Chicago Daily Tribune Newspaper, October 10, 1875, Page 5

| ' THE CHICAGO TRIBUNE SUNDAY OCTOBER 12, 1875.—SIXTEEN PAGES. Torureday Light. His subject was th z‘{;’:fluul, nnd’ industrial condition of Ire- i& not coming homs thia ieu-. He g‘fl“-' ulr:lmd ihat the Eoglish use more 'flwun siang thsu Americans; and he wants ey i2 such a Eweet place. shiles 035 2 4 ‘;mf.,mmd‘ odder sho?, a yes, oh yor, 19 Buner Come here to sing 1o mo'; OB yes, oh yes. dullpess of Wendell Phillips 35 & writer press is dreadful. So says ths Ciocinnatt e P Lis would e a briliant orstor (i ok froquestly got tangled with bus e fi;‘; ia o better than Eton. Both President e B Dr. Dacon hsse publicly expressed Ires a50pposed 10 80¥ ravival mestingsin ::.’;::undn the auspices of Moody and wmlfis Bradiangh has qualified thetitle of his , sod pow makes it read ¢ Five Dead Men oI Enew When Liviog.” What assurance spabathathe could know desd men if he wore g ? W JIr., Vice-President; W. C. Quincy, standent: G- B. Spriggs, Genersl Freight ot snd eeveral other officers of the Baiti- At bio Railroad, are registered at the asd Pacific Botel. By » carefal computation the'Bev. Do Witt caimage bas arrived ot the conclusion that there ;1 ow 150,000,000,000 of children in Heaven 13bed in white and sioming praises to their s (rtar. Bo 8878 £0 in his new lecture. " guso B. Anthony say8 that sy of the graas- Joppens she met in Esnsas would be better i of waman-suffrage than the prescnt Su- rema Couxt of the United States. Perhapa she ks grasshoppers aro afraid of women. i Annstte Chase, & charming young woman 15, committed suiciGe in Buffalo last Tuesday, catting ber throst from ear to ear with & razor. o s tamporacily insane, and imagined that Jer rismds were abont £o send her to en asylum. J cmennial spank—one that will last s topired years—has been invented by & North- catern womaa ; sud gratefal mothers in all pims of the cozntry havo agreed to buy the in- sestor & life-memberstup in the Bible Society, srd s year's subscription to the Golden Rule. e lns American Girl is to be mado an awfal suzivg. ber akeleton having besn secured for spmmserm at Cornell College. It is true, s moofthe Esstern papers state, that she was st £16; bat, 23 long as her skeleton remains & esihition, sho will be 2 girl of the poriod. 1r. Fulton, the convert Brooklyn pastor, hss e mmstained in his church, He recently quated in his prayers tho remark of some person 20 pamed that he boped to meet some of tho uiPalton deacons in hell. To be sure, there il be plenty of decons there—and pastors, 10 The Emperor of Brazil hes his arrangements shoat completed for bis long-promisod Visit to 136 United Btates. He has obtained the consent ot his Legislative Chambers to zn absonce of cghten months. No true American should rike game of Pedro. It isnoton the cards 14t ba shonld receive such trestment. Charles Dudley Warner writes to Mrs. Stowe {ha} Rubia is all right on the scandal question— st the people there have subscribed for three «Plmouth Palpits ® with preminm chromos of the girl robed in her pative innocence (N. B.— SotMre, Tilton); and thot thero is a great de- razd for scandal scrapings. Poor Mrs, Stowe takes Mr. Warver in dead earnest, and offers to msishima present of her complete works in ha¥f<slf, at & reduction of 10 per cent from the regularraten, “How do you get up your ssrmons?” asked wms oe of Mr. Moody. Hisreply was: * For 1 pumber of yesrs I have kept large envelopes iazied, say, *Blood,’ *Heaven,’ *Faith,’ etc., 1ad prery thing I bear or moet with on any of thees subjects I make & note of it, and keep it ir theas enveiopes. After some time I have ma- t=1ial enough in e of these envelopes for three orfour sermons. Peojle sometimes spesk of me taking four or five months to prepare s ser- mon: it takes ms four or five yeara.” A bottle has been picked up on the coxst of Ergiandand forwarded to New York, containing Asmall lock of hair and the following note in Tencil, written on & emall piece of paper and ad- {resned *Miss 3. J. Brown, Fifth evenue, Now Tork:"—¢ Dearest Mary: Tho ship is sinking Lst; the bosts washed away; 500 miles from hod. V.0.D." The Board of Trade has con- 6dered the matter of sufficient importance to wod over the note and lock of hair for the pur- W of being dslivered, if possible, to Miss NurJ. Brows, Fifth avenue. But =3 the noie ©aits the number of her sddress in Fifthavenus, 14 38 the nawe of Brown is certainly not rare, s oot essy to carry ont this instruction. _Toe following distinguished gentlemen ar- Em! t the Grand Pacific lastevening: The HowWillism W. Wright, ex-Canal Comnussioner ofNew Yok ; Gen. H. H. Baxter, ex-Vico-Presi- _!n! of the New York Central Railroad ; the Hon. Trncs Skiddy, of New York; Elisha Riggs, of Conoran & Riggs, bankers, at Washing- ta; the Fon. George W. MoLean, Pres- f'!-'k‘ of the New York Stock Exchaneo: ‘e Bon. Pator Starrand the Hon. Edward B. Dell, Nex Yark ; the Hon. Jamea A. Stebbins, ageat {or American Bondholders Association, Paris, Frisen; r. William Bond, Receiver of the Mis- ;‘r;fiuu_& Texaa Railway, and 8t. Joseph dlllh’:.,w; Gov. John L. Beveridge, Mur many years' residence hers, during 'hfithn{m!ufiond ekill has won the high- e teputation, and tbeir pocisl qualities have ;md them hosts of regretfal fricnds, Mr. and ‘0.8, M ¥assett remove to-day to Washivg- lvn, “hete they will take up their permanent fidemce, a0d found in the Capital what it has ‘;’!’ eojoyed—a first-class photographic es- T t. Mrs, Faesett, who has meny ;‘;h"_'n_ tofill in the East, will continue her por- b mm_ml and erayon, but will spend a portion et Xma in Boston and New York for the con- n::not ber sittors. Chicago heartily com- ot Mre. Fassett, wherever her lines msy n‘:;. the estoem and appreciation of thoss who e Ereat alent, varied socomplishments, and n'::m Personal virtae. 8 undarstood that Mr. W. F. Btarey will o Idertake a trip to Earope. aad that the — bl'lha'l\madnrinxhin)bunflwillb..?. b8 Morion, of Nebrasks. Mr. Morton oy 'fl;u tweuty-odd years ago, in Monros, bl ® Was afterwards, for a short pariod, r.::"d with Mr. Storey in the editorship of & e ;;;Ipn . For many years past, how- x ‘m beer:a resident of Nebraska, where k) be was quite prominent s a Demo- Lm“rl"”flmun. and bas besn Land-Commis- thig "M Cnion Pucio Baliroad agent, in p P:Ilfinnn, it is said, he amassed a com~ l“m“h“ ortune, It is known tbat Mr. Morton 5 g0 tried to buy an interest in the 31;- 24 the preeumption is, in consequencs W m:" Arangement, that he hay sucoesded ; f the dstails ars public. HOTEL ARDIVALS. nc'.:';«fn—r. L. Cabie, Bock Tahnd; Loyd - 8, Army; W. Wheaten, California; New York; Georgs W. Taylor, New R THE YOUNG PEOPLE VENUS CHASTISES CUPID. The Queen of Love: the ever-radisnt she, “The fairest of Jove's dsughters, "Who crat arose from out tae Cyprian Sea, Went down by Babylon's dark watera To havea cry; and after up was hung Her harp, upon the loveliest-drooping willows 0 that the dismal water strased the chords among, Ang beat wild sobs oat, with ita billows Ehs thonght of s maternal duty to be done fore.abe might evoke, in seemly quiet, Her fears—stored £ex-drops, pearied with reminiscent sun, ‘Thzt shone cn Cyprus and the ocesn by it. With hiot, unmolstencd eyelid, curved o%ar orba of Shofin«:':d erect, and ehouted : * Hither, Cupld " The liitle god obeyed the ricging tones of ire ‘With trailing wings, and face downcast, and stupid. #You little vagsbond 1" ericd Venus, *How is this? Ob, what nsane ofiect tho vontents of thy quiver s had wpon the World ; while I, who erave maternal peace, Am driven to weep bezide this wretched river? ‘Were not the arrows that I gave thiec dipped in blood From Nature’s Leart, with fruitful purpose glowing, And rightly sped, had not restits boen good, Ripo to the wizh of Jove, the Great All-Knowing? «Alaa ! Thow'st given fuil many o dart away To wauton elves of Passicn, freely roving Through glamnrous shades of sin; their luatful play Cinders green hearts before they think of,loving | And many au arrow, tipped with greedy gold, “Hath left thy singig vow-string, (o awaken A spurious love, whoss ¥cn3 o falschood told Liring eelf-lovers to n faiv mistaken ! Too long my tender ear, that joves o softened rong, g lath barme ‘tfin discond of the world's disputing; ch day the grinding howl of something going wrang In thy domsin Lmngnu thy wanton shoating Ig What's thet? Your hipdnces? Sctan, boy, In straight-aimed mischief scarcely conld outrank you? Tou'd fire the world, had you but half an eyel And now, in Earili's msternal style, I'l spank you!” Thereat, she bowed the little god acroes her knees, And siraight Earth's valas eo rang with clatter ‘That ecribes sat down to bie the quilis of geese, In study Srown, o'er what might be the matter! Fancy's gay eives encored with cipers daft; The Bases mzrehed ubout 3 huge ink fountain s ‘While houest Pan, from Jungs obstreporous, Iaughed, And, with appliuding boote, bedrammed & moui- tain! s Cmcaco, Oct. 9. Bores H. Caxearnr, PICTURE OF A REAL WOMAN. To the Editor of The Chicage T'ridune & Cricaco, Oct. 8.—Tt has beon €0 ordeined by our Heavenly Father that earths fair daughtors should be the ministering angels of man’s home here below. It is their work to make of home that fondly-prized retreat where love resides in complete happiness, and where man, sheltered from the din of worldiy toil, spends the golden moments of his ife. Itis trne that there aro many women who, from circumstancos, ere obliged to go out into thoworld and gain a liveli- hood for themsalves, but it does not follow from this that they must usarp any position rightfully belonging to the other sex. There ara many lucradive places now occupied by men which rightfolly belong to these women. If some mus: Jabor sud fight life's battles alone, there are numerous high and enoobling fields for them to enter without discarding feminine purity and graces. But the true and proper place for all women to be who are blesged with a boms is 10 it. Only those stirred with false ambition proclaim that womsn's lot is low. Low, indeed! Is it low to reign the queen of home? To train the minds that rule & nation With their wisdom? Home will 2lvays bo & woman's world. Home is ber kingdom, and she will alwars reign over it. How important is the place called home to the world. It is the planting-ground of evory seed of in- dastry, the grrden of virtue, and the nursery of religion. Therefore how important tbat the in- fluencea which surround a family should be pure and holy, and, io order thas they may be such, there must be a loving, watchful mother 2t the helm. Herois the radiant centro, tho central eun of home. How rich i3 every housebold that has forits guardian angel & true mother. A weakness cf home-love is often the causo of moral run. Many s man of strong impulses and impetuons character has braved hardahips and resisted temptations which would have bean too great for him had it not been for his atrong love of home. In every proper 6ease in which home can be conzidered, it is a power- {ai incentive to noble action and o high and pure morality. Not all the Judges in tho world ever docide questions half so importeat us those com- ing constzntly to a moiker's tribunal. 1t is tho high office of a womao to make home sttractive; & haven of rest for her hasband when be_is weary with the business cares of the aay; = placs that i afier yeors her children will Jook upon with feelings of plessure. If parents were to make home attractive by kind words and emiles, providing innocen: smusemsnts for their children, aud becoming interestod ia them and their games, fewer would leave such purs sur- roundings for the corrupting atmosphere of the streets, billiard-halle, and saloons; fower yonugy men would leave the pure air of the quict cout- in = precarious living in the crowded and es. Fewer husbandswould disregard is instead ot neelecting their duties for the Woman's Radicat Clubs or the calls of fashion. When this point of perfection is reached. thore will be warmth, rg;l comfort, and contentment, around our fire- sides. - But there iss grand oducational preparation needed before one can judiciously perform the daties of her household. When & man desires tofoliow any profession he canuot, nor is he ex- pected, at once to become famitiar with ail the obligafions of his position. Hs must labor ear- nestly for years, sud by patient and constant ap- plication ascend step by step to the goal at which be has simed. And eo to become a caltvated ‘womsn, one must commence early to propars and study fong. If you would ennoble and dig- nify the nation, educate the women, and the work 18 done, for where thore are caltivated women there is refinement, intellectusl and moral pow- erandlifein its highest sense. In the first place, they should be educated physically, for on the soundoess of tho body depends the sound- ness of the mind, The rickest intellect is of lit- tle avail if locked up in a [eeble, sickly body. A noble character would not make half its im- preesion on the worid if it was imprisoned in wezkoess and fastened with disease. *The body is the instrument on which the mind makes tho music of life; and if wa would have that masic sweet and barmoni we must havo & good instrument and keap it in tune.” g ‘Worwan's first and greateat duty is to conserve the Leulth of hervelf and family. It deter- mines whether they will lead virtuous, honest lives or vicions 2nd dishonest ones. If we would progress most rapidly in divine life and-j win the brightest laurels for oar spiritual brows, we must cultivate well our physical powers. ‘Womeu have an intelicctual 1ifo to live aud in- tellectual duties to perform. How poorly will tley live that life aud perform those datics with- out a preparation. The feminine mund bas not yethad a"chance for cultare. From girthood » Woman is codtinuslly impressed with tho ides that she is intellectually inferior to her brothers. ‘Though the women of 2il pations bave been m- tellectually develozed, we have instances enongh to show that their minds are as power- ful, cloce-sighted, and active a8 msn's. Women have ecited jonrnale and_paperv, led victorious armies 10 victorv, ruled tbe mightiest pations, and mastered the abstruso sciences, and done everything necessary to show that the fomale mind _is_not wanting in power That woman will do_tao most for her sex and for the warld, who will make of herseif the best developed physical being vossible to her eex, then brosden and deepsa ber mind by a course of study a8 comprebensive and severs as any man fitting for professional life would take, thenlayit on the hallowed altar of bome, snd sbow the world what iv takes to make a true woman. Young ladies, heed the voios that asks you to make the bost of yourselves, or you will look mengre and antiquated by-und-by. Inthat good time coming how sad o thing will be an uneda- cated woman; cns whose miod is barren of thought. But Liain yoursoives physically and intellectually all yon ara capsble of, and your educstion will sill bo fncoraplete if you sre not epiritually ipstructad. It is religion which 2dds the finishing-tonch of excellency to woman's character. ** Her heart is the natural shrise of Teligion, and this shrine ehould be dodicated while ehe is young.” Tninkof & woman all through life shedding sbout her the genial in- fluences ¢t true religion, From early youth to Iateat ago sbe is an nvmg‘:l of pesce and love ; & trne fireside apgel. It is tho nght and duty of every womsan to make herself as fair snd aweet as possible; and with her phymeal, intellectual end epiritnal education, bit one thing more is essential to make her really beau- tifol It is & cheesfu!, happy apizit. Evary les- &0D of life, wisely mnl telly na that we shonld be bappy. We nced not wait forthe golden tes of paradise to cpen ba‘oro we cen be truly ppy. Our hearts, our homes. onr lives, may all glow with !nv‘imm on earitl, Yop have often_beard the old proyerh itad “ Lsertol bebrt 8osil good Lika madicine.” 14 qkfl‘.dmu weEld #ive 10 fuir paidshils whokg lived have b Blabiasd BY Qploatmasts 203 Hhmniang = medicine that would set them all into a hearty Isugh, to bs taken once an hour through theday, it wonld do them more good in & month than all the pills and powdars in a century. It is just ay much a duty to be cheerful and plessant 31t 18 to love and serve God. Then, young woraen, Dbucklo on the armor of life, and rouse yonr spirit_to ita boss eforts fo lend a chesrfal ead useful life. By 80 doing you will ba helprul, strong, and su-taining, aod fondly loved by oach member of the home-circle; snd father's, nuothor’s, brother's, sistor's, and friend’s love far ontweigh tha fame and praiso tho wide world holds. What would heaven be without the love of tho dear home comprnions of our hearts ? It would not be heaven because it would not be home. ** SweET SrxTEEN." GETTING EVEN WITH MR. FREE. To the Editor of e Chicago Tridune: Cmrcaco, Sept. 24.—For some weeks past I have wavered and hesitated with regard to con- tributing my little noise to'the groat matrimomal WArfare now raging in your columns. A cortain difidence in coming before the public, anda want of fuith ia my own powars, havo heretofore restrained me; but shoe who can remain in the silent background sfter having once rend the indelicato ana ungentiemanly assault of ** Harry B. Free,” in yourissae of lsatSunday, is un- worthy the name of woman. The great majority of your masculine corrgspondents have carefully observed the decorum By whoso laws a comma- nication in s public newspaper should bo cou- trolled. But “ Harry B. Iree,” forgetting that | freedom and liceuss ara maoy miles asunder, beg, in his last contribution, violated ‘every ‘moral bond and social obligation. Wooover perasna his letter will be 2t once struck by the utter barbarity and perfect beart- lessness of the wholo production; but if in thought snd feeling ho ia a Goth, his views on the question of mat:imouy should deeply brand him a perfect Turk. Mobammed Khacan lounges in tho market-place, buying s slave. ‘The besutifal Persian, with burning blushen and downcast eyes, stands beforo him. ¥hacan lazi- 15 zdwmires her * points,” observes the bezuty of her modest counicpance, remarks the supple grace of her elegant form; ** Very good,” saith be, while the beautiful Persian sianding there bufore him dsre not so much as lift her eyes to ‘her master’s serutini: ng face. And * Harry B.Fres,” in roply to * Nettie W.” does not pratend to answer her charges; he questions her right to prefor them. Says be, *¢Oh, now, you know we are not discassing our own extravagance, but yoors. A fellow hes a right to spend his movey - 83 he choos- ea ; he earns it ; we are not discussing our hab- itx bnt yours. Man is the superior being ; we aro not marrying each otber, but youw. 1t hooves sou, therofore, to desist from your im- pertivent inquiries into our tastes and habits, ‘and to wait in patient siloace uatil some man &hall be pleased to purchase you.” O, sisters, my blood boils to know that snch sentiments axe given publicily, to sze that such unnoble and unmsnly words ero nttered in the columus of a great newspaper! Our tastes, our thoughts, our habits, are searched out down to the daepest recezaes ; our foibles und follies are beld up to tho lsughter and ridicule of s mock- ing world. Shall a veil be tendorly drmwn to shield from public gaze the fauits and vices of our souug men ? Sball sll comments on their litsle cceentricities be buriod iv & mysterions aud ccholess gilenco? I ask o fair judgment for youngman and young woman botk ; let it not be eaid that woman saall stana in fear of & righteous tribunal ! 1 have, thus far, confined my attontion to what appears o bs the chicf artiels of * Sir Harry's” matrimonial creed. Inow desire to bristly no- tice one or two of our young friend's listle logical eccentricities. He speaks = The yoang man of to-day is living too_comfortably Tow to tie himself up toa woman of fashion. . . . . . The frls want o know why we do not marry, and wo tell them it is their fasnionable foihles that wa dresd; it makes no difficrenco how much we spend oar own money ; we earn i, and if we can't afford the ad- ditional Juxury of a wife wo won't hove it. It is quite refreshing to find one young man who is not 8 viciim to grinding poverty. How it Tevives my hope that the present state of things is nol quite e deplorable as represent- ed! How gmiifying to leam tbat oue young man' is living, nol in luxurioms Tmagnificence—oh, nol mor in aristocratio eleganco—Heaveniorbid! but only *comfort- ably.” Itwould secm, too, that he has s litila surplus to epend. for he “earvedit.” Will **Harry” disclose coough of his mode of life to enablo us to correctly interpret that word **com- foriably”? He bas spent his mopey as ho has chosen; may we be allowed to dscide upon the wisdom of s course? Ah! Harry, Harry, why shield vourself bo- bind the post of female extravagance, when the Tence of beloved bachelorhood, 80 pear at hand, will o much more easily screen yon? Como out at onco, aud eay that vou do mot marry, not be- cause you cannot support o wife,—for, With part of the sam spent in living * comfortably ™ you know you can,~—bat becaues you cannot resign the dear delights of bachelorhood, in order to pud your head (for so it saems to your weak hem under the yoke of married life. To **Harry,” reprovivgly, and to the Editor, respectfully, Qurex Bess, A BACHELOR'S OBSERVATIONS. To the Editor of The Clicago Tribune: Cr1aa0, Oct. 4.—As the testimony is pretty well in on tlus seemivgly diffeult question, “ Why our young people do not marey,” I would like to present & fow observations which the discussion has suggested. It is evident, after reading a namber of com- munications which have xppeared, that some of your correspondents have very crude ideas of this whole matter, and that they have imagined & grest mwauy improbable and foolizh things. First, it i8 not very probable that any lady of refinement snd wealth 18 going to relinguish all the adrantages aod comforts she enjoys to become the wife of 80mO poor mercenary sapirant to her wealth, who i8 too often unable to provide s respectable support for hunself, and wko would have impn- dence enough to expect her to provide & gen- teel living for him, or else be satisfied with bis inadequate fare. Nome but & man devoid of character would be williog w0 be o parasite upon the possessions of a confiding wife, and but fow reasonable men would ko willing to call a women awsy from & life of afflusnco and ease, to share the burdens and uncertain comforta of his *cottage by the gea,” unless able to maintain her in the same condition in which he tound ber. If more persons, when contemplating matrimony, would confine themselves to their own circle and stn- tion in life, we would hear Jess abont . the digi- caities of marred hfc. Almost every poor girl, with & pretty face and little intellectual capecity, and, perhaps, lees hoasakeoping ability, imagines that sho is speciaily fitted to ba the wifo of some rich maa, faling, however, to conaider that she has nothing to offer him in return for the riches be is expected to lavish upon hor. There aro other eseontisls of vastly more im- portance thsn pretfy faces. Beauty, Lke the tlower of the field, withers away, but a mind of cuiture and & soul of Christinn beauiy endareth forever. Then on the other hand, young meu with fine personsl appearsuce, somefimes with, and vometimes without, brains, and rarely, if ever, with aoy cash, keep sway from girls of their own clags, and are on the hunt for rich wives, whose *governcrs” will ‘‘come down handsomely,” end exalt them to places of esss snd prominence, which they dare not achieve for thewselves by their own oxerriona. 8o many decry these ** butierflies of fashion,” and insincato that nich girls are mare- Iv *patlor omsmeuts,” and only think about dress and flirting, I amglad 0800 thatkoma of the ladies have had Epiric enough to dofend themselves from such sspersions. Tae fact ig, rich men's dacgliters heve no need to bo 80 “eminontly prectical ™ as ** One of Chi- cago’s Daughters” would have us believo she is. Ir she was a poor girl, she might prove a tressure to sowe poor fsllow, but as the daughter of & rich man, re- ading mm s marble front, and being duly snstalled as * Bridgot™ at the extravegant price of $2 & week, clearly shows that her futher doee not believe in large saluries, or that her servicea are not rated 28 being very veluabla. Common girls, with plenty of muscio znd less brains, get almost twico that amonnt 88 kitchen pirla, aud if this Yonug Iady is posseased of ro- finement snd skill, and ber father amply able to supply her wants, it etrikea me she conld employ her talenta moze protitably snd in more congenial ways than she has described, considering her favorsble circumstences, fom not of that number who bolievs *the lady of the houes" is outof her placs in the kitchen. That 14 & very imporiant part of every liongs, and avery lady who ceres for the well- belog of her family will soe thas eversthing is ly conduoted there ss oisewners in hier nd be praotical endugh to be ablo to do, £t aa to know how to do, everyiking when 3t 1 raquired of her. Whao § uaarry, T wonld lixs wifs t8 bava soms timo cuwside af & bamted Litchan ) sud 1 b possessed & mipd of oiliure, sud radnad and elafant Waumera, 1 Bouia [rviatvs 10isk 2310 ihles €07 ddasiLIaE mioed Eliobilng ai | mway, mere househola work, which I would have he: resign into the hands of thoese whose talents lia in that direction. and can be purchased at com- paratively trifling cost, and who do not pos- ussa thoso inestimabie attractione of mind and heart thas are gob purchased with money. A Youxa LOVE VS. MONEY. To the Editor of 1 Chicago Tribune: Ciacado, Oct. 8.—Allow me to make a few re- marks regardiog matrimony. . After reading last Sunday's edition on this snbjec:, I pictured to myaolf the varions ‘Writera of the articles, and could cot help but thiok how different are the motives ard feclings which dictate the words. While some writs for help or advice, othent writs for shecr amusoment or seldshuess, and according to their words Ato their views on mat- rimony... Hera are “Tho Lonely Siz," askiog for some cne ‘to enlighten theirsomewbat ob- scare ideas of marrisze, * Elisha Worth," whose motives are extromely selfish, ** Nettie W.,” who uses an argument mora forcible than elogant, and is snything bob womanly,—to those and others let me say & word, It is very well for “The Lonely S1z” openly to admit that they will not marry until they have capital and are ahle to givea wife tho ssmo luxuries sho enjoy- od bencath her father's roof ; they rizhtly as- sert that & lady who is not at home in the kiteh- on deserves contempt, and yet they think it nocessary and their duty to give & wife all the lusurios and ndvantages of the former home, .but porbaps never bave thoughbt that a sensibly girl doos not exitect to stert iu such a homes; esxpects to havo neitber a brown:stone on Michi- gen avenua, Bor to.be sarrounded by & host of sarvants—in othor words, Goes not expect to stars married life where her parents leave off; on & emalier but rather begn el scale, cheerfwly feco tho inevitablo triais of life, = amd regalats hor husshold oxpersss accorcing 1o her husbaud's ealary. 'Thus they will, by economy and slow but sure progress, attain their dne portion of worldly | vossossions, aud lesd a huppiec hfo than if they bad begun bouseisooping on a grander and more expeosive pian. IHow many & man is oblized to Guppress hs- nataral desirc to marry, and, lixe ¢ Delte,” for tae rcasou that ho ccnnot defiay tho oxpenses involved in furnishing a Liouse ele- gantly at the timo that ho really desiros mar- ringe, whiie laboring under tke false impressiou that without justsuch s howno women cannot live happy and contented. There 18 mauy a mar receiving & salary of $800 to 31,200 desirous of warrying, williug to moke his home as pleasant us circumstancos will permit, a homo that will be a true havan cf rest, 8 kinpdom where Lrue hap- pineas and love,euch a8 cauaot b found outsido, exkts to ¢ sooth tho rastless pulso of care™ ; yet Lo dare not press hissuit to the one he may bave chosen to thare his humble but pleagant ubode, for he is painfully asarsof the faot tha’ Do i3 nat wealthy, rolios on bis salary only, aod 18 not able to offer a wifoa home such 18 she oc- capicd at homa. Consoquently bo postponos this mos important step in life and awaits the cbances of accumuiating wealth, and, unless his effortsate crowned with unusual succoss, he toereby grows old, less susceptible to tendar feclings, and finelly the impulses that etirred his youtnfal heart bagin to fade and ontirely pass Bot love! Wnat Las become of Jova ? How few of the partics marrving at the present dsy over feel tha iinpulas of love, the indesaribe~ ble charm, the elevating influenco of true and mutual love? Tho allamportant queation in conuection with marriage et the presint day is ‘money, aod itis sad but trae that dellars and cects now frequently settle a matter that should be left entirely to tho heart, instead of making it & merely mechanical process, thereby shnt- ting out all higher and purer thoughts and feel- ings. RAs for ** Cooking-Stove,” I thiok his advice & little ona-sided, 2s no doabt the article was wiit- ton for his own specisl interest, and in ordsr to attract more attontion to hisstoves, Bui the suggestion that ladies that examine the stoves only will make tho best wises inabsurd, for we are not to be blamed for edmuring what iy beauti- ful and tasty, no more thun men are for exami 1ne elegant articles dignlaved at tho Exposition which are interosting to them, although not ex- actly usefal. Maniz, A OLD MAN'S ADVICE. To the Editor of Tha Chicage Tribuse : Cmicaao, Oct. 9.—I bave read with great pleasure the differont letters in your paper on the subject of marriage. I have noticed that nealy zll have written in candor the dictates of their own minda ; in the honeaty of their hearts they expross taeir viows. I am aa old man, near 60, yot have somewhat to say on the subjoct. I got married at 25, and have o resson to regres it. I would adviso young men who are prudent and steady, by all means fo get married, as by so doing, if of & homelike disposition, he will ba more happy and contented. He will have a great objoct in view— to make home happy ; but at the same time be exceedingly cautious in the selection you make of o wife. If you get tho right persoo 2l will be wel), but—bat 1f you make a wroag selection, good-by happiness, good-by comfort. 1 would sdvise 2 young man never to make & choice of & wife a fraquenter of the ball-room or the so-called club. Look for a young woman that makes a good danghbter, one who is vot sshamed of doing the work in ber mother's house; find one who is no; ashamed to be seen in a calico drees, washing, ironing, etc., 10 the aay, yet when you call to zee her 1n the evening, is jusz oy much at home in the parlor as when you aw her in tho kitchen; yot & lady in both places. Never marry into a large family of girls, If you do, you will repent. Never, under aay cumstances, live in the same houso with your mother or mather-in-lav. Supply your ‘wife with all the fonds you can; explaiu to her your circumstauces, and if she is prudent she will be able to manage the house without any interfor- euce'on your part. Nevor allow yourself to nt- tond parties. clubs, etc., withont your wife being with you. Pay her tho same attention aftor marriago that you did before, and my word for it, you will loso nothing by 8o doing, ‘When you come home from businees. bave the idea that howme ia the charm of your life. Your wife will ace that your evening ezl is properly prepared, and she will be dressed in & neat man- ner to welcome your return home. Toetead of passing your evenings in billiard- 8aloons, whisky atoros, smoking, snd_debauch- ery, you can contrast whst you might have been with what you are, having made & happy mateh. Yours, ete., Ax Orp Mux, TWO PICTURES. To the Bditor of The Chicago Tibuns : Cricaco, Oct. 7, v the first time wo mske our obeissnca, and enter the arena to grasp the mighty subject, *To be, or tot to be,” and ex-~ press the hope that our remarks will not be irrele~ vant, but atleast worthy of perusal. We cleim thet married life 8 preferable to single, and why? Bocause it teuds to elevate man in & social point of view; it regulates so- ciety 8t large; it inculcates inthe minds of mon the great aims and objects of life; it prompta them to good and nobla deeds; it stops, in a measure, the progross of licentionsnesa. Infact, itis the only resl, true bliss that we poor mortals hers below en- Jjoy ; for what is there more pleasant than to have tha eweet Hitle children to gather around one's knees lisping tho mowe Fathor? and pleasanter still it is, after roturning from a weary ds{;u work, away from the busy scens of life, to bold communion with that eweet epirit that eagerly awaits your coming to greet you with emiles. If trouble has come upon you, she knows that her voice, beguiling you into cheer- fuineea. wiil Iay your foars, and as she lingers, leading off your thoughts ‘with plessant words, ghe Lnows well that ghe is re- dooming you from care, aud sootbicg you 1o hat swest calm which such & homa end such a wife can alone bestow. Be- sides, the married man has- an indopondence of thought which puts him at ense in society, and & choerfulness and benevolcnce of feeling which seema to radiate ot from bim, diffusing hap) ness on taose near bim, like s brght, s As married life etrengthens s maa's virtus, 50 does it helptoa souud 3\1 ment axd o right bslancing of things; su g?ru integrity and proprioty to the wWhole charscter. God in his goodnoss ordained that virtus shonld make ita own enjoyment, that wheuever vice and frail- £y i8 rooted out something should spring up to be & beanty and delight in ifs stead. The mar- tied 10an of character rightiy cazts has ploasaros at home, which though fitted to highest ustare, are common to him a3 dsily food, eod he moves about nis home under & gontinued e#nss of thom, sad is happy almcat witbout heedwng it; and in sicinese, s eicknoss wa almoss eovos, fo: tha sympathy it brings, the wife [a our bright star of Eops, and as she lin. gess by sur belsido soothing our paira snd au¥enings; eho does indved bear tho rassmblsnue of ad anzol, | ZAY 15 oW fH to the singls digeilae cants Bas Wi i nin fprsnly wouni, 187 ANRY fooit fridnds, iyl Sia. EillarinG Ahrdacs Lha 15 ™an, avd take » dogbrbed 0 bis Bod of 5 i B Madiin y 0 all, all. alono; friends of 'his bettor days havo ‘deserted him; there he lies, a perfect wreck of what ho was. Yes, ho has got one friend,—death comes to his reliof. Llere are noue to mourn bis loss. none to impress tho lase farewell kiss; he is buried, ‘his namo forgotten. Go with us to thst home where lies the hus- band, fatber, on his bsd of eickness; seo how tenderly that fond wife cares for Lis every want; look st those bright-eyed darlings nesting around {heir father’s couch; gaze for s moment on the patient—his countecance is serene. he looks cheerful; around him he sees happy ckil- dren, his loviug wifo; tears of joy ho sbecs, and inwardly thaoks Heaven and her that adors it for his bappy homestesd. What a bappy thought and consolation for one to know that, a4 e approaches the Valley of Death, loving ones will be noar him: will pray for him, acd thst his name will ever liva in their hearis. Bat, how sad it ie to hesr one whoso €ends of life are wll nigh run, ex- claim, **1 am alooe in the world, I bave no fam- iy to love me.” Ok, what & mournfal thing to knaw that you are uiterly isolated among mili- ions of human beings, and Wizt iudeed must be the feelings of suchn man who has wactonly disregarded the divina laws. tho grest moral lagw of nature; tho general promoter of happiness and virtue—marriod dife. Well has Tupper truly said, “Seekz good wife of thy God, far sho ia the best gift of Iis providence.” O pleassnt ia the welcome Les + When day’s dull round is o'er, And sweat tho music of the step That meeta o at the door. Harry TweLve. THOUGHTS SUGH TED BY EXPERIENCE AND RVAT/ON. O To the Eaitor of The Ciicago Tridune : Cmcago, Oct. 4.—With much interest have we read tho vast variety of ideas respocting matrimony which have found space in the col- umus of Tue TRIDUNE during the past few woeks. Beiog a soung man, we find our mind naturally ponders over the subject which has agitated the world ever since Live partook of forbidden fruit, 5o we are promptod to add a few thoughts suggested by our experience and observation. For the most part thess yonog people have expreased what eeems to bave been their experi- cnce in this matrimony basiness withont con~ fining themsolves to reagon, and have rushed in-~ to one of two extremes ; but Wo now take & stand betweon these wido diversions. ‘We do not oall in question the fact that among 6 are mauy young men who ere very extrava- smaut and sddicted to bad babits; nstend thea~ tres, play billiards, smoke 15 cent cigary, visit sa~ loons, gamble, eic. ; nor do wo defend or justify them in o doing. Yes, bubt young ladies, are there mot thoss among you who would gladly exchange pleces with theso very eame young fops? Not onlv is this true, but yoa encorrage them iu the same by accepte ing their society, and ackuowledge by this that you admire thesa careless chaps aud enjoy their nocjety, On the other hand, the fact is too ap- parent thet not o fow young ladies kave similar 1aults just 28 serions, Aro not they 88 oxtrava- gant, careless, and thoughtiess? Why do tney spend no much time and cash in tho vreparation of dreag, aud wonder bow thoy aopear on all oo~ casions, not excopting the church? Now, we young mon will pever denv that wo are fond of modorate dressing, of refinod. testy nppearance, —not one of us who don’t love music and ad- mire 21l true accomplishments with which sbe may adora herseif. It is this everluating chango of faehions and cost of thom which we protest o strongly against. Theo, are noc both soxes equaily subject to imperfections, if o’ in dreas in something clse? Human nature is the same i all classes—high or low, rich or poor, male or femwale; and thus it is noc strango that ** Harry B. Free” flirta arcund when end wherever he pleases with his **boly socks, *kerchiefs,” ete, nor that Miss Jones svends ali her time an money on hats and * pull-backs.” “I'se main question now comes before us, viz: *Who is to blame for mearriages boing on the decline?” The gp who, on a salary of 3¢ a week, hasn't & dollar to show for it at the ead of tho yoar; or shall the great obatacle be found in the young lady who meroly attonds to ber attire, rocetces callers, plays the puaco. etc.? Not at all. The ones on whom we cast the main re- sponsibility are tlie parents who bave brad ioto their children these bad ideas of dress, and brought taem up in utter ignorance of what make the troo cloments of a happy life. And thus reared from oarly childhood, it is notrea- sonable to suppose they can lay them aside &t o moment's notice, ‘Theso facts being true, the next thing ia how can a better state of things bo prodaced ? Cor- respondents Lave already given out some valua- blo hints, from which much good may be de- rived. *‘Grondmotber " gave us an escellent eoxample in & recent issus of Tae TermuvEe. which shows s wise cow:se to pursue. * Daisy " is bonest and_wholesomo in her suggestions to us, bat would it not bo profitablo for her to add oue or two for the benefit of her sisters. in Bo- ciety? For tho benefit of us young men we may state, firat, that we must not exrect to find on angel for a wife. Pocts have sung of a per- foct soul known a3 woman,—but they ara scarce- Iy found on earth: If o young man des zight, conducts himself properly, snd bas 3 definite plan of action marked out, he will not experience any greas tronble in fiuding some far, kind-hearted, industrions maiden who will share Lfo's toils snd comforts with him. A careless, thought- leas, extravagast yourg man is not worthy or fit for the companion of & mnoble, generons, and pious msiden. Nesther s a young lady of suca charscteristics a proper lifo sssociate for an 1a- dustrious, refined, and pious young man. And both shouid learn, if they have mot'been so taught, that life is more than sppearance, and worthy of igber and nobler aapirations thau thesa which nsually occupy the young minds of the day. o, then. let voung ladies and gentlo- men beiter understand each other in the futare, ond vot give suy one the chance to aguin assort that * marrisges are on the decline.” Hespect- fally, B. MUTUAL EXTRAVAGANCE To the Biitor of The Chicaoo Trivune : Exarxwoop, Oct. 7.—So much hsa been s2id about the extravagance of both sexes, it being the great hinderance to their marrying, I would ask yon to ingert the following piece, entitled +)utusl Extravagence” (which I cameacross the other day aod saved), thinking it would make an interesting little lotter, besides being an oy~ propriate article for the Young Foiks’ column re- garding matrimony: * Young men are fond of suying thet they can't afford to marry because it costs 50 much to support a wife. Buv it is cer- tain that when they ponder over the economy nec- essery to be exorcised in the married state, they are not tbinking quite as muoch of their own privations as of those of the opposite Fex ? The whole blsme for the estravagant habiis which provail canaot be thrown upos the fomale sex. They are reaponaible for their fair share without a doubt, but they are not chargeable for the burdens which voung men have entailed upon themselves. I remember reading about a voung wife who agread to keap au account of all her private expeaditure, if hor hsbaud sould do tho ssme. When, st tho end of o half-yesr, they compared sccounts, it wea found that the gentleman’s outlay exceeded the lady's by one- Lslf. Nor doI cousider tauw ao isolated case. Young men of tha present day are extravagsnt in everythinz. Fewof them realize how many dollars are consumed in tho pipesnd cigar, melted vin the wine-glays, or lost ac billiards. Onoof the groatest hinderances to oce national ‘prosperity is extravagance, and until the tide 18 turned the mnation canoot hope o floarish. Bat it is -hardly fair to icclede ev- erybody in & s&weepiug comsars Of ex- travsgance. There are in every community young men who, disregarding appenrances £o far a& they neceasitate an cxpeoditare they can- not reasonably afford, live in the foiure as well a8 in the present, and thers aro many young women who are patterns for thoir sox. Such, theso genorally find _bolpmates, and make tho beat of wives or busbands, 88 the case msy be. But youngmen whose outlay consumos thew entire incomo, apd voung womes who flaunt in finery and indulge in frivolities, when they can afford neithar to the extent engaged in, are not particulerly marketable commodities. Nor ought they tobe so. Let young peoplo of i,cth sexes wet to work to reform themselves, end they will do more to arrive st a satisfactory solation of the mmfl-p question than 6an be dons in Aoy othor way." Boys and girls the remedy is in our own bands, k tmmeaistoly. Yours truly, Let us go to wor] Y, gl (Y FROM ONE OF THE UN-MARRIED, o tha Bditor of Ths Chicago Tribuna : Cxcaco, Bept. 28.—Heema 0dd to mo why so much bas been said on the marrizge question withont even a meation of the fast thatibe al- yorca conrts of Chicago have more thea a littls to do withy the care which young men should nss bsfors thay contrach & borgain whioh may dng thems unwillingly into notofiaty, Lot Aoy pips 480 165% &b tha dally reccrd of donrt uews, and i3 il s ko deio mrile bl¥deidsdia sithar than doubls cussedness, no matter how much he may favor or long for & mate for life. If a poor devil of a man oven lgoks cross at his better- half he ia threatened with divorce. Some, of course, look upon even the exscution of the threat as {a mers cowmonplace event, but how mapy, very maay, indeed, it weigha heavily uoon, and makes prematursly cld, themscives alone cao tell. Some I koow who sacriticed re- Tigions ecruples to effect a marringe 1n a church where divorces are unknown, unless on one par- ticular gra_und. but, alsa! the poor dsvil was made the’ uawilliog party to a divorce suit, which, by legal advice, he allowed to go by de- fault, cood:tionally. Young men are scary on the marriage question, and well they may ; not for the coat of Living, for God never created two monthy that he did oot also provide for their patural sod other wants; but thiough tear of gething toab sort of person who, after she €njoys Lis eociety for s few months, seeks favor in tho eyes of those whosesaciety he has bronght bLer 1o contact with. 20d very often tails him.— should a few contradiciory words ogcar.—* sho don't like him,” or **ha may get o divorce from ber oon a8 he likes,” 8aThave hesrd the youug, gay Wifo of a good Lusbend say. Of course, this 15 0ot the caso with all.—~God forbid,—but, 28 in tho caso abovo reierred to, how- ofton a lellow jomps from the fryiag-pon only to find himaelf iu the fire. Lat ns hear trom some of your cor- rospoudents on this question. It is worth dis- cusaion, o such may indirsctly effect a change for the batter. That -*nice, seusible lestor " eigped ** El'la Wheeler,” of Saturday 2 week 8g0, touched some vital pointa in married life,— s0me thac commend themselves especilly to the voung marned people, sud if studied would pre- vent 8o many Jitcle petty differences being eet- tled through divorce snits,—good enough in their way, bat oh! how contemptibly mesn when zbused only a victim knows. * Ux-Mannrep.” A BIT OF ARGUMENT. To the Lditor of The Chicago Privune: 5 Carcaco, Bept. 27.—Since the battle-cry of matrimony has been the prevailing topic with those interested in that sabject, I have been considerably amused as well as interested by noting the different expressions and experiences 28 they have appeared in the columns of Tie Tameuve; and by putting them together snd sifting thom well, I havo noticed bat very little argument in favor of either side of the question. I do not intend to make light of what has been eaid, bat propose, with your permission, to pra- sent & few thoughta which I have long harbored in regard to the great question why young men do not marry, and why they shonld not. 1t has been stated the youog mendonot marry becausa of the extravsgance, inability to perform householl duties, etc., of young ladies of the present day, to which it might largely be attrib- uted; but I think this is not the reason mainly. 1 think young men do not marry because they ere afraid to; and why? Not bLecaase they are afraid of tho broom-atick, oh no; oeither is it becanse they think thoy could not support a wife with the wages thoy are earning, but becanso they have nothing Iaid up for the proverbial raioy day, nothing provided for tho timo when they are sick: and out of employment—and & wise Teasou it is too. A man ehould not merry until he has enough to keep himself zod wifo ons or w0 years, ot least, in case of sickness, otc. Look at the destitnte familiea in our city, the thought of which is enongh to make one shud- der, and caused largely and mainly by enmmenc- ing with nothing, which begets disconrugament and dixeatisfaction ; and I beliove it the source ol many unhappy livea. I beliove I am marriageablo, end could support & wife, no doubt, if I should be fortnuate enongh to get one that was wise and prudent,— 2nd mv judgment would not allow mo to nocopt any otter; but, 88T have not been fortnnate enough to save the amount that I think is need- ed before taking such o step, I deom it expedi- ent to remain single. I would sdvise atl men to marry if they aro capable of maliog s home chee:ful, but remember and get a home first or a portion of it, Thero is o time lika when you are young, and before you are married, for get- ting a start. Think of it, and ses if I am oot right. Iam, yours, reapecttaily, Casz. ANOTHER * LONELY SIXER " RESPONDS. Tothe Edilor of The Chicago Triduns : Crxcaao, Sept. 22.—Pardon me for ccenpying a small portion of yoir valusble space to ask * Daisy” a fow questions. I am one of the poor, sad, disconsolats ¢ Looely Six,” snd in order that she may (in common with all the balance of the darlings for whom we axe too unworthy) al- ‘ways avoid us, and keep a good distance off, I give you a pen-picture of myself, being s fair sample : Five feot 4 inches in height, and 4 feet 5 inches in breadth ; can, it necesssry, wear No. 11 brogans, bot find that 14's don't burt my corns so much; kind of sandy complexion, strawberry-blocde hair, curly eyebrows, and eyes a heavenly green. The balaoce of the troupe look just the same, only more 80.. As yot I bave failed in baving the lofty ideas knocked ontof my hesd by sny of the poor, weak, fiddle-de-dee srguments of such inexperi- enced children as ¢ Doisy” acknowledges her- self to be, She says in the first place she has been “‘hold in." Now, tell us quick, 15 this some new female arrangement? or oaly the pull-back ‘under snother name ? Theu sho gives her address as Englewood, bat with the next breath saya she is ** living at pras- eat in the Engaged State.” Wo bave, ail of us, beard of tho Sucker, Buckeys, Hawksye, and Dadger States, but whon &girlof 20 don't kuow any botter thao to say Englowood i8 in the Engaged State, I think she should study her geography more, snd matrimony less. Still, she is not satisfied with giving advice ; she triea to get the Chicago girls inio troublo. Actually incites them to moke war upon their “feilow " beings; conspircs against the peace and happinesa of some young man Or men not residents of the ‘‘Engaged Btate™: actually, openly, withont fear of the Lord before her eyos, proposes ** 1o take one of the number and pick him to pieces.” Not sutisfied with this, sho projoses to “‘put him together again.” After all this porformance, after gomg through this pieca of barbarity worthy of a Bluebeara, she innocently asks, ““How will he stand?” Yes, iodeed, echo nnswers, How? I wonder she did not wind up with a proposition to add a Maosard ro0f, l]l;d fini‘filul;\.im qr‘d!nv’i;hlh- tin e:r. (in; Daizy, Daisy, e words of ths grea am fzmd to exclaim, *‘Go way dar, ohi no more ob dis foolishness.” * Oxe" or TaE LoxmLy Srx. THIS IS ENCOURAGING. 0 tha Bditor of Tha Chicago Trivune : Cricago, Oct. 8.—I am glad tke ** matrimonial question * is still discussed in your journal It is doing good, and it will lead to good after the evidoncoisallin. Iiis » *‘conrt of equity,” and the subject In all its bearings is *‘coming out.” Thamorals, manners, ethics, estbetics, privileges, restraints, ecomomy, discipline, “metos and boundariea” of marrisge are de- Aned. 1tis doiog the young people good. They will know and undorstand each other better, and will have & more sincera rogard for esch other. Prejudices will be removed. A more kindly and sppreciative feeling will prevail. They witl now each othier’s excollencies 28 well as foults,—vir- tues as will a8 foibles. 1, Anything that will promote marriage is & bleasing to the morals, and piety, and bappiness of any community. Franklin and Greeley used to sdvocate early marrizge, not of boys and girls who ought £ be in school, but a3 early sa pro- priety and s fair prospect af getting & byving dictate. 2. The “economy ™ queztion has unquestion- ably frightened some, but it is seen from the letters of “Brunette™ and *“Ove of Cbicago's Daughters ™ that all the girls are not £0 prodigal of money nor s 1dlo as many gentlamen have supposed,—a fact which I, as 8 father of dsagh- ters, and & carefal observer, have known for a long while. When ‘‘Brunette” (like a good uncle, I would like to see ker married, snd would be willing to solemnize the occssion with my professiooa! services, aad give her the wedding froe, with the kiss or without it, as sho might elect) mays that $200 would clothe her and her future busband, my heart warms to her, for T lova the “*old-fashioned virtue™ of ecomomy. And a4 I believe there are thousands like har in tno city and country, I am exultant with hoge. Derood ou it, & liti money, with “love iz & cottage,” will g0 & long way. Anpd there aro true young men, well brought up, to mateh theso matchiess girla, 5 8. Yonng reople must be willing to commence small. Unlosa thore is large wealth, they must not sxpéct 1o begin in o mnhh—tronhlv;:m two or threa sarvast-giris and s carris2e ls is expected, young men will bs Afraid, and oughe £0 ba afraid, and the youog Isdies will sad gught to liva and dis in single blessedness. It wo bava such yonag 1sdien (except a (sw rich peo- plo), Thdpe they witl not ba marmled, (or we b that rese nll d(:|7 :ut without ’"fm{; a Lis, an young pecule hagim s aid snd dtiae & 2 ad Bhire thak waiidadd saradts Iife of toit and hardship, they usaally end whers their parenta began—in poverty acnd .obscurty. ;n?::ua the hzpbiness and the honor of tke *old olks.” 4. A private word to young men: You sometimes say you cannot fird good girts in & great city. sayng this you are egregiously wistaken ; aod if you dersist in it, you will show your ixnoracce and vilenoss. Lister: to one #ho is young in feoling. and oot old in years, who knows what he afirms. You go toths charches, Sunday-schaols, sociables, and praise-meetings of tho churches, and I will gnarantes you will find, and. if worthy, be introduced, to aa zcod, virtaous, intelligent. prudent, economical, sweot- dizpoaitionad, accomylished girls a8 tne aun 6ver shone upon. = They ate the lovely davghters of our merchaots, manafecturers, profewsional men, capitaiists, bankers, and proud mschanics. Any young man may ba proud of such ao slhi- &oco. And such an slliance is practicable, An acquaintance with them is easy, if you are now 8tesped in vices, and are worthy of good society. If nat, and you do nos intend or wish to be. keep away ; dofile not the altar of purity, knowledss, and refivement. But if you are like * Calebs in search of a wife,” go ahead; ‘“*fear mot,” snd you can win the hest of them. Thoy are not abova being marriad. A FATHXR. FOR FATHERS TO READ. To the Editor of The Chtcace Tribune: Cutcaco, Oct. 8.—We ara very thankful for your kindness in allowicg us to air our senti- ments on this great marrisge question. Bat ‘we've heard sbont enough of this never-ending cry, “Why do not mothars teach their daughtors” this, that, and the other? Now, I would like to ask, Why do not the fathers teach their eons eomo faw of the duties that will in- evitably fall to them when married ? What does any unmarried man from 17 to $0 know about housekeeping duties? You won't find one in every twenty who can sclect s good beef- steak or rosst of any kind, or good poultry or gamo; much less how it should be carved. or from what part of an animal any good cut should come. One young neighbor of ours the first timo he wont to market for him- self asked for corued teef. When asked what kind of a piece ho wonid like, sbouted, quite briskly ‘'the frieket.” His wife had said “brisket,” and that’s about as much a8 most of them know about marketog. Whydo not fathers teach their sona to pre- sidc at tho hesd of their table in = graceful, easy manner; not pass the swoet- meuts or cako first, as a begioner usually does, and seo thev know how to put up and take down the clothes Lines on wash daye; always have the wood and kindlings apd fuel provided the night before; then to ge! up and light the fire 10 the morniog, puta couple of dippers of water in the toagettle, 80 it may be boiling and the kitchen warm when wife comes ount; then she wiil tiy around. cookk the hash that she cbopped the night heforo, baks tha mufiins, make the coffes in threo minutes, and in twenty minutes from tho time be lizhica the fire thay are ready to sit down to breakfaat; and with lunch paciced heis off for the dav. Every Saturday night connt up the weck's expoises—to sae if they keep within their incomo; tesch his son never te eat with Lis knife, then stick it in tha batter foc general nse ; when in the narlor to sit on n chur or Bofa like & man, not sprawl in awkward oz jn- dacent posturze. or sit oo a gofa on tae smail of bis back, and all therest of ic ad infinitam. Now very nany nice yonor: men have these very great fanlts, notwithstanding they have slways been in good socisty. Now I have stuck-up no- tioos about thess things. I kmow, but when I find o young man having theseaccomplabmeats, I'll say ** Barkis is willin®.” Fam Pray. A MODEL LOVE-LETTER. To the Editor of The Chicaso 1ribuns : Foxv pu Lac, Wis., Oct. 7.—Now that you are printing so much that is intaresting in regard to love and matrimouy, I send 7ou a copy of ous of the most touching love-lettors I ever resd. I give it 2a I found it, verbalim et literatim, and I think tho reader will sgzce with me that theman i8 to ho envied who bas such a womsa to love him as the writerof this note. The note was »2ddreased to no ove by name, and not signed by 80 much as an initial letter. It was written ina Iady’s delicate hand, and was evideatly intended 28 the make-up of o lover's quarrel or the mis- understanding between husband and wife. Here ibis: : Ob, darling, my heart, is hesvyand sad this morn- ing, Lecauas you are patned. I imtsm your good marn- ing axd your loving fouch. I do love you,znd wany 10 nake you Lsppy;_but I can't, ar I don't seem to be sbie to thus far. T ax sorry for the heartache that came !ast eve, and I shall be unhappy all dsy for the shadow that cxmo of it. T dfd not mean to repel you, 1 only wanted o reat quistly in your arms and tn your love.” Darling, dou't b ead and unhsppy: forget it all.—forgoc ma, if meed be. It will lways bo 80; wo 2re 50 near together that everything that disturbs will hurt, and we can't help it. Be 3appy to-dsy, Dear Heart, ine me kiseing awsy tho cloads, sad call- ing buck tho sunshine, because I love you. There is a delicate tenderness, a half-regret- fal, bue perfectly loving and confiding tone to the above that must have gone directly to the beart of him to whom it waa addressed. A man who had aach & lova as that bas s rich treasace that he is not likely o overestimate. L. A London Parrot. Boston Saturday Evening Gazetts. A correspondent writes : The Boeton parrob mentioned in last week'a Gazette must bave been a lineal descendant of afamons parrot of the 1ast century, who, falling from the palace win- dow into the Thamee, 2od finding the river very damp, ecreamed out, * Tho Kiog's parrot has fallen into the Thames! Fivo guincas to the fellow who saves lum!” A dozen watermen, hearing the cry, sprang to their oars, and soon the bird waa rescucd. Tho happy boatman start- ed fcr the patace with his prize, building palaces for Limgelf in anticipation of the expected re- ward, Upon makiog his claim, he was told thas oll the parrots in R oadon were nob worth Ave guiness. The man, thivkwg he knew who of- fered the reward, said he was willing to leave 16 to the parrot wbat he should receive. Poll, who bad been ina browg studv, looked out of the corner of hia eye, and’ shouted, ** Give the poar dovil a groat By rucking your langs witi 3 cough, you mey frrie tato them ino & condition ripe for the production of tubercich, and then, justesd of & curable affcction, you may bavo to deal with consumption. Dr, Jaynv'a Expectorant promptly cures all cougha sad colds, and by impartiug vigor to the respizatory organ, cnibles them to frecly thruw off sll obstructions engendsred by neglacted calds, and heals all soro ar inflamsd ports, 010a%s. HOTGHKIY, PALMER & CD. WE MAKE A SPECIALTY OF VELVET CLOAKS. Weealso have a large stock of Cloth Cloaks on hand of our own make, hand-ombroidered, and otherwise besutifully trimmed in Silk and Braids. We are_selling & goo heavy Fur Beaver Jacket at §6. our Cloaks are cut by & gentleman Cloak Tailor from Berlin, In point of styie and fit our Cloaks ara not excelled in thiy country. JUST OPENED, a large sassorte ment of Novelties in HILLINERY G0ODS, HOTCHKIN, PALMER & CO0., 187 & 139 STATE-ST. MBS, M. M. BQUIER invitos the Ladiss to inspect her Fall and Winter Styles ia MILLINERY on THURSDAY, Oct. 14 202 WABASH-AV., PRAZILIAN PEBALE SPECTACLES o e T i FLOUR. nosuperior, $4. , $7.60 ; Dot acholca Qninay . Minoests Sprinz, BLE0; Bgh THE CHAMPION of 8t Lodle, F LUHR Rour, 5.3, dalivery frea best in the market, it bas T duperion, 1.5 Otdsa State & GOLVIL 18 Weet Y20 Buraash