though on the face of it the words seem fliogical. The phrase is traced back to that veritable mine of epigram and pithy saying, the romance of “‘Don Quisote,” |by the great Spanish author, Ce { vantes. It appears in the first part of old classic, which dates back to it used in an old English play, “The Phoenix,” by Thomas Middleton, where in act 3, scene 1, we find “The worst comes to the worst.” Cotem porary, too, is its use in Marston’s old | play, “The Dutch Courtezan,” where we find it in the first scene of the third act. ‘And from such time-honored and lit- erary beginnings the saying was launched into everyday speech, where it has survived to this day. Lessons in English BY W. L. GORDON. Words often misused: ‘“Beside” means at one's side; ‘“besides,” in addition tog “I sat beside him.” ‘“No one went besides m Often mispronounced: Pian! Pro- nounce both {'s as in “it,” a as in “an,” accent on the n. Synonyms: Admit, consent, concede, permit, let, allow and yleld. Word study: “Use a word three times and it {s yours.” Let us increase our vocabulary by mastering one word |each day. Today's word: Ludicrous, exciting mirth; ridiculous. tempt to imitate her was ludicrous.” Bush fires in Australia this Spring used 31 deaths. A very short time later we find | “His at-| { | | | | him | remember sometimes we had a second Discusses Problems of Modern Buai- ness Wives. The New Woman the Eternal Male. DorothyDix In Addition to Old Complications Appears a New One in the Form of Man’s Jealousy for a Modern Wife’s Superior Business Ability. HE other day a man killed his beautiful young wife because she was a better business man than he was, and made more money. The woman loved her husband and was good to hini. She was ambitious for him. She got him a job with the people for whom she worked, and tried to push him along and help him in every way. But it sinply was not in hira to be the go-getter that she was. She was a success and he was a failure. And in the frenzy of morbid jealousy that this engendered fn him he slew her. Thus vividly do we have brought to our attention one of the new diMculties that the advent of women into the business world has injected into the already complicated matrimonial proposition. It makes the question of how the modern wife can best be a helpmeet to ber husband one that takes a Solomon in petticoats to answer. In olden times the matter was perfectty simple. The woman who wanted to help her husband along had only to be & good and thrifty manager, to pare the potatoes thin enough and squeze the nickels. She did her part in building up the family fortunes by saving. But, in many cases, the old woman's granddaughter is a crackerjack business woman who sees that she can help her husband more by ecarning than by scrimping, and that she can make more money in one year in business than she could save in 10 years by doing her own housework and wearing shabby clothes. So, as long as she is vorking for the communal good, the woman cannot understand why her husband shouldn’t be just as willing for her to help by working in an office as in a kitchen, or why the wife who does brain labor fgn't as good a \ife as the one who does manual labor. But the great majority of women who continue to follow any gainful pursuit after marriage find out that while there {s a new woman who looks at everything in life from a new angle, there is no new man. Women have changed in their relationship to wen, but men stand pat just where Adam did when it comes to dealing with women. “ voe e F you will notice, it is only women who prate about equality between the sexes. Men take no stock in any such heresy. When a man tells a woman that she is an angel, and that he looks up to her and worships her, it is one of the lover’s perjuries at which Jove laughs. In reality word of it The very basic thing on which a man’s love for a woman 1is built is his sense of superiority to her. Ile wants to feel stronger than she is, wiser than she is, to be more successful than she is. She must look up to him, revere him, ask his opinion, be guided by his advice. That is why the clinging-vine type of woman is so appealing to men, and it is why intelligent, big-brained men so often marry morons, und are happy and contented with them. Thelr silly little wives do not understand one word in five they say, and are no companions to them. but they satisfy the masculine demand to dominate the woman i When the case is reversed, as it often {s, and when the wife is the more intelligent, the stronger character—when the gray mare is the better lorse and pulls most of the load—the marriage {s invariably unhappy, and the husband almost invamably either openly or secretly hates his wife. I1is love for her is never strong enough to survive the hurt to his vanity. His sense of inferiority to her keeps his nerves raw, and if he is dependent upon her, it turns his very soul to wormwood and gall. ] have never known a woman who supported her husband who received any gratitude for fit. Gl‘lel\;ou‘lid eat her bread, but he did it as a snapping dog that bites the hand at feeds it. .« e HERE is nothing that fills & woman's cup of happiness so full and over- flowing as for her husband to achieve a notable success and be great and famous. She glorles in being Mrs. Explorer or Mrs. Engineer or Mrs. Banker or Mrs. Author. and loves to shine in the reflected glory. But the deadliest insult you can offer any man is to speak of him as his wife’s husband and call Mr. Mary Smith, although Mary may have written the book of the year, or have performed some achievement that has made the world sit u and take notice of her e Perhaps all of this is natural. Perhaps this cosmic urge th: has to dominate the female is something instinctive for ivhnch‘lh‘:emmr:i: responsible. But anyway it {s there, and it is something which the woman who wants to be a good wife, who wants to do her duty to husband and to help him, has to take into consideration. And it makes her course a hard one to steer, for, curiously enough. the weak man is often attracted to the strong woman, and there is something maternal in the strong woman that wants to mother the weak man, and makes her feel that he only needs her to take care of him and boost him and show him the way to success. So the girl who is making a big salary marries the man who is making a small qne, and she tries to supply for him the business sense he lacks and to galvanize him into & hustle of which he is incapable, and they live scrapplly | ever afterward. Yet there is nothing we can do about it as long as nature goes blundering along putting the brains and talents of merchants and bankers and trust presidents into a lot of women's heads, and making plenty of men who would have been wonderful housekeepers, and done perfectly lovely em- broidery work, if only they hadn't gotten the wrong sex. DOROTHY DIX. (Copyright, 1026.) BEAUTY CHATS | at least more thorough than most of the other laxativ 1t thins the blood and carries away an enormous num- ber of impurities. It may for a day or two cause eruptions on the skin, but these will heal almost at once, and at the end of the two three-day treatments the complexion will have a deliclous, creamy clearness. This treatmsnt amounts to a thor- ough and particularly vigorous house- | cleaning of the body. It drives out the impurities so quickly that many of them come out in the form of | pimples. 1f you want to gain the same effect more slowly and without danger of skin eruption, buy one of the boxes of sulphur tablets which vou will find at any drugglist's and take these instead according to the printed directions. You cannot start the warm weather BY EDNA KENT FORBES. Spring Tonics. About this time every year I always repeat directions for the ‘‘sulphur and molasses” formula with which my grandmother regularly dosed her family every year. She called it, Eng- lish fashion, “brimstone and treacle,” and made it from sweet sirup and powdered flower of sulphur. She iade about a half-and-half mixture; was thick and yellow, and we got teaspoonful every day for three day 1 had three days off, then went back to it for another three days. I three-day vacation, then were again | put back on it for three days, but that always ended the treatment. Grownups got larger doses. 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They are symtomatic of good times, as the vibrations will car. ry a sense of contentment, good will No beter portunity than that presented in the evening could be found for the whis- | pering of love's secrets. Children born tomorrow will suffer more than is ordinarily usual, from allments during infancy. These will all demand constant care and unre mitting attention, and, although the signs denote that they will attain in their early teens a condition of nor these various sicknesses w! occasion alarni. In disposi ey will be patient, amenable to on, loving and will possess char acteristics that will endear them to all those with whom they come finto intimate contact. They will be apt at their studies and will never need an urge to make good It tomorrow is vour are rather inclined to deprecate cul ture and never hesitate to show you little appreciation of what you con stder “high:brow.” This does not mean to eay that vou are rude o blatantly offensive, but you take so much pride in what you call your nat uralness that it is becoming an obses elon with you, and is liable to cause offense. You and painst 4 a friend and very conscientious. possess a keen sense of humor are witty and resourceful. Your home life, especially if mated with one born in July or October, is ideally happy, as you are constant in your affections, simple in your tastes and never ask for more than you are willing to give. honest 'ways ready to help You and are birthday vou | | | | op- | FEATURES. EAT AND BE HEALTHY Dinah Day's Daily Talks on Diet The Right Food Is the Best Medicine Try Eating Them Raw. There are many definitions of man One of them is “that man is an mal that cooks its food. That is true enough, but unfortu nately he cooks too much of it and cooks some of it too much. Twenty- five years/ago it was thougl <oy to health was (o ecat cooked. Our food was be full of microbes. And so by ing the food first we Killed a microbes. I remember my Lo a little girl at seeing a bo: a raw carrot. I expected himi to be doubled up with cramps any second. Now we know that raw foods that are pleasant to the to digest should be of the time. changes in the are in raw foods. These elements - 12 altogether—of iron, lime, phos phorus, etc., are stored in raw foods They are in milk, vegetables, fruits, ts, meats, ggs. We know thi t raw fruits, raw when I was makes some natural L will not ape the great their lofty wtysg Or climb the road to fame for me teo steep. But nll;n \ndb <heerful thwg my busy days my own, though small, integrity ' P e canm | vation diets and confining th | wonderful or | You d vegetables, raw eggs (we do ir eggnog), and enjoy them all very much. One doctor ¢comments: “Mea is digestible in raw state, but raw meat would make vegetarians of mos | of us,” because of its look and taste However, though we do not have to be like the lon and crave raw mea we should every day eat something raw. It is good for our blood a: is good for our int inal traets. At this moment re is a4 rage London for eating raw fruit ju.ces Women in droves BOINE © star nou to uncooked fruit juices. without stopping to consid: neas {shment the wisdom of such an extreme ure, we can surely see in it the tendency in a new direction. L tremes which become fads are bad i all things. But the use of raw fo moderation is an excellent thing Raw cabbage is more digestible than cooked—so are raw turnips. As one dietitian expressed it, “raw cab ge is digested in the ordinary ach in 213 hours. After it passes rough the hands of the ordinary ook it takes 5 hours to digest It is now a proven truth t vegetables and fruits do co! th vitamins and the fam can be induced to eat them choppe grated in sal Moreover, some will eat, in a 1 seasoned vegeables they might not reli cooked. Just try this. But ber that all vegetabi or cooked, should be w Miss F.—Is toasted white brea. fattening A. It is is per reme amount of breac trying to reduce But it is best to do without ft. How ever, whole wheat better tha:r white flour for the person reducing. A. W. R—Sorry I cannot answ do mnot give me enough fa vourself. 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